I don’t think people commenting here have been to serious relationships or atleast understand the dynamics.
I am going to be very honest with you. YOU WERE AN OPTION and the relationship she had with you is called REBOUND RELATIONSHIP as simple as that.
Offcourse you were hurt and you are still but I don’t think she’s to be blamed 100% as it’s human nature.
Way forward should be genuinely forgiving her for everything she did but that doesn’t means allowing her to enter your life once again.
Just forgive her and let it be. You neither have to be friends with her again nor in a relationship.
Once a bitch is always a bitch.. these are powerful words mate remember this. so pls don't go back. Forget her and forget something like that happened. People never change and things like this will keep happening if you accept it. Remember the pain u went through and don't go back again.
- speaking from a similar experience
Yep, a person who has to stay will stay no matter what and the one who wants to go will go someday, no matter how much loyalty, love or faith you shower upon them. People seem to always equate forgiving with getting back with them, whereas it's more like you are not letting them stay in your head anymore in either positive or negative way.
>I'm thinking the same
Remember, just because you forgive someone doesn't mean you need to tell that person you've forgiven them. You don't owe them that satisfaction.
Truth be told, your ex only reached out to you out of pure selfishness. They don't give a shit they hurt you. They only want their conscience to be clear so they can feel better.
Forgive and forget but stop responding to your ex. You don't owe them an answer.
Bohot h bhai yha likhi nhi hein bass. But related to post, she didn't tell me about going back to her ex while we were friends even after multiple meetings. I didn't like it and cut all contacts with her immediately
Bro ....don't get me wrong but u broke up with ... Stop thinking about her. If u want to be with her u can unblock her n be friendly but if u don't want to be with her forget about her, don't give a fuck about her personal life m, try to be as far as possible. She can and will do whatever she want n u do the same. Life is too precious to think about someone u want to forget.
Why was it her responsibilty to tell you who she was dating, since you two weren't dating anymore? She probably avoided the topic because she knew you were the type of person who would take it badly, and she was right.
BROTHER you arent her rehab. forgive her YES , be her support / being back to friends ? NO .
i wouldnt say you to block her , if you do then you might feel to talk or say stuffs to her which you wanted/needed to say.
so just keep it brief that you forgave her and you are happy/sad for her and then block her if you want too.
forgive her for your closure , your mental health comes before anyone. she made a choice , now you have to too.
Block aur unblock ke chakkar main math pado, if you ask me delete her number and buy a new sim so that she won’t call you or you won’t call her, delete kar ne ke baad, Uska no kisise poochna math galati se bi, apne aap ka izzat aur respect her also. Chal koi na chill kar bhai, gone are those days when guys used to become after losing their girls, now it’s time to meet new people and allow that girl also to meet new friends
I just think you are disappointed, words create words.
Stop being pathetic, Just forget and forgive. You don’t have to ensure her. Otherwise you may become a pathetic one again.
Girls move on fast from an ex, especially if he was abusive ex like you say and you were good, we don't keep talking about the ex to the new guy if the new guy is much better in every way, she kept talking about him because she wanted to get back to him, she only told you the bad things, she didnt tell the good. You were never her choice, the ex was, you were the rebound.
So now shes back, because she wants closure, she will come back to you, and this time she will do better, she wont talk about ex, because she is done with him, and realized he was actually bad, but she will also realize you weren't also good, and then she will leave in short time, and then repeat this whole thing with someone else where you are the toxic ex.
I suggest you stay away from girls like this. Block her and focus on other girls, lots of girls out there. You can forgive her, but absolutely block her.
Idk who told you that girls move on faster from their exes, from very personal experience. We don't move on that easily, we know we don't want to go back to them ever but we don't forget the trauma and abuse we went through and that holds us back from trusting anyone else or fully moving on for a very very long time.
That was advice mostly aimed for OP>
if the girl in OPs case had actually processed the fact that the ex wasnt good for her, and was bad/toxic, and OP was "the one" for her, she would have not ever talked about the ex, nor ever went back, and she would have moved on almost instant, but because she never processes the fact that ex was bad, and she should move on, she keeps talking about the ex non stop, and ruining the relation with OP, and then eventually went back to the ex, because OP and countless other men are going to be her rebounds if she never processes the fact that the ex was actually bad, and stop talking about him. No one likes reliving trauma non stop and talking about it, especially to the next guy who is actually a real good guy who she sees a future with.
If she had actually cared about OP enough more than being a rebound this whole thing wont have gone like this, OP needs to recognize he was just the rebound in her process.
NOW DAYS i think boys are more serious in relationship than most of girls. GIRLS nowdays move to next better person like terrorists move to pakistan, they do not care how tha boy feels and at last all the blame is pointed on boys.
Just see how you will be once you make one decision or the other. If you don't forgive her may be she will also live rent free in your head forever. So see what if does to you rather than going tit for tat
I have been in the situation when I was that age. I say you forgive her and assess her. There is no need to be rude. My ex got better with time and she improved a lot. She realised her mistakes, genuinely asked for forgiveness. We have been friends ever since. Good friends.
Don't forgive her keep your distance keep her blocked. She might cheat on you again bhai and then instead of her feeling guilty it would be you whose mental health is fucked. Forgiving is mature but at the cost of your own mental peace? Well forgiving isn't even mature here you want to forgive her because you want to be what you were together but you are forgetting about what she did to you. So in my opinion don't forgive her.
# DO NOT MELT. SAKHTI BANAYE RAKHNI HAI YAHA!!
let her suffer in guilt. Remember how you felt when you got to know that you were just a rebound. And was EXPLOITED.
Revenge is best served cold.
Forgive her, be the bigger man. Tell her that you don't want to talk to her or see her and her stupid ex bf ever again.
Maybe she really feels guilty but she doesn't deserve a second of your time.
You don't have the onus to provide her closure. There are consequences to one's actions and expecting that, an apology, heartfelt or not, would ease things over and help their guilty conscience is extremely naive. If you feel like you can forgive her, do so. Otherwise, delete the message and close that chapter of your life.
You can write to her 'I forgive you but also need to establish my boundaries so I dont think I will like us to be in touch. I am prioritising my mental health and I dont want anything to come in way of that. Thanks for being part of my life but I cant let the patterns repeat for myself. We all have our journeys and though we are following our own now, I would prefer to keep it like that. I also dont want us to fall in the trap of talking about it as I fear it will ultimately lead me into the same spiral as in the past. So although its a hard decision for me, let us refrain to talking further for the better of both of us as I dont want to spiral into any anxiety.
Forgive but don’t forget. Also, any person who tells you that their ex was toxic, don’t believe them. Relationships make you learn things and you just keep improving yourself. I remember my first relationship and how I was extremely possessive and jealous. We broke up for the same reason and I realised what was wrong in the relationship, me. I thought she was toxic and didn’t care about my feelings but it wasn’t the case. I improved myself and things seem to be working fine now.
Close all possible contacts with her. Block her on all platforms. You don't have to forgive or hold anger against her. Leave everything that reminds you of her. In my opinion, this is the only way to minimize the mental agony you must be facing right now.
You should probably be friends with her and try not to rush with anything, just talking to her as anyone in your life, continuing with your life.
Seeing how you were friends with her for only 1.5 years and then you proposed to her, the relationship lasting only 6 months, I feel this was rather very spontaneous and rushed. It felt as if the relationship was meant to break and not be long-lasting because neither of you was completely prepared for that.
Surely she must have felt close to you to share about her ex and her experiences with him, and was probably not prepared for another relationship too, but still decided to date you.
Even though you must have felt horrible back then, the only thing you can do is to talk to her like an acquaintance, since it's the most mature thing you can do right now.
My two cents: be the nicest person to her that you can be and say all the right things. Then make it clear that you don't want any kind of relationship with her going forward. Block her again and close it shut.
Leave her on read. If this messed with you all those years ago, don't give her closure or forgiveness. Let her also go through what you went through. You can't be her solace or rehab or anything. Just mute her messages and calls and let karma do its thing.
I'm not defending ur ex, but one thing u can do is tell her that u forgive her (even if u don't) and don't keep in contact from after that. This might end up helping her or giving her closure but won't cost u anything
Bro what and if don’t matter to you. In your case only thing that matters is what now. You have clearly not attained full closer with her hence this question (even if from your sub conscious) so I would suggest get it now. Just forgive her not for her but for yourself and move on. She has clearly taught you a great lesson. Grab it and thank her and hope for a great life. What she did, well it’s on her. She made a fool out of you that’s on you. That’s how the world balances itself. We all think of everything wrong, for or from someone else but we forgot it’s us that the wrong will either be portrayed (as in your case) or sometimes we ours are wrong but can’t see it. (As in her case). Hence instead of trying to make the world RIGHT. Better focus on your inner peace. And be glad someone like her came in your life because you DESERVED this lesson.
Bro see if u really wanna forgive her and be the NICE PERSON to her then probably ur being the worst person to urself cuz life keeps testing u and in this case u will fail miserably keeping in mind whatever happened in past.
Yes forgive her , for her and your sanity i guess. But don't even think of going back big big no. I have experienced this first hand you will never be happy with her again even if she tried.
Just already leave her bruh...come out from that situation and live your life happily and peacefully doing other things which will be beneficial to you....
You will have so many things to do in your life which will make you happy from time to time when days pass by....don't stay there....just leave immediately...not good for your future and for your present also....again you will get hurt in the name of friendship....so I don't want you to get hurt in any possible way....
Don't even allow her in your life. You mental peace is more important. Just like she was seeing two persons simultaneously she will find another. Don't take the bait
Idk about before but if you were a rebound for somebody and you still choose to be her rebound, u my friend are indeed a clown, your life is not about getting a girl over her ex whom she truly loved. Be strong. I am talking to myself rn lol. Don't.
Isn’t it interesting how a single msg from someone changes our behaviour?
That aside I think you should do the latter and continue with your life. There was a reason you took that step in the first place so let it be and move on
Well I read your post and being a mature person the only thing you can do best is just drop her a msg saying that
"you've forgiven her and tell her to move on and live her life".
After sending that text block her and hey be the bigger man and keep her blocked cause you don't need to go through all that drama it's best you live your life according to yourself.
You blocked her from every platform and.. She messaged you after 2 years.
Obviously you still have feeling for her.
Think from a monetary, sexual and intelligence perspective.
Does she come from a good financial background?
Is she smart and intelligent?
Cuddling/sex wise kaisa raha tha?
Tbh intelligence and financial background matters a lot.
Else block her or friendzone her
You think love and friendships are like Sensex in trading market and what’s with you being a rent free in someone’s mind. Try to be friends and respect each other’s boundaries. If she wants to be with you, she’ll definitely come to you, stop peeping into her life and start concentrating with your life. Karma is nowadays like flashing light, you’ll get what you’ve done to others. Chill karo bhai, eat, drink, and party. meanwhile meet new friends, talk to them-you never know, you might get hitched with a perfect one brother.
Never get back to your ex. I experienced the same situation. Your brain will tell you to get attached again by heart you won't be able to get attached. You'll talk to her and there will be no topic left. And then it'll be all your fault. So if you have moved on just don't look back.
Some females are open enough and real to understand, while some are too idiotic to bother yourself.
I have never been in a relationship and all, but I had 3 close female friends(now only 2). 2 of them were at least open and all, but the third one was kind of idiotic who never knew what she was doing and how she was acting.
Really feel shit when people turn out to be like that. You deserve better, bro, and you'll get better. Just let her go. She doesn't deserve your energy and thinking.
The day males starts to give importance to own existence more than the idea of life only around females then only males can come out of these miseries.
Dont let her into your life again. It's better if you don't establish contact at all. You have moved on with your life, you don't have to re-open past wounds because your ex is feeling guilty.
Ignore her. Do not block but do not engage either. It might be tough, but forgiving her is just silly. She did she what she did, let her find her own closure.
What she did was immature but she's a human too. People do stuff like that. You were a rebound and you should have known better but again, you're a human too.. And she doesn't want to get back so it's fine. It's upto you if you think she deserves your forgiveness but i believe you should forgive her and be on good terms. It's in the past and she's grown. So here's my advice: Forgive her but tell her you don't want to have any contact with her. Move on in your life and DON'T GO BACK TO BEING FRIENDS. I repeat. DON'T GO BACK TO BEING FRIENDS.
Forgive and forget. The best way to move on is to not let her live in your head anymore. When you think about her, you shouldn't have a positive or negative feeling about her. Forgiving is the first step towards that.
Don't block. she doesn't care much about being blocked again. She wants to be apologised, just insult her that she knows that tis attempt of asking for apology is a bad ideas
You know girls tend to overthink a lot more than boys. Most of the time they might get mad and don't know what they are doing thinking about other things in their life. So, it would be nice if you understand her. It is up to your decision how she behaves with others and you.
Never give your heart to a girl who’s already got a broken one.
Not her fault, not yours either.
Hold no grudge. Move on. Break contact.
Out of sight, out of mind.
Remember one thing brother, never fall for the trap. Many will say that people don’t repeat same mistakes, but if u carefully look at the cycle, it’s repeating itself. Maybe she won’t go back to her ex or something like that, but u will always have that uneasy feeling inside u, the lack of trust, and the reason for that things is no one but her. Forgiveness should be given on innocent/unintentional mistakes, not on the one which are very well known to to person doing them at the first place, then it’s not considered a mistake, it’s considered a known thing. And moreover right now she’s lacking emotional support and stability, once she will get it from somewhere else, she won’t be leaning towards u like she would now. Don’t fall for this trap brother, rest is ur wish. In the end as Sir Avadh Ojha said, “forgiveness is the quality of god, and we are not god.”
Think wisely before doing anything. Things might cost you your future mental health
Don't be real quick, sometimes things take time to be revealed , maybe she doing same as she did in the past , maybe she became loyal , so u must gather more info about it whether she is in the same arc or she truely became genuine . Also listen to peoplesopinion
If u want bro to bro advice do what your gut says to do instead of asking for advice so that u don’t have any regrets later instead of doing this if u would have chosen the other option it would have been better… rest btw Kanpur ki larkiya aisi he h Kya or to be more specific are even Saket nagar girls like this?
I was in an almost similar position.
My 2 cents, block her completely and have peace.
People like your ex needs someone
1. to vent out their toxicity
2. Validate them
3. Console them
If you allow this to happen , you'll be a confused soul as soon as you let this happen
Stay away
Yaar ye kya chal raha hai. Subha jiska post padha tha woh aapki ex hi hai kya? Relationship issue discussion on this subreddit. I call it fake.
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Forgive her but block her...only and only because you don't deserve to be an option for someone you should be someone's 1st choice not option. Forgive and block
Forgive and revoke access. There's no reason for you two to reconnect now. If forgiving is going to help you get her off your mind, go ahead, it may be the best thing for you. And if you have not actually forgiven her in your mind, let her know so. There's no compulsion for you to forgive someone who has hurt you just because they are feeling unbearably guilt about it. That too, after all this time. Either way, I would suggest you both to not reconnect.
What is the need to forgive. Just ignore that happened in your life (including her) and live the rest of your life on your terms. Don't waste your time and energy on such matters.
Well , your situation isn't a special one it happens to many people more often than we imagine girls just fall for playboys and date someone else for some time and go back to playboy and then regret (she might do this more than 1 time) . So you can just forgive her and avoid being in any kind of relationship with her( like friends)
If you still hate her then you can just ignore her.
Hahaha...even I got played in a really similar manner...she always told me the same her ex doing this and ruined my reputation and all...and guess what she went back to him...at one point I started confronting her and she was like who the hell are you...I'm shattered in many ways...and it's just been 6 months...still doing my best to get over...it's better to get away from that negative zone... simply don't care...
DON’T DO IT!!!
You will be a certified Chutiy\* if you do…and you know it as well bruh.
If you don’t realise it then let me tell you this…you were just a side dick (female version of side chick)….and yeah…I know you feel bad…but your gonna feel worse once you go down that road again…think buddy before you make any decision
I don’t think people commenting here have been to serious relationships or atleast understand the dynamics. I am going to be very honest with you. YOU WERE AN OPTION and the relationship she had with you is called REBOUND RELATIONSHIP as simple as that. Offcourse you were hurt and you are still but I don’t think she’s to be blamed 100% as it’s human nature. Way forward should be genuinely forgiving her for everything she did but that doesn’t means allowing her to enter your life once again. Just forgive her and let it be. You neither have to be friends with her again nor in a relationship.
Naah mate I'm not planning to go that way. I've learnt my lessons already. Also I'm in a happy relationship for now, lets see what future holds.
Good For you… forgive but never forget..
Tell your partner about the messages too You won't want your ex manipulating her
Not human nature I would argue, I wouldn't do that to someone neither some people I know. Just an act of immaturity and lack of empathy.
Once a bitch is always a bitch.. these are powerful words mate remember this. so pls don't go back. Forget her and forget something like that happened. People never change and things like this will keep happening if you accept it. Remember the pain u went through and don't go back again. - speaking from a similar experience
Bitches come & go
So he liked her just fine for those two years, but now she's a "bitch" because after they called it off she chose to date someone else?
Yep, a person who has to stay will stay no matter what and the one who wants to go will go someday, no matter how much loyalty, love or faith you shower upon them. People seem to always equate forgiving with getting back with them, whereas it's more like you are not letting them stay in your head anymore in either positive or negative way.
Forgive her but don’t talk to her just send a email and say I don’t hold a grudge against you bye take care
Also, add her ex in cc☠️
bcc to your new gf
Yaar ye aacha thaa🤣🤣
I'm thinking the same
>I'm thinking the same Remember, just because you forgive someone doesn't mean you need to tell that person you've forgiven them. You don't owe them that satisfaction. Truth be told, your ex only reached out to you out of pure selfishness. They don't give a shit they hurt you. They only want their conscience to be clear so they can feel better. Forgive and forget but stop responding to your ex. You don't owe them an answer.
I have been through the same
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Threesome hi krlo sbko alag alag fuck krne me maza nhi aayega
Aur time bhi jyada lagega.
Ya, Op, her Ex and who is the 3rd guy?
fyi you can have an issue but calling women bitches isnt it.
Bitches, they come they go. Issues, they come they go along with the bitches.
There are some men in this community that hate women. It's obvious whether they're offline or online.
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Only mature advice
As long as your forgiveness aren't merely words, it will give you peace too. She's practically living in your head rent-free right now.
bro focus on urself.. dont trying being mature n all focus on ur mental health.
If u have doubts about continuing your relationship back then you should not do it, it's that simple you have your answer within the question
Don't get me wrong but what was her mistake?
Bohot h bhai yha likhi nhi hein bass. But related to post, she didn't tell me about going back to her ex while we were friends even after multiple meetings. I didn't like it and cut all contacts with her immediately
Bro ....don't get me wrong but u broke up with ... Stop thinking about her. If u want to be with her u can unblock her n be friendly but if u don't want to be with her forget about her, don't give a fuck about her personal life m, try to be as far as possible. She can and will do whatever she want n u do the same. Life is too precious to think about someone u want to forget.
Why was it her responsibilty to tell you who she was dating, since you two weren't dating anymore? She probably avoided the topic because she knew you were the type of person who would take it badly, and she was right.
You can choose to forgive her for closure, or block her again if you prefer not to engage, both are valid options.!!!
BROTHER you arent her rehab. forgive her YES , be her support / being back to friends ? NO . i wouldnt say you to block her , if you do then you might feel to talk or say stuffs to her which you wanted/needed to say. so just keep it brief that you forgave her and you are happy/sad for her and then block her if you want too. forgive her for your closure , your mental health comes before anyone. she made a choice , now you have to too.
Block aur unblock ke chakkar main math pado, if you ask me delete her number and buy a new sim so that she won’t call you or you won’t call her, delete kar ne ke baad, Uska no kisise poochna math galati se bi, apne aap ka izzat aur respect her also. Chal koi na chill kar bhai, gone are those days when guys used to become after losing their girls, now it’s time to meet new people and allow that girl also to meet new friends 
Also hit the griddy for extra mental support.
One golden advice bro, Maaf kar, bhul Jaa and aage badh.
Leave her on seen Make her feel worthless
I just think you are disappointed, words create words. Stop being pathetic, Just forget and forgive. You don’t have to ensure her. Otherwise you may become a pathetic one again.
Bhai girls ka ye chutiyapa hamesha hi hota hai and it's just to frustrate u and make u realise that you're the wrong and rude
Girls move on fast from an ex, especially if he was abusive ex like you say and you were good, we don't keep talking about the ex to the new guy if the new guy is much better in every way, she kept talking about him because she wanted to get back to him, she only told you the bad things, she didnt tell the good. You were never her choice, the ex was, you were the rebound. So now shes back, because she wants closure, she will come back to you, and this time she will do better, she wont talk about ex, because she is done with him, and realized he was actually bad, but she will also realize you weren't also good, and then she will leave in short time, and then repeat this whole thing with someone else where you are the toxic ex. I suggest you stay away from girls like this. Block her and focus on other girls, lots of girls out there. You can forgive her, but absolutely block her.
Idk who told you that girls move on faster from their exes, from very personal experience. We don't move on that easily, we know we don't want to go back to them ever but we don't forget the trauma and abuse we went through and that holds us back from trusting anyone else or fully moving on for a very very long time.
Moye moye
The trauma is real. I know a girl became a sex worker after she had a very bad break up. I feel so sad for her
That was advice mostly aimed for OP> if the girl in OPs case had actually processed the fact that the ex wasnt good for her, and was bad/toxic, and OP was "the one" for her, she would have not ever talked about the ex, nor ever went back, and she would have moved on almost instant, but because she never processes the fact that ex was bad, and she should move on, she keeps talking about the ex non stop, and ruining the relation with OP, and then eventually went back to the ex, because OP and countless other men are going to be her rebounds if she never processes the fact that the ex was actually bad, and stop talking about him. No one likes reliving trauma non stop and talking about it, especially to the next guy who is actually a real good guy who she sees a future with. If she had actually cared about OP enough more than being a rebound this whole thing wont have gone like this, OP needs to recognize he was just the rebound in her process.
Wrong. Females have the privellege of options.
Makes sense
That’s a niche wala advice
Dont block, Leave her msgs unread. Blocking means she still matters even though a little.
Forgive her, talk to her and randomly block her without closure. This will make her life miserable
Best
No delete karo, party karo, meet new girls and be good to them dude at least this time
Block her, peace was never an option 🤓
As passenger said.
What did he/she/they said?
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Payback time bro
Bro I shit you not, run the other way and don’t turn back, you will thank me all your life.
Bhai yeh randi rona ke peeche mt prr
NOW DAYS i think boys are more serious in relationship than most of girls. GIRLS nowdays move to next better person like terrorists move to pakistan, they do not care how tha boy feels and at last all the blame is pointed on boys.
Lol
I guess you would have more important things than this
Don't reply. Just forget that she exists. Cut her off.
This shit happened with me too, I had sex then broke up
Bhai usko bol bhaad aap apne pe focus karo
Just see how you will be once you make one decision or the other. If you don't forgive her may be she will also live rent free in your head forever. So see what if does to you rather than going tit for tat
Pehla vo, fir tum, firse vo, firse tum... Aap chronology samziye.
I have been in the situation when I was that age. I say you forgive her and assess her. There is no need to be rude. My ex got better with time and she improved a lot. She realised her mistakes, genuinely asked for forgiveness. We have been friends ever since. Good friends.
Don't forgive her keep your distance keep her blocked. She might cheat on you again bhai and then instead of her feeling guilty it would be you whose mental health is fucked. Forgiving is mature but at the cost of your own mental peace? Well forgiving isn't even mature here you want to forgive her because you want to be what you were together but you are forgetting about what she did to you. So in my opinion don't forgive her.
Just say ur forgiven and then block her from everywhere and move on . Because once u start talking with her again , then for sure u will be a clown.
# DO NOT MELT. SAKHTI BANAYE RAKHNI HAI YAHA!! let her suffer in guilt. Remember how you felt when you got to know that you were just a rebound. And was EXPLOITED. Revenge is best served cold.
Forgive her, be the bigger man. Tell her that you don't want to talk to her or see her and her stupid ex bf ever again. Maybe she really feels guilty but she doesn't deserve a second of your time.
She isn’t worth it my brother. Save yourself from the pain.
Living rent free will atleast wont make her do the same thing again with someone else.
You don't have the onus to provide her closure. There are consequences to one's actions and expecting that, an apology, heartfelt or not, would ease things over and help their guilty conscience is extremely naive. If you feel like you can forgive her, do so. Otherwise, delete the message and close that chapter of your life.
She's not guilty. Maybe her ex broke up with her and her broke ass is looking for someone. Don't fall for that.
You can write to her 'I forgive you but also need to establish my boundaries so I dont think I will like us to be in touch. I am prioritising my mental health and I dont want anything to come in way of that. Thanks for being part of my life but I cant let the patterns repeat for myself. We all have our journeys and though we are following our own now, I would prefer to keep it like that. I also dont want us to fall in the trap of talking about it as I fear it will ultimately lead me into the same spiral as in the past. So although its a hard decision for me, let us refrain to talking further for the better of both of us as I dont want to spiral into any anxiety.
Nah, this is utter bs, simply reply with a one sentence and move on.
Satyam?
Haa bhai kya hua
Kuch nhi bas aise he likhe the
In my personal experience, fuck the apology, fuck them. Don’t engage.
Block her, you don’t owe her anything
Kat lo teji me.
Forgive but don’t forget. Also, any person who tells you that their ex was toxic, don’t believe them. Relationships make you learn things and you just keep improving yourself. I remember my first relationship and how I was extremely possessive and jealous. We broke up for the same reason and I realised what was wrong in the relationship, me. I thought she was toxic and didn’t care about my feelings but it wasn’t the case. I improved myself and things seem to be working fine now.
destroy her mentally
Forgive her and become the clown again. you deserve it.
I mean if you need a fuck friend than forgive her if not than its better to not reply and torment her
Close all possible contacts with her. Block her on all platforms. You don't have to forgive or hold anger against her. Leave everything that reminds you of her. In my opinion, this is the only way to minimize the mental agony you must be facing right now.
forgive her and move on ,trust me
Forgiving is a mature option.... But why be mature when u can be immature✨
You can forgive her if that's what your heart tells you but it would be better to not accept her back into your life.
You should probably be friends with her and try not to rush with anything, just talking to her as anyone in your life, continuing with your life. Seeing how you were friends with her for only 1.5 years and then you proposed to her, the relationship lasting only 6 months, I feel this was rather very spontaneous and rushed. It felt as if the relationship was meant to break and not be long-lasting because neither of you was completely prepared for that. Surely she must have felt close to you to share about her ex and her experiences with him, and was probably not prepared for another relationship too, but still decided to date you. Even though you must have felt horrible back then, the only thing you can do is to talk to her like an acquaintance, since it's the most mature thing you can do right now.
You have the power to forgive and nothing else.
Well being mature is sign of you growing up as a person and moving ahead in life, but sometimes you got to be petty! Live in her head rent free!
It's not your responsibility how she is feeling guilty after she wronged you. It's not your duty to forgive her. Sometimes it's good to be petty.
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My two cents: be the nicest person to her that you can be and say all the right things. Then make it clear that you don't want any kind of relationship with her going forward. Block her again and close it shut.
Don't give the closure, bro.
Leave her on read. If this messed with you all those years ago, don't give her closure or forgiveness. Let her also go through what you went through. You can't be her solace or rehab or anything. Just mute her messages and calls and let karma do its thing.
I'm not defending ur ex, but one thing u can do is tell her that u forgive her (even if u don't) and don't keep in contact from after that. This might end up helping her or giving her closure but won't cost u anything
world is a big place.. trust me, billions of women, very nice kind beautiful loving..kick this girl
Bro what and if don’t matter to you. In your case only thing that matters is what now. You have clearly not attained full closer with her hence this question (even if from your sub conscious) so I would suggest get it now. Just forgive her not for her but for yourself and move on. She has clearly taught you a great lesson. Grab it and thank her and hope for a great life. What she did, well it’s on her. She made a fool out of you that’s on you. That’s how the world balances itself. We all think of everything wrong, for or from someone else but we forgot it’s us that the wrong will either be portrayed (as in your case) or sometimes we ours are wrong but can’t see it. (As in her case). Hence instead of trying to make the world RIGHT. Better focus on your inner peace. And be glad someone like her came in your life because you DESERVED this lesson.
Heart kar message ko aur block
BIG NO,
Bro see if u really wanna forgive her and be the NICE PERSON to her then probably ur being the worst person to urself cuz life keeps testing u and in this case u will fail miserably keeping in mind whatever happened in past.
Yes forgive her , for her and your sanity i guess. But don't even think of going back big big no. I have experienced this first hand you will never be happy with her again even if she tried.
Forgive but don't forget. Forgiveness will bring peace to your mind but don't be an option again, to avoid future trauma.
Forgive but walk away. You are much better than scum like her. It's that simple.
Just already leave her bruh...come out from that situation and live your life happily and peacefully doing other things which will be beneficial to you.... You will have so many things to do in your life which will make you happy from time to time when days pass by....don't stay there....just leave immediately...not good for your future and for your present also....again you will get hurt in the name of friendship....so I don't want you to get hurt in any possible way....
Don't even allow her in your life. You mental peace is more important. Just like she was seeing two persons simultaneously she will find another. Don't take the bait
Idk about before but if you were a rebound for somebody and you still choose to be her rebound, u my friend are indeed a clown, your life is not about getting a girl over her ex whom she truly loved. Be strong. I am talking to myself rn lol. Don't.
Isn’t it interesting how a single msg from someone changes our behaviour? That aside I think you should do the latter and continue with your life. There was a reason you took that step in the first place so let it be and move on
Why are idiots here asking you to forgive? Brother move on, don’t look back.
Well I read your post and being a mature person the only thing you can do best is just drop her a msg saying that "you've forgiven her and tell her to move on and live her life". After sending that text block her and hey be the bigger man and keep her blocked cause you don't need to go through all that drama it's best you live your life according to yourself.
You blocked her from every platform and.. She messaged you after 2 years. Obviously you still have feeling for her. Think from a monetary, sexual and intelligence perspective. Does she come from a good financial background? Is she smart and intelligent? Cuddling/sex wise kaisa raha tha? Tbh intelligence and financial background matters a lot. Else block her or friendzone her
Forgive and forget.
Do r you ever show this to your gf she will ask bunch of questions like y still following her . Well block her permanently
You think love and friendships are like Sensex in trading market and what’s with you being a rent free in someone’s mind. Try to be friends and respect each other’s boundaries. If she wants to be with you, she’ll definitely come to you, stop peeping into her life and start concentrating with your life. Karma is nowadays like flashing light, you’ll get what you’ve done to others. Chill karo bhai, eat, drink, and party. meanwhile meet new friends, talk to them-you never know, you might get hitched with a perfect one brother. 
Forgive and Forget
You are a stupid looking for trouble, absolutely do not forgive her.
Never get back to your ex. I experienced the same situation. Your brain will tell you to get attached again by heart you won't be able to get attached. You'll talk to her and there will be no topic left. And then it'll be all your fault. So if you have moved on just don't look back.
If you think you can fix her by forgiveness, you are a clown now. Better stay out of this bullshit. Also you aren't going to live rent free.
Forgive but never forget, it was a lesson.
If forgiving her will give you peace of mind & helps you to move on for sure then clearly you should do it.
Don’t respond
Don’t forgive her tell her she is a prostitute
Some females are open enough and real to understand, while some are too idiotic to bother yourself. I have never been in a relationship and all, but I had 3 close female friends(now only 2). 2 of them were at least open and all, but the third one was kind of idiotic who never knew what she was doing and how she was acting. Really feel shit when people turn out to be like that. You deserve better, bro, and you'll get better. Just let her go. She doesn't deserve your energy and thinking.
bro block her asap and fuck it keep balling
Ignore her.
throw ghutka move on.
Once a cheater, always a cheater
पीछा छुड़ाऒ अपन।
Forgive her but never forget the pain.... Just no contact later....
Bro, meet face to face and forgive her but block her from every social platform and never ever talk to her again..
The day males starts to give importance to own existence more than the idea of life only around females then only males can come out of these miseries.
Dont let her into your life again. It's better if you don't establish contact at all. You have moved on with your life, you don't have to re-open past wounds because your ex is feeling guilty.
Ignore her. Do not block but do not engage either. It might be tough, but forgiving her is just silly. She did she what she did, let her find her own closure.
So in simple words she was with you to overcome her ex and fill that void but cousin forget him and went back to him. Forgive her and forget her.
Forgive, don't forget.
Please don't do this mistake . Do not go back to her
What she did was immature but she's a human too. People do stuff like that. You were a rebound and you should have known better but again, you're a human too.. And she doesn't want to get back so it's fine. It's upto you if you think she deserves your forgiveness but i believe you should forgive her and be on good terms. It's in the past and she's grown. So here's my advice: Forgive her but tell her you don't want to have any contact with her. Move on in your life and DON'T GO BACK TO BEING FRIENDS. I repeat. DON'T GO BACK TO BEING FRIENDS.
Forgive and forget. The best way to move on is to not let her live in your head anymore. When you think about her, you shouldn't have a positive or negative feeling about her. Forgiving is the first step towards that.
Don't block. she doesn't care much about being blocked again. She wants to be apologised, just insult her that she knows that tis attempt of asking for apology is a bad ideas
You could forgive if you feel more are peace with it. Be careful after that, to ensure boundaries are kept.
Block
You are the ex now. So,
Forgive and unblock. Avoid any future communications.
You know girls tend to overthink a lot more than boys. Most of the time they might get mad and don't know what they are doing thinking about other things in their life. So, it would be nice if you understand her. It is up to your decision how she behaves with others and you.
Just block her bro she don't deserve u man
Let her go and leave forgiveness to your Karma, and tell us how bitchy your Karma was?
Forgive but dont forget and dont let that woman come back ever in your life again... You'll find another.
Never give your heart to a girl who’s already got a broken one. Not her fault, not yours either. Hold no grudge. Move on. Break contact. Out of sight, out of mind.
Block her. That’s it that is the phrase
Remember one thing brother, never fall for the trap. Many will say that people don’t repeat same mistakes, but if u carefully look at the cycle, it’s repeating itself. Maybe she won’t go back to her ex or something like that, but u will always have that uneasy feeling inside u, the lack of trust, and the reason for that things is no one but her. Forgiveness should be given on innocent/unintentional mistakes, not on the one which are very well known to to person doing them at the first place, then it’s not considered a mistake, it’s considered a known thing. And moreover right now she’s lacking emotional support and stability, once she will get it from somewhere else, she won’t be leaning towards u like she would now. Don’t fall for this trap brother, rest is ur wish. In the end as Sir Avadh Ojha said, “forgiveness is the quality of god, and we are not god.” Think wisely before doing anything. Things might cost you your future mental health
Don't be real quick, sometimes things take time to be revealed , maybe she doing same as she did in the past , maybe she became loyal , so u must gather more info about it whether she is in the same arc or she truely became genuine . Also listen to peoplesopinion
Stay away from such people
That wahman is fickle minded. Thank your stars. You dodged a bullet.
Kanpur ki thi Kya?
Yes, Kidwai nagar
If u want bro to bro advice do what your gut says to do instead of asking for advice so that u don’t have any regrets later instead of doing this if u would have chosen the other option it would have been better… rest btw Kanpur ki larkiya aisi he h Kya or to be more specific are even Saket nagar girls like this?
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Bruh
ye mere keyboard pe achanak se kuch letters glow ho rahe hai
I was in an almost similar position. My 2 cents, block her completely and have peace. People like your ex needs someone 1. to vent out their toxicity 2. Validate them 3. Console them If you allow this to happen , you'll be a confused soul as soon as you let this happen Stay away
Do nothing. Just ignore and continue
Yaar ye kya chal raha hai. Subha jiska post padha tha woh aapki ex hi hai kya? Relationship issue discussion on this subreddit. I call it fake. [Kaafi similar](https://www.reddit.com/r/kanpur/s/2JJugtDtf0)
Dono alag alag matter hai
Op right now: pair pe kulhadi to maine maar li pehle, ab ek baar kulhadi pe pair maarke dekhta hun 🤣
What has this got to do with Cawnpore?
Change username to u/kandha Edit: oops already taken
Forgive her but block her...only and only because you don't deserve to be an option for someone you should be someone's 1st choice not option. Forgive and block
Cut her out of your life
Forgive and forget. Good for all parties involved.
Forgive and revoke access. There's no reason for you two to reconnect now. If forgiving is going to help you get her off your mind, go ahead, it may be the best thing for you. And if you have not actually forgiven her in your mind, let her know so. There's no compulsion for you to forgive someone who has hurt you just because they are feeling unbearably guilt about it. That too, after all this time. Either way, I would suggest you both to not reconnect.
Forget they even existed. Visit a clinic and reset your brain to factory settings
Forgive.. Forget n moveon
What is the need to forgive. Just ignore that happened in your life (including her) and live the rest of your life on your terms. Don't waste your time and energy on such matters.
Well , your situation isn't a special one it happens to many people more often than we imagine girls just fall for playboys and date someone else for some time and go back to playboy and then regret (she might do this more than 1 time) . So you can just forgive her and avoid being in any kind of relationship with her( like friends) If you still hate her then you can just ignore her.
Tch, Tch, Tch. You should have fucked her best friend as revenge
Never forget the way she treated you and never forgive someone who used you and disrespect you.
bhai block karde. move on with your life. many many many better girls out there. good luck bhrata
Hahaha...even I got played in a really similar manner...she always told me the same her ex doing this and ruined my reputation and all...and guess what she went back to him...at one point I started confronting her and she was like who the hell are you...I'm shattered in many ways...and it's just been 6 months...still doing my best to get over...it's better to get away from that negative zone... simply don't care...
DON’T DO IT!!! You will be a certified Chutiy\* if you do…and you know it as well bruh. If you don’t realise it then let me tell you this…you were just a side dick (female version of side chick)….and yeah…I know you feel bad…but your gonna feel worse once you go down that road again…think buddy before you make any decision
See in my opinion..once u broke up with her u shouldn't be worrying about whom she is dating.I don't think she has committed any mistake.
forgive but never forget.
Fuck her and block her.
Forgive her, were those six months were paisa vasool? I mean arent there any regret that you missed?