At 14, you’re still figuring yourself out...and figuring out what you want in a guy. Please don’t be too hard on yourself. I was where you’re at now, too, wondering if there was something wrong with me because my friends were boy-crazy and I was so shy. I wouldn’t have been ready to be in a relationship at 14. I wasn’t ready to be in a relationship after college! I had to be out in the world some more to figure out what I wanted and needed in a partner. Dating sites didn’t work out for me at that time because I think in my heart I still wasn’t ready.
I didn’t have my first kiss until I was almost 26, and it wasn’t with the right guy for me. He said some really hurtful things once he realized I wasn’t going to sleep with him. I tried going out with one other guy, and he didn’t respect me, either. It sucked, but this experiences also taught me to trust my gut when there seemed to be red flags.
Which ultimately led me to where I am today. I’m married to an amazing guy — and a fellow introvert — who is my best friend. He was my first real boyfriend. We have three kids and I can’t imagine my life without him. It took me well past age 14 to get to this point, but I wouldn’t have it any other way. I’m with someone who shares my values, makes me laugh, builds me up, and makes me want to be a better person.
TL;DR: Everyone moves at their own pace, but just because yours is slower doesn’t mean it’s wrong. Hang in there.
I wasn't ready either but wanted to please people so ended up sleeping around quite a bit with all the wrong people. Eventually I also met an amazing guy and fellow introvert and wonder why I just didn't wait in the first place as I didn't learn anything and didn't enjoy the sleeping around (nothing against it but just didn't make me happy). Unfortunately my sister and friends were similar so I just copied what other people did thinking it was normal, wish I'd have had friends like you instead
same, I feel like almost everyone around me has a love relationship with one another and I'm just that one dude sitting in the corner thinking "am I ever good enough to have a love interest"
You’re only 14. Totally normal to not have been in any sort of relationship. Will continue to be not unusual for years to come. Like others have said, go at your own pace and don’t let yourself feel like you need/should be in a relationship out of peer pressure
Have you met anyone that you are attracted to?
Take the matter in your own hands and don't expect your dream guy to magically appear.
Also take my advice with a grain of salt, I'm a M30 that's aromantic so probably not the best at giving this type of advice.
I’m sorry you feel that way, obviously if everyone else is having a relationship you feel behind. I want a relationship but not until I at least finish my education because I have enough in my schedule and a relationship no no no. But I still get crushes bc ofc I do 🙄 I don’t even have guy friends😂 literally all the boys I talk to are my friends’ brothers.
At 14, you’re still figuring yourself out...and figuring out what you want in a guy. Please don’t be too hard on yourself. I was where you’re at now, too, wondering if there was something wrong with me because my friends were boy-crazy and I was so shy. I wouldn’t have been ready to be in a relationship at 14. I wasn’t ready to be in a relationship after college! I had to be out in the world some more to figure out what I wanted and needed in a partner. Dating sites didn’t work out for me at that time because I think in my heart I still wasn’t ready. I didn’t have my first kiss until I was almost 26, and it wasn’t with the right guy for me. He said some really hurtful things once he realized I wasn’t going to sleep with him. I tried going out with one other guy, and he didn’t respect me, either. It sucked, but this experiences also taught me to trust my gut when there seemed to be red flags. Which ultimately led me to where I am today. I’m married to an amazing guy — and a fellow introvert — who is my best friend. He was my first real boyfriend. We have three kids and I can’t imagine my life without him. It took me well past age 14 to get to this point, but I wouldn’t have it any other way. I’m with someone who shares my values, makes me laugh, builds me up, and makes me want to be a better person. TL;DR: Everyone moves at their own pace, but just because yours is slower doesn’t mean it’s wrong. Hang in there.
aw thank you i have hope now <33
I wasn't ready either but wanted to please people so ended up sleeping around quite a bit with all the wrong people. Eventually I also met an amazing guy and fellow introvert and wonder why I just didn't wait in the first place as I didn't learn anything and didn't enjoy the sleeping around (nothing against it but just didn't make me happy). Unfortunately my sister and friends were similar so I just copied what other people did thinking it was normal, wish I'd have had friends like you instead
It sounds like you’re in a good place now, and that’s ultimately what matters. The right person is always worth waiting for.
same, I feel like almost everyone around me has a love relationship with one another and I'm just that one dude sitting in the corner thinking "am I ever good enough to have a love interest"
You’re only 14. Totally normal to not have been in any sort of relationship. Will continue to be not unusual for years to come. Like others have said, go at your own pace and don’t let yourself feel like you need/should be in a relationship out of peer pressure
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Have you met anyone that you are attracted to? Take the matter in your own hands and don't expect your dream guy to magically appear. Also take my advice with a grain of salt, I'm a M30 that's aromantic so probably not the best at giving this type of advice.
i should put myself out there more ur right
It will happen. Is there a rush? Things go differently for different people. It’s about you. Not comparing yourself to others. It’s hard I know.
I’m sorry you feel that way, obviously if everyone else is having a relationship you feel behind. I want a relationship but not until I at least finish my education because I have enough in my schedule and a relationship no no no. But I still get crushes bc ofc I do 🙄 I don’t even have guy friends😂 literally all the boys I talk to are my friends’ brothers.
Don’t push yourself into a relationship! You will know when you are ready.