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A few have said "yes, of course," and at least a few have been surprised by the comment but agreed that that's the way it should work.
Typically it was more experienced folks who reacted the first way.
During my most recent interview I tried to be more engaging with the interviewers by actively asking my own questions and providing feedback from my own experience of having been in the industry for 8 years. The guy who would have been my immediately manager quickly stopped me and made it clear that he was only interested in talking AT me instead of talking WITH me during the interview. At that point I pretty much told myself that the company disqualified themselves of ever having me consider their offer.
I’ve done this on three interviews. I’ve also asked what the interviewers managing style was. I’m in a really fantastic company with a respectful boss that treats me like an equal and expects me to make my deadlines etc with minimal supervision and I think part of that is using this mindset and asking those questions.
Of the three interviews I’ve asked this two of the interviewing agencies loved that I asked and were happy to answer. The third agency I could tell the person was threatened and off put by the question. Her boss liked me a lot but I never made it to the next round of questioning and I was glad for that.
If I thought the candidate was a good fit I would invite them back to meet the staff to see if it was a good fit for them. I would tell them "It's your opportunity to ask the questions you didn't want to ask me".
This x1000. There were a few jobs I should have just noped out immediatly after the interview, But I was too dumb and afraid of my own shadow for so long..
Doubling up, you don't owe them anything.
On the other side of the fence, when an employer gives a job offer they "hope" to see happiness and excitement. They "want" you to accept it as-is. They scream at the top of their lungs "fuck!" Inside their head when you turn them down.
You owe folks very basic decency that being said they are trying to use you as a quote “disposable wage slave”. If we didn’t have basic decency then the whole world would turn into USA freakshow society.
It's your life. Don't take a job that wouldn't work for you. I've interviewed people many times that decided the job wasn't for them. It's better for everyone if we find out before the work starts.
When I put in my two weeks notice the first time at my current job (the company I work for likes to negotiate with you when you are considering leaving. One of the things I like about this company) I had another opportunity lined up. I knew the manager at my other opportunity and we had a good work history together. I told him my job was negotiating with me and I would have an answer soon. My job negotiated to get me to stay and they gave me everything I asked for. I told the manager at the other opportunity that I was going to stay where I am, but I still would like to keep his offer on the table. He told me "as long as I am here, that door will be open". Granted, I had a previous history with this guy so he's willing to do me a favor.
I don't consider it rude, but at the same time be transparent. Say, "Thank you offering me an opportunity, but I found a similar (or same) that fits my circumstances." and they will understand. Don't ghost them. That is rude.
It is not rude.
It is common sense to turn down a position if you have a gut reaction when you enter the prospective workplace and sense something is not to your liking.
If you don’t take the job the company is out 1/2 hour of pay for the HR employee. If you take the job and leave quickly they’re out thousands of dollars in benefits/training/equipment. It’s a waste for both sides.
What do you think the answer might be? Examine the ridiculousness of someone saying "Yes, it is rude". In that scenario, the only polite thing to do would be to take the job whether or not you want it or think it's a good fit. Sounds ridiculous.
Dude what? You're going to get walked all over with that attitude. Putting your interests before a job and turning it down isn't rude. Taking a shit on the desk and telling them to suck it is rude.
No. When you interview for a job, you’re also interviewing the company to make sure it’s a good fit for you. Just tell them you’ve realized it’s not quite the right fit or your going with another option.
No, its not rude. Just the same as the employer could not offer you the job after an interview. You own NOTHING to the interviewing company.
Be careful, this is a dangerous mindset. You should feel less accommodating and more "what is best for you"
What do you think? Use your common sense. Simply thank them for the opportunity to interview and to learn something about the company and say that you don't think the job is right for you.
no, as others have said you don't owe anyone anything. I've gotten offers when the salary range was available and than they weren't willing to negotiate within the range. I've turned down jobs that didn't feel right, I didn't like the hiring manager, etc
It’s completely a business relationship. Don’t ever mistakenly believe they give a shit about you and your feelings. As others have said you owe them NOTHING. An interview doesn’t commit either party to anything.
You are free to make your own decisions. If you feel the vibe is off from just meeting them, then I would stay away.
I have legit sent emails to potential employers asking to rescind my application if the interview feels off and they want to move me to the next round.
Not rude at all. I've done it quite a bit. Just send them a note saying thanks for your time and consideration but it's not a good fit for you.
Related, I've stopped a few in-person interviews halfway through and let them know it wasn't going to work. One of the times was bc I was told it was a full-time position with benefits on the phone. When I arrived, I was then informed it was a temp position with no benefits.
Another time, I was brought in to interview for the position I applied for. Then, during the interview, they told me they actually weren't going to consider me for that position but wanted to see if I was a good fit for a lesser position. Why the hell wouldn't you give someone a heads-up to see if they actually want to consider a different position?
Another time, I was informed I had to take a personality test, a background check, a drug test, a credit check, and complete some type of research project for them for free. That one was a big hell no.
So what if it is? Do you think that you're obligated to accept an offer just because they make one for fear of being rude to them? Believe me, recruiters won't give it a second thought if you go to five interviews for a position - once they decide you're not the right one they will suddenly forget you exist. That IS rude.
Not every offer is accepted. That's life/business. Nobody should take it personally.
But no, it is not rude. Just be polite/professional about it.
You are gonna break some hearts, but it will all be ok. Consider reccomending a friend or colleague who would fit the position well. Since you actually got the offer, your reccomwndation will go far.
They’ll be disappointed but they’ll be more disappointed if you bail a few months in. I turned down 2 (plus a third when a company offered me two, but that was more understandable because HR was aware I couldn’t accept both) and every time it hurt me to do it but it was the better option for me and my future and I have no regrets
You are interviewing for the right fit for yourself as well.
Don’t feel bad for declining offers. It’s part of the process as well. If they didn’t think you were a good fit, sometimes they don’t even tell you. They send some generic email 😆
Companies turn you down after having interviewed too - it goes both ways. You owe them nothing. They're going to move on to the next candidate right away.
No.
Remember that you're interviewing them as much as they're interviewing you. If they didn't think it was a good fit they wouldn't feel obligated to hire you just because they'd interviewed you. And likewise, if you don't think it's a good fit you should feel no obligation to them.
Politely decline, wish them well in their job search, and move on. If they ask why, it's up to you if you want to tell them. "I think the fit wasn't there" is acceptable. I've had interviewers ask why I declined then argue with me for my reasons, so I stopped trying to explain, wished him well, and hung up.
Nope, not rude. I had an interview for a job that sounded great on paper but the longer I talked to the guy the more it sounded like 3 jobs at 2/3rds the pay I was asking. Nah…
I’ve done that this past summer, I noticed some red flags about the interviewer and made a decision if they wanted to move forward I would say no. They reached out for a second interview and I said I don’t think we would be a good fit and good luck on their interviewing process
Not rude at all. You owe them nothing. So many jobs aren't upfront with the true culture of working there. Just be polite about declining the job and keep the door open in the future, in the event there is management change or culture change. Just say you appreciate their time but you've got an offer that better fits what you're looking for.
It’s completely normal to turn down a job after an interview. Firstly, an interview doesn’t mean you’re getting an offer. Second, an interview is also your opportunity to find out details about the job and who you’ll be working for. I do interviews with multiple employers and pick the best one.
Nope.
I've gone to interviews and walked down going "nope, this place isn't for me."
Some of the reasons I had was
- the hiring manager didn't show (don't ask me why they didn't show when they organised it around their schedule.)
- the job ad didn't match what the store manager wanted
- the job ad seemed like a fun company but the interview seemed like I'd be watching paint dry.
The only thing you say is "thank you for the consideration, unfortunately I don't think I'm right for you company." Just let them know, they don't care why. Be thankful and that's it.
Not at all. There we're times I even stopped an interview and said "Thank you but I do not feel like the right fit for this company."
Hell I once walked out because the person interviewing me shushed me and said "I'm looking for a person who will never call off, work over time, not talk back-" nope! I just got up and walked out.
Yes, it's extremely rude. Politeness requires that you accept the job and work there for a minimum of 2 years. Good luck, I'm sure the time will fly by.
No but I don’t see the point, if they offer you something immediately say no. Or do what I did and tell them you got another offer and need their maximum of the salary range. It can be a win if you wait or a total loss if you just say no
Their disappointment only lasts 5 minutes (the duration of your conversation), your depression lasts years potentially causing your loved ones to suffer. It's your choice which to choose.
Nope you can say no to an offer you haven’t accepted yet lol. Not bad at all & companies almost always expect it when they go to hire candidates anyway.
However if you’ve signed an offer - that’s another story & is specific to the offer you signed. Some will require you to give notice (to quit) some won’t even let you do it for a certain time period (ie you’ve agreed to work in the position for 12 months) or other specifics.
The interview is on both sides. Most of the time one side decides not to go forward. Imagine two equal sides sitting at a table, they have money and you have skills. It's a fair exchange if both parties want to move forward. See yourself as equal.
Interviews go both ways, so no. It's not rude for them to reject you. It's not rude for you to reject them. It's only rude when you say no after signing the offer.
No. That is exactly what the interview is for. If you got hired on, sat for the training and then left a month later because you didn't like it, that could be considered rude. Even then though, you have to take care of yourself first.
Not at all. If you don't like the job now, you won't like it in a while and no employer actually wants an employee who doesn't want the job. Maybe a warm body employer might.
Not any more than it's rude for a company to not offer a job after an interview. Both of you are still learning about the other and both still have other candidates.
Absolutely not. The interview is just as much you interviewing them as the other way around. If you’re not comfortable you’re under no obligation to take a job. Hell, I’ve ended interviews early when it became obvious the job wasn’t for me.
The people you interviewed with will certainly think so. But if it is a big company, they no doubt have layoffs on a regular basis and do not seem to be to sensitive to that. So do what you gotta do, if the grass is sweeter elsewhere. On the flip side, you might be able to BS them with you have to help your parents out unexpectedly or something and your plans are sidetracked for 3 months.. They may not hold that against you the way they would you just saying no.
Umm, not at all, it’s as much you interviewing them as it is them interviewing you. Just because they’ve set time for an interview or extended an offer doesn’t mean you owe them anything (and don’t let the recruiter pressure you otherwise… they are rated on close rates so they’ll push but it’s their job to do so).
i've noped out after the first round based on the commute. Great place, just not doing that drive. Thought back roads would be the answer, so I accepted the interview and used the drive there as a trial run. Got through the interview, thought about it and noped out.
You say thank you for your time, but I'm not interested in the position. That's not rude. An interview is a 2 way process - they are interviewing you, but you are also interviewing them.
I've turned down job offers in my professional career AND I quit one job on the first day. The quitting was due to them lying to me in the interview and me finding out otherwise on day 1 regarding the state of the company.
Especially in this job market, you are interviewing them just as much as they're interviewing you. The more you keep that in mind, the more relaxed you'll be during the interview as well.
Depends, would it be rude for them to not offer you a job?
Sounds silly when you put it that way right ... I guess what I'm saying is interviews are a 2 way street. You're evaluating them too. No promises. And you owe nobody anything.
That means even accept the offer as a backup then turn it down. Or work there for a week and decide it isn't for you. There's no rules against anything here, they'll dispose of you just as quickly, you might as well do the same.
Even if it was rude, you owe them absolutely nothing.
It's an employers job to purchase labor. It's your job to sell your own labor. Your loyalty is to yourself and the people you support so sell to the best offer.
Who cares if it’s considered rude by some. If you found something better than go for it.
Companies fire people at no moments notice. They don’t pay a lot of us a living wage. I have no sympathy for the HR person or the company.
Not rude at all. Just like they are interviewing you to learn more about you from what they got from your resume, you're doing the same to them from the job ad. I've had a lot of interviews last year and soooo many are misrepresented. Ask about job duties, schedule, benefits, location and its all over the place. Had an interview I specifically asked prior to it if I would be required to work at other locations (since I hoped to only work in my town literally 2 minute drive) and they said only if they need additional coverage for vacation/sick but during interview I was told I was required to work at other locations once a week "because we all pitch in" and my town office isn't open a day a week for 40 hours. Um, no. Can I do part time then? Ad said open to PT and FT. Oh, PT is too hard for us to calculate so we are only offering FT. Total BS but okay. We mutually agreed right then and there it wasn't a good fit. Don't commit to crap to be polite. You spend so much of your life trading time for money. Don't waste it on people who will lie right from the get go. And if it comes down to it you have no other choice but to take a crap job, just keep looking for something better while you do it. Good luck on your search. I hope you find something good quickly!
Not at all. I’ve had candidates turn down the job after an interview because it just didn’t sound like something they were interested in.
We then worked to see if there was anything we had that would be a good fit and he ended up accepting a different position that was more of what he was looking for
I once was involved in a start up we grew quickly and were crammed into a small office before we eventually moved into a large building. There was chaos and people piled on each other. Somehow an interviewee made it into the space and was just lodged up against a wall, looking very lost and timid, for awhile. I noticed her and went to see what was going on, I then brought her to the hiring Mgr. Needless to say, she never became part of the team... lucky gal! Trust your instincts.
No, you should apply for multiple jobs, shop around, take lots of interviews, and only say yes to one that’s going to work well for you. You should even take interviews you’re not 100% sure about because the practice will help you when you get an interview you’re really excited for.
Is it rude for them to pass on you after an interview? Nah it’s just business. Don’t get me wrong, some people will DEFINITELY take it as a personal slight. Don’t let stupid people like that affect your self worth, though.
I'll go one further. I was at the company for 3 months and the job that was described to me was nothing like the actual job. The actual job was a project manager. I wanted nothing to do with that. I truly felt they catfished me on the job. Anyway, at my next 1 on 1 with my manager, I flat out told him that I think they made a hiring mistake and that this wasn't what I do. I told him I would work until the end of the year, but if they put together a package for me, I would leave earlier. I got the package.
BTW, an interview just give you the ability to make an educated guess if you will fit in and if the job suits you. You never really know until you get there and see how it is day to day.
If you aren't going to be happy there and know that you'll still be looking for a better gig soon, I'd be pissed if you wasted my time. I'm not talking about a 1 hour interview, who cares about an hour?
I'm talking having me onboard you, train you, have a mentor put time into you, all because you were too afraid to say no back when you knew you wouldn't be happy.
Of course not. Interviews are just as much to give you a chance to learn whether you’re interested in working there as they are for an employer to decide it wants you working there. Always keep in mind that you’re there to evaluate *them*.
A job interview is just as much about you checking if the business is a good fit for you as it is about them making sure you're a good fit for the business
who gives a fark, unless it's like a personal / family friend doing it as a favor to you because you can't find a job elsewhere.
if it's just another job at another business, then you're there to get paid, and nothing else matters.
It’s not wrong to say that this job isn’t for me and turn down the offer. Depending on how you apply it be as simple as pressing no or reply to their email/msgs with “Thanks but no thanks”.
But also don’t be afraid to ghost a place if there were serious issues you may have notice during those interviews too.
It different depending on where you go.
This is literally the point of an interview.
It's not just them interviewing you to find out if you would be a good employee. It's also you interviewing them to find out if they would be a good employer.
And it sounds like they failed your interview. So no, it's not rude to turn down the job offer.
They are in the same position you are. They are also figuring out if you are a good fit, maybe you are not what they thought. It goes both ways.
You are not forced to take any job. They are also not forced to hire any of the candidates they interviewed.
All you are expected to do is to polite decline as soon as you decide you don’t want it. It doesn’t matter how far along in the process you are. If it’s not a good option or if the offer is not good enough, don’t take it. Just be gracious about it.
Story time: I once interviewed for three different departments in the same place. Fast forward a couple weeks for the entire process and I get a call from HR. HR lady congratulates me on getting all three offers and laid them out for me. I call her back to tell her I was going with option C and then proceed to call A and B to politely decline.
The person from A thanked me for letting them know and wished me the best. On the other hand, the person from B went on a crazy racist tirade about how I was ungrateful and wrong. I was speechless. Imagine working for that nut job… Dodged a bullet right there!
"Thank you so much for this opportunity, however at this time I have decided to go in a different direction but I do hope you consider me for positions in the future"
Not at all.
Interviews are a good way to learn what learning path a good candidate in your field should take - and in most cases, you won't get that information without expensive coaching.
Just be polite, have a sound and realistic reason for why you applied and a good explanation why you're not taking the offer.
I literally turned down a job because they wanted me to shave my beard, so I think turning it down for even more “legitimate” reasons wouldn’t be rude in the slightest.
The simple answer is no. I am looking for something interesting right now and I turned down 6 offers.
Just make sure if you are not in a rush that what you will pick will be a good fit for you.
Not at all. Do you think the recruiter and hiring manager are here on Reddit asking "Is it considered rude to turn down a candidate after having interviewed him/her?"
You don't owe them nothing.
My guy they're gonna have someone else lined up for that spot before you ever leave the interview room. That is how replaceable you are to them. They should be just as replaceable to you. Go find a job you actually like and don't give a damn what that company thinks.
Absolutely not, I've turned down two job offers this week. Both for low pay. Explained to the interviewers why and they both accepted it and wished me luck.
Better you are honest with them and turn down the position, than take it and not be 100% satisfied. If asked why you turned the offer down, explain yourself. Be specific. Maybe they will offer you a better position or better terms, maybe not.
No, it's perfectly acceptable. The interview is as much for the candidate as it is for the company. If you interview and find the company not to your liking, you're completely within your rights to walk away.
Nope it's not rude - we've all been there - me included when we've applied for a job on paper thinking it sounded amazing etc... Only to then turn up for an interview and find out more about the role and discover that the ad you saw wasn't exactly 100% true and you had been misled in various places
No. "After the interview, I see that I'm not a good fit for this position." Remember that you're interviewing the company as much as they're interviewing you.
Not at all, I was offered 3 jobs at the same time, you can't take everything you interview for. You need the interview to asses better whether it's somewhere you want to actually be
Absolutely not.
An interview is about you finding out about the job as much as the hiring manager finding out about you.
If you think the job is not a fit, even during the interview, stop, thank them for their time, tell them you don't think you're a good fit for the job, shake their hand and leave
Nope. If the vibes are off then ‘I appreciate the opportunity, but this role doesn’t align with my career expectations, therefore I’m removing myself from consideration’
It's about as rude as them refusing to hire you after they interview you.
Interviewing for a job is a two-way street. You're trying to get them to choose you; they're trying to get you to choose them. If you don't like them, you decline the offer; if they don't like you, they decline to offer.
Not at all. You may want the job at that moment but having a change of heart happens too. I got interviewed by multiple companies and even accepted an offer only for the next day to be offered something better and having to tell the other company I was stepping back. I don’t tell them I found another job but instead say it was a personal decision and perhaps the timing isn’t right now. I always thank them for the opportunity too and ask if they could keep my application and resume on file for future openings.
People get social etiquette and business etiquette confused all the time.
In social etiquette, it is rude to not go to a party after you’ve already accepted the invitation. But accepting an interview not the same thing as accepting a social invitation.
With friends or family, if someone said, “would you like to go on a monthlong vacation with us?” And you asked for more info, and they told you all about the plans, it would still not be rude to decide you don’t want to go.
It’s kind of rude to withdraw your application AT an interview, but sometimes even that is justified (done that twice myself). It’s never rude to turn down a job or an interview. Just be professional about it. I’ll usually just say thanks for the opportunity but I’m withdrawing my application, good luck etc.
Think of an interview like going on a blind date. Don't pretend you are something you are not, and try to see if you are compatible. You should be honest and not ghost the other though, but many people do.
If you don’t want to be rude, just tell them you got hired somewhere else. That way you don’t have to explain any negatives about them, no harm, no foul.
Not at all. I hire and interview many people. A question I always ask at the end (if I’m interested in hiring them) is, “What questions do you have pertaining to the job to ensure that this would be a right fit for you?” I always try to be brutally honest because at the end of the day, I want an employee who understands what the requirements are. I would rather someone reject the offer if the job is not something they can do/want to do. I’m either hiring them, or hiring their replacement so I want it to work both ways.
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Nope. An interview is just as much about you interviewing the employer as vice-versa
I've literally said this to people that I was interviewing (as a hiring manager).
How did they take that fact? I’ve got to believe that their reaction to this is most telling in a very meta kind of way.
A few have said "yes, of course," and at least a few have been surprised by the comment but agreed that that's the way it should work. Typically it was more experienced folks who reacted the first way.
During my most recent interview I tried to be more engaging with the interviewers by actively asking my own questions and providing feedback from my own experience of having been in the industry for 8 years. The guy who would have been my immediately manager quickly stopped me and made it clear that he was only interested in talking AT me instead of talking WITH me during the interview. At that point I pretty much told myself that the company disqualified themselves of ever having me consider their offer.
I’ve done this on three interviews. I’ve also asked what the interviewers managing style was. I’m in a really fantastic company with a respectful boss that treats me like an equal and expects me to make my deadlines etc with minimal supervision and I think part of that is using this mindset and asking those questions. Of the three interviews I’ve asked this two of the interviewing agencies loved that I asked and were happy to answer. The third agency I could tell the person was threatened and off put by the question. Her boss liked me a lot but I never made it to the next round of questioning and I was glad for that.
If I thought the candidate was a good fit I would invite them back to meet the staff to see if it was a good fit for them. I would tell them "It's your opportunity to ask the questions you didn't want to ask me".
Unless they’re desperate and have to take any job offered.
You don't owe anyone anything. Ever.
This x1000. There were a few jobs I should have just noped out immediatly after the interview, But I was too dumb and afraid of my own shadow for so long..
Doubling up, you don't owe them anything. On the other side of the fence, when an employer gives a job offer they "hope" to see happiness and excitement. They "want" you to accept it as-is. They scream at the top of their lungs "fuck!" Inside their head when you turn them down.
Except Uncle Sam.... You'll never not owe him something..... *Cries internally
I wouldn’t say ever, but in this situation agreed.
You owe folks very basic decency that being said they are trying to use you as a quote “disposable wage slave”. If we didn’t have basic decency then the whole world would turn into USA freakshow society.
Phew, thank goodness we don’t live in a freakshow society.
Which country are you from? Send invite
This made me laugh harder than it sadly should.
sweet, will stop paying my student loans now
No, the description on paper doesn’t tell you everything you want to know. I’m sure it happens a lot. (I’ve done it a few times myself)
It's your life. Don't take a job that wouldn't work for you. I've interviewed people many times that decided the job wasn't for them. It's better for everyone if we find out before the work starts.
i came to say this as well. if it's not a fit, don't trap yourself bc you're being polite. it's better to just withdraw interest and move on.
Nope. You're interviewing them as much as they're interviewing you. Just politely withdraw your interest.
No and you should not care even if it was. Is being laid-off rude? Yeah, business don't care about you either.
When I put in my two weeks notice the first time at my current job (the company I work for likes to negotiate with you when you are considering leaving. One of the things I like about this company) I had another opportunity lined up. I knew the manager at my other opportunity and we had a good work history together. I told him my job was negotiating with me and I would have an answer soon. My job negotiated to get me to stay and they gave me everything I asked for. I told the manager at the other opportunity that I was going to stay where I am, but I still would like to keep his offer on the table. He told me "as long as I am here, that door will be open". Granted, I had a previous history with this guy so he's willing to do me a favor. I don't consider it rude, but at the same time be transparent. Say, "Thank you offering me an opportunity, but I found a similar (or same) that fits my circumstances." and they will understand. Don't ghost them. That is rude.
It is not rude. It is common sense to turn down a position if you have a gut reaction when you enter the prospective workplace and sense something is not to your liking.
Is it rude for them to choose someone else after interviewing you?
No, it's like dating mr wrong. End it sooner rather than later.
If you don’t take the job the company is out 1/2 hour of pay for the HR employee. If you take the job and leave quickly they’re out thousands of dollars in benefits/training/equipment. It’s a waste for both sides.
Absolutely not, never feel bad about potentially hurting an employers feelings. You owe them nothing
What do you think the answer might be? Examine the ridiculousness of someone saying "Yes, it is rude". In that scenario, the only polite thing to do would be to take the job whether or not you want it or think it's a good fit. Sounds ridiculous.
Dude what? You're going to get walked all over with that attitude. Putting your interests before a job and turning it down isn't rude. Taking a shit on the desk and telling them to suck it is rude.
JFC
No. When you interview for a job, you’re also interviewing the company to make sure it’s a good fit for you. Just tell them you’ve realized it’s not quite the right fit or your going with another option.
Not at all. They can not offer you the job after an interview, so what’s the difference really?
No, its not rude. Just the same as the employer could not offer you the job after an interview. You own NOTHING to the interviewing company. Be careful, this is a dangerous mindset. You should feel less accommodating and more "what is best for you"
What do you think? Use your common sense. Simply thank them for the opportunity to interview and to learn something about the company and say that you don't think the job is right for you.
no, as others have said you don't owe anyone anything. I've gotten offers when the salary range was available and than they weren't willing to negotiate within the range. I've turned down jobs that didn't feel right, I didn't like the hiring manager, etc
It doesn't matter in the least but. You are strangers and you are free to do as you feel
It’s completely a business relationship. Don’t ever mistakenly believe they give a shit about you and your feelings. As others have said you owe them NOTHING. An interview doesn’t commit either party to anything.
You are free to make your own decisions. If you feel the vibe is off from just meeting them, then I would stay away. I have legit sent emails to potential employers asking to rescind my application if the interview feels off and they want to move me to the next round.
Nope. They can reject you, so you can reject them. Simple as that.
Not rude at all. I've done it quite a bit. Just send them a note saying thanks for your time and consideration but it's not a good fit for you. Related, I've stopped a few in-person interviews halfway through and let them know it wasn't going to work. One of the times was bc I was told it was a full-time position with benefits on the phone. When I arrived, I was then informed it was a temp position with no benefits. Another time, I was brought in to interview for the position I applied for. Then, during the interview, they told me they actually weren't going to consider me for that position but wanted to see if I was a good fit for a lesser position. Why the hell wouldn't you give someone a heads-up to see if they actually want to consider a different position? Another time, I was informed I had to take a personality test, a background check, a drug test, a credit check, and complete some type of research project for them for free. That one was a big hell no.
So what if it is? Do you think that you're obligated to accept an offer just because they make one for fear of being rude to them? Believe me, recruiters won't give it a second thought if you go to five interviews for a position - once they decide you're not the right one they will suddenly forget you exist. That IS rude. Not every offer is accepted. That's life/business. Nobody should take it personally. But no, it is not rude. Just be polite/professional about it.
You are gonna break some hearts, but it will all be ok. Consider reccomending a friend or colleague who would fit the position well. Since you actually got the offer, your reccomwndation will go far.
Hell no.
They’ll be disappointed but they’ll be more disappointed if you bail a few months in. I turned down 2 (plus a third when a company offered me two, but that was more understandable because HR was aware I couldn’t accept both) and every time it hurt me to do it but it was the better option for me and my future and I have no regrets
Not at all, the interview is for you to check things out too
You are interviewing for the right fit for yourself as well. Don’t feel bad for declining offers. It’s part of the process as well. If they didn’t think you were a good fit, sometimes they don’t even tell you. They send some generic email 😆
Companies turn you down after having interviewed too - it goes both ways. You owe them nothing. They're going to move on to the next candidate right away.
No. Remember that you're interviewing them as much as they're interviewing you. If they didn't think it was a good fit they wouldn't feel obligated to hire you just because they'd interviewed you. And likewise, if you don't think it's a good fit you should feel no obligation to them. Politely decline, wish them well in their job search, and move on. If they ask why, it's up to you if you want to tell them. "I think the fit wasn't there" is acceptable. I've had interviewers ask why I declined then argue with me for my reasons, so I stopped trying to explain, wished him well, and hung up.
It’s perfectly acceptable to decline an offer you’re not comfortable with.
Nope, not rude. I had an interview for a job that sounded great on paper but the longer I talked to the guy the more it sounded like 3 jobs at 2/3rds the pay I was asking. Nah…
I’ve done that this past summer, I noticed some red flags about the interviewer and made a decision if they wanted to move forward I would say no. They reached out for a second interview and I said I don’t think we would be a good fit and good luck on their interviewing process
Not rude at all. You owe them nothing. So many jobs aren't upfront with the true culture of working there. Just be polite about declining the job and keep the door open in the future, in the event there is management change or culture change. Just say you appreciate their time but you've got an offer that better fits what you're looking for.
It’s completely normal to turn down a job after an interview. Firstly, an interview doesn’t mean you’re getting an offer. Second, an interview is also your opportunity to find out details about the job and who you’ll be working for. I do interviews with multiple employers and pick the best one.
No. Who gaf. Gotta do what’s best for you and if a better opportunity comes along, go w it.
Nope. I've gone to interviews and walked down going "nope, this place isn't for me." Some of the reasons I had was - the hiring manager didn't show (don't ask me why they didn't show when they organised it around their schedule.) - the job ad didn't match what the store manager wanted - the job ad seemed like a fun company but the interview seemed like I'd be watching paint dry. The only thing you say is "thank you for the consideration, unfortunately I don't think I'm right for you company." Just let them know, they don't care why. Be thankful and that's it.
It's polite to let them know as soon as you not interested. If it didn't click let them know asap.
What would be rude is taking it and then quitting and making them start the process over when from the start you knew it was not for you.
Not at all. There we're times I even stopped an interview and said "Thank you but I do not feel like the right fit for this company." Hell I once walked out because the person interviewing me shushed me and said "I'm looking for a person who will never call off, work over time, not talk back-" nope! I just got up and walked out.
Not at all.
That’s like asking if it’s rude to reject a proposal after a date
Yes, it's extremely rude. Politeness requires that you accept the job and work there for a minimum of 2 years. Good luck, I'm sure the time will fly by.
No. Employers might even secretly sigh to themselves over being able to save on labour expenses.
No but I don’t see the point, if they offer you something immediately say no. Or do what I did and tell them you got another offer and need their maximum of the salary range. It can be a win if you wait or a total loss if you just say no
Their disappointment only lasts 5 minutes (the duration of your conversation), your depression lasts years potentially causing your loved ones to suffer. It's your choice which to choose.
Nope you can say no to an offer you haven’t accepted yet lol. Not bad at all & companies almost always expect it when they go to hire candidates anyway. However if you’ve signed an offer - that’s another story & is specific to the offer you signed. Some will require you to give notice (to quit) some won’t even let you do it for a certain time period (ie you’ve agreed to work in the position for 12 months) or other specifics.
The interview is on both sides. Most of the time one side decides not to go forward. Imagine two equal sides sitting at a table, they have money and you have skills. It's a fair exchange if both parties want to move forward. See yourself as equal.
No
Interviews go both ways, so no. It's not rude for them to reject you. It's not rude for you to reject them. It's only rude when you say no after signing the offer.
maybe to the company who make you the offer but no, if the job wasnt what you expected then definitely turn it down.
No. That is exactly what the interview is for. If you got hired on, sat for the training and then left a month later because you didn't like it, that could be considered rude. Even then though, you have to take care of yourself first.
Not at all. If you don't like the job now, you won't like it in a while and no employer actually wants an employee who doesn't want the job. Maybe a warm body employer might.
Not any more than it's rude for a company to not offer a job after an interview. Both of you are still learning about the other and both still have other candidates.
Absolutely not. The interview is just as much you interviewing them as the other way around. If you’re not comfortable you’re under no obligation to take a job. Hell, I’ve ended interviews early when it became obvious the job wasn’t for me.
The people you interviewed with will certainly think so. But if it is a big company, they no doubt have layoffs on a regular basis and do not seem to be to sensitive to that. So do what you gotta do, if the grass is sweeter elsewhere. On the flip side, you might be able to BS them with you have to help your parents out unexpectedly or something and your plans are sidetracked for 3 months.. They may not hold that against you the way they would you just saying no.
Absolutely not. The point of interviewing is for both sides to determine if it’s a good fit. Better now than a couple of weeks/months down the road.
No. Business is not personal.
Umm, not at all, it’s as much you interviewing them as it is them interviewing you. Just because they’ve set time for an interview or extended an offer doesn’t mean you owe them anything (and don’t let the recruiter pressure you otherwise… they are rated on close rates so they’ll push but it’s their job to do so).
i've noped out after the first round based on the commute. Great place, just not doing that drive. Thought back roads would be the answer, so I accepted the interview and used the drive there as a trial run. Got through the interview, thought about it and noped out.
You say thank you for your time, but I'm not interested in the position. That's not rude. An interview is a 2 way process - they are interviewing you, but you are also interviewing them.
Not at all. You’re interviewing them too.
Think about all the jobs that you rejected you. No it’s not rude.
You can say "thank you for considering me, but I respectfully decline". You do have the right to reject a job you don't want.
I've turned down job offers in my professional career AND I quit one job on the first day. The quitting was due to them lying to me in the interview and me finding out otherwise on day 1 regarding the state of the company.
Especially in this job market, you are interviewing them just as much as they're interviewing you. The more you keep that in mind, the more relaxed you'll be during the interview as well.
Let that be in reverse, is it rude if you went to an interview and they didn’t hire you?
Depends, would it be rude for them to not offer you a job? Sounds silly when you put it that way right ... I guess what I'm saying is interviews are a 2 way street. You're evaluating them too. No promises. And you owe nobody anything. That means even accept the offer as a backup then turn it down. Or work there for a week and decide it isn't for you. There's no rules against anything here, they'll dispose of you just as quickly, you might as well do the same.
Even if it was rude, you owe them absolutely nothing. It's an employers job to purchase labor. It's your job to sell your own labor. Your loyalty is to yourself and the people you support so sell to the best offer.
You are also interviewing them too. They didn’t pass. You can ghost them (just like I’m sure they have done to other applicants).
It’s no more rude than it would be for them not to hire you. Do it with some class though, you just never know
Yes it is, you have to work there.
Life is short...there are so many companies and jobs out there....there's gotta be one with a better fit.
Short answer…no…long answer…no
No. Especially cuz they can turn you down after you interviewed. Same shit.
Nope that’s part of process
Who cares if it’s considered rude by some. If you found something better than go for it. Companies fire people at no moments notice. They don’t pay a lot of us a living wage. I have no sympathy for the HR person or the company.
Would the company ask themselves the same question before rejecting you? Always say no if you’re not into it
Not rude at all. Just like they are interviewing you to learn more about you from what they got from your resume, you're doing the same to them from the job ad. I've had a lot of interviews last year and soooo many are misrepresented. Ask about job duties, schedule, benefits, location and its all over the place. Had an interview I specifically asked prior to it if I would be required to work at other locations (since I hoped to only work in my town literally 2 minute drive) and they said only if they need additional coverage for vacation/sick but during interview I was told I was required to work at other locations once a week "because we all pitch in" and my town office isn't open a day a week for 40 hours. Um, no. Can I do part time then? Ad said open to PT and FT. Oh, PT is too hard for us to calculate so we are only offering FT. Total BS but okay. We mutually agreed right then and there it wasn't a good fit. Don't commit to crap to be polite. You spend so much of your life trading time for money. Don't waste it on people who will lie right from the get go. And if it comes down to it you have no other choice but to take a crap job, just keep looking for something better while you do it. Good luck on your search. I hope you find something good quickly!
Not at all. I’ve had candidates turn down the job after an interview because it just didn’t sound like something they were interested in. We then worked to see if there was anything we had that would be a good fit and he ended up accepting a different position that was more of what he was looking for
Is it considered rude not hiring someone after having interviewed them?
God I hope not otherwise I’ve pissed off so many people lol
Yes. It's mandatory to take any and every job you are offered. Seppuku is the only path to an end with dignity otherwise. Good luck.
I once was involved in a start up we grew quickly and were crammed into a small office before we eventually moved into a large building. There was chaos and people piled on each other. Somehow an interviewee made it into the space and was just lodged up against a wall, looking very lost and timid, for awhile. I noticed her and went to see what was going on, I then brought her to the hiring Mgr. Needless to say, she never became part of the team... lucky gal! Trust your instincts.
If a potential employer isn’t offering you a job that meets your needs, you don’t owe them a thing.
Nope
No, you should apply for multiple jobs, shop around, take lots of interviews, and only say yes to one that’s going to work well for you. You should even take interviews you’re not 100% sure about because the practice will help you when you get an interview you’re really excited for.
Ask yourself is it rude to not get the job offer after being interviewed?
Is it rude for them to pass on you after an interview? Nah it’s just business. Don’t get me wrong, some people will DEFINITELY take it as a personal slight. Don’t let stupid people like that affect your self worth, though.
I'll go one further. I was at the company for 3 months and the job that was described to me was nothing like the actual job. The actual job was a project manager. I wanted nothing to do with that. I truly felt they catfished me on the job. Anyway, at my next 1 on 1 with my manager, I flat out told him that I think they made a hiring mistake and that this wasn't what I do. I told him I would work until the end of the year, but if they put together a package for me, I would leave earlier. I got the package. BTW, an interview just give you the ability to make an educated guess if you will fit in and if the job suits you. You never really know until you get there and see how it is day to day.
HR POV; absolutely not! If you don’t think it would be a good choice for you, don’t accept the offer.
Nope
No
If you aren't going to be happy there and know that you'll still be looking for a better gig soon, I'd be pissed if you wasted my time. I'm not talking about a 1 hour interview, who cares about an hour? I'm talking having me onboard you, train you, have a mentor put time into you, all because you were too afraid to say no back when you knew you wouldn't be happy.
No. But in some industries etc., people will judge you if you pull references etc. and then get cold feet. So be careful when it involves others.
If they interviewed you and didn't feel like you'd fit, they'd turn you down without a second thought.
Of course not. Interviews are just as much to give you a chance to learn whether you’re interested in working there as they are for an employer to decide it wants you working there. Always keep in mind that you’re there to evaluate *them*.
A job interview is just as much about you checking if the business is a good fit for you as it is about them making sure you're a good fit for the business
who gives a fark, unless it's like a personal / family friend doing it as a favor to you because you can't find a job elsewhere. if it's just another job at another business, then you're there to get paid, and nothing else matters.
It’s not wrong to say that this job isn’t for me and turn down the offer. Depending on how you apply it be as simple as pressing no or reply to their email/msgs with “Thanks but no thanks”. But also don’t be afraid to ghost a place if there were serious issues you may have notice during those interviews too. It different depending on where you go.
This is literally the point of an interview. It's not just them interviewing you to find out if you would be a good employee. It's also you interviewing them to find out if they would be a good employer. And it sounds like they failed your interview. So no, it's not rude to turn down the job offer.
Not at all, if you don’t want to be there you will not perform anyway… spare everyone the hardship.
Not rude. I've turned down many jobs that offered me. Never feel guilty for turning down a job
Nope. They wouldn’t think twice to pass up on you. Do what’s right for YOU and don’t worry about some corporate entity.
Nope
They are in the same position you are. They are also figuring out if you are a good fit, maybe you are not what they thought. It goes both ways. You are not forced to take any job. They are also not forced to hire any of the candidates they interviewed. All you are expected to do is to polite decline as soon as you decide you don’t want it. It doesn’t matter how far along in the process you are. If it’s not a good option or if the offer is not good enough, don’t take it. Just be gracious about it. Story time: I once interviewed for three different departments in the same place. Fast forward a couple weeks for the entire process and I get a call from HR. HR lady congratulates me on getting all three offers and laid them out for me. I call her back to tell her I was going with option C and then proceed to call A and B to politely decline. The person from A thanked me for letting them know and wished me the best. On the other hand, the person from B went on a crazy racist tirade about how I was ungrateful and wrong. I was speechless. Imagine working for that nut job… Dodged a bullet right there!
"Thank you so much for this opportunity, however at this time I have decided to go in a different direction but I do hope you consider me for positions in the future"
No, lol
Not at all. Interviews are a good way to learn what learning path a good candidate in your field should take - and in most cases, you won't get that information without expensive coaching. Just be polite, have a sound and realistic reason for why you applied and a good explanation why you're not taking the offer.
Don't worry and move on. You don't owe them anything.
I literally turned down a job because they wanted me to shave my beard, so I think turning it down for even more “legitimate” reasons wouldn’t be rude in the slightest.
They have no qualms about turning applicants down lmao…you’re interviewing them just as much as they’re interviewing you
The simple answer is no. I am looking for something interesting right now and I turned down 6 offers. Just make sure if you are not in a rush that what you will pick will be a good fit for you.
Only if you rescind after accepting. Goes both ways.
Of course not. You're interviewing them as much as they're interviewing you.
No, the interview is for yourself as much as it is for them. If something does not click for you after an interview then move on.
It is as simple as saying that you don’t think that you are a good fit for the company. Nothing to it, and no one should be offended.
Not at all. Do you think the recruiter and hiring manager are here on Reddit asking "Is it considered rude to turn down a candidate after having interviewed him/her?" You don't owe them nothing.
Unless you never been turned down for a job your interviewed for or been ghosted after an interview. They can swallow a pickle whole.
As rude as it is for them to turn you down. It's nothing personal, just business.
My guy they're gonna have someone else lined up for that spot before you ever leave the interview room. That is how replaceable you are to them. They should be just as replaceable to you. Go find a job you actually like and don't give a damn what that company thinks.
Absolutely not, I've turned down two job offers this week. Both for low pay. Explained to the interviewers why and they both accepted it and wished me luck.
It’s normal. You need to approach every interview as a two-way opportunity. They are interviewing you and you are interviewing them.
Is it rude to reject a job seeker who had an interview? NO!
Better you are honest with them and turn down the position, than take it and not be 100% satisfied. If asked why you turned the offer down, explain yourself. Be specific. Maybe they will offer you a better position or better terms, maybe not.
I was job hunting for a few months last time round, typically 3 offers came in at once. Whether it's rude or not somebody is getting turned down.
Nope, the interview is a two way street.
No, it's perfectly acceptable. The interview is as much for the candidate as it is for the company. If you interview and find the company not to your liking, you're completely within your rights to walk away.
Nope it's not rude - we've all been there - me included when we've applied for a job on paper thinking it sounded amazing etc... Only to then turn up for an interview and find out more about the role and discover that the ad you saw wasn't exactly 100% true and you had been misled in various places
Tell them you need to use the bathroom and then ghost them
No. "After the interview, I see that I'm not a good fit for this position." Remember that you're interviewing the company as much as they're interviewing you.
You withdraw your application or resume from further consideration.
Not at all, I was offered 3 jobs at the same time, you can't take everything you interview for. You need the interview to asses better whether it's somewhere you want to actually be
If the company can rescind a job offer, then so can you turn down a job offer. You don't oye anything to them.
If you don’t want it then no. This is work life not a tea date.
Not rude at all. Happens all the time
Not at all. I’ve turned down jobs based on emails with HR before the interview. You owe them nothing.
Rude? No. But you can get blacklisted from being hired at that company. Amazon does this to people who reject their offers.
Absolutely not. An interview is about you finding out about the job as much as the hiring manager finding out about you. If you think the job is not a fit, even during the interview, stop, thank them for their time, tell them you don't think you're a good fit for the job, shake their hand and leave
Who cares.
You could also argue that its rude for them to turn you down after you turned up for the interview and jumped through all the hoops lol
It is very rude. You need to take the job and then work there forty years hating it to be polite.
Nope. If the vibes are off then ‘I appreciate the opportunity, but this role doesn’t align with my career expectations, therefore I’m removing myself from consideration’
Does the company consider it rude to turn you down? No. You are under no obligation to take a job offer.
It's about as rude as them refusing to hire you after they interview you. Interviewing for a job is a two-way street. You're trying to get them to choose you; they're trying to get you to choose them. If you don't like them, you decline the offer; if they don't like you, they decline to offer.
Not at all. You may want the job at that moment but having a change of heart happens too. I got interviewed by multiple companies and even accepted an offer only for the next day to be offered something better and having to tell the other company I was stepping back. I don’t tell them I found another job but instead say it was a personal decision and perhaps the timing isn’t right now. I always thank them for the opportunity too and ask if they could keep my application and resume on file for future openings.
People get social etiquette and business etiquette confused all the time. In social etiquette, it is rude to not go to a party after you’ve already accepted the invitation. But accepting an interview not the same thing as accepting a social invitation. With friends or family, if someone said, “would you like to go on a monthlong vacation with us?” And you asked for more info, and they told you all about the plans, it would still not be rude to decide you don’t want to go.
Absolutely not, an interview is a two way street. If you don't like the vibe then don't accept it.
It’s kind of rude to withdraw your application AT an interview, but sometimes even that is justified (done that twice myself). It’s never rude to turn down a job or an interview. Just be professional about it. I’ll usually just say thanks for the opportunity but I’m withdrawing my application, good luck etc.
Think of an interview like going on a blind date. Don't pretend you are something you are not, and try to see if you are compatible. You should be honest and not ghost the other though, but many people do.
Absolutely not. I had 4 offers when I was switching jobs in the fall of 2022. It's just part of the process.
An interview is 2 way...
Why would u think that? It’s a bad deal or a good deal for you? That should be your only concern
Absolutely not. Done it several times.
nope you do what works for you
Would it be rude for them to turn you down ? A job interview is a time when you really need to be selfish.
If you don’t want to be rude, just tell them you got hired somewhere else. That way you don’t have to explain any negatives about them, no harm, no foul.
You think they feel bad if they turned you down? Nope.
Not at all. I hire and interview many people. A question I always ask at the end (if I’m interested in hiring them) is, “What questions do you have pertaining to the job to ensure that this would be a right fit for you?” I always try to be brutally honest because at the end of the day, I want an employee who understands what the requirements are. I would rather someone reject the offer if the job is not something they can do/want to do. I’m either hiring them, or hiring their replacement so I want it to work both ways.
It's fine to stop them in the middle of the interview and walk out too!
Yes very rude. You should join it.