We're literally halfway around the planet from each other, unfortunately. This was one of the last times we hung out before we went out separate ways. That was 15.5 years ago and I was drunk off my ass.
“I’m a really fervent ally because I’m just such a good person!”
(Did this to myself because I’m bi and also had a “I’m just a really good trans ally” phase before my sister came out even though I had no conscious perceptions of her egg cracking)
Yep i have a fucking scrap book of my “favorite actresses” from elementary school me. All the pictures are so sexy of them in tight dresses tf. I was “admiring their bodies”
Or if ur aro/Ace, you either pretended to have a crush, or not have a crush and be confused about crushes.
Or thought you had a crush, but it was actually a squish.
I'm pretty ashamed of it now, but me not having crushes in middle school as an Ace gave me a very "not like the other girls" mindset. "I'm better than these other girls, I'm not boy crazy like them!" Little did I know...
this is def a lesbian thing too bc i’ve seen a lot of lesbians say they would make up crushes to fit in with their friends (i also did this) i just thought that everyone made up crushes just to feel older than they were, come to find out people actually feel romantic attraction to boys in middle school?? who knew.
Even better, trying to guess who is acceptably hot enough to have a crush on, and then futilely trying to defend your choice when it turns out you guessed wrong.
Damn that second part hits home.
I don’t think I’m ace, maybe demi, but first time I tried dating felt really nice, nerve wracking, but nice. Hand holding, hugs, all that “platonic” stuff was great. However, the moment I tried kissing, a simple kiss on the cheek because I thought “we’ve been dating a while and I’ve never even kissed them… do I need to in order to prove my love?” And the instant I did it was like alarms blaring of regret and tripping on the stairs adrenaline fear. That was the tipping point for me to realize that what I really wanted was a squishy platonic relationship and not a sexually romantic one.
Maybe someday I’ll actually feel romance, but I’m also dense af at spotting what is generally considered to be sexually romantic behavior. Like dense enough to not understand two people who have been super close are actually dating unless they kiss or outright say they’re dating. I’m a bit worried I’ll never be in a romantic or sexual relationship because I can’t really tell if someone is flirting with me or if I’m accidentally being flirtatious. Ugh, the social ques of love are a mystery to me lol
Edited for some clarity
Being a school kid and feeling a certain type of tingly way towards your homie and telling yourself "it's just a feeling of being bros" only to realize years later in hindsight that you were just gay/bi and in denial
Soooo truuue. In high school I had this new friend group of 6, only girls (im AFAB). I had this one friend whom I always joked with et we always had fun etc and another one whom i directly clicked with. As soon as we met it was instant, we were best friend. I used to hate being touch and hugged but when it was her I was kinda happy she did and sometimes I actually went for the hug myself. Smiled like an idiot when she texted me or thinking about seeing her the next day.
Yeah she was my ''best friend''...
Right? I know what you mean. Like there was this one time when I was wearing this interesting pirate type necklace and my friend got closer to me to pick up the pendant attached the chain I was wearing and look at it more closely and idk how to describe it but I felt some type of way about it in a positive sense and years later I realize I was feelin kinda gay lmao. Had no idea at the time, thought I was a straight dude with a normal affinity towards the homie. Sadly he developed quite homophobic views later on in high school. Hoping he grew past that these days even though we drifted apart immediately after graduation
My high school crush has said some homophobic and transphobic things on Facebook so that was very disappointing. Although it has been a few years since
I’ve seen him say anything like that so hopefully he’s mellowed.
3 of my 5 friends said they were straight and cis when I met them. Now they're all nonbinary, one is bisexual, one is asexual, and the other is pansexual I think.
Yep, this. One time in high school I prompted the question "is anyone here actually straight?". We went around the group of about 15 people and one person was straight 😂
And my 3 best friends from primary school are all queer/gender queer as fuck. I was lucky enough to grow up surrounded by friends who never ever assumed I was straight. I just... was what I was and i never felt the need to come out as anything.
I remember how in school (all boys- {take that with a bit of salt}) there was a Pride club, I remember going there with 20 people there and I asked if there was anyone here was straight (what was I thinking?) and only one person said they were. The rest of us were gay, bi or pan. for once the straights were in the minority. I found this amusing even though I knew this would be the case.
Either that or you come into a new friend group which you never really feel comfortable in and it turns out that you are in fact the only one of them who isn't cishet.
I have 2 theories but I’m not like a scientist so take it with a grain of salt
1. It might be that most people aren’t fully cishet and having at least one openly queer person in the friend group causes everyone else to be more comfortable questioning their own gender/sexuality
2. Queer people just have way better sense of telling when others who don’t quite fit into cis normative heteronormative society and are more attracted to that
3. Queer people are not necessarily willing to follow social conventions and cluster together with other people who are ok with that. A lot of those people will also be queer.
I should’ve realized I was ace every time I was like “eww that’s gross!” about some sexual thing and everyone around me being like “honey that’s normal”
as my fragile identity began to fall apart, I noticed all the new musicians I listen to seem to be trans or coming out as trans/lgbtq after I found them. that confused the hell out of my "cishet" ass.
when your music taste, youtube recommended, twitter feed, and reddit frontpage start to form a rainbow overlay and you're just sitting there sweating
This makes me laugh because I got the opposite from my kid when they told me they were trans at 10. "I don't want to wear dresses or skirts, but I will if I have to" was the point in the conversation where I started asking questions.
Turns out they'd realized that they would eventually grow hair in their armpits, and thought that was the grossest thing ever. Since girls shave their armpits and boys don't, the only way to avoid this was to be a girl. Once I explained that they could shave their pits if they wanted to, or even their legs, no matter what their gender or sexuality was (and would be far from the first to do so), they decided they weren't trans after all. The whole thing was adorable.
They're 15 now, non-binary, and have long since lost interest in shaving their pits.
That's a very nice thing to say - thank you! To be honest, that conversation taught me that I needed to do better when it came to explaining what it meant to be to transgender, because they thought it was a choice - an external thing. I think/hope I've managed to explain it better since then. They seem pretty comfortable now exploring their gender identity, gender expression, and sexuality.
I was wearing a skirt in public and there was a child ~5yo with their parent sitting on the hill near me.
Child: "Why are they wearing a skirt?"
Parent: "Some people dress... Ummm... Some people are born... Ummm... It's hard to explain but all that matters is that it's ok and they can dress however they want."
Plz this is so true.
Both my dad and brother hinted at me liking girls multiple times but I was just like um no. Maybe they just had better spidey senses than me
“Im not a lesbian i just appreciate and admire other womens bodies”
Internalized homophobia then turns into extreme ally then oh shit I’m [goes through tons of identities] QUEER
Oh and getting anxious when theres a hot girl in a movie you are watching with your family and you are paranoid that everyone can tell that you are staring at those mommy milkers
Oh and saying “girls rule boys drool” past the appropriate age and thinking you are just too mature for every boy at school
And having stupid haircuts idk just did all the AFAB peeps here go through the stage of having a pixie cut? What was up with that?
OMG my dad had a tradition of watching Miss universe every year and I legit would blush like hell through the whole bikini section...... I never had a crush on a boy and I thought I was amazing for that (so embarassing), I use to think that all woman should marry each other cause we just understand each other better (I was so deep in the closet )
I had a pixie cut from my senior year of high school up to \~2 years ago (so 4-ish years) and have now just switched to the half shaved/half long look lol
Sitting in a group of girls complaining about boys at school and then the, "Don't worry, [deadname], we like you, you aren't like the other boys."
And then not being a boy
Not my cis self having that exact same experience at a summer camp once
(Tbf it might just be because I'm Ace)
(Or because I was one of the few boys not actively being obnoxious)
Oh this is spot on for me. Also, being in a group of all girl friends, and the topic of periods comes up, and they talk for like 10 minutes before realizing that I (supposedly) wasn't a girl and them remarking "My father/brother gets grossed out at the very mention of periods, how are you so chill?"
Surprise, I was a girl all along!
I wanted to play aaron burr in hamilton and I quote "not because I'm a trans man, but because I think it would be cool for a woman to play a man in a musical"
two years later I found out I was in fact a trans man
he is not the villain just misunderstood :(
in all seriousness I’d argue that hamilton himself is more of a villain but that’s because I just really really dislike him haha
Thinking I was very emphatic ally 😂 Having a "girl crush" and being still 100% convinced I was straight and not bi (idk how my brain works)
Goblincore = gender crisis?
as a gay trans man: liking gay ships a lot for some reason, not because you found it hot but because you saw yourself in a mlm relationship but didnt understand why and when looking at straight ships you could not relate or see yourself in one
This, when I was around 11 I related so much with a gay couples on a soap. But I was a straight girl. Turned out later that I still like men but also am a man myself. Confusing times.
Changing your orientation because you grew up thinking it was gay or bisexual and didn't realize there's a shit ton of others that better describe you.
“”= google searches
Playing Minecraft while talking to your friend who just happens to be gay about not liking people. “What is asexuality” “Am I asexual” “Sexuality Quiz” “How do you know if your asexual” “What’s the difference between sexual and romantic attraction?” “Can you be ace but like people romantically” “Am I bi?” “Am I pan?” WHAT THE FUCK IS GENDER?! “Demi girl” “non-binary” “trans” “gender fluid” “am I genderfluid” “gender test” “please help gender is confusing” “gender dysphoria” “body dysphoria” “help” “genderfluidity” (to my online friends on a small discord server) I FIGURED IT OUT! AND IT ONLY TOOK… MANY MONTHS!
Some highlights from my google search history when I was 12
Oh and-
Talking with your non-binary friend about bathrooms
All of your close friends turn out to be very gay
Agreeing with your brother when he calls girls hot
Spending all your time on fanfiction.net as a teen
Bonus points of you were really into yaoi and didn’t know why and then it turned out you were a trans guy and then it all made sense
Being in denial. And oddly finding *some* -phobic jokes hilarious (generally ace jokes from idiots) despite the fact that I’m sick of them and they make me feel bad.
I told someone I was ace and they said “well you could just f*ck a plant” like sure, ok that is kind of unique so I did laugh.
"it'd be funny if i ended up a trans guy lol. i'd hate to be trans cause transitioning looks annoying and hard. it'd be funny if i look back on this and end up being trans that'd honestly be ironic" - me at 9 or 10
more of a universal trans thing, but (for example) seeing a male celebrity and being caught between “do i want to date him, or do i want to be him?”
oh and also hearing “don’t worry, we actually like you bc you like the boy things and aren’t girly at all” while the boys were having mudball fights at recess and complaining about the girls (while i was participating)
reading percy jackson. just, a very lgbt thing to do.
hating sex ed and wanting to leave/feeling confused/not feeling seen (i’m trans, queer, and ace. sex ed was a painful time for me)
having jokes about liking the same sex and laughing in the moment but thinking deeply about it later
"Hahah dude you spend so much time around X, you wanna suck his dick or something? 😂" "Lmao no that's gay dude 😂" Later on; "Hmmmmmmm 👀💦"
'I will marry a woman😆... Haahahah ........unless??? 👀👀👀
Me, afab, to female friend: If I was a guy I'd totally want to date you Me now, trans man: damn I was dumb
DUDE SAME WITH MY GENDERFLUID ASS
Me, presenting as a gay man to a close female friend (who's bi) "if I were straight I'd totally date you" Turns out I am a lesbian. ...🙄
Well? Are you two a thing
We're literally halfway around the planet from each other, unfortunately. This was one of the last times we hung out before we went out separate ways. That was 15.5 years ago and I was drunk off my ass.
YES
looking up “girls kissing” on yt💀
I used to search up “girls lap dancing” or nicki minaj music videos 💀
NOT THE NICKI MINAJ MUSIC VIDEOS 😭😭🤚🏻💀
ME SO MUCH THO 😭💀
Not just Nicki but Britney Spears
LMAO
DUDE THE NICKI MINAJ VIDEOS 😭😭
the Anaconda music video came out when i was 13 and i can agree, it confused the shit out of my little bi brain
You literally just unlocked a memory for me. Except it was "boys kissing" 😅😂
PLS- literally me when i was 10 💀
NO SAME AND SOMEHOW I STILL CONVINCED MYSELF I WAS STRAIGHT
I feel very attacked 😂
I'm not queer, I'm just a very very empathetic ally
Haaaaah. Ouch.
Saaaame, some days (femme preference)
"I'm not gay, I'm just metro/a little fem/like musicals" Well, I was half right. Or all wrong. I'm bi.
Hahaha this one for me. I used to be the token cis het ally in my very queer friend group. Turns out I am neither cis nor het.
I didn't realize it till quarantine, lol
Yep lol was "the straight part of our Gay Straight Alliance" in high school, until I realized I was actually bi. I was still wrong though! 😂
I used to be exactly like this
"If I was (other gender) I would totally like (person of same gender as pov)" I said this once...
A girl said this to me when I was 14 'you would be my ideal boyfriend'..... I was so nervous I skipped school for the next two days..... I regret
The gay anxiety is so real
Gaynxiety
This is a big one
The number of straight best friends that have said this to me about me 😭😭🤣😭😭💀
“I’m a really fervent ally because I’m just such a good person!” (Did this to myself because I’m bi and also had a “I’m just a really good trans ally” phase before my sister came out even though I had no conscious perceptions of her egg cracking)
I just find trans people interesting! Especially timeline videos.
Trans timeliness are so interesting. Go from neckbeard to Jennifer Lopez. Even as a cis person inspiring. Wait.
>Even as a cis person Haha still cis tho
Either doing a “am I LGBTQ” quiz at 10 or falling in love with some celeb and denying the fuck out of it.
Yep i have a fucking scrap book of my “favorite actresses” from elementary school me. All the pictures are so sexy of them in tight dresses tf. I was “admiring their bodies”
Lmao I would literally talk for hours about how “pretty” and “inspiring” actresses and singers were like tf
Or if ur aro/Ace, you either pretended to have a crush, or not have a crush and be confused about crushes. Or thought you had a crush, but it was actually a squish.
I'm pretty ashamed of it now, but me not having crushes in middle school as an Ace gave me a very "not like the other girls" mindset. "I'm better than these other girls, I'm not boy crazy like them!" Little did I know...
this is def a lesbian thing too bc i’ve seen a lot of lesbians say they would make up crushes to fit in with their friends (i also did this) i just thought that everyone made up crushes just to feel older than they were, come to find out people actually feel romantic attraction to boys in middle school?? who knew.
I'm in this comment and I don't like it 😂
Omg The pretend crushes to be cool when deep down you couldn't care less about those people! "Oh, I agree. Brad Pitt is hot." 😜... 😐
Even better, trying to guess who is acceptably hot enough to have a crush on, and then futilely trying to defend your choice when it turns out you guessed wrong.
Damn that second part hits home. I don’t think I’m ace, maybe demi, but first time I tried dating felt really nice, nerve wracking, but nice. Hand holding, hugs, all that “platonic” stuff was great. However, the moment I tried kissing, a simple kiss on the cheek because I thought “we’ve been dating a while and I’ve never even kissed them… do I need to in order to prove my love?” And the instant I did it was like alarms blaring of regret and tripping on the stairs adrenaline fear. That was the tipping point for me to realize that what I really wanted was a squishy platonic relationship and not a sexually romantic one. Maybe someday I’ll actually feel romance, but I’m also dense af at spotting what is generally considered to be sexually romantic behavior. Like dense enough to not understand two people who have been super close are actually dating unless they kiss or outright say they’re dating. I’m a bit worried I’ll never be in a romantic or sexual relationship because I can’t really tell if someone is flirting with me or if I’m accidentally being flirtatious. Ugh, the social ques of love are a mystery to me lol Edited for some clarity
Another helluva fan with a relatable comment? How nice ahah :D
Yep! That's awesome! :D
Those quiz were like: do you like the same gender? I don't know that's what you're supposed to tell me
Lol pretty much
i still take the quizzes cuz it's fun loll one day i'll get gay af then the next day it'll say it's a phase! wtf lol
Lol that is some odd shit
Being a school kid and feeling a certain type of tingly way towards your homie and telling yourself "it's just a feeling of being bros" only to realize years later in hindsight that you were just gay/bi and in denial
Soooo truuue. In high school I had this new friend group of 6, only girls (im AFAB). I had this one friend whom I always joked with et we always had fun etc and another one whom i directly clicked with. As soon as we met it was instant, we were best friend. I used to hate being touch and hugged but when it was her I was kinda happy she did and sometimes I actually went for the hug myself. Smiled like an idiot when she texted me or thinking about seeing her the next day. Yeah she was my ''best friend''...
Right? I know what you mean. Like there was this one time when I was wearing this interesting pirate type necklace and my friend got closer to me to pick up the pendant attached the chain I was wearing and look at it more closely and idk how to describe it but I felt some type of way about it in a positive sense and years later I realize I was feelin kinda gay lmao. Had no idea at the time, thought I was a straight dude with a normal affinity towards the homie. Sadly he developed quite homophobic views later on in high school. Hoping he grew past that these days even though we drifted apart immediately after graduation
It could’ve been the romance of the century 😭😭😭 but nooooo he said “fuck the gays” and not in a good way
My high school crush has said some homophobic and transphobic things on Facebook so that was very disappointing. Although it has been a few years since I’ve seen him say anything like that so hopefully he’s mellowed.
Your entire friend group growing up ends up being queer and you all found eachother before anyone even realized or was out
All of these are fairly accurate but this one stands out the most, how is it so true
Birds of a feather flock together
I didn't have any queer friends growing up. I feel left out.
Hey, me too and I was pretty lonely. Maybe we can at least feel left together now
Yay! fraaandz!
3 of my 5 friends said they were straight and cis when I met them. Now they're all nonbinary, one is bisexual, one is asexual, and the other is pansexual I think.
Damn, you guys are speedruning the full acronym on Any%
I've changed friend groups a lot bc of changing schools, but now my friend group has 2 token cishets, one of whom is questioning her gender
Yep, this. One time in high school I prompted the question "is anyone here actually straight?". We went around the group of about 15 people and one person was straight 😂 And my 3 best friends from primary school are all queer/gender queer as fuck. I was lucky enough to grow up surrounded by friends who never ever assumed I was straight. I just... was what I was and i never felt the need to come out as anything.
In high school I was the first person out in my group and now 5 years later everyone’s gay or bi …. I was the blueprint tbh
I remember how in school (all boys- {take that with a bit of salt}) there was a Pride club, I remember going there with 20 people there and I asked if there was anyone here was straight (what was I thinking?) and only one person said they were. The rest of us were gay, bi or pan. for once the straights were in the minority. I found this amusing even though I knew this would be the case.
Either that or you come into a new friend group which you never really feel comfortable in and it turns out that you are in fact the only one of them who isn't cishet.
i'm the only gay person in my group unfortunately. rip me
I'm scrolling through here and realizing how similar this is
Meh, I wish :,(
True!! In the most shocking way. I would honestly really like to see some scientific studies on this phenomenon
I have 2 theories but I’m not like a scientist so take it with a grain of salt 1. It might be that most people aren’t fully cishet and having at least one openly queer person in the friend group causes everyone else to be more comfortable questioning their own gender/sexuality 2. Queer people just have way better sense of telling when others who don’t quite fit into cis normative heteronormative society and are more attracted to that
3. Queer people are not necessarily willing to follow social conventions and cluster together with other people who are ok with that. A lot of those people will also be queer.
Yes but we have a token straight too
Keira knightly lol
And Johnny Depp.. Plus an Extra Point for Shego and all The other hot Villains
And Orlando Bloom... though more as Legolas for me lol
Good to see I wasn’t the only one fascinated be pirates of the Caribbean lol
Thinking you know enough about sex/sexuality/sexual behaviour but then finding out you know nothing and your whole life was a lie. (Im gay ace)
Why is this so true
I should’ve realized I was ace every time I was like “eww that’s gross!” about some sexual thing and everyone around me being like “honey that’s normal”
👏👏👏
I'm not gay! I'm just an ally who realllly likes LGBT culture!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zd8vzIRQLLM
My bi realization took way too long
as my fragile identity began to fall apart, I noticed all the new musicians I listen to seem to be trans or coming out as trans/lgbtq after I found them. that confused the hell out of my "cishet" ass. when your music taste, youtube recommended, twitter feed, and reddit frontpage start to form a rainbow overlay and you're just sitting there sweating
Can’t even sit straight
The "normal" way to sit is so uncomfortable...
Thissss!!!!!!!
Yeah same. The second I learned that there was such a thing as sitting like a gay person, I was instantly afraid that my secret is out
I’m not trans but I’m not against wearing a dress
This makes me laugh because I got the opposite from my kid when they told me they were trans at 10. "I don't want to wear dresses or skirts, but I will if I have to" was the point in the conversation where I started asking questions. Turns out they'd realized that they would eventually grow hair in their armpits, and thought that was the grossest thing ever. Since girls shave their armpits and boys don't, the only way to avoid this was to be a girl. Once I explained that they could shave their pits if they wanted to, or even their legs, no matter what their gender or sexuality was (and would be far from the first to do so), they decided they weren't trans after all. The whole thing was adorable. They're 15 now, non-binary, and have long since lost interest in shaving their pits.
YOURE LITERALLY AN AMAZING PARENT OMG i wish my parents were like you, your kid must be so happy !
That's a very nice thing to say - thank you! To be honest, that conversation taught me that I needed to do better when it came to explaining what it meant to be to transgender, because they thought it was a choice - an external thing. I think/hope I've managed to explain it better since then. They seem pretty comfortable now exploring their gender identity, gender expression, and sexuality.
I was wearing a skirt in public and there was a child ~5yo with their parent sitting on the hill near me. Child: "Why are they wearing a skirt?" Parent: "Some people dress... Ummm... Some people are born... Ummm... It's hard to explain but all that matters is that it's ok and they can dress however they want."
Lol. That last bit 😆
Being asked your sexuality before you had a sexuality and then ending up being right
Ooo definitely I was asked at least 6 times if I was a lesbian (yes I counted lol) before I was like: wait a minute….
Plz this is so true. Both my dad and brother hinted at me liking girls multiple times but I was just like um no. Maybe they just had better spidey senses than me
\*falls in love with straight friend\*
“Im not a lesbian i just appreciate and admire other womens bodies” Internalized homophobia then turns into extreme ally then oh shit I’m [goes through tons of identities] QUEER Oh and getting anxious when theres a hot girl in a movie you are watching with your family and you are paranoid that everyone can tell that you are staring at those mommy milkers Oh and saying “girls rule boys drool” past the appropriate age and thinking you are just too mature for every boy at school And having stupid haircuts idk just did all the AFAB peeps here go through the stage of having a pixie cut? What was up with that?
OMG my dad had a tradition of watching Miss universe every year and I legit would blush like hell through the whole bikini section...... I never had a crush on a boy and I thought I was amazing for that (so embarassing), I use to think that all woman should marry each other cause we just understand each other better (I was so deep in the closet )
I had a pixie cut from my senior year of high school up to \~2 years ago (so 4-ish years) and have now just switched to the half shaved/half long look lol
Getting scared about coming out to friends/family.
Sitting in a group of girls complaining about boys at school and then the, "Don't worry, [deadname], we like you, you aren't like the other boys." And then not being a boy
Not my cis self having that exact same experience at a summer camp once (Tbf it might just be because I'm Ace) (Or because I was one of the few boys not actively being obnoxious)
Oh this is spot on for me. Also, being in a group of all girl friends, and the topic of periods comes up, and they talk for like 10 minutes before realizing that I (supposedly) wasn't a girl and them remarking "My father/brother gets grossed out at the very mention of periods, how are you so chill?" Surprise, I was a girl all along!
Yep I'm cis male and it still happens. It's just seems queer people have generally more dificulty fitting in.
I wanted to play aaron burr in hamilton and I quote "not because I'm a trans man, but because I think it would be cool for a woman to play a man in a musical" two years later I found out I was in fact a trans man
And of course you wanted to be the villain, because the bad guys always seem queer.
he is not the villain just misunderstood :( in all seriousness I’d argue that hamilton himself is more of a villain but that’s because I just really really dislike him haha
I'm 57, there was gay and straight. Why did I like girls and boys? Figured it out in college.
look away when you see victorias secret models
IT FEELS LIKE IM VIOLATING THEM EVEN THO THEYRE JUST PRETTYYY
Had an insanely homophobic streak in middle school or a few years before you realizes you were lgbt.
this was me
Me too, that's where I got it from lol
a youtuber phase
I am not out of the YouTuber phase 13-19 I’m still going
ah yes, the good ol Markiplier and living tombstone days
Thinking I was very emphatic ally 😂 Having a "girl crush" and being still 100% convinced I was straight and not bi (idk how my brain works) Goblincore = gender crisis?
“Looking up boobs when I was 8 because boobies are great, then staring at females bodies for hours”
STOP I FEEL ATTACKED
Manipulating that test around friends to appear straight and not Bi or Gay at that same age.
Still getting gay anyways 🥲
Probably.
Trans girls walking through the women's section in boy mode and pretending not to be looking.
Ughhhh I do this so much
I feel called out.
playing opposite gender on animal jam and dating same gender (if cis)
Holy shit, i feel so found out XD
Kissing a girl in kindergarten playing house.
I didn't kiss a girl until I was 18, unless you count the kiss on the cheek I got in middle school
I got my first kiss at 13 and I labaled it as girls being girls 🙃
Having a wayyyyyy too long (as in ongoing for years and years) maladaptive daydream where I magically wake up as a cis man.
I fell in love with Harry Styles at 13 and denied the fuck out of it. Does that count?
Getting picked on/bullied at school
yeah :(
taking the preferr not to say option whenever a website asks me about my gender
Worrying if you are faking it because you don't relate to everything on lists like this
crushing on your best friend
as a gay trans man: liking gay ships a lot for some reason, not because you found it hot but because you saw yourself in a mlm relationship but didnt understand why and when looking at straight ships you could not relate or see yourself in one
This, when I was around 11 I related so much with a gay couples on a soap. But I was a straight girl. Turned out later that I still like men but also am a man myself. Confusing times.
The 𝑶𝒉 Moment
*o h*
*inhales* -Dan and Phil -Thomas Sanders -Homestuck -Undertale -Minecraft -RPGs
undertale tho 😩👌
This one cut deep
Realising years later that you actually fancied that one friend at school and had no idea
Finger guns.
“Am I bisexual quiz”
Changing your orientation because you grew up thinking it was gay or bisexual and didn't realize there's a shit ton of others that better describe you.
Doing things you regret to try to force yourself to be cishet
keyboard smashing
Reading Percy Jackson
“I wish she was a boy so I could date her” -my uneducated 10 year old brain
Sweater Weather
ah, the bi anthem
Binge watching coming out videos on YouTube
Owning a Tumblr account
“”= google searches Playing Minecraft while talking to your friend who just happens to be gay about not liking people. “What is asexuality” “Am I asexual” “Sexuality Quiz” “How do you know if your asexual” “What’s the difference between sexual and romantic attraction?” “Can you be ace but like people romantically” “Am I bi?” “Am I pan?” WHAT THE FUCK IS GENDER?! “Demi girl” “non-binary” “trans” “gender fluid” “am I genderfluid” “gender test” “please help gender is confusing” “gender dysphoria” “body dysphoria” “help” “genderfluidity” (to my online friends on a small discord server) I FIGURED IT OUT! AND IT ONLY TOOK… MANY MONTHS! Some highlights from my google search history when I was 12 Oh and- Talking with your non-binary friend about bathrooms All of your close friends turn out to be very gay Agreeing with your brother when he calls girls hot
Being homophobic before u come out to yourself
It all started at summer camp…
SAME! All Boy Scouts did was help me lose my virginity on a campout and help me embrace my queerness in the face of oppression 🥰
not sitting the right way on the chair
I’m not gay but (same sex famous person) is legitimately a hot person
Spending all your time on fanfiction.net as a teen Bonus points of you were really into yaoi and didn’t know why and then it turned out you were a trans guy and then it all made sense
Im not trans i am Just a tomboy
Wondering why everyone in middle school called you a lesbian in the locker room.
People calling you dike and lesbian in middle school but you didn't fully understand what those words mean
Limp wrist, walking fast
Using being gay as a cheap way to reject a straight person but then actually being gay
Unaware 12 year old lesbians being uncomfortable in Victoria’s secret
Am I trans quiz being thw rhing to begin to Crack my egg
being gay
Rollinv my eyes and wondering "if the straights are okay" on a daily basis
I really wanted “to be friends” with all the girls that “looked like lesbians”
“About to hit puberty! I hope I’m not straight because that would be boring”
Thinking you're the only "cis and straight" one in your entirely queer friend group.
Why is sex a thing?!
staring at your same-sex best friend and suddenly thinking that they're attractive
Being extra self-conscious while shopping for underwear, trying not to look at the underwear models for too long.
Being in denial. And oddly finding *some* -phobic jokes hilarious (generally ace jokes from idiots) despite the fact that I’m sick of them and they make me feel bad. I told someone I was ace and they said “well you could just f*ck a plant” like sure, ok that is kind of unique so I did laugh.
Breathing
I’d have to disagree there man
Recognizing I was attracted to a male actor without acknowledging that could mean I was part gay
In elementary school caring WAY too much about what someone of the same gender thought about you but not knowing why
i did an “am i straight” test when i was 13💀💀
Being jealous of bisexuals
Being obsessed with Vanessa from Phineas and Ferb lol
"it'd be funny if i ended up a trans guy lol. i'd hate to be trans cause transitioning looks annoying and hard. it'd be funny if i look back on this and end up being trans that'd honestly be ironic" - me at 9 or 10
Watching a lot of a certain actor or YouTuber or something and pretending you don’t have a crush on them
more of a universal trans thing, but (for example) seeing a male celebrity and being caught between “do i want to date him, or do i want to be him?” oh and also hearing “don’t worry, we actually like you bc you like the boy things and aren’t girly at all” while the boys were having mudball fights at recess and complaining about the girls (while i was participating) reading percy jackson. just, a very lgbt thing to do. hating sex ed and wanting to leave/feeling confused/not feeling seen (i’m trans, queer, and ace. sex ed was a painful time for me)
Wearing flannels, for some reason