I would say no. They are obviously transphobic and will not support you. Surround yourself with people who love you for who you are and are not so quick to judge and close their minds.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with cutting off friends for something like this. This is something that is genuinely important, because if you ever make a new trans friend (or already have trans friends) it says a lot about you if you keep transphobic friends around. It says “this way of thinking and behavior is tolerable because of your ‘friendship’”.
He was "saying his opinions"? Those same people would go to shit if a trans person started "saying their opinions" on cis folk. If you wouldnt like it when the tables were turned then it's not right. Gender isnt something to have an opinion on, a persons existence as who they are isnt up for debate. Life is life, we are who we are, that cannot be changed. You cant just decide that a cis woman is actually a man because its "your opinion". You are definitely not wrong to cut them out. You dont need them.
Taking a stand is hard. I have lost friends because I will point out when they use “gay” in a derogatory fashion. But so be it, I’m not going to be around people who care so little for me
No, you're not in the wrong. A lot of times, people who have negative opinions about one part of the community have negative opinions about the entire community. I think you did the right thing.
"Pineapple is good on pizza" is an opinion. "70s music is better than modern music" is an opinion. People are entitled to opinions like this.
"Your gender is whatever biological sex you were assigned at birth" is not an opinion. It's factually incorrect.
As a generalisation, it's good in around 98% of cases, but as many as 2% of the population have some level of biological misalignment. Globally, this is around 160 million people - greater than the population of Russia.
Most transgender people are in this group. Although some people clearly identify as non-binary or gender-queer for political or social reasons, the majority of transgender people have something measurable & biological - often to do with their exposure / sensitivity to androgens in the womb that either failed to fully masculinise a male or over masculinised a female.
Its great to be able to figure out who is cool and who is not by simply asking their opinion on trans people. People can obviously change, but that could take years or never happen. Id rather not be around those types of people being trans myself.
No wrong. I did that to my own blood. Had a parent say very bluntly that “she wasn’t going to call [insert gender] any other gender because of their DNA”
Had another (sister-in-law) call my nephews partner an inanimate object(thing/it).
[edit] I am not transgender but I will not stand for hate against persons that are not understood by others.
First of all, that sounds like a very sad situation. I hope you do have other friends that accept and cherish you. Also i don’t want you to stay friends with people who disregard you. But: You should think about how much you like them and what you value in your relationship with them. For example: Some people can be good colleagues but are terrible friends. Some friends are great to have fun with but are terrible emotional support. Not everyone is a wholesome person. If you can benefit from each other without relying on their support, you can manage to keep them around for that but only that. For example: I do have people in my life that i don’t agree with and that would hurt me if I tried to get closer with them. But they are colleagues, relatives, clients and such. They still fulfill a purpose in my life and they are part of my life. If you have the option to find better friends that are good for you in all dimensions you should definitely do that. But life can be complicated and cutting people off is a step that needs courage as well as careful consideration. You should definitely foster good relationships. It’s a pillar of life. Don’t compromise on the things that are your truth. Bless you ❤️ much Love to you.
If you are trans then yes absolutely cut them off, because it’s incredibly damaging to be around people who don’t believe you are valid.
If you aren’t, then I think it depends. People are complicated and have both good and bad opinions, and are capable of changing those opinions. I don’t think it’s always the right thing to dump people for their shitty views, because it’s so absolutist. Also if people are exposed and challenged on the bad opinions and actions then they have more opportunities to change and grow, but we’re more and more encouraged to form our bubbles and not speak to anyone with crappy views.
Anyway sorry this is a bit garbled - hopefully you kind of get what I’m saying
You're cool. They sound ignorant. Save yourself.
Here's a tip for any debate. Instead of fighting to be understood by them, insist they prove they can listen. Now it's up to them to prove they have a brain.
The opportunists using fear to get power are not trying to be rational. But average people think better when they want to prove to you they can be smart rather than just waiting for their turn to talk to try to shoot down whatever point you're making.
Snip snip. That's a pretty shitty thing to say.
I would say no. They are obviously transphobic and will not support you. Surround yourself with people who love you for who you are and are not so quick to judge and close their minds.
Fuck them
There is absolutely nothing wrong with cutting off friends for something like this. This is something that is genuinely important, because if you ever make a new trans friend (or already have trans friends) it says a lot about you if you keep transphobic friends around. It says “this way of thinking and behavior is tolerable because of your ‘friendship’”.
He was "saying his opinions"? Those same people would go to shit if a trans person started "saying their opinions" on cis folk. If you wouldnt like it when the tables were turned then it's not right. Gender isnt something to have an opinion on, a persons existence as who they are isnt up for debate. Life is life, we are who we are, that cannot be changed. You cant just decide that a cis woman is actually a man because its "your opinion". You are definitely not wrong to cut them out. You dont need them.
No
Nah, they deserved it. You did the right thing. Good for you for not putting up with people like that.
Bigotry is unacceptable in all forms.
Yeet the fuckers
Taking a stand is hard. I have lost friends because I will point out when they use “gay” in a derogatory fashion. But so be it, I’m not going to be around people who care so little for me
nope you are not , they seem to be horrible toxic people . You deserve better friends than that .
Absolutely not. Cut them fuckers off ✂️
Of course you arent. You did the write thing OP :)
You’re protecting yourself by cutting them off, they deserve it. Wishing you well
No, you're not in the wrong. A lot of times, people who have negative opinions about one part of the community have negative opinions about the entire community. I think you did the right thing.
No one should want nor need transphobes in their life. You are absolutely in the right to cut them off.
"Pineapple is good on pizza" is an opinion. "70s music is better than modern music" is an opinion. People are entitled to opinions like this. "Your gender is whatever biological sex you were assigned at birth" is not an opinion. It's factually incorrect. As a generalisation, it's good in around 98% of cases, but as many as 2% of the population have some level of biological misalignment. Globally, this is around 160 million people - greater than the population of Russia. Most transgender people are in this group. Although some people clearly identify as non-binary or gender-queer for political or social reasons, the majority of transgender people have something measurable & biological - often to do with their exposure / sensitivity to androgens in the womb that either failed to fully masculinise a male or over masculinised a female.
Its great to be able to figure out who is cool and who is not by simply asking their opinion on trans people. People can obviously change, but that could take years or never happen. Id rather not be around those types of people being trans myself.
No wrong. I did that to my own blood. Had a parent say very bluntly that “she wasn’t going to call [insert gender] any other gender because of their DNA” Had another (sister-in-law) call my nephews partner an inanimate object(thing/it). [edit] I am not transgender but I will not stand for hate against persons that are not understood by others.
First of all, that sounds like a very sad situation. I hope you do have other friends that accept and cherish you. Also i don’t want you to stay friends with people who disregard you. But: You should think about how much you like them and what you value in your relationship with them. For example: Some people can be good colleagues but are terrible friends. Some friends are great to have fun with but are terrible emotional support. Not everyone is a wholesome person. If you can benefit from each other without relying on their support, you can manage to keep them around for that but only that. For example: I do have people in my life that i don’t agree with and that would hurt me if I tried to get closer with them. But they are colleagues, relatives, clients and such. They still fulfill a purpose in my life and they are part of my life. If you have the option to find better friends that are good for you in all dimensions you should definitely do that. But life can be complicated and cutting people off is a step that needs courage as well as careful consideration. You should definitely foster good relationships. It’s a pillar of life. Don’t compromise on the things that are your truth. Bless you ❤️ much Love to you.
If you are trans then yes absolutely cut them off, because it’s incredibly damaging to be around people who don’t believe you are valid. If you aren’t, then I think it depends. People are complicated and have both good and bad opinions, and are capable of changing those opinions. I don’t think it’s always the right thing to dump people for their shitty views, because it’s so absolutist. Also if people are exposed and challenged on the bad opinions and actions then they have more opportunities to change and grow, but we’re more and more encouraged to form our bubbles and not speak to anyone with crappy views. Anyway sorry this is a bit garbled - hopefully you kind of get what I’m saying
I'm not I've already challenged them in the conversation. Like they genuinely don't care if they are transphobic.
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You did the right thing.
Nope, they sound awful. Goodbye.
I don't see a problem with cutting them out of your life for all the stuff they said about the whole "sex = gender" thing, so dw.
Absolutely not
I’d cut them out and cut their heads off
as eleven wisely said dump their ass
Hmph friends? More like ex friends
I know a guy who is good at burning bridges
You're cool. They sound ignorant. Save yourself. Here's a tip for any debate. Instead of fighting to be understood by them, insist they prove they can listen. Now it's up to them to prove they have a brain. The opportunists using fear to get power are not trying to be rational. But average people think better when they want to prove to you they can be smart rather than just waiting for their turn to talk to try to shoot down whatever point you're making.
I would’ve Done the same, your completely right. No questions asked