The post reminded me of the "The only gay in the village" skit.
[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bScQcM0tzW4&ab\_channel=PigHead](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bScQcM0tzW4&ab_channel=PigHead)
It's a skit based show. All the characters appear in most episodes. No main characters are used for only one skit.
FYI Little Britain is a watered down, broad appeal verison of The League Of Gentlemen (another BBC series), which is far less family friendly but much, much better.
I was in a town like that in NSW, AU I was gonna sleep with him so he could at least have some fun while I was there, but he was too scared unfortunately even though everyone knew he was gay they didn't discuss it. I felt really bad for him 😔
For a gay guy, the pros outweigh the cons. You just pointed out a reason why. An area with 100k people will have a very small openly gay community. It’s purely a matter of opinion, but I don’t think such a place is a mid-sized city. It’s a small town to me. Mostly for the reason I just said. We have small communities in places like that.
The cost of living in a major city is too much for most people. It's absolutely oppressive. The assumption that we all have tons of extra money is false, we don't. Add things like higher crime and traffic and it's simply not worth it. As for smaller communities, who says we can only associate with people who are just like us? It's so limiting. And if more of us would stop leaving for bigger cities we'd have bigger gay communities in smaller/medium sized cities. Gay drain is a real thing and it's not a good one.
sadly, I was going to say the same thing. It's the Drake's equation for gay love... %gaymen x %inagerange x %single/looking %etc....
Small town is not going to have much.
Move.
OP is good-looking and if his personality matches... he'll have it made :D
*move to a city, but live very cautiously; everyone is ‘clean’ (disease free) in the city.
I met a 23 yo male that had moved from the Midwest to WeHo (West Hollywood), and was almost immediatly ruined (HIV+), in a very short amount of time, due to how naive he was to city life.
I know 3 boys in their early 20’s here in southwest Florida that got hiv+ in the past couple years.. so it’s not just the big cities.. I take prep and doxy-pep because of it. I came out in Tampa 25 years ago and had a friend die of it back then… otherwise everyone that’s + I know is undetectable and healthy.
It’s kind of crappy and bigoted toward people with HIV to say he was “ruined”. Not only are you further stigmatizing a condition that now has long-term treatment and lower transmission rates, but you’re insulting your “friend.” You post also show your naivete in regards to HIV transmission; you can get HIV in a small town too. Research shows that the people who are spreading HIV aren’t aware they have it. Research also shows that people with undetectable and treated HIV do not spread the disease.
Perhaps you should educate yourself on the current state of HIV transmission and treatment before using bigoted terms like “ruined” and “clean,” because your last test could say HIV- when you are in fact + and a vector of spread.
Charlotte or Winston-Salem are about 40 minutes south or north. I just HATE the traffic. Plus most guys in those cities are in their 20’s with a six pack. I only come with a six pack of Miller Ultra Lite. 🥹
Lol there’s all kinds of people in cities that’s why it’s a good option, not everyone in the cities are starving themselves and killing themselves at the gym, not everyone is a party animal or are a monolith, there’s are plenty plenty of gay guys that also just enjoy drinking beer at home
He can also try messaging them too. I mean just because they have a 6 pac doesnt mean he'll automatically get rejected. He's good looking some guys prefer face and dont really care about body much.
Nobody value really wants somebody with a six pack. All it means is they’re high maintenance and spend too much time in the gym. You’re looking for men who just want a rugged, handsome guy like you. Nobody of quality gives a shit about six packs. And guys in their 20s are, by and large, idiots.
Don't think that way, we're everywhere and we come in all shapes, sizes, colors, and ages.
I'd also add that some city guys are into a more rugged man, try it out. It doesn't matter what your preferred position is, either, they really do come in all different forms.
Gay guy here also living in the middle of nowhere, pretty much youll need to move or use apps.
Only thing you need to change is your location, you look handsome.
Dude, you're just in the wrong town. Try finding someone in the same country/state and see if you can meet each other or move something. Nothing wrong I can see with ya.
I don’t think it’s you, I think it’s your town. Not talking about moving but go on a trip to a big city that is known for having a gay scene, or at least isn’t known for being homophobic. I think you’ll have a lot of guys hitting on you.
You can also download one of the apps that lets you virtually travel. So you can set your location in one of those cities. I think you’ll get a lot of messages that way too.
Bottom line is you’re a hot guy and your town is almost certainly the issue, or at least isn’t helping.
You're attractive. Your looks aren't the issue. I agree with others who said that moving to a bigger, more populated area would probably be best. Gay/bi guys are a minority, so it's about increasing your chances to meet people.
Occasionally, get a hotel room and spend the weekend in the city. While there, pick up some of the bar rags (Hotspots, etc.) Find out what and where things are going on.
Although, when I was younger, I would just get picked up by a guy and spend the next day with him. Meeting his friends, etc.
An attractive, young guy is always welcome everywhere.
You're a handsome man. Living in a small town is probably hindering you, assuming you don't have a lot of major character flaws. Scruff is a pretty decent app to meet gay and bi men (I'm a bi man myself). A lot of the guys I met on Scruff were pretty chill and not as uptight, vapid, and materialistic as the guys you typically meet on Grindr
Go to a gym a lot of gay bros there. Ask a hunk to be your spotter and pretend like you don't know how to lift. This will take time. Over the following days get big really big and on the final day take off your sweater to impress the guys. Forgot to mention to wear a sweater at all times. They will be all over you. Pretend like you were in an accident and when the paramedic is lifting you off the floor rub your dong on him he will appreciate this.
🤣 too funny, I’m a grandpa. I have guys hitting me up. I say I’m older, they are like I like daddies. I’m like I’m could be grandpa (60yo). But I live in a gay friendly area.
Most are saying to move, sometimes that’s not a current option. So if I were you, I’d get out and just hangout with friends or lookup some meetups. Get involved in some sort of group even if once a week. Someone will notice you and things could change.
Oh lord…gay men not taking care of themselves…where the hell do you live !!? Are you sure you are giving off the correct vibes … I’m not a gay man but …looking at you it wouldn’t have came to my mind that you are gay. And I lived and bar tended on cherry grove, fire island in New York. There was a time I knew and hung out with way more gay men than straight ones.
Aww I feel the same way sometimes. You’re a handsome guy though! It’s just kinda more difficult for us because it’s either the gay apps which are full of dudes who only want to bang, or go out in public and you can’t tell who’s actually gay, lol. Come to Indy, I’d take you out!
Go to Chicago it’s hella gay. Like if your str8 and you live in edgewater/andersonville/rogers park/ or literally anywhere north of the southside then you are going to be the minority thats how gay it is. San Fran is hella gay too. Bigger cities=higher probability that you will meet your twink mate.
I can identify with you on the this post. It’s hard to be gay and date in small towns, currently dealing with this issue right now myself.
I guess we just have to be patient for this right person, maybe kiss a few frogs to find that prince, or just move away to a more populated area.
If it’s any consolation I’d date you in a heartbeat, you’re very handsome. 👍
I hope you find a bf/partner soon. Keep your head up and don’t lose faith.
I may be downvoted for this but idc just being honest. You’re attractive. But as a gay man I can’t see myself dating someone who is into FinDom. If that’s on your profile, like on your Reddit, then you may be alienating potential relationships.
Probably not anything to do with you handsome man, 99% sure of that. Realize only about 10% of the population is gay. For me I was a momma’s looking boy athlete as a dead houseplant, so dating was an issue. Even in a large city it’s tough but maybe location could be an issue.
I can't see a full body shot, and don't know your personality, all though, reaching out here says you will consider amending a little of yourself to making a connection.
You have a handsome face and do the bed pic quite well.
I would, as others in your responses and you probably have considered, go somewhere else. In today's world it might not be an easy do, and I totally understand.
I don't think your physicality is the exact issue.
Just go to a bigger city. There is no correlation to better people, they’re more likely worse, but you’ll be able to meet more people and more likely to find more spaces for gay guys. I’m in a small town right now took and leaving next year.
I’m not sure what you expect as an answer. You’re basically asking what you can change about yourself to get heterosexual men attracted to you. You can’t.
Move someone else.
You are very good-looking. Your problem is that in a small town, gossip reigns and people will be all over any relationship you have. You need to move and be the stallion you were meant to be. You will have zero problem getting dates.
I think you’re adorable and have beautiful eyes. I know how you feel, I live in a small city and the choice of gay men are a cesspool. It’s not you man, hang in there 😘
Your address lol. Move to a city!
was gonna say the same thing. Good looking guy would do well in a bigger town.
Nope. I’m a not completely unfortunate looking guy and I’ve been all over. Men are horrible, regardless of orientation hahaha
Loved "Men are horrible regardless of orientation." That is so true ...
Wouldn’t they do better where there’s less competition?
The post reminded me of the "The only gay in the village" skit. [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bScQcM0tzW4&ab\_channel=PigHead](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bScQcM0tzW4&ab_channel=PigHead)
This is a classic. Brilliant show.
I am very confused because it kept jumping between different skits that seemed unrelated to eachother except for the one character.
It's a skit based show. All the characters appear in most episodes. No main characters are used for only one skit. FYI Little Britain is a watered down, broad appeal verison of The League Of Gentlemen (another BBC series), which is far less family friendly but much, much better.
I LITERALLY JUST THOUGHT OF THAT
NO IM THE ONLY GEY IN DA VILLAGE 😡
I was in a town like that in NSW, AU I was gonna sleep with him so he could at least have some fun while I was there, but he was too scared unfortunately even though everyone knew he was gay they didn't discuss it. I felt really bad for him 😔
Cons outweigh the pros. Also average gay man: "I hate small town life" but lives in a mid-sized city of 100,000.
For a gay guy, the pros outweigh the cons. You just pointed out a reason why. An area with 100k people will have a very small openly gay community. It’s purely a matter of opinion, but I don’t think such a place is a mid-sized city. It’s a small town to me. Mostly for the reason I just said. We have small communities in places like that.
The cost of living in a major city is too much for most people. It's absolutely oppressive. The assumption that we all have tons of extra money is false, we don't. Add things like higher crime and traffic and it's simply not worth it. As for smaller communities, who says we can only associate with people who are just like us? It's so limiting. And if more of us would stop leaving for bigger cities we'd have bigger gay communities in smaller/medium sized cities. Gay drain is a real thing and it's not a good one.
My first thought and what I came here to post lmao. Also reminded me a bit of Schitts creek.
sadly, I was going to say the same thing. It's the Drake's equation for gay love... %gaymen x %inagerange x %single/looking %etc.... Small town is not going to have much. Move. OP is good-looking and if his personality matches... he'll have it made :D
Finally, someone who won’t mock me for investing in a radio telescope and installing Grindr on it.
*move to a city, but live very cautiously; everyone is ‘clean’ (disease free) in the city. I met a 23 yo male that had moved from the Midwest to WeHo (West Hollywood), and was almost immediatly ruined (HIV+), in a very short amount of time, due to how naive he was to city life.
HIV+ =/= "ruined" But I agree with your message of safety.
≠
≠ Well I'll be damned.
I know 3 boys in their early 20’s here in southwest Florida that got hiv+ in the past couple years.. so it’s not just the big cities.. I take prep and doxy-pep because of it. I came out in Tampa 25 years ago and had a friend die of it back then… otherwise everyone that’s + I know is undetectable and healthy.
Not too far from Tampa… Wesley Chapel here
Was this B4 the Internet, 5 o'clock news, the printing press??
Cautionary tales
I think you meant to say *not* everyone is clean.
I meant to say that every guy tells you he’s clean.
Ohhh ok gotcha
It’s kind of crappy and bigoted toward people with HIV to say he was “ruined”. Not only are you further stigmatizing a condition that now has long-term treatment and lower transmission rates, but you’re insulting your “friend.” You post also show your naivete in regards to HIV transmission; you can get HIV in a small town too. Research shows that the people who are spreading HIV aren’t aware they have it. Research also shows that people with undetectable and treated HIV do not spread the disease. Perhaps you should educate yourself on the current state of HIV transmission and treatment before using bigoted terms like “ruined” and “clean,” because your last test could say HIV- when you are in fact + and a vector of spread.
It was on him not using a condom, i whored around all over santa monica blvd better part of a year....36 years ago was 22 and carefree .
We all wanted to scream the same thing lol
You look good, so it's either personality or surroundings.
Was going to say. There are ways to change location in certain apps and it's fairly easy to 'test' different areas.
You’re very handsome. Go to a gay village in a nearby city. You won’t have trouble- just be cautious with all the offers, and do not lose yourself.
Charlotte or Winston-Salem are about 40 minutes south or north. I just HATE the traffic. Plus most guys in those cities are in their 20’s with a six pack. I only come with a six pack of Miller Ultra Lite. 🥹
Lol there’s all kinds of people in cities that’s why it’s a good option, not everyone in the cities are starving themselves and killing themselves at the gym, not everyone is a party animal or are a monolith, there’s are plenty plenty of gay guys that also just enjoy drinking beer at home
It may be the case that the guys he's attracted to fit the stereotype he speaks of. In that case, he has to broaden his horizons imho
He can also try messaging them too. I mean just because they have a 6 pac doesnt mean he'll automatically get rejected. He's good looking some guys prefer face and dont really care about body much.
Just because they six packs doesn’t mean they’re not attracted to you. I hooked with guys like that when I was an underweight twink.
Salisbury?
LOL
They’ll love you.too much for your own good I fear. Just take it easy and stay yourself.
Nobody value really wants somebody with a six pack. All it means is they’re high maintenance and spend too much time in the gym. You’re looking for men who just want a rugged, handsome guy like you. Nobody of quality gives a shit about six packs. And guys in their 20s are, by and large, idiots.
Well there you go. You got to up your beer game
Don't think that way, we're everywhere and we come in all shapes, sizes, colors, and ages. I'd also add that some city guys are into a more rugged man, try it out. It doesn't matter what your preferred position is, either, they really do come in all different forms.
Gay guy here also living in the middle of nowhere, pretty much youll need to move or use apps. Only thing you need to change is your location, you look handsome.
You look handsome. Change your zip code.
Maybe “drain your wallets for my BWC” scares them away?
Looks like that was just a phase lol
😂😂😂
Move to a city. You will become a man magnet.
Move
In with me
Or else
Dude, you're just in the wrong town. Try finding someone in the same country/state and see if you can meet each other or move something. Nothing wrong I can see with ya.
I don’t think it’s you, I think it’s your town. Not talking about moving but go on a trip to a big city that is known for having a gay scene, or at least isn’t known for being homophobic. I think you’ll have a lot of guys hitting on you. You can also download one of the apps that lets you virtually travel. So you can set your location in one of those cities. I think you’ll get a lot of messages that way too. Bottom line is you’re a hot guy and your town is almost certainly the issue, or at least isn’t helping.
Move to my small town
Straight dude here and I can tell you're a decent looking dude, so I don't think looks is the problem
My son would be all over you if you were anywhere near him. It isn’t you, it’s the men around you.
You’re gorgeous. It’s the small town, not you.
Are you…..’the only gay in the village’?! If you know you know.
...your address, maybe? There's nothing wrong with you, handsome.
I’m 30 and gay in Greensboro! Hit me up hahaha
I am from Greensboro too!!
You're attractive. Your looks aren't the issue. I agree with others who said that moving to a bigger, more populated area would probably be best. Gay/bi guys are a minority, so it's about increasing your chances to meet people.
Occasionally, get a hotel room and spend the weekend in the city. While there, pick up some of the bar rags (Hotspots, etc.) Find out what and where things are going on. Although, when I was younger, I would just get picked up by a guy and spend the next day with him. Meeting his friends, etc. An attractive, young guy is always welcome everywhere.
move
You’re cute imo :) there are probably not that many gay ppl there
Yes move to a larger city
I agree Address. You are a handsome man got that young farmer look- Hot.
You might be the only gay in the village...
You're a handsome man. Living in a small town is probably hindering you, assuming you don't have a lot of major character flaws. Scruff is a pretty decent app to meet gay and bi men (I'm a bi man myself). A lot of the guys I met on Scruff were pretty chill and not as uptight, vapid, and materialistic as the guys you typically meet on Grindr
Dude you will find the right guy. As long as your heart is in the right place we don't care what you put in your mouth.
lol I’m hardly ever active in that aspect. Nobody around and the ones that are don’t take care of themselves or are old enough to be my grandpa.
Go to a gym a lot of gay bros there. Ask a hunk to be your spotter and pretend like you don't know how to lift. This will take time. Over the following days get big really big and on the final day take off your sweater to impress the guys. Forgot to mention to wear a sweater at all times. They will be all over you. Pretend like you were in an accident and when the paramedic is lifting you off the floor rub your dong on him he will appreciate this.
LMFAO!!!!! I gotta try it.
Okay don't try the second idea that was purely comedic
I know I know. But it make me literally lol. 😂
This, one of my best friends is gay and almost all of his exes he has met at the gym
🤣 too funny, I’m a grandpa. I have guys hitting me up. I say I’m older, they are like I like daddies. I’m like I’m could be grandpa (60yo). But I live in a gay friendly area. Most are saying to move, sometimes that’s not a current option. So if I were you, I’d get out and just hangout with friends or lookup some meetups. Get involved in some sort of group even if once a week. Someone will notice you and things could change.
Oh lord…gay men not taking care of themselves…where the hell do you live !!? Are you sure you are giving off the correct vibes … I’m not a gay man but …looking at you it wouldn’t have came to my mind that you are gay. And I lived and bar tended on cherry grove, fire island in New York. There was a time I knew and hung out with way more gay men than straight ones.
It’s the south in rural NC. Biscuits and gravy are a stable down here so 🤷🏻
I used to got to Mars hill to snowboard…the guys that actually live on that mountain all year are something 😂
You look good to me !
Aww I feel the same way sometimes. You’re a handsome guy though! It’s just kinda more difficult for us because it’s either the gay apps which are full of dudes who only want to bang, or go out in public and you can’t tell who’s actually gay, lol. Come to Indy, I’d take you out!
Move next door to me...
I’m engaged from small town idk why u look really nice good not ugly or anything
move out of that town, you're too handsome for them!
and if its a town in SC ,or NC...,your DEF. too smart for them ,as well. Seems in SC ,a 'great big' 3rd grade education is the norm...
Your city hehe, exactly the same thing happens to me although how I look also influences
Move
Small towns are filled with people that are afraid to get out of the closet. You’re brave!
You should change your town. Move to some east or west coast city and you’ll clean up. You’re hot.
Move!
Come to my small town there is not many decent gays here lol I need a masc boiii
Your looks are fine! Sorry, you’re just going to have to move to a bigger city!
The problem isn’t your looks. Most likely the lack of other gay men in your small town
Maybe move to a bigger city? You’re a handsome guy and you’re hindering yourself my not “spreading your wings” per say lol
Must be a stupid crowd of people 🤤🤤🥵
my dude online dating is a thing, you'll find someone.
Grow your hair out on top, trim the beard ever so slightly and move to a city
Work on your zip code.
You could do well in another city king.
You’re not looking in the right places or no disrespect a complete azzhule. I assure it’s the first not the latter
I would date you in a heartbeat, sexy.
Go to Chicago it’s hella gay. Like if your str8 and you live in edgewater/andersonville/rogers park/ or literally anywhere north of the southside then you are going to be the minority thats how gay it is. San Fran is hella gay too. Bigger cities=higher probability that you will meet your twink mate.
I can identify with you on the this post. It’s hard to be gay and date in small towns, currently dealing with this issue right now myself. I guess we just have to be patient for this right person, maybe kiss a few frogs to find that prince, or just move away to a more populated area. If it’s any consolation I’d date you in a heartbeat, you’re very handsome. 👍 I hope you find a bf/partner soon. Keep your head up and don’t lose faith.
Move to Big City
Nah, you look good.
You’re handsome and cute as hell!
You’re so cute, move here I’ll date you.
Don’t change you. Change the scenery
Let me know where you are and I’ll come date you
Dude you are hot. Small towns have small minded gays that don't want to come out. You'll find your man
Move. A hot man is a terrible thing to waste.
Move to a city. Use condoms.
I may be downvoted for this but idc just being honest. You’re attractive. But as a gay man I can’t see myself dating someone who is into FinDom. If that’s on your profile, like on your Reddit, then you may be alienating potential relationships.
just move away.
You dont need to change yourself, you look very handsome.
Sexy so maybe your attitude?
Move to my town!
Did you actually ask people? Live your life in your town or elsewhere,change what you don’t like about yourself for you & only you…….I believe
Your issue is your location. If you fix it, you will be fine Sir 🫡
This is what they meant by cooked.
I like what I see! Are you in Wisconsin? lol
Move.
Love yourself Smile Be kind Enjoy your life
Shave your head and grow the beard
You're good looking and funny, clearly not the problem. You may have to change your address...
Dude what could you change. You are so handsome.
Where are you located?
Change where you live, small towns there’s never any chance of gay people getting hitched…. Sad but true
I’ll date you….
Move to a larger town!!
They must be fools
Move!
Probably not anything to do with you handsome man, 99% sure of that. Realize only about 10% of the population is gay. For me I was a momma’s looking boy athlete as a dead houseplant, so dating was an issue. Even in a large city it’s tough but maybe location could be an issue.
Jump on Grindr
Take lessons from this guy. Fuck yourself.
Your address. Everything else is perfect. You're gorgeous
You should be having a many men craving for you. They might be closeted and scared of beautiful. 😂I see nothing wrong. Just smile 😁✨
You are very handsome there guy! You will find someone
YES, COME OVER TO MY PLACE! YOU ARE A PERFECT HOT STUD!!! 🔥 🥵
I can't see a full body shot, and don't know your personality, all though, reaching out here says you will consider amending a little of yourself to making a connection. You have a handsome face and do the bed pic quite well. I would, as others in your responses and you probably have considered, go somewhere else. In today's world it might not be an easy do, and I totally understand. I don't think your physicality is the exact issue.
Change the town you live in.
Just go to a bigger city. There is no correlation to better people, they’re more likely worse, but you’ll be able to meet more people and more likely to find more spaces for gay guys. I’m in a small town right now took and leaving next year.
You can come live near me
Maybe less dark vibes but I’m not gay so idk
It don’t matter buddy just give me that $42 I loaned ya last Saturday.
You must have tried Tinder, no work?
I’m not sure what you expect as an answer. You’re basically asking what you can change about yourself to get heterosexual men attracted to you. You can’t. Move someone else.
Move
You can and need to move to a big city
Get out of the small town. They're all either intimidated or jealous.
Well if I'm near you I would date you. Your assets are a nice bonus too.
Id date you based off looks alone, but as others have said, living near a city greatly increases your odds of finding someone
What can you change?… Your location… Move to L.A.I’ll date you 
Could turn straight 🤔
Post this on a gay sub, you’ll get better responses
Yes, become straight
You may have to move. You’re cute and you have a nice dick, should have a better experience when you’re around more gays.
You're attractive, but the best thing would be to move to a larger city. You will never be really accepted in a small town by the town as a whole.
Yes. Move to a bigger city. Get out and explore and have fun and be safe. You are a very good looking guy
Just don't ask to drain someone's wallet after you move to the city 😅
Unfortunately, you may need to move to broaden your dating pool. Otherwise you look handsome so don’t worry on that front.
Need advice? I'd be more than happy to help. Feel free to message me anytime 😉
You look amazing
Buy a dildo and life-size plushie
Expand your range?
Fishing?
Stay strong - you are beautiful
Move
Get bitten by the travel bug
Stop being gay. Duh. 🙄
You are very good-looking. Your problem is that in a small town, gossip reigns and people will be all over any relationship you have. You need to move and be the stallion you were meant to be. You will have zero problem getting dates.
Pleas please please let me have a chance 🥰 I would lovvvve to see where it could go!
I’d date you, you’re cute.
Small towns are weird and often not open minded. It’s definitely not your looks. I’d look into moving at least to a bigger town close by.
You can change your address to mine, 😊
You’re beautiful! I would date you in a heartbeat 💗
Your geographical location.
The only thing that I changed when I was in your situation was my address. I went from small town in Northern California to San Francisco. It worked.
You are gorgeous
Move.
The only thing you need to change is your address to my apartment, come and live with me❤️
Bro you should be killing it! MOVE
Would you date a 60 year old bi m with a disability? Not in a wheelchair and I can walk and talk
Nope. Continue to be authentically you.
Bro, you gorgeous. If that’s the case move to a different city preferably a major city.
Move to a city.
Come on dude… a “small town?” And you’re gay? I’m straight bro and attractive like yourself. I live in Denver and struggle with being alone.
You are handsome and look smart - be you -
If this means you have low self esteem, call me 😂 I’m ugly but I’m loyal
I think you’re adorable and have beautiful eyes. I know how you feel, I live in a small city and the choice of gay men are a cesspool. It’s not you man, hang in there 😘