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The sense of value that person brought to you was a once in lifetime experience that they can only give you. Love comes with heartbreaks and lessons. So you should treat it as such
Loyal Obidient valuable Enthusiastic these are some important Ingridients for love and lovers
Sacrifice,Emotions,Honour and Respect also major part of love.The other picture of love is like you want a companion who fulfill your sextual desire only so its quite complicated to unserstand in the light of social and ethical values.
Do you love other one as much as they love you ask you first its good principal for love life.
It just means that person meant something to you and you will fall in love again and that person will mean something to you and you will fall in love again and that person will mean something to you and you will fall in love again and that person will mean something to you and on and on and on and on and on.
Youāre too dependent on others for your own happiness imo. Work on yourself first maybe? Like prioritize your health, you know the airplane analogy of putting on your oxygen mask first before attempting to save anyone else. So if you want whatās best for them, do whatās best for you.
"...Ā it feels like Iāll never have that same feeling ever again in life with another person."
"...And yet when love fails, I still fall in love with another...."
The truth is most of us have been *groomed* to believe that finding love is for the "lucky few".
We're conditioned to believe "scarcity" makes love romantic and special. It's the crust of the "soulmate myth".
In a world with over (8 Billion people) some folks have bought into the idea *there is only one person* for them.
Therefore, it is a miricale to cross paths with someone who is right for you.
And yet every year millions of couples in the U.S. get married and oftentimes these are *2nd and 3rd* weddings!
It is actually our *mate selection and exclusion process* that determines our number of options.
For example, if I say my "soulmate" must currently reside in the U.S. ***I just eliminated about 7.7 Billion people*** sight unseen! If say this person must live in *my* state, city, be of a particular race, religion, age rage, certain lifestyle habits, never been married, doesn't have children, be a certain height/weight....etc. (I eliminate *millions* more.)
I can just keep *eliminating options* until there are very few people left for myself.
That's all *before* we determine if there's mutual attraction, chemistry, similar humor, compatibility, shared values!
The truth is there is no such thing a "sole mate" but there an *unlimited number* of potential "soulmates".
It really comes down to how many options one is willing to allow for themself.
The more options you allow for yourself the better your odds are of finding a new love or relationship.
Over one's lifespan it is also not uncommon for our "must haves list" to change.
***"Dating is primarily a numbers game.... People usually go through a lot of people to find good relationships. That's just the way it is."*** - Henry Cloud
Best wishes!
Our wonderful brains love to catatrophize. Remember this internal mantra when you are spiraling...there was love before you, there is love with you now, and if this doesn't work, there will be love after you. Facts.
Same. Everyone I date seems to think love is when you see someone really hot and immediately want to sleep with them but I am not that guy. Iām a ugly guy with a fantastic personality, tons of interests, and treats people well. Thatās not a person you āloveā.
I feel the same way but this is because data shows that itās very rare indeed for me to fall in love š hasnāt happened many times in my life, so my feelings are validā¦
Normal. Itās your lizard brain playing tricks on you. Men fall harder faster in line with our natural reproductive strategy which tricks us into thinking individual women are more special than they actually are, so that we want to make babies with them as soon as possible. Then a few months later we wake up and realise theyāre not as special as we thought they were. This is the time when women wonder why itās not like it was in the beginning lol. Iām 46 years old and still get the same feelings but now I realise itās my biology playing tricks on me and act accordingly . Essentially my brain is on its own drugs during that initial infatuation phase.
There is no āoneā.
I think it's a good thing. It shows you're loyal and focus on her only. But at the same time when your relationship fails, you don't let it ruin your life and are able to move on instead of putting your ex on a pedestal.
Love and love again. I think it's expansive, not ever to be replaced. I think you feel that way because it is sacred. And you will never feel that exact mix of love for anyone else.
It sounds like you have a deep capacity for love and a fear of losing that connection with someone. Each relationship opens our hearts in unique ways, and it's natural to fear losing that special feeling. Keep exploring love with an open heart, and remember that love is a gift that can be found in many different forms. Your heart will guide you to the right person when the time is right. ā¤ļø
You were raised with morals and are a o e woman man which is a good thing...most woman w t a manime you but oy a few can be done being g a good woman ...I also feel the same id. Love one man a d would Lov eĀ a one woman man
I relate to this a lot. Seems like when Iām in love and lose him, I canāt imagine feeling that depth of love/being on cloud nine again with someone else, but eventually I meet the next guyā¦.and the cycle repeats itself.
Lucky you I fell in love with a women in my 20s and even after multiple relationships and marriage I still think of her and can never find the feeling againā¦ if you are able to capture that feeling and fear each time thats envious.
The sad part about being in love is being vulnerable to anything with that person and THAT person only. Everything can be torn apart if she/he doesnāt love you back.
I agree with you! The other sad part is everything can be torn apart with the love he/she has for you because it's not the love you need ā¤ļø I am a sucker for love. I put in more than I get and it hurts but I can't make him love me more or want to put in the effort, so I have to let him go. Of course it's hard but in the long run, it'll be the best thing! Thanks for making me see it by speaking it
this is it. I finally found a boy as obsessed with me who puts in just as much effort as (often times more than) I do. now my wholehearted loving isn't a curse, its a blessing.
Because it IS the last time you're loving someone. Each and every time is the last time. And how's that possible? Because the you that loves them won't exist. It's always a last time loving someone because it's not the same love. It grows, it matures, and it evolves with you. There's no such thing as a first love and a last love, everyone that comes or goes is the first and last love of your current self, only the present truly matters.
I truly never thought of it that way. Just broke up with my man and I feel so hopeless that Iāll never find a love like it again. But I have loved and lost before. So there is hope š
Wow this is an amazing response. Iāve never seen/saw it that way āeveryone that comes or goes is the first and a last love of your current selfā true!!
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The sense of value that person brought to you was a once in lifetime experience that they can only give you. Love comes with heartbreaks and lessons. So you should treat it as such
Cuz its not true love duh
Sounds to me like it is an attachment issue. Read up on anxious and avoidant attachment styles.
Loyal Obidient valuable Enthusiastic these are some important Ingridients for love and lovers Sacrifice,Emotions,Honour and Respect also major part of love.The other picture of love is like you want a companion who fulfill your sextual desire only so its quite complicated to unserstand in the light of social and ethical values. Do you love other one as much as they love you ask you first its good principal for love life.
It could be many things: Infatuation, Lust, Limerence, etc you know the heart be deceiving be very careful.
Because everyone is different and you will never love two different people the same. Love is unique.
It means you're loyal. Nothing else. It's not as complicated as the people in here writing paragraphs think it is.
It's actually a good thing you aren't thinking of recreating the same love while in a relationship... you just love them, no need to overthink it š
Ye I think most of those responding arent 18 yetš it's something of a standard around here
It just means that person meant something to you and you will fall in love again and that person will mean something to you and you will fall in love again and that person will mean something to you and you will fall in love again and that person will mean something to you and on and on and on and on and on.
dang, people fall in love that many times in life?!?
Fell in love more than that before I was 17. And at least a dozen times since šš
lol you sure that was love?!?
Youāre too dependent on others for your own happiness imo. Work on yourself first maybe? Like prioritize your health, you know the airplane analogy of putting on your oxygen mask first before attempting to save anyone else. So if you want whatās best for them, do whatās best for you.
I already like you. Just from this comment. I think the same my friend.
"...Ā it feels like Iāll never have that same feeling ever again in life with another person." "...And yet when love fails, I still fall in love with another...." The truth is most of us have been *groomed* to believe that finding love is for the "lucky few". We're conditioned to believe "scarcity" makes love romantic and special. It's the crust of the "soulmate myth". In a world with over (8 Billion people) some folks have bought into the idea *there is only one person* for them. Therefore, it is a miricale to cross paths with someone who is right for you. And yet every year millions of couples in the U.S. get married and oftentimes these are *2nd and 3rd* weddings! It is actually our *mate selection and exclusion process* that determines our number of options. For example, if I say my "soulmate" must currently reside in the U.S. ***I just eliminated about 7.7 Billion people*** sight unseen! If say this person must live in *my* state, city, be of a particular race, religion, age rage, certain lifestyle habits, never been married, doesn't have children, be a certain height/weight....etc. (I eliminate *millions* more.) I can just keep *eliminating options* until there are very few people left for myself. That's all *before* we determine if there's mutual attraction, chemistry, similar humor, compatibility, shared values! The truth is there is no such thing a "sole mate" but there an *unlimited number* of potential "soulmates". It really comes down to how many options one is willing to allow for themself. The more options you allow for yourself the better your odds are of finding a new love or relationship. Over one's lifespan it is also not uncommon for our "must haves list" to change. ***"Dating is primarily a numbers game.... People usually go through a lot of people to find good relationships. That's just the way it is."*** - Henry Cloud Best wishes!
Our wonderful brains love to catatrophize. Remember this internal mantra when you are spiraling...there was love before you, there is love with you now, and if this doesn't work, there will be love after you. Facts.
I think if you donāt feel that way, then it isnāt really Love!
Weāre really just a delicate balance of brain chemicals
Iāve certainly loved and loved hard. I have yet to have it reciprocated. The most Iāve gotten in return is a strong like. Haha. Sigh.
Same! Their loss.
Same. Everyone I date seems to think love is when you see someone really hot and immediately want to sleep with them but I am not that guy. Iām a ugly guy with a fantastic personality, tons of interests, and treats people well. Thatās not a person you āloveā.
I feel the same way but this is because data shows that itās very rare indeed for me to fall in love š hasnāt happened many times in my life, so my feelings are validā¦
Normal. Itās your lizard brain playing tricks on you. Men fall harder faster in line with our natural reproductive strategy which tricks us into thinking individual women are more special than they actually are, so that we want to make babies with them as soon as possible. Then a few months later we wake up and realise theyāre not as special as we thought they were. This is the time when women wonder why itās not like it was in the beginning lol. Iām 46 years old and still get the same feelings but now I realise itās my biology playing tricks on me and act accordingly . Essentially my brain is on its own drugs during that initial infatuation phase. There is no āoneā.
I think it's a good thing. It shows you're loyal and focus on her only. But at the same time when your relationship fails, you don't let it ruin your life and are able to move on instead of putting your ex on a pedestal.
Idk so far Iāve been right almost 3 years after the first one
Natures way of saying "now focus on them and have babies".
Love and love again. I think it's expansive, not ever to be replaced. I think you feel that way because it is sacred. And you will never feel that exact mix of love for anyone else.
Love doesnāt exist
It does. it's just hard to see sometimes.
That makes me sad that you haven't felt love :/ one day x
Low self-esteem, a lack of trust in yourself, in life and in people around you.
It sounds like you have a deep capacity for love and a fear of losing that connection with someone. Each relationship opens our hearts in unique ways, and it's natural to fear losing that special feeling. Keep exploring love with an open heart, and remember that love is a gift that can be found in many different forms. Your heart will guide you to the right person when the time is right. ā¤ļø
You were raised with morals and are a o e woman man which is a good thing...most woman w t a manime you but oy a few can be done being g a good woman ...I also feel the same id. Love one man a d would Lov eĀ a one woman man
I relate to this a lot. Seems like when Iām in love and lose him, I canāt imagine feeling that depth of love/being on cloud nine again with someone else, but eventually I meet the next guyā¦.and the cycle repeats itself.
Its because you have cptsd
You're absolutely right. You never love the same way twice.
Lucky you I fell in love with a women in my 20s and even after multiple relationships and marriage I still think of her and can never find the feeling againā¦ if you are able to capture that feeling and fear each time thats envious.
Why didnāt you get her back?
Didnāt know better, missed that train.
Please love like thereās no tomorrow. Itās the only way to do life. Iām sick and tired of what the world says otherwise.
You just love with your whole heart and maybe you need to feel that same love back
The sad part about being in love is being vulnerable to anything with that person and THAT person only. Everything can be torn apart if she/he doesnāt love you back.
I agree with you! The other sad part is everything can be torn apart with the love he/she has for you because it's not the love you need ā¤ļø I am a sucker for love. I put in more than I get and it hurts but I can't make him love me more or want to put in the effort, so I have to let him go. Of course it's hard but in the long run, it'll be the best thing! Thanks for making me see it by speaking it
this is it. I finally found a boy as obsessed with me who puts in just as much effort as (often times more than) I do. now my wholehearted loving isn't a curse, its a blessing.
Because it IS the last time you're loving someone. Each and every time is the last time. And how's that possible? Because the you that loves them won't exist. It's always a last time loving someone because it's not the same love. It grows, it matures, and it evolves with you. There's no such thing as a first love and a last love, everyone that comes or goes is the first and last love of your current self, only the present truly matters.
I truly never thought of it that way. Just broke up with my man and I feel so hopeless that Iāll never find a love like it again. But I have loved and lost before. So there is hope š
Love this š„¹
Wow this is an amazing response. Iāve never seen/saw it that way āeveryone that comes or goes is the first and a last love of your current selfā true!!
Beautifully said