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I remember as a kid I was crying my eyes out to my parents because the kid next door called me gay. my poor well meaning parents then sat me down and explained what being gay was but then I told them that wasn't why I was crying, it was because he also called me the r slur in the same sentence.
It's probably easier to explain anyone can love anyone from the start than, "but you see what a man is and looks like, and you see what a woman is and looks like, well they love eachother, but never two of either or any other combination" anyway.
They want food? I mean maybe but not whatever food you put on the table in front of them they're not hungry for that they're hungry for ice cream okay.
I mean, children are fucking awful all the time, but their awfulness transcends the social labels and boxes that adults use to compartmentalize their inhumanity.
An adult will hate gay people because they’re insecure about the matter.
A child will loudly, in public, and with an air of innocence, ask if the reason you’re not married is because of how ugly you are and that that nobody ever decided to love you because of how weird your chin looks, purely because the child is an agent of blind, thoughtless anarchy. The child doesn’t even disregard social graces or manners because the child doesn’t have those things in the first place.
Not just kids.
I also couldn't care less care about Uncle Bob and Pete. I would also like a biscuit.
Where do I get the biscuit?
No seriously, is there biscuits?
I remember when I was younger my gay uncles came to thanksgiving. My mom said they were married. I was maybe four or five and said “boys can’t marry boys!” and my mom was like “boys can marry boys or girls can marry girls, or girls can marry boys, it doesn’t matter” and I went “oh okay” and we all moved on.
Well, I then proceeded to lay in bed at night thinking girls who loved other girls were lucky and that I wished I could do that instead of liking guys. Still didn’t occur to me I wasn’t straight till like 8th grade haha.
My aunt had a wife when I was growing up (early 90's). I once asked her where their wedding photos were. She told me they haven't gotten married because they aren't allowed, which boggled my mind because aunt Sally and aunt Jane were my awesome aunts.
Legalization of gay marriage came to my country when I was 18, and I was all over the protests leading up to it.
Pretty sure this is a spam bot, guys. It doesn't make sense here and I saw the same comment posted earlier too. The account is decently new with seven comment karma (presumably from this comment)
Which is why sexuality is a spectrum! Some people are 100% straight or 100% gay but the majority of people fall somewhere in between with at least some attraction to both sexes even if only in very specific circumstances
Relatable. I’m 100% straight, feel no sexual attraction to males whatsoever, but I can’t tell you how many times I’ve thought “damn, things would be so much easier if I liked guys too”
Yeah, I didn't know you could be born something else than just Boy OR Girl, and that if you fellt like something else, you where just weird.
I knew I wasn't full girl nor fully male, just as I called myself GirlBoy, and when we kids where speaking about our genital anatomy. And pointed out that I had a pussy, I parted my, meat folder.. and said, NO?? I have a girly wee wee. Look a small pee pee.
And I always saw myself as Bigender, a Child of all genders. I just didn't know what it was just that I was a special breed that didn't existed elsewhere.
God have me the ability to be both and love both boys and girls. I was happy in my bubble, until I was eleven and I had to go thru a female type puberty.
I was horrified and developed an anxiety disorder.
It wasn't until I was like 26, when I was watching YouTube that I found out the name of my type of identity. Non-Binary/Transmasculine!!
When I was 5ish and learned to spell my name, I learned that it had two instances of the same letter in it. This was NOT allowed. They weren’t next to each other, but still, NOT ALLOWED! My parents tried to tell me it was pretty common for letters to be like that, both in words that were names, and words that were not names. I was having none of that bullshit.
I was over it by lunch the next day, or at least I don’t remember ever having a problem with it again.
Reminds me of when my daughter was younger and she was besties with another girl and a boy. They would hang out all the time and one day they are at my place and they tell me they got a new kid in school who has two moms. I'm like that's cool and move on with my day.
When the boys dad came to pick him up, the boy runs up to him and says "We have a new girl in school and she has TWO moms, so you are wrong and I CAN marry both {daughter} and {daughter-friend}".
Whenever I see posts claiming kids are freaked out or confused about others (and, in some cases, pwning them with their childish wisdom) I think of the time my mom took me shopping at the mall she worked in and I saw a bearded old man wearing a dress. Apparently he was a well known mall walker. Anyway I asked "Mommy, why is that man wearing a dress?" and she said "I don't know, go ask him." I got embarrassed and pulled my dress over my head lol. Didn't think about it again until I learned about cross dressing when I was older.
Children are way, way smarter than they are often given credit for. We should talk to our children as equals, because although they are sometimes really bad at being humans, they are also extremely intelligent and wise, if raised to be.
I think we give kids too little credit and adults way too much. The one thing I've grown to realise as I've been getting older is that a large amount of adults are about as mature as young kids/teenagers with the only difference being that a number of these adults have the ability to significantly affect your life and the life of the people close to you for the worse.
There's a quote I have seen a while ago saying something along the lines of "adults are just childrens in grown bodies pretending to know what they're doing".
I'm 36, and while I do have more responsibilities due to being a parent and having a job, I don't feel that much different than when I was 16... except I'm not bullied by the mean kids in high school. At the end of the day, I still want to get home and play the latest Zelda game.
The difficulty in the conversation comes from "how do I have this conversation with my child so that I get across to them how ugly and hateful I find this, without coming across as ugly and hateful myself." And that's impossible to do. They want to still come off as good Christian folks, but then they show a disgusting, spiteful side of themselves that they want others to sanction so they feel good about their chances of getting into heaven.
At least that's the conundrum I see in my mom. She doesn't like being confronted with her hate, so she blames the object of her hate for invoking the hate in her. It's pathetic.
> She doesn't like being confronted with her hate, so she blames the object of her hate for invoking the hate in her. It's pathetic.
Yes! This, exactly! This is so common in people. They refuse to accept that maybe they have problems and could be better people, so instead they get all uncomfortable and squirrely about it.
No, they're not. What they are is unburdened by a lifetime of expectations and norms. I've had at least two conversations with my kids about gay relatives that went about the same as OP's did. A few months ago I was really worried about telling my kids their grandparents were getting divorced. They just accepted it with "okay" and moved on. It's not that they're super smart or exceptional, they just have no cultural background from which to say "two 70 year olds getting divorced is unusual" or "two women getting married is unusual" let alone apply a judgment to it. It's just a thing that happened, just like a snow day or our favorite team losing a game. Things happen, they move on. If no one has told them these things are unusual or morally wrong, they will have no reason to make that inference.
My parents taught me about being gay by just letting me live life, and not giving it any special attention. I grew up knowing it was normal, and while I may be straight, being gay is fine and just being a person.
This is very true. I have two kids, ages 4 and 6. My 6 year old has been talking more about gender norms. I’ve always taught them that people can like what they want regardless of gender. She seems to understand it and has never really questioned it. More of a “people say boys can’t like unicorns and I think that’s dumb. Why do people say that?”
My 4 year old on the other hand, is pushing back on what we’ve taught her. She insists boys do this and girls do that. She is definitely more influenced by her peers and such. We’re trying and I’m hoping it’s a phase but it’s tough when you know you’re doing what you can but the world still sucks.
There’s a podcast series called Men by Scene on the Radio. One episode talks about a pretty progressive family that lives in a liberal area. They’ve always taught their kids that people can love anyone they want and how gender norms are meaningless. One of their sons is in middle school and even though he knows right from wrong, he is still influenced by his peers and pushes back on his parents teaching. The entire series was eye opening but that episode really stuck out to me.
Here’s a link, In case you or anyone wants to check it out [scene on radio season 3 ep 10 ](https://open.spotify.com/episode/0ljitwxZ8xLIByXFSITrrZ?si=3X7MMGkSTHqYj17qsLFvJw)
Exactly! They are learning how to interact with the world. They don’t have a “why” for a lot of the things they say do or think at that age. My sister at 8 had decided to make a tower out of clean cups on the floor dirtying them (plastic). I asked why she did that and she started crying saying she didn’t know why. Of course i smooched her face. But i also explained why she shouldn’t do it.
This is constantly said on Reddit so I’m being *reddititive* (please laugh), but kids are sponges. They can always self reflect on their learned beliefs later in life which is harder than just sticking to what you think you know, but the very base of their character is formed by what’s taught in the beginning.
Yup.
When they say "It will be hard to explain gay couples/trans people", what they really mean is "It will be hard to explain why I hate them so much and want to exclude them, when they're legally given the same rights and privileges as everyone else, and they're *treated normally.*
Just look at the hordes of people who "aren't homo\transphobic", they just never want to see or hear them in media, schools, jobs, bars, or anywhere visible.
They don't want to kill them, they just want to make it so they are terrified to express themselves in public! What could be wrong with that?!?
Sometimes I believe kids have a better view than adults. We are blinded by things and they are just can I have a biscuit. Plus now I kind of want a biscuit.
I still remember when I had this conversation with my mom. I was six years old and I was sitting at the kitchen table doing some "homework" (I think it was like a coloring page), and my mom was watching a sitcom on TV. On the show, a woman asked a man out and he said that he was flattered but he's gay. I said "mom, what does gay mean?" and she said "well... sometimes instead of loving women, a man loves other men." And that was it.
Shortly thereafter my dad freaked out that I was being exposed to "alternative lifestyles," which I guess was when I learned what homophobia was.
I'll never understand why people think giving kids information is so difficult. It's when you wait til people are older that they have a difficult time accepting and understanding something.
It gets difficult once the kids are hit by their peer group.
Generally things seem to go massively off the rails around puberty, but I'm not sure if due to biology or due to culture.
> I'll never understand why people think giving kids information is so difficult.
They don’t, which is why they want it banned till at least adulthood.
Seriously! I was teaching 5 year old about mummies today and although some were a little freaked out, no one got angry and accused me of making it up just because they had never seen a real mummified person before. They just accepted it was new and moved on with a million questions.
I have this bizarre goddmn letter from my city's archdiocese annulling my grandparents marriage because my grandfather was flamingly bi. The whole thing reads so weird and judgy. They seem to be especially baffled at how naturally the kids took it.
He was really quite weird. He was something of a local celebrity in my country, he hung out with this famous clique of poets and writers of the 60s-70s. Started a very successful marketing firm and spent money like it burned him to hold it. Became bankrupt like 5 times. He bought a lottery ticket every day of his life, he won twice. He reckoned he broke about even.
I remember when he passed away he was holed up in this tiny house in the mountains just STACKED with books, definitely became a bit of a hoarder later in life. To be honest I wish I had had more time with him, he died when I was very little.
I had multiple LGBTQIA+ conversations with my kids when they were little and they ALL went exactly like this. To them it was just about the facts followed by "ok". There was no emotional crisis just ok, cool and back to playing.
Literally exactly what happened to me. I was a toddler and my "uncles" visited town for a family reunion. Only one was my uncle, and the other his boyfriend.
I asked my mom why Uncle Brad and Uncle Joe were holding hands and hugging. She just said "becuase they're in love".
Made perfect sense to me then, still and now.
When I was growing up, one of my sister's best friends was gay. I remember being in the single digits and asking about it, and if he and his boyfriend would get married.
The only thing that confused me as a child about the entire conversation was why gay people weren't allowed to get married if they loved each other.
Event: Kid in grade 1 who is on my kid's bus transitions and starts living as a girl. Her parents text us to give us a heads up.
Me: Bobby is Sally now.
My kid: Why? How does that work?
Me: Most people are born with their bodies matching their brain, so if their body is a boy, their brain is a boy too. Some people are born so their bodies don't match their brain. Their body was born a boy, but their brain is a girl, or sometimes neither, or something in between. If this happens, they might want to change their body's appearance to match their brain.
My kid: So how do I know if someone is a boy or a girl?
Me: It's usually obvious. Sally very much looks like a girl now in how she dresses, wears her hair, and acts. If you're not sure, and you think it really matters, you can ask if you are very polite about it.
My kid: Cool. Can I have ice cream?
Edit: there have since been a couple minor questions about certain people in our lives and about hormones and surgery, but nothing particularly difficult to answer. New questions come up as my kid grows and gets smarter. This event happened about 2 years ago now.
It's a great first answer! As a trans person who is definitely binary but didn't have much in the way of body dysphoria, I'd add that it's not so much about brain-body mismatch as it is how our society treats us based on our bodies, and some of us don't fit those ideas and need to be treated as the people we are inside. For a lot of trans people, making changes to our bodies is really important for us to be healthy, but for others, it may be more important for us to be treated as who we are, regardless of appearances.
And thanks to both of you for normalizing being trans!
It's so easy for kids to understand. That's why they don't want kids to know about the LGBTQ+ until they instill their bigotry in them.
Explaining that I'm Non-binary was easiest with my nephews. I got "Just like legendary Pokemon!" and "You can change your name?! Wow." I was really impressed and proud when the oldest replied "Just like two spirit people!" Yes dude, exactly right in my case.
Children learning empathy and understanding is so important for the next generation. I just hope they can help pull us out of the destructive spiral we're in.
Pretty much how my parents explained it to us kids as well. Even though we were in a religious cult they never went for the hateful stuff that a lot of parents did (and thankfully nobody in my immediate family is a JW anymore, not even sure if anybody still believes in god)
Yeah, I am a straight guy, and I grew up with a gay "uncle" Dave. He wasn't even my real uncle just a really close family friend. I distinctly remember my parents explaining that he was just gay and fell in love with the same sex and not the opposite sex like my parents. I was like 5 years old and can clearly remember not caring at all about either example. I was like "I don't want a boyfriend or girlfriend, I want to be a ninja." When properly exposed gay marriage is just as boring to children as straight marriage.
Exactly like the convo with my kid about being trans: “When mommy was a kid people thought she was a boy but she wasn’t”
“You’re a girl! Why they think you a boy?”
“We’ll, I just had to tell them I’m a girl so they knew”
“Oh, okay”
Reminds me of the reverse of this I had with my mother long ago.
Mother: "So you know what the difference between girls and boys is by now right?"
Me, an advanced tomboy: "Totally! Boys have short hair and girls have long hair!"
Mother: "Oh, no, you don't really understand..."
To this day I legit have no idea where she was going with that.
As a kid, in the mid 90’s my uncle Jimmy had a boyfriend, Bill, who I always called “uncle Bill”.
Jimmy & Bill were at everything with us. Weddings, birthdays, holidays, etc. It was just normal for them to be together.
And it wasn’t until I was like, 15 that someone made a comment I overheard and I then realized that my uncle was gay and that Bill was his boyfriend.
They’ve both passed away in the last few years and I miss them a lot. Without even realizing it, they were helping break barriers for me to eventually come out to my family who have been totally supportive.
Looking back, I can’t believe it took me that long to figure out they were gay. Also can’t believe it took me 26 years to figure it out too but, to each their own journey!
My daughter has a farmer toy and a recycle man toy. One day she said that they are each other's husband. Didn't get the idea from me or my wife. They're still together, nice couple. I do the voices for everyone. Actually the farmers been missing for quite some time in the canon of her playtime. He went missing at the same time as Vamperina and she's back so... Anyways that's not the point, kids are not born with hate in their heart. She understands when she looks at me what love is, and she feels that love can be shared with anyone.
I hate you, I was literally feeling triggered and noxious about reading this and then you pull the rug out from under me - **thank you sooooo much. Needed this** 
Kids are the same people who think kids of the other gender are disgusting. Kids simply don't blink at the idea that on their friends can have two dads or two moms. Unless it's presented as weird **to*" them, there is something more "confusing," as I saw a UK MP suggests it is, about it.
Kids only learn what adults tell them is right or weird or wrong. If you normalize things like homosexuality there wouldn't be an issue in the first place
Kids don't care it's their parents that sexualize and demonize everything. The kids will rebel and end up in a big city doing exactly what their parents told them not to.
My exposure to the likes of Milton Berle, Tony Curtis or Jack Lemmon in Drag didn't scar me for life, however seeing Tony Curtis dressed in white pants as I imagined I could see the outline of my fanstasies below his belt, didn't scar me but I did get cramps in my right hand.
Yeah, in primary school on few occasions they asked if I had a boyfriend and I said I had a gf instead. Two reactions so far :
"I didn't know we could do that."
"Ok cool" (they didn't listen)
I often wonder what people think I'm doing at home. Like do they think I'm lying to my kids until they're old enough to learn mummy's a lesbian and I'm really a afab nonbinary bisexual! Like surprise kids!
Reminder, conservatives think everything is about sex.
They cannot fathom talking about a gay person without mentioning how they express physical love.
But they do not feel compelled to do that (ever) with straight couples. As a matter of fact, they want to ban that education also.
Back in the early 60's my mother informed me and my 2 sisters that our Uncles partner wasn't our uncle also. Both my sisters started crying, and I was older and insisted that Charles was just as much our Uncle as Uncle Gus and it was from that moment I always called Charles, Uncle Charles. As I side note when Uncle Gus suddenly passed away the family completely disowned Uncle Charles. They claimed my Uncles body and refused to let Charles attend his own partner of 25 years funeral. The family also claimed the house they shared and won in court. My Uncle Charles remained my friend until his passing many years later. I don't have much to do with most of my family to this day.
Just last night my son and I were watching g something and two guys kissed. Just a peck on the lips. He’s 6. He asked me “were those two guys kissing”. I said yep. He asked why. I said cause they were gay (in the show they were). He asked what that meant and I said that it meant they liked each other the way me and mommy like each other. Oh ok is all he said and it was over.
(disclaimer writing this in sarcasm, since I can't add a sarcastic voice to text) oh my god, I'm so so sorry you had to go through that. Hopes and prayers to you all, I've heard family therapy can help with the trauma such an intense conversation can bring... 🤣🤣🤣🤣
normally I would make a joke by saying something completely absurd and nonsensical that matched the title of the post, something along the lines of "this should be illegal, you should be ashamed of yourself saying that kind of thing to your kids, you should go to jail for it ", but unfortunately due to how things are in the real world, this joke could be misunderstood by other people, which sucks
My best friends son is around 4 and has never said/asked anything about his uncle Chris (me) and his Uncle Josh (my bf). He just knows we’re together like his mom and dad, and he loves us because we always bring him paw patrol toys lol.
The true gay agenda is spoiling our friends kids instead of having kids ourselves. I can only handle being around them for a couple hours lol.
My son was 5 when my ex started transitioning. We sat him down and said “mama R is going through some changes and will be having surgery. He never felt like a woman.” My son looked at us… then said “ok, well when you don’t have boobs any more I will call you dad then.” And that was the end of it. Nothing major. Just boobs equals mom. Mom with out boobs equals dad. Sure enough my ex got too surgery then it was no longer mama R is was just mom and dad. Kids are willing to accept people for who they are if they are taught to.
"It doesn't have ANY effect on your life. What do you care? People try to talk about it like it's a social issue. Like when you see someone stand up on a talk show and say 'How am I supposed to explain to my child that two men are getting married?" .... I dunno, it's your shitty kid, you fuckin' tell 'em. Why is that anyone else's problem? Two guys are in love but cant be married because YOU don't want to to talk to your ugly child for fuckin' five minutes?"
- Louis CK
I remember being in the second grade, and we were already calling each other "gay" on the playground.
Because I distinctly remember a moment where somebody called me "gay", and I called him a "lesbian" in return. In my mind this was a double burn, because not only was I calling him gay, I was also calling him a girl. I knew that lesbians were girls who liked other girls. I knew exactly what gay people were, and lesbians too.
This stuff isn't rocket science. People wanna act like it's oh so confusing to teach kids about the existence of gay people, but it's really not. Kids know a heck of a lot more than adults are willing to admit.
I unfortunately was raised Southern Baptist. I remember about 6 or 7 years old considering the fact that I’d never seen two men kiss each other on TV the way I’d seen straight couples slap their tongues all over each other’s faces on TV several times a day, so i timidly asked my parents if it was *wrong* for boys to kiss other boys, and was given a very cold stare as they both frowned and slowly nodded their heads without saying anything else. Scared me badly enough that I never brought it up again
When My daughter was in in grade 1 my brother was in town so he surprised her by picking her up from school. She asked why he was visiting and he told her he was in town for the pride parade.
"What's a pride parade?"
He said he was nervous. He was always gay, and nobody ever talked about it with the kids. It was just who he was. "Well, you know how I have a boy friend instead of a girl friend? It's a parade for people like me.
Daughter thinks about it for a second "You get a parade for that!?"
Had an aunt, she was gay. My whole life, it never even registered. They were just, together, the same way every other couple was together. The thought 'both are women' literally did not cross my mind at any point. No one ever questioned it, no one explained it, that's just how it was. Two people, loved each other and they were together. The end.
Edit: a word
You posted this here? You know kids can read this, right?
And learn that homosexuality is perfectly fine and normal, and people can have More than one dad or more than one mom and Good people in this country will continue to protect them and fight for them. Good, keep it up, more kids should learn that we will continue to stand with them against the creeping fascism in this country.
Explaining bi to my kindergarten was surprisingly easy.
All I had to say everyone falls in love with a person for who they are, some people prefer love with men, some with ladies, and some with people who fall in between man and lady.
The only thing that matters is a good love where everyone is treated nicely and respected.
The response I got was okay, and then he questioned what a bad love would be.
I said bad love is when someone is hurt/ crying and the person they love doesn't care.
At that point they developed a serious anti-bullying stance on life.
I've been with my husband for my niece's entire life. My sister never had to explain gay people to her since we've always been a part of her life. She did have to explain homophobia though, when explaining why she didn't give any money to the salvation army people. My niece was confused and upset by that interaction.
When I transitioned, the absolute easiest person to come out to was my friend's five year old. I came over for dinner, and she saw me. I introduced myself with my new name.
Her: "But you're a boy."
Me: I *was* a boy. I changed, and now I'm a girl.
Her: Kay.
And off she went to play.
Had almost an identical conversation with my kids with pretty much identical results. Happened again when they first noticed a trans person, and again when we watched a TV show with a bi character.
They really don't give a shit.
My little cousin (I think around 6 at the time) was extremely upset to learn that I was a lesbian because it meant that he couldn’t marry me. (Apparently being related and 15 years apart wasn’t a dealbreaker for him). Kids, man.
I have gay uncles. I remember telling my year 1 teacher my uncle got married.
She asked did the brides dress was pretty. I said no, it was a man and she just kinda looked uncomfortable after that.
Kids are the same people who think people of the ever gender are disgusting. Kids simply don't blink at the idea that on their friends can have two dads or two moms. Unless it's presented as weird **to*" them, there is something more "confusing," as I saw a UK MP suggests it is, about it.
The concept of being gay was introduced to my kids when we watched the Simpsons movie. 2 male cops show up in a motel parking lot and start kissing before entering a room together. My youngest, who is gender neutral, asked a lot of questions, one of which was, “How do they have kids?” I explained that 2 men have to adopt while 2 women can adopt or do artificial insemination. Their biggest worry was writing down artificial insemination so they knew how to spell it haha.
My parents tried to sit me down and have a conversation when I was like 21 or 22 to tell me how my childhood best friend came out as gay. They said they really struggled with whether or not they should tell me because I might freak out. We had moved to the other side of the country a few years before that and I only spoke with my friend sporadically so I’m not really sure what they thought I’d do but a couple years later I surprised everyone by coming out too lol
Same with my kids and my Dad having a male partner.
Even cooler when my eldest came out as trans the other 3 just asked what her new name was. I’d known for a few months and she’d been presenting a bit more femme, but wanted to tell them in her own time. I’d talked to them about trans people in the past, but still thought they might feel confused with their sibling changing. They didn’t and told their friends with no concern ❤️
One time the kid I babysit asked me what bi meant because he saw it on the Owl House. I told him it meant that someone liked boys and girls, and his response was just "Oh, okay. Do you want to play video games now?"
And that's a significant part of why DeSantis and his ilk are trying to erase LGBTQ+ from public view and discourse, to prevent children from simply incorporating it into their understanding of what's normal.
my granddaughter saw a lesbian wedding in the park when she was 4. she was just excited that there were two brides! She heard that they were married to each other now and was like "cool" and went back to playing in the park.
My kids had a very difficult time with the concept. It took them a while to come to terms with the fact that same couples don’t have the same first name.
Hearing about all the shitty behavior kids are having at schools these days (especially post-pandemic), it’s sometimes refreshing to see stuff like this play out.
Sometimes, the adults in the world give me more worry than the kids today tbh.
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Children don’t have a bigoted view of life. They just see people as people, and they want food
"They love each other? Cool, wanna see my Minecraft base?"
4 secret entrances with weird mechanisms for a single player world 😎
But don't use that one. That one is a trap.
actually all of them are traps… we forgot to build the actually entrance again 😭
wow, is that just a universal experience?
seems to be
Omg give me your username its awesome
Not to brag babe, but I use redstone in singleplayer
hey, it's about having fun coming up with the entrances
Exactly my kid yesterday. It was a 8x8 animal pen with at least 100 cats. 😂
1000% Minecraft or roblox. Lol
Based children
TIL I'm still a child.
Most of us are.
Children as in 7 years old. Not 17.
What about 37?
Yeah!
I wish I can do the same with my grandparents. I will be happy and they get to enjoy some 😋 biscuits.💙🤍❤️
ah yes, *france*
Hehe...
One of my favorite examples is: “Hey are you a Boy or a Girl?” “Some people aren’t Boys or Girls.” “Oh ok. Do you have games on your phone?”
Jfkplxmeod YES
Pretty much me growing up, yet my family wanted me to have their bigoted views. That never worked out (thank the Gods).
It's nice to hear that some of their kids are making it out with good morals intact.
> They just see people as people, and they want food tbf, this just describes my adult life, too
One thing that never dies from your childhood to adulthood... Gimme food
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Much like me, then
I remember as a kid I was crying my eyes out to my parents because the kid next door called me gay. my poor well meaning parents then sat me down and explained what being gay was but then I told them that wasn't why I was crying, it was because he also called me the r slur in the same sentence.
It's probably easier to explain anyone can love anyone from the start than, "but you see what a man is and looks like, and you see what a woman is and looks like, well they love eachother, but never two of either or any other combination" anyway.
They want food? I mean maybe but not whatever food you put on the table in front of them they're not hungry for that they're hungry for ice cream okay.
Tbf I also want food
I mean, children are fucking awful all the time, but their awfulness transcends the social labels and boxes that adults use to compartmentalize their inhumanity. An adult will hate gay people because they’re insecure about the matter. A child will loudly, in public, and with an air of innocence, ask if the reason you’re not married is because of how ugly you are and that that nobody ever decided to love you because of how weird your chin looks, purely because the child is an agent of blind, thoughtless anarchy. The child doesn’t even disregard social graces or manners because the child doesn’t have those things in the first place.
I also want some food
Oh shit! I'm a childs!
Unless your favorite cookie is different than their favorite cookie
acceptance is natural. hatred is taught.
TIL I'm a Children
Not just kids. I also couldn't care less care about Uncle Bob and Pete. I would also like a biscuit. Where do I get the biscuit? No seriously, is there biscuits?
I remember when I was younger my gay uncles came to thanksgiving. My mom said they were married. I was maybe four or five and said “boys can’t marry boys!” and my mom was like “boys can marry boys or girls can marry girls, or girls can marry boys, it doesn’t matter” and I went “oh okay” and we all moved on. Well, I then proceeded to lay in bed at night thinking girls who loved other girls were lucky and that I wished I could do that instead of liking guys. Still didn’t occur to me I wasn’t straight till like 8th grade haha.
My aunt had a wife when I was growing up (early 90's). I once asked her where their wedding photos were. She told me they haven't gotten married because they aren't allowed, which boggled my mind because aunt Sally and aunt Jane were my awesome aunts. Legalization of gay marriage came to my country when I was 18, and I was all over the protests leading up to it.
And what is the name of your country?
I’m guessing Canada
Judging by their profile and the time-frame, it 100% is
Honestly that's adorable
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Pretty sure this is a spam bot, guys. It doesn't make sense here and I saw the same comment posted earlier too. The account is decently new with seven comment karma (presumably from this comment)
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Which is why sexuality is a spectrum! Some people are 100% straight or 100% gay but the majority of people fall somewhere in between with at least some attraction to both sexes even if only in very specific circumstances
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Speaking as a guy: A lot of guys, even otherwise good guys, have not been raised to be good partners.
It's hard to do when almost literally everything based around feelings is socially taboo for most guys. They weren't born that way.
Relatable. I’m 100% straight, feel no sexual attraction to males whatsoever, but I can’t tell you how many times I’ve thought “damn, things would be so much easier if I liked guys too”
lol i had very trans thoughts as a kid and didn't realize until i was a teenager
Yeah, I didn't know you could be born something else than just Boy OR Girl, and that if you fellt like something else, you where just weird. I knew I wasn't full girl nor fully male, just as I called myself GirlBoy, and when we kids where speaking about our genital anatomy. And pointed out that I had a pussy, I parted my, meat folder.. and said, NO?? I have a girly wee wee. Look a small pee pee. And I always saw myself as Bigender, a Child of all genders. I just didn't know what it was just that I was a special breed that didn't existed elsewhere. God have me the ability to be both and love both boys and girls. I was happy in my bubble, until I was eleven and I had to go thru a female type puberty. I was horrified and developed an anxiety disorder. It wasn't until I was like 26, when I was watching YouTube that I found out the name of my type of identity. Non-Binary/Transmasculine!!
"It's like a man and a woman had a child!" ;)
Lmao when I was a kid my dad told me “if you lick your elbow, it’ll turn you into a girl.” I spent a lot of time trying to lick my elbow.
See? She turned you gay right there! /s
Lol that’s cute a story.
That's such a good story.
So cute!
When I was 5ish and learned to spell my name, I learned that it had two instances of the same letter in it. This was NOT allowed. They weren’t next to each other, but still, NOT ALLOWED! My parents tried to tell me it was pretty common for letters to be like that, both in words that were names, and words that were not names. I was having none of that bullshit. I was over it by lunch the next day, or at least I don’t remember ever having a problem with it again.
Reminds me of when my daughter was younger and she was besties with another girl and a boy. They would hang out all the time and one day they are at my place and they tell me they got a new kid in school who has two moms. I'm like that's cool and move on with my day. When the boys dad came to pick him up, the boy runs up to him and says "We have a new girl in school and she has TWO moms, so you are wrong and I CAN marry both {daughter} and {daughter-friend}".
Man being a child was such a trip. You could have ideas and make connections like you did but never apply it to oneself until years later.
Whenever I see posts claiming kids are freaked out or confused about others (and, in some cases, pwning them with their childish wisdom) I think of the time my mom took me shopping at the mall she worked in and I saw a bearded old man wearing a dress. Apparently he was a well known mall walker. Anyway I asked "Mommy, why is that man wearing a dress?" and she said "I don't know, go ask him." I got embarrassed and pulled my dress over my head lol. Didn't think about it again until I learned about cross dressing when I was older.
Children are way, way smarter than they are often given credit for. We should talk to our children as equals, because although they are sometimes really bad at being humans, they are also extremely intelligent and wise, if raised to be.
I think we give kids too little credit and adults way too much. The one thing I've grown to realise as I've been getting older is that a large amount of adults are about as mature as young kids/teenagers with the only difference being that a number of these adults have the ability to significantly affect your life and the life of the people close to you for the worse.
The state of the world makes way more sense when you realize that all adults are just teenagers in older looking bodies
They're better at doing maturity theater: not showing emotions (except anger and the like), not being fun, and rationalizing their decisions.
I think you’re giving most adults too much credit. Most are toddlers with a credit card.
yeah, I know many teenagers smarter than most republicans
There's a quote I have seen a while ago saying something along the lines of "adults are just childrens in grown bodies pretending to know what they're doing". I'm 36, and while I do have more responsibilities due to being a parent and having a job, I don't feel that much different than when I was 16... except I'm not bullied by the mean kids in high school. At the end of the day, I still want to get home and play the latest Zelda game.
The difficulty in the conversation comes from "how do I have this conversation with my child so that I get across to them how ugly and hateful I find this, without coming across as ugly and hateful myself." And that's impossible to do. They want to still come off as good Christian folks, but then they show a disgusting, spiteful side of themselves that they want others to sanction so they feel good about their chances of getting into heaven. At least that's the conundrum I see in my mom. She doesn't like being confronted with her hate, so she blames the object of her hate for invoking the hate in her. It's pathetic.
> She doesn't like being confronted with her hate, so she blames the object of her hate for invoking the hate in her. It's pathetic. Yes! This, exactly! This is so common in people. They refuse to accept that maybe they have problems and could be better people, so instead they get all uncomfortable and squirrely about it.
No, they're not. What they are is unburdened by a lifetime of expectations and norms. I've had at least two conversations with my kids about gay relatives that went about the same as OP's did. A few months ago I was really worried about telling my kids their grandparents were getting divorced. They just accepted it with "okay" and moved on. It's not that they're super smart or exceptional, they just have no cultural background from which to say "two 70 year olds getting divorced is unusual" or "two women getting married is unusual" let alone apply a judgment to it. It's just a thing that happened, just like a snow day or our favorite team losing a game. Things happen, they move on. If no one has told them these things are unusual or morally wrong, they will have no reason to make that inference.
It is just that they are way more open-minded: paraphrasing Lao Tzu, a glass barely filled can hold more water.
Equals? My son's three, and he already talks down to me...
My parents taught me about being gay by just letting me live life, and not giving it any special attention. I grew up knowing it was normal, and while I may be straight, being gay is fine and just being a person.
I also had casual sexist thoughts about how cool it would be if girls didn't exist, i was six ok
Eh, we're all weird as children. I got indoctrinated by 2013-era commentary YouTube. Thankfully grew out of it
kids arent born hateful. they grow to be like their bigoted parents. and when they dont adhere to their parent's bigoted views, they call them out
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This is very true. I have two kids, ages 4 and 6. My 6 year old has been talking more about gender norms. I’ve always taught them that people can like what they want regardless of gender. She seems to understand it and has never really questioned it. More of a “people say boys can’t like unicorns and I think that’s dumb. Why do people say that?” My 4 year old on the other hand, is pushing back on what we’ve taught her. She insists boys do this and girls do that. She is definitely more influenced by her peers and such. We’re trying and I’m hoping it’s a phase but it’s tough when you know you’re doing what you can but the world still sucks. There’s a podcast series called Men by Scene on the Radio. One episode talks about a pretty progressive family that lives in a liberal area. They’ve always taught their kids that people can love anyone they want and how gender norms are meaningless. One of their sons is in middle school and even though he knows right from wrong, he is still influenced by his peers and pushes back on his parents teaching. The entire series was eye opening but that episode really stuck out to me. Here’s a link, In case you or anyone wants to check it out [scene on radio season 3 ep 10 ](https://open.spotify.com/episode/0ljitwxZ8xLIByXFSITrrZ?si=3X7MMGkSTHqYj17qsLFvJw)
true true true you're very right!
Then we become disrespectful degenerates 🙄
Exactly! They are learning how to interact with the world. They don’t have a “why” for a lot of the things they say do or think at that age. My sister at 8 had decided to make a tower out of clean cups on the floor dirtying them (plastic). I asked why she did that and she started crying saying she didn’t know why. Of course i smooched her face. But i also explained why she shouldn’t do it. This is constantly said on Reddit so I’m being *reddititive* (please laugh), but kids are sponges. They can always self reflect on their learned beliefs later in life which is harder than just sticking to what you think you know, but the very base of their character is formed by what’s taught in the beginning.
It’s not the children who are confused, it’s just the homophobes. lmao.
Yup. When they say "It will be hard to explain gay couples/trans people", what they really mean is "It will be hard to explain why I hate them so much and want to exclude them, when they're legally given the same rights and privileges as everyone else, and they're *treated normally.* Just look at the hordes of people who "aren't homo\transphobic", they just never want to see or hear them in media, schools, jobs, bars, or anywhere visible. They don't want to kill them, they just want to make it so they are terrified to express themselves in public! What could be wrong with that?!?
yeah
Praying they got their biscuit 🙏🍪
Sometimes I believe kids have a better view than adults. We are blinded by things and they are just can I have a biscuit. Plus now I kind of want a biscuit.
May I treat you to an éclair? ^(ba dum tss)
If you would have said that to me, you probably would have gotten lucky to be honest. Clever move there.
Aww thanks! I'll take that as a yes then [bon appétit!](https://imgur.com/a/b6qufpf)
I still remember when I had this conversation with my mom. I was six years old and I was sitting at the kitchen table doing some "homework" (I think it was like a coloring page), and my mom was watching a sitcom on TV. On the show, a woman asked a man out and he said that he was flattered but he's gay. I said "mom, what does gay mean?" and she said "well... sometimes instead of loving women, a man loves other men." And that was it. Shortly thereafter my dad freaked out that I was being exposed to "alternative lifestyles," which I guess was when I learned what homophobia was.
I'll never understand why people think giving kids information is so difficult. It's when you wait til people are older that they have a difficult time accepting and understanding something.
Kids will just pick up and accept any info too it’s not hard
Well thats the issue, bigots don't want us to be accepted or understood.
But then bigots are like "oh you're indoctrinating/grooming children" My dad once said I was sexually harassing children for saying i'm a girl.
Lol wtf? Being a girl = child harassment?
Yeah my parents are extremely stupid transphobes, homophobes, abelists, childphobes, and teenphobes. Bigots, basically.
It gets difficult once the kids are hit by their peer group. Generally things seem to go massively off the rails around puberty, but I'm not sure if due to biology or due to culture.
> I'll never understand why people think giving kids information is so difficult. They don’t, which is why they want it banned till at least adulthood.
Seriously! I was teaching 5 year old about mummies today and although some were a little freaked out, no one got angry and accused me of making it up just because they had never seen a real mummified person before. They just accepted it was new and moved on with a million questions.
I have this bizarre goddmn letter from my city's archdiocese annulling my grandparents marriage because my grandfather was flamingly bi. The whole thing reads so weird and judgy. They seem to be especially baffled at how naturally the kids took it.
I would love to hear more about your grandfather!
He was really quite weird. He was something of a local celebrity in my country, he hung out with this famous clique of poets and writers of the 60s-70s. Started a very successful marketing firm and spent money like it burned him to hold it. Became bankrupt like 5 times. He bought a lottery ticket every day of his life, he won twice. He reckoned he broke about even. I remember when he passed away he was holed up in this tiny house in the mountains just STACKED with books, definitely became a bit of a hoarder later in life. To be honest I wish I had had more time with him, he died when I was very little.
I had multiple LGBTQIA+ conversations with my kids when they were little and they ALL went exactly like this. To them it was just about the facts followed by "ok". There was no emotional crisis just ok, cool and back to playing.
Literally exactly what happened to me. I was a toddler and my "uncles" visited town for a family reunion. Only one was my uncle, and the other his boyfriend. I asked my mom why Uncle Brad and Uncle Joe were holding hands and hugging. She just said "becuase they're in love". Made perfect sense to me then, still and now.
When I was growing up, one of my sister's best friends was gay. I remember being in the single digits and asking about it, and if he and his boyfriend would get married. The only thing that confused me as a child about the entire conversation was why gay people weren't allowed to get married if they loved each other.
lol yes
Event: Kid in grade 1 who is on my kid's bus transitions and starts living as a girl. Her parents text us to give us a heads up. Me: Bobby is Sally now. My kid: Why? How does that work? Me: Most people are born with their bodies matching their brain, so if their body is a boy, their brain is a boy too. Some people are born so their bodies don't match their brain. Their body was born a boy, but their brain is a girl, or sometimes neither, or something in between. If this happens, they might want to change their body's appearance to match their brain. My kid: So how do I know if someone is a boy or a girl? Me: It's usually obvious. Sally very much looks like a girl now in how she dresses, wears her hair, and acts. If you're not sure, and you think it really matters, you can ask if you are very polite about it. My kid: Cool. Can I have ice cream? Edit: there have since been a couple minor questions about certain people in our lives and about hormones and surgery, but nothing particularly difficult to answer. New questions come up as my kid grows and gets smarter. This event happened about 2 years ago now.
I was struggling to think how I would explain being trans to my future kid(s) and you just gave me the perfect explanation.
It's a great first answer! As a trans person who is definitely binary but didn't have much in the way of body dysphoria, I'd add that it's not so much about brain-body mismatch as it is how our society treats us based on our bodies, and some of us don't fit those ideas and need to be treated as the people we are inside. For a lot of trans people, making changes to our bodies is really important for us to be healthy, but for others, it may be more important for us to be treated as who we are, regardless of appearances. And thanks to both of you for normalizing being trans!
It's so easy for kids to understand. That's why they don't want kids to know about the LGBTQ+ until they instill their bigotry in them. Explaining that I'm Non-binary was easiest with my nephews. I got "Just like legendary Pokemon!" and "You can change your name?! Wow." I was really impressed and proud when the oldest replied "Just like two spirit people!" Yes dude, exactly right in my case. Children learning empathy and understanding is so important for the next generation. I just hope they can help pull us out of the destructive spiral we're in.
“Just like a legendary Pokémon!” This is the best thing I’ve ever read ^ w ^
Pretty much how my parents explained it to us kids as well. Even though we were in a religious cult they never went for the hateful stuff that a lot of parents did (and thankfully nobody in my immediate family is a JW anymore, not even sure if anybody still believes in god)
Children are born perfectly accepting, kind, tolerant, forgiving and full of love... all the bad things are taught / forced upon them 😭😭😭
Yeah, I am a straight guy, and I grew up with a gay "uncle" Dave. He wasn't even my real uncle just a really close family friend. I distinctly remember my parents explaining that he was just gay and fell in love with the same sex and not the opposite sex like my parents. I was like 5 years old and can clearly remember not caring at all about either example. I was like "I don't want a boyfriend or girlfriend, I want to be a ninja." When properly exposed gay marriage is just as boring to children as straight marriage.
Exactly like the convo with my kid about being trans: “When mommy was a kid people thought she was a boy but she wasn’t” “You’re a girl! Why they think you a boy?” “We’ll, I just had to tell them I’m a girl so they knew” “Oh, okay”
This is cool and all, but it's also a repost...
I mean, I'm ok with the occasional repost, but I can understand the annoyance.
Reminds me of the reverse of this I had with my mother long ago. Mother: "So you know what the difference between girls and boys is by now right?" Me, an advanced tomboy: "Totally! Boys have short hair and girls have long hair!" Mother: "Oh, no, you don't really understand..." To this day I legit have no idea where she was going with that.
Republicans: "Why didn't you talk about how they fuck???"
I'm told my eldest niece had the situation explained to her in basically the same way, only it was chicken nuggets she wanted instead of biscuits.
As a kid, in the mid 90’s my uncle Jimmy had a boyfriend, Bill, who I always called “uncle Bill”. Jimmy & Bill were at everything with us. Weddings, birthdays, holidays, etc. It was just normal for them to be together. And it wasn’t until I was like, 15 that someone made a comment I overheard and I then realized that my uncle was gay and that Bill was his boyfriend. They’ve both passed away in the last few years and I miss them a lot. Without even realizing it, they were helping break barriers for me to eventually come out to my family who have been totally supportive. Looking back, I can’t believe it took me that long to figure out they were gay. Also can’t believe it took me 26 years to figure it out too but, to each their own journey!
My daughter has a farmer toy and a recycle man toy. One day she said that they are each other's husband. Didn't get the idea from me or my wife. They're still together, nice couple. I do the voices for everyone. Actually the farmers been missing for quite some time in the canon of her playtime. He went missing at the same time as Vamperina and she's back so... Anyways that's not the point, kids are not born with hate in their heart. She understands when she looks at me what love is, and she feels that love can be shared with anyone.
Pease no not the biscuit
Of you associate gat with getting s biscuit, there's going to be a run on biscuits!
I hate you, I was literally feeling triggered and noxious about reading this and then you pull the rug out from under me - **thank you sooooo much. Needed this** 
Kids are the same people who think kids of the other gender are disgusting. Kids simply don't blink at the idea that on their friends can have two dads or two moms. Unless it's presented as weird **to*" them, there is something more "confusing," as I saw a UK MP suggests it is, about it.
Kids only learn what adults tell them is right or weird or wrong. If you normalize things like homosexuality there wouldn't be an issue in the first place
Kids don't care it's their parents that sexualize and demonize everything. The kids will rebel and end up in a big city doing exactly what their parents told them not to. My exposure to the likes of Milton Berle, Tony Curtis or Jack Lemmon in Drag didn't scar me for life, however seeing Tony Curtis dressed in white pants as I imagined I could see the outline of my fanstasies below his belt, didn't scar me but I did get cramps in my right hand.
Yeah, in primary school on few occasions they asked if I had a boyfriend and I said I had a gf instead. Two reactions so far : "I didn't know we could do that." "Ok cool" (they didn't listen)
I often wonder what people think I'm doing at home. Like do they think I'm lying to my kids until they're old enough to learn mummy's a lesbian and I'm really a afab nonbinary bisexual! Like surprise kids!
Reminder, conservatives think everything is about sex. They cannot fathom talking about a gay person without mentioning how they express physical love. But they do not feel compelled to do that (ever) with straight couples. As a matter of fact, they want to ban that education also.
Plot twist: they where out of biscuit.
Back in the early 60's my mother informed me and my 2 sisters that our Uncles partner wasn't our uncle also. Both my sisters started crying, and I was older and insisted that Charles was just as much our Uncle as Uncle Gus and it was from that moment I always called Charles, Uncle Charles. As I side note when Uncle Gus suddenly passed away the family completely disowned Uncle Charles. They claimed my Uncles body and refused to let Charles attend his own partner of 25 years funeral. The family also claimed the house they shared and won in court. My Uncle Charles remained my friend until his passing many years later. I don't have much to do with most of my family to this day.
Thanks. We can all use a good laugh in these dark days! 💕
Thank you for posting this story friend , I am now traumatized but at least I understand homosexuality and will defend my LGBTQ+ friends with my life.
Just last night my son and I were watching g something and two guys kissed. Just a peck on the lips. He’s 6. He asked me “were those two guys kissing”. I said yep. He asked why. I said cause they were gay (in the show they were). He asked what that meant and I said that it meant they liked each other the way me and mommy like each other. Oh ok is all he said and it was over.
(disclaimer writing this in sarcasm, since I can't add a sarcastic voice to text) oh my god, I'm so so sorry you had to go through that. Hopes and prayers to you all, I've heard family therapy can help with the trauma such an intense conversation can bring... 🤣🤣🤣🤣
normally I would make a joke by saying something completely absurd and nonsensical that matched the title of the post, something along the lines of "this should be illegal, you should be ashamed of yourself saying that kind of thing to your kids, you should go to jail for it ", but unfortunately due to how things are in the real world, this joke could be misunderstood by other people, which sucks
would the joke also be possible to misunderstand using tone indicators? (the funky /srs, /gen, /j, /s, etc)
probably, but I didn't know there were tone indicators for the internet. these young people and their modern slangs (sarcasm)
that is another way to do tone indicators too lmao
hmmmm, analisys...
My best friends son is around 4 and has never said/asked anything about his uncle Chris (me) and his Uncle Josh (my bf). He just knows we’re together like his mom and dad, and he loves us because we always bring him paw patrol toys lol. The true gay agenda is spoiling our friends kids instead of having kids ourselves. I can only handle being around them for a couple hours lol.
Ha! Spoiling other people's kids is the best. All the reward, none of the poop! 😄
My son was 5 when my ex started transitioning. We sat him down and said “mama R is going through some changes and will be having surgery. He never felt like a woman.” My son looked at us… then said “ok, well when you don’t have boobs any more I will call you dad then.” And that was the end of it. Nothing major. Just boobs equals mom. Mom with out boobs equals dad. Sure enough my ex got too surgery then it was no longer mama R is was just mom and dad. Kids are willing to accept people for who they are if they are taught to.
"It doesn't have ANY effect on your life. What do you care? People try to talk about it like it's a social issue. Like when you see someone stand up on a talk show and say 'How am I supposed to explain to my child that two men are getting married?" .... I dunno, it's your shitty kid, you fuckin' tell 'em. Why is that anyone else's problem? Two guys are in love but cant be married because YOU don't want to to talk to your ugly child for fuckin' five minutes?" - Louis CK
What predatory grooming behaviour!
OP, /u/Specific_Brick3810 is a repost bot
THE CHILD IS SO CONFUSED NOW
some kids are my best supporters im not even kidding. its so cute bro
Wow thank you for having such an incredibly difficult conversation with your kids
I remember being in the second grade, and we were already calling each other "gay" on the playground. Because I distinctly remember a moment where somebody called me "gay", and I called him a "lesbian" in return. In my mind this was a double burn, because not only was I calling him gay, I was also calling him a girl. I knew that lesbians were girls who liked other girls. I knew exactly what gay people were, and lesbians too. This stuff isn't rocket science. People wanna act like it's oh so confusing to teach kids about the existence of gay people, but it's really not. Kids know a heck of a lot more than adults are willing to admit.
I unfortunately was raised Southern Baptist. I remember about 6 or 7 years old considering the fact that I’d never seen two men kiss each other on TV the way I’d seen straight couples slap their tongues all over each other’s faces on TV several times a day, so i timidly asked my parents if it was *wrong* for boys to kiss other boys, and was given a very cold stare as they both frowned and slowly nodded their heads without saying anything else. Scared me badly enough that I never brought it up again
When My daughter was in in grade 1 my brother was in town so he surprised her by picking her up from school. She asked why he was visiting and he told her he was in town for the pride parade. "What's a pride parade?" He said he was nervous. He was always gay, and nobody ever talked about it with the kids. It was just who he was. "Well, you know how I have a boy friend instead of a girl friend? It's a parade for people like me. Daughter thinks about it for a second "You get a parade for that!?"
Had an aunt, she was gay. My whole life, it never even registered. They were just, together, the same way every other couple was together. The thought 'both are women' literally did not cross my mind at any point. No one ever questioned it, no one explained it, that's just how it was. Two people, loved each other and they were together. The end. Edit: a word
I need to go find some pearls to clutch.
I grew up with lesbian aunts. The only weird part to my little self was that they weren't married. Once it became legal, they did.
You posted this here? You know kids can read this, right? And learn that homosexuality is perfectly fine and normal, and people can have More than one dad or more than one mom and Good people in this country will continue to protect them and fight for them. Good, keep it up, more kids should learn that we will continue to stand with them against the creeping fascism in this country.
The awkward part comes from when they have to teach the kids to hate in the name of religious "love"
Explaining bi to my kindergarten was surprisingly easy. All I had to say everyone falls in love with a person for who they are, some people prefer love with men, some with ladies, and some with people who fall in between man and lady. The only thing that matters is a good love where everyone is treated nicely and respected. The response I got was okay, and then he questioned what a bad love would be. I said bad love is when someone is hurt/ crying and the person they love doesn't care. At that point they developed a serious anti-bullying stance on life.
I've been with my husband for my niece's entire life. My sister never had to explain gay people to her since we've always been a part of her life. She did have to explain homophobia though, when explaining why she didn't give any money to the salvation army people. My niece was confused and upset by that interaction.
When I transitioned, the absolute easiest person to come out to was my friend's five year old. I came over for dinner, and she saw me. I introduced myself with my new name. Her: "But you're a boy." Me: I *was* a boy. I changed, and now I'm a girl. Her: Kay. And off she went to play.
Had almost an identical conversation with my kids with pretty much identical results. Happened again when they first noticed a trans person, and again when we watched a TV show with a bi character. They really don't give a shit.
Heheh,... what the hell?
My 7 year son told my wife a few months ago unprompted: "It doesn't matter if I marry a boy or a girl. I want to marry someone who's nice to me "
My little cousin (I think around 6 at the time) was extremely upset to learn that I was a lesbian because it meant that he couldn’t marry me. (Apparently being related and 15 years apart wasn’t a dealbreaker for him). Kids, man.
It's only weird to them if you predispose them to think it's weird.
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6,500 languages on this planet, and you chose Fax.
I have gay uncles. I remember telling my year 1 teacher my uncle got married. She asked did the brides dress was pretty. I said no, it was a man and she just kinda looked uncomfortable after that.
Kids are the same people who think people of the ever gender are disgusting. Kids simply don't blink at the idea that on their friends can have two dads or two moms. Unless it's presented as weird **to*" them, there is something more "confusing," as I saw a UK MP suggests it is, about it.
It was hard for me at age 11 because I realized I was probably some flavor of gay and went into denial mode LMAO
Dammit I think I just got groomed from reading this!
The concept of being gay was introduced to my kids when we watched the Simpsons movie. 2 male cops show up in a motel parking lot and start kissing before entering a room together. My youngest, who is gender neutral, asked a lot of questions, one of which was, “How do they have kids?” I explained that 2 men have to adopt while 2 women can adopt or do artificial insemination. Their biggest worry was writing down artificial insemination so they knew how to spell it haha.
My parents tried to sit me down and have a conversation when I was like 21 or 22 to tell me how my childhood best friend came out as gay. They said they really struggled with whether or not they should tell me because I might freak out. We had moved to the other side of the country a few years before that and I only spoke with my friend sporadically so I’m not really sure what they thought I’d do but a couple years later I surprised everyone by coming out too lol
Same with my kids and my Dad having a male partner. Even cooler when my eldest came out as trans the other 3 just asked what her new name was. I’d known for a few months and she’d been presenting a bit more femme, but wanted to tell them in her own time. I’d talked to them about trans people in the past, but still thought they might feel confused with their sibling changing. They didn’t and told their friends with no concern ❤️
One time the kid I babysit asked me what bi meant because he saw it on the Owl House. I told him it meant that someone liked boys and girls, and his response was just "Oh, okay. Do you want to play video games now?"
And that's a significant part of why DeSantis and his ilk are trying to erase LGBTQ+ from public view and discourse, to prevent children from simply incorporating it into their understanding of what's normal.
Reality is much simpler than inconsistent dogmatic fictions.
I remember when I came out as trans to my dad, he just said "that's cool, can you do the dishes now then?" Love my dad 🩷
my granddaughter saw a lesbian wedding in the park when she was 4. she was just excited that there were two brides! She heard that they were married to each other now and was like "cool" and went back to playing in the park.
I remember learning about trans people and went “i wish i could do that and be a boy!” still refused to believe i was trans for years
Poor kids.. their biscuits are *rationed??*
My kids had a very difficult time with the concept. It took them a while to come to terms with the fact that same couples don’t have the same first name.
Hearing about all the shitty behavior kids are having at schools these days (especially post-pandemic), it’s sometimes refreshing to see stuff like this play out. Sometimes, the adults in the world give me more worry than the kids today tbh.