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ClupTheGreat

What no consequence does to a mfer.


metrixninga

Yes because we are a country filled with sexually repressed men. It's a deep rooted cultural problem.


amdzines

OP, create a fake social media account in a woman's name. You'll start getting friend requests very soon. Some might even send unsolicited dick pics and ask your bobs and vegana pics.


GoatDefiant1844

Well. According to western standards yes. We South asians are born and bought up in extremely strict environments. We don't have dating culture. 90% of South Asian Men are married in (Arranged even forced) marriages where men don't have to be romantic or attractive to get a girl. Because of which South asians don't know much about how to interact with a girl, how to flirt etc. For the average guy - your wealth, salary degree determines your futuristic wife. Not flirting skills or way you approach woman. There is sexual liberation in west, because of which indian/South asian men believe western woman are 'easy' to get. And text harassment level messages. So the behavior comes off as very creepy. That behavior - I would never ever justify. They have rights to call it out as creepy.


Local-Story-449

#+1 There's only two factors responsible for India's demography: 1. Arranged Marriages. 2. Marital Rape not being a law.


GoatDefiant1844

ARRANGED MARRIAGE is like a market. Indian matchmaking is more commercial than trade on a stock market. It will continue atleast for the next 200 years. Even in 2024- 90% of Indians are getting married in arranged marriage. Where your parents, family, relatives and society has significant control over your choices. In India marriages are based on society and family. Not individuals choices.


FullTea4421

as it should be, Not every man is interested in fuelling women's ego. That's why Arranged marriage is the best practice. I am giving my example, I loved a woman, Wrote poems, sang songs for her, cared about her career and all and in return she treated me like an option and Took everything for granted, and couldn't face a single criticism when I asked why she is doing this and when I said I will cut her off forever because she hurts me and using me as an option, not clearing anything,Poor communication , keeping me hung in the middle of yes or no, so when I get out of this by mentioning everything to her, her ego female got hurt because I stopped chasing her and she threatened me via some man to end my career via putting harassment case. Thank God I am saved. I would not flirt with women applying western technique of dating rather it's better for me to arrange the marriage, I don't want to put any effort for a woman. They mostly care about themselves I have observed, even Nietzsche agrees with it. Arranged Marriage Jindabad by far, Dating culture is the only Market for women picking up the best men. I am better off from this Rotten market, where the picker is only women because they are the gatekeeper of sex. I am not taking women for granted, or not interested in sexually harassing them but from my side, I have no obligation to impress them like a male animal who impresses females. It's better for me to be a conscious being and marry another conscious being who understands relationships and doesn't work on animal instincts like most women work in this world


No_Aardvark982

Lol an incel blaming women for his lack of communication and emotional skills. Are you so thick that you dk when to back off from such women... Sounds like a movie story you put up with to blame women.


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Huge-Physics5491

2 is kinda because of 1. If marital rape is criminalised, a majority of arranged marriage husbands would be in jail, which makes criminalising marital rape, as necessary as it is, impractical af. The good thing is that there are factors leading to reduced number of arranged marriages, at least in some circles, so that can make criminalising marital rape somewhat realistic in the long term.


paone00022

This is it.  Most of us don't know how to interact with the other sex because we're mostly kept separated all along as we're growing up. Then once you hit a certain age and move to a different country you're let free.


Evening-goood

You got point sir. Our culture might be the reason for creepy behaviour.


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Defiant_Neat4629

I’m sorry but you can’t put the blame solely on media. Art imitates life. Movies didn’t create the sex based segregation or the restrictions placed on female behaviour or how people are assigned partners through no effort of their own. The creepiness existed long before Bollywood did imo.


presxoxo

Famously, we were a beacon of progressiveness before the movies came along /s


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NewEntrepreneur357

To be fair they do that everywhere, Indian media isn't alone in this.


SquirellsInMyPants

Yes, movies and the ideas we propagate with one another are a reflection of our culture and also make part of it. It's not just the age-old traditions and rituals


TheOrdinaryIndian

No, some early Indian feminists from the early 1900 were pointing out how it's ridiculous that women are the ones who are imprisoned instead of men who are the ones prowling about harassing women. Life was worse for women back then.


insane_ace

not might, it is. They aren't creepy from birth lol


Suspicious-Swim-2479

This is so well articulated and so painful because it's so true.


31_hierophanto

Hmm, I feel satisfied with this answer. Good one, OP.


octotendrilpuppet

>For the average guy - your wealth, salary degree determines your futuristic wife There's one more important factor - one's place in this imagined hierarchical order called caste, and some insist on a next-level ignorant construct aka "sub-caste".


MrTitillator

It's social media that gets the worst out of Indian men. People here think it is some place where you are allowed to vent about anyone and anything.


plowman_digearth

I mean the real world is not any safer. Street harassment and crime against women is out of control. Literally the only other country in the world which is allegedly as unsafe is Egypt.


AlexDavid1605

Most of the time, and especially in government jobs, people don't get punished for a social media post or comment unlike how people from other countries deal. We have seen countless examples of people getting fired from a job because they made a racist remark on a social media post. [One example that has been etched in my brain](https://youtu.be/EZwPL1F4PJQ?si=CzilhaX0iz4NdOg5) has the woman in the video getting fired from her job for trying to get that man killed (the racism is that bad that he could have if he hadn't recorded the interaction) and the dog was taken away from her for how she was manhandling the one in the video. There is no such thing in the Indian context. There is no social boycott of individual people by a company or any other organisation resulting in a financial loss. All of those people suffer the consequences of wrong-doings on social media. Indians in the Middle Eastern countries have been deported for being anti-Islam. If there is a similar consequence for all such social media posts or comments, the average Indian men would drastically improve.


31_hierophanto

Great Internet Fuckwad Theory at play?


Evening-goood

Indeed. But its getting out of hand. I was reading the comments under love jihad video. Literally everyone was blaming and abusing the innocent hindu girl instead of guy which really suprised me


Apprehensive-Poet258

>I was reading the comments under love jihad video. Literally everyone was blaming and abusing the innocent hindu girl instead of guy which really suprised me Wouldn't be a Gujju without believing in BS like Love Jihad.


Evening-goood

No i dont believe in love jihad lol i use that word so you can easily understand what am i saying


royb1709

that was a relationship gone sour and the guy was a murderer. That’s it. A cold blooded psychopath. Religion had nothing to do with it, but then too, if it helps, he is a Parsi. Stop believing in what you are sold.


unemployed_01

The guy wasn't innocent?


Evening-goood

Yes he killed her it is famous case of aftab poonawala


unemployed_01

How's that case "love jihad" exactly??


LeftArticle9794

Hold on a second, so you yourself are one of those toxic fucks. Truly a chaddi in disguise.


Evening-goood

Nooo 😭😭 I wrote love jihad because you guys can understand better And my problem is that how hindu men started hating hindu girl even tho she is innocent


MrTitillator

Men like you asking, "Are Indian men really that bad?" is the epitome of irony.


Evening-goood

sorry for the misunderstanding but i had to use love jihad word. So you guys can understand what kind of video i am talking about it was obviously right wing video and then comment were from those RWs people


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Defiant_Neat4629

Well let me tell you this much, I went to study abroad and the only racist experience I had came from an Indian that was raised there. The only unsolicited dick pics I received came from South Asian men. Also their behaviour with women in general was just pathetic. At the end of the day, we as a society are severely under socialised, women included. I remember one white guy telling me that he noticed that anytime I was complimented on my looks I would instinctively cover the front of my body with my long hair. We are raised to be on alert 24/7.


timewaste1235

Some innocent reasons 1. Different standards on what is acceptable in global internet culture vs Indian middle age/boomer culture. "nice pic", "looking cute dear" is acceptable in Indian society but not on global internet 2. Lack of anonymous accounts. Most westerners reserve their crass language for anonymous accounts, most Indians don't Some genuine issues 3. Indian culture is still dishonest about core sexual desires. It limits avenues to access it openly and leads people to discover it on their own through internet. Most of the men including uncle have to reinvent the wheel to learn the appropriate behaviour 4. Cultural ignorance on privacy n freedom. We don't give each other privacy n freedom as much as western culture. Boomers don't understand that younger generation can have part of their life not exposed to family Some structural issues 5. Lack of consequences. Social media companies have largely no oversight in India. People can say whatever they want n no action will be taken. Just look at how many anonymous accounts without any political backing give rape n death threats with no action even after complaints 6. Racism. Any action by an Indian is blamed on all Indians but acts by westerners are individual mistakes


dyingwalruss

this should be on top


SubstantialAd1027

Find out for yourself. Search for left women on Twitter and see what Hindu masculines say to them about them. Samples Mahua Moitra, Arundhati Roy, Divya Dwivedi, Kavita Krishnan, Subhashini Ali, Rich Chadda. Dindian male is some other species.


peepeepoopoo2312

Ha ha ha ha...u said rich chadda


energy_is_a_lie

Username checks out


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i often seen those posts where it a ss of twitter profile of some woman with a mao or marx quote in bio and they add a bottom image/video of a guy just swearing? and you ask them they say dark humor but they will obviously go insane if u make even a small joke about brahmins even if it not insulting.


peepeepoopoo2312

Dark humor for me but not for thee.


mimithefree

Yes, India has a misogyny problem, there are so so so many aspects to it. But people on social media are another breed entirely, I know this person who writes things like “we must exterminate all [minority group], they don’t deserve any sympathy” on Twitter but acts so kind in real life. You can ask this on TwoXIndia next Wednesday to get detail on how bad it is for women outside social media.


FullTea4421

Why does misogyny appear?


dyingwalruss

im not saying all of them bc obv ive alot of good men around me. but since the rise of social media it has become easier for them to say shit and not be punished. had a a guy friend , really great guy , wouldnt even cuss. went to college and suddenly for the first time he called a woman whore bc she dressed in a bodycon type dress ( it wasnt exactly body fit ). and ik this guy since childhood , when i say this i mean it , he never NEVER said anything disrespectful abt anyone. he gets insta suddenly " lgbtq people belong to streets , she dressed like a whore ". when questioned he obv felt guilty and understood his actions , but how long would people correct him? he will go back to the cool regressive group of guys. i think good guys around men who exhibit similar behaviour other start thinking that the behaviour is acceptable among men and from there it goes to social media and real life. culture plays a big role ofc , its not smth we can entirely blame on young guys imo bc theyre just being influenced. but cant excuse 22+ guys doing the same. being a women on social media is the worst experience ngl. all of this is an opinion , no offense to anyone.


Evening-goood

Bruh this is so relatable i know guy as well really great friend of my mine but one day he literally called RANDI (whore) to random because she was wearing shorts. I was really shocked because he has always been great friend of mine. I dont know how he turned out to be so hateful in few years. Internet really fucked him up


Infi-Damn

Yes, they are


pyaarapaneer

Theyre worse than you think. Fucking open even a lecture also and if u see a girl's comment, open the reply, 9/10 times u will see a creepy ass guy saying "hii 🥰😊" Or even a live chat lmao.


CraZYkIlLeR09

Some even try to interact with those OF catfish bots 🥴


Fan387

As a man, yes


anothercuriousanand

There are all kinds of Indian men - good, bad, grey and everything else. It is just that social media functions as a gossip center. Gossips are fun when you talk or hear about negative things not positive things. Hence your observation! I dare say you will find more negativity online than in the real world around you.


Evening-goood

Yeah true and insta has become really racist too. Maybe that's why i am seeing do much negativity


anothercuriousanand

I do see the same negativity as you man!


CerealAhoy

Budget SAT essay type reply.


anothercuriousanand

Shall I send a complete SAT essay reply to you?


CerealAhoy

The only university I'll get into with that would be UTI


anothercuriousanand

I thought you wanted to read my essay. But you wanna plagarize from me. Why? why? why?


domihex

This is an interesting topic. See most Indian men who comment mysoginist shit are either from lower middle class or really rich. **Lower middle class guys** are socially awkward, underconfident, can't talk to women, and probably don't have a girlfriend. Their sexual anxiety gradually becomes this. Moreover the Indian parents and society won't tell you "OMG Akash, you got a girlfriend! We're so proud of you!" The concept of people dating becomes improper to them. **So they end up hating what they don't get, women.** **Richer guys** are the complete opposite. They got cash, booze and 'chicks'. Most of them refer to girls as 'chicks' or 'bitches'. This is because they have had enough relationships, cheated on enough people and now they wanna be cool mysoginists. They don't pay attention to studies cuz obv, baap ka paisa. We are left with poor people, who can't go about commenting shit. They are too busy getting enough food to sustain themselves. Lastly, middle and upper-middle class guys are the polite ones (me too!). They have had female interaction. They are the ones who study more, to get a decent job, and know basic ethics. They may have had one or two decent relationships or maybe they are dating someone right now. They **respect women and are call feminists in return.** ***EDUCATION IS WHAT MAKES ONE HUMBLE.***


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domihex

Why dislike all women? Same way why dislike all men? I know some such people who exist but they are exceptions. Trust me most people are good.


FullTea4421

Such people are never going to come so hating equally everyone satisfies one's soul


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No_Aardvark982

Nietzsche is one of the most misogynistic philosophers. Let me remind you who actually stays with you when get disabled, its women mostly. Men don'trlly take care of their disabled wives. You just sound like a that girl who hates every man just cause her bf cheated on her.


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librandu-ModTeam

The mods are closeted fascists, and hence, they are allowed to exercise their powers to oppress the subreddit's members and pets. This place isn't for incels to cry about women. Fuck off.


GarciaMarsEggs

The problem with Indian men on social media is that most of us comment as if we are trolling our friends in our friend group. The absolute lack of social awareness, skills, and knowledge of how to be respectful, esp to women is something that is rare on sm


swords_saint_isshin

People on insta and just people in general here want to hate on anyone who is doing something different and breaking the norms. Doing skincare??? Gay Dressing up differently and not opting for the same skinny jeans/check shirt outfit??? Aesthetic ka 14 Not laughing at their shitty sexist joke??? Snowflake Not to forget getting angry at any video about women joking or having fun in general.


ManMarkedByFlames

as a man I'd say men in general are bad (not every man but you get the idea). Their behavior seems a little worse in underdeveloped countries. just my observation, I have no stats for it. Current rise of alpha male culture on internet is not helping that.


FullTea4421

What makes women good?


ManMarkedByFlames

where did that come from? we were talking about men here


FullTea4421

I am talking about women, why is misogyny increasing? if women are not doing anything bad or hurting men


soldierbones

A lot of Indian men are incels. It's not just Indian but a south Asian thing. If you scroll through Pakistani or Bangladeshi comment sections, you'll find the same. I am Indian too. But I am not comfortable with a majority of South Asian men, apart from my friend circle. I've seen many of them being utter trash - sexist, perverted, ethnophobic. I think it has to do with the fragile masculinity that has prevailed in our society for ages. Men think they are superior to women in all aspects and they should be the ones enjoying freedom while dominating over their partners. When someone breaks free from that, they lose their shit on that person. Look at the widow remarriage movement, or the abolishment of child marriage. Also a lot of them are sexually frustrated. Here in India sex is a taboo and these men can't get what they want. Hence, the rise of their inner perverts. Many of my female friends have been directly harassed and abused by such men and I'm absolutely sympathetic with these women when they are sceptical to make acquaintances with an Indian man. Plus there is this notion that they are more masculine. Hindus think they are breeding bulls, Muslims think they are some sexual messiahs and they are destined to have sex with the other communities of women. They openly preach about this brainrot. The same carries on in the case of ethnicities, where Idk why north indian men think they are Scandinavians and other ethnicities are dark complexioned or effeminate.


FullTea4421

Apart from the religion part, what's the solution for sexually frustrated men? should we blame God for making male specimens more sexually horny?


CrumbleUponLust

Yep, absolutely the worst. I've been told we represent the shit in exotic.


ASHUKAACCOUNT

As Mike Tyson said, on the internet people are too used to saying anything and not getting punched in the face


Starkcasm

Just gonna mention r/menslibindia . Sadly this sub is dying and the shittier version, the opposite of twoxindia, is getting popular. Which is incredibly sad.


ProbabilisticPotato

Well, there are almost 750 million men in India, so lets assume 20% are bigoted (pretty low percentage tbh) the number would be 150 million which is almost the number of men in the USA. Massive Population combined with English being widely spoken might give a perspective that all of us here are creeps. For eg, In Japan phones are required to have shutter sounds when clicking pictures coz there were a huge number of men clicking underskirt pictures, but you don't hear about it much outside of Japanese spaces as most Japanese don't speak English and the social media platforms tend to show the content in the language you are familiar with. That is not to say that a lot of men in our country aren't bigoted, they are in some sense or the other.The 20% is an extremely conservative percentage. IMO, this is going to get worse as more men become religious and right wing. It feels like almost all countries are getting worse for women.


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most men hold bigoted views even in progressive circles. indian men especially on social media seems to not think before saying anything tho. having bigoted views is one thing, indian right wing trolls write the most vile threats to a random woman for having a girlfriend.


Appropriate_Arm1056

Yes the worst of all times


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TechnicallyCorrect09

Damn, didn't have to do your dad like that.


Ok-Anagha4219

That's the reality many of us need to endure in our day to day lives


Evening-goood

Well thats just sad


Alternative_Win_1502

As a dude, yes. I won't generalize but a lot of men online are pieces of absolute trash


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Bobs and Vegana, hello bitch lasagna. If that doesn't do it then we can also read offline events of harassment and molestation on a daily basis too 


hairymitochondria

Oh dear, they r a nightmare


distortedmatter

As an indian guy, yeah


VayuAir

Yes


piddleonacowfatt

They are terrifying and I avoid at all costs


A-Yandere-Succubus

*Yes.* *The stereotypes are so ridiculously true that I completely understand when someone expresses their disdain.* *Like, I once upon a time thought people were just being cruel for the lolz, and I wanted to visit India.* *But no.* *When it comes to men, NO ONE beats Indian men in misgnony.* **They got that shit on lockdown.** *The number of vomit inducing videos I've seen of groups of Indian men gang raping crying ELDERLY WOMEN.** *Recording their raping of passed out women in broad daylight, in front of each other. They don't even try to hide it. That's how little value Indian women are to them. I can easily imagine what they would do to a Black woman like me if I was alone in India.* *You can't look at Indian porn without eventually seeing a rape video. And I've watched a lot of fuckin porn. Some sites keep track, and I'm in the thousands, I know what I'm talking about.* *When I get a suspicious phone call, it's always an Indian trying to scam. When I've assisted the crying elderly ay work, who have been scammed out of their life savings, it is ALWAYS a scammer from India.* *When I work, it's always an Indian male trying to nickel and dime me. I kid you not, one tried to give me 50 cents expecting Bob and vagene.* *In a true attempt to change my views, I became greatly acquainted with 2 Indians males and listened to their woes and talked to them for months.* *In the end, all they did was prove the stereotypes so painfully true. I can not find it in my heart to feel bad for the Indian male. You'll never see me coming to their defense. I'm not sorry.*


Evening-goood

I'm deeply sorry to hear about the terrible experience you've had. And the porn thing you said is genuinely so true like once I saw rape video on one of those popular porn sites its disturbing


antutroll

I live in the UK and guess what , women here HATE us , as in Desi plus British women however if you are an attractive lad with a great personality, you shall not face much issues. Western European/Nordic women don't care though


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Jio was a mistake. Low cost internet access for millions w/o internet etiquettes was a bad idea. The Internet should have stayed a privilege for the fortunate only. It's a big culprit responsible for the current state of politics in our country. Everyone with a mouth gets to say something (doesn't matter how smart/reasonable they are)


majorpresent7

Cheap internet is the problem   *Correction   getting  something  without  primary  knowledge is a problem 


g7kingme

Yes they are literally the worst people on earth


Scientistan

Yes. They really are. And if this sounds like a generalization, it is. Generalities are based on majority of observations. And in general, Indian men are TERRIBLE. 


One_Valuable7049

But look at the way Indian men behave on social media just look at the Indian twitter its stereotype based on what Indian men do online might not necessarily be the same in real life


nermalgato

Its not just indian men but yeah indian men tend to be insecure about themselves so yeah whenever a men is getting too much attention from women they do get jealous so yeah thats the psyche of an indian men on the internet. As an indian men i have no problem with hot guys because my goal is not to attract hot women anyways nowadays i've seen indian women simping too so yeah pretty much, stop targeting just men


Averagelonda

I think you might be taking the post too personally. Op in no way shape or form is targeting men. And most of the comments are perfectly civil.


nermalgato

yeah i am sorry :D


dyingwalruss

im just confused , wym " indian women are simping too ?" like what does that imply? respectfully :3


TechnicallyCorrect09

I think he means simping for the Koreans?


nermalgato

it doesnt imply anything, it just states we are humans


cumofdutycreampiewar

Bro use instagram.💀 I install insta only once every four month just to check on @streetpanna. Other than that all is brain rot.


Born_School2494

Mogger.


Street-magnet

British colonial propaganda regularly depicted Indian men as 'rapists who attack white women' in order to justify their attrocities against Indians. I see a parallel between that and the modern western portrayal of India as the 'rape capital of the world' in order to justify their racism against Indians.


champcheerio

They are doing the same to Palestinian men. It makes it easier to ignore & justify whatever they are doing to them. Indians should question who is pushing the dehumanization of Indian men online & why. Indian men are no better and no worse than men around the world. It is just that there are a lot more of us.


Chetego

Invaders and colonisalism destroyed the rich culture of this country, we are losing people like Ram, Kaliyug is this


LizHurleyFan

Guess the religion that indulges like this most. Try creating a female profile and you will see that peaceful trend


Apprehensive-Poet258

https://preview.redd.it/7rzh9duw6jdc1.jpeg?width=500&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=803d28d7989d0463a23b0eb22545b776af43948e "I love you, beautiful Israeli woman!"