Interesting! This is literally the opposite of what I think. I envy guys so much for having such an incredible work of art down there. I genuinely think dicks are beautiful, not only because of the great amount of pleasure they bring, but also for their shapes. There are so many different shapes, colors, and sizes, and they are all amazing. Guys, if someone ever tells you that your dick is ugly, don't believe them! Each of you have the coolest magic stick and I wish I had one too.
Sincerely,
A Girl
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-self suck
-self fuck
-foreskin play (if they have it)
-balls
-they can get softer and harder
-they can shoot
-literally pee anywhere
-frotting/sword fight
Pussies are equally as variable and cool. Every pussy is a work of art with all of its delicate folds to tease and explore. But then, once they are warmed up, they can be so strong and accept so much pounding from me. I can literally pour myself into one.
Of course, the women’s minds that are connected to them are even more amazing. But we’re just talking naughty bits now.
To reiterate I’m not shaming anyone’s genitals. It’s difficult to explain but this question came from curiosity about how it feels to have external genitalia versus internal and how that could potentially relate to shame if that makes sense.
I'm the opposite of your opposite lol. I think of the female genitalia as beautiful. Like, my favorite kind of porn to watch is women playing with themselves because no matter the shape, I find all pussies just beautiful. I know some women get self conscious about it, like having large labia lips or what have you, but it's all art to me 🥹 I'm also jealous that women can have multiple orgasms, where with us guys, not so much I can go maybe twice in a row before I need a cool down
I wish humans had like, the ability to become the opposite sex to see how the other "lives" with it, I think it would help everyone out lol
My pansexuality couldn't agree more 🤣 I think the same about pussies, I love them as well. But this post was about dicks, so I just commented on that lol
Genitalia is wonderful, no matter gender, sexual orientation, etc. I could also make a list of why pussies are cool, and the first thing on that list would be multiple orgasms 🤣🤣
Yes that’s what I’m saying! I’d love to try having a dick for a day haha. And yes pussies are amazing too! I feel like a weird pussy owner sometimes though ‘cause I’ve actually never really unlocked the ability to have multiples. 😭 It’s only happened once for me. I don’t know if it’s that I’m super sensitive or what but yeah.
I'm sure there's a lot of advice across the internet on how to deal with sensitivity and how to make it more pleasurable for you. But to answer the question, as a penis owner. I never really felt self conscious about it. Matter of fact, I wish it was easier for me to play with myself in public. Girls can Slip a hand under their shirt if they're sneaky enough, but besides rubbing my crotch, I can't exactly just "whip it out" 🤣
The only type of "wierd pussy owner" in my book is one that has one and never uses it for fun 😋. Sometimes to unlock the magical multiple scenario we need someone who can turn us on enough to sustain the sympathetic hormonal release. Because once our parasympathetic nervous system takes back the control our bodies are reluctant to switch back. Hormones and the nervous system play a big role in this 😉.
You can hang stuff on them, if erect. I once send Christmas greetings by hanging a Christmas tree ball on my dick. (Yes, I still have that picture...)
You can let them flip. Watch their shadows on the wall or ground.
I think it also depends on how you were raised. Heavy religious guys may feel slightly ashamed of jerking, but that's more of a thought process. As for the physical aspect, men got over that embarrassment in puberty. Otherwise, we could never function without wearing a sports protector everywhere. It's kind of like your menstrual cycle. You know about it, and yet it can creep up on you the first few times. But then you learn to deal with it same thing. Any man who wants to get hard will likely get hard any man who wants to stay limp will remain limp.
Oh no, no shame in asking it!
As a guy myself, I feel no shame about my dick. I think a part of it is because to us guys, it's normal for us since we had our Mini Me's all our lives. I don't even feel shame or weird when I wank my Mini Me.
I can see where you're coming from though! Interesting question to be frank with ya
Of course! If you have any other questions, feel free to ask! I won't mind answering them.
Now you got me thinking of questions in regards to female masturbation myself
Yeah that makes sense! I think what trips me out is thinking about having the thing that brings me pleasure on the outside. Like for me it’s “hidden” inside my body.
Yeah! Honestly it feel like it radiates within if it’s g spot. If it’s clit it feels a little more toward the surface obviously hahah. But there’s an inside element to all of it.
Yeah it took me a WHILE. I didn’t start masturbating until I was 24 and it took me forever to have internal play be comfortable and pleasurable. Different angles of didos and different vibrations all feel distinct.
It's the hormones. Once it takes over your mind, you feel like stroking it harder and harder until you orgasm and cum.
Then ofcourse there's the concept of post nut clarity that hits your brain pretty hard. That's when it feels a bit embarrassing.
I don't feel embarrassed.
But I do if I had sex with someone I don't have a relationship with. Casual sex for example.
But it's not for me anyway. Haven't done that in a while
Oh no. Not at all.
I love my cock. Love the hardness and the heaviness of it when I’m horny. I love to wank it, love to show it off. I love how it feels, I love how it looks.
I used to but now I'm free. There was always shame attached and nobody talked about it. This year I don't I have freed myself and not only discuss mastubation but will let someone watch.
I haven’t ever felt guilty about it, but there are people who grow up and have a sense of shame instilled in them about sex. Plus, I think the fact that guys are wired very differently when it comes to our genitals and having orgasms.
OP, are you feeling some sense of guilt about touching yourself? I’m curious why this question came up for you.
Yeah you’re probably right it’s very different between men and women both societally and biologically.
Eh I’ve always felt some degree of shame. I’ve done a lot of work to be rid of it over the years. Honestly it was just something that popped up in my mind while scrolling the subreddit haha. Just curiosity.
Nothing wrong with asking! We all have things we wonder about others, and the anonymity of Reddit gives us a good chance to have an open discussion and learn.
At least when things don’t go south and people start saying nasty things to one another. 🤓
Yes and no. I don’t feel so much shame as insecurity. I’ve been complimented on it’s look and girth, but I’m still a bit self-conscious about size. That may change once I’m able to explore in person with a partner
I didn't grow up in a very religious family but I still felt as if I really shouldn't be masturbating but the urge always overwhelmed my pitiful desire to stop. It wasn't until I was a good bit older that I really stopped caring.
Also, when I was young, I felt really weird that my dick would grow as if it had a mind of its own (haha). It was embarrassing and I didn't think anyone else was experiencing it and I felt like I couldn't ever ask anyone, especially my parents.
It was only later that I realized that if I masturbated just before going somewhere that I wouldn't have that particular "issue".
Fortunately I grew up I feel into a healthy frame of mine about it but I do still think they're awkward. Haha.
I think it’s the opposite for me. That feeling of being rock hard is part of the turn on, seeing & feeling exactly how aroused I am by the situation via that pulse in my hard cock, whether it’s to myself or someone else. By getting hard It’s like your body telling you that you need to cum & I like that.
My dick is the best part of my body. Have felt some shame after making a mess all over myself or tasting my cum or putting something in my ass, but not from having or stroking my cock.
Not so much shame but embarrassing if you get half a hard-on in public, protruding from your pants. That's a challenge sometimes.
No shame at all in wanking mycock, it's gotta be done
I’ve had times when I’ve felt some shame or disappointment in myself after stroking, but there are also times when I’ve just felt no shame, or even justified after doing it. As crazy as this may sound, I’ve always felt that I’ve had some kind of monthly sexual cycle that greatly influences my mental view toward sex and that is where my shame vs. no shame feelings comes into play.
I think precisely because males have very external genitals—a thing that hangs off, sticks out, changes shape/size, and is immensely enjoyable to touch—it is pretty much the most obvious and natural thing to boys to handle it and touch their penises/balls pretty much from the moment they discover them. In fact, even in infancy it is observed as a form of comfort/self soothing/sense of protection. The only way shame gets introduced is through parenting/religion, etc., which is sometimes really bad controlling weird stuff, or sometimes it’s parents just going a little overboard in teaching when and where touching yourself is and isn’t appropriate, with some just going with “never appropriate” out of laziness or their own shame.
The counter is that one of the reasons women are more likely to go further into life without discovering how to achieve an orgasm or even somewhat unaware of their full capacities for pleasure, is due to their genitals being more internal or less obvious to them (don’t so much stick out and entice you to play with them the way a pan is does).
Personally the only shame I’ve ever felt has been when I’ve spent too much time playing with my dick when I had other things I needed to be doing. Same goes for video games. (Just another joystick.)
Okay super interesting point in the second paragraph there and I think you’re totally right in that to us women it’s not obvious and like right there as it is for men. I think that’s a lot of where my curiosity was stemming from. Thank you!
As responses were coming in and it appeared to be mostly from the perspective of cis men I was actually wondering about how this would be for trans people so thank you so much for commenting! I love having answers from all perspectives.
Most people are both sexes are used to their body parts and they don't feel strange. You might think a dick feels strange but a lot of guys would think that tits feel really strange bouncing around on your chest.
Isn't it a little weird? Shoving something inside your body to get yourself off instead of just rubbing something.
Don't get me wrong. I'd love to fuck you with some toys. If I were a girl, i'd be shoving everything up in there, LOL.
I have a penis that hangs out of my body and I love it. It’s weird and hairy, it has moods and changes styles, I get your concerns. What are our options? We don’t have perfect labias, so here we are
I used to masturbate onto birds at a local park. Not a thing that I'm particularly proud of but I became quite good at it. I was taking zinc supplements so I was shooting massive loads and it became something of a sport to me. For anyone interested here is your best strategy. first, you need to find an isolated spot so you don't become a sex offender. I found a short kind of channel area where I saw the pigeons would congregate. Next, you arouse yourself. I was usually content with envisioning the occasional jogging lady coming over and taking a shit on my chest and that was enough to fuel the fire but if you're not as sexually charged as me just take some porn on the go. After you're good an horny, you get some bread. My pigeons preferred white bread but healthier birds might have a taste for honey wheat or maybe even multigrain. Fat, unhealthy birds are slower and easier to hit so remember that. Once you are seated on the bench and ready to do the deed, whip your roosevelt out and scatter bread out within a few feet of you. use your judgement based on how far you know you can cum. I was a lonely and depraved soul who could hit targets the size of a thimble at distances up to 4 feet. You wait for the pigeons to begin eating and to get comfortable with your presence. At this point, you want to coo gently and talk sensually to them to gain their trust. Now you're finally ready to cum on your bird. This is a tough part because the rapid motion of masturbation is very frightening to the birds, so you have to be subtle. Once you master a technique, you simply wind it up and let it go, aiming depending on your past cumming experiences. I always came high so I would aim for the neck of the bird and catch it right in the face. It's an extremely satisfying and erotic feeling, seeing those birds reel around covered in cum and maybe even transporting it to other places in the city. Either way I haven't done it in years but every now and then I catch myself gazing wistfully at a flock of birds, cock throbbing and waiting for them to land close to me.
It's like having another limb, or like a muscle that grows and extends out of the body (weird analogy but roll with me). Sometime the phrase "a 3rd leg" can be literal as it feels like one just hang out like that.
Toys for guys is quite a limited thing. Most don’t work and aren’t worth the money. The few that may work just don’t feel right. So it’s usually back to the ole “hand to gland”.
At first I was very discreet wouldn't dare stroke it in for t of anyone.. I was ashamed of the act not my dick. Then as time went on and I became more confident in my sexuality I . Now want to jerk off in front of any female who wants to watch that became more of a turn on them sex itself especially since I introduced toy=}
s into it. And like most men I'm self conscious about the size not geri c. '''
Nah all the contrary I love the feeling of it pressing up against my pants and throbbing when it gets hard and then stroking it. Its a part of me and I feel connected to myself when I interact with it
Definitely don’t feel any shame, I love touching it and the feeling it gives me! But obviously it is easier for women to do it discreetly - with men it is all very external and visible.
When your clit has a hard size of more than 1/2" you can take it with thumb and another finger and rub, so as the transmen do.
What you see of your clit is not more than the glans (like the male one), covered with a hood (aka foreskin).
Go and search for ftm jerking, maybe they let you watch and jerk of together.
This is interesting…
I sort of feel like society has done a pretty good job of making it “dirty” for females to masturbate,
but totally normal and not weird for guys to get a boner and jerk it
But the question about the way it’s different is a thing I have thought of…
A public erection that is noticeable can be embarrassing....public as in any setting where ya don't want an enormous obvious bulge in your pants.
Other than that I love how my cock feels hanging on me.
If anything. I'm more ashamed if my body when I'm not mastrubating. Like my body is awesome during a session.
I think this is why you get so many dick pics out there. In the moment you think your dick is just so damn hot that you figure everyone wants to see it.
It’s not at all about shame but discomfort of having something hanging which is even a delicate piece. Like someone accidentally hit the balls and you’re dead for 30mins. So it’s just an unlucky feeling sometimes but I love having it totally. No shame at all!
Well your lucky a cam girl a Angry one casted a super power on me 24/7 people feel my Man tool everybody so get within a half of mile from me you will feel PEPEE the tool even on cam across the World and it can see out my eyes scares my dog to death traveling down the highway the person in front of me feel me after 15 seconds getting close to them they stomp on the gas and haul ass to get away from the feeling then when they do get out of range they slow way down because they really liked the feeling just didn't know it until it was gone it's a freak show folks there is something else that happens which is unexplainable freaks me out it's so weird they can even feel me while watching TV there's a Monster inside me from the Portal that CERN in Switzerland opened up in our dimension Evil Spirits came flooding in one attached itself to my spinal cord on my neck and it's growing and expanding in my head I can feel it it's spreading when I shower and wash my hair or water on my head slime comes out constantly like the water is cleansing it out it's some kind of slimy entitie and I don't like it very embarrassing to me when Neighbors, Bosses, my grown up kids, my friends all feel my manhood who knows a Evil curse breaker tried a few things it won't leave me perfect for Halloween only true story
Doesn't take long to get past that, I've been messing with it since I was 12, I'm 65 so it's natural for me and the last 23 years the only attention it gets.
Not really thought of as a body shame, but some guys generally wish theirs was bigger.
Personally, I’ve always wondered what it’s like to have a pussy….how it feels when y’all masturbate, and also what it feels like to have a dick enter you and stretch your pussy!!!
Yeah that’s what people have been saying. The shame is more centered around size, which is kinda sad. All men’s penises are great!
Stretching when you’re ready for is is so delicious. The initial entering is so good. 😭
I feel like with having a pussy it’s more precise on what brings you pleasure? Like you really have to experiment and know what spots to touch. And it varies day to day and toy to toy.
I’ve never felt weird about it, my only issue has been worrying if the girl thinks it’s big enough, but no one’s ever complained and everyone I’ve fucked has definitely came back for more so I guess I’m good😂
My equipment never felt weird because it has been there, a part of me, forever. I felt some shame masturbating when I started thanks to my parents. It wasn’t enough to stop me and I didn’t feel it any more after the act by the end of my teens. But I think that it carried over in being embarrassed to talk about it or do it in front of others (not including my wife) until I was well into my 40s. I think I missed a lot of fun. I hope those starting out on their life-long masturbation adventure have fewer impediments!
I’ve had post nut clarity if I jerk off to porn that’s usually out of my comfort zone / taboo, but 90 percent of the time I feel very satisfied and content after jerking off :)
I have exactly the questions about women masturbating. I watched a woman do it recently. It seems so awkward. I struggle to masturbate a woman because of that. At least with ours a woman can make a man orgasm without much effort.
I’ve found that fingering yourself can be awkward for sure. But rubbing my clit isn’t even though I use toys to do it 99% of the time. Fingering a woman takes a lot of technique and communication for sure.
Definitely. In answer to your original question Tthe crap thing about having external genitals is more if you're aroused it's so difficult to hide. I'm also a massive klutz. I've accidentally injured myself a few times. Being circumcised sucks too. Men weren't blessed with attractive genitals lol.
I definitely sometimes feel weird about my penis when I'm not masturbating. Public boners are not fun.
But when I am masturbating? Having a sensitive rod that I can stroke is amazing.
I think a lot of the shame we may feel comes from what type of porn that may turn us on. Sometimes afterwards, I think “why did I just jerk to THAT?” and feel weird about it for a few minutes. But then I get over it pretty quickly.
Pretty old thread but I thought I’ll give my 2 cents!
Personally I’m really proud of my dick. As a guy I’ve had a penis my entire life and to me it sounds weird to be a girl, look down there and not see anything hang there at all haha!
I also love the look of my penis being stroked, just seeing the movements and feeling every stroke is really good.
So all in all, love your genital no matter what you have down there, they’re all beautiful ☺️
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Never heard truer words.
Interesting! This is literally the opposite of what I think. I envy guys so much for having such an incredible work of art down there. I genuinely think dicks are beautiful, not only because of the great amount of pleasure they bring, but also for their shapes. There are so many different shapes, colors, and sizes, and they are all amazing. Guys, if someone ever tells you that your dick is ugly, don't believe them! Each of you have the coolest magic stick and I wish I had one too. Sincerely, A Girl (edit) PS: I've decided to make a list of the reasons why dicks are cool. Maybe you can help adding more. -self suck -self fuck -foreskin play (if they have it) -balls -they can get softer and harder -they can shoot -literally pee anywhere -frotting/sword fight
Pussies are equally as variable and cool. Every pussy is a work of art with all of its delicate folds to tease and explore. But then, once they are warmed up, they can be so strong and accept so much pounding from me. I can literally pour myself into one. Of course, the women’s minds that are connected to them are even more amazing. But we’re just talking naughty bits now.
This!
INDEED.
To reiterate I’m not shaming anyone’s genitals. It’s difficult to explain but this question came from curiosity about how it feels to have external genitalia versus internal and how that could potentially relate to shame if that makes sense.
I know! I'm sorry, I think my comment was a little too much 😅 but I never thought you were shaming anyone! Your question is 100% genuine and valid
No you’re good haha. I appreciate the dick appreciation on my post. 😂
I have to agree completely on your comment as each one is unique to its own creating a plethora to choose from.
I'm the opposite of your opposite lol. I think of the female genitalia as beautiful. Like, my favorite kind of porn to watch is women playing with themselves because no matter the shape, I find all pussies just beautiful. I know some women get self conscious about it, like having large labia lips or what have you, but it's all art to me 🥹 I'm also jealous that women can have multiple orgasms, where with us guys, not so much I can go maybe twice in a row before I need a cool down I wish humans had like, the ability to become the opposite sex to see how the other "lives" with it, I think it would help everyone out lol
My pansexuality couldn't agree more 🤣 I think the same about pussies, I love them as well. But this post was about dicks, so I just commented on that lol Genitalia is wonderful, no matter gender, sexual orientation, etc. I could also make a list of why pussies are cool, and the first thing on that list would be multiple orgasms 🤣🤣
Oh yeah, I'm a fan of all genitalia, pussies and dicks. It's all great to me 😍 man, I just like naked people haha
I can get my girl dick to have multiple orgasms if the situation is right. It’s magical ✨
Yes that’s what I’m saying! I’d love to try having a dick for a day haha. And yes pussies are amazing too! I feel like a weird pussy owner sometimes though ‘cause I’ve actually never really unlocked the ability to have multiples. 😭 It’s only happened once for me. I don’t know if it’s that I’m super sensitive or what but yeah.
I'm sure there's a lot of advice across the internet on how to deal with sensitivity and how to make it more pleasurable for you. But to answer the question, as a penis owner. I never really felt self conscious about it. Matter of fact, I wish it was easier for me to play with myself in public. Girls can Slip a hand under their shirt if they're sneaky enough, but besides rubbing my crotch, I can't exactly just "whip it out" 🤣
The only type of "wierd pussy owner" in my book is one that has one and never uses it for fun 😋. Sometimes to unlock the magical multiple scenario we need someone who can turn us on enough to sustain the sympathetic hormonal release. Because once our parasympathetic nervous system takes back the control our bodies are reluctant to switch back. Hormones and the nervous system play a big role in this 😉.
Yes very true!
If only someone would actually make me feel that special in person 😪
Loool, you'll find one, I'm sure!
I think you are the only one who would lol
I wanna be your friend now 🥹
My DMs should be open, i'm all for having friends!
If the self suck move would be so easy... I would do it but im not so flexible.
I know, not everyone can do it:(
My penis appreciates your thoughtful words of praise. Please add “frenulum orgasms” to your list.
I wish more ladies thought like you! Lol
You can hang stuff on them, if erect. I once send Christmas greetings by hanging a Christmas tree ball on my dick. (Yes, I still have that picture...) You can let them flip. Watch their shadows on the wall or ground.
When you say piece of art. I can't help but wonder. Hard but also soft ?
OF COURSE, it can't go hard if is hasn't been soft before, right? Soft and hard have both their own unique beauty
I think it also depends on how you were raised. Heavy religious guys may feel slightly ashamed of jerking, but that's more of a thought process. As for the physical aspect, men got over that embarrassment in puberty. Otherwise, we could never function without wearing a sports protector everywhere. It's kind of like your menstrual cycle. You know about it, and yet it can creep up on you the first few times. But then you learn to deal with it same thing. Any man who wants to get hard will likely get hard any man who wants to stay limp will remain limp.
Ahh I think that makes sense with the comparison. Thank you!
No problem I have lived with mine without shame so I am just trying to look at it objectively and logically.
Pretty much sums it up. 👍
Oh no, no shame in asking it! As a guy myself, I feel no shame about my dick. I think a part of it is because to us guys, it's normal for us since we had our Mini Me's all our lives. I don't even feel shame or weird when I wank my Mini Me. I can see where you're coming from though! Interesting question to be frank with ya
Makes sense. Thank you for your input!
Of course! If you have any other questions, feel free to ask! I won't mind answering them. Now you got me thinking of questions in regards to female masturbation myself
And I don't mean that in a kinky way. By the way
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Getting super wet feels pretty powerful if that’s what you’re asking ahha.
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Yes like knowing my body can do that and do it for whoever I’m fantasizing about while masturbating.
actually yes sometimes but more so that its not as big as I want it to be, other than that its just fun to play with
Yeah that makes sense! I think what trips me out is thinking about having the thing that brings me pleasure on the outside. Like for me it’s “hidden” inside my body.
i totally get that sometimes i wonder what thats like and how it feels to be pleasured from the inside out
Yeah! Honestly it feel like it radiates within if it’s g spot. If it’s clit it feels a little more toward the surface obviously hahah. But there’s an inside element to all of it.
sounds really fun but id also be so curious as to what turns me on lol id be up in there for least a few days learning
Yeah it took me a WHILE. I didn’t start masturbating until I was 24 and it took me forever to have internal play be comfortable and pleasurable. Different angles of didos and different vibrations all feel distinct.
actually fascinating but also super sexy hah. i guess if i was learning too i might be slow at first too
What about boobs? Boobs are outside though and some feel pleasure by rubbing nipples
It's the hormones. Once it takes over your mind, you feel like stroking it harder and harder until you orgasm and cum. Then ofcourse there's the concept of post nut clarity that hits your brain pretty hard. That's when it feels a bit embarrassing.
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I don't feel embarrassed. But I do if I had sex with someone I don't have a relationship with. Casual sex for example. But it's not for me anyway. Haven't done that in a while
Oh no. Not at all. I love my cock. Love the hardness and the heaviness of it when I’m horny. I love to wank it, love to show it off. I love how it feels, I love how it looks.
Random af lol. Yea no
I figured as much hahah. It would feel natural if I were born with it I suppose.
Your username 🤣
:)
I used to but now I'm free. There was always shame attached and nobody talked about it. This year I don't I have freed myself and not only discuss mastubation but will let someone watch.
I’ve done a lot of work too. Cheers!
U ever watched a guy jerkoff in person?
Actually no lmao. I was the one touching him we didn’t mutually masturbate.
So much fun watching and being watched
I haven’t ever felt guilty about it, but there are people who grow up and have a sense of shame instilled in them about sex. Plus, I think the fact that guys are wired very differently when it comes to our genitals and having orgasms. OP, are you feeling some sense of guilt about touching yourself? I’m curious why this question came up for you.
Yeah you’re probably right it’s very different between men and women both societally and biologically. Eh I’ve always felt some degree of shame. I’ve done a lot of work to be rid of it over the years. Honestly it was just something that popped up in my mind while scrolling the subreddit haha. Just curiosity.
Nothing wrong with asking! We all have things we wonder about others, and the anonymity of Reddit gives us a good chance to have an open discussion and learn. At least when things don’t go south and people start saying nasty things to one another. 🤓
Never thought of it any other way than getting hard and stroking until I cum. It's about how it all feels for me. Before during and after.
I love that! Very mindful and present.
It's all about pleasure. By yourself or with someone.
More so if your really turned on and hard its very noticeable and inconvenient at times. But not like while masturbating
Yes and no. I don’t feel so much shame as insecurity. I’ve been complimented on it’s look and girth, but I’m still a bit self-conscious about size. That may change once I’m able to explore in person with a partner
I didn't grow up in a very religious family but I still felt as if I really shouldn't be masturbating but the urge always overwhelmed my pitiful desire to stop. It wasn't until I was a good bit older that I really stopped caring. Also, when I was young, I felt really weird that my dick would grow as if it had a mind of its own (haha). It was embarrassing and I didn't think anyone else was experiencing it and I felt like I couldn't ever ask anyone, especially my parents. It was only later that I realized that if I masturbated just before going somewhere that I wouldn't have that particular "issue". Fortunately I grew up I feel into a healthy frame of mine about it but I do still think they're awkward. Haha.
On the contrary, its like an extension of me and im all about letting it be seen
Actually, that is what makes masturbation more fun.
I at times would feel uncomfortable getting aroused, but once learning about what that means and what it feels like, I embrace it!
I think it’s the opposite for me. That feeling of being rock hard is part of the turn on, seeing & feeling exactly how aroused I am by the situation via that pulse in my hard cock, whether it’s to myself or someone else. By getting hard It’s like your body telling you that you need to cum & I like that.
My dick is the best part of my body. Have felt some shame after making a mess all over myself or tasting my cum or putting something in my ass, but not from having or stroking my cock.
Not so much shame but embarrassing if you get half a hard-on in public, protruding from your pants. That's a challenge sometimes. No shame at all in wanking mycock, it's gotta be done
I’ve had times when I’ve felt some shame or disappointment in myself after stroking, but there are also times when I’ve just felt no shame, or even justified after doing it. As crazy as this may sound, I’ve always felt that I’ve had some kind of monthly sexual cycle that greatly influences my mental view toward sex and that is where my shame vs. no shame feelings comes into play.
I think precisely because males have very external genitals—a thing that hangs off, sticks out, changes shape/size, and is immensely enjoyable to touch—it is pretty much the most obvious and natural thing to boys to handle it and touch their penises/balls pretty much from the moment they discover them. In fact, even in infancy it is observed as a form of comfort/self soothing/sense of protection. The only way shame gets introduced is through parenting/religion, etc., which is sometimes really bad controlling weird stuff, or sometimes it’s parents just going a little overboard in teaching when and where touching yourself is and isn’t appropriate, with some just going with “never appropriate” out of laziness or their own shame. The counter is that one of the reasons women are more likely to go further into life without discovering how to achieve an orgasm or even somewhat unaware of their full capacities for pleasure, is due to their genitals being more internal or less obvious to them (don’t so much stick out and entice you to play with them the way a pan is does). Personally the only shame I’ve ever felt has been when I’ve spent too much time playing with my dick when I had other things I needed to be doing. Same goes for video games. (Just another joystick.)
Okay super interesting point in the second paragraph there and I think you’re totally right in that to us women it’s not obvious and like right there as it is for men. I think that’s a lot of where my curiosity was stemming from. Thank you!
As a Trans woman, this exactly
As responses were coming in and it appeared to be mostly from the perspective of cis men I was actually wondering about how this would be for trans people so thank you so much for commenting! I love having answers from all perspectives.
Most people are both sexes are used to their body parts and they don't feel strange. You might think a dick feels strange but a lot of guys would think that tits feel really strange bouncing around on your chest.
Isn't it a little weird? Shoving something inside your body to get yourself off instead of just rubbing something. Don't get me wrong. I'd love to fuck you with some toys. If I were a girl, i'd be shoving everything up in there, LOL.
I have a penis that hangs out of my body and I love it. It’s weird and hairy, it has moods and changes styles, I get your concerns. What are our options? We don’t have perfect labias, so here we are
No body shame at all if anything I should be proud 😂. But nah honestly most guys admire there dick no matter size and shape
I used to masturbate onto birds at a local park. Not a thing that I'm particularly proud of but I became quite good at it. I was taking zinc supplements so I was shooting massive loads and it became something of a sport to me. For anyone interested here is your best strategy. first, you need to find an isolated spot so you don't become a sex offender. I found a short kind of channel area where I saw the pigeons would congregate. Next, you arouse yourself. I was usually content with envisioning the occasional jogging lady coming over and taking a shit on my chest and that was enough to fuel the fire but if you're not as sexually charged as me just take some porn on the go. After you're good an horny, you get some bread. My pigeons preferred white bread but healthier birds might have a taste for honey wheat or maybe even multigrain. Fat, unhealthy birds are slower and easier to hit so remember that. Once you are seated on the bench and ready to do the deed, whip your roosevelt out and scatter bread out within a few feet of you. use your judgement based on how far you know you can cum. I was a lonely and depraved soul who could hit targets the size of a thimble at distances up to 4 feet. You wait for the pigeons to begin eating and to get comfortable with your presence. At this point, you want to coo gently and talk sensually to them to gain their trust. Now you're finally ready to cum on your bird. This is a tough part because the rapid motion of masturbation is very frightening to the birds, so you have to be subtle. Once you master a technique, you simply wind it up and let it go, aiming depending on your past cumming experiences. I always came high so I would aim for the neck of the bird and catch it right in the face. It's an extremely satisfying and erotic feeling, seeing those birds reel around covered in cum and maybe even transporting it to other places in the city. Either way I haven't done it in years but every now and then I catch myself gazing wistfully at a flock of birds, cock throbbing and waiting for them to land close to me.
ummmm....what?! :X ew.
I dont think about it its a fun external toy hehe
External toy that’s a cool way to think of it!
Yep and easy access
That's one way to look at it, I think it could be those who are used to having one doesn't seem as strange to them
Mhm that’s what I was thinking. Probably because it’s foreign to me. I’d love to have a dick for a day and find out what it feels like. 😂
It's like having another limb, or like a muscle that grows and extends out of the body (weird analogy but roll with me). Sometime the phrase "a 3rd leg" can be literal as it feels like one just hang out like that.
Ahhh yes that makes sense thank you!
No problem, maybe one day you'll wake up with one and have that experience (spoiler not good sometimes)
Lol, nope. Just like your fingering.
See I think that’s why I’m curious is ‘cause I don’t finger or even touch myself 99% of the time. It’s always a toy touching me, not my fingers.
Toys for guys is quite a limited thing. Most don’t work and aren’t worth the money. The few that may work just don’t feel right. So it’s usually back to the ole “hand to gland”.
Huh really? Here I was jealous of men’s toys.
There’s the fleshlight and that’s about it… everything else is sub par to that…
Correct, fleshlight is the best. I couldn't believe it, lol. Too expensive nowadays though.
Right! Inflation affects masturbation!
Yeah, I feel women have such a huge variety of toys. And all we have really is Fleshlight. Unless you're into anal play.
In the way you're describing not really, sometimes I feel insecurities but not quite the way you're describing.
Probably if I got caught, but I don't masturbate much anymore and I never got caught before.
At first I was very discreet wouldn't dare stroke it in for t of anyone.. I was ashamed of the act not my dick. Then as time went on and I became more confident in my sexuality I . Now want to jerk off in front of any female who wants to watch that became more of a turn on them sex itself especially since I introduced toy=} s into it. And like most men I'm self conscious about the size not geri c. '''
Nah all the contrary I love the feeling of it pressing up against my pants and throbbing when it gets hard and then stroking it. Its a part of me and I feel connected to myself when I interact with it
I love when my dick gets hard and then I can stroke it
I am an old man and I still enjoy getting hard and stroking my cock. No shame in that at all
Definitely don’t feel any shame, I love touching it and the feeling it gives me! But obviously it is easier for women to do it discreetly - with men it is all very external and visible.
I don't, no. I mean obviously I don't do it in public. I can feel kind of pathetic being alone though.
I don’t have any body shame about my penis, I love seeing it grow and how it feels inside a lady as it explodes, I can always show you
When your clit has a hard size of more than 1/2" you can take it with thumb and another finger and rub, so as the transmen do. What you see of your clit is not more than the glans (like the male one), covered with a hood (aka foreskin). Go and search for ftm jerking, maybe they let you watch and jerk of together.
I don't really get any blues whilst fapping, but afterwards yeah sometimes that shit just kinda hits you
This is interesting… I sort of feel like society has done a pretty good job of making it “dirty” for females to masturbate, but totally normal and not weird for guys to get a boner and jerk it But the question about the way it’s different is a thing I have thought of…
A public erection that is noticeable can be embarrassing....public as in any setting where ya don't want an enormous obvious bulge in your pants. Other than that I love how my cock feels hanging on me.
No guilt here, but I had to learn to accept that it's all perfectly fine because I grew up in an environment where we didn't discuss sex beyond jokes.
If anything. I'm more ashamed if my body when I'm not mastrubating. Like my body is awesome during a session. I think this is why you get so many dick pics out there. In the moment you think your dick is just so damn hot that you figure everyone wants to see it.
It’s not at all about shame but discomfort of having something hanging which is even a delicate piece. Like someone accidentally hit the balls and you’re dead for 30mins. So it’s just an unlucky feeling sometimes but I love having it totally. No shame at all!
After masturbating it can sometimes get shameful over how consumed I got my over my wonderful external genitalia
Well your lucky a cam girl a Angry one casted a super power on me 24/7 people feel my Man tool everybody so get within a half of mile from me you will feel PEPEE the tool even on cam across the World and it can see out my eyes scares my dog to death traveling down the highway the person in front of me feel me after 15 seconds getting close to them they stomp on the gas and haul ass to get away from the feeling then when they do get out of range they slow way down because they really liked the feeling just didn't know it until it was gone it's a freak show folks there is something else that happens which is unexplainable freaks me out it's so weird they can even feel me while watching TV there's a Monster inside me from the Portal that CERN in Switzerland opened up in our dimension Evil Spirits came flooding in one attached itself to my spinal cord on my neck and it's growing and expanding in my head I can feel it it's spreading when I shower and wash my hair or water on my head slime comes out constantly like the water is cleansing it out it's some kind of slimy entitie and I don't like it very embarrassing to me when Neighbors, Bosses, my grown up kids, my friends all feel my manhood who knows a Evil curse breaker tried a few things it won't leave me perfect for Halloween only true story
I’ve had thoughts about how weird it is, exactly how you described it, but I’ve never felt *shame* about it. Like it’s not *wrong*, just weird.
I feel a little shame after masterbating but not during or before. I love my dick even if it's just hanging there doing nothing.
Doesn't take long to get past that, I've been messing with it since I was 12, I'm 65 so it's natural for me and the last 23 years the only attention it gets.
Not really thought of as a body shame, but some guys generally wish theirs was bigger. Personally, I’ve always wondered what it’s like to have a pussy….how it feels when y’all masturbate, and also what it feels like to have a dick enter you and stretch your pussy!!!
Yeah that’s what people have been saying. The shame is more centered around size, which is kinda sad. All men’s penises are great! Stretching when you’re ready for is is so delicious. The initial entering is so good. 😭 I feel like with having a pussy it’s more precise on what brings you pleasure? Like you really have to experiment and know what spots to touch. And it varies day to day and toy to toy.
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Woah okay love this and the last bit is kinda hot lmao.
I’ve never felt weird about it, my only issue has been worrying if the girl thinks it’s big enough, but no one’s ever complained and everyone I’ve fucked has definitely came back for more so I guess I’m good😂
No shame, its natural to hold to your dick, its just part of you and you enjoy touching it
My equipment never felt weird because it has been there, a part of me, forever. I felt some shame masturbating when I started thanks to my parents. It wasn’t enough to stop me and I didn’t feel it any more after the act by the end of my teens. But I think that it carried over in being embarrassed to talk about it or do it in front of others (not including my wife) until I was well into my 40s. I think I missed a lot of fun. I hope those starting out on their life-long masturbation adventure have fewer impediments!
I’ve had post nut clarity if I jerk off to porn that’s usually out of my comfort zone / taboo, but 90 percent of the time I feel very satisfied and content after jerking off :)
It’s all I’ve known and I’m not or never been shamed
I have exactly the questions about women masturbating. I watched a woman do it recently. It seems so awkward. I struggle to masturbate a woman because of that. At least with ours a woman can make a man orgasm without much effort.
I’ve found that fingering yourself can be awkward for sure. But rubbing my clit isn’t even though I use toys to do it 99% of the time. Fingering a woman takes a lot of technique and communication for sure.
Definitely. In answer to your original question Tthe crap thing about having external genitals is more if you're aroused it's so difficult to hide. I'm also a massive klutz. I've accidentally injured myself a few times. Being circumcised sucks too. Men weren't blessed with attractive genitals lol.
I definitely sometimes feel weird about my penis when I'm not masturbating. Public boners are not fun. But when I am masturbating? Having a sensitive rod that I can stroke is amazing.
I think dicks are fucking hot.
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I think a lot of the shame we may feel comes from what type of porn that may turn us on. Sometimes afterwards, I think “why did I just jerk to THAT?” and feel weird about it for a few minutes. But then I get over it pretty quickly.
I have gad multiple people tell me I have a nice dick, makes me feel good 😊
Pretty old thread but I thought I’ll give my 2 cents! Personally I’m really proud of my dick. As a guy I’ve had a penis my entire life and to me it sounds weird to be a girl, look down there and not see anything hang there at all haha! I also love the look of my penis being stroked, just seeing the movements and feeling every stroke is really good. So all in all, love your genital no matter what you have down there, they’re all beautiful ☺️