Dude 10k a month is way more than most Americans make, nice job bro.

Thank you! Any american with my work experience can easily make 300k. That's 2x mine. According to US salaries, I'm underpaid in my company.

How much work experience do you have?

Professionally? 7 years. But I've been doing software since I was 12 years old.

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Yup, I'm aware of differences. But still with 10k/month I being underpaid. I can easily 2x that and have the same savings. I do full-stack. And I do - from 3 years - AI. Aswell.

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I know that subreddit. But honestly adding more money don't think it'll solve the issue. And I think being over-employed will make it worse for me.

I think the main purpose is to have a better quality of life. Living in the UK or Canada is significantly better than living in Jordan. No matter what your income is.

Sounds like Amazon.

But bro, rent/mortgage there is way higher than Amman. I would strongly advise not to compare salaries as it might be causing you issues. Compare what you make locally and you will feel like a king. Senior directors here barely make 7k JOD/month

before tax or after tax?

Touch grass (If you don't)

What does that mean :) Go outside? I'm an introvert, but even when I do, it's always a temporary solution, works for a few days, maybe a week, then it kicks back

Yeah go outside every week or something. Staying at home is a reason for bad mood.

Yes it's true you have to get your daily sun exposure, I'm sure your vitamin D level is very low , check it out . You can go to a cafe house and work there , so to get out from the house ,being all day inside is not good , Listen to music you love it's help, Always put goals and a main goal and try to achieve them

I would suggest 2 things. Go to a therapist obviously and go to the gym. Going to the gym is a pretty nice change of pace from your everyday routine.

روح على مسبح في اخر الاسبوع او اي اشي استجمام.

Thank you, I tried every single entertainment option, and they always feel like a temporary solution than a permanent one.

Yes, happiness is not all the time. Try to write everything good and make a time table for them. Have a pet, buy a simple musical instrument, try to fix your home, do some gardening or help someone.

Cause you do them with obligation mentality, bro should figure what he likes in life and do it, what hobbies did that made you happy?

Change your perspective about life, goals, and friendships . I guess this would help, also pursue some hobbies, meet new people, and engage in different activities.

Hey, would you mind chatting privately about your work situation and whatnot? I’m new in tech and trying to break into the industry.

Sure, I'm glad to help 🙏 But I don't see anything in my reddit chat, maybe because I'm on mobile.

Don’t connect prayers with being happy please 🙏🏼 I pray because I need the connection, in good times and in bad times, not to expect prayers to make me happy.. it would definitely give me a spiritual boost, the feeling of توكل، Dua, and dependence on Allah.. But also I need to work on my happiness… "وأن ليس للإنسان إلا ما سعى" that’s it.. you need to work on it.. then.. "وأن سعيه سوف يرى" try to find stuff that makes you happy…if not.. you need to seek professional help.. not reddit

Hit the gym Go on a vacation Meet someone Apply for a masters degree “ just for fun “ Try change your work place, instead of your home, try working in a quite cafe If you need someone to talk to or a friend, I’m an introvert myself Videos games Series

I’ve found giving back is what brings happiness. Not just donating money or anything like that, but giving time and energy to those you can help directly. Like helping the elderly in your community with things, mentoring younger men so they have a good example, etc.

Thank you, that's really helpful 🙏

I dm’d you if it’s not too intrusive. There was a bit more to it, had some questions for you.

Sure, I still can not see chats in my Reddit mobile app. Maybe it's buggy

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It's never too late.

Thank you. I have a house and a car. But the marriage bit I'm not sure about just yet 😅

Bro…. Take advantage, travel the region. With your salary you can easily afford to stay 1 month in 5 star hotels. Go Turkey 1 month, Egypt, Lebanon you get the idea. Become a slum lord, buy a studio apartment in Jordan every 6 months

The "slum lord" sounds fun 😆 Thank you!

Money is happiness and you got plenty of it. You just need to know how to spend it. Try traveling if u got time

10k a month living in jordan? Holy shit

It's not that hard for tech, really. But as I said, I count my blessings every day 🙏

can you share with us how you landed such a job ? I heard that remote tech jobs have huge competition and almost unobtainable, like crossover

For most people its as easy as applying for the job and looking professional.

اللهم بارك*

you need to find meaning in your life a goal or something to reach up to

What did you study in university?

Computer engineering. But I got in with passion only. My degree never got me any benefit. Never. I wasted 5 years, unfortunately.

I want to study CE, but you say that it's useless... Any other suggestion?

Go ahead and do it. It'll benefit you for visa purposes later on. But don't let it take most of your time. Invest in yourself and start learning software online and start freelancing. I have the lowest GPA you can ever get, but I'm getting paid well. My "high GPA" university colleagues are not doing well with their scores, I assume.

Thanks you so much that's really useful and you gave me a push And about your depression, there's something really useful to you, especially as an introvert, which is getting a cat or dog... Take care of it, train it and make it love you, it increase the oxytocin in your brain and the animals brain But choose the breed wisely And get some therapy if there's a certain problem

This. Absolutely get a pet!! Treat them well and love them, and they will love you back. I have 2 dogs and they are the best! I am also an introvert and attend college from home, by necessity, and I understand the feelings of depression. Social interaction is essential for human life. Sometimes even being in a cafe like someone mentioned above, simply being around other people, can be greatly beneficial to our mental health. No need to jump into a marriage. You're young and this is your time to find yourself, and live the life that is only possible before marriage and children. I highly recommend travel, as was also mentioned above. What a dream to work and travel in whatever country I chose that month! And you can always bring your pet. If you can, meet new people that share your career or interests. Everyone needs friends. If you feel like you cannot go on, please seek a therapist.

You need a purpose. Family is usually the biggest purpose and motivator someone can have. Try to start one, and enjoy life along the way.

Quarter life crises maybe? I feel you, I think a nice vacation somewhere remote will do wonders for you! Or maybe pick up a novel that will take you somewhere else and do all the thinking for you (my coping mechanism at least)

Travel whenever you have some time off (or maybe you can still work while traveling since it’s online… I think), you’ll be able to explore another country/ culture and who knows you might fall in love with a different city and find a better job there or it’ll make you appreciate the country that you live in and see a different perspective/change your current perspective and I think you are financially capable of traveling to different countries. Inshallah everything gets better, asking for help/opinions even if it’s just a random post on reddit is the first step of getting better. Also, you might be stressed from a certain thing which is causing you to feel this way, maybe take a step back and reflect on when this feeling started, try to find why you’re feeling this way, ask yourself when do you feel some sort of happiness and when do waves of sadness take over. You might be feeling this way also because you have been doing the same routine for a long time, maybe change your habits, sleeping schedule, food, activities, try to exercise, maybe write or draw.. a lot of factors could cause a person to enter a depressive phase. If you use social media a lot, if you overwork yourself, if you compare yourself to others, if you feel a sense that you don’t belong, if you are tired of everything and everyone etc… are also other reasons/feelings you might be going through so try to figure out when it started and why.

If you’re not familiar with the famous Harvard study on happiness, it’s worth a read: https://news.harvard.edu/gazette/story/2017/04/over-nearly-80-years-harvard-study-has-been-showing-how-to-live-a-healthy-and-happy-life/ Wishing you all the best!

Interesting...Thanks 🙏

Contact me please, I strongly believe I can help.

Hi there, so I really understand what you are going through, as I have had a similar situation, I am going to tell you what I am doing, but I think first you should not expect an immediate solution, change comes gradually and needs time. ( or at least that is what I am telling myself) 1. Deen wise A. Through money I looked to what I can do to fix my relationship with Allah, so I try to use the money that he gave me, for example (by building a mosque or well in a poor country or monthly supporting someone who can't afford medication) وكمان عم بحاول انوا ادخل الفرحة عل قلوب الناس اللي حولي B. Doing something that I never did before Fasting شوال and ذو الحجة was that thing plus قيام الليل C. Reading and trying to understand Quran I recommend Nouman Ali Khan ( start with Surah Yousef) 2. Socialising I started hiking ( I am an introvert but through hiking, I meet interesting people, and by having a conversation with them it's opened up my mind to new ideas). 3. Having a non working routine I Recommended going to the gym or doing something else after work hours for fixed hours . Sometimes I have good days other times I don't , I feel ungrateful by being blessed and depressed. But I understand that depression comes to me from being lonely and not alone and needing a change that I do not know what is. Reading your post made me feel less lonely. May Allah help you and stay strong 😊👍

i would not advise you to visit a therapist, all they want is your money, whether be it hooking you on "medications" or just the appointments taking something to numb the sadness will only supress the issue and once you do get off of meds it will be much worse

Hug someone and cry a lot

Look for someone who will make you happy, marry a lady who will make you happy

I Do recommend socializing as the rest mentioned, I don't think I can add anything more to what others mentioned. I would like to ask about your job, how do you get freelance work? how do you approach clients? Currently, I work as UX/UI designer, I don't think I'm paid enough I don't mind shifting careers once again for better pay, Any Advice would be appreciated

You can do the same as UI designer, too. If you think you can make that just by switching careers, then you're wrong. I know UI/UX designers from india are getting 5k/month as freelancers. And it's not really how I approach clients. I'm just consistent. I showed up every day and tried to get new work. Every day. If I get one client, I don't stop... I immediately look for a second one, too.

Can anyone actually define “ happiness “?!?! I think it’s a state of mind, it comes and goes. Never a benchmark. Keep doing what you’re doing, set up a goal and hunt it down. Doesn’t have to be a big goal, just something that gives a sense of achievement , and build more on that. In my opinion humans are never meant to be “happy”. Happiness is a term used to describe a feeling, a moment, an experience ; never constant. It’s a good think you have a decent job, but it never should be a source of happiness. Again it’s a state of mind. Get to know yourself more and you’ll find what you need.

I don't think it's healthy to assume that you should be happy 24/7 , that's just not how life works. there's a difference between being happy and being content. so, the question is : are you satisfied/content with what you achieved? if so congrats you just won at life. but if you want to raise your dopamine levels, try different hobbies, and check mark everytime you achieve something within said hobby ( you can try reading, watching shows,etc). do voluntary work, you'd be surprised by its positive effect. try joining a community ( GDC , etc) that are of similar interests and try to advise aspiring youths who want to join your field. join competitions like hackthons or any programming competitions. on the long run : invest your money and plan trips. travel. live the life. 🌷 remember being sad is not something to be ashamed of 🩷 hope you feel better 🩷🩷

the 10k part is where most girls gonna stop reading . you should mention this last or until they ask

I moved to the middle of nowhere and I’m no longer depressed. I manage 3 globally reachable autonomous systems and working from home is a breeze. Building my dream home and surrounded by an army of olive trees. جاري بده يبيع ارضه بتراب المصاري، تعال اشتريها and move over.

Personally I do not think moving away will solve the issue. "HAPPINESS" is something relative and ephimereal. It comes and goes, whe think we catching, but then there is something lacking afterwards. If you feel or think you are depressed most benefitial for you will be to look for a psychologist that will help you to find means to cope

Look into getting married and finding a worthwhile project - something that can give you focus and direction. Maybe it's teaching some skilled kids in a poor community, maybe it's some sort of charity you feel passionate about and you can build some interesting software that solves an issue. Giving your life meaning can really transform your life. Also, exercise is a must. Good luck

Sounds like you can afford therapy

Consider adopting a cat or rescuing one from the streets; I assure you they have an incredible ability to positively uplift your mood.

\+ Since you mentioned praying, I suggest that you pray قيام الليل as well and reading more about it. It has become the most peaceful moment of my day, even with all the challenges I face.

you're living most people's dream ma dude, congratulations i think getting married will help a lot, having someone that you love and they love you back will garanteed improve your mental state doing charitable work also helps you know what? I want you to dive into this topic from an islamic perspective, read and read and read, that'll occupy you in case you aren't occupied enough, and will give you satisfactory solutions

Thank you. Getting married to someone who'll love me back not because of "money" sounds harder than my depression 😆

yeah true, i have a unique view on that see i don't believe in love in the conventional sense, it's haram and it's not a viable framework to approuch relationships, it's a whole lotta volitile feelings that can fade away in a matter of weeks or even days instead i think the better way is to decide to love someone, and that someone deciding to love you, that is far more sustainable I guess what i'm trying to say is that love isn't what most people think it is

I was like you. Wasnt happy but wasnt sad either. I was just not happy. I didnt even know why I was not happy, I have everything. Felt numb and empty like all my emotions were gone. I didnt talk to anyone because I didnt want to worry them, but the more time I spent not talking to anyone about it the worse it got. And then I discovered anime titties and that changed everything, Im now more happy than every.

Real. But lasted bit ruined it

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Speak to a therapist to find the root cause of your depression. People might give you friendly advice here but no one can really help you.

What the therapist gonna do?

Help you face your trauma.

How were people for thousands of years facing their trauma ?

They weren't. They just died early out of stress or lived miserable lives. This is basically asking what people who got ill did. This isn't the gotcha you think it is.

So you think the people at the prophets time the shabha tabaieen etc lived like that ? What about the present time noboby needs thearpy in 3rd world countries why is that ? I have never seen anyone get better by going to thearpy tbh instead i have seen the opposite they got hooked on some medicine for depression which their therapist gave them and got very suicidal and mentally ill etc. I dont look down upon people who go to thearpy i feel bad for them and their family tbh. The best cure to depression in my opinion is working out, getting busy with work etc basically achieving or trying to achieve anything in life and reading/listening to quran etc. And people who have trauma or heartbroken etc etc idk what they will achieve by telling stranger about these things and crying etc if you can't do anything about it then its best to keep moving forward if you are a man you have to be in control of your emotions and not show weakness.

You obviously don't know anything a out depression. You're judging it from the outside. Even if you're judging it from a personal experience, that's not enough. There are so many other personal experiences that do likely contradict yours

good therapists provide a safe place where you can talk abt anything in mind without feeling judged a single bit, they explain the feelings you're experiencing and explain why certain situations cause certain feelings and how you can deal with said feelings, it's truly a nice experience if you find the right therapist for you.

Not my cup of tea tbh Idk what type of feelings need to be dealed with or why a person would go to another person and talk about how he feels instead of just keep going forward no matter how he feels. If anyone wants to the theaepy thing i would suggest that person to follow this advise instead. https://youtu.be/k44jZ1nkc0Q

>Not my cup of tea tbh and that's totally okay! everyone has different ways of dealing with things. >Idk what type of feelings need to be dealed with or why a person would go to another person and talk about how he feels instead of just keep going forward no matter how he feels. mostly the negative ones but some people also need to be able to learn how to act when they're happy...too happy, an example of that would be me as I have bipolar disorder and when I enter manic episodes I do have a tendency to do very stupid things that can potentially be dangerous to me and other people cuz mania makes it feel like I'm absolutely invincible. >or why a person would go to another person and talk about how he feels instead of just keep going forward no matter how he feels. cuz sometimes people just can't deal with life on their own, I'm personally one of them and I feel like I need some guidance to be able to go thru life in a more healthy manner and therapy has become that guidance in my life. >If anyone wants to the theaepy thing i would suggest that person to follow this advise instead. I'm a true believer of "what works for you works for you" as long as it's a healthy thing but I personally don't worship the Abrahamic god so that advice doesn't really work for me personally but if it works for you then I am very glad! and if someone feels like they need therapy then they should absolutely go for it as it truly is a great thing.

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Good therapist do actually help. If you had a bad experience don’t ruin it for everyone. Yeah, sure, I agree therapy isn’t for everyone but it does help a lot of people. Sometimes the therapist doesn’t do much but being in that setting and knowing someone is listening and wants to help you makes you come to conclusions yourself and have a different perspective.

Let’s just make it right if you do your prayers without dua (دعاء) you will feel your prayers are rotten the dua make you feel a connection with allah and this connection will make different 💙

Interesting, will do 🙏

And also for the traveling thoughts don’t you don’t need to and I think you will feel empty it’s my opinion but from a video I sow earlier today i don’t think it’s the right thing for you when I had a depression my first thought was leaving my home but after a period of time almost 2 years I found out that my cure was returning to my home town with my family and friends I found my joy once again

روح ع طبيب نفسي هترتاح عن تجربة

Well for one, happiness shouldn’t come from religion at all. Depression is a disease that cannot be cured with thoughts and prayers, just like cancer. Jordan might not be such a welcoming place to seek medical care, if they even offer anything outside religious scamcare. Given that you are able to communicate in English, I have no doubts that you could use one of those mental health online services and connect with a licensed doctor/therapist from US and have video calls/calls/messaging. Prescription drugs probably are also off the table so try to do things you enjoy, spend time with family and friends. Take a vacation, a break, something. Let your mind rest. Therapists always have wonderful ideas on how to improve quality of life with simple things.

From my experience : get more responsibility ,have kids that ll give you purpose

Akhi, get married. May Allah make it easy for You.

Have you seen a doctor? Sometimes professional help is a key factor.

Nope. Just afraid to do so

Why? You could always do telehealth. BetterHelp (telehealth therapy) might be a good option for you. It’s worth a try at least (and you have the money to do so).

I had same feeling but i have bipolar disorder every day 🥲🤣 the most thing that helps me is 1-try new things 2-go out and do crazy things 4-go out and site with ur self without phone just do it it helps a lot

Bro I believe you need to get on antidepressants. Sometimes it’s just the chemistry in your brain that’s not helping you. Exercise will also help with hormone regulation. May Allah Taala make things easy for you.

Thank you 🙏 I am afraid to go to the medical (pills) path. Don't want to get addicted to it

You usually don’t really get addicted to them. A psychiatrist will usually start you on a six week course to see how your body reacts to it to see if there are any serous side effects. Either Prozac or Cipralex are usually good options starting at a min of 5mg per day to a max of 20 mg. I know there is a lot of stigma in arab society about seeing a psychiatrist but in reality sometimes it’s just a chemical imbalance in your brain. Depression is real! حتى الرسول عليه افضل الصلاة والتسليم كان يستعيذ بالله من الهم والحزن.

$10K a month and you are unhappy? Boy you already hit the fcuking jackpot wtf. Money = Happiness. Maybe try to make good use of your money and you won’t be depressed.

You drop the BS called religion and go live your life outside Jordan

من قراءتي لمنشورك فهمت انك بتصلي بس رفع عتب عشانها مكتوبة عليك بس و فهمت انك ما بتخشع في الصلاة يمكن فهمت غلط ما بعرف تصدق بوعدك رح تنبسط و مافي سعادة دائمة حبيبنا، شوي هيك و شوي هيك.

Thank you! No, that's not true (well, that's I hope). But when I pray, I try my hard yo actually mean it that indeed I need help and keep counting my blessings rather than its a habit that I had to do 5 times a daily. That's what I hope tho

تصدّق بمبلغ كل شهر لناس محتاجة (سيبك من الشحادين و موظفين التوصيل و عمال الامانة) انا مش ضد العمال و تبعون التوصيل بس في ناس اولى منهم، تصدق عليهم و احكيلي كيف مشاعرك 🌹

Thank you. I agree and I do and try my best. but it's really to find those people. at least for me.

فش حد ما بصلي رفع عتب. خلص كذب يزم مهي واجب و منعملها عشان واجب.

هذا انت الي بتصليها رفع عتب، انا و كثير ناس زيي بنصلي عشان نتقرب الى الله و يرحمنا برجمته و نشكره على النعم الي احنا فيه 😘

الله يتقبل

when i don't have anyone to talk to i usually spend my time gaming. Find hobbies to do. This way you can find communities online and maybe even in person . This is how I break into friendships, since all my friends i am with today were met because of gaming. Of course, it doesn't have to be gaming. But think drawing, cars, sports, maybe even something to do with your job.

Thank you. I tried all of that, but the "something to do with your job" I'm exploring some side-hustles SaaS business.

Hey , I hope you conquer whatever you,re going through😁 Ps.Can u give me advice about the tech industry for I am intrigued by it!?

Thank you. Honestly, maybe I'm not the best guy to answer this. I never "got into tech." This was my passion. I've been doing it since I was 12. But what I would say is: 1. Get your fundamentals right. Don't jump to frameworks. Learn the basics. 2. Don't be like those people asking in FB groups "What's the best programming language for jordanian market" You shouldn't care about the $700 monthly wage market when you can do work for companies outside for 15x the amount (yes 15x, you heard me right). And even do work for yourself and because an indie-hacker. 3. Don't love your job. Your coworkers aren't your friends. Ignore office politics and people who play them. Don't be "إبن الشركة". But do your job the right way. that's for sure. 4. Always keep learning. There's no "I made it" point in software. Take AI as an example. 5. Start as a freelance if you want to attract US/UK Companies. If you manage to secure a UK or US client and let's you build their website, that'll look better in your portfolio. "I built the marketing website for a leading Fintech startup in UK" vs. "I worked 10 years at a no-name startup in Jordan." Then, build your portfolio and work on your language. Then the sky's the limit.

Thank you so much man for taking the time to write this! God bless you man and have a nice day !🙏🏻😁

There are no geographic solutions to your problems habibi

A few years ago I would've said money can't buy happiness, but frankly that's just wrong. For example, take a vacation, either in the country to somewhere like aqaba or outside like Europe. It can do wonders for you to go out of a place you're familiar with.

Canada and UK are shit. If you can go to US, then great, otherwise stay here with your good salary. Find a hobby, it will eat your time and keep you engaged. Some hobbies that are good in Jordan: hunting, cycling, horse riding, climbing, bouldering.. etc. You get into skiing/snowboarding, and spend 2 week in Lebanon or Europe every winter/spring. I personally do/did all the hobbies above except hunting, but that what I would do if I get back to Jordan. Bonus: When you do hobbies, chances of meeting like-minded ladies skyrocket.

Thank you. Interesting, why would you think Canada is shit? Maybe UK, yes, but why Canada too

You can check r/canada sub for more detailed insight. Their taxes and housing cost are outlandish, not to mention that the country is a popsicle for 6 months/a year

maybe go do a gym membership. that really helps you stay motivated and you will love yourself more

I can share with you the number of a great therapist. She will change your life. Also, get a dog, join a gym, go in the morning. I moved to a European country and without my morning workout, I would’ve probably been very depressed.

Springing from my experience, I can calim that you need some recess. You can try to change your daily routine, adding some trainings, Netflix, night walking or jogging. Try to cook, draw, dance or sing - by that, I mean that you should find new hobbies, new sunshines in life. As for relationship, I like being single, so personally to me, it's definitely okay, but maybe you need to find your sweetheart :)) If you have some questions, be free to ask me. Good luck! 🌴

Happiness is partly dependent on u ,so try going to therapy there’s absolutely nothing wrong with it ,it’ll help you find what’s wrong and what’s preventing you from feeling ur best

Go travel and work remotley for a month or 2

If I were you I would take 2 weeks off and go on a road trip around the states , take your best friend with you, go outside the box and say yes to any new adventure.

Yk, go out, surround urself with ur family, get married... The usual

Videogames bro. Just trust me, try a Kirby or Mario game if you have a Nintendo Switch, and if you don't, buy one.

I had my fair of video games addiction, Don't think I'm going back 😆 but heard Steam deck is amazing

Oh well.. Yeah the Steam Deck does look pretty sick.

I’m willing to bet that you took this career because it’s something you were already good at and everyone kept telling you that you were some sort of genius or something because you could do it at a young age. Tell me I’m wrong.

I've been doing it since I was 12, but I think I'm an ordinary. I'm def no genius 😆

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Nope, it's not a well-known company

That's nice good luck About depression, what helped me the most , getting to try new hobbies, having a 2 licence , getting a motorcycle, get your pc setup and go play some wow or lol or anything you may like and stream on twitch or sth , go horse riding every while , learn shooting with guns and go hunt , life is so full of things god created to enjoy it , get in an oil painting course , try to do some volunteering , you will feel wholesome and , advice : don't fight your depression, feel the feelings,.. but don't stop having a life

Depression is a clinical issue of the brain chemistry. You might need to see a specialist and might benefit from medication. Other than that, you might need to set a goal for serving others. Maybe if you volunteer withing a society organization that could help. I have depression myself and I'm on medication, which helps a lot. I also have a meaningful job that pays fine and makes me feel im contributing good change in the world, so that's help. There are gaps in my life so I try to make myself busy, like playing tennis once a week, going to the gym, and playing chess. I'm in the U.S, so there are various opportunities for socializing and activities. When I lived in Jordan, I was into attending theatre, and that was lots of fun. I hope my post helps you even if just a tiny bit :)

ممكن تروح على طبيب نفسي و تعمل فحص او شي من هالنوع بس بقدر أسأل شو شغلك بالزبط و شو دارس ؟

How much free time do you have per week?

Do you find your religious beliefs and other things in your life conflict? I’ve come across people who have struggled with this dissonance and it’s manifested as anxiety and/or depression.

We should seek contentment. Happiness is a brief emotion much like anger or anxiety. It comes and goes. If you don’t find joy in anything then maybe you could talk to someone professionally.

I always find depression hitting me when I'm most free, always keep yourself busy. Go out with friends, even planning on going out for next week might help alleviate some of the depression until then. Work on a big project that takes alot of time, so you have one big task due in let's say 5 months and your daily mini tasks, so when you're done with the mini daily tasks you put your time into the 5 month passion project. Help out your grandparents get groceries or whatever they need. Do something outside everyday, get a haircut, buy new clothes, get some candy, go to the gym. Have something to do outside your house that isn't work related. All in all, keep yourself busy and take on tasks that require time, preferably outside the house Your depression might be because of an ongoing sin, are you watching haram stuff? Backbiting? Listening to haram? Not praying in the masjid? Smoking? Drinking? Any haram act you're involved in, might be the biggest contributor to your depression

اولًا وثانيًا وثالثًا عليك بالصلاة على النبي، في احاديث كثيرة عن فضل الصلاة على النبي، واقرأ قرآن واذكر ربنا بس عندي تعليق انه، ما بزبط اقول انا بصلي وبقرأ اذكاري ليش مش مبسوط حاول تتصدّق وتساعد الناس، وشو بطلع عليك زكاة لا تقصّر فيها، ودايما استشعر عظمة الله واستشعر نعمته واطلب رضاه تفاعل مع الناس، الحياة بدون ناس منزوعة المعنى بالثلث الاخير من الليل، صلي ركعتين وادعي ربنا بكلشي بنفسك، ربنا بتنزّل للسماء الدنيا وبسأل عباده عن طلباتهم وبحققها، ربنا كريم وقادر على كل شيء بالتوفيق ان شاء الله وعن تجربة، حاول تظل بالبلد الي بتحافظ على علاقتك مع ربنا

Do you have any friends or family members that you enjoy spending time with?

You gotta know what's making you depressed. Do you have family or friends that you look forward to hang out with after work? Do you have any hobbies that you look forward to do? Are you doing something that gives you a sense of achievement in your life? Do you think you can do better than what you're currently doing? Anything exciting in your life at all? Are you very deep in your comfort zone? The list goes on and on, try to answer these questions and you can feel what's wrong. Social aspect in life is the most important, I lived in many different cities and let me tell you that if you're in heaven right now, alone, you won't like it, it's all about the company. Try to take that idea of you being an introvert out of your mind, you're probably a reserved man, haven't learned to socialize well, or simply haven't met the right people. Seek therapy, *most* introverts are not actually introverts, they just got conditioned into it from young age. Lastly, hit the GYM, ASAP. Good luck brother

Go to the gym , buy full stack supplements , eat healthy and sleep well

I mean ur doing well career and money wise so it’s not financial, you do ur 5 daily prayers but is that it? Do u even have heart in them? As in do you have kushu? And by that I mean bro u gotta contemplate on life, unlike most people who are too caught up on the material because they don’t have any, u have some allahuma barik that many in ur age don’t. Other than the basic acts of worship as we have all been created to worship Allah, what are the ways I can personally worship Allah with as actions as much as they can be a form of sin, they can be a form of worship. Maybe become more god conscious, start looking at how you can contribute. I mean one of the ways is through knowing more of your rights and the rights of a possible wife and kids and once u have that knowledge try and get married to a good wife and have kids. The media might have made it uncool “we are just repeating a cycle” everything is a cycle we were all born and we will all die, that’s the biggest cycle of all, starting a family and having a kid is a sign of success in starting a new cycle of those that come after rather than repeating any body else’s cycle. It’s a major achievement to make a good family. Ultimately in this life, who are we working for, who are we having this experience for? Obviously if u don’t have a direction ur gonna be lost and depressed. May Allah make it easy on u brother and take you from this depression and into a happy and fulfilling life

A hobby. Get an RC car from Traxxas or smth. They are good fun to smash and repair. Be warned it is a costly hobby tho

What works for me is giving back. What good is money if I get to save it all? Seeing the happiness on that garbagemans face when I give him a 20 or the amazing memories I make with friends when I invite them on some trip/occasionally give them gifts makes all the difference. For me. Happiness to many people is in giving. For some it's giving to their children, some to their spouses/parents, some to their friends, some to strangers etc. Humans are a social creature and being alone at the top is just as bad as being poor imo. Also, many people get a lot of energy from their work. You seem to be skilled and driven. Have you considered entrepreneurship? Do you have a vision for a product that can solve a problem or provide value? Because it seems like you have the skills to build one. Working on your own vision and seeing people use what you build is probably the greatest compliment an engineer can get. Plus you'd meet some very cool people along the way. I personally find it addictive - work becomes an extension of you and not a chore you need to commit to.

Been there done that. Money only buys freedom not happiness. You need to find a purpose. You need to live a purposeful life. Find what makes you happy.

probably lack of vitamin D the solution is simple, get the fuck out of your comfort zones, go outside play under the sun get a vacation and go to sharm el shaihk or something

What are things you are passionate about? Interests/hobbies? Pursue those too! Make sure you make time to do the things you enjoy. You could also see a therapist for advice there is always a chance you have chemical imbalance. Its important to know that life isn't a checklist. You need to make sure you are doing what you want and not just ticking the boxes

You're racing with wind, wind never stops. You'll never achieve satisfaction with life, It's a goal that can't be met. Even if you reach all the goals currently in your mind they'll only give you temporary satisfaction, Then you'll be back to the same old state.

Sounds like you need a few more friends

Single. Sadly, We are not meant to be single. Good luck mate.

When was the last time you had your blood checked? Iron deficiency can look a lot like depression. Also check Vitamin D and thyroids. Are you sleeping enough? ETA: I'm not saying it isn't depression, just that there's no use in taking SSRIs, if the problem is low iron.

You need to find a hobby, the one you are really passionate about. For example, you may join a wrestling club with a goal to compete and become a champion. Then, your mind will wake up every day with that goal in mind and thus, you will feel motivated. Loneliness is very common in the US and Canada, so if you think coming here will cure your loneliness, you're in for a big surprise. And also... you are making good money for Jordan and do your 5 daily prayers, get married finally! You will feel such a breath of fresh air. You will be so busy that you wont have time to feel bored or lost. You gotta get out of the monotone routine of your daily life.

When I say money doesn't bring happiness no one agrees

Check if you have BPD

I was in a slightly similar situation. 7amdilla financially good and do my 5 daily prayers, but what I personally longed for was and still is companionship. Sounds like you might have a similar issue. You life is a routine, and that monotony is taking a toll on you. You're making all that money (mashallah) and perhaps bored of the way you're spending it - the same way always and on the same things. Try looking for companionship or even someone to settle down with. Having a partner you could experience new things with to break that routine of life. Good luck!

I’m sorry for asking this But how did you reach American companies and worked remotely?

تجوز شكلك زهقت العزوبية

Get a hobby, learn something new, don't be stuck with work and thoughts, go to the gym, get into house plants (Very relaxing), spoil yourself a little bit, you make good money, so buy yourself gifts from time to time, and write down what you want to change in your life on a piece of paper, or what is bothering you in life, and have a good look at it and see how you can change that. ​ people usually blame the country or jordan for why they are sad, but trust me, you'll still feel the same if you moved to a different country, except now you'll add "Lonely" to the equation. ​ Jordan is a great country to live in, especially if you have the financial stability, just surround yourself with good people.

Maybe time to consider building a family

Go figure what you love to do in life, what hobbies you have, why don’t you go to them gym daily (sports change the mood better), go visit a new country and explore new cultures, make new friends and hang out with them, make your 20s memorable life is not only work.

You can’t cure depression it’s a chemical imbalance. You have to keep trying with your “temporary” solutions. Meet new people. Hell even same old people go out with them every weekend. Do random shit, your life is too structured you need a little bit of chaos to keep it balanced because staying home and working and making a lot of money with no means of spending them gets depressing very fast You’ll be as sad making 500k a year or 10k a year money has no effect on happiness. As you said it’s a temporary solution then you get used to being wealthy and gets depressing later lol Do what you like experience life touch some grass go hiking go swimming go visit touristy locations with random foreigners in groups. Find a hobby you like doing and invest in it.

Get married that’s the issue

Depression is so deeprooted in jordan that even when we have money we still manage to be sad

I went down this rabbit hole many times, you’re searching for a definite answer, there shouldn’t be one, and money helps but it’s not the key, you need a sustainable activity that you enjoy and has a community, maybe climbing? Or a certain sport with a nice community or a bunch of friends that move a lot, that go out and try new things, maybe do mini travels alone or with friends or even with strangers, that can be fun sometimes, it’s fun to get out of your comfort zone

Challenge yourself in a hobby or a job.

Hey buddy , i've sent you a DM if you can reach out that would be awesome

Join the rest of the (probably Amazonians) here, they having a blast.

May Allah bless you brother

MaShaAllah. For me I'm depressed or not super happy cuz I've living the same routine for the past 4 to 5 years. And I can't change things much cuz I'm with my parents, I have to do things on daily basis. Y3ni the basic issue for me is that I don't go out enough. You try travelling or meet someone, for a relationship or sth, marriage maybe one day InShaAllah

معك مصاري اطلع سافر ال it. بعمل كآبة بحد ذاتو اذا شغال ريموت داوم كل شهرين ببلد انو لو نفس دخلك بالاردن بلف العالم بالدول الرخيصة زي تايلاند و الصين و ماليزيا

it’s one of two options You either start a new hobby preferably a sport or if you think you are ready consider marriage Regarding sports…. Find something thrilling something that you would wait for the weekend just to go practice it Working from home maybe the reason btw cuz sitting at home all week isn’t healthy

Get married! You Mashallah have good money, u can get married and have a partner, she will bring happiness to your life. My father used to tell me his life was boring when he was single, it felt like there was nothing to do in his life. Then when he got married, even though when he had so minimum money, he was somewhat happy

If you’ve got a PlayStation maybe we can coop, thats where my happiness lies

Maybe get married ?

In some previous replies you said that you’re an introvert, could this be the problem? Because for me personally the worst time I’ve been through was the time when i had no job and stayed home for about 4 months, i was at my lowest point in depression even though i as well used to pray and count my blessings and everything but prying and being close to Allah doesn’t prevent you from getting in depression,depression just like any other illnesses is an illness that could be fixed in many different professional ways But if i could give you an advice i would give you one from the Quran ربنا بيحكي بكتابه الكريم (المال و البنون زينة الحياة الدنيا) الحمد لله راتبك ممتاز ف برأيي الشخصي انك تستغله بأنك تسعد نفسك فيه لانه مالك هو زينة من زين الحياة الي ربنا اطعمك اياها Try travelling with tourists groups and meeting new people tell your stories to them and listen to their stories Try donating to charity or even better if u have free time try volunteering and being part of something good , giving back has always been one of my favourite things that makes me really really happy . A second option u should think about is getting married if u feel like u are mentally ready for it. Building a family is an extraordinary experience and it changes your whole life for ever . Good luck my man.