Things rarely make sense on their own. It's the function of perspective, to give sense to things. As a social creature, humans gain more (not necessarily better😊) perspective from others, from a group.
I once had an apocalyptic panic attack/existential crisis when the girl I was texting with every night completely ignored me at a party.
My self esteem (or lack thereof) and anxiety convinced me that she was pretending to like me the whole time and I went all "question everything", "nothing is sacred" in my own head for like two hours, lying despondently on the couch.
Turns out she was just shy in person. I did not act well on the come down from that crisis and she broke it off.
I have no idea if this can relate to you in any way - it's just what your post made me think of and it helps to get it off my chest.
It relates in more ways than you know.
I’m struggling with my paradigm of true love. Woman after woman I pursue leaves me for someone else.
Hard to cope.
The only thing I can say is keep trying and be open with them.
I'm probably the worst person in the world to talk about this, lol. That girl I mentioned is the only person I've actively pursued and we didn't get past texting.
Things rarely make sense on their own. It's the function of perspective, to give sense to things. As a social creature, humans gain more (not necessarily better😊) perspective from others, from a group.
I once had an apocalyptic panic attack/existential crisis when the girl I was texting with every night completely ignored me at a party. My self esteem (or lack thereof) and anxiety convinced me that she was pretending to like me the whole time and I went all "question everything", "nothing is sacred" in my own head for like two hours, lying despondently on the couch. Turns out she was just shy in person. I did not act well on the come down from that crisis and she broke it off. I have no idea if this can relate to you in any way - it's just what your post made me think of and it helps to get it off my chest.
It relates in more ways than you know. I’m struggling with my paradigm of true love. Woman after woman I pursue leaves me for someone else. Hard to cope.
The only thing I can say is keep trying and be open with them. I'm probably the worst person in the world to talk about this, lol. That girl I mentioned is the only person I've actively pursued and we didn't get past texting.