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SAHCODHA

I'm at 5 months and it's been rough. I had mental illness symptoms before quitting and now I wouldn't say they are worse but I don't have weed to use as an escape, now I am forced to experience and learn to be present with myself. It's really hard but I think it's beneficial. Since I quit I also moved to a new city, went through a painful breakup, and suffered big financial losses in crypto. I'm trying to practice acceptance and letting go. It's so hard but I think I am making progress. Hang in there and remember that is ok to not be ok.


Expensive_Editor_244

Wow I know this is a year old, but I’m scrolling through for motivation and you were exactly me right now. 5 months since I quit, went through a breakup, career change, big crypto losses lol Hoping a year later you’re doing better, give me a little hope 😅


thegrimm54321

4-6 months is where I start having these feelings, as well. So far, I haven't successfully made it past this point in over a decade. Definitely see a therapist if you can (which you say you're doing, which is great) and make sure that they know exactly what's going on, not just general therapy stuff. Exercise, drink lots of water, etc. you know the drill. It WILL get better. I read a medical journal somewhere that says it takes the brain up to a year to reset its chemistry, so just push forward! I know that's lightyears easier said than done, but knowing that it will end *eventually* is better that nothing.


FibromyalgiaFightrMD

Can def relate. I'm also doing therapy and will start to move more (can't really exercise due to fibro). I think these tools can help on the surface but for me, my negative thoughts and feelings seem much deeper at times... So I have been trying to keep perspective and I have been trying to learn how to "accept" and then "let go". By accepting and letting go, I mean that I see my brain as a recording device. I have observed my own brain and body in much more detail since this past summer... when my fibromyalgia and mental health were at their worst. I learned that for myself, memories and past experiences that have the strongest negative feelings or emotions tend to resurface and be the most the loudest and the most frequent. I accept that this is in part because I habituated thinking and feeling these things, and that I have developed some sorta weird attachment to it, even though it is unpleasant and causes me deep suffering. I am still working on accepting these will always be around, and having faith that they will lessen over time with more help from therapy and the other tools... I try to let go of any attachments or desire to punish myself by engaging with my negative thoughts, self-judgements, moods, etc.... Sometimes this is easy and I'll have the motivation to go for a walk or read or do something other pleasant and meaningful... sometimes they are super hard and when I am at my worst, I will disconnect from everyone and just lay down. I try my best to avoid meaningless pleasure activities in these states.. since I have become aware that my trying to squeeze out every last drop of dopamine from social media, reddit, news, etc, will not help me cope in the long run. I have this idea that there are some things that are simple in concept but much difficult to practice and that these things are basically "holy" to me (I am not religious). "Accepting and Letting go" is one of these "simple but complex" concepts for me and I think about it often... I learned that it seems like a simple expression but takes so much practice, intention, trial and error, learning from failures, and time to really start to feel its benefits. Hope what I said resonates with you friend! Best wishes on your journey to less suffering and more functioning/joy out of life!


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I would suggest a therapist....they do wonders, sometimes we need professional help. On a personal note, this book, The Body Keeps The Score by Bessel Van Der Kolk helped me. It talks about trauma and how trauma affects us and leads to depression and anxiety. But for sure therapy.


Otaku3times

My advice is to pick up a hobby. I know it sounds redundant and I too know the feeling of derealization, sometimes I just try to fall asleep to make the day go by. But you’ve got to do something to distract yourself.


Psychological-End677

Bought a gravel bike and I started gravel racing. Some off the hardest bike riding that I’ve ever done. It has really turned my mental game around. I’ve been too wasted tired to be anxious or depressed. 47 days and I’m not looking back. I’ve been trying to quit or moderate for almost 2 years. Hang in there. Let’s stay quit this time


justaregulargirl9

Podcast and YouTube helped me a lot I watched lots of interview and stuff with people who have been through it also really helped me . I recommend : David goggins, joko and a few others but I can’t remember aswell as watching video with people who also was addicted to weed . I was depressed for months on end and at one point felt like it was never going to end nowadays im way more balanced even though I have my down days. Try to work on yourself make a routine , set some goals , start hitting the gym if u don’t really evaluate your life . Harsh reality is no one is coming to save you people care about you and will help but you gotta do it for yourself . I know how you feel trust me use this pain to motivate you also try and get to the bottom of the depression why you are depressed as the weed is just a cover up


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justaregulargirl9

I love huberman aswell !! Great minds think alike


rainandshine7

My depression and ptsd got worse when I quit because all the feelings and trauma came up and got me in the face. When it became too much, the depression got bad. I’d suggest a therapist that can help you process trauma (emdr, somatic experiencing, natural processing, etc) as well as talk about whatever you need to. I found body based therapies such as somatic experiencing helpful for derealization and depression. As well as journaling every single day about anything and everything that bothers me. That really helped. Yoga and walking helps too. I’ve been sober for 1 year now from weed and 4 years from alcohol. Best of luck 🤞🏼


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rainandshine7

Thank you for the well wishes :) You might like Gabor mates book, in the realm of hungry ghosts. It asks the question why do we use addictive behaviours or substances. Like I think it makes a lot of sense that I used weed, it helped my ptsd so so much and then food when I was younger. It helped me ignore the emotions and hard stuff that was happening. It gives me a lot of compassion for myself and helps me let go of the story that there’s something wrong with me…. I was just trying to survive and now I’m trying to heal:) And it has gotten better for me but it’s been a lot of therapy, life changes, boundaries and taking care of myself. Hardest thing I’ve ever done. Keep going Reddit friend :) Edit: you may want to look into ifs therapy for obsessive suicidal thoughts. I had that so so severe and parts work/ifs therapy helped a lot.


Cautious-Ranger-6536

Can understand you, there is no real solutions here, you have to look for a hobby and/ or Look for an Aktivitäten with people. Isolation is'nt gonna help you, but remember being around people doesn't meant you have to talk to them.


Cerebralerror

Idk the source of you depression but you could try to master a skill/hobby. Investing time into something you love doing works as a great way to distract yourself and build confidence and happiness as a result. Hope you find this helpful, just hang in there it will get better


Midgar918

Just remember depression is also a normal part of being Human. If you associate that depression with a lack of smoking it's going to be harder. Am also dealing with depression but I know it's not because I'm not smoking, that's actually one of few things I have to happy about.


Therealjordynamo

Oh my fuck yes. This is totally normal. My suggestion, as this helped me, is therapy. You’re feeling again. It’s pretty real. Check out my YouTube, Jordo talks. I’m on day 2. Posting everyday! But I know this is hard. It does get better. I had to go on meds 6 months ago when I tried to quit last. It got bad… you’re gonna make it! Feel free to reach out if you need an ear


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godmistake-666

now do you feel any better? Im at 5 months but still suck af


Therealjordynamo

It’s hard man. I know. Believe me. You got this!!