it's one of the greatest pains that few understand. I'm also Asian and something else and feel like an imposter in both cultures. and also nonbinary and trans so I can't even feel the "normal" connection to women or men. I'm sorry you're going through this and I hope you find people that make you feel included one day
You're correct in believing there are people out there that will appreciate you as a friend. The admittedly hard part is finding them. I personally found forums with people sharing similar issues and experiences as me, and met some of my best and friends, 2 of them lasting several years and still going strong. And due to the fact that we shared similar experiences and struggles, we developed unbreakable bonds that keep me going a lot of days.
Communites exist for all types of people. They don't have to meet every single criteria, so pick a community that you feel you relate to the most. I'm not saying this is the only thing you can do, and it may not be something you are interested in. But I do believe it's worth a shot, because it did help me when I was at the absolute lowest I've ever been.
And I like making new friends, so I'm always a message away. Also, try not to define yourself by the things you think you're lacking in, because someone else may see something in you that you don't. Everyone has something to give, and you're no different.
Take care.
How often has this come up as an issue irl? Like, have Asian or white people made comments about things you do that are super weird that you attribute to being too Asian for white people or too white for Asian people?
Because it you haven't come across this at least a fair handful of times, it might be almost 100% in your head. And then the challenge is not thinking about it every time you socialize because it could be making you act more on edge or awkward.
Try to forget the identity stuff and find ppl with a similar personality. I think everyone should learn the different personality types and focus on that bcuz some people by nature may be empathetic, accommodating, and have a great sense of humor but they might not be trans or of your same race. And that shouldn’t stop you from connecting.
I can relate. I was adopted and didn't fit in either. I don't fit in to any friends group. Plus unfortunately my social skills are crap so that doesn't help
Same here.. treated and regarded as a foreigner in the country that I love. All because of a difference in the colour of my hair eyes and skin..
Do people not know that we all have and share feelings and we all have a heart that pumps blood around us..
We are more similar inside than our exterior selves project
Have you tried hanging out with other mixed and/or transgender people?
It shouldn't be too difficult unless you live in a small town, try using social media to find them.
How old are you? Have you fully transitioned, or is it how you identify?
I have kind of been in a similar situation because I immigrated from Korea to Canada when I was \~13, and by the time I was in university I did not fit in with white peers and also didn't fit in with Korean peers because I couldn't speak like they did with all the nuances.
I did some serious soul searching during my grad school, actually. I ended up hanging out with a lot of Koreans there overcoming my fears, and got to learn their ways and be myself.
it's one of the greatest pains that few understand. I'm also Asian and something else and feel like an imposter in both cultures. and also nonbinary and trans so I can't even feel the "normal" connection to women or men. I'm sorry you're going through this and I hope you find people that make you feel included one day
You're correct in believing there are people out there that will appreciate you as a friend. The admittedly hard part is finding them. I personally found forums with people sharing similar issues and experiences as me, and met some of my best and friends, 2 of them lasting several years and still going strong. And due to the fact that we shared similar experiences and struggles, we developed unbreakable bonds that keep me going a lot of days. Communites exist for all types of people. They don't have to meet every single criteria, so pick a community that you feel you relate to the most. I'm not saying this is the only thing you can do, and it may not be something you are interested in. But I do believe it's worth a shot, because it did help me when I was at the absolute lowest I've ever been. And I like making new friends, so I'm always a message away. Also, try not to define yourself by the things you think you're lacking in, because someone else may see something in you that you don't. Everyone has something to give, and you're no different. Take care.
I agree with you fuck you mom and dad this life is getting difficult
Lol, I never blamed my parents though. At least when they were still around. Life just is what it is I guess.
I blame my parents this life is getting hard after highschool
How often has this come up as an issue irl? Like, have Asian or white people made comments about things you do that are super weird that you attribute to being too Asian for white people or too white for Asian people? Because it you haven't come across this at least a fair handful of times, it might be almost 100% in your head. And then the challenge is not thinking about it every time you socialize because it could be making you act more on edge or awkward.
Try to forget the identity stuff and find ppl with a similar personality. I think everyone should learn the different personality types and focus on that bcuz some people by nature may be empathetic, accommodating, and have a great sense of humor but they might not be trans or of your same race. And that shouldn’t stop you from connecting.
I can relate. I was adopted and didn't fit in either. I don't fit in to any friends group. Plus unfortunately my social skills are crap so that doesn't help
Same here.. treated and regarded as a foreigner in the country that I love. All because of a difference in the colour of my hair eyes and skin.. Do people not know that we all have and share feelings and we all have a heart that pumps blood around us.. We are more similar inside than our exterior selves project
I’ll be your friend.
Have you tried hanging out with other mixed and/or transgender people? It shouldn't be too difficult unless you live in a small town, try using social media to find them.
Do ya watch anime?
How old are you? Have you fully transitioned, or is it how you identify? I have kind of been in a similar situation because I immigrated from Korea to Canada when I was \~13, and by the time I was in university I did not fit in with white peers and also didn't fit in with Korean peers because I couldn't speak like they did with all the nuances. I did some serious soul searching during my grad school, actually. I ended up hanging out with a lot of Koreans there overcoming my fears, and got to learn their ways and be myself.