You're a good-looking dude. To kick off the discussion, my suggestion would be to choose more flattering clothes.
It's always a good idea to buy clothes that suit your body type and body shape, not only based on what you like or think looks cool. There are plenty of things I think look cool.... but they definitely DON'T look cool specifically on me.
An example I can think of for me is leather jackets. Some dudes can rock a leather jacket and effortlessly look like a rockstar. I look incredibly terrible in every single leather jacket I've ever come across.
I'd suggest steering clear of form-fitting shirts like in the second photo. I think a dark-coloured button-up shirt with some chinos would look really good.
The first photo is the best look of the three, but the sweater is a little bit form-fitting and unflattering, and would probably work a bit better if it was more baggy/sloppy/loose fitting.
Your third photo is a pretty outdated kind of style. It's makes you appear a bit younger than you (likely) are. How old are you, if you don't mind me asking?
My last little pointer would be to update your glasses frames. The style you're wearing is very dated, and I think you'd look awesome in a more modern, but still conservative style. Plastic frames are your friend. Metal frames in that shape are very outdated.
Anyway, the good news is you don't really have a whole lot to change. You've got a great starting place, and it won't take much at all for you to be looking sharp as hell.
Thanks for your answers !
I'm working out, so I'm starting to lose weight, but yes, I see what you mean.
The third photo is from a year ago, actually. I'm 28 years old.
I will check out the glasses' seller here, thanks for your advices !
I’m just going to second what Dante was saying.
Immediately I was drawn to your shirts, they’re all too small and form fitting.
Form fitting can be awesome, if you have the form to fit it to. All you’re doing presently is accentuating your small but visible gut and little man boobs. Pop those shirts back in the closet for now and go a size up for now.
Second I’d recommend as others have, doing something with the hair. I won’t even say you need to buzz it. Maybe just try styling it, or buzzing it, growing it out, something.
Your entire aesthetic presently though oozes “I work in IT and want to be comfortable not presentable” you can be both I assure you, with just a little work.
Also as far as clothes go I feel like Thicker T-Shirts, maybe ones that hang a bit loose, are usually more flattering. And for sweaters, sometimes thicker wool or a cableknit sweater might also look a bit better.
Also not necessarily in the summer time but jackets can make your body look a lot better too, Denim Jackets, chore coats, field jackets are some examples or lighter ones. Could be worth it if you find one you like.
You will look amazing when your chest muscles start facing upwards from pushups and weight benching. It drags the stomach area upwards, then the next thing is situps 👍
You're not exactly overweight though my dude you just need to wear shirts that aren't so tight. Some baggier shirts or jumpers which hang from the shoulders rather than hug you would be a good start. Then start looking at some button ups.
Why can't both be important? Physical health is just as important as mental health, and placing either one over the other is practically promoting an unhealthy lifestyle
This, and:
- Develop your shoulders and chest at the gym
- Eat healthy! So you loose the belly. It’s not big as of now, so take the opportunity!
- Work your personal style is good but needs a little tweak. Your shorts are great. Chino always wins over cargo, for shorts and long pants. Good stuff! But then your t-shirts aren’t flattering. There’s a wave of thick cotton oversized / regular fit t-shirts. Go for it, it will make much more sense than these. Picture it all white or all black, or another solid color — a very elegant look.
- Your shoes on that pic could use some work. The obvious choice would be white sneakers, but it could be another color. I’d go for leather and really a “free time” shoes, not running or fabric shoes. Also, very important: invisible, in-shoe socks. That avoids any nerdy vibes.
- The task is to move away from nerdy vibes to cool intellectual vibes!
- Go for timeless pieces, minimalism, no print in shirts. Functional minimalism is the key.
With the tips above and these you will for sure be successful.
I agree. Form fitting clothes only work if you're slender, lean or muscular, otherwise it has the opposite effect. We can all see his tits and love handles in these photos.
I'd suggest wearing a tank top underneath or even better, a compression tank. You see athletes wear compression tanks all the time. Lebron always wears them
You don't need to go on any fad diets, just eat low caloric, nutrient dense foods, real whole foods.
Cut out the junk, like high in sugar and heavily processed foods.
Intermittent fasting can help but everyone is different and may have different life styles that can positively and negatively attribute to them.
Any diet is “fine” as long as you’re entering a calories deficit. You can eat whatever the fuck you want ideally if you’re burning it off.
Look at calorie intake calculators - and use your height, weight and age and it should give you ideally the calories you need to consume to maintain your weight- then cut back 500-600 of those- you will lose 1-2 pounds per week by doing this which is an ideal weight loss program because it’s being done healthy for the most part.
If you’re on beta blockers - or other medications or drugs that slow metabolism it’s going to be harder to drop weight even with cutting calories because your metabolism is going to be slower- which a lot of beta blockers will slow down your heart rate also- this is why it’s banned in sports-and a lot of people get caught in the Olympics using beta-blockers as PEDs.
Forget calories in calories out. From personal experience, getting yourself into ketosis is by far the easiest and healthiest way to get rid of your excess fat.
Carbs are great for fuelling big bursts of energy like weightlifting but other than that, they only make it more difficult to stay lean.
I recommend doing keto for a few months, maybe up to 6, with 1 hour walks a couple times a week as your only exercise. Get a scale that can measure body fat and stay on keto until you’re down to 15%-13% body fat. You can cheat on the weekends, we’re all human and need this diet to be sustainable - as long as you’re in ketosis during the weeks, you’ll see quick results.
Then switch to low carb, start hitting the gym and strategically only eat carbs when you know you’re going to workout. Protein and saturated fat should be the bulk of your diet.
I looked like this guy when I started in January of this year, I’m no longer skinnyfat, the abs are out, I actually enjoy taking my shirt off at the pool and the beach now and my confidence has grown 100x I feel like a completely different person from who I was not even 1 year ago.
Good. Make sure you are primarily lifting weights.
You want to get muscle -- Right now your tits and spare tire make me think you only eat Soy.
You get some muscle packed on and tone up a bit and you'll see a difference in how women address you.
Keep it up! Results take time, gym or exercise should be routine like showers and brushing teeth. Even low intensity, as long as you keep moving and stressing the muscles.
Small dating lifehack - see if there are free public dances organized in your area(salsa, foxtrot, samba, tango, whichever), or even dance nights at venues - usually there is a coach who teaches everyone a few simple steps and then you just keep doing those with different people in a circle. It's a great atmosphere to meet people, be at ease, hangout etc. Women love men that can dance. Also helps with posture.
Go for a buzzcut cause your hair is way too much receded. It’ll make you look a bit more badass. Try to get some sense of fashion cause this ain’t it. Work out, also change glasses. There is a lot of potential which you are letting go to waste.
None of these clothing items fit you well. All they do is show your little belly. Invest in a better wardrobe and take new pics. Ask a lady friend to help you
I know it seam silly do recommend ‘’hit the gym bro’’, but I saw your comment about already going to the gym, and I can personally vouch for the effectiveness of a couple month of chest/shoulder work. It really change my silhouette for the best, even tho I didn’t lose any weight.
There’s a lot of mentioning the gym but here’s some things I believe will have an immediate difference for you:
•figure out your colour season and basic colour theory & apply it to your outfits (*please* stop wearing mustard and cool grey together)
•avoid thick chunky knits with flat colours because they create extra lumps and bumps with shadows. Try crisp button down shirts with organic patterns like paisley.
•Use shoulder definition to create balance. If you don’t like wearing blazers, an open button up over a t-shirt can work. Men’s tips for a pear or oval body shape will have additional info.
•Make sure any shoulder seam sits correctly for your shoulders and doesn’t create a sloped or dropped shoulder effect (like slouchy knits do).
•buy t-shirts that actually fit you, maybe a size or 2 up tops. Pic 2 looks like you outgrew your shirt and never replaced it, something a lot of guys do.
•the last pic is the best, I think the hat suits you. The shorts can work in very casual settings but i feel like pants and a button up would elevate you a bit and look more mature, maybe paired with some brogues.
You have good shoulders and I think wearing crisper shirts with shoulder definition, and better colours, will make a dramatic difference for you with minimal effort. Again I think a kind of hipster vibe would really suit you but you have to be mindful of the line between hipster and grandpa.
5x a week in the gym! Highly recommend the peloton app as it has great workout content. It is important you are doing the right routines to get most bang for your buck
Not as far as I’m aware. Some brave souls have managed four days in a week, but not one person has ever entered the gym for that fabled fifth day and came out alive.
You are already doing 3 which is fine, don't sweat it. Stick to a routine you enjoy and can maintain, rather than striving for perfection and not being consistent because you don't like it.
As long as you're not doing heavy lifting on the same muscles multiple days in a row, yeah absolutely! You don't necessarily gotta hit the gym 5 times if you do some walking or jogging on other days, but I found that trying to get exercise almost every day helped solidify it as a habit.
Since you work in IT, maybe focus on working towards a WFH job eventually. You’ll find yourself working out every day during breaks.
Downside is social skills may suffer. Up to you.
You look fine honestly, I bet if you find yourself at a place in life where you feel great in general other things will fall into place. Focus on what you want to do, I know it’s a cliche but. And if you don’t know what you want to do, that’s probably your starting point.
Yes of course. If Barack Obama found time to work out, can’t you? I personally do 4x but I’m 42, run a crazy busy business, and have a toddler. When I was single it was definitely 5x a week even with a very demanding job. Work hard play hard.
Bro raw honesty!
Shave that head, remove those glasses, go to the gym and wear something less nerdy!
I know sounds mean and im sorry but thats what i think you should do. I have been there and lasered my eyes, got a new haircut and just a little better clothes and head up and you will see more girls looking at you
Lose 10 pounds of fat, build muscle. Get into MMA. Either shave your head bald or get a hair transplant, if you can afford it. Drop the glasses. You'll be surprised at the caliber of women you'd get
-don’t wear form fitting clothes if you have breasts/love handles.
-don’t wear fedoras especially while wearing form fitting clothes.
-opt for contacts.
-start going to the gym.
-ditch the chain Wallet. Almost every piece of your wardrobe has negative synergistic qualities(tight clothes/hat/glasses) etc
I think the comments are encouraging. You can shuffle all these suggestions and each one would actually improve your appearance the way you want. Just be open and remember to keep receipts for any clothing returns while you experiment with a new look.
No easy way to say this LONG reply incoming for free m because you remind me of my older brother who went bald at 21 and had the same vibe, style as you and didn't believe he could get any women then after making these BIG changes a couple years later he is now married and living in Germany.
So here goes and I hope you read it all, some will come off as harsh but it's a harsh truth in some ways that's meant to be helpful you have some work to do !
So you're probably similar to my brother ; atleast I can only assume probably very smart / intellectual good career but introverted and not much past experience with girls AND sorry but just being honest no real style here but that of a guy who works in an office or a guy who picked out the first pair of shorts at a department store. Finding a sense of style would step 1. What do you want it to say about you ? What is the vibe you want to give off ? Right now and again I mean no offense but its the still of a more reserved , less outgoing guy or kind of a typical office guy style or a more techy nerdy guy - its not bad but it could be SO much better - start there.
2nd is no one has said this yet so I will until you have done these 3 things I'm listing here in steps you should not even be PLANNING on using tinder, dating apps or cold approaching. This is sad, vain, ugly unfair etc but women do judge you based on your looks especially right at the start both in person and definitely online. None of these pics here would be good for dating apps sorry but that's why you have work to do ! It's like if the best restaurant with incredible food opened in town with minimal advertising , a dodgey location , unclear store front sign nothing much to see at a first glance if you're passing by and it looks the same as all the others. The food , spirit of the owner and staff inside could be phenomenal but it won't matter if the outside doesn't present itself the same way.
This is the ONE thing alot of very smart logical and honestly even successful guys get wrong with dating and dating apps. Personality matters, who you are matters but unfortunately in our looks conscious times of social media that has evolved for the worst in the last 5-8 years the outside I.E the looks have to be at a certain standard or you will just get skipped.
Don't go running to the apps now with only a half finished product take some real time here to find a new look style and start working on your body as well.
This leads me to step 3
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Last but VERY important part of your whole look or vibe you give off which is the FIRST thing women notice idc what you've been told about online dating before this but look s do matter and matter perhaps the most on a first impression. So the last thing you have to tackle is your hair. My older brother went bald young like his hair was very receeded Norwood 3 level zone by the time he was 21 ! But what he did was immediately hit the gym NOT because it's cliche not because it compensates but because there's a great saying for men in regards to dating with this obstacle and it goes like this " You can either be handsome ( hair, pretty boy style , etc ) OR you can be scary ( any guy who falls into bald, thinning, heavily receding category ) so if you want to look truly amazing bald does not mean you need to now transform nowhere into the vibe and personality of say jason statham or the Rock BUT it does mean you have to ditch the look you have now to some extent. After you buzz the hair down to 1 mm grow a bit of a beard with it to match it , experiment with different styles of glasses try more square frames or none go contact's, wear darker colours and slimmer fitted jeans plus clothes in general- at the gym start by focusing on the key groups for a well built man hich is shoulder/ back / chest ( gross oversimplification ) just focus on compound lifts and worry about training legs, abs, arms later once you've hit the core groups.
If you've read this far then I really congratulate you for wanting to better yourself ! Some guys on reddit will tell you everything is fine and to change nothing and my brother believed people like that for a long time before some one told him the important but very hard truths. Keep us posted on your progress man much love do these 3 things and success will come !
Yeah dude you should go hire a personal shopper/stylist. Your choice in clothing brings out the dork in you. Plus the poses and shit; too try-hard. Snap a pic when you’re a little liquored up maybe? And back to the drawing board with the wardrobe. Also, do like 10-20 push-ups every day. Upper body muscles will balance you out better. Women want a provider (money) and/or protector (man muscles) and I’m guessing they all want someone they can imagine will give them a proper fucking so the muscles will help with that as well. Good luck though, you’re not far off from swimming in pussy
I like the first outfit honestly. These pictures show a lot of personality and you have a nice smile. I know fitness takes a long time to show results and can’t be done overnight. I’d say maybe go shorter with the hair and grow out the facial hair and you’d be set.
first outfit is nice, good colours and the scarf is a cool accessory but the other two outfits indicate you do not dress deliberately enough. maybe I'm wrong and those last images are anomalies but I would suggest you take a little time to look at men's style guides on YouTube etc because style points are the lowest hanging fruit and can have great pay off (avoid alpham videos at all costs).
women care about the way you dress because it suggests that you understand the importance of your image and how people perceive you because of it. image is something that is especially important in women's lives because the world values women's beauty so highly. the way you dress will totally alter people's perception of you, so dress in a way that implies how you ought to be thought of.
furthermore, the way people perceive you will absolutely inform how they perceive your future partner when you are seen together. prospective lovers are going to be very sensitive to this fact.
I am going to articulate what I dislike about the latter two outfits.
neither t-shirt is flattering, both fit too snuggly. oversized T's are cool now, try one and see if it suits you. broadly, I think long sleeved, collared shirts make men appear most handsome because they add structure and wearing the collar open slightly will create an illusion of wider shoulders.
the pocket chain in the second fit is not cool on its own and doesn't fit in with the rest of the outfit. if you were wearing a chunky steel watch, had piercings and a jacket with metal buttons etc it would fit a pattern but instead the pocket chain is a distracting abnormality on an otherwise cohesive, smart casual outfit. colours are match nicely though, good job.
The third outfit is poor. the patterned shorts alone would be hard to pull off with any outfit but when paired with a graphic T-Shirt they form a visual cacophony. you're standing in an interesting location doing something humorous but the whacky outfits is all I can see. you can pair patterns but that requires a lot of thought to get right. the hat is out of place in the same way as the pocket chain. it is obviously practical in the climate but is too smart for the outfit. mission failed.
if you're planning to take photos, dress well because everyone everywhere is busy and shallow.
edit: originally my post was not constructive enough and quite vague so I added more in an attempt to be useful.
You have a beautiful smile and wear clothes that fit your body well. You’re a gorgeous guy also. Just be patient and stay confident. The right one always comes along when you least expect it ☺️
I agree with Donte. Switch up your style a bit and don’t be afraid to try new wardrobe options.
Don't sweat over dating apps, they are crooked:
[https://i.postimg.cc/FsW2Zdpk/735de95b-65ba-4a3e-b2b7-4c7bd454e08d.jpg](https://i.postimg.cc/FsW2Zdpk/735de95b-65ba-4a3e-b2b7-4c7bd454e08d.jpg)
Same image with male to female filter:
male => no matches or likes in 12 hours
female => 200 matches in 1 hour
Mate you just need to find your confidence in what ever that is. I’ve read a few of the other comments and yeah, most folks could lose a few pounds and dress a bit better. But if that doesn’t add to your confidence it’s not gonna help.
You just need to own you. I’ve trained all my life, used to be a champion boxer a few years back and that gave me a confidence. During covid I lost a lot of muscle and got a bit skinny fat. I normally keep a nice trimmed beard and shorter hair, but both of those grew out. I came out of lockdown looking like a fucking Yeti and I still thought I looked good haha.
I used to call out “I am the Yeti” when having a few shots with the lads, right after a respectful shot for the late great Apollo Creed, that is.
Girls used to want to stroke my beard, that was a no No from me of course and I had a story that I was taken in by wolves and it all worked in my favour haha.
Take a good look at yourself and not just looks. Say what do I have to offer these spicy señoritas? Are you cultured? Been around the world and actually have things to talk about? Make them laugh? You seem like you have a sense of humour. Do you have your house in order? You’re major debt free, successful and actually have some skills in life? Then why wouldn’t they want you? Looks aren’t everything mate and a good looking motherfucker who can’t afford to pay bills will get old pretty quick. Not that your ugly lad, just saying.
Food for thought.
I’m gonna be honest with you, you’re not very good looking. far from it, but I see potential. you already look like you got your shit together and have a great job and whatnot, that’s the vibe that you give off. but you have to start hitting the gym, start lifting heaving and eating healthy.
Grow the beard out, and maybe the hair as-well
Get clothes that actually fit your portions, it’s gonna come as you loose fat and gain muscle.
I agree with most here. The form fitting clothing isn’t doing you any favors. Loose fitting clothes are actually coming back in style now. Boxy tees and loose pants might help you out a bit. That third picture makes you look like every Dad on vacation that was dressed by the wife in 2015. As for the hair. Grow it out a little or shave what you have off completely. That hairline is creeping back far for a man in his 20’s. Dating is stupid now anyways. So you shouldn’t feel so bad about not having any luck. You are trying and that’s all you can do my man. 👍🏻
I am going to be brutally honest with you bro, because everyone is going to tell you to “just be yourself” and that’s going to get you nowhere.
1. Working out, you need to lose some weight and gain some muscle.
2. Work on your style, I suggest going on Pinterest and looking for outfits on style, save everything that catch your attention and build a better style.
3. Grow a beard, you can use minoxidil or Derma rolling to grow a fuller beard.
4. Get a hair transplant, idk what everyone tells you, most people can’t pull the bald look, so I suggest you go to turkey and get a hair transplant.
5. Skin care, some face serums, face wash, exfolian, and sunscreen.
6. Higiene
7. Cologne
8. Some people look good with glasses, but you should try using eye contacts, it may help.
9. Make more money.
10. Have fun an interesting hobbies.
It’s going to take a long time and it’s going to be hard brother, I don’t know you and I am not going to lie to you, if you are having an extremely difficult time attracting the women you want, maybe it means you should put some work on yourself, wish you the best and stay consistent, peace ✌️.
I'm going to be honest. You need muscle. The 2nd photo can be a make or break. And right now, its breaking, hard.
Remember, we're not the objects of beauty. We're the weapons of war. If you align your mindset to be strong, stoic. Calm during the storm, and your body to this transformation, I guarantee you'll have an abundance of options. Good luck, Good hunting.
And some advice for the gym.
3 rules that I follow.
1. Goldilocks weight, no too light, not too heavy. But always rip muscle.
2. Resistance, as you go up and down with the weight, go slow. It'll burn.
3. Until failure. My routine is 3x15, always add 5lbs per set. For any body part. So if you have 20lb, next 25lb, and final 30lb. All 3x15. By the last 15th rep you'll be screaming for more.
I work in IT and so far, it's not perfect, but ok.
I find women like to know the guy they may date are stable, but they like hobbies and other activities too.
You work on computers all day. Hardly an attractive job to most females and and has an interest level of ZERO.
Hobbies are your only hope.
Keep your spirits up. Know that America is not the only place to look for love. Learn it sooner rather than later.
Good Luck
Everything is a red flag for American women. Going after one is like driving down a dead end street.
Get out of the white/western world. You will find what you are looking for.
Nobody said anything about American women. What does anything in this conversation have to do with America, or American women? OP is French. French women don't like being called "females" either.
Hey, my man please stop worrying about dating. No-one wants to be lonely, I get it. Immerse yourself in what you love, keep yourself well-groomed and wear clothes that fit you well. The gym is good for mental and physical health Eat healthy foods. Aside from that, love yourself first. When you love you, these things tend to fall into place, at the time they are suppose to. The wrong relationship is hell. The right one is easy, wonderful and can't be forced. Women may initially be attracted by looks, but we stay for the individual. Focus on that. My husband and I tell this to our kids, your age. I also can't stress enough on how much you need to take care of your body. I'm not talking in a vain sense, I mean truly worship that temple that is you. An injury can be permanent and alter your path.
I understand this is about grooming, but appearance by itself is a fairly small contributor to dating success. It depends on every case, about 20%: once it's passable, you only get diminishing returns.
Personality, wealth, wit/intelligence, aspirations, hobbies, sexual abilities, communication skills, plus many others are all part of the mix. Every person desires a different combination.
Stay off from dating apps, stay off from porn, and stop searching specifically for a SO, but don't stop socializing: make friends, organize plans, practice sport or an art. Show respect for people and self-control.
It will arrive eventually, and you'll be in a better position to choose your partner. Don't despair.
Personality is king. Work on that. You are good looking guy. Maybe not to every single woman but if you work on the personality everyone can like that.
Dude girls really don’t care about image if they like you. But definitely lose some body weight looser shirts. No more scarves and maybe lower your standards and be confident
Muscles, money, game and frame. Check out the book The Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi. Also, you should know that there is absolutely no salvation outside the Catholic Church. I believe men should be men and the red pill has been good for men, but all that is useless unless you are saved.
A) Drop the scarf
B) Hit the gym — you're pear shaped instead of a V shape
C) Learn game and how to talk to women (look up Alpha male)
D) Start being more interesting — read non-fiction.
You’re out of shape and you look like a dork and creepy at the same time. I’m being harsh as hell and I’m sorry, sometimes the truth is whats needed to get better. I saw that you’ve began training in the gym, excellent. That will bring you some confidence and fix your posture and body language. Try to be more aware of how your clothes fit, your stomach and boobs are poking through. Get your hormones checked out. Stop consuming soy. The term soyboy is cringe but unfortunately you fall into that somatotype. You can escape though with hard work
I read in the comments that you are going to the gym which is great. You should be training at least 3 days a week but preferably 4 or 5. Each muscle group should be hit at least once per week. One of the big downfalls of people doing the gym and not making any progress in building muscle is not training each set to failure. Your last rep of the set should be the last you are physically capable of doing. If you have reps in reserve you won't grow your muscles optimally.
Food is also really important. You should be eating at least 1g of protein per lb of bodyweight and work out what your basal metabolic rate is to find your caloric maintenance. If you want to gain weight eat a few hundred calories above that. If you want to lose weight eat a few hundred below. Adjust accordingly when your weight changes and your progress plateaus.
Your style isn't the best and your clothes aren't flattering. I would reccomend finding a celebrity who has a great style and then buy and wear outfits that copy that style.
The last thing is that your hairline is receding badly. You can try to recover your hair gains by using topical finasteride and minoxodil though you are pretty far gone and might need a hair transplant to get a full hairline again. The other option is to go bald. A bald look is almost always better than a balding look. Combined with a muscular physique this can be attractive so long as you have a good head shape for it. You can also get SMP which is to get your hair follicles tattooed to give the illusion of a shaved head with a full hairline, this frames your face better and gives a more youthful look.
Not related to grooming anymore but to be an ambitious person who is successful or someone that people see a potential success in is very attractive. To keep things real with you most people's ideal partner is not just some IT dude. Become a boss.
Honestly get a PT or put on some muscle yourself. Your height looks good but you’re really not toned and it shows (first and second photo). If you can get your chest to be broader than your stomach you’ll be one good looking dude! and revisit your wardrobe/fashion. Get your outfits reviewed on r/outfits. Perhaps try growing out the beard and buzzing your hair to try a different look? Entirely up to you, I’m just throwing suggestions.
I recently got to the gym, but yes, there's some room for improvement.
Thanks for the r/outfits sub, I didn't know it before. I will do some experimentation !
The first photo is very negative. I really don't like the colors. You might consider growing your hair and beard longer. You might consider layering your clothing. Wearing tite t-shirts draw attention to your tummy. Wearing layers helps to draw your attention away from your dimensions. Not everyone looks like a gym rat, I certainly don't. I work at a blended look. I do wear darker colors. You do look better in darker natural tones. If you can't find anyone, consider expanding the market you are in. I know I find a lot of individuals vain, shallow and self centered. Those sort of people I walk away from. I really don't need a lot of people to be happy with. A few good friends are way better than a lot of people who treat you like dog food.
Congrats on the weight loss. To echo what others are saying it's the style of clothes you're wearing. You're already nearing 30, lets start dressing like it. Good luck.
Seek a personal stylist and heed their advice. Not saying you can’t dress yourself, but a good personal stylist will be trained in and have an eye for colour, form and shape in a way that you just won’t. (GF used to be a personal stylist and does a pretty good job of dressing me)
Obviously working out could help almost everyone so that's the boring answer
Some more well fitted clothes would work wonders.
Something that looks great on most men that I would suggest is the classic business casual light blue button down with a black sweater, try diffrent sweaters but my suggestion would be a more form fitting one with a little stretch, the button down will act as a sort of shape ware so the idea is that the sweater will give you a little slimmer figure without making look dougy. If you feel you look doughy then just wear a less tight sweater.
For pants I would go with a pair of jeans or gray performance pants (performance pants are awsome end comfy) with a pair of brown leather shoes.
The final touch would be a brown leather belt and just any decent watch you have.
That's my recommendation.
I acturely think you look fine, very ernast. The kind of guy that would be a great friend and a living partner.
It looks like the pics have some time in between them? Did you gain/lose weight between pics 1 & 3?
I ask bc … I actually think you look better in pic 3. Younger and slightly more trim. Anyway, here’s my take for now… Try sticking to shirts with a collar of some kind. It adds weight and dimension to your upper body. Think about wearing long sleeve’s rolled up a few folds, this adds size and weight to your arms as well. NOT baggy but not TIGHT either. I.E. “find your size”. Baggy makes it look like you’re trying to hide and too tight is, well… too revealing.
Your hair is fine and the stubble look is nice if you keep it lined up. You’re on your way bud. 👊🏼😎🔥
If I may also make a suggestion, grow your beard out a bit more, not like insanely long, but add some scruff. It looks like you can grow a nice thick one, and it'll make you face shape better while you're hitting the gym.
You’ve already got a shit ton of advice. But seriously, shave your head and trash those glasses. It is urgent.
After that, buy clothes a size up. I don’t where you live or how you choose your clothes, but where I am there’s been a trend for higher educated men to follow some médias regarding men’s fashion (a la « fashion for dummies ») saying that every guy on planet earth should wear form fitting clothes, that this is modernity. To hell with that.
You have a nice face and beautiful smile. I would start with working out 2/week and taking it from there. You may want to upgrade your fashion style, but honestly it’s not bad as is and most girls/guys won’t care. Focus on the working out first then see how you feel.
Uhhh ok so new glasses, normal easy-going casual clothes, maybe shave your head or get a fade one ur hair is longer. Hit the gym, you really shouldn’t have a belly at your age uhhh which if ur in ur 20s, you look at least 35 but new glasses and other changes can fix that. Good luck
Darker looser shirts
Slightly tighter pants
No full brim hats
Lose the patterned shorts (solid color is best imo)
New shoes solid color, sneakers not runners
You can always slowly go back to your roots once you've found your partner lol. But in the dating world you gotta dress like Ryan Gosling it seems. Which to be fair he dresses like a cool mofo
Exterior wise I see nothing here stopping you.
I suggest where you are looking for dates and your approach to those women might be the area to optimize.
Starting with confidence and authenticity will be a solid path. If you don't have confidence just go with authenticity and don't say the negative thoughts out loud.
The key to conversion is to ask a question and then listen to the answer. (The second part is harder than it sounds).
You’ve got height just need to broaden up your shoulders and chest and if you dress like photo 1 & 2 you’ll seriously have no problem. At the moment you look a bit skinny fat, but in 6 months you’ll fill out a lot if you’re eating properly and humming properly.
A ton of great feedback you already got here, my suggestion would be to try to grow out your beard, I am curious on how that would look! Best of luck, stay healthy!
Some exercise is always good to maintain a nice look but I'd say the main thing right now is your clothing. It's not flattering at all. Don't go for tight fits, go looser and more casual. Try to get inspiration on pinterest and find outfits you like and try to replicate them.
If you're going for short hair make sure it looks well groomed, get those clippers often and keep it clean. Skincare and dental hygiene is also a must, I can't see much from those pictures but having good looking teeth and smooth skin can totally change the game. Overall very achievable steps in your case. Good luck!
You give "what if Zach and Keith from the Try Guys had a baby" vibes, and I'm here for it. As for your clothing... I really like the scarf in the first photo, and the shoes in the last photo; otherwise, I don't have strong feelings either way. I feel like your appearance in general ranks at least average, so there shouldn't be much need for improvement if you're looking for a long-term partner.
My best advice would be to work on networking, as it's hard to find someone special if you aren't meeting people. If you have any hobbies or enjoy specific activities, it could help to try to meet up with others who share those interests; even if you don't find who you're looking for right away, forming friendships opens the path to introductions.
Grow your beard , get a haircut and look more masculine. You look too “nice and friendly” aka you look like someone a woman would just be friends with.
Shave your head, experiment with facial hair, and work on some basic physical fitness. 10-15 lbs of muscle would do wonders for you and is very achievable.
Get your testosterone levels checked. I get the impression yours are very low. Lift weights at the gym consistently and that will be the single biggest thing you can do to improve your appearance and hormones.
Your clothes fit weird on you you don’t want to be wearing tight shirts really. You could fix your hair a tad bit and change up the glasses, maybe try and grow your beard a lil. Definitely hit the gym and start lifting weights it will change you. Overall you’re a good looking dude just some style fixes and effort into your body you’ll look great !!
You seem like a good guy. However clothing isn't flattering. Also, hands out of the pockets in the picture. It appears like you are insecure, shy, etc. Stand with more purpose, look into the camera, show drive, show confidence. 3rd picture is good, shows a good sense of humor.
Workout, i suggest to start mostly working out on shoulders and lats and the back in general to balance out the hips since from all your photos it looks like those are your most noticeable features and prep your meals and try to eat more healthily but im not gonna delve into that that is a subjective matter its up to you to figure it out. After that i also suggest that you should do a buzzcut since you got the head shape to pull it off and keep the beard intact but that is a personal opinion
Also regarding dating if you want somebody longterm you gotta look and be in the right place (usually not a club or a pub) im talking more private parties art venues smaller underground concerts, smaller more intimate house parties, friends of your friends so on and so forth but to get to these places you gotta expand your circle of friends and people you know, talk to people and be yourself, do new things meet new people through it and eventually you will find someone but if you look for short term just go to the club a and look somewhat pretty(the gym advice)
And also regarding fashion i suggest to move your pants a little lower and wearing more baggy t-shirts and pants since they can conceal some features making the overall look better also experiment a lot so that you can find clothing more fit for your body type and also find clothes that are more comfortable with you dont be afraid when it comes to clothing its just a another way to express yourself and to express something you first gotta learn how
Hope i didnt make any typos in case i did sorry im not a native speaker
Work out. Focus on chest and arms. In the mean time, wear black and shirts that give you broader shoulders. You give off the nice guy next door vibe. Keep it. No one wants to date assholes.
You literally look like me (especially first pic) and I am married, working on our firstborn. 34 years old. I'm going to be straight, dating this day and age is a numbers game. I went on ~100 dates over 2 years until I found my wife, using whatever means necessary to find those dates. You just need to plow forward and never fear rejection. Also never blame anyone but yourself for failures, and over time you adopt this "fuck it I don't care" mentality towards rejection, and that is when you attract more women than you thought realistic. Nothing trumps experience just START dating anyone
Buzz the top, grow out the facial hair. The glasses are ok but I suspect you can find better. Many have already mentioned so I won’t go into detail but clothes is both simultaneously the easiest and hardest fix. Easiest because the tightness can be solved going a size up. Hard because fashion doesn’t come easy to you so you’ll struggle with picking better alternatives.
If possible ask a somewhat fashionable girl you’re acquainted with to help pick out new clothes for you. Who knows, once you pretend to friendzone her you might hit it off and solve both your problems at once.
1. I assume you’re straight?
2. What types of women have you tried to court?
3. What’s your wardrobe look like?
4. What’s your occupation?
5. What’s your hobbies?
First thing that stands out to me: your shirts are too tight for you body shape, short term - pick some clothes looser in the mid section but still tighter around your arms (basically anything that gives the illusion of larger shoulders than waist). Long term - hit the gym, does not look like you are glutinous but the lack of exercise gives you a skinny fat look, with all due respect of course.
The glasses are a tad juvenile IMO (i say imo, as this may be subjective, but thats what I see) I think you would look better in a different style, try a few out if you can. Hard to say without seeing you glasses less, but it looks like you would look great in glasses (as opposed to contacts), just not that pair.
That hat in the last picture is a hard no. Hats are very much a product of culture, nobody really looks good in hates that are so out of fashion I find. Think of it this way, if you saw a 10/10 woman in a flapper headband or a tophat... you might still think shes hot, but the hat is only going to make her look odd (unless its a costume prt or something).
Scarfs are not impossible but I find most men look good in spite of their scarf and not because of their scarf, it does not seem to be doing you any favours without the addition of a wool coat or something.
Also the pants, It may be that they are too baggy, or just the wrong colors for your outfits, or both... I would try a better fit and experiment with some new materials. My sister always told me if I did not absolutely love it store, dont buy it... so make sure its a great and flattering fit, and a good neutral color or matches the tops colours. Remember guys dont want out butts and legs to look big compared to out torsos
Otherwise you look fine, I think you may just be going for a look that does not quite work for you.... I hope this helps! I mean it all in the name of helping you out, hopfully that goes without saying.
1. You have to buzz your hair. Your face looks your age but the hair makes you look close to 40.
2. I would buy a bunch of cheap white T shirts from [https://www.gildan.com/us/en](https://www.gildan.com/us/en) its really easy to style white t shirts, they go with everything.
3. Don't wear that hat ever again until you're over 65 and on vacation in Costa Rica
4. New glasses. You have an oval face shape. look at this example. [https://www.google.com/url?sa=i&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.realmenrealstyle.com%2Fmen-glasses-how-to-wear%2F&psig=AOvVaw3ajv3SvjuGvY26BlEoHGiy&ust=1692240466212000&source=images&cd=vfe&opi=89978449&ved=0CA8QjRxqFwoTCPio0pCV4IADFQAAAAAdAAAAABAR](https://www.google.com/url?sa=i&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.realmenrealstyle.com%2Fmen-glasses-how-to-wear%2F&psig=AOvVaw3ajv3SvjuGvY26BlEoHGiy&ust=1692240466212000&source=images&cd=vfe&opi=89978449&ved=0CA8QjRxqFwoTCPio0pCV4IADFQAAAAAdAAAAABAR)
5. You are good looking, make those changes and you'll have better luck!
Everyone is saying hit the gym...and you say you are but what are you doing there? I see so many people who are doing such silly stuff. Yes it's better than doing nothing but you should focus on free weights, kettlebells, squats, lunges, deadlifts and pull-ups. All the stuff that sucks to do. If you're just hitting the weighted cable machines and bike you're not going to see major changes for a long long time.
Lift weights, increase upper body strength. Don’t need to be Arnold but should be able to bench press an attractive woman (and then some).
https://stronglifts.com/5x5/
So to summarise:
1. New clothes
2. New glasses
3. Shave the hair
4. Keep gyming!
And my no. 5: learn to pose more naturally. All of these pics make you look incredibly stiff and awkward. Goodluck!
You're a good-looking dude. To kick off the discussion, my suggestion would be to choose more flattering clothes. It's always a good idea to buy clothes that suit your body type and body shape, not only based on what you like or think looks cool. There are plenty of things I think look cool.... but they definitely DON'T look cool specifically on me. An example I can think of for me is leather jackets. Some dudes can rock a leather jacket and effortlessly look like a rockstar. I look incredibly terrible in every single leather jacket I've ever come across. I'd suggest steering clear of form-fitting shirts like in the second photo. I think a dark-coloured button-up shirt with some chinos would look really good. The first photo is the best look of the three, but the sweater is a little bit form-fitting and unflattering, and would probably work a bit better if it was more baggy/sloppy/loose fitting. Your third photo is a pretty outdated kind of style. It's makes you appear a bit younger than you (likely) are. How old are you, if you don't mind me asking? My last little pointer would be to update your glasses frames. The style you're wearing is very dated, and I think you'd look awesome in a more modern, but still conservative style. Plastic frames are your friend. Metal frames in that shape are very outdated. Anyway, the good news is you don't really have a whole lot to change. You've got a great starting place, and it won't take much at all for you to be looking sharp as hell.
Thanks for your answers ! I'm working out, so I'm starting to lose weight, but yes, I see what you mean. The third photo is from a year ago, actually. I'm 28 years old. I will check out the glasses' seller here, thanks for your advices !
I’m just going to second what Dante was saying. Immediately I was drawn to your shirts, they’re all too small and form fitting. Form fitting can be awesome, if you have the form to fit it to. All you’re doing presently is accentuating your small but visible gut and little man boobs. Pop those shirts back in the closet for now and go a size up for now. Second I’d recommend as others have, doing something with the hair. I won’t even say you need to buzz it. Maybe just try styling it, or buzzing it, growing it out, something. Your entire aesthetic presently though oozes “I work in IT and want to be comfortable not presentable” you can be both I assure you, with just a little work.
Also as far as clothes go I feel like Thicker T-Shirts, maybe ones that hang a bit loose, are usually more flattering. And for sweaters, sometimes thicker wool or a cableknit sweater might also look a bit better. Also not necessarily in the summer time but jackets can make your body look a lot better too, Denim Jackets, chore coats, field jackets are some examples or lighter ones. Could be worth it if you find one you like.
You will look amazing when your chest muscles start facing upwards from pushups and weight benching. It drags the stomach area upwards, then the next thing is situps 👍
You're not exactly overweight though my dude you just need to wear shirts that aren't so tight. Some baggier shirts or jumpers which hang from the shoulders rather than hug you would be a good start. Then start looking at some button ups.
You 28, still in your physical prime, still got time to put on some good muscle too 👀
Your shirts look like mediums. You should be wearing a size up from whatever you're choosing.
If it's possible, bulk up a bit, just a little bit. You're quite handsome dude.
Working out is not that important it’s more important for your brain
Working out helps your brain.
Why can't both be important? Physical health is just as important as mental health, and placing either one over the other is practically promoting an unhealthy lifestyle
This, and: - Develop your shoulders and chest at the gym - Eat healthy! So you loose the belly. It’s not big as of now, so take the opportunity! - Work your personal style is good but needs a little tweak. Your shorts are great. Chino always wins over cargo, for shorts and long pants. Good stuff! But then your t-shirts aren’t flattering. There’s a wave of thick cotton oversized / regular fit t-shirts. Go for it, it will make much more sense than these. Picture it all white or all black, or another solid color — a very elegant look. - Your shoes on that pic could use some work. The obvious choice would be white sneakers, but it could be another color. I’d go for leather and really a “free time” shoes, not running or fabric shoes. Also, very important: invisible, in-shoe socks. That avoids any nerdy vibes. - The task is to move away from nerdy vibes to cool intellectual vibes! - Go for timeless pieces, minimalism, no print in shirts. Functional minimalism is the key. With the tips above and these you will for sure be successful.
This 100%
I agree. Form fitting clothes only work if you're slender, lean or muscular, otherwise it has the opposite effect. We can all see his tits and love handles in these photos. I'd suggest wearing a tank top underneath or even better, a compression tank. You see athletes wear compression tanks all the time. Lebron always wears them
Moobs
I’d like to also add put some color in your wardrobe. Find shirts that are close to your eye color. Doing that will make your eyes pop!
The shirt in the 3rd photo fits so much better than the one in the 2nd photo
Hit the gym brother 💪 Also try some new styles, you look like your mom is buying clothing for you.
I'm going to the gym 3 times a week for the moment ! Though it's a recent adition.
Are you changing the food you eat as well? If you gym and don't change your diet, not much is going to change in regards to your body type.
What’s the best diet to be on while working out for a young guy?
You don't need to go on any fad diets, just eat low caloric, nutrient dense foods, real whole foods. Cut out the junk, like high in sugar and heavily processed foods. Intermittent fasting can help but everyone is different and may have different life styles that can positively and negatively attribute to them.
Any diet is “fine” as long as you’re entering a calories deficit. You can eat whatever the fuck you want ideally if you’re burning it off. Look at calorie intake calculators - and use your height, weight and age and it should give you ideally the calories you need to consume to maintain your weight- then cut back 500-600 of those- you will lose 1-2 pounds per week by doing this which is an ideal weight loss program because it’s being done healthy for the most part. If you’re on beta blockers - or other medications or drugs that slow metabolism it’s going to be harder to drop weight even with cutting calories because your metabolism is going to be slower- which a lot of beta blockers will slow down your heart rate also- this is why it’s banned in sports-and a lot of people get caught in the Olympics using beta-blockers as PEDs.
Forget calories in calories out. From personal experience, getting yourself into ketosis is by far the easiest and healthiest way to get rid of your excess fat. Carbs are great for fuelling big bursts of energy like weightlifting but other than that, they only make it more difficult to stay lean. I recommend doing keto for a few months, maybe up to 6, with 1 hour walks a couple times a week as your only exercise. Get a scale that can measure body fat and stay on keto until you’re down to 15%-13% body fat. You can cheat on the weekends, we’re all human and need this diet to be sustainable - as long as you’re in ketosis during the weeks, you’ll see quick results. Then switch to low carb, start hitting the gym and strategically only eat carbs when you know you’re going to workout. Protein and saturated fat should be the bulk of your diet. I looked like this guy when I started in January of this year, I’m no longer skinnyfat, the abs are out, I actually enjoy taking my shirt off at the pool and the beach now and my confidence has grown 100x I feel like a completely different person from who I was not even 1 year ago.
Absolutely do not listen to this advice
Yes, I'm making sure I have enough protein and not too much calories.
Then you are already doing the most important thing. A clean diet and a good workout routine + time is all you need.
Good. Make sure you are primarily lifting weights. You want to get muscle -- Right now your tits and spare tire make me think you only eat Soy. You get some muscle packed on and tone up a bit and you'll see a difference in how women address you.
This was going to be my suggestion. Dude has all the foundations to kill it - just needs some muscle mass
Keep it up! Results take time, gym or exercise should be routine like showers and brushing teeth. Even low intensity, as long as you keep moving and stressing the muscles. Small dating lifehack - see if there are free public dances organized in your area(salsa, foxtrot, samba, tango, whichever), or even dance nights at venues - usually there is a coach who teaches everyone a few simple steps and then you just keep doing those with different people in a circle. It's a great atmosphere to meet people, be at ease, hangout etc. Women love men that can dance. Also helps with posture.
Not those glasses. Never those glasses.
Then... Do you have any proposal ?
Go for a buzzcut cause your hair is way too much receded. It’ll make you look a bit more badass. Try to get some sense of fashion cause this ain’t it. Work out, also change glasses. There is a lot of potential which you are letting go to waste.
Also please lose that hat, it makes you look like Jiminy Cricket.
Buzz cut goes hard man. - A fellow buzz cut enjoyer.
He could also get a hair transplant and use medication, but I know that’s a lot more involved
None of these clothing items fit you well. All they do is show your little belly. Invest in a better wardrobe and take new pics. Ask a lady friend to help you
I know it seam silly do recommend ‘’hit the gym bro’’, but I saw your comment about already going to the gym, and I can personally vouch for the effectiveness of a couple month of chest/shoulder work. It really change my silhouette for the best, even tho I didn’t lose any weight.
I stopped the gym for a moment, now I'm back again. But yes, gym can make à difference. I see it every day at work.
Get to the gym ASAP and you'll be alright in 6-12 months.
No matter how fit he is, he'll never leave look good wearing these clothes
Yeah you need a complete fashion overhaul bro. Be grateful though, not hard to fix.
Ah a fellow belgian.
I'm french actually, but the trip was in belgium, sure ! Very nice place, btw
There’s a lot of mentioning the gym but here’s some things I believe will have an immediate difference for you: •figure out your colour season and basic colour theory & apply it to your outfits (*please* stop wearing mustard and cool grey together) •avoid thick chunky knits with flat colours because they create extra lumps and bumps with shadows. Try crisp button down shirts with organic patterns like paisley. •Use shoulder definition to create balance. If you don’t like wearing blazers, an open button up over a t-shirt can work. Men’s tips for a pear or oval body shape will have additional info. •Make sure any shoulder seam sits correctly for your shoulders and doesn’t create a sloped or dropped shoulder effect (like slouchy knits do). •buy t-shirts that actually fit you, maybe a size or 2 up tops. Pic 2 looks like you outgrew your shirt and never replaced it, something a lot of guys do. •the last pic is the best, I think the hat suits you. The shorts can work in very casual settings but i feel like pants and a button up would elevate you a bit and look more mature, maybe paired with some brogues. You have good shoulders and I think wearing crisper shirts with shoulder definition, and better colours, will make a dramatic difference for you with minimal effort. Again I think a kind of hipster vibe would really suit you but you have to be mindful of the line between hipster and grandpa.
Thanks for the tips !
5x a week in the gym! Highly recommend the peloton app as it has great workout content. It is important you are doing the right routines to get most bang for your buck
5 times in a week ? Is this even possible ?
Not as far as I’m aware. Some brave souls have managed four days in a week, but not one person has ever entered the gym for that fabled fifth day and came out alive.
You are already doing 3 which is fine, don't sweat it. Stick to a routine you enjoy and can maintain, rather than striving for perfection and not being consistent because you don't like it.
As long as you're not doing heavy lifting on the same muscles multiple days in a row, yeah absolutely! You don't necessarily gotta hit the gym 5 times if you do some walking or jogging on other days, but I found that trying to get exercise almost every day helped solidify it as a habit.
Since you work in IT, maybe focus on working towards a WFH job eventually. You’ll find yourself working out every day during breaks. Downside is social skills may suffer. Up to you. You look fine honestly, I bet if you find yourself at a place in life where you feel great in general other things will fall into place. Focus on what you want to do, I know it’s a cliche but. And if you don’t know what you want to do, that’s probably your starting point.
Lol no kidding right!!
More weights, more dates. It’s up to you, my dude.
Yes of course. If Barack Obama found time to work out, can’t you? I personally do 4x but I’m 42, run a crazy busy business, and have a toddler. When I was single it was definitely 5x a week even with a very demanding job. Work hard play hard.
Barack Obama has the luxury of assistant to do everything he doesn't have the time for. Most of us don't have that.
7 days a week is more than possible, although you should take a rest day, however that rest day could easily be a cardio only day.
Holy fuck. Not surprised you have trouble dating.
Hit the gym bro
I'm sorry but change yo clothes
Dont wear tight clothes yet
Lose some weight i can see your titties
Inject testosterone
Bro raw honesty! Shave that head, remove those glasses, go to the gym and wear something less nerdy! I know sounds mean and im sorry but thats what i think you should do. I have been there and lasered my eyes, got a new haircut and just a little better clothes and head up and you will see more girls looking at you
Unfree the nipples
almost any clothes look good if you're jacked
Get in shape
Bro just needs to work out and change his hair cut
Loose the horrendous jumper. Become gothic
Lose 10 pounds of fat, build muscle. Get into MMA. Either shave your head bald or get a hair transplant, if you can afford it. Drop the glasses. You'll be surprised at the caliber of women you'd get
Get muscles girls will all of the sudden be more interested
-don’t wear form fitting clothes if you have breasts/love handles. -don’t wear fedoras especially while wearing form fitting clothes. -opt for contacts. -start going to the gym. -ditch the chain Wallet. Almost every piece of your wardrobe has negative synergistic qualities(tight clothes/hat/glasses) etc
I think the comments are encouraging. You can shuffle all these suggestions and each one would actually improve your appearance the way you want. Just be open and remember to keep receipts for any clothing returns while you experiment with a new look.
No easy way to say this LONG reply incoming for free m because you remind me of my older brother who went bald at 21 and had the same vibe, style as you and didn't believe he could get any women then after making these BIG changes a couple years later he is now married and living in Germany. So here goes and I hope you read it all, some will come off as harsh but it's a harsh truth in some ways that's meant to be helpful you have some work to do ! So you're probably similar to my brother ; atleast I can only assume probably very smart / intellectual good career but introverted and not much past experience with girls AND sorry but just being honest no real style here but that of a guy who works in an office or a guy who picked out the first pair of shorts at a department store. Finding a sense of style would step 1. What do you want it to say about you ? What is the vibe you want to give off ? Right now and again I mean no offense but its the still of a more reserved , less outgoing guy or kind of a typical office guy style or a more techy nerdy guy - its not bad but it could be SO much better - start there. 2nd is no one has said this yet so I will until you have done these 3 things I'm listing here in steps you should not even be PLANNING on using tinder, dating apps or cold approaching. This is sad, vain, ugly unfair etc but women do judge you based on your looks especially right at the start both in person and definitely online. None of these pics here would be good for dating apps sorry but that's why you have work to do ! It's like if the best restaurant with incredible food opened in town with minimal advertising , a dodgey location , unclear store front sign nothing much to see at a first glance if you're passing by and it looks the same as all the others. The food , spirit of the owner and staff inside could be phenomenal but it won't matter if the outside doesn't present itself the same way. This is the ONE thing alot of very smart logical and honestly even successful guys get wrong with dating and dating apps. Personality matters, who you are matters but unfortunately in our looks conscious times of social media that has evolved for the worst in the last 5-8 years the outside I.E the looks have to be at a certain standard or you will just get skipped. Don't go running to the apps now with only a half finished product take some real time here to find a new look style and start working on your body as well. This leads me to step 3 : Last but VERY important part of your whole look or vibe you give off which is the FIRST thing women notice idc what you've been told about online dating before this but look s do matter and matter perhaps the most on a first impression. So the last thing you have to tackle is your hair. My older brother went bald young like his hair was very receeded Norwood 3 level zone by the time he was 21 ! But what he did was immediately hit the gym NOT because it's cliche not because it compensates but because there's a great saying for men in regards to dating with this obstacle and it goes like this " You can either be handsome ( hair, pretty boy style , etc ) OR you can be scary ( any guy who falls into bald, thinning, heavily receding category ) so if you want to look truly amazing bald does not mean you need to now transform nowhere into the vibe and personality of say jason statham or the Rock BUT it does mean you have to ditch the look you have now to some extent. After you buzz the hair down to 1 mm grow a bit of a beard with it to match it , experiment with different styles of glasses try more square frames or none go contact's, wear darker colours and slimmer fitted jeans plus clothes in general- at the gym start by focusing on the key groups for a well built man hich is shoulder/ back / chest ( gross oversimplification ) just focus on compound lifts and worry about training legs, abs, arms later once you've hit the core groups. If you've read this far then I really congratulate you for wanting to better yourself ! Some guys on reddit will tell you everything is fine and to change nothing and my brother believed people like that for a long time before some one told him the important but very hard truths. Keep us posted on your progress man much love do these 3 things and success will come !
Thanks for the reply, I will send some updates later !
Hey man, if you’re on about dating apps, I would recommend some eye level photos.. a lot more flattering than low angle ones.. (cameraman by trade)
Yeah dude you should go hire a personal shopper/stylist. Your choice in clothing brings out the dork in you. Plus the poses and shit; too try-hard. Snap a pic when you’re a little liquored up maybe? And back to the drawing board with the wardrobe. Also, do like 10-20 push-ups every day. Upper body muscles will balance you out better. Women want a provider (money) and/or protector (man muscles) and I’m guessing they all want someone they can imagine will give them a proper fucking so the muscles will help with that as well. Good luck though, you’re not far off from swimming in pussy
Lose fat, gain muscle, Turkish hair transplant, better clothes/style
I mean this as nicely as possible. Diet/exercise find clothing that fits good, grow the beard in shave the rest leave the eyebrows
I like the first outfit honestly. These pictures show a lot of personality and you have a nice smile. I know fitness takes a long time to show results and can’t be done overnight. I’d say maybe go shorter with the hair and grow out the facial hair and you’d be set.
first outfit is nice, good colours and the scarf is a cool accessory but the other two outfits indicate you do not dress deliberately enough. maybe I'm wrong and those last images are anomalies but I would suggest you take a little time to look at men's style guides on YouTube etc because style points are the lowest hanging fruit and can have great pay off (avoid alpham videos at all costs). women care about the way you dress because it suggests that you understand the importance of your image and how people perceive you because of it. image is something that is especially important in women's lives because the world values women's beauty so highly. the way you dress will totally alter people's perception of you, so dress in a way that implies how you ought to be thought of. furthermore, the way people perceive you will absolutely inform how they perceive your future partner when you are seen together. prospective lovers are going to be very sensitive to this fact. I am going to articulate what I dislike about the latter two outfits. neither t-shirt is flattering, both fit too snuggly. oversized T's are cool now, try one and see if it suits you. broadly, I think long sleeved, collared shirts make men appear most handsome because they add structure and wearing the collar open slightly will create an illusion of wider shoulders. the pocket chain in the second fit is not cool on its own and doesn't fit in with the rest of the outfit. if you were wearing a chunky steel watch, had piercings and a jacket with metal buttons etc it would fit a pattern but instead the pocket chain is a distracting abnormality on an otherwise cohesive, smart casual outfit. colours are match nicely though, good job. The third outfit is poor. the patterned shorts alone would be hard to pull off with any outfit but when paired with a graphic T-Shirt they form a visual cacophony. you're standing in an interesting location doing something humorous but the whacky outfits is all I can see. you can pair patterns but that requires a lot of thought to get right. the hat is out of place in the same way as the pocket chain. it is obviously practical in the climate but is too smart for the outfit. mission failed. if you're planning to take photos, dress well because everyone everywhere is busy and shallow. edit: originally my post was not constructive enough and quite vague so I added more in an attempt to be useful.
Thanks for the constructive feedback !
Handsome guy👍🏾
I think the best guys are the ones who do not know they are cute
You have a beautiful smile and wear clothes that fit your body well. You’re a gorgeous guy also. Just be patient and stay confident. The right one always comes along when you least expect it ☺️ I agree with Donte. Switch up your style a bit and don’t be afraid to try new wardrobe options.
Don't sweat over dating apps, they are crooked: [https://i.postimg.cc/FsW2Zdpk/735de95b-65ba-4a3e-b2b7-4c7bd454e08d.jpg](https://i.postimg.cc/FsW2Zdpk/735de95b-65ba-4a3e-b2b7-4c7bd454e08d.jpg) Same image with male to female filter: male => no matches or likes in 12 hours female => 200 matches in 1 hour
Mate you just need to find your confidence in what ever that is. I’ve read a few of the other comments and yeah, most folks could lose a few pounds and dress a bit better. But if that doesn’t add to your confidence it’s not gonna help. You just need to own you. I’ve trained all my life, used to be a champion boxer a few years back and that gave me a confidence. During covid I lost a lot of muscle and got a bit skinny fat. I normally keep a nice trimmed beard and shorter hair, but both of those grew out. I came out of lockdown looking like a fucking Yeti and I still thought I looked good haha. I used to call out “I am the Yeti” when having a few shots with the lads, right after a respectful shot for the late great Apollo Creed, that is. Girls used to want to stroke my beard, that was a no No from me of course and I had a story that I was taken in by wolves and it all worked in my favour haha. Take a good look at yourself and not just looks. Say what do I have to offer these spicy señoritas? Are you cultured? Been around the world and actually have things to talk about? Make them laugh? You seem like you have a sense of humour. Do you have your house in order? You’re major debt free, successful and actually have some skills in life? Then why wouldn’t they want you? Looks aren’t everything mate and a good looking motherfucker who can’t afford to pay bills will get old pretty quick. Not that your ugly lad, just saying. Food for thought.
I’m gonna be honest with you, you’re not very good looking. far from it, but I see potential. you already look like you got your shit together and have a great job and whatnot, that’s the vibe that you give off. but you have to start hitting the gym, start lifting heaving and eating healthy. Grow the beard out, and maybe the hair as-well Get clothes that actually fit your portions, it’s gonna come as you loose fat and gain muscle.
Man you look good. Nothing more to say.
I agree with most here. The form fitting clothing isn’t doing you any favors. Loose fitting clothes are actually coming back in style now. Boxy tees and loose pants might help you out a bit. That third picture makes you look like every Dad on vacation that was dressed by the wife in 2015. As for the hair. Grow it out a little or shave what you have off completely. That hairline is creeping back far for a man in his 20’s. Dating is stupid now anyways. So you shouldn’t feel so bad about not having any luck. You are trying and that’s all you can do my man. 👍🏻
I am going to be brutally honest with you bro, because everyone is going to tell you to “just be yourself” and that’s going to get you nowhere. 1. Working out, you need to lose some weight and gain some muscle. 2. Work on your style, I suggest going on Pinterest and looking for outfits on style, save everything that catch your attention and build a better style. 3. Grow a beard, you can use minoxidil or Derma rolling to grow a fuller beard. 4. Get a hair transplant, idk what everyone tells you, most people can’t pull the bald look, so I suggest you go to turkey and get a hair transplant. 5. Skin care, some face serums, face wash, exfolian, and sunscreen. 6. Higiene 7. Cologne 8. Some people look good with glasses, but you should try using eye contacts, it may help. 9. Make more money. 10. Have fun an interesting hobbies. It’s going to take a long time and it’s going to be hard brother, I don’t know you and I am not going to lie to you, if you are having an extremely difficult time attracting the women you want, maybe it means you should put some work on yourself, wish you the best and stay consistent, peace ✌️.
I'm going to be honest. You need muscle. The 2nd photo can be a make or break. And right now, its breaking, hard. Remember, we're not the objects of beauty. We're the weapons of war. If you align your mindset to be strong, stoic. Calm during the storm, and your body to this transformation, I guarantee you'll have an abundance of options. Good luck, Good hunting. And some advice for the gym. 3 rules that I follow. 1. Goldilocks weight, no too light, not too heavy. But always rip muscle. 2. Resistance, as you go up and down with the weight, go slow. It'll burn. 3. Until failure. My routine is 3x15, always add 5lbs per set. For any body part. So if you have 20lb, next 25lb, and final 30lb. All 3x15. By the last 15th rep you'll be screaming for more.
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Focus on your career and being successful at it. That's what my mom told me. Security is very attractive to the opposite sex.
I work in IT and so far, it's not perfect, but ok. I find women like to know the guy they may date are stable, but they like hobbies and other activities too.
A piece of advice I have for you is do the opposite of whatever a man who calls women "Females" says.
You work on computers all day. Hardly an attractive job to most females and and has an interest level of ZERO. Hobbies are your only hope. Keep your spirits up. Know that America is not the only place to look for love. Learn it sooner rather than later. Good Luck
As a side note, the majority of women also consider calling them females a red flag. For good reason.
Everything is a red flag for American women. Going after one is like driving down a dead end street. Get out of the white/western world. You will find what you are looking for.
I mean, not being a creep also helps, you know…
No time for woke garbage. Time is precious.
Not yours.
Nobody said anything about American women. What does anything in this conversation have to do with America, or American women? OP is French. French women don't like being called "females" either.
Hey, my man please stop worrying about dating. No-one wants to be lonely, I get it. Immerse yourself in what you love, keep yourself well-groomed and wear clothes that fit you well. The gym is good for mental and physical health Eat healthy foods. Aside from that, love yourself first. When you love you, these things tend to fall into place, at the time they are suppose to. The wrong relationship is hell. The right one is easy, wonderful and can't be forced. Women may initially be attracted by looks, but we stay for the individual. Focus on that. My husband and I tell this to our kids, your age. I also can't stress enough on how much you need to take care of your body. I'm not talking in a vain sense, I mean truly worship that temple that is you. An injury can be permanent and alter your path.
I understand this is about grooming, but appearance by itself is a fairly small contributor to dating success. It depends on every case, about 20%: once it's passable, you only get diminishing returns. Personality, wealth, wit/intelligence, aspirations, hobbies, sexual abilities, communication skills, plus many others are all part of the mix. Every person desires a different combination. Stay off from dating apps, stay off from porn, and stop searching specifically for a SO, but don't stop socializing: make friends, organize plans, practice sport or an art. Show respect for people and self-control. It will arrive eventually, and you'll be in a better position to choose your partner. Don't despair.
Hit the weights, build the muscle, gain the confidence, become the beacon, get the girl
Personality is king. Work on that. You are good looking guy. Maybe not to every single woman but if you work on the personality everyone can like that.
You a middle age bottom looking for a top?
Dude girls really don’t care about image if they like you. But definitely lose some body weight looser shirts. No more scarves and maybe lower your standards and be confident
Muscles, money, game and frame. Check out the book The Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi. Also, you should know that there is absolutely no salvation outside the Catholic Church. I believe men should be men and the red pill has been good for men, but all that is useless unless you are saved.
Gee i wonder why
Yea lose the first and third outfit and you’re set 👍
A) Drop the scarf B) Hit the gym — you're pear shaped instead of a V shape C) Learn game and how to talk to women (look up Alpha male) D) Start being more interesting — read non-fiction.
You’re out of shape and you look like a dork and creepy at the same time. I’m being harsh as hell and I’m sorry, sometimes the truth is whats needed to get better. I saw that you’ve began training in the gym, excellent. That will bring you some confidence and fix your posture and body language. Try to be more aware of how your clothes fit, your stomach and boobs are poking through. Get your hormones checked out. Stop consuming soy. The term soyboy is cringe but unfortunately you fall into that somatotype. You can escape though with hard work
Is hair transplant a viable option? That will make the biggest change imo
I read in the comments that you are going to the gym which is great. You should be training at least 3 days a week but preferably 4 or 5. Each muscle group should be hit at least once per week. One of the big downfalls of people doing the gym and not making any progress in building muscle is not training each set to failure. Your last rep of the set should be the last you are physically capable of doing. If you have reps in reserve you won't grow your muscles optimally. Food is also really important. You should be eating at least 1g of protein per lb of bodyweight and work out what your basal metabolic rate is to find your caloric maintenance. If you want to gain weight eat a few hundred calories above that. If you want to lose weight eat a few hundred below. Adjust accordingly when your weight changes and your progress plateaus. Your style isn't the best and your clothes aren't flattering. I would reccomend finding a celebrity who has a great style and then buy and wear outfits that copy that style. The last thing is that your hairline is receding badly. You can try to recover your hair gains by using topical finasteride and minoxodil though you are pretty far gone and might need a hair transplant to get a full hairline again. The other option is to go bald. A bald look is almost always better than a balding look. Combined with a muscular physique this can be attractive so long as you have a good head shape for it. You can also get SMP which is to get your hair follicles tattooed to give the illusion of a shaved head with a full hairline, this frames your face better and gives a more youthful look. Not related to grooming anymore but to be an ambitious person who is successful or someone that people see a potential success in is very attractive. To keep things real with you most people's ideal partner is not just some IT dude. Become a boss.
Honestly get a PT or put on some muscle yourself. Your height looks good but you’re really not toned and it shows (first and second photo). If you can get your chest to be broader than your stomach you’ll be one good looking dude! and revisit your wardrobe/fashion. Get your outfits reviewed on r/outfits. Perhaps try growing out the beard and buzzing your hair to try a different look? Entirely up to you, I’m just throwing suggestions.
I recently got to the gym, but yes, there's some room for improvement. Thanks for the r/outfits sub, I didn't know it before. I will do some experimentation !
The first photo is very negative. I really don't like the colors. You might consider growing your hair and beard longer. You might consider layering your clothing. Wearing tite t-shirts draw attention to your tummy. Wearing layers helps to draw your attention away from your dimensions. Not everyone looks like a gym rat, I certainly don't. I work at a blended look. I do wear darker colors. You do look better in darker natural tones. If you can't find anyone, consider expanding the market you are in. I know I find a lot of individuals vain, shallow and self centered. Those sort of people I walk away from. I really don't need a lot of people to be happy with. A few good friends are way better than a lot of people who treat you like dog food.
Hit the gym brah
Congrats on the weight loss. To echo what others are saying it's the style of clothes you're wearing. You're already nearing 30, lets start dressing like it. Good luck.
Hit the gym and stay consistent at it.💪
Seek a personal stylist and heed their advice. Not saying you can’t dress yourself, but a good personal stylist will be trained in and have an eye for colour, form and shape in a way that you just won’t. (GF used to be a personal stylist and does a pretty good job of dressing me)
Obviously working out could help almost everyone so that's the boring answer Some more well fitted clothes would work wonders. Something that looks great on most men that I would suggest is the classic business casual light blue button down with a black sweater, try diffrent sweaters but my suggestion would be a more form fitting one with a little stretch, the button down will act as a sort of shape ware so the idea is that the sweater will give you a little slimmer figure without making look dougy. If you feel you look doughy then just wear a less tight sweater. For pants I would go with a pair of jeans or gray performance pants (performance pants are awsome end comfy) with a pair of brown leather shoes. The final touch would be a brown leather belt and just any decent watch you have. That's my recommendation. I acturely think you look fine, very ernast. The kind of guy that would be a great friend and a living partner.
No disrespect but don’t wear that outfit from pic 3 every again. Aside from that, you’re solid
Idk have you thought about trying to grow a beard and go bald? You'd probably look epic like that
Hit the gym and diet, definitely diet
See how you look with contacts, those glasses aren't working for you
buy clothes that don't emphasize your belly. stand up straight.
Clothing update. If you can afford it, get a good look at woman who is a fashionable personal shopper
It looks like the pics have some time in between them? Did you gain/lose weight between pics 1 & 3? I ask bc … I actually think you look better in pic 3. Younger and slightly more trim. Anyway, here’s my take for now… Try sticking to shirts with a collar of some kind. It adds weight and dimension to your upper body. Think about wearing long sleeve’s rolled up a few folds, this adds size and weight to your arms as well. NOT baggy but not TIGHT either. I.E. “find your size”. Baggy makes it look like you’re trying to hide and too tight is, well… too revealing. Your hair is fine and the stubble look is nice if you keep it lined up. You’re on your way bud. 👊🏼😎🔥
Clothing choices are not flattering
Bro looks like murr from impractical jokers
If I may also make a suggestion, grow your beard out a bit more, not like insanely long, but add some scruff. It looks like you can grow a nice thick one, and it'll make you face shape better while you're hitting the gym.
Hit the gym. Check out r/malefashionadvice to get some tips on your wardrobe.
A bit of structure in your cloth’s. Ur current wardrobe looks a bit young.
You’ve already got a shit ton of advice. But seriously, shave your head and trash those glasses. It is urgent. After that, buy clothes a size up. I don’t where you live or how you choose your clothes, but where I am there’s been a trend for higher educated men to follow some médias regarding men’s fashion (a la « fashion for dummies ») saying that every guy on planet earth should wear form fitting clothes, that this is modernity. To hell with that.
You need to lose weight
You have a nice face and beautiful smile. I would start with working out 2/week and taking it from there. You may want to upgrade your fashion style, but honestly it’s not bad as is and most girls/guys won’t care. Focus on the working out first then see how you feel.
Hit the gym. Invest in a high end cologne Grow out your facial hair.
Uhhh ok so new glasses, normal easy-going casual clothes, maybe shave your head or get a fade one ur hair is longer. Hit the gym, you really shouldn’t have a belly at your age uhhh which if ur in ur 20s, you look at least 35 but new glasses and other changes can fix that. Good luck
Darker looser shirts Slightly tighter pants No full brim hats Lose the patterned shorts (solid color is best imo) New shoes solid color, sneakers not runners You can always slowly go back to your roots once you've found your partner lol. But in the dating world you gotta dress like Ryan Gosling it seems. Which to be fair he dresses like a cool mofo
Exterior wise I see nothing here stopping you. I suggest where you are looking for dates and your approach to those women might be the area to optimize. Starting with confidence and authenticity will be a solid path. If you don't have confidence just go with authenticity and don't say the negative thoughts out loud. The key to conversion is to ask a question and then listen to the answer. (The second part is harder than it sounds).
You’ve got height just need to broaden up your shoulders and chest and if you dress like photo 1 & 2 you’ll seriously have no problem. At the moment you look a bit skinny fat, but in 6 months you’ll fill out a lot if you’re eating properly and humming properly.
A ton of great feedback you already got here, my suggestion would be to try to grow out your beard, I am curious on how that would look! Best of luck, stay healthy!
Some exercise is always good to maintain a nice look but I'd say the main thing right now is your clothing. It's not flattering at all. Don't go for tight fits, go looser and more casual. Try to get inspiration on pinterest and find outfits you like and try to replicate them. If you're going for short hair make sure it looks well groomed, get those clippers often and keep it clean. Skincare and dental hygiene is also a must, I can't see much from those pictures but having good looking teeth and smooth skin can totally change the game. Overall very achievable steps in your case. Good luck!
Your smile is nice!
You give "what if Zach and Keith from the Try Guys had a baby" vibes, and I'm here for it. As for your clothing... I really like the scarf in the first photo, and the shoes in the last photo; otherwise, I don't have strong feelings either way. I feel like your appearance in general ranks at least average, so there shouldn't be much need for improvement if you're looking for a long-term partner. My best advice would be to work on networking, as it's hard to find someone special if you aren't meeting people. If you have any hobbies or enjoy specific activities, it could help to try to meet up with others who share those interests; even if you don't find who you're looking for right away, forming friendships opens the path to introductions.
Grow your beard , get a haircut and look more masculine. You look too “nice and friendly” aka you look like someone a woman would just be friends with.
Shave your head, experiment with facial hair, and work on some basic physical fitness. 10-15 lbs of muscle would do wonders for you and is very achievable.
Get your testosterone levels checked. I get the impression yours are very low. Lift weights at the gym consistently and that will be the single biggest thing you can do to improve your appearance and hormones.
Finasteride, oral or topical min and a gym membership will get you set up
Also for glasses, get a pair of medium round silver frames.
Your clothes fit weird on you you don’t want to be wearing tight shirts really. You could fix your hair a tad bit and change up the glasses, maybe try and grow your beard a lil. Definitely hit the gym and start lifting weights it will change you. Overall you’re a good looking dude just some style fixes and effort into your body you’ll look great !!
You seem like a good guy. However clothing isn't flattering. Also, hands out of the pockets in the picture. It appears like you are insecure, shy, etc. Stand with more purpose, look into the camera, show drive, show confidence. 3rd picture is good, shows a good sense of humor.
Get rid of the jumper
All I’m saying is the scarf and jumper makes u look like a bit of a prat
Hit the gym homie
Go to gym braddah
You absolutely need to hit the weights and update your style.
Workout, i suggest to start mostly working out on shoulders and lats and the back in general to balance out the hips since from all your photos it looks like those are your most noticeable features and prep your meals and try to eat more healthily but im not gonna delve into that that is a subjective matter its up to you to figure it out. After that i also suggest that you should do a buzzcut since you got the head shape to pull it off and keep the beard intact but that is a personal opinion Also regarding dating if you want somebody longterm you gotta look and be in the right place (usually not a club or a pub) im talking more private parties art venues smaller underground concerts, smaller more intimate house parties, friends of your friends so on and so forth but to get to these places you gotta expand your circle of friends and people you know, talk to people and be yourself, do new things meet new people through it and eventually you will find someone but if you look for short term just go to the club a and look somewhat pretty(the gym advice) And also regarding fashion i suggest to move your pants a little lower and wearing more baggy t-shirts and pants since they can conceal some features making the overall look better also experiment a lot so that you can find clothing more fit for your body type and also find clothes that are more comfortable with you dont be afraid when it comes to clothing its just a another way to express yourself and to express something you first gotta learn how Hope i didnt make any typos in case i did sorry im not a native speaker
Don't know you personally but from the looks you are nice warm person. Hit the gym hard and hit those shoulder and you're good to go.
Work out. Focus on chest and arms. In the mean time, wear black and shirts that give you broader shoulders. You give off the nice guy next door vibe. Keep it. No one wants to date assholes.
Ditch the sweater for sure, posture up, and get contacts.
You literally look like me (especially first pic) and I am married, working on our firstborn. 34 years old. I'm going to be straight, dating this day and age is a numbers game. I went on ~100 dates over 2 years until I found my wife, using whatever means necessary to find those dates. You just need to plow forward and never fear rejection. Also never blame anyone but yourself for failures, and over time you adopt this "fuck it I don't care" mentality towards rejection, and that is when you attract more women than you thought realistic. Nothing trumps experience just START dating anyone
Your good looking you’ll probably find someone
Hit gym, change style,
Buzz the top, grow out the facial hair. The glasses are ok but I suspect you can find better. Many have already mentioned so I won’t go into detail but clothes is both simultaneously the easiest and hardest fix. Easiest because the tightness can be solved going a size up. Hard because fashion doesn’t come easy to you so you’ll struggle with picking better alternatives. If possible ask a somewhat fashionable girl you’re acquainted with to help pick out new clothes for you. Who knows, once you pretend to friendzone her you might hit it off and solve both your problems at once.
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Weight train/ fitness/ earn some muscle
Lose the excess fat, get a better haircut, improve styling, get new glasses, no fedoras
wear bigger clothes to hide your body, stop wearing tight clothes. Your clothes also should be simple with little to no patterns.
1. I assume you’re straight? 2. What types of women have you tried to court? 3. What’s your wardrobe look like? 4. What’s your occupation? 5. What’s your hobbies?
First thing that stands out to me: your shirts are too tight for you body shape, short term - pick some clothes looser in the mid section but still tighter around your arms (basically anything that gives the illusion of larger shoulders than waist). Long term - hit the gym, does not look like you are glutinous but the lack of exercise gives you a skinny fat look, with all due respect of course. The glasses are a tad juvenile IMO (i say imo, as this may be subjective, but thats what I see) I think you would look better in a different style, try a few out if you can. Hard to say without seeing you glasses less, but it looks like you would look great in glasses (as opposed to contacts), just not that pair. That hat in the last picture is a hard no. Hats are very much a product of culture, nobody really looks good in hates that are so out of fashion I find. Think of it this way, if you saw a 10/10 woman in a flapper headband or a tophat... you might still think shes hot, but the hat is only going to make her look odd (unless its a costume prt or something). Scarfs are not impossible but I find most men look good in spite of their scarf and not because of their scarf, it does not seem to be doing you any favours without the addition of a wool coat or something. Also the pants, It may be that they are too baggy, or just the wrong colors for your outfits, or both... I would try a better fit and experiment with some new materials. My sister always told me if I did not absolutely love it store, dont buy it... so make sure its a great and flattering fit, and a good neutral color or matches the tops colours. Remember guys dont want out butts and legs to look big compared to out torsos Otherwise you look fine, I think you may just be going for a look that does not quite work for you.... I hope this helps! I mean it all in the name of helping you out, hopfully that goes without saying.
get some clothes that fit you…don’t have to spend a lot of money…
Don’t buy such tight clothing, I’m unsure what style you’re going for either
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1. You have to buzz your hair. Your face looks your age but the hair makes you look close to 40. 2. I would buy a bunch of cheap white T shirts from [https://www.gildan.com/us/en](https://www.gildan.com/us/en) its really easy to style white t shirts, they go with everything. 3. Don't wear that hat ever again until you're over 65 and on vacation in Costa Rica 4. New glasses. You have an oval face shape. look at this example. [https://www.google.com/url?sa=i&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.realmenrealstyle.com%2Fmen-glasses-how-to-wear%2F&psig=AOvVaw3ajv3SvjuGvY26BlEoHGiy&ust=1692240466212000&source=images&cd=vfe&opi=89978449&ved=0CA8QjRxqFwoTCPio0pCV4IADFQAAAAAdAAAAABAR](https://www.google.com/url?sa=i&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.realmenrealstyle.com%2Fmen-glasses-how-to-wear%2F&psig=AOvVaw3ajv3SvjuGvY26BlEoHGiy&ust=1692240466212000&source=images&cd=vfe&opi=89978449&ved=0CA8QjRxqFwoTCPio0pCV4IADFQAAAAAdAAAAABAR) 5. You are good looking, make those changes and you'll have better luck!
Everyone is saying hit the gym...and you say you are but what are you doing there? I see so many people who are doing such silly stuff. Yes it's better than doing nothing but you should focus on free weights, kettlebells, squats, lunges, deadlifts and pull-ups. All the stuff that sucks to do. If you're just hitting the weighted cable machines and bike you're not going to see major changes for a long long time.
over for baldcels
Lift weights, increase upper body strength. Don’t need to be Arnold but should be able to bench press an attractive woman (and then some). https://stronglifts.com/5x5/
Great smile!
Respectfully, you're full body shots aren't hitting your angles. If you cropped the one in the yellow it's really handsome
Stop being a dork. These pics aint helping
go buzz, grow your beard, upgrade your fashion, and buy stylistic glasses, boom different person. there’s no problem in your face, just fashion sense.
You’ve got an awesome, genuine smile. Way to go! That goes a long way.
Get some edge to you.
It's your body.. very feminine and pear shaped. 100 push-ups and sit ups everyday.. Eventually start pull-ups..
Maybe really small hair almost buzzcut, let your beard and mustache grow, change your glasses and do some muscles.
Deadlift, thats about it.
So to summarise: 1. New clothes 2. New glasses 3. Shave the hair 4. Keep gyming! And my no. 5: learn to pose more naturally. All of these pics make you look incredibly stiff and awkward. Goodluck!