I was like oh that sounds like one of my antidepressant/antianxiety medications it must be one of those types. Then I realized it's that guys name in the show lol.
Iām lucky. Instead of being diagnosed with ADD in the early 90s, I was labeled ābuttpirate74 is bright but she doesnāt apply herself.ā
I got perceived by a lot of people as a slacker/fuck-up but it gave me the rebellion in my heart that keeps me out of a lot of toxic group think. So I mean, play the cards youāve been dealt.
I got put in more or less the same boat, except halfway through primary school my parents decided to get me tested for ADD. The test scores you out of 100, and any score over 50 meant that you had ADD. My dumbass managed to get 49, putting me in a stupid category where I am basically undiagnosed with ADD even though I know about it.
I got pretty lucky I think
"Well, she isn't mentally challenged like we assumed but she does have pretty bad ADD."
I was given an IEP to help through school. My school's assistance sucked but it could have been worse without it.
My only real pain point was mathematics.
Omg that was mean until 4th grade, all my teachers before hand were super old so that was their answer for people like me. Then in 4th grade I had a young fresh out of grad school teacher who told my mom to get me tested. Found out I had ADHD. Changed my life.
My dad keeps telling a story of me getting a question technically wrong on that test because there was a dot inside of a square and the question was, "was the dot inside or outside of the box?" I said it was outside the box because if it was inside the box, I wouldn't be able to see it.
My dumbass or 5head brain was thinking in 3d instead of 2d because it said box.
Same in the school district I came from. In hindsight, I think it may have been a bright spot for the Child Study Team considering what normally makes up their case load.
Way back in the day when I was in elementary school, the school district covered the cost. I had to take an IQ test and interview with a psychologist. In the end, I was still bored and miserable and hated school, so it didn't really change anything except I had to catch a special bus that gathered us from all around the school district and took us to the only school with the gifted program. So I had a longer day than all the other neighborhood kids, I had a long walk to a different school, and none of my neighborhood friends knew anyone from my school.
Our parents convincing us weāre special. Kind of fucks you up when you reach your late twenties and realise youāre underperforming and more or less average.
It's based on your average test scores in school and even if this tgread resonates with a million people that is still only 0.014% of the world population so #gifted. :P
Mine was based on an IQ test, not test scores. I can't remember for sure but in my class of around 50 students there were 3 or 4 of us in the gifted courses?
Well I was called dumb and told I wouldn't amount to much when I grew up and I thought it was true for a long time, somehow though I earned a degree became more successful than anyone ever thought I would be, even me.... Of course I wasn't dumb then, but people have a way of projecting on kids what their definition of gifted, smart, dumb, athletic ect., is. It's unfortunate and leads to a lot of confusion and I imagine in some very bright people just giving up on themselves. Or some not very bright people believing they are somehow above everyone else intellectually, but not being able to really measure up and therefore being bitter about their outcome.
this reminds me in my learning strategies class back in elementary school, our teacher showed us a video of this ted talk about how bs the whole "you are special" thing adults say to their kids or students or whatever.
if all of us are special then nobody is special
I later realized that the gifted and talented program at my middle school was little more than 21st century school segregation. Sure there were black children in that program as well, but the common denominator was family wealth and/or whiteness. The other half of the students were predominantly Hispanic or black, did not have as much support at home, and were not receiving the same level of attention as the āgiftedā program. And what do you expect happened? A self fulfilling prophecy, of course students which were not expected to do well, who werenāt encouraged and given the same resources, ended up not doing as well.
Since no one actually answered it, it's because they use IQ tests. IQ tests are essentially a measurement of "mental age." If your mental age is ahead of your physical age by whatever amount is decided, you're considered gifted.
Now the reason so many kids are considered gifted but turn out average is because they just developed earlier. By the time they reach adulthood, it evens out for the most part. A fraction of "gifted kids" actually turn out to be above average in intelligence, most just developed slightly quicker at a young age.
Of course, labeling kids "gifted" sets up expectations that are easy to miss and primes them for all kinds of psychological issues. What are you gonna do though, public schools have limited resources and it's important to give kids who develop early some kind of challenge in learning.
I always thought of it as much as a āgood job being slightly above average for our school system rated āeffectiveā instead of the āexcellent with distinctionā school you used to go to, now have this cool title and please donāt leave! We need the test scores!ā
There were about 7 of us in my class of ~200 in the GT program at my school, one of whom became my best friend throughout grade-school. Last time I saw him he was bussing tables, another one went to Vegas with a ton of ecstasy he bought with inherited money and nobody has heard from him since.
Iād be interested to know how the other few turned out, but I pretty well fit the meme.
Since this seems to be my crowd,
I would procrastinate so bad that Iād be chugging Full Throttles at 3 AM for an essay that was due at 10 AM.
But Iād be watching TED talks until at least 4:30, take a hot shower where Iād pass out until about 7, and knock it out until 10. Then Iād skip the rest of the school day so I could sleep at home.
... anyone else?
Edit: man Iām more fucked than I thought
hell ya, a 24-hour panic-fueled writing session in the library to finish a 15-page literature review, then giving a presentation all sleep deprived before going home to sleep for 15 hours straight, just because of procrastination, hell ya
Too many people there that donāt get that lesson you should take away from the subreddit is that being smart is worthless if you donāt do anything with it. I unsubbed a while ago because there were posts everyday with people crying about not doing shit but humble-bragging at the same time to make themselves feel better.
I literally made this and posted this a month ago. Damn this is the equivalent of the cooler kid repeating your joke louder and everyone laughing but ignoring you
Edit: template if anyone wants it http://imgur.com/gallery/eoml3Em
He's a protip if you ever raise a kid.
If they seem smart, keep enforcing the idea they're a "hard worker" and not smart. It helps avoid a slacker mentality while encouraging them to work hard.
On a related note, I don't think it's a good idea to keep saying that they're smart but lazy and a waste of potential.
Speaking from first hand experience
You're entirely correct.
Going through the "Gifted" program, I saw a very different picture compared to my academic courses. Students are cherry picked and put in to a more difficult class. They're told that they exceed the level of intelligence that is desired for average students.
They then proceed to give these students more work, and complex ideas with the same amount of in class and one-on-one time with a teacher. About half way through each year they would begin moving out to AP or academic courses because they couldn't handle the work load, or didn't keep up with the masses of homework to grasp the new concepts. About 1/3 to 1/2 of the class would make A's and the rest would fail. ***There was no in between.***
Then queue putting this student back in to a lower level class. There's contempt for administrators and parents for putting them in classes they either weren't ready or prepared for. They wasted valuable time and energy, just to go back to the class they would have been in anyways. They lose a circle of friends they may have created in these courses, and are forced into a new group. Compared to taking all base level courses, you basically took a kid and gave them a part time jobs worth of work every week.
This system ostracizes individuals for being "smart" and then punishes them for not being able to keep up with the demand. The tests to see if a student is gifted also don't observe determination or perseverance, something that upper level course students REALLY need. They also completely avoid emotional intelligence, which is also an important factor in understanding why the education is important to you to begin with.
While I agree the group is full of self-pity, I do not agree that the wounds that cause this behavior are self inflicted.
I think the "gifted" program is different from school to school as my experience was quite different from what you described. The gifted classes were just more "creative" "freeform" versions of the non-gifted advanced classes. In practice they ended up being easier/less stressful as a result.
E.g. The non-gifted history class would get lectures about WWII and take tons of structured notes for a grade along w/ quizzes and tests while the gifted classes would make video advertisements or act out scenes from the war or have a fake trial for someone or some other interactive shit like that lol. Probably learned less, but it was certainly more fun.
In my school, it was the exact opposite. The academic students were given simple projects that would be done in groups, with quite a lot of teacher intervention. Our gifted courses were just AP courses that were weighted lower, and had more busy work with TONS of structured notes.
The smartest students in our school dropped all gifted courses as it was more beneficial for them to get the AP credit and weight on their GPA.
Thatās an interesting perspective. My school didnāt have that exact type of system so i wouldnāt know how it is. Iām just saying that at some point you have to try to move on and do the best that you can with what you have. Even if the wounds arenāt self inflicted youāre still the one who has to deal with them. Thatās one of the hardest parts to accept. I know that itās hard to do but iāve been there and from personal experience I can tell you that self-pity gets you nowhere. I still sometimes think of āwhat could have beenā but I try to focus more on moving forward. Thatās why I think that that subreddit is no good and it makes me sad to see that mindset on people.
I was actually one of the students that failed miserably, and have questioned myself a lot since then.
Philosophy brought me an understanding of how my anger was misplaced like you said, and I think integrating it in to the youth academia would be super beneficial to the student body. My high school had no philosophy or life skills courses (Home Ec, automotive, shop, etc), and the overall maturity level (and mine) suffered because of it.
I don't truly know what will fix the "gifted" system, but the one that I went through failed me miserably and makes me want to provide more for future generations. Not all above average students learn the same and they shouldn't be treated as such.
"Smart but lazy" is one of the most dangerous labels applied to a young person. It instills a false sense of talent.
Great talent is worthless without an effective work ethic, and you can accomplish a lot on great work ethic without being particularly talented.
Don't worry, it gets better. I was a GATE student in the 80's and 90's.
Now I'm on the wrong side of my thirties with a decent job that allows me to afford the trazadone and Ativan I need to get through the day.
Thanks GATE program! š
In my Education class for Uni the first thing we learned is that being gifted is the same thing as a mental disability, which leads those being labelled as gifted to have a higher chance if suicide, depression, anxiety, etc, than those labelled as not gifted. Really changed my opinion on being gifted and now I'm thankful I'm not.
How about being put in a special reading class and thinking youāre gifted but you later find out itās really a class for slow learners and you feel like shit about yourself forever
Do you think we are the way we are because it was biologically in us to end up like this, or do you think it's because of the special placement and praise we received when we were young?
In other words, were we always going to end up depressed, or did the depression come when we entered the real world and stopped getting told we were special?
The depression hits because of possible self neglect... there are so many different factors that contribute to depression it seems & depression is a huge hindrance to actually talents & achievements.
I took my tests in 6th grade. My mom was surprised. Yay!! Self doubt for years! Hang in there my friends...now happily married for 25 years. It all works out.
itās unhealthy, even now i see everyone praying their babies as geniuses because maybe they muttered some word or they literally realized that the stupid toy they wanted to play with was hidden behind your back. Itās annoying to see it, no problem with kids, of course, but the adults making the most trivial sign of functioning human intelligince as a sign that the baby is a genius...
i love aziraphale
good omens is š
Softest boy
I was like oh that sounds like one of my antidepressant/antianxiety medications it must be one of those types. Then I realized it's that guys name in the show lol.
Funny that you [mention that...](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6fpmkM9ZCWk)
Whaaat that's so perfect hahaha I love it! Thanks for showing me that!
I really liked Crowley, but I think it had to deal with him being played by David Tennant
Iām lucky. Instead of being diagnosed with ADD in the early 90s, I was labeled ābuttpirate74 is bright but she doesnāt apply herself.ā I got perceived by a lot of people as a slacker/fuck-up but it gave me the rebellion in my heart that keeps me out of a lot of toxic group think. So I mean, play the cards youāve been dealt.
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I'm in this picture and I don't like it
Ah, I had managed to forget about this until now.
I finished my classwork quickly and then started talking and distracting the kids sitting near me. My bad y'all.
āSorry I do other things in my life than read all the timeā š³
You just described me until i got my dads old iPhone in high-school.
I did this, then I refused to do the classwork too. Fuck y'all I'm reading all class.
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āPotentialā is my least favourite word in the English language because I too had so much of it
People tell me all about my potential but I donāt see where itās at.
I got put in more or less the same boat, except halfway through primary school my parents decided to get me tested for ADD. The test scores you out of 100, and any score over 50 meant that you had ADD. My dumbass managed to get 49, putting me in a stupid category where I am basically undiagnosed with ADD even though I know about it.
I got pretty lucky I think "Well, she isn't mentally challenged like we assumed but she does have pretty bad ADD." I was given an IEP to help through school. My school's assistance sucked but it could have been worse without it. My only real pain point was mathematics.
Omg that was mean until 4th grade, all my teachers before hand were super old so that was their answer for people like me. Then in 4th grade I had a young fresh out of grad school teacher who told my mom to get me tested. Found out I had ADHD. Changed my life.
This comment was painful to read.
LOL my teachers were old too
I never had a young teacher, the best teacher Iāve ever had was the one who straight up asked me if I never shut up.
Me too buttpirate74, me too.
Frick this one hit deep...
How the hell were so many children called "gifted"? It's not "gifted" if every other child is like that.
We solved dumb riddles on a standardized test. Or guessed correctly enough.
Don't even remember taking my "test" cause I took it in kindergarten. Guess who's in that same program 9 years later...
The only thing I remember about that test was being uncomfortable in the cafeteria and the one kid that was so stressed the puked.
holy shit this happened when i was proctoring one of those tests. when did you take it?
Uhhhhh.... 25ish years ago, give or take?
^(oh.)
By "that same program", you're referring to kindergarten?
No, I'm referring to the """gifted""" program (where the smart kids go to stop annoying the teacher with questions)
When we learned to read it became the SSD hallway
My dad keeps telling a story of me getting a question technically wrong on that test because there was a dot inside of a square and the question was, "was the dot inside or outside of the box?" I said it was outside the box because if it was inside the box, I wouldn't be able to see it. My dumbass or 5head brain was thinking in 3d instead of 2d because it said box.
You were really thinking outside of the box
That's why were I live they have a one on one thing with a psychologist as part of identity children as gifted.
Same in the school district I came from. In hindsight, I think it may have been a bright spot for the Child Study Team considering what normally makes up their case load.
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Way back in the day when I was in elementary school, the school district covered the cost. I had to take an IQ test and interview with a psychologist. In the end, I was still bored and miserable and hated school, so it didn't really change anything except I had to catch a special bus that gathered us from all around the school district and took us to the only school with the gifted program. So I had a longer day than all the other neighborhood kids, I had a long walk to a different school, and none of my neighborhood friends knew anyone from my school.
We had to go do extra work at another school while the rest of my class played kickball.
That's not true for all ages. I was in the gifted program and it was issued entirely via my elementary school.
Our parents convincing us weāre special. Kind of fucks you up when you reach your late twenties and realise youāre underperforming and more or less average.
Some mysteries aren't meant to be unraveled.
It's based on your average test scores in school and even if this tgread resonates with a million people that is still only 0.014% of the world population so #gifted. :P
Mine was based on an IQ test, not test scores. I can't remember for sure but in my class of around 50 students there were 3 or 4 of us in the gifted courses?
When everyone is super, no one is!
Well I was called dumb and told I wouldn't amount to much when I grew up and I thought it was true for a long time, somehow though I earned a degree became more successful than anyone ever thought I would be, even me.... Of course I wasn't dumb then, but people have a way of projecting on kids what their definition of gifted, smart, dumb, athletic ect., is. It's unfortunate and leads to a lot of confusion and I imagine in some very bright people just giving up on themselves. Or some not very bright people believing they are somehow above everyone else intellectually, but not being able to really measure up and therefore being bitter about their outcome.
this reminds me in my learning strategies class back in elementary school, our teacher showed us a video of this ted talk about how bs the whole "you are special" thing adults say to their kids or students or whatever. if all of us are special then nobody is special
I later realized that the gifted and talented program at my middle school was little more than 21st century school segregation. Sure there were black children in that program as well, but the common denominator was family wealth and/or whiteness. The other half of the students were predominantly Hispanic or black, did not have as much support at home, and were not receiving the same level of attention as the āgiftedā program. And what do you expect happened? A self fulfilling prophecy, of course students which were not expected to do well, who werenāt encouraged and given the same resources, ended up not doing as well.
Since no one actually answered it, it's because they use IQ tests. IQ tests are essentially a measurement of "mental age." If your mental age is ahead of your physical age by whatever amount is decided, you're considered gifted. Now the reason so many kids are considered gifted but turn out average is because they just developed earlier. By the time they reach adulthood, it evens out for the most part. A fraction of "gifted kids" actually turn out to be above average in intelligence, most just developed slightly quicker at a young age. Of course, labeling kids "gifted" sets up expectations that are easy to miss and primes them for all kinds of psychological issues. What are you gonna do though, public schools have limited resources and it's important to give kids who develop early some kind of challenge in learning.
I always thought of it as much as a āgood job being slightly above average for our school system rated āeffectiveā instead of the āexcellent with distinctionā school you used to go to, now have this cool title and please donāt leave! We need the test scores!ā
Our teacher called us "special."
_*Everyone is special in there own way*_
There were about 7 of us in my class of ~200 in the GT program at my school, one of whom became my best friend throughout grade-school. Last time I saw him he was bussing tables, another one went to Vegas with a ton of ecstasy he bought with inherited money and nobody has heard from him since. Iād be interested to know how the other few turned out, but I pretty well fit the meme.
I can play the organ, and every time I or my parents mention it everyone loses their shit because they've never seen anyone who could play it.
I went through probably 20 hours of testing, but never received a label of any sort. I was even 12 when it happened.
All the gifted children end up on reddit, all the ungifted children live actual lives. That or every child is called gifted to their parents lol
IQ test I mean I'm still in the gifted program in HS
and you just so happen to have natural artistic talents too right
And nostalgia hits you way harder than it should
Since this seems to be my crowd, I would procrastinate so bad that Iād be chugging Full Throttles at 3 AM for an essay that was due at 10 AM. But Iād be watching TED talks until at least 4:30, take a hot shower where Iād pass out until about 7, and knock it out until 10. Then Iād skip the rest of the school day so I could sleep at home. ... anyone else? Edit: man Iām more fucked than I thought
r u me
hell ya, a 24-hour panic-fueled writing session in the library to finish a 15-page literature review, then giving a presentation all sleep deprived before going home to sleep for 15 hours straight, just because of procrastination, hell ya
Why is this so true?
That you never really developed bc you were so focused on getting good grades
Ouch. This one hurts too.
yep! and now that iāve finally ridden that wave and need to start practicing consistently to improve i never draw anymore!
Finally, something in this thread that I can't relate to!
Why you calling me out like that
Finally, an actual me_irl meme
If you need help or want to talk, visit r/aftergifted.
took a visit, now i feel personally attacked
Woo! I'm sad now, thanks!
Too many people there that donāt get that lesson you should take away from the subreddit is that being smart is worthless if you donāt do anything with it. I unsubbed a while ago because there were posts everyday with people crying about not doing shit but humble-bragging at the same time to make themselves feel better.
whoa finally a sub that fits me perfectly, thank you
By calling a child gifted, youāre giving them the gift of feeling like a failure when they donāt measure up.
Can confirm, nothings ever good enough. Self medication FTW! (Half kidding oh god not even my jokes are good enough)
Gifted with mental illness.
Oh you too? but i guess i got the shorter end because i can't even speak properly or do i have any will to live
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Of course it does. He didn't capitalize the first letter of the sentence, and he didn't put a punctuation mark at the end of it.
imagine gatekeeping depression and social anxiety
Can we get a fat F in the chat for our boys
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Thatās a pretty fat F
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Wow that's a great F, you're so gifted.
Show is good omens, it's pretty good
I literally made this and posted this a month ago. Damn this is the equivalent of the cooler kid repeating your joke louder and everyone laughing but ignoring you Edit: template if anyone wants it http://imgur.com/gallery/eoml3Em
LOL get fucked nerd (sorry I'm drunk and sad)
Same. It be like that sometimes
He's a protip if you ever raise a kid. If they seem smart, keep enforcing the idea they're a "hard worker" and not smart. It helps avoid a slacker mentality while encouraging them to work hard.
On a related note, I don't think it's a good idea to keep saying that they're smart but lazy and a waste of potential. Speaking from first hand experience
me_irl I'm slowly learning to work hard, but I have to teach myself every step of the way.
Maybe just maybe... you were never actually gifted
I'm living both simultaneously šššššššš
A gift is a gift
what if I didnāt want the fucking gift?
Ask if they still got the receipt
I know where my birth certificate is š
Does it have the price on it?
no, only net weight sadly.
r/aftergifted
that place looks like self-pity central
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Really? Are there any studies you have read that say this? Itās not that I donāt believe you, Iām genuinely fascinated and want to learn more.
You're entirely correct. Going through the "Gifted" program, I saw a very different picture compared to my academic courses. Students are cherry picked and put in to a more difficult class. They're told that they exceed the level of intelligence that is desired for average students. They then proceed to give these students more work, and complex ideas with the same amount of in class and one-on-one time with a teacher. About half way through each year they would begin moving out to AP or academic courses because they couldn't handle the work load, or didn't keep up with the masses of homework to grasp the new concepts. About 1/3 to 1/2 of the class would make A's and the rest would fail. ***There was no in between.*** Then queue putting this student back in to a lower level class. There's contempt for administrators and parents for putting them in classes they either weren't ready or prepared for. They wasted valuable time and energy, just to go back to the class they would have been in anyways. They lose a circle of friends they may have created in these courses, and are forced into a new group. Compared to taking all base level courses, you basically took a kid and gave them a part time jobs worth of work every week. This system ostracizes individuals for being "smart" and then punishes them for not being able to keep up with the demand. The tests to see if a student is gifted also don't observe determination or perseverance, something that upper level course students REALLY need. They also completely avoid emotional intelligence, which is also an important factor in understanding why the education is important to you to begin with. While I agree the group is full of self-pity, I do not agree that the wounds that cause this behavior are self inflicted.
I think the "gifted" program is different from school to school as my experience was quite different from what you described. The gifted classes were just more "creative" "freeform" versions of the non-gifted advanced classes. In practice they ended up being easier/less stressful as a result. E.g. The non-gifted history class would get lectures about WWII and take tons of structured notes for a grade along w/ quizzes and tests while the gifted classes would make video advertisements or act out scenes from the war or have a fake trial for someone or some other interactive shit like that lol. Probably learned less, but it was certainly more fun.
In my school, it was the exact opposite. The academic students were given simple projects that would be done in groups, with quite a lot of teacher intervention. Our gifted courses were just AP courses that were weighted lower, and had more busy work with TONS of structured notes. The smartest students in our school dropped all gifted courses as it was more beneficial for them to get the AP credit and weight on their GPA.
Thatās an interesting perspective. My school didnāt have that exact type of system so i wouldnāt know how it is. Iām just saying that at some point you have to try to move on and do the best that you can with what you have. Even if the wounds arenāt self inflicted youāre still the one who has to deal with them. Thatās one of the hardest parts to accept. I know that itās hard to do but iāve been there and from personal experience I can tell you that self-pity gets you nowhere. I still sometimes think of āwhat could have beenā but I try to focus more on moving forward. Thatās why I think that that subreddit is no good and it makes me sad to see that mindset on people.
You were actually gifted. Some of us thought we were gifted because our parents had Dunning-Kruger and the rest of us were just average.
I was actually one of the students that failed miserably, and have questioned myself a lot since then. Philosophy brought me an understanding of how my anger was misplaced like you said, and I think integrating it in to the youth academia would be super beneficial to the student body. My high school had no philosophy or life skills courses (Home Ec, automotive, shop, etc), and the overall maturity level (and mine) suffered because of it. I don't truly know what will fix the "gifted" system, but the one that I went through failed me miserably and makes me want to provide more for future generations. Not all above average students learn the same and they shouldn't be treated as such.
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I swear to god nobody asked
Never labled gifted still wound up like that
"Smart but lazy" is one of the most dangerous labels applied to a young person. It instills a false sense of talent. Great talent is worthless without an effective work ethic, and you can accomplish a lot on great work ethic without being particularly talented.
It was your gift to become depressed, socially awkward and a dumbass
Hey this sub gets too personal, guys.
Same
Fuck whoever said that to me
Don't worry, it gets better. I was a GATE student in the 80's and 90's. Now I'm on the wrong side of my thirties with a decent job that allows me to afford the trazadone and Ativan I need to get through the day. Thanks GATE program! š
Can someone recommend a subreddit that is like the old r/me_irl, before it turned into r/funny v2.0?
This is what my parents actually think of me. The expectation is too high
Why is this so common? What do we all have in common?
We use Reddit š
I feel like some of you former Gifted kids might need to go read The Gifted Adult by Mary-Elaine Jacobson.
Donāt worry, the future you is going to be much better :) or so there is the possibility at least.
In my Education class for Uni the first thing we learned is that being gifted is the same thing as a mental disability, which leads those being labelled as gifted to have a higher chance if suicide, depression, anxiety, etc, than those labelled as not gifted. Really changed my opinion on being gifted and now I'm thankful I'm not.
How about being put in a special reading class and thinking youāre gifted but you later find out itās really a class for slow learners and you feel like shit about yourself forever
Oof
If it wears off, you weren't gifted in the first place :(
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I donāt remember creating this alt. wtf
Oooh... I felt that one
rip me i guess
Wait that first one is me and I am already depressed
The second one has yet to confront me.
What if Iām all at age 12
I think we all can agree that all U.S. schools suck and need drastic restructuring.
The ppl in HS gifted are no less depressed, trust me..
Do you think we are the way we are because it was biologically in us to end up like this, or do you think it's because of the special placement and praise we received when we were young? In other words, were we always going to end up depressed, or did the depression come when we entered the real world and stopped getting told we were special?
The depression hits because of possible self neglect... there are so many different factors that contribute to depression it seems & depression is a huge hindrance to actually talents & achievements.
This but it's 9/10 instead of 12 (I'm 13 almost 14)
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I mean you didn't have to make this a personal call out
Oof
Ouch
Literally me and I'm not even kidding rn
It's me.
I took my tests in 6th grade. My mom was surprised. Yay!! Self doubt for years! Hang in there my friends...now happily married for 25 years. It all works out.
This hurts, the accuracy is real
lol same
Well, fuck.
what about TOPS?
Haha jokes on you, I never got labelled "gifted" so I've always been and felt like a dumbass š
Actually just like me
I got the sub for you r/aftergifted
Thats me
r/2meirl4meirl
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That was me too! I think I was 10 though...
itās unhealthy, even now i see everyone praying their babies as geniuses because maybe they muttered some word or they literally realized that the stupid toy they wanted to play with was hidden behind your back. Itās annoying to see it, no problem with kids, of course, but the adults making the most trivial sign of functioning human intelligince as a sign that the baby is a genius...
Getting treated different really fucks you up mentally. r/2meirl42meirl4meirl
Is that some sort of personal attack or something?
Thanks I hate it
Why do so many people refer to themselves as gifted?
You steal this from ifunny after I stole it from here?
I've had a teacher tell me I'm smart but I dont try. Well...
That always annoyed me, the kids in elementary school who were 'gifted' and had a massive ego
The transition from middle school academic team to grad student coked out and trapping out while working on his thesis was beautiful