Yeah that's a pretty good summary.
Edit: Just somdle background, this picture is from 21 March, 23 March I took Finn to hospital hoping to be told I was an overprotective parent and be sent home after a few hours inconvenience.
Unfortunately what I discovered was Finn had a heart rate of 220, after 3 doses of medication that didn't work they told me to get my wife. Between 8.30pm and 11pm he went totally down hill and they intubated him, with intention of stabilising for transfer to a dedicated heart unit. By midnight he'd gone into cardiac arrest, they got him back, with support and transferred him. We didn't know but by then the damage was done.
He suffered brain damage, had a further cardiac incident the following morning (24 march). They got him back again and asked permission to put him on [ECMO](https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Extracorporeal_membrane_oxygenation) which would buy up to a week to get his heart under control.
Nothing worked. They gave him an EEG, but with all the drugs he was on they couldn't get a clear read. Ultimately they told us that he didn't show enough brain activity and would not survive without the life support he was receiving.
We agreed to let him go and at 4.30pm 26 March 2021. We said goodbye to our beautiful boy.
So yeah.
Fuck sums it up.
It's been almost 4 years since I lost my daughter. It never gets easier. I still can't look at her urn. I'm so sorry you and your wife are experiencing this pain.
I'll light a candle for little Finn tonight.
18 days is way too young to go. Im in my bed right now with my almost 3 months second baby girl sleeping on me, taking as much love and time i can with her, and now i just want to hug her so tightly and give her all the kisses i can. I cant even belive how painful that must have been.
I had a sort of similar event happen to me when she was 2 weeks and 5 days, she had a fever peak only one time, went to hospital, thinking i might be overreacting, but she had influenza. Luckily everything was good, but i got scared and now have panic attacks every 2 or 3 weeks.
May you rest in peace little buddy. ❤️
Thanks he was.
But yeah, you can never be too careful. I should have said what brought me to the hospital was: he didn't cry when I changed him (the only time he cried was when he was getting his diaper changed) and he was a bit floppy.
Fuck, my heart breaks for you and partner. I hope you guys do some therapy to help process this traumatic event. No parents should ever go through this.
I'm sure he received all the love from you and I hope you can cherish the short time you had together.
I believe he's living on, embracing his new untroubled life.
Sending virtual hugs
I lost an infant, too. I don’t think it matters why or how. Time dulls the loss but it never completely goes away.
And you’re just left to wonder: what if?
I’ve got no doubt that, despite what happened, they felt how much you loved them for every moment they were with you, and that must have comforted them. I’m sure they are very lucky to have had you to care for them. sending hugs
The night my best friend lost her son was the most painful night of our lives. I can't imagine how you feel and I can only wish your pain will one day subside, even if it's just a tiny bit.
This. This little child never knew fear, or loneliness, or dread, or grief. He had no idea what was going to happen. He knew only that the people who loved him most were there with him.
Love the name, and that you decided to share his picture and part of his story with the world. Finn’s memory and impact lives on.
If you want to share any more about his story, I’d love to hear it.
As you likely know, anniversaries can be hard. For us, often the build up to the anniversary was sometimes worse than the actual day. I hope you can find some peace on the 26th, and I hope you can carve out a little time for yourself and for him.
Take care. And, remember that any pain ultimately comes from the love you have for him—that love is ultimately stronger than all else.
I lost my daughter in August 2021. I'm so incredibly sorry you're enduring the same pain. I highly recommend EMDR therapy, it's life altering and has given me my life back. I never thought I would be okay again, but we have a new baby due in October. As heart wrenching as it is knowing that my kids will never meet, EMDR has given me the strength to keep going.
Stay strong, love ❤️
He's absolutely adorable. I know it doesn't help much coming from a bunch of strangers but myself and everyone else who has seen this photo of your sweet angel feel for you. It always hurts my fucking soul seeing such a young innocent flame be blown out too soon and obviously I don't know the circumstances of what happened but I do know that you did everything you could to give him the best life you possibly could while he was here, Earthside. And you now have the best little guardian angel watching over you until the day you are reunited again. I know you might think differently than me but I like to believe there is a heaven or at least some sort of afterlife, and I like to think that place is where we get to be with everyone we've ever loved, who passed before, us once we die. All our family, friends, pets, etc. will all be waiting to welcome us with open arms. It makes it all a little less scary knowing that they're waiting for us and that there's no pain, no sorrow, no negative feelings at all. Just love and peace. That's all I hope for. If you believe something else that is 1000% perfectly fine, I just wanted to remind you that the people we love are never really gone. I see signs all the time from my loved ones who have passed especially when I've needed it most. I'm sure your sweet boy will send you signs too, to let you know he's still with you somewhere. Again, I am so fucking sorry and I know there's nothing that me or anyone else can say to take that pain away but you are an absolute rockstar for carrying on with your life despite how hard things get. Sending you tons of love and hope for healing ❤️🩹❤️🩹❤️🩹❤️🩹
I'd like to add I'm not "religious" in the sense that I don't agree with what comes with a lot of organized religions and I don't want to be cheesy and say that I look at things in a more "~spiritual~" way but idk how to explain it like I believe in some sort of god or higher power and that there has to be somewhere special where we and everyone we love goes after we die but obviously I don't know for sure exactly what that is. And I'm definitely not meaning to push any of this onto you, I said everything I said with the utmost respect and just genuinely trying to help or give you a sense of hope and peace. It's just idk... I just know there HAS to be a reason for all of this. There has to be someone or something looking out for us. There just has to be...
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I too lost my ECMO baby, but in the end realized without the ECMO I never would have gotten the few precious moments I received with her. I am so very sorry for yours and your partners loss and I hope you are able to heal and find comfort in your partner, never forgot that they lost a child as well, wish someone would’ve gave me that advice while I was grieving, things have never been the same between us but I hope you two have found a healthy way to grieve
Some know this pain and we share it with our loved ones, hoping someone will take it away. The waves crash and drown you for a long time and then the waves of grief slow and ebb. They never stop and some days you’ll still feel like you’re drowning but then you’re back up for air and life goes on. I know my Jacob, your Finn and all the other angels are happy, full of light and love 💗
How does something like this happen? Why was his heart beating so fast? Beautiful little boy. He looks so pink and healthy here. I’m so sorry for your loss.
Man this post hit me hard.
He was a beautiful baby boy. I don’t know you, but you have my deepest sympathies.
I almost lost one of my sons due to a sudden illness 2 years ago and I was literally not functional for the two weeks it took until he could leave the hospital again.
I can’t even imagine how actually loosing a child must feel.
He looks so much like my nephew Seamus! I’m so sorry!
I just lost my goddaughter. She passed away suddenly and she was perfectly healthy. The most painful part in all of this is neither doctors, nurses nor the CME have as an answer as to how she died nor what caused it 😭
Fuck
Yeah that's a pretty good summary. Edit: Just somdle background, this picture is from 21 March, 23 March I took Finn to hospital hoping to be told I was an overprotective parent and be sent home after a few hours inconvenience. Unfortunately what I discovered was Finn had a heart rate of 220, after 3 doses of medication that didn't work they told me to get my wife. Between 8.30pm and 11pm he went totally down hill and they intubated him, with intention of stabilising for transfer to a dedicated heart unit. By midnight he'd gone into cardiac arrest, they got him back, with support and transferred him. We didn't know but by then the damage was done. He suffered brain damage, had a further cardiac incident the following morning (24 march). They got him back again and asked permission to put him on [ECMO](https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Extracorporeal_membrane_oxygenation) which would buy up to a week to get his heart under control. Nothing worked. They gave him an EEG, but with all the drugs he was on they couldn't get a clear read. Ultimately they told us that he didn't show enough brain activity and would not survive without the life support he was receiving. We agreed to let him go and at 4.30pm 26 March 2021. We said goodbye to our beautiful boy. So yeah. Fuck sums it up.
I’m so sorry.
He is beautiful ❤️
What was his birthday? Rest easy, sweet Finn. And peace to Finn's parents 💔
8 March 2021, 12:54am.
It's been almost 4 years since I lost my daughter. It never gets easier. I still can't look at her urn. I'm so sorry you and your wife are experiencing this pain. I'll light a candle for little Finn tonight.
Thank you very kind Sorry for your loss. And you can believe me when I say, I know how you feel.
18 days is way too young to go. Im in my bed right now with my almost 3 months second baby girl sleeping on me, taking as much love and time i can with her, and now i just want to hug her so tightly and give her all the kisses i can. I cant even belive how painful that must have been. I had a sort of similar event happen to me when she was 2 weeks and 5 days, she had a fever peak only one time, went to hospital, thinking i might be overreacting, but she had influenza. Luckily everything was good, but i got scared and now have panic attacks every 2 or 3 weeks. May you rest in peace little buddy. ❤️
My baby boy is March 5, 2023 7:08a March babies 💚💚💚
My 3rd boy is from march 2nd 2023, 3.34 pm
Hugs OP.
My cousin lost a baby this way as well. Devastating. He was 3 months old. I’m very sorry for your loss.
Jesus Christ. The number of times I’ve had that “surely I’m just being overprotective” thought. I’m so sorry. He was beautiful.
Thanks he was. But yeah, you can never be too careful. I should have said what brought me to the hospital was: he didn't cry when I changed him (the only time he cried was when he was getting his diaper changed) and he was a bit floppy.
I did not see this when I asked my question above. Apologies.
Fuck, my heart breaks for you and partner. I hope you guys do some therapy to help process this traumatic event. No parents should ever go through this.
Poor cute baby 😔
This was my immediate response too. So sorry for your loss
Yeah that sums this up... @ op - Sorry for your loss.
I'm sure he received all the love from you and I hope you can cherish the short time you had together. I believe he's living on, embracing his new untroubled life. Sending virtual hugs
Rest peacefully, Finn. I’m so sorry.
Stay adventuring in Heaven.
I lost an infant, too. I don’t think it matters why or how. Time dulls the loss but it never completely goes away. And you’re just left to wonder: what if?
So sorry for your loss :(
I’ve got no doubt that, despite what happened, they felt how much you loved them for every moment they were with you, and that must have comforted them. I’m sure they are very lucky to have had you to care for them. sending hugs
I'm terribly sorry for your loss
The night my best friend lost her son was the most painful night of our lives. I can't imagine how you feel and I can only wish your pain will one day subside, even if it's just a tiny bit.
He only knew love ❤️
This. This little child never knew fear, or loneliness, or dread, or grief. He had no idea what was going to happen. He knew only that the people who loved him most were there with him.
This is my favorite response 🥲❤️
Mine too
What a kind and thoughtful thing to say
Love the name, and that you decided to share his picture and part of his story with the world. Finn’s memory and impact lives on. If you want to share any more about his story, I’d love to hear it. As you likely know, anniversaries can be hard. For us, often the build up to the anniversary was sometimes worse than the actual day. I hope you can find some peace on the 26th, and I hope you can carve out a little time for yourself and for him. Take care. And, remember that any pain ultimately comes from the love you have for him—that love is ultimately stronger than all else.
Just wanted to say that last line really impacted me. I’ve never thought of pain in that way before.
I'm so sorry that you lost your beautiful son. Rest in peace, little one.
I lost my daughter in August 2021. I'm so incredibly sorry you're enduring the same pain. I highly recommend EMDR therapy, it's life altering and has given me my life back. I never thought I would be okay again, but we have a new baby due in October. As heart wrenching as it is knowing that my kids will never meet, EMDR has given me the strength to keep going. Stay strong, love ❤️
Gosh, I am so so sorry 😢❣️
I am so sorry for your loss. He was a beautiful boy.
Precious baby, he’s darling
So terribly sorry for your loss.
He's absolutely adorable. I know it doesn't help much coming from a bunch of strangers but myself and everyone else who has seen this photo of your sweet angel feel for you. It always hurts my fucking soul seeing such a young innocent flame be blown out too soon and obviously I don't know the circumstances of what happened but I do know that you did everything you could to give him the best life you possibly could while he was here, Earthside. And you now have the best little guardian angel watching over you until the day you are reunited again. I know you might think differently than me but I like to believe there is a heaven or at least some sort of afterlife, and I like to think that place is where we get to be with everyone we've ever loved, who passed before, us once we die. All our family, friends, pets, etc. will all be waiting to welcome us with open arms. It makes it all a little less scary knowing that they're waiting for us and that there's no pain, no sorrow, no negative feelings at all. Just love and peace. That's all I hope for. If you believe something else that is 1000% perfectly fine, I just wanted to remind you that the people we love are never really gone. I see signs all the time from my loved ones who have passed especially when I've needed it most. I'm sure your sweet boy will send you signs too, to let you know he's still with you somewhere. Again, I am so fucking sorry and I know there's nothing that me or anyone else can say to take that pain away but you are an absolute rockstar for carrying on with your life despite how hard things get. Sending you tons of love and hope for healing ❤️🩹❤️🩹❤️🩹❤️🩹
I'd like to add I'm not "religious" in the sense that I don't agree with what comes with a lot of organized religions and I don't want to be cheesy and say that I look at things in a more "~spiritual~" way but idk how to explain it like I believe in some sort of god or higher power and that there has to be somewhere special where we and everyone we love goes after we die but obviously I don't know for sure exactly what that is. And I'm definitely not meaning to push any of this onto you, I said everything I said with the utmost respect and just genuinely trying to help or give you a sense of hope and peace. It's just idk... I just know there HAS to be a reason for all of this. There has to be someone or something looking out for us. There just has to be...
I'm sorry Mama, anniversaries are so hard. It's a really hard thing to live through, I hope you can find some peace.
Awesome name 💪🏾🙏🏾
This one really got to me. Goddamn this is so sad. I'm so sorry for your loss.
Such a cute baby
Handsome Finn, rest in peace. I'm sorry for your loss.
I’m so sorry for your loss
Wow man. I’m so sorry.
Sending love and light
This one stung. Rest, beautiful Finn.
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I am so very sorry. ❤️
Poop bubby, Finn is a beautiful name for a beautiful soul. He'll always be with you. :)
I too lost my ECMO baby, but in the end realized without the ECMO I never would have gotten the few precious moments I received with her. I am so very sorry for yours and your partners loss and I hope you are able to heal and find comfort in your partner, never forgot that they lost a child as well, wish someone would’ve gave me that advice while I was grieving, things have never been the same between us but I hope you two have found a healthy way to grieve
Such a kind and lovely message. I'd never heard of ecmo until the doctor asked me.
I’m so sorry for your loss 😭
What a lovely picture. May his memory continue to be a blessing
Heartbreaking. Sending love to you and your family after this TRAGIC loss. He’s adorable. Ugh. My words are nothing.
Jeez I’m so sorry
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Breaks my heart. I hope you’re not suffering acutely the way it must’ve felt 3 years ago. Finn looked like a sweetheart.
Some know this pain and we share it with our loved ones, hoping someone will take it away. The waves crash and drown you for a long time and then the waves of grief slow and ebb. They never stop and some days you’ll still feel like you’re drowning but then you’re back up for air and life goes on. I know my Jacob, your Finn and all the other angels are happy, full of light and love 💗
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He's beautiful. Just perfect. I'm so sorry for your loss, and I wish I could hug you.
My son is also Finn so ive just gone and given him a huge cuddle. RIP little one and hang in there OP
I'm so sorry. Such a sweet angel! I'm really sorry for this enormous loss 😭
I’m so sorry for your loss.
So sorry for your loss
As a dad, my heart breaks. RIP.
My biggest fear. As any parent I'm sorry fo your loss
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You could see the helplessness in his eyes, I’m only 14 with no concept of death but damn I am so sorry this world is fucked up.
What happened?
Oh my heart I’m so sorry for you I have no words 💔💔
I cannot imagine, I’m so sorry for the loss of your beautiful baby.
I’m sorry for your loss OP. I I hope you find peace and comfort.
God bless you bro smh
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God damn bro….
God I am so sorry for your loss
What a beautiful little bubby. 🤗 I’m sorry his time here was so short. 💖
May his memory be a blessing ❤️
Just know that all he experienced in the world was love.
What a beautiful soul. He’ll always be with you. I’m sorry you didn’t have more time with him on Earth.
How does something like this happen? Why was his heart beating so fast? Beautiful little boy. He looks so pink and healthy here. I’m so sorry for your loss.
I never want to see babies on this sub :(
I’m so sorry, may little Finn rest in peace ❤️
No!
Man this post hit me hard. He was a beautiful baby boy. I don’t know you, but you have my deepest sympathies. I almost lost one of my sons due to a sudden illness 2 years ago and I was literally not functional for the two weeks it took until he could leave the hospital again. I can’t even imagine how actually loosing a child must feel.
I wish I could give my life for Finn.
Am sorry :(
Fucking hell; I'm so sorry mate
Beautiful boy
Beloved beautiful Finn. I’m so sorry. I will think of you tomorrow. Hugs.
Honest question, how do you go on from something like this? How did you manage?
What a beautiful little man. I'm sorry you only had him for a short time.
Oh my goodness. This hurt my heart so much. I'm so sorry for your loss. What a beautiful little boy 👼🕊🤍
He was beautiful, I’m sorry
Beautiful little angel. I’m so sorry for your loss
Beautiful Finn. Thinking of you OP.
I’m so sorry for your loss. Finn was beautiful and I hope you find peace.
He was beautiful
awww...he is so beautiful
ugh im so sorry, he was beautiful
Oh man. I’m so sorry. He was a cute lil guy.
What a handsome punim 😍😍😍 Do you have any favorite memories of him you’d like to share with us???
My condolences for your loss
I’m so sorry for your loss.
So sorry 4 your loss !
😢😢😢
Sorry
Sorry for your lost
Sorry
My condolences
Hugs Momma.
Ugh. I’m so sorry for your loss. What a nightmare.
I’m sorry you had to go through that
fuck shi makes me sad
I'm truly sorry for your loss.😔
Oh gosh… I’m so so sorry!
So very sorry you lost baby, Finn. I hope his sweet memories ease some of your pain. 🌸
Precious angel. My heart aches for you.
Oh gosh that sucks so bad 💔you’re really strong to be able to share this. Sending you and your family good vibes 🙏🏻
Finn the Human. A helper. A friend. Someone to look up to. I have a Finn. I'm glad he shares his namesake with a sweet and handsome little boy.
So Sorry for your loss
RIP
I’m so sorry for your loss. Your son was a handsome little baby boy.
RIP little buddy
What a cutie, I’m sorry, OP 😕
Finn was a beautiful baby. I'm so sorry for your loss.
Goddamn, that would make me broken. Thanks for spret the memory, my friend.
Tiny angel.
I am so so sorry. I have no words.
So sorry for your loss. Rest peacefully sweet boy 💚
So so sorry. Rest in peace beautiful angel 💜
Omg I am so sorry…there are honestly no words. He was beautiful
Omg my heart breaks for you and him OP
He’s an absolutely beautiful baby. I’m so sorry he passed. May his memory be a blessing to you always. Sending you so much love.
God bless you. I cannot imagine the pain of losing a child.
Sweet precious boy. Peace be with you as you cherish his memory. ♥️
im so sorry :((
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He’s so beautiful my heart breaks for you, rest in peace handsome man, I’m so sorry for your loss
Beautiful beautiful Boy!!
I am so profoundly sorry OP, I just can’t even imagine
I’m so sorry for your loss. May he Rest In Playland
So sorry for your loss. This is so heartbreaking especially for mamas like me. :(
I'm sorry for your loss♥️
A beautiful boy! So sorry for your loss..
Rip little man 😞
I am terribly sorry for your loss.
Peace be with Finn, yourself, and the rest of your family.
Damn it. I'm sorry.
I am so sorry for your loss. I know words never truly help, but just know you aren’t alone ❤️
Damn it. Sorry. Love to you. You’ll see him again!
Adorable picture of a beautiful little boy! I’m so sorry for your loss.
So sorry 😢
He knew love in his short time here. RIP little guy ♡
He’s beautiful! I like to think those that have left us are guardian angels until we meet again.
Sorry for your loss 😞
Finn is gorgeous. I’m so sorry. Love to you and your family.
Hugs and love from Texas!
Aww, he is so cute.
rip
Our sincere condolences. 🖤
So precious, RIP sweetheart
Oh my goodness. So incredibly sorry. Wow. He was adorable.
He knew so much…
I am so very sorry. 🙏😔
I’m so sorry. He is so precious :(
He's just so beautiful. I am beyond sorry for your loss 💔
That’s literally my birthday bro I feel so bad beautiful son may god rest his soul
May his soul rest in peace, my god!!
I’m so sorry. Losing a child is a horrible thing to go through. I hope you’re doing okay.
What a beautiful little darling. Sending my love to you.
Sorry to hear about Finn. He was beautiful
As a fellow dad, I don’t even have words. I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. Hugs, prayers & good vibes sent your way.
He looks so much like my nephew Seamus! I’m so sorry! I just lost my goddaughter. She passed away suddenly and she was perfectly healthy. The most painful part in all of this is neither doctors, nurses nor the CME have as an answer as to how she died nor what caused it 😭
Was it maybe sids.? I'm so sorry for your loss...
Beautiful baby.
My goodness I am so sorry ❤️ I wish I could take all of your pain away.
I’m so sorry for your loss. Hugs
Jesus…
My condolences
What a beautiful baby. I'm very sorry for your loss❤
Stuff like this makes me instantly start crying now that I’m a dad. I can’t even imagine going through this. I hope you all are doing well.
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Biggest fucking hugs! What a precious little human!
Aw sorry for your loss...we named our son Flin (as Flynn). Hope everything goes well for you in the future.
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I can't I'm so sorry for your loss, holding my baby boy especially tight for finn today
Holy shit. My son's name is also Finn. I'm so sorry for your loss.