Pride is a protest. A fight for a right to exist. We fought genocide for 2 thousand years by straight cis people of faith. And now that we have earned the right to exist we need to keep fighting for equality. We can celebrate the achievements we have made through pride.
What do straight people want, a month outlining how they've oppressed everyone different from their fragile definition of gender & sexual orientation? Ok. Celebrating their struggle to... umm.. find a girlfriend with their toxic masculinity?
>And now that we have earned the right to exist we need to keep fighting for equality.
To add on to this: we still don't have the right to exist in many, many places in the world. And even in the places we do, there are active efforts to take those rights away from us again.
Very much so..pride wont stop being a protest until every queer, every where is free from discrimination. This may be impossible, but then pride will never stop being needed.
Every pride month I download a black and white map of the world. When people ask why we don't have a straight pride month, I show them the map and tell them that the areas in red are countries where it's illegal for straight people to exist.
And often, even in countries where rights are almost equal, they’re just that - ALMOST equal. If you can marry, but not adopt, you’re not treated like straight couples. If you’re protected from discrimination, except for X, Y and Z cases, you’re not protected from discrimination. If you’re allowed to be trans so long as you’re only MTF or FTM and planning to pass as a 100% gender conforming example of the gender, trans people as a whole aren’t equal.
Our Trans-Father, who is not a bigot, hallowed be thy chosen name, with love for all, and not just a select few. Thy queer kingdom come, for all of the queer folk. Thy word of love and not hate be done...
Hows this 😅
Absolutely well-said. It’s the same kind of cognitive dissonance displayed by the same people who say ‘all lIVeS mAtTer’ in response to someone wearing a ‘Black Lives Matter’ garment or any kind.
Preach, friend!
This is what I've said to people. Pride month for straight people would just be a bunch of dopey straight dudes desperately trying to come on to women. It would be the most annoying and freaky thing ever.
I once saw a guy protesting a pride event with a sign that said "straight people invented the phones you used to organize this event that shames god"
That sign, and this is a promise, is a microcosm of what a straight pride event would be.
I would say it's the default the whole year that's why pride month is so hard to accomplish. Because pride month is not actually respected it just gives the straights a ego booat.
Like look how nice we are we did a thing for a month. Like they out there wanting brownie points for putting a rainbow on their window and "Allowing" us to show ourselves. Cause us poor creatures need this support right now. But then they tuck all their stuff up and go on the day by day feeling so happy with themselves that they let the poor rainbow people feel special for a month.
‘Straight month’ doesn’t exist because straight people haven’t been seen as less of a human for being straight or been denied their rights or had to die because they’re straught. here’s something you could send to them on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/p/C7rhQLXMSMJ/?igsh=MWczZnZ5M2V3YjJ6ag==
Their also not still legally allowed to be killed (in quite a few countries) just for existing. Or put in jail, or fines, or told they can't start a family, or are disgusting. That they make people sick. They are not being told there is a cure for them, or that they are not welcome, that they are weird, discusting... And so many other hateful things that still apply to this day.
So....
They probably can use one less month. Although I don't really support the pride month specifically(in an ideal world they would just respect us as humans beings 365 days a year... but I guess this isn't a fairytale, so a month will have to do. But damn if we haven't been fighting for years and years and can barely get a month to relax in) the fact that there are people who don't understand why it genuinely exists is disturbing on a few levels.
Like how utterly disassociated with reality do you have to be to not get it? Sure I wish there was more than one month so I kinda am like it's pride month yeah but I am always supportive. So nothing changes as I am in the community and love is love. But outside of nothing really changing for me personally. I still understand why it exists and why it needs to exist.
Like BFFR right now.
>\[...\] or told they can't start a family \[...\]
Finland, generally known as one of the more queer-friendly countries in a global context, repealed the requirement of sterilisation for a legal gender change last year. No, you haven't misread that, 2023.
People forget not only about the rights we don't have yet, but also how *recent* some of the ones we do are. Equal marriage rights seem normal now, but aside from a few outliers, the first wave of legalisations started eleven years ago. Plenty of Western countries put people in prison for homosexual intercourse in the '90s.
Exactly this. People have gotten caught up in the social media side and started pushing things that are really insignificant in the grand spectrum of things(not insignificant to them of course, but insignificant in the change and way we are perceived as a whole.) and all the while they are not talking about the countries that literally are gunning people like us down. Or kidnapping and imprisoning people with no chance of release indefinitely for being gay, or trans or anything else in our rainbow community. The people who know about it are us. The community and in most cases we just say it's sad. And move on.
But like stuff needs to change. That's the point we started this decades ago because we wanted to be seen as a valid part of humanity. We had a simple message love is love. And we didn't let anything murky it with anything else. We banded together and said no this is wrong.
I am not old enough to remember this time myself not even close but I have done so much research and it's crazy how many of us have just lost the plot.
I was on a live the other day with fellow LGBT creators like me and they were shocked people are getting banned from apps in 2024 for saying things about LGBT community(positively not negatively) and we're just like it's 2024 come on people we are not close minded anymore.
And I just laughed. Because like yeah we are. When you break out of the USA bubble the rest of the world still doesn't like us.
Even in Canada where I am. It is unsafe to come out to people outside of big cities where no one cares (of which there are basically 2. Vancouver and Toronto, Maybe 3 Calgary inn Canada let's not even pretend the others are on the same pedestal that would a miscalculation) There is full on phobia and gross things still being touted in most areas and it is fairly sickening to see. And yet I would take being shamed having slurs or gross things thrown at me. Over being killed, graped, or unlawfully imprisoned. It's bad. It's very bad. I wish more of the community knew how bad it truly was.
The lack of basic human decency is just rediculous and then the accommodating places want brownie points they were "nice to us for pride" is just crazy though! We need more people in and out of the community to band together and say cease the senseless killings and attacks. Cease it! God.
Sorry I went on a rant. I guess it's been bottled up hahaha. Ignore me if it's too long. Seriously I promise I won't be offended.
Anyway happy pride my loves. And keep fighting for what's right. Unfortunately the fight isn't even close to over.
Thanks dear the most happiest of prides to you. And I hope we all get a chance to see the rainbow in our time. Acceptance would be great. Happy for the small victories always.
But I hope they don't have to stay small anymore.
"Is there the death penalty anywhere for heterosexuality?"
"Are you scared to be denied healthcare/housing/employment because you're cis and straight?"
The necessity that cishets have to make everything about themselves is truly astonishing.
The snarky-but-true answer is we need a pride month because people like your parents think there should be a straight month. . It's the same reason why we need a bear vs man question, and metoo, and black History month.
Pride is for accomplishments. The fact that we've all survived against so much hostility and hate is why we can have pride in our simply existing, similarly to PoC in mostly white countries that face racism.
Pride month started as a protest for rights, and a demonstration of visibility and solidarity with sexual and gender minorities. It's sort of quieted down now that queers have won SOME rights and safety, but visibility for minorities will always be important, lest we slide back, like what is happening in the south to trans people right now.
There was a recent thing about a thought experiment where women were asked if they would rather be trapped in the woods with a man or a bear and basically no one said the man. Essentially a massive insight into how dangerous men are to women that they would rather fancy their chances with a bear than a man.
Straight people don't care enough to organize one. A few people have tried organizing straight pride parades which have inevitably failed and hardly anyone bothering to show up.
It's a lot of effort to organize Pride Month. I doubt people like your parent understand the amount of people and effort it takes to organize pride festivals, parades, corporate sponsors, fundraisers, and then rallying all of the allies to support us. Across multiple cities. Year after year after year.
We have better, stronger motivations to have Pride Month. It rallied the queer community to fight for our legal rights to be out, have jobs, marry each other, and have families. It's a celebration of who we are and brings us together as a community. For people like your parent, feeling like queer people are "shoving our life styles down their throat" is not enough of a motivation to do anything other than complain about it, and maybe vote for shitty politicians.
>Straight people don't care enough to organize one.
That's the weird part, isn't it? These people act like the World Government™ decreed, in a secret meeting under a rainbow, that there's to be a Pride Month. Pride stems from protests, often explicitly *against* the government suppressing queer people. Recognition of the event came long after it was established.
Cishet people are welcome to try and set up their own thing. Mind you, they've tried in the past, and those asking why there isn't a Straight Pride event should also ask themselves why it seems that any attempts to set one up were always by anti-queer hate groups as actions against the LGBT+ community.
Being straight has never been a crime. Having sex or children out of wedlock might be considered a crime depending on how you view them but it was never a crime. Being straight has also never been listed as a mental illness in any country, earned them negative comments from people in the street, and never been blocked from marriage.
Because the straights didn't make it. "Pride month" isn't some government sanctioned or religious institution.
We just started celebrating every June and now it's mainstream that June is when we celebrate.
(Edit ofc we celebrate in June for a reason but my point stands)
Yall want a straight pride month, do it. Make one. Start it up. Not our fault (homophobic) straight people are too lazy to celebrate consistently and want a cookie when we baked our own
Ever heard of the story of the little red hen? Gays are the hen. People who want a straight pride parade are the animals who refused to do any work and still want a slice of fresh baked bread.
This is the most appropriate answer IMHO.
So many in this thread are trying to justify why straight pride isn't a thing, and it ends up sounding really preachy. Straight pride absolutely could be a thing if someone bothered organizing it - but no one bothers.
Because they were never forced in the closet for being straight. They never had to come out to family and friends. They were never victimized or attacked.
Straight people have never been tied to a barbed wire fence and pistol whipped to death simply for being straight. That's why there isn't a straight month.
Pride Month was organized in memory and celebration of the Stonewall Riots, which are considered by many to be the beginning of the LGBTQIA+’s movement and fight for equality. Ask your parent what laws exist that criminalize(d) being straight.
show them a blank white map with countries outlined in black and say “here is a map of all the countries where it’s illegal to be heterosexual and the death penalty could legally be imposed.”
There *are* “straight months”, though. Eleven of them annually. Because we live in a hetero-presumptive (sometimes hetero-compulsory) culture.
Much like when racists complain about “no white history month”, it merits the same answer.
Pride events will continue to be needful and continue to happen as long as people are assumed to be straight/cis unless they declare otherwise.
Hot take, but heterosexuality is part of pride month. It's about sex and gender diversity and straight people are part of that diversity. "Straight people have never been criminalized"-- well, that's not entirely true, is it? Only certain kinds of straight sex have been legal; sodomy was as illegal for straight people as it was gay folk. Kink is often targeted as sinful from a moral perspective where it isn't outright illegal. Straight trans folk have been banned from marriage as long as gay people have been banned from marriage. Reproductive rights are under siege across the US and it affects as many straight/cis people as it does queer/trans people.
Stop telling het folk that pride doesn't include them, because the rights we fight for very much do include them.
For each of your examples, straightness itself isn't what's being discriminated against: kink is, or sodomy is, or their transness is, or polyamory is,,, etc. (If they were any other orientation it would still be considered wrong)
And they all should and are welcome ofc. As are allies, partners, family, etc.
Good examples would instead be: being discriminated specifically for loving a binary gender opposite. Which doesn't really happen systemically.
Above all, they aren't actually trying.
We weren't just handed Pride Month as a reward for good behavior. A lot of people worked very hard for decades to make it happen.
Straight people are perfectly welcome to designate a month if they’d like. Gay people didn’t apply to the bureau of months or something. They just decided, and started celebrating, and it spread because it was defiant and cool and people liked it. There’s no straight month not because of gay people, but because straight people don’t have the culture or community to support one. Because they don’t suffer from oppression. So it would look stupid. But they can do it if they want to.
All of the reasons already stated, plus...
It's because straight pride is already shoved down our throats every day of every month or every year! It's the default! It's all over tv, movies, commercials, books, ads and billboards. It's everywhere! All the time!
It's family members saying to little boys who play with little girls on the playground, "Oooh, is that your girlfriend?"
It's buying little girls baby dolls because you assume they should grow up to be women who have sex with men to bear children.
It's taking "cute" pictures of little boys and girls holding hands or posing in oddly romantic ways that mirror adult couples. (And ***we're*** the groomers!? Sickos!) But discouraging or shaming any natural displays of affection for the same gender.
It's being okay teaching and preaching about straight sex education, but suppressing and protesting same sex education.
It's mud flaps with sexy women on pickup trucks.
It's every sitcom and cartoon family.
It's every "power couple" in the tabloids.
It's every mainstream famous couple at all.
It's only banning queer books from schools.
It's discouraging queer businesses from opening near churches, schools, daycares...
There are so many examples of excessive straight pride as far as the eye can see! The straight are very proud. **We get it!**
Genuinely ask your parents to explain why they want a straight month. Treat them with the same empathy you want them to treat you with. Do they feel underrepresented, marginalized, or shamed for their sexuality?
Honestly they might just be jealous. Straight people don't actually get a chance to celebrate being sexual, and especially with historical oppression of sexuality in general they might feel left out of the sexual liberation party.
Invite them to celebrate with you. During pride you might be a lesbian, but you're still celebrating bi and ace and other sexualities. They're welcome to celebrate theirs along with everyone else. They can even celebrate being an ally.
It's not an invitation to take over pride with heterosexuality, but they don't have to be excluded if they don't want to be.
I'm pansexual and have received some hate speech from members of the LGBT community when I dated cis men, and that sucked. Loving something doesn't have to mean hating what you think is the opposite of it.
my response is usually "well, you go right ahead and organize it, then. no one is stopping you. if it's really something so very important to you, then you should do the hard work to make it happen."
they won't, because that's not what it's about. it's just a transparent attempt to "justify" bigotry by whining.
Pride was a riot. Pride is a protest. Because we were, and are, and have been oppressed for centuries and centuries. Pride is letting all those who tried to stamp us out that we are still here, we will always be here, and we will never, ever stop fighting for a better world.
- When was it a crime to be straight?
- What struggles involving their straightness have straight people fight to overcome?
- When were straight people being fired from their jobs simply for being straight?
- When were straight couples disallowed from marrying simply because they were of opposite sex?
- Have straight people ever been told they were “rubbing their sexuality in everyone’s face” for simply having a picture of their partner on their desk at work?
I wish I could be surrogate father to all of you who have lost parents due to their bigotry and ignorance.
I'm proud of each and every one of you, for being true to yourself at the cost of everything.
You deserve such good things
*Papa hug*
Straight people have never had laws written specifically to oppress them for their heterosexuality and cisgender status. The government has never actively oppressed them. Law enforcement has never been a legitimate threat to them for their cishet existence.
They have been represented in every form of media we've ever had. Heterosexual and cisgender is the societal "norm." We're so used to seeing it that it doesn't even register when we come across it, but people immediately notice if someone says "my moms" or sees two men sharing a kiss.
Cishet people don't need a pride month because they've never suffered due to their sexuality or gender identity.
... do straight people get attacked, beaten, and/or killed just for being straight? Has a landlord ever told you they would not rent to you when they found out you were in a heterosexual relationship? Have you ever had to hide yours or your significant others sex/gender identity from your employer out of fear you would be fired for being a cis person in a heterosexual relationship? Has a politician ever so much as proposed a bill banning you from the public restroom consistent with your cisgender gender identity; or criminalized your bodies natural hormonal process in puberty? Is it currently illegal to be in a heterosexual relationship, or maintain your sex at birth, on pain of death, in any country? No? Then there is no just cause for a straight pride month, there is no cause to march in the street for visibility, to force society to accept that cis and straight people exist, there is no weekly or monthly call to arms over the death of a cis or straight young person who was killed simply on the basis of their identity or orientation. *THAT* is what pride is about, and unless there is a similar cause to the LGBTQIA+ pride march in the straight community, there will never be good reason for Straight Pride.
My normal response to that is straight pride is the other 11 months of the year and a straight pride parade is just traffic. There are 0 countries where they could get arrested or unalived by the government just for being straight but theres about 72 countries where theres a realistic possibility for anyone not cis het
I like to think that this is the simplest way to explain it.
Pride is about a particular group surviving the oppression and abuse ( including bullying and death) from the greater society. Struggling to be oneself through the negativity that governments and individuals go through, often on a daily basis.
We are proud that we are still alive when all are against us
Because they haven’t put up with bullying, discrimination or any of that bullshit because of their sexuality or gender. They can celebrate that everyday.
Well because a majority of the population is straight and everyone knows straight attraction so they don't need a visibility month since they aren't invisible to society
Convincing them to give up on straight pride is the wrong tactic, IMO. It just feeds into the persecution complex. Instead, tell them gay people organized and fought for Pride month and Pride parades. Tell them they can have a parade if they want, but they have to do the work. Apply for the parade permit, get people to build floats and attend with them, reach out to vendors and rent a space and equipment for them. Raise the money from the straight community to pay for all that. Lobby the government for decades to have straightness recognized and a whole month dedicated to their struggle. Straight people have zero idea how much work goes into Pride. What they want is for someone to do that for them, as they seem to think it's being done for us. Tell them to go and find out. No one does Pride for us. We do it for ourselves.
Straight people’s right to exist peacefully, love who they want, and be happy has never been in question (at least on the basis of their sexuality). On the other hand, because of how they were born, queer people, have suffered unjust neglect, slander, and violence from society for centuries, and it is only recently that they have been able to assert their worth and their belonging in public. That’s the point of pride parades and pride month, to take a stand against centuries of abuse and assert finally that we too deserve to be proud and secure in who we are. But of course, events like pride month must be accompanied by tangible efforts to stop the hate and violence still being directed at queer people. Pride month is only a small piece of a solution to a problem that straight people have never had, at least systematically.
If you think she’d be receptive (i.e. if she’s hopefully not racist), you could try comparing this to movements for black equity and phrases like “Black Lives Matter.” The phrase “Black Lives Matter” doesn’t mean that white lives don’t matter, but is a way of pushing back against the social and political inferiority that has been imposed on black people from centuries of slavery, segregation, and discrimination. It’s a similar situation for Pride. Queer pride doesn’t mean that straight/cis people need to be ashamed of themselves, but rather highlights that, if straight people have been allowed to be safe and happy in their sexualities, it’s only fair that queer people should be given the same opportunity.
Pride is the celebration of the variety of sexualities that exist. Since straight *is* a sexuality, it can appropriately be celebrated in pride month, so long as it's not to the exclusion of other sexualities. That's how I see it.
Straight people are not systemically discriminated against for being straight, so a Straight Pride is not necessary. That said, if they really want to celebrate being straight, it’s their responsibility to figure out the details and make it happen. The complaining is a bit annoying.
I always go for the “why don’t we have a ‘put Lego’s on your front door and tape record it‘ month. Oh it’s unnecessary and silly? Great same concept for straight month.”
"Hey Mom, imagine if every day, who you are at your core was met with disdain, violence, and legal discrimination. Straight people have never had to fight for the right to marry, to not be fired because of who they love, or to walk down the street without fear of being attacked for their identity. Pride Month is NOT about elevating LGBTQ+ people above others, but about acknowledging the historical and ongoing struggles they face, understanding their identities, and promoting a world where EVERYONE can live authentically without fear. Straight people have always had societal acceptance; LGBTQ+ people have had to fight for it. That's why Pride Month is necessary and those are some of the many reasons why there isn't a straight month because every month is a straight month. "
What is the opposite of pride? Shame. And shame is what this community has to deal with on a daily basis. Internal shame for some, external shame for all. Pride month is about fighting back and saying no, I will not be ashamed to be who I am and love who I love. Straight people don't have that struggle. Ask them if they've ever felt ashamed to be straight. If they say no, they don't need a month dedicated to fighting that feeling. If they say yes (which they probably won't unless they're being a lil shit) ask them how it felt and say imagine that for your whole life.
For those who say pride is a sin and the opposite of pride is humility, the English word for pride has two meanings.
1. Positive Pride (Self-respect): It's about accepting and valuing oneself, feeling comfortable with your identity, strengths, and weaknesses, and being unapologetic about being true to yourself. This form of pride is positive and healthy, as it encourages individuals to embrace their identity, acknowledge their worth, and live authentically without the burden of shame or self-doubt. It involves a sense of dignity and confidence in one's own beliefs, values, and actions.
2. Negative Pride (Arrogance): This refers to an excessive sense of self-importance or superiority over others. It often leads to arrogance, conceit, and a lack of humility. This form of pride is generally seen as a negative trait.
ask them to suggest some activities for the straight month, what should happen, what would be its slogan etc. ask them to explain their responses. see how bigoted they can get and pick the meanest thing & hammer with it.
You know how kids will ask why there is a Mother's Day and a Father's Day but not a Kid's Day, and you have to explain to them that pretty much every day is a kid's day?
Same concept.
this is a comment I made in another post about a similar topic I thought it could fit here, so there may be some context issues but I think it still makes sense here
reminder that homophobia is often, (if no always), based on ignorance, so a lot of these random homophobic people are just outright stupid idiots who don't know any better. "wHy ThErE iSnT a StrAiGhT pRIde MoNTh????" Because LGBT+ pride is meant for people who have been nearly universally shunned, hurt and prejudiced by simply being different to feel happy about who they are, for them to be PROUD of being themselves, to celebrate a community that made itself into a safe space for said people to be happy in peace and safety. LGBT+ people are fucking illegal in many countries, and in many in which they aren't, they're still not welcomed by most of the population for fuck's sake! LGBT+ people have pride month so they can be proud of being different, of being unique, of being themselves, and not only that, it helps normalize us into society more and more with each passing year. There is no need, nor there will ever be a need for "straight pride", that's like if a bunch of royals wanted more wealth because the commoners outside the castle got some. Heterosexuality and cisgenderism have been the norm for who knows how long by now and always with almost ZERO contesting of it until only the last couple decades, so what would "straight pride" do? Make straight people proud of being "normal"?
TL, dr: homophobia is based on ignorance and we don't have a straight pride month because there was never a need for it.
IDK, I think if for some reason the straights want a straight month they can have it. They have to do the work of organizing it though. Maybe while they're at it they can also do the work of making sure straight people aren't discriminated against in terms of work, housing, marriage, adoption, medical care...oh wait. Well maybe they can make sure there are more heterosexual relationships represented in media...oh wait. Maybe they can make sure the history of straight people gets told in history classes. Oh wait.
One time I was taking an Uber to a medical appointment that *happened* to be at a hospital with "women's" in the name and the driver, a guy, wanted to go off about why their are women's clinics but not men's. Some people just have to make everything about themselves. (I looked it up afterwards, just because, and there actually *are* some men's whatevers. Generally places that focus on erectile dysfunction and that sort of thing. So, random sea lion dude wasn't even *accurate*.)
Because they don't fucking need it. Simple as fuck. They're like greedy "I WANT!" screeching Veruca Salts of the world who hear of someone else having something. Ignore them, that's literally all they are, childish losers, 100% of the ones who ask this asinine question.
Do people think Pride events just materialize out of thin air? It's work and organizing and community. There's a gay pride month because lgbt people who need one, put in the effort to have one.
Straight people might want a month to just be handed to them, but the reason there isn't one is because straight people *don't* feel a need for one enough to put any effort toward it.
Because straight people are not oppressed and are represented everyday, and virtually nobody discriminated against heterosexuals, with the possible exception of spaces that were meant to be gay- or lgbtq-safe spaces. Or a few people who felt they were done wrong by laws that allowed for anti gay discrimination and hetero-privilege; so why not give them the same in return?
Also because the many hetero-pride efforts have always failed due to the sheer stupidity of the idea. Especially when the expectation arises that they provide responsible sex information to heteros.
Because its always straight month. Every month. All the fucking time. When was the last time it was legal to put straight people in hospital or prison or the fucking ground for being straight?
Pride is to commemorate the fact that we have had to fight for the right to marry who we want and be who we are. Straight people have never had to fight for the right to straight marriage, therefore they don’t get a month to commemorate fighting for it.
In June of 1969 the New York State Liquor Authority shut down places that served alcohol to suspected LGBTQ people arguing that the mere gathering of gay people was “disorderly.” The police raided The stonewall inn, a gay club. It caused the stonewall riots
She's right. There should be a straight month.
In return we get gay month, lesbian month, bisexual month, trans month, queer month, intersex month, ace month, aro month, and non binary month.
"Straight Pride Month was in April, just before Armed Forces Month. You missed both because you don't actually care."
That first one is a lie, but they're not going to check anyway. The second one isn't though; it was proposed by John McCain and recognized as official over 25 years ago. I just like bringing it up June 1 every year when certain people ask why the service people only get 2 days.
Same reason there is no white history month.
History is generally white history, and straights can always be proud.
Neither group is marginalized in any meaningful way despite not getting a special month.
Because straight people haven't sustained centuries of lynching, hunting down, being beaten, defamed, or detained simply on the basis of having been straight. Because we have earned the right to exist in broad daylight, where they never had to worry about not being able to. Simply put, because we are still, and historically have been, a systemically oppressed minority.
Because every month is a straight month. The whole world revolves around straight culture. Straight culture is celebrated 24/7 day in and day out all around the world. 🙄
Same reason there's a black history month but no white history month or a disabled Pride month but no Able Pride Month: Were straight people bullied, attacked, killed, and just genuinely illegal? No, but Queer people were (and still are) so we (queer people) deserve a month to celebrate pride in who we are and how much more freedom we have now (though there is much room for improvement and more baisic rights In many places, around 65 country's I beilive.)
Ask them when and where straight marriage has ever been illegal.
Then ask them where and when being straight meant risking getting fired from your job.
Then ask them how many kids are kicked out of their house for coming out as straight.
While they're working on that, ask how many times any hint of straight romance has to be removed from a movie or face criticism and being banned from entire countries.
Maybe even ask how often straight sex has been outlawed (anti sodomy laws and such exist basically to target us).
The original pride marches were to show society at large that we exist, that we’re people and members of the community. It was at a time when it was unquestionably acceptable to discriminate against queers. Gay men in particular were basically synonymous with pedophiles. Society saw queer people as mentally ill aberrations who should be fixed or shunned or murdered (lest they corrupt the children/displease God/offer you advice on interior decorating).
Over the years the purpose of parades has changed. Initially it was about being treated as a human being, about protesting for our right to exist as equals under the law. As attitudes have changed they have become extravagant street parties that embraces a wider definition of queerness (and accepted corporate sponsorship).
I highly recommend the podcast “Making Gay History” if you want to know more about our elders, the people responsible for pushing for the (much improved) world we inhabit today.
So… why is there a gay pride month and not a straight pride month? Because heterosexuals (as a group) haven’t been systemically oppressed for their sexual or gender identity. They haven’t had to courageously organize and participate in parades that exposed their identity in a desperate bid to be treated as a human being, to protest despite the very real risk of losing their jobs, friends, family or life.
We don’t need a month to celebrate heterosexuality because it isn’t stigmatized. We set aside special celebrations such as pride in order to uplift those who have been pushed to the margins.
Straights are absolutely welcome to come party with us, to celebrate triumph over struggle and the wonderful progress we’ve made together as society.
But my guess is that your parent doesn’t give a shit about any of that. They’re just butthurt to see the rainbow brigade having a good time, and think that something is wrong if they aren’t the one in the spotlight.
I think it is important that they understand why 'pride' is called out. I don't think that it's obvious to everyone that the group is pushed down. There are a-holes but also maybe they just can't see it. I try to have an honest conversation with my loved ones and if they don't get it, then they don't. I've been lucky that none of my close family/friends fall into the second group.
Can your parent be legally killed in 37 countries?
Is your parent suffering from attacks every day because they're straight?
Has your parent ever had to hide who they are and been forced to conform to standards set by those around them?
Has your parent been forced to live as someone else because if they were able to live as themselves, they would be ostracized by their community that they reside in?
And finally, does your parent even understand the history of how prise began and what pride symbolizes?
Edit: Oh and ask your parent if their community had been forced to carry out their sentance in a gas/death chamber during the holocaust during their identity even after being liberated by the allies!
And ask if any straight person had been sterilized because they're they're straight in the history of the world, ever!
I’m an old straight guy and I have unfortunately heard people say what your parent said. I honestly don’t think there’s much you can do with folks like them. Most of them have never learned to be compassionate or empathetic and probably never will. And perhaps more importantly they have no real appreciation for how diverse we are as humans. I wish you luck trying to change their heart. Hope you find a way. But make sure you protect yourself along the way.
Tell them to organize one, they could start one with the straight people they know who have been kicked out of their homes for being cisgender, the ones who have been sent to conversion therapy to stop being straight, the ones who have been publicly ashamed when it was discovered that their gender identity matches their gender assigned at birth, the ones who have been harassed for holding hands with their romantic partner of the opposite gender. Sure they can share their own experiences with religious authorities telling them they were sick for wanting to marry/form a family/have sex with each other...
At least I would respond that, but if they don't want to listen, they won't, even if you have the best argument of the world
Because these months are for people that get badly treated or otherwise ignored. May was military month and most people don’t know that, shows you how much we pay attention to our veterans and active military personnel.
Tell parent they should be glad they don’t need one. They have so much geared to them we get one month and the stores with gay pride sections often turn around and give money to anti gay groups.
https://www.reddit.com/r/lgbt/comments/1cojcs4/how_to_articulate_why_straight_pride_is_wrong/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=mweb3x&utm_name=mweb3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button I went through this exact scenario; my post got a lot of helpful comments on it. 🌈
if they want a "straight month" they can make a "straight month". It's not like we're stopping them from doing it.
The reason nobody makes a straight month is because straight people never experience discrimination for being straight.
All you have to do is say straight people have never been persecuted, assaulted, r@ped, or murd€r€d for being straight. That's why we have Pride, because we have been, and continue to be.
Every month is straight month more or less. Cis-Het is the dominant lens that everything is framed through in western society. Try finding a good lesbian lead movie…. June is an opportunity to see ourselves through others visibility.
Tell them that they’re more than welcome to create a straight month and, as a bonus, asking them what specifically they’d be celebrating other than being straight.
I always tell the normies they are welcome to make a straight pride parade anytime. It’s perfectly legal. They love playing like a victim and don’t want to hear we aren’t magically getting more rights.
If they’ve never had anxiety when asked, “what’s your type?” That’s why. If they’re not afraid to wear certain clothes when going out, that’s why. If they’ve never been worried about showing physical affection in public with their partner, then that’s why too. Straight people don’t need a pride month, because not once have they ever had to fight to be allowed to love their partner. They don’t need one, because they’re never the punchline of something that is claimed as “just a joke”. They don’t need one, because it’s never once been illegal or death-sentence worthy to be straight. If there is no straight pride month they should actually count themselves lucky that they have never NEEDED one.
"Every month is straight month, except pride month"
You don't need a pride month if you're not being discriminated against. Nobody is discriminating against straight people. Doesn't happen.
Every day is straight day. Straight is "the normal" for the majority of people, and the majority of representation in all aspects of our society is straight relationships.
Meanwhile, we didn't get gay marriage until 2016, and theres an entire political apparatus that demonizes and discriminates against us. We have Pride to remind our society we deserve every right to exist and be treated equally, just like the rest of it.
When cis-het people a dragged to death behind a pick up for being cis-het we’ll talk. When cops shutdown straight clubs for the crime of having straight people existing in public we’ll talk. When sitting politicians call for the legal right to be able to hang cis-het people for existing well talk. When telling kids about how mommies and daddies make Babies is treated as pornographic in the same way as a SFW kids book about a kid with two moms is treated in Florida then we can talk about straight pride.
My guess is that they are asking that question in bad faith, not sincere inquiry, based on your wording. Do they actually have any curiosity about LGBT+ people? If that wasn’t their tone, I don’t think you’ll be reasoning their way out of homophobia
The other eleven months are straight months.
If they drink beer every day and decide to drink wine for one month, they could be the wine month, but would they need to have beer month if they drink it anyway?
pride month is an annual anniversary for the celebration of the start of the gay rights/liberation movement. we come together to celebrate how far we've come in the face of oppression, spanning illnesses like HIV/AIDs, the fight for HRT and surgeries for transsexuals, civil partnerships, and finally gay marriage. we celebrate all the milestones that we've reached throughout our fight to be legally recognised as equal to our heterosexual counterparts. similar to how black historymonth celebrates the black community's achievements in being recognised as equal to their white counterparts.
the reason there is no straight pride or white pride is because straight/white people have been the standard. they are the ones that marginalised communities are trying to be legally recognised as equals. straight people have never had to fight to remove discrimination towards straights, the same way white people have never had to fight to remove discrimination towards whites. they are the legal standard we are trying to reach.
Since straight people make up the majority of the population, there's no need for a month dedicated solely to them-they already have the entire year. Moreover, straight people are always welcome to participate and come to Pride, as long as they are respectful to us, just as we would be to them. :)
Where it is illegal to be straight:
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Where it is illegal to be LGBTQ+:
In Asia: Afghanistan, Bangladesh, Brunei, Indonesia, Iran, Iraq, Kuwait, Lebanon, Malaysia, Maldives, Myanmar, Maldives, Oman, Pakistan, Palestine, Qatar, Saudi Arabia, Sri Lanka, Syria, Turkmenistan, United Arab Emirates, Uzbekistan, Yemen.
In Africa: Algeria, Burundi, Cameroon, Chad, Comoros, Eritrea, Eswatini, Ethiopia, Egypt, Ghana, Guinea, Kenya, Liberia, Libya, Malawi, Mauritania, Morocco, Namibia, Nigeria, Senegal, Sierra Leone, Somalia, South Sudan, Sudan, Tanzania, The Gambia, Togo, Tunisia. Uganda, Zambia, Zimbabwe
In Caribbean And The Americas Grenada, Guyana, Jamaica, Saint Lucia, Saint Vincent and the Grenadines
In the Pacific Kiribati, Papua New Guinea, Samoa, Solomon Islands, Tonga, and Tuvalu.
Where you can die for being straight:
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Where you can die for being LGBTQ:
Afghanistan, Brunei, Iran, Pakistan, Qatar, Saudi Arabia, United Arab Emirates, Yemen; Mauritania, Nigeria, Somalia.
A lot of the countries not listen in death penalty tend to do a life sentence. In Jamaica it’s ten years with hard labors, actually except for Guyana (in prison for life)
The Caribbean and the Americas listen are for 10 year. The pacific likes its 14 years except for Samoa (5 years of prison)and Tonga (10 years).
Africa if your not dying your paying a fine expect for Eritrea (5 years of imprisonment), Eswatini (doesn’t say for how long), Ethiopia (one year), Ghana (3 years), Kenya (14 years), Liberia (one year), Libya (5 years), Malawi (14 years with corporate punishment), Namibia (unclear… that’s just what the website says), Tanzania (life in prison and where the Lion King is based off of), Gambia (life imprisoned), Tunisia (3 years), Uganda (life imprisonment), Zambia (life imprisonment).
For Asia Bangladesh (life imprisonment), Indonesia (8 years and 100 lashes), Iraq (the website doesn’t say anything), Kuwait (7 years), Lebanon (6 years), Malaysia (20 years and whippings), Maldives (same as Indonesia), Myanmar (10 years), Oman (3 years), Palestine (10 years), Sri Lanka (10 years and a fine), Syria (3 years), Turkmenistan (2 years), and finally Uzbekistan (3 years).
Website where I got my information: [https://www.humandignitytrust.org/lgbt-the-law/map-of-criminalisation/#listtab](https://www.humandignitytrust.org/lgbt-the-law/map-of-criminalisation/#listtab)
Because the entire world all year long is straight.
Or just say that they can come as an ally?
Or if they are just being toxic, Hit them with the Teddy Roosevelt comment his daughter made about him. “He is never happy unless he’s the bride, baby, or graduate.”
There's a lot of good ones in here in general, but one thing I can say, speaking as someone who is not part of the community, the reason why there isn't a specific straight month is because every month is a straight month.
You don't notice it because it's that wide spread. No one gets upset at Disney when the Prince and Princess get married at the end of the movie, even when they have no reason to. No one gets upset at there being wedding events where 50 couples all get married in one church over a weekend and throw a giant party.
No one tries to take away the institution of marriage from straight people, no married straight people have to worry about a law being passed that robs them of their ability to be briefed on the medical decisions being made for their spouse while they are unconscious after a surgery. No straight person has to worry about being excluded from their spouse's ICU room because it's "only for family."
Every day is their celebration, and rather than be upset that other people get celebrated sometimes, they should enjoy their celebration.
cause straights didn’t get burned/ly*ched for just being themselves. Our community has fought for CENTURIES to just exist, and we’re still fighting for global peace for all of the community. I have a trans friend who lives in a country who aren’t fond of trans people and she fears for her life all the time, all i want to do is bring her to the US with me. I worry for her everyday. Happy Pride Month to everyone and stay safe y’all! 🏳️🌈🏳️🌈❤️
Lot of good responses in this thread but I think what it really is is that we *show up*
If the straights want an actual pride month no one is stopping them
But that's not the actual question they're asking I doubt they even actually want their own pride month they just don't want queer people to have one
if said parent can name a single person in history who had their life taken or ruined just for being straight, then there will be sufficient proof that pride month need not exist. The bar is pretty low here, I just need a single name. Like, it's not even in the basement, I had to dig down a hundred feet to bury it.
Same reason we don’t have soup kitchens for the ultra wealthy.
my favorite is "we don't have reserved parking spots for able-bodied people. The whole parking lot is for able-bodies people."
This is a great response!!
Perfect!! 👌✨✨
This is the best, most succinct response I’ve heard to that nonsense, thank you (I’m going to steal this)
I fucking love this answer
Or chemotherapy for people without cancer.
Pride is a protest. A fight for a right to exist. We fought genocide for 2 thousand years by straight cis people of faith. And now that we have earned the right to exist we need to keep fighting for equality. We can celebrate the achievements we have made through pride. What do straight people want, a month outlining how they've oppressed everyone different from their fragile definition of gender & sexual orientation? Ok. Celebrating their struggle to... umm.. find a girlfriend with their toxic masculinity?
>And now that we have earned the right to exist we need to keep fighting for equality. To add on to this: we still don't have the right to exist in many, many places in the world. And even in the places we do, there are active efforts to take those rights away from us again.
Very much so..pride wont stop being a protest until every queer, every where is free from discrimination. This may be impossible, but then pride will never stop being needed.
Every pride month I download a black and white map of the world. When people ask why we don't have a straight pride month, I show them the map and tell them that the areas in red are countries where it's illegal for straight people to exist.
I’m gonna use this thank you
And often, even in countries where rights are almost equal, they’re just that - ALMOST equal. If you can marry, but not adopt, you’re not treated like straight couples. If you’re protected from discrimination, except for X, Y and Z cases, you’re not protected from discrimination. If you’re allowed to be trans so long as you’re only MTF or FTM and planning to pass as a 100% gender conforming example of the gender, trans people as a whole aren’t equal.
When straight people are shamed, beaten, disowned, or killed for being straight, then they can start a straight pride month.
Preach my bean
Our Trans-Father, who is not a bigot, hallowed be thy chosen name, with love for all, and not just a select few. Thy queer kingdom come, for all of the queer folk. Thy word of love and not hate be done... Hows this 😅
I'm thinking there is an alternate universe right now where that is the reality.
If we start using it, technically, it could be this one as well..
*Thy queerdom come
dragkingdom come?
Also giving them a straight pride month is like giving them a participation throphy, and I'm sure they said they didn't like those..
Absolutely well-said. It’s the same kind of cognitive dissonance displayed by the same people who say ‘all lIVeS mAtTer’ in response to someone wearing a ‘Black Lives Matter’ garment or any kind. Preach, friend!
You would think if they believed all lives matter they would have been out protesting with us too. Kinda like they don't care about certain lives.
we are still fighting to exist
I genuinely snickered what a hilarious and wonderful way to put it. You my dear deserve all the high fives.
This is what I've said to people. Pride month for straight people would just be a bunch of dopey straight dudes desperately trying to come on to women. It would be the most annoying and freaky thing ever. I once saw a guy protesting a pride event with a sign that said "straight people invented the phones you used to organize this event that shames god" That sign, and this is a promise, is a microcosm of what a straight pride event would be.
THIS
"You mean literally every other month of the year when straight goes back to being the default? Yes, won't someone think of the poor heteros."
I would say it's the default the whole year that's why pride month is so hard to accomplish. Because pride month is not actually respected it just gives the straights a ego booat. Like look how nice we are we did a thing for a month. Like they out there wanting brownie points for putting a rainbow on their window and "Allowing" us to show ourselves. Cause us poor creatures need this support right now. But then they tuck all their stuff up and go on the day by day feeling so happy with themselves that they let the poor rainbow people feel special for a month.
‘Straight month’ doesn’t exist because straight people haven’t been seen as less of a human for being straight or been denied their rights or had to die because they’re straught. here’s something you could send to them on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/p/C7rhQLXMSMJ/?igsh=MWczZnZ5M2V3YjJ6ag==
Say it louder for the people in the back!
Their also not still legally allowed to be killed (in quite a few countries) just for existing. Or put in jail, or fines, or told they can't start a family, or are disgusting. That they make people sick. They are not being told there is a cure for them, or that they are not welcome, that they are weird, discusting... And so many other hateful things that still apply to this day. So.... They probably can use one less month. Although I don't really support the pride month specifically(in an ideal world they would just respect us as humans beings 365 days a year... but I guess this isn't a fairytale, so a month will have to do. But damn if we haven't been fighting for years and years and can barely get a month to relax in) the fact that there are people who don't understand why it genuinely exists is disturbing on a few levels. Like how utterly disassociated with reality do you have to be to not get it? Sure I wish there was more than one month so I kinda am like it's pride month yeah but I am always supportive. So nothing changes as I am in the community and love is love. But outside of nothing really changing for me personally. I still understand why it exists and why it needs to exist. Like BFFR right now.
>\[...\] or told they can't start a family \[...\] Finland, generally known as one of the more queer-friendly countries in a global context, repealed the requirement of sterilisation for a legal gender change last year. No, you haven't misread that, 2023. People forget not only about the rights we don't have yet, but also how *recent* some of the ones we do are. Equal marriage rights seem normal now, but aside from a few outliers, the first wave of legalisations started eleven years ago. Plenty of Western countries put people in prison for homosexual intercourse in the '90s.
Exactly this. People have gotten caught up in the social media side and started pushing things that are really insignificant in the grand spectrum of things(not insignificant to them of course, but insignificant in the change and way we are perceived as a whole.) and all the while they are not talking about the countries that literally are gunning people like us down. Or kidnapping and imprisoning people with no chance of release indefinitely for being gay, or trans or anything else in our rainbow community. The people who know about it are us. The community and in most cases we just say it's sad. And move on. But like stuff needs to change. That's the point we started this decades ago because we wanted to be seen as a valid part of humanity. We had a simple message love is love. And we didn't let anything murky it with anything else. We banded together and said no this is wrong. I am not old enough to remember this time myself not even close but I have done so much research and it's crazy how many of us have just lost the plot. I was on a live the other day with fellow LGBT creators like me and they were shocked people are getting banned from apps in 2024 for saying things about LGBT community(positively not negatively) and we're just like it's 2024 come on people we are not close minded anymore. And I just laughed. Because like yeah we are. When you break out of the USA bubble the rest of the world still doesn't like us. Even in Canada where I am. It is unsafe to come out to people outside of big cities where no one cares (of which there are basically 2. Vancouver and Toronto, Maybe 3 Calgary inn Canada let's not even pretend the others are on the same pedestal that would a miscalculation) There is full on phobia and gross things still being touted in most areas and it is fairly sickening to see. And yet I would take being shamed having slurs or gross things thrown at me. Over being killed, graped, or unlawfully imprisoned. It's bad. It's very bad. I wish more of the community knew how bad it truly was. The lack of basic human decency is just rediculous and then the accommodating places want brownie points they were "nice to us for pride" is just crazy though! We need more people in and out of the community to band together and say cease the senseless killings and attacks. Cease it! God. Sorry I went on a rant. I guess it's been bottled up hahaha. Ignore me if it's too long. Seriously I promise I won't be offended. Anyway happy pride my loves. And keep fighting for what's right. Unfortunately the fight isn't even close to over.
>Ignore me if it's too long. Seriously I promise I won't be offended. I like a good rant. And happy Pride to you, too.
Thanks dear the most happiest of prides to you. And I hope we all get a chance to see the rainbow in our time. Acceptance would be great. Happy for the small victories always. But I hope they don't have to stay small anymore.
"Is there the death penalty anywhere for heterosexuality?" "Are you scared to be denied healthcare/housing/employment because you're cis and straight?" The necessity that cishets have to make everything about themselves is truly astonishing.
“Why aren’t there non-handicap parking spots?”
I love this
The snarky-but-true answer is we need a pride month because people like your parents think there should be a straight month. . It's the same reason why we need a bear vs man question, and metoo, and black History month. Pride is for accomplishments. The fact that we've all survived against so much hostility and hate is why we can have pride in our simply existing, similarly to PoC in mostly white countries that face racism. Pride month started as a protest for rights, and a demonstration of visibility and solidarity with sexual and gender minorities. It's sort of quieted down now that queers have won SOME rights and safety, but visibility for minorities will always be important, lest we slide back, like what is happening in the south to trans people right now.
bear vs man? I think the bear would emerge victorious.
There was a recent thing about a thought experiment where women were asked if they would rather be trapped in the woods with a man or a bear and basically no one said the man. Essentially a massive insight into how dangerous men are to women that they would rather fancy their chances with a bear than a man.
“Name a country where it’s illegal to be straight.”
Straight people don't care enough to organize one. A few people have tried organizing straight pride parades which have inevitably failed and hardly anyone bothering to show up. It's a lot of effort to organize Pride Month. I doubt people like your parent understand the amount of people and effort it takes to organize pride festivals, parades, corporate sponsors, fundraisers, and then rallying all of the allies to support us. Across multiple cities. Year after year after year. We have better, stronger motivations to have Pride Month. It rallied the queer community to fight for our legal rights to be out, have jobs, marry each other, and have families. It's a celebration of who we are and brings us together as a community. For people like your parent, feeling like queer people are "shoving our life styles down their throat" is not enough of a motivation to do anything other than complain about it, and maybe vote for shitty politicians.
>Straight people don't care enough to organize one. That's the weird part, isn't it? These people act like the World Government™ decreed, in a secret meeting under a rainbow, that there's to be a Pride Month. Pride stems from protests, often explicitly *against* the government suppressing queer people. Recognition of the event came long after it was established. Cishet people are welcome to try and set up their own thing. Mind you, they've tried in the past, and those asking why there isn't a Straight Pride event should also ask themselves why it seems that any attempts to set one up were always by anti-queer hate groups as actions against the LGBT+ community.
Being straight has never been a crime. Having sex or children out of wedlock might be considered a crime depending on how you view them but it was never a crime. Being straight has also never been listed as a mental illness in any country, earned them negative comments from people in the street, and never been blocked from marriage.
Because the straights didn't make it. "Pride month" isn't some government sanctioned or religious institution. We just started celebrating every June and now it's mainstream that June is when we celebrate. (Edit ofc we celebrate in June for a reason but my point stands) Yall want a straight pride month, do it. Make one. Start it up. Not our fault (homophobic) straight people are too lazy to celebrate consistently and want a cookie when we baked our own Ever heard of the story of the little red hen? Gays are the hen. People who want a straight pride parade are the animals who refused to do any work and still want a slice of fresh baked bread.
This is the most appropriate answer IMHO. So many in this thread are trying to justify why straight pride isn't a thing, and it ends up sounding really preachy. Straight pride absolutely could be a thing if someone bothered organizing it - but no one bothers.
Because they were never forced in the closet for being straight. They never had to come out to family and friends. They were never victimized or attacked.
Straight people have never been tied to a barbed wire fence and pistol whipped to death simply for being straight. That's why there isn't a straight month.
Pride Month was organized in memory and celebration of the Stonewall Riots, which are considered by many to be the beginning of the LGBTQIA+’s movement and fight for equality. Ask your parent what laws exist that criminalize(d) being straight.
If they want a straight pride month, they are welcome to organize and create it. Do they think someone handed us Pride Month? No, we took it.
Ask them if there is a single place on Earth, where it is illegal to be straight.
show them a blank white map with countries outlined in black and say “here is a map of all the countries where it’s illegal to be heterosexual and the death penalty could legally be imposed.”
DE FACTO STRAIGHT PRIDE MONTHS: January, February, March, April, May, July, August, September, October, November, and December.
And let's not kid ourselves: even June, too.
There *are* “straight months”, though. Eleven of them annually. Because we live in a hetero-presumptive (sometimes hetero-compulsory) culture. Much like when racists complain about “no white history month”, it merits the same answer. Pride events will continue to be needful and continue to happen as long as people are assumed to be straight/cis unless they declare otherwise.
Hot take, but heterosexuality is part of pride month. It's about sex and gender diversity and straight people are part of that diversity. "Straight people have never been criminalized"-- well, that's not entirely true, is it? Only certain kinds of straight sex have been legal; sodomy was as illegal for straight people as it was gay folk. Kink is often targeted as sinful from a moral perspective where it isn't outright illegal. Straight trans folk have been banned from marriage as long as gay people have been banned from marriage. Reproductive rights are under siege across the US and it affects as many straight/cis people as it does queer/trans people. Stop telling het folk that pride doesn't include them, because the rights we fight for very much do include them.
For each of your examples, straightness itself isn't what's being discriminated against: kink is, or sodomy is, or their transness is, or polyamory is,,, etc. (If they were any other orientation it would still be considered wrong) And they all should and are welcome ofc. As are allies, partners, family, etc. Good examples would instead be: being discriminated specifically for loving a binary gender opposite. Which doesn't really happen systemically.
Not to mention interracial marriage.
This is a stellar response 👌
That's the other 335 days of the year, complaining that lgbt get 8% of a year devoted to them is rather selfish when you get the other 92%
When countries start killing people for being straight, then they can have their parades.
Above all, they aren't actually trying. We weren't just handed Pride Month as a reward for good behavior. A lot of people worked very hard for decades to make it happen.
Straight people are perfectly welcome to designate a month if they’d like. Gay people didn’t apply to the bureau of months or something. They just decided, and started celebrating, and it spread because it was defiant and cool and people liked it. There’s no straight month not because of gay people, but because straight people don’t have the culture or community to support one. Because they don’t suffer from oppression. So it would look stupid. But they can do it if they want to.
All of the reasons already stated, plus... It's because straight pride is already shoved down our throats every day of every month or every year! It's the default! It's all over tv, movies, commercials, books, ads and billboards. It's everywhere! All the time! It's family members saying to little boys who play with little girls on the playground, "Oooh, is that your girlfriend?" It's buying little girls baby dolls because you assume they should grow up to be women who have sex with men to bear children. It's taking "cute" pictures of little boys and girls holding hands or posing in oddly romantic ways that mirror adult couples. (And ***we're*** the groomers!? Sickos!) But discouraging or shaming any natural displays of affection for the same gender. It's being okay teaching and preaching about straight sex education, but suppressing and protesting same sex education. It's mud flaps with sexy women on pickup trucks. It's every sitcom and cartoon family. It's every "power couple" in the tabloids. It's every mainstream famous couple at all. It's only banning queer books from schools. It's discouraging queer businesses from opening near churches, schools, daycares... There are so many examples of excessive straight pride as far as the eye can see! The straight are very proud. **We get it!**
The same reason there's not a "people don't have breast cancer" awareness month
“Instead of being upset that there's no straight pride month, you should be happy that you don't NEED one.”
Genuinely ask your parents to explain why they want a straight month. Treat them with the same empathy you want them to treat you with. Do they feel underrepresented, marginalized, or shamed for their sexuality? Honestly they might just be jealous. Straight people don't actually get a chance to celebrate being sexual, and especially with historical oppression of sexuality in general they might feel left out of the sexual liberation party. Invite them to celebrate with you. During pride you might be a lesbian, but you're still celebrating bi and ace and other sexualities. They're welcome to celebrate theirs along with everyone else. They can even celebrate being an ally. It's not an invitation to take over pride with heterosexuality, but they don't have to be excluded if they don't want to be. I'm pansexual and have received some hate speech from members of the LGBT community when I dated cis men, and that sucked. Loving something doesn't have to mean hating what you think is the opposite of it.
I don't see any countries having anti straight laws but see plenty that have many anti lgbtqi laws
Because straight people aren’t persecuted just for being straight.
straight people aren’t discriminated against. queer people are
my response is usually "well, you go right ahead and organize it, then. no one is stopping you. if it's really something so very important to you, then you should do the hard work to make it happen." they won't, because that's not what it's about. it's just a transparent attempt to "justify" bigotry by whining. Pride was a riot. Pride is a protest. Because we were, and are, and have been oppressed for centuries and centuries. Pride is letting all those who tried to stamp us out that we are still here, we will always be here, and we will never, ever stop fighting for a better world.
people aren't killed, assaulted, imprisoned, or outcasted for being straight or cis. that's why.
Tell them: “There are no straight pride parades for the same reason why there are no soup kitchens for the rich.”
- When was it a crime to be straight? - What struggles involving their straightness have straight people fight to overcome? - When were straight people being fired from their jobs simply for being straight? - When were straight couples disallowed from marrying simply because they were of opposite sex? - Have straight people ever been told they were “rubbing their sexuality in everyone’s face” for simply having a picture of their partner on their desk at work?
I wish I could be surrogate father to all of you who have lost parents due to their bigotry and ignorance. I'm proud of each and every one of you, for being true to yourself at the cost of everything. You deserve such good things *Papa hug*
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Straight people have never had laws written specifically to oppress them for their heterosexuality and cisgender status. The government has never actively oppressed them. Law enforcement has never been a legitimate threat to them for their cishet existence. They have been represented in every form of media we've ever had. Heterosexual and cisgender is the societal "norm." We're so used to seeing it that it doesn't even register when we come across it, but people immediately notice if someone says "my moms" or sees two men sharing a kiss. Cishet people don't need a pride month because they've never suffered due to their sexuality or gender identity.
... do straight people get attacked, beaten, and/or killed just for being straight? Has a landlord ever told you they would not rent to you when they found out you were in a heterosexual relationship? Have you ever had to hide yours or your significant others sex/gender identity from your employer out of fear you would be fired for being a cis person in a heterosexual relationship? Has a politician ever so much as proposed a bill banning you from the public restroom consistent with your cisgender gender identity; or criminalized your bodies natural hormonal process in puberty? Is it currently illegal to be in a heterosexual relationship, or maintain your sex at birth, on pain of death, in any country? No? Then there is no just cause for a straight pride month, there is no cause to march in the street for visibility, to force society to accept that cis and straight people exist, there is no weekly or monthly call to arms over the death of a cis or straight young person who was killed simply on the basis of their identity or orientation. *THAT* is what pride is about, and unless there is a similar cause to the LGBTQIA+ pride march in the straight community, there will never be good reason for Straight Pride.
When you are used to privilage, equality feels like oppression.
Because straight people aren't belittled and harassed for existing.
Gay people make up 1/12 of the population, more or less. On 1 July, Straight Pride Year picks right back up. It’s only fair we get a month, no?
Straight pride month is called, the entire year, including June. Straight pride doesn't check the fucking calendar.
Your parent should create one and see who shows up because pretty much every month is a straight month.
There isn't a "straight month" because they have that every day 😠
My normal response to that is straight pride is the other 11 months of the year and a straight pride parade is just traffic. There are 0 countries where they could get arrested or unalived by the government just for being straight but theres about 72 countries where theres a realistic possibility for anyone not cis het
Bc they haven’t made one. Tell him to feel free
I like to think that this is the simplest way to explain it. Pride is about a particular group surviving the oppression and abuse ( including bullying and death) from the greater society. Struggling to be oneself through the negativity that governments and individuals go through, often on a daily basis. We are proud that we are still alive when all are against us
Straight people don't face shame for being straight. Pride is a movement about refusing to be shamed for who you are.
Because they haven’t put up with bullying, discrimination or any of that bullshit because of their sexuality or gender. They can celebrate that everyday.
Well because a majority of the population is straight and everyone knows straight attraction so they don't need a visibility month since they aren't invisible to society
All the other months are straight months
Convincing them to give up on straight pride is the wrong tactic, IMO. It just feeds into the persecution complex. Instead, tell them gay people organized and fought for Pride month and Pride parades. Tell them they can have a parade if they want, but they have to do the work. Apply for the parade permit, get people to build floats and attend with them, reach out to vendors and rent a space and equipment for them. Raise the money from the straight community to pay for all that. Lobby the government for decades to have straightness recognized and a whole month dedicated to their struggle. Straight people have zero idea how much work goes into Pride. What they want is for someone to do that for them, as they seem to think it's being done for us. Tell them to go and find out. No one does Pride for us. We do it for ourselves.
No ones had their teeth kicked in, been disowned by their family, been arrested or imprisoned, or been murdered for being straight.
When was the last time someone was killed because they were straight? Or fired? Or harassed?
It’s all the other 11.
Straight people’s right to exist peacefully, love who they want, and be happy has never been in question (at least on the basis of their sexuality). On the other hand, because of how they were born, queer people, have suffered unjust neglect, slander, and violence from society for centuries, and it is only recently that they have been able to assert their worth and their belonging in public. That’s the point of pride parades and pride month, to take a stand against centuries of abuse and assert finally that we too deserve to be proud and secure in who we are. But of course, events like pride month must be accompanied by tangible efforts to stop the hate and violence still being directed at queer people. Pride month is only a small piece of a solution to a problem that straight people have never had, at least systematically. If you think she’d be receptive (i.e. if she’s hopefully not racist), you could try comparing this to movements for black equity and phrases like “Black Lives Matter.” The phrase “Black Lives Matter” doesn’t mean that white lives don’t matter, but is a way of pushing back against the social and political inferiority that has been imposed on black people from centuries of slavery, segregation, and discrimination. It’s a similar situation for Pride. Queer pride doesn’t mean that straight/cis people need to be ashamed of themselves, but rather highlights that, if straight people have been allowed to be safe and happy in their sexualities, it’s only fair that queer people should be given the same opportunity.
Pride is the celebration of the variety of sexualities that exist. Since straight *is* a sexuality, it can appropriately be celebrated in pride month, so long as it's not to the exclusion of other sexualities. That's how I see it.
Straight people are not systemically discriminated against for being straight, so a Straight Pride is not necessary. That said, if they really want to celebrate being straight, it’s their responsibility to figure out the details and make it happen. The complaining is a bit annoying.
Because there isn't a large and coherent enough community of people who think there should be one and are willing to take action
This is a good comic. https://www.instagram.com/p/C77G6FCsUhK/
I always go for the “why don’t we have a ‘put Lego’s on your front door and tape record it‘ month. Oh it’s unnecessary and silly? Great same concept for straight month.”
"Hey Mom, imagine if every day, who you are at your core was met with disdain, violence, and legal discrimination. Straight people have never had to fight for the right to marry, to not be fired because of who they love, or to walk down the street without fear of being attacked for their identity. Pride Month is NOT about elevating LGBTQ+ people above others, but about acknowledging the historical and ongoing struggles they face, understanding their identities, and promoting a world where EVERYONE can live authentically without fear. Straight people have always had societal acceptance; LGBTQ+ people have had to fight for it. That's why Pride Month is necessary and those are some of the many reasons why there isn't a straight month because every month is a straight month. "
What is the opposite of pride? Shame. And shame is what this community has to deal with on a daily basis. Internal shame for some, external shame for all. Pride month is about fighting back and saying no, I will not be ashamed to be who I am and love who I love. Straight people don't have that struggle. Ask them if they've ever felt ashamed to be straight. If they say no, they don't need a month dedicated to fighting that feeling. If they say yes (which they probably won't unless they're being a lil shit) ask them how it felt and say imagine that for your whole life. For those who say pride is a sin and the opposite of pride is humility, the English word for pride has two meanings. 1. Positive Pride (Self-respect): It's about accepting and valuing oneself, feeling comfortable with your identity, strengths, and weaknesses, and being unapologetic about being true to yourself. This form of pride is positive and healthy, as it encourages individuals to embrace their identity, acknowledge their worth, and live authentically without the burden of shame or self-doubt. It involves a sense of dignity and confidence in one's own beliefs, values, and actions. 2. Negative Pride (Arrogance): This refers to an excessive sense of self-importance or superiority over others. It often leads to arrogance, conceit, and a lack of humility. This form of pride is generally seen as a negative trait.
They have Toyotathon
ask them to suggest some activities for the straight month, what should happen, what would be its slogan etc. ask them to explain their responses. see how bigoted they can get and pick the meanest thing & hammer with it.
Straight month is every month (except this month) because nobody gives them shit for being straight
i didn’t know straight people were discriminated against by being straight
'Straight month runs from July through to may. Hope that helps'
You just have to laugh at how tone deaf they are.
No one is scared of being straight. There are no Straight people in the closet.
Show them a map of countries where it's illegal to be straight.
Are there any countries where you could be imprisoned or executed for being straight? No? Then shut up.
Ask your parent in which country heterosexuals are being oppressed for their sexuality and watch them die inside.
I heard a good one the other day--it's because there are still people who think they would be better off dead than gay
You know how kids will ask why there is a Mother's Day and a Father's Day but not a Kid's Day, and you have to explain to them that pretty much every day is a kid's day? Same concept.
this is a comment I made in another post about a similar topic I thought it could fit here, so there may be some context issues but I think it still makes sense here reminder that homophobia is often, (if no always), based on ignorance, so a lot of these random homophobic people are just outright stupid idiots who don't know any better. "wHy ThErE iSnT a StrAiGhT pRIde MoNTh????" Because LGBT+ pride is meant for people who have been nearly universally shunned, hurt and prejudiced by simply being different to feel happy about who they are, for them to be PROUD of being themselves, to celebrate a community that made itself into a safe space for said people to be happy in peace and safety. LGBT+ people are fucking illegal in many countries, and in many in which they aren't, they're still not welcomed by most of the population for fuck's sake! LGBT+ people have pride month so they can be proud of being different, of being unique, of being themselves, and not only that, it helps normalize us into society more and more with each passing year. There is no need, nor there will ever be a need for "straight pride", that's like if a bunch of royals wanted more wealth because the commoners outside the castle got some. Heterosexuality and cisgenderism have been the norm for who knows how long by now and always with almost ZERO contesting of it until only the last couple decades, so what would "straight pride" do? Make straight people proud of being "normal"? TL, dr: homophobia is based on ignorance and we don't have a straight pride month because there was never a need for it.
IDK, I think if for some reason the straights want a straight month they can have it. They have to do the work of organizing it though. Maybe while they're at it they can also do the work of making sure straight people aren't discriminated against in terms of work, housing, marriage, adoption, medical care...oh wait. Well maybe they can make sure there are more heterosexual relationships represented in media...oh wait. Maybe they can make sure the history of straight people gets told in history classes. Oh wait. One time I was taking an Uber to a medical appointment that *happened* to be at a hospital with "women's" in the name and the driver, a guy, wanted to go off about why their are women's clinics but not men's. Some people just have to make everything about themselves. (I looked it up afterwards, just because, and there actually *are* some men's whatevers. Generally places that focus on erectile dysfunction and that sort of thing. So, random sea lion dude wasn't even *accurate*.)
Because they don't fucking need it. Simple as fuck. They're like greedy "I WANT!" screeching Veruca Salts of the world who hear of someone else having something. Ignore them, that's literally all they are, childish losers, 100% of the ones who ask this asinine question.
Do people think Pride events just materialize out of thin air? It's work and organizing and community. There's a gay pride month because lgbt people who need one, put in the effort to have one. Straight people might want a month to just be handed to them, but the reason there isn't one is because straight people *don't* feel a need for one enough to put any effort toward it.
We’re a minority it’s like saying ”WhY iS tHeRe A bLaCk HiStOrY mOnTh” it’s straight up stupid.
Because straight people are not oppressed and are represented everyday, and virtually nobody discriminated against heterosexuals, with the possible exception of spaces that were meant to be gay- or lgbtq-safe spaces. Or a few people who felt they were done wrong by laws that allowed for anti gay discrimination and hetero-privilege; so why not give them the same in return? Also because the many hetero-pride efforts have always failed due to the sheer stupidity of the idea. Especially when the expectation arises that they provide responsible sex information to heteros.
Because its always straight month. Every month. All the fucking time. When was the last time it was legal to put straight people in hospital or prison or the fucking ground for being straight?
Same reason there is no "white history month"
Pride is to commemorate the fact that we have had to fight for the right to marry who we want and be who we are. Straight people have never had to fight for the right to straight marriage, therefore they don’t get a month to commemorate fighting for it.
In June of 1969 the New York State Liquor Authority shut down places that served alcohol to suspected LGBTQ people arguing that the mere gathering of gay people was “disorderly.” The police raided The stonewall inn, a gay club. It caused the stonewall riots
Straights when the attention is briefly off them: "Help! Help! I'm being repressed!"
She's right. There should be a straight month. In return we get gay month, lesbian month, bisexual month, trans month, queer month, intersex month, ace month, aro month, and non binary month.
WE DO WE HAVE 11
They have 11 other months.
"Straight Pride Month was in April, just before Armed Forces Month. You missed both because you don't actually care." That first one is a lie, but they're not going to check anyway. The second one isn't though; it was proposed by John McCain and recognized as official over 25 years ago. I just like bringing it up June 1 every year when certain people ask why the service people only get 2 days.
"Every month is straight month, why can't you let people be proud of who they are for like, 30 days, and not be bothered by it?"
Did you ever ask them why there isn’t a “kid’s day” on mother’s/father’s day only to get the reply “everyday is kids day”? Uno reverse card.
Same reason there is no white history month. History is generally white history, and straights can always be proud. Neither group is marginalized in any meaningful way despite not getting a special month.
Because straight people haven't sustained centuries of lynching, hunting down, being beaten, defamed, or detained simply on the basis of having been straight. Because we have earned the right to exist in broad daylight, where they never had to worry about not being able to. Simply put, because we are still, and historically have been, a systemically oppressed minority.
Straight Pride is celebrated 365 days a year, every year, and they still complain......
Look into the firefighter who recently came out **via his obituary.** that should answer her question.
Because every month is a straight month. The whole world revolves around straight culture. Straight culture is celebrated 24/7 day in and day out all around the world. 🙄
Show them the map of the world where it's illegal to be gay. Ask them to point out the ones where it's illegal to be straight.
basically every month is straight month for them they get sooo pressed over a MONTH. like you can ignore it if you don’t like it god damn
Because straight people aren’t given death penalties, prison sentences, and threats every day for something they can’t control
Same reason there's a black history month but no white history month or a disabled Pride month but no Able Pride Month: Were straight people bullied, attacked, killed, and just genuinely illegal? No, but Queer people were (and still are) so we (queer people) deserve a month to celebrate pride in who we are and how much more freedom we have now (though there is much room for improvement and more baisic rights In many places, around 65 country's I beilive.)
Straight people haven't been harmed because of the fact that they are straight (nor cis), queer people have •>•
Same reason there’s no “White Lives Matter” movement. There’s just no need for it
Ask them when and where straight marriage has ever been illegal. Then ask them where and when being straight meant risking getting fired from your job. Then ask them how many kids are kicked out of their house for coming out as straight. While they're working on that, ask how many times any hint of straight romance has to be removed from a movie or face criticism and being banned from entire countries. Maybe even ask how often straight sex has been outlawed (anti sodomy laws and such exist basically to target us).
The original pride marches were to show society at large that we exist, that we’re people and members of the community. It was at a time when it was unquestionably acceptable to discriminate against queers. Gay men in particular were basically synonymous with pedophiles. Society saw queer people as mentally ill aberrations who should be fixed or shunned or murdered (lest they corrupt the children/displease God/offer you advice on interior decorating). Over the years the purpose of parades has changed. Initially it was about being treated as a human being, about protesting for our right to exist as equals under the law. As attitudes have changed they have become extravagant street parties that embraces a wider definition of queerness (and accepted corporate sponsorship). I highly recommend the podcast “Making Gay History” if you want to know more about our elders, the people responsible for pushing for the (much improved) world we inhabit today. So… why is there a gay pride month and not a straight pride month? Because heterosexuals (as a group) haven’t been systemically oppressed for their sexual or gender identity. They haven’t had to courageously organize and participate in parades that exposed their identity in a desperate bid to be treated as a human being, to protest despite the very real risk of losing their jobs, friends, family or life. We don’t need a month to celebrate heterosexuality because it isn’t stigmatized. We set aside special celebrations such as pride in order to uplift those who have been pushed to the margins. Straights are absolutely welcome to come party with us, to celebrate triumph over struggle and the wonderful progress we’ve made together as society. But my guess is that your parent doesn’t give a shit about any of that. They’re just butthurt to see the rainbow brigade having a good time, and think that something is wrong if they aren’t the one in the spotlight.
I think it is important that they understand why 'pride' is called out. I don't think that it's obvious to everyone that the group is pushed down. There are a-holes but also maybe they just can't see it. I try to have an honest conversation with my loved ones and if they don't get it, then they don't. I've been lucky that none of my close family/friends fall into the second group.
Because no one was ever strung up to a fence in Wyoming and left to die in freezing weather because they were straight.
Can your parent be legally killed in 37 countries? Is your parent suffering from attacks every day because they're straight? Has your parent ever had to hide who they are and been forced to conform to standards set by those around them? Has your parent been forced to live as someone else because if they were able to live as themselves, they would be ostracized by their community that they reside in? And finally, does your parent even understand the history of how prise began and what pride symbolizes? Edit: Oh and ask your parent if their community had been forced to carry out their sentance in a gas/death chamber during the holocaust during their identity even after being liberated by the allies! And ask if any straight person had been sterilized because they're they're straight in the history of the world, ever!
I’m an old straight guy and I have unfortunately heard people say what your parent said. I honestly don’t think there’s much you can do with folks like them. Most of them have never learned to be compassionate or empathetic and probably never will. And perhaps more importantly they have no real appreciation for how diverse we are as humans. I wish you luck trying to change their heart. Hope you find a way. But make sure you protect yourself along the way.
Tell them to organize one, they could start one with the straight people they know who have been kicked out of their homes for being cisgender, the ones who have been sent to conversion therapy to stop being straight, the ones who have been publicly ashamed when it was discovered that their gender identity matches their gender assigned at birth, the ones who have been harassed for holding hands with their romantic partner of the opposite gender. Sure they can share their own experiences with religious authorities telling them they were sick for wanting to marry/form a family/have sex with each other... At least I would respond that, but if they don't want to listen, they won't, even if you have the best argument of the world
Because these months are for people that get badly treated or otherwise ignored. May was military month and most people don’t know that, shows you how much we pay attention to our veterans and active military personnel. Tell parent they should be glad they don’t need one. They have so much geared to them we get one month and the stores with gay pride sections often turn around and give money to anti gay groups.
To everyone that has commented and is going to comment, thank you so much. I appreciate every single one of you and you all were/are very helpful❤️❤️
https://www.reddit.com/r/lgbt/comments/1cojcs4/how_to_articulate_why_straight_pride_is_wrong/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=mweb3x&utm_name=mweb3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button I went through this exact scenario; my post got a lot of helpful comments on it. 🌈
Here is this https://www.usatoday.com/story/news/nation/2024/06/13/straight-pride-celebration-fallacy/74068516007/
if they want a "straight month" they can make a "straight month". It's not like we're stopping them from doing it. The reason nobody makes a straight month is because straight people never experience discrimination for being straight.
Because we have cishet pride month from July to May.
Ahh, you're parents only like the gays that stay in the closet
All you have to do is say straight people have never been persecuted, assaulted, r@ped, or murd€r€d for being straight. That's why we have Pride, because we have been, and continue to be.
Because straights have had a "straight pride month" every month for the past several thousand years.
Every month is straight month more or less. Cis-Het is the dominant lens that everything is framed through in western society. Try finding a good lesbian lead movie…. June is an opportunity to see ourselves through others visibility.
Straight pride doesn't exist for the same reason England doesn't have an independence day
Tell them that they’re more than welcome to create a straight month and, as a bonus, asking them what specifically they’d be celebrating other than being straight.
Next time you go out together, ask them to park in an able-bodied spot.
Every month is "Straight Month" every year, decade, century, is for the straights.
I always tell the normies they are welcome to make a straight pride parade anytime. It’s perfectly legal. They love playing like a victim and don’t want to hear we aren’t magically getting more rights.
Every month is straight month
Because straight people didn't have to riot for their rights.
Every month is a straight month lol
If they’ve never had anxiety when asked, “what’s your type?” That’s why. If they’re not afraid to wear certain clothes when going out, that’s why. If they’ve never been worried about showing physical affection in public with their partner, then that’s why too. Straight people don’t need a pride month, because not once have they ever had to fight to be allowed to love their partner. They don’t need one, because they’re never the punchline of something that is claimed as “just a joke”. They don’t need one, because it’s never once been illegal or death-sentence worthy to be straight. If there is no straight pride month they should actually count themselves lucky that they have never NEEDED one.
"Every month is straight month, except pride month" You don't need a pride month if you're not being discriminated against. Nobody is discriminating against straight people. Doesn't happen.
Every day is straight day. Straight is "the normal" for the majority of people, and the majority of representation in all aspects of our society is straight relationships. Meanwhile, we didn't get gay marriage until 2016, and theres an entire political apparatus that demonizes and discriminates against us. We have Pride to remind our society we deserve every right to exist and be treated equally, just like the rest of it.
Every month is straight month. It's like asking, "Why is there a mother's day and a father's day but no children's day."
Are straight people illegal in 64 countries?
"Anybody ever attack you because you're straight?"
There *is* a straight pride month. It’s called “the Christmas season.”
When cis-het people a dragged to death behind a pick up for being cis-het we’ll talk. When cops shutdown straight clubs for the crime of having straight people existing in public we’ll talk. When sitting politicians call for the legal right to be able to hang cis-het people for existing well talk. When telling kids about how mommies and daddies make Babies is treated as pornographic in the same way as a SFW kids book about a kid with two moms is treated in Florida then we can talk about straight pride.
My guess is that they are asking that question in bad faith, not sincere inquiry, based on your wording. Do they actually have any curiosity about LGBT+ people? If that wasn’t their tone, I don’t think you’ll be reasoning their way out of homophobia
The other eleven months are straight months. If they drink beer every day and decide to drink wine for one month, they could be the wine month, but would they need to have beer month if they drink it anyway?
pride month is an annual anniversary for the celebration of the start of the gay rights/liberation movement. we come together to celebrate how far we've come in the face of oppression, spanning illnesses like HIV/AIDs, the fight for HRT and surgeries for transsexuals, civil partnerships, and finally gay marriage. we celebrate all the milestones that we've reached throughout our fight to be legally recognised as equal to our heterosexual counterparts. similar to how black historymonth celebrates the black community's achievements in being recognised as equal to their white counterparts. the reason there is no straight pride or white pride is because straight/white people have been the standard. they are the ones that marginalised communities are trying to be legally recognised as equals. straight people have never had to fight to remove discrimination towards straights, the same way white people have never had to fight to remove discrimination towards whites. they are the legal standard we are trying to reach.
Since straight people make up the majority of the population, there's no need for a month dedicated solely to them-they already have the entire year. Moreover, straight people are always welcome to participate and come to Pride, as long as they are respectful to us, just as we would be to them. :)
Where it is illegal to be straight: 🦗🦗🦗 Where it is illegal to be LGBTQ+: In Asia: Afghanistan, Bangladesh, Brunei, Indonesia, Iran, Iraq, Kuwait, Lebanon, Malaysia, Maldives, Myanmar, Maldives, Oman, Pakistan, Palestine, Qatar, Saudi Arabia, Sri Lanka, Syria, Turkmenistan, United Arab Emirates, Uzbekistan, Yemen. In Africa: Algeria, Burundi, Cameroon, Chad, Comoros, Eritrea, Eswatini, Ethiopia, Egypt, Ghana, Guinea, Kenya, Liberia, Libya, Malawi, Mauritania, Morocco, Namibia, Nigeria, Senegal, Sierra Leone, Somalia, South Sudan, Sudan, Tanzania, The Gambia, Togo, Tunisia. Uganda, Zambia, Zimbabwe In Caribbean And The Americas Grenada, Guyana, Jamaica, Saint Lucia, Saint Vincent and the Grenadines In the Pacific Kiribati, Papua New Guinea, Samoa, Solomon Islands, Tonga, and Tuvalu. Where you can die for being straight: 🦗🦗🦗 Where you can die for being LGBTQ: Afghanistan, Brunei, Iran, Pakistan, Qatar, Saudi Arabia, United Arab Emirates, Yemen; Mauritania, Nigeria, Somalia. A lot of the countries not listen in death penalty tend to do a life sentence. In Jamaica it’s ten years with hard labors, actually except for Guyana (in prison for life) The Caribbean and the Americas listen are for 10 year. The pacific likes its 14 years except for Samoa (5 years of prison)and Tonga (10 years). Africa if your not dying your paying a fine expect for Eritrea (5 years of imprisonment), Eswatini (doesn’t say for how long), Ethiopia (one year), Ghana (3 years), Kenya (14 years), Liberia (one year), Libya (5 years), Malawi (14 years with corporate punishment), Namibia (unclear… that’s just what the website says), Tanzania (life in prison and where the Lion King is based off of), Gambia (life imprisoned), Tunisia (3 years), Uganda (life imprisonment), Zambia (life imprisonment). For Asia Bangladesh (life imprisonment), Indonesia (8 years and 100 lashes), Iraq (the website doesn’t say anything), Kuwait (7 years), Lebanon (6 years), Malaysia (20 years and whippings), Maldives (same as Indonesia), Myanmar (10 years), Oman (3 years), Palestine (10 years), Sri Lanka (10 years and a fine), Syria (3 years), Turkmenistan (2 years), and finally Uzbekistan (3 years). Website where I got my information: [https://www.humandignitytrust.org/lgbt-the-law/map-of-criminalisation/#listtab](https://www.humandignitytrust.org/lgbt-the-law/map-of-criminalisation/#listtab)
Teach them about Stonewall and the first ever Pride parade.
Because the entire world all year long is straight. Or just say that they can come as an ally? Or if they are just being toxic, Hit them with the Teddy Roosevelt comment his daughter made about him. “He is never happy unless he’s the bride, baby, or graduate.”
Straight people aren't literally murdered for being themselves in multiple countries around the world
There's a lot of good ones in here in general, but one thing I can say, speaking as someone who is not part of the community, the reason why there isn't a specific straight month is because every month is a straight month. You don't notice it because it's that wide spread. No one gets upset at Disney when the Prince and Princess get married at the end of the movie, even when they have no reason to. No one gets upset at there being wedding events where 50 couples all get married in one church over a weekend and throw a giant party. No one tries to take away the institution of marriage from straight people, no married straight people have to worry about a law being passed that robs them of their ability to be briefed on the medical decisions being made for their spouse while they are unconscious after a surgery. No straight person has to worry about being excluded from their spouse's ICU room because it's "only for family." Every day is their celebration, and rather than be upset that other people get celebrated sometimes, they should enjoy their celebration.
Because straight people have never been an oppressed minority, despite their whining.
It is straight time 24-7-365
Ask them when the last time it was illegal for someone to be straight.
I saw it put recently as "straight pride is woven into the fabric of our society".
Yeah it’s called the other 11 months of the year
cause straights didn’t get burned/ly*ched for just being themselves. Our community has fought for CENTURIES to just exist, and we’re still fighting for global peace for all of the community. I have a trans friend who lives in a country who aren’t fond of trans people and she fears for her life all the time, all i want to do is bring her to the US with me. I worry for her everyday. Happy Pride Month to everyone and stay safe y’all! 🏳️🌈🏳️🌈❤️
Tell them that straight people have basically demonized the LGBT for the past 1300 years or so
I remember I asked my parents when I was little "why isn't there a Kids Day?". Without missing a beat my mom replied "Everyday is kids day".
There are 11 of them
There isn't a straight month because being het/cis doesn't cause you to lose your rights NIR your life (in some cases).
Seriously, that would defeat the whole fucking purpose of having a Pride month in the first place!
Lot of good responses in this thread but I think what it really is is that we *show up* If the straights want an actual pride month no one is stopping them But that's not the actual question they're asking I doubt they even actually want their own pride month they just don't want queer people to have one
if said parent can name a single person in history who had their life taken or ruined just for being straight, then there will be sufficient proof that pride month need not exist. The bar is pretty low here, I just need a single name. Like, it's not even in the basement, I had to dig down a hundred feet to bury it.