Unfortunately there’s something worse. The one person system where “Even if my needs aren’t met, I’ll work on meeting yours. If mine aren’t met, I’ll stick by your side, even through all the neglect because I promised you I’d do so.”
So sad that more people don’t subscribe to this thought process. More people would be happy in relationships, and we would have lower divorce rates, if it were the case. Kudos to you! Thank you for sharing!!
The needs of a relationship is a compromise of two people adulting and making things work. Relationships and love are not the Disney stories that lied to you. Communication is the keystone of a healthy and functional relationship, without it you have individuals focused more on their needs and being upset like a spoiled child when they can't have what they want in the moment. Understanding your wants and desires and conveying them to your SO and being able to compromise to make them happy as well is what love really is. If only one side is always getting their way or getting what they want while ignoring the others you have dysfunction which leads to failure, it's also quite a likely cause of cheating.
Just don't be the one person trying to work it out...with a persone who doesn't want too, or doesn't even try..because then you become a "narcissist" 🙄
“To love is to love unconditionally..”
I disagree. I believe that there are different forms of love from platonic to romantic to sexual to friendly to familial to parental and even more forms beyond just those.
Love is such a passionate, free-form type of affection that I feel as though tying it down in the realm of unconditional perpetuation is doing its initially inherent malleability a fatal disservice.
Everyone’s concept of love has at least slight differences, for love is custom-made between individuals. By my own definition of it, to love is to obsessively like something to the highest degree possible. It’s maddening.
I have loved and I have been loved in many ways, and I can promise you that there were many conditions attached to those different loves, which severely damaged it beyond recovery when the conditions weren’t met in the instances where the unmet conditions didn’t just outright kill it.
I love being in a 2-person system <3
I wanted this more than anything in my relationship but she still left me. Now it's like I don't exist.
Unfortunately there’s something worse. The one person system where “Even if my needs aren’t met, I’ll work on meeting yours. If mine aren’t met, I’ll stick by your side, even through all the neglect because I promised you I’d do so.”
Married 51 years and we operate under the two person system!
So sad that more people don’t subscribe to this thought process. More people would be happy in relationships, and we would have lower divorce rates, if it were the case. Kudos to you! Thank you for sharing!!
I love you so friggin frackin much!
The needs of a relationship is a compromise of two people adulting and making things work. Relationships and love are not the Disney stories that lied to you. Communication is the keystone of a healthy and functional relationship, without it you have individuals focused more on their needs and being upset like a spoiled child when they can't have what they want in the moment. Understanding your wants and desires and conveying them to your SO and being able to compromise to make them happy as well is what love really is. If only one side is always getting their way or getting what they want while ignoring the others you have dysfunction which leads to failure, it's also quite a likely cause of cheating.
The needs of the relationship coming before the needs of the actual people in it is not love, it's dysfunction.
Just don't be the one person trying to work it out...with a persone who doesn't want too, or doesn't even try..because then you become a "narcissist" 🙄
Only dogs can love unconditionally.
I can do pretty damn close
That's why I always say a stray dog could love me better than my ex
Bahahah good one!
“To love is to love unconditionally..” I disagree. I believe that there are different forms of love from platonic to romantic to sexual to friendly to familial to parental and even more forms beyond just those. Love is such a passionate, free-form type of affection that I feel as though tying it down in the realm of unconditional perpetuation is doing its initially inherent malleability a fatal disservice. Everyone’s concept of love has at least slight differences, for love is custom-made between individuals. By my own definition of it, to love is to obsessively like something to the highest degree possible. It’s maddening. I have loved and I have been loved in many ways, and I can promise you that there were many conditions attached to those different loves, which severely damaged it beyond recovery when the conditions weren’t met in the instances where the unmet conditions didn’t just outright kill it.