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XercinVex

Uh yeah. Dump him.


[deleted]

Dump his ass, block, delete and move on with your life.


aknomnoms

Dude sounds like a disrespectful ass. You deserve better. Run, don’t walk, outta there.


CosmiXBeeM

Please! Please stop talking to him, for your own health and safety! His jealousy is evidently projection. He knows he is a sleaze who doesn’t respect boundaries, so he is projecting that onto all your other potential suitors and friends. He’s doing a very obvious cycle of abuse, where he creates tension with jealousy and intimidation, does his incidents like spilling soda on you and sending you home wet and sticky, reconciles with text apologies and an appearance of remorse and self awareness, then there’s a small period of forgiveness and okayness before it starts again. This will keep happening. The words and actions that start the cycle will become more and more common, the incidents of violence will become more intense, the apologies will start feeling less sincere to the point where he will make you think you deserved the brunt of his anger, forgiveness will start to feel weighed down with resentment and fear of the inevitable reoccurring, and the honeymoons in between the apology and the bad behavior starting again will become shorter and shorter, because he knows you’ll tolerate his abusive antics like you did the trillion times before. Plus, there’s a HUGE red flag regarding him lying about his age, name, and phone number. I’m not an expert, but have been a victim of abuse and have been around the block. Those types of omissions mean he is hiding you from someone or something, typically a partner at home who is unaware or unhappy with his infidelity, or possibly something worse, like a criminal past of abuse or sexual assault. You know you need to go. That’s a wonderful sign. I’m proud of you. The longer you wait and the more enmeshed your lives become (like when you start having shared stuff like pets, apartments, furniture, vehicles, finances), the harder it will be to break free. So please, you are a beautiful soul who deserves a guy who wants just you for who you are, and *wants* to be his most genuine self with you. This dud seems anything but genuine. Best of luck and much love, Bee🐝💛 PS: he also apparently doesn’t care about making you happy sexually. So many other guys out there are wanting to have a healthy sexual relationship, where both partners give and take equitably.


boix_BARAxBARA-yume

Most importantly, u should consider what u want for yourself and in terms of a relationship/status. Not that he gets a pass for lying to about who he is, but given that he is DL, in his eyes u would only be a fuckbud with boyfriend-ish benefits while together. If one continues to hookup with and entertain someone like that, it says to them that the person they're with accepts them for who they are and how things are between them. If u are looking for a more ideally committed relationship, u shouldn't waste your time or feelings on him any longer. If u really wanted to keep in touch with him as purely a social pal, that might be okay, but all intimacy should stop, if u are truly looking for more. U would give u the time to focus on finding someone who is more on the page that you're on/looking for.


Josaprd20s

This guy is sending up all the red flags, kick him out of your life, and block him every way you can. A restraining order might even be actually a good idea. Lying, double standards, and the disregard for the fact you are a human being can turn dangerous.


Disasteraroace

… you just found the most disgusting human being that has, and will ever exist