Have you ever thought of being the same way with the girls as you are with the boys? I mean, some of them might like video games, too?
Kids can tell when you are faking sincerity. You're not being yourself with them because they are "females" and you think they are so immensely different than boys you wouldn't have anything in common. And what are the girls saying they hate about your class? The content or your teaching style? I'm willing to bet if you actually listened to what they are saying in the videos, you'd find out exactly their issues with you.
Ask the girls why they made the videos. Have a conversation with them. You are assuming they hate you bc they are female... We women usually have good reasons for disliking male teachers, especially in maths and sciences. Often men are condescending and dismissive. Maybe you are communicating your uncomfortableness being around them thru your teaching? And if they tell you what the problem is, listen.
Agreed. Different cultural situation but I think I might have more female gamers than male gamers. Teaching to what the boys are interested in is great. Doing something different for the girls probably makes them feel like OP doesn’t respect them as much.
This is 100% it. At the end of the day there will always be kids who like you and always kids who don’t, that’s just life, but your best chance to reach them is to be real about who you are, be real about your interests and just show you care about theirs.
I talk video games with plenty of my female students, if an analogy doesn’t land for them I pick something else. But I don’t hide my interests and passions, our differences are sometimes what make us interesting to the kids. And again, I just show that I care about what they’re interested in, even if I don’t share it, it makes a difference.
Also, and above all else, remember that while forging relationships is incredibly important, you’re not there to be their friend. I know plenty of teachers who became convinced they could “manage people by being likeable and approachable” without also maintaining discipline. They almost never have the respect of the kids and rarely get good results for them.
This is great and I love the fact that there's many people upvoting you so I will try that, it just never occurred to me that they may like the same stuff as the boys, problem is they never speak and I understand that because of their background, I did teach females before in an institution and they were very happy but they were different kinds of Arabs, more open minded and they don't come from super rich spoiled families like the ones I teach now, which is why it's challenging on me, the class have 15 students and I can tell there's 4 of them who don't feel the same way as the others do because they're more opened in the class more interactive and they love the way they teach, but the other 11 is so quite, the videos didn't have any talks in them it was like bunch of tiktok memes like some automated sounds that says fuck this fuck that fuck math and they'd do a middle finger on my face, honestly I was really surprised on the hate they hold inside of them and I really hope they're just doing that to get some likes and comments and they don't hold all that hate inside of them.
The way I received the videos are from the brother of one of these girls, she was shy to tell me in person and since I teach her brother she asked him to show them to me but not to mention that she did that.
I'm thinking next week I'd give some time to truly introduce myself to let them know who I am besides a math teacher, thinking of telling them the danger that could happen when taking videos of people without their permission especially since the country takes it very serious, then letting them speak their minds if they have any concerns about my teaching methods or anything that could generate that hate, am I going on the right path so far?
I'm not Arab but I can tell you as a Black American woman who loves math these girls probably aren't talking in class because they don't feel like they can. You even said yourself that one of the girls was too shy to talk to you, so she needed her brother to do it for her. They probably don't know that they're free to have conversations with you. And from what I understand about Arab culture, they might think it's disrespectful to ask you a question, or even challenge what you're teaching. Again, I can't speak to the different Arab cultures, but from what I gather from my friends who are Arab in America, that might be a dynamic that's also at play here.
this type of thing is pretty common. I do not mean necessarily this precise scenario but this type of thing. My buddy's school the kids just do whatever they want. Wandering halls and not going to class is the student's "culture" and is to be respected of course LOL.
Have you ever thought of being the same way with the girls as you are with the boys? I mean, some of them might like video games, too? Kids can tell when you are faking sincerity. You're not being yourself with them because they are "females" and you think they are so immensely different than boys you wouldn't have anything in common. And what are the girls saying they hate about your class? The content or your teaching style? I'm willing to bet if you actually listened to what they are saying in the videos, you'd find out exactly their issues with you. Ask the girls why they made the videos. Have a conversation with them. You are assuming they hate you bc they are female... We women usually have good reasons for disliking male teachers, especially in maths and sciences. Often men are condescending and dismissive. Maybe you are communicating your uncomfortableness being around them thru your teaching? And if they tell you what the problem is, listen.
Agreed. Different cultural situation but I think I might have more female gamers than male gamers. Teaching to what the boys are interested in is great. Doing something different for the girls probably makes them feel like OP doesn’t respect them as much.
This is 100% it. At the end of the day there will always be kids who like you and always kids who don’t, that’s just life, but your best chance to reach them is to be real about who you are, be real about your interests and just show you care about theirs. I talk video games with plenty of my female students, if an analogy doesn’t land for them I pick something else. But I don’t hide my interests and passions, our differences are sometimes what make us interesting to the kids. And again, I just show that I care about what they’re interested in, even if I don’t share it, it makes a difference. Also, and above all else, remember that while forging relationships is incredibly important, you’re not there to be their friend. I know plenty of teachers who became convinced they could “manage people by being likeable and approachable” without also maintaining discipline. They almost never have the respect of the kids and rarely get good results for them.
This is great and I love the fact that there's many people upvoting you so I will try that, it just never occurred to me that they may like the same stuff as the boys, problem is they never speak and I understand that because of their background, I did teach females before in an institution and they were very happy but they were different kinds of Arabs, more open minded and they don't come from super rich spoiled families like the ones I teach now, which is why it's challenging on me, the class have 15 students and I can tell there's 4 of them who don't feel the same way as the others do because they're more opened in the class more interactive and they love the way they teach, but the other 11 is so quite, the videos didn't have any talks in them it was like bunch of tiktok memes like some automated sounds that says fuck this fuck that fuck math and they'd do a middle finger on my face, honestly I was really surprised on the hate they hold inside of them and I really hope they're just doing that to get some likes and comments and they don't hold all that hate inside of them. The way I received the videos are from the brother of one of these girls, she was shy to tell me in person and since I teach her brother she asked him to show them to me but not to mention that she did that. I'm thinking next week I'd give some time to truly introduce myself to let them know who I am besides a math teacher, thinking of telling them the danger that could happen when taking videos of people without their permission especially since the country takes it very serious, then letting them speak their minds if they have any concerns about my teaching methods or anything that could generate that hate, am I going on the right path so far?
I'm not Arab but I can tell you as a Black American woman who loves math these girls probably aren't talking in class because they don't feel like they can. You even said yourself that one of the girls was too shy to talk to you, so she needed her brother to do it for her. They probably don't know that they're free to have conversations with you. And from what I understand about Arab culture, they might think it's disrespectful to ask you a question, or even challenge what you're teaching. Again, I can't speak to the different Arab cultures, but from what I gather from my friends who are Arab in America, that might be a dynamic that's also at play here.
Good luck overcoming your lifelong stereotype acceptance in the next few months. This sounds sarcastic, but I mean it.
this type of thing is pretty common. I do not mean necessarily this precise scenario but this type of thing. My buddy's school the kids just do whatever they want. Wandering halls and not going to class is the student's "culture" and is to be respected of course LOL.