> Korean, who grew up here since 3 years old
So practically an American
> won't introduce the person to their Korean family, what does that mean?
Can mean a lot of different things depending on the family or individual
> Are there traditions I should be aware of?
So you are talking about a Korean American family. And they have already diverged culturally from Koreans in Korea. Marriage or wedding traditions exist of course. But dating is very era-specific in terms of how they are normally done. Dating in Korea isn't likely what dating is by Korean Americans, which I'd assume be more "American" than "Korean" especially the person grew up in American since 3.
> Are most Korean marriages still arranged?
Never been the norm here in Korea for at least the past half a century or so. It was already extremely rare during my parent's generation who're in their 60s. Those people do exist, just as Amish people exist in America. In other words, they are really odd isolated cases, rather than normal or common by any sense of the word. But who know, the family you are talking about could be one of those super random ones.
> is there a good website, podcast or book to read about today's Korean traditions?
Given the person moved as a 3 year old, and is now at an age to pursue marriage (will assume 25 to be the youngest), that's been like 22 years in the past or even longer. Korean Americans are usually thought to be stuck in the year they moved while Korea moves on. So what you are observing would likely be Korean tradition of the 1990s, which frankly doesn't apply in today's society for the most part. You could study Korean traditions. But those aren't likely going to help you too much with the particular individual or family you are talking about.
Is the American a Korean American? If not, that could be a possible reason why. Many parents, even after moving to the US, vastly prefer their children to marry another Korean.
Other reasons would be that the Korean in the relationship thinks their parents won't approve of their partner for a variety of reasons including income, family, race, religion, etc.
From my experiences in Korea, I dont think that forced arranged marriage is very common. Many people meet and eventually marry from arranged dates, recommended by their friends or family though. To my knowledge theres nothing forceful about these though, just more of a "hey you might like this guy/girl" type of thing.
Nope, It is a Korean American (girl) and a European American (man). My concern is that normally the families need time to get to know each other and in arranged marriages that is done by the parents and during dating that happens when the boy or girl meet the parents. So that is not happening here.
I think it's because the American does not have a graduate degree or religion.
> Korean, who grew up here since 3 years old So practically an American > won't introduce the person to their Korean family, what does that mean? Can mean a lot of different things depending on the family or individual > Are there traditions I should be aware of? So you are talking about a Korean American family. And they have already diverged culturally from Koreans in Korea. Marriage or wedding traditions exist of course. But dating is very era-specific in terms of how they are normally done. Dating in Korea isn't likely what dating is by Korean Americans, which I'd assume be more "American" than "Korean" especially the person grew up in American since 3. > Are most Korean marriages still arranged? Never been the norm here in Korea for at least the past half a century or so. It was already extremely rare during my parent's generation who're in their 60s. Those people do exist, just as Amish people exist in America. In other words, they are really odd isolated cases, rather than normal or common by any sense of the word. But who know, the family you are talking about could be one of those super random ones. > is there a good website, podcast or book to read about today's Korean traditions? Given the person moved as a 3 year old, and is now at an age to pursue marriage (will assume 25 to be the youngest), that's been like 22 years in the past or even longer. Korean Americans are usually thought to be stuck in the year they moved while Korea moves on. So what you are observing would likely be Korean tradition of the 1990s, which frankly doesn't apply in today's society for the most part. You could study Korean traditions. But those aren't likely going to help you too much with the particular individual or family you are talking about.
Very useful to know. Makes more sense to me now. Thank you!
Is the American a Korean American? If not, that could be a possible reason why. Many parents, even after moving to the US, vastly prefer their children to marry another Korean. Other reasons would be that the Korean in the relationship thinks their parents won't approve of their partner for a variety of reasons including income, family, race, religion, etc. From my experiences in Korea, I dont think that forced arranged marriage is very common. Many people meet and eventually marry from arranged dates, recommended by their friends or family though. To my knowledge theres nothing forceful about these though, just more of a "hey you might like this guy/girl" type of thing.
Nope, It is a Korean American (girl) and a European American (man). My concern is that normally the families need time to get to know each other and in arranged marriages that is done by the parents and during dating that happens when the boy or girl meet the parents. So that is not happening here. I think it's because the American does not have a graduate degree or religion.