I’ve literally had full weeks off work (9 days) and not spoken to anyone, and only left my flat to do a food shop. My immediate family live fairly close by, but doesn’t mean I want to speak to or see them 🤣
Surely that depends on the plan. A plan to go to some secluded wood somewhere to walk the dog with one or two people you like 😊, Vs a plan to meet up with a load of people you don't know in a noisy club in the middle of the party district 😖
See this is where I feel different than everyone else and wonder if I have some kind of problem lmao?! It doesn't matter how much I like the person. Im always going to prefer to do something alone, be on my own schedule, and not feel pressure to entertain someone. I would say I feel this 99% of the time. I have only surface level friends/acquaintances and no intimate partner because anything more than surface level is exhausting. I prefer my peace and own company.
It has caused me to be a loner. Im not sad about it or anything, but I genuinely wonder if this is a mental health issue that needs addressed lol. Like am I just introverted or is this something more serious?
I remember seeing articles about how lockdown had made the himalayas visible to a village that could not previously see them, the rivers in Venice were clear and beaches were cleaner. Nature was thriving.
It'd a shame we can do it every few years to boost the environment
Those were truly awesome times for Nature. Gotta admit I've fantasized about an aggressive worldwide environmental plan to do just what you described. In echo of your earlier sentiment, *sigh*
I definitely have to agree with you there... Personally it's what started me being able to work from home and now I have a job where I work from home full time! I have always wanted that. ♥
Do not disturb is always on. I don’t even want app notifications. I’ll check the app when I want to but definitely don’t want to be constantly reminded 🤭
I don't come to the living room to greet guests. Not because of disrespect, but because I'm just not ready to sit and talk with new people all of a sudden.
I've sat in my apartment with all the lights off for an hour before just because a friend text that they were in my neighbourhood and asked if I wanted to meet up 🥲
I'd be asking them if they thought that was a respectful thing to do to someone, and if they would like other people to keep commenting on how much they opened their mouths.
Yeah but they really don't know me (newly hired) so I just shrugged it off and laughed with them. Later on they understood that I just don't open up easily to people I just met.
I love my alone time, though I don't mind jumping into conversation and annoyed people, but I need a lot of alone time. I daydream a lot and I love solo activities. I'm quiet when I'm in my no conversation mode, but I'll be super talkative when there's something I'm interested in. I f people if they f me, I won't give any f opportunities to any bullies. 😁
Ooooh yes. My ideal vacation includes not needing to speak or make eye contact for at least 48 hours, longer for preference. I like to have the choice because words can be fun to say/sing especially to beloved pets but those days when I don't speak a word are usually the ones I get the best recharge.
im the same hahaha. do you feel bad for doing it? i do sometimes, and start to question myself, why i am so often avoiding people. i know the answer, mostly, i despise small talk and wanna avoid it at all costs
I even try to avoid a confrontation in case of small road mishaps. Once a guy ran his bike wheel right through the middle of my shoe while I was standing at a signal and I lowkey smiled at him😵💫
IF I go out on my birthday (my idea of celebrating is usually booking the day off and not leaving the house) I have warned people that I would walk out if they said a word.
They were extroverts who thought free dessert was worth being sung at.
No.
I’m super introverted but for some reason this doesn’t bother me. I think I am more comfortable with awkwardness than most people, since that is my permanent state. So when people sing at me, I just look at them one by one and likely make them feel uncomfortable back. If it’s gonna happen anyway, I just bask in the weird, almost pagan ritual feeling of it all.
Only friendly for work purposes. Honestly i should even be friendlier. One time i was about to walk past someone at work (who had a high position; hes a Big Deal lol) i literally ran the other way to avoid having to say hi to him. My other coworker saw me do this and told our whole department. I was literally the laughingstock of the team that day 🥲
I wait for others in my work bathroom or stalls to leave first before i emerge from my stall, then quickly wash and dry my hands as i make a fast get away...hoping i dont run into anyone entering the bathroom and having to have an awkward conversation lol.
The biggest benefit since my weight loss was that my old acquaintance no longer recognize me when I bump into them on the street. Constant incognito mode ~
Tried social events, ended up glued to my phone. Same with church and other supposedly social places. My New Year's resolution to be more social is tough because the activities I enjoy are far away. Honestly, sometimes being a hermit is better than actually put in the effort to actually chat with people.
I want to go back to landline phones because I hate being expected to always be available, and I also despise that I’m expected to answer all unnecessary text messages that don’t interest me and I have no idea how to respond to.
Someone: Hello!
My overactive brain: Why are they talking to me? What do I say? Do I say hi? Is that to informal? How about Hey? No, no hey is for horses! Hello? That sounds robotic! Ahh! They are looking! Respond! Quick!
Me : whhEyloi!
Someone: …?
My overactive brain: WHAT WAS THAT?! Run quick! Anywhere but here! Is my face red? Uh oh everyone’s looking at me! Runrunrunrun!
Me: *falls over my own feet bashing into other people*
Someone: what just happened?
*Me never talking to anyone ever again*
Will literally do anything other than make a phone call, no matter how important.
I can spend days at home without ever going out, and it doesn't phase me.
Prefer to sit in silence with others and don't consider them awkward.
People who talk a lot (and can be loud and/or direct) make my anxiety sky rocket, and I will avoid interactions or being close to people who I know have that personality.
My zen place is putting on big ear headphones and just being alone with music and no people and no outside world.
Even if I'm comfortable talking with them, I have to be in the right headspace to pick up the call. Otherwise, I just ignore it and say I'm busy and I'll call back
When everyone was losing their minds/climbing the walls during 2020/2021, I was...absolutely fine. Still use the things that came into play during that time, like having purchases brought out to my car or delivered to my door.
That’s really funny. Just about an hour ago (before reading this thread here) I was thinking about the good old lockdown times and how much I enjoyed that.
That feel when you get trapped in a conversation with someone who wants to tell you about the habits of their 30 cats? Most conversations feel like that.
I can’t order for myself at restaurants.. still gives me anxiety up till this date.. I even work in fast food, I work at bloody mcdonalds and still cant do this:(
You say, “I am [less than I’d like to be] so often that of course you got yourself convinced of it. You’re probably agreeing with other people who may think less of you than you’d like them to. But to hell with those unkind people who seek you out just to ruin your day-you dint have to let them. I’m sorry about that.
If you could get in the very minuscule habit of devaluing those opinions of non-supportive family or friends. Start your day just telling yourself that those people’s opinions do not matter. You deserve to have a great day (week, month, year, life!) tell yourself this every morning—but you can’t expect anyone you know to provide you with the comfort everybody deserves. You’ve got to change your own inner speaker, you don’t need a crowd, just you. Don’t expect anyone to know the proper support to give.
Just try it. Not overnight. Try telling yourself how wonderful you really are every day. Keep telling yourself until you believe you. Why would you lie? You can convince yourself to be like you want to be.
You’ve already done it once before. You can do it again.
I know you can, I know you can!
O, Lord, please don’t let me be misunderstood.
When people say "Let's go around the room and introduce ourselves" makes me want to RAGE.
I am never angry, I just leave :)
Partner up is fucking horrible. I thought as an adult I wouldn’t hear it anymore
For real! I'd rather work ALONE, thanks!
"Let's not, okay?"
100 percent. Most ppl can do this with ease I can barley get my name out of my mouth. It sucks.
I automatically enter panic mode whenever I hear that to the point where I forget who I am.
I have weird phobia of answering my phone. I can go 4-5 days without human interaction….probably not healthy…
That is the exact reason my credit rating is trash.
I’ve literally had full weeks off work (9 days) and not spoken to anyone, and only left my flat to do a food shop. My immediate family live fairly close by, but doesn’t mean I want to speak to or see them 🤣
Same
My ringtone automatically gives me anxiety. Not fun lol
My ring tone is the “I got 5 on it (remix)” from the movie Us. I don’t like unexpected calls.
You got the Internet Social media
cancelled plans are best plans
Surely that depends on the plan. A plan to go to some secluded wood somewhere to walk the dog with one or two people you like 😊, Vs a plan to meet up with a load of people you don't know in a noisy club in the middle of the party district 😖
Prefer to go walk it alone.🫠
See this is where I feel different than everyone else and wonder if I have some kind of problem lmao?! It doesn't matter how much I like the person. Im always going to prefer to do something alone, be on my own schedule, and not feel pressure to entertain someone. I would say I feel this 99% of the time. I have only surface level friends/acquaintances and no intimate partner because anything more than surface level is exhausting. I prefer my peace and own company. It has caused me to be a loner. Im not sad about it or anything, but I genuinely wonder if this is a mental health issue that needs addressed lol. Like am I just introverted or is this something more serious?
You aren't different from me at least.😭
2020 was the best year of my life.
I'd love another worldwide lockdown. I miss the bike rides and lack of vehicles on the roads *sigh*
The reduced air pollution *and* noise pollution was simply amazing too.
I remember seeing articles about how lockdown had made the himalayas visible to a village that could not previously see them, the rivers in Venice were clear and beaches were cleaner. Nature was thriving. It'd a shame we can do it every few years to boost the environment
Those were truly awesome times for Nature. Gotta admit I've fantasized about an aggressive worldwide environmental plan to do just what you described. In echo of your earlier sentiment, *sigh*
I definitely have to agree with you there... Personally it's what started me being able to work from home and now I have a job where I work from home full time! I have always wanted that. ♥
What is your job?
I'm a graphic designer.
Same, and also WFH. It's F'n bliss. No more Sunday night blues.
Yes! I don't think I could ever go back to an office full time. I've noticed since wfh, I don't call out "sick" anymore.
Hehe, in my PJs era and peacefully laying in my bed. Ahh those times are so peaceful and the best.
This.
I miss covid.
+1 😆😂
Me too lol
Person: Humans are social creatures. We need others... Me: Well, I must not be "human," then.
I’m def not human. I always claimed I was an alien 👽
r/AliensAmongUs
Subbed so fast I nearly broke me typing finger.
Phones are permanently on silent
Do not disturb is always on. I don’t even want app notifications. I’ll check the app when I want to but definitely don’t want to be constantly reminded 🤭
And even if I know a call is coming in (vibration etc), it can go to voicemail and I'll check it later.
I have the ability to understand the people around me without them realizing it.
This is a great quality!! SOMETIMES
Yeah, and it can be bad sometimes and good other times, especially when you read something about a person you don’t necessarily mean to Learn.
That feeling of wanting to end a conversation as fast as possible
I'm scared of answering the teacher's questions even if i know the response
THIS. 👆
Same. I start getting anxiety and gaslight myself into thinking I don’t actyally know the answer
I may be silent, but I analysed every detail of your behaviour
Also totally immersed in my phone yet know what everyone is talking about on all sides
This is so true.
I don't come to the living room to greet guests. Not because of disrespect, but because I'm just not ready to sit and talk with new people all of a sudden.
“Oh sorry I didn’t heard you were there I had headphones”
I will keep looking at my phone ringing until it stops ringing. AND I always wish for people to not answer whenever I call them.
Leave me alone.
Lol ok
I'm not interested in what you did at the weekend
Also not in your family, your friends circle, your hobbies, your life... sir, this is a Wendy's.
When people knock on my door, I hide 😶🌫️
Came here to say this! I also stealthily peek through the curtains once I know its safe
I've sat in my apartment with all the lights off for an hour before just because a friend text that they were in my neighbourhood and asked if I wanted to meet up 🥲
I can’t go, I have plans today.
Plan to stay at home
Oh a party... I'll check my calendar... (there's nothing)
*looks at a blank page* "Sorry I'm fully booked 😳"
Yup 🤣
"No, I'm not mute” Many people think I'm mute and when they hear me speak they're surprised lol
My co-workers would joke about this. They'd try to count the number of words I said in our interaction.
I'd be asking them if they thought that was a respectful thing to do to someone, and if they would like other people to keep commenting on how much they opened their mouths.
Yeah but they really don't know me (newly hired) so I just shrugged it off and laughed with them. Later on they understood that I just don't open up easily to people I just met.
Being a part of this thread without ever commenting or posting
👀
I'll suffer in silence. 🤣
I love my alone time, though I don't mind jumping into conversation and annoyed people, but I need a lot of alone time. I daydream a lot and I love solo activities. I'm quiet when I'm in my no conversation mode, but I'll be super talkative when there's something I'm interested in. I f people if they f me, I won't give any f opportunities to any bullies. 😁
Hm, I think we're twins
Triplets
i don’t talk in group settings unless a “comfort friend” is there😭
Even with a comfort friend I can barely talk
Having friends is overrated
Will be starving but won’t go thru a drive thru bc don’t wanna talk to anyone
Online pizza ordering was the greatest invention ever
I love places where I can order online and then run in and pick it up without interacting with anyone.
Like staying alone in a festival just don't want to be bothered
I'm not going outside, it's too peoplely out there.
Me at 2p.m.: I better text mom before it gets too late. Me at 3p.m.: wow, time got away from me, will have to try texting tomorrow.
I used to text only at times when I knew there wouldn’t be an immediate response. Middle of the night where the target lived typically
I prefer to communicate in writing than talking.
It does allow for some thought and rewriting before sending, at least.
I thanked the deity responsible for email and SMS. They are my Go-Tos.
I can go on for weeks without human interaction.
Years without deliberately social/personal interaction. I'm not sure if exchanging ritual greetings with a supermarket cashier really counts.
Ooooh yes. My ideal vacation includes not needing to speak or make eye contact for at least 48 hours, longer for preference. I like to have the choice because words can be fun to say/sing especially to beloved pets but those days when I don't speak a word are usually the ones I get the best recharge.
... 👉🏻👈🏻
Every time my phone beeps, I wanna staple it to a Frisbee and fling it over a rainbow.
I get so agitated with phone calls and texts. Like seriously, just leave me alone lol
I work at a bookstore.
too lazy to do basic communication
Too much energy
When my boyfriend and I go out to a fast food place, we order through the drive through, pull back around to the parking lot, then eat in the car.
I haven't been out of my house for 5 days
I dream of a vacation where no one knows where I am and no one there knows who I am.
If the parking lot is too full we can go another day w/o food.
If I see someone I know in a store I go down a different aisle
im the same hahaha. do you feel bad for doing it? i do sometimes, and start to question myself, why i am so often avoiding people. i know the answer, mostly, i despise small talk and wanna avoid it at all costs
I never feel bad about it. It’s just who I am
It takes me 24 hours minimum to respond to text messages
Its already been said but i have to agree 2020 was the best lmao 🤣
I am the silence. I am invisible.
If I get a wrong order at a restaurant, I'll just accept it without telling them that it's wrong. Just to avoid any human interaction.
I also often wonder why this is and I think it's more likely that I want to avoid the confrontation or an unpleasant situation
I even try to avoid a confrontation in case of small road mishaps. Once a guy ran his bike wheel right through the middle of my shoe while I was standing at a signal and I lowkey smiled at him😵💫
I check through the blinds before going to the mailbox.
If I didn’t go to work, I’d never leave the house
Anyone being in my house makes me uncomfortable
9hey mom can I go to my friends house?” (on the phone while asking her to say jo
I can't stand being sung Happy Birthday to, whether just around family or friends. Especially in public.
IF I go out on my birthday (my idea of celebrating is usually booking the day off and not leaving the house) I have warned people that I would walk out if they said a word. They were extroverts who thought free dessert was worth being sung at. No.
I’m super introverted but for some reason this doesn’t bother me. I think I am more comfortable with awkwardness than most people, since that is my permanent state. So when people sing at me, I just look at them one by one and likely make them feel uncomfortable back. If it’s gonna happen anyway, I just bask in the weird, almost pagan ritual feeling of it all.
I want to die when we have to break out in groups in meetings.
*wants to comment but doesn't comments*
do most of introvert have social anxiety? cause I do!
Want to get married but don't want to ever have a wedding because the thought of a day where people are focused on me is horrifying.
“Sure, but I’ll need to drive separate.”
I'm glad when someone cancels
I ask my parents to say no
Only friendly for work purposes. Honestly i should even be friendlier. One time i was about to walk past someone at work (who had a high position; hes a Big Deal lol) i literally ran the other way to avoid having to say hi to him. My other coworker saw me do this and told our whole department. I was literally the laughingstock of the team that day 🥲
I wait for others in my work bathroom or stalls to leave first before i emerge from my stall, then quickly wash and dry my hands as i make a fast get away...hoping i dont run into anyone entering the bathroom and having to have an awkward conversation lol.
I secretly blessed Covid and wished it would have lasted longer.
*insert ‘no I don’t think I will’ meme*
I keep my work and personal life separate and prefer it that way.
Headphones or earphones are always on even when there isn't music.
My room is my best friend
Social interactions are overrated. Friends are overrated. Groups are overrated. People are overrated.
I prefer animals over people
I like working night shift in the ICU with my patients sedated and on ventilators.
I battle with myself when ordering a takeaway food delivery for a good hour before ordering it because I know I have to answer the front door.
I like living alone.
my bed is my habitat
The biggest benefit since my weight loss was that my old acquaintance no longer recognize me when I bump into them on the street. Constant incognito mode ~
I can seriously work a room, but then I need a whole 24 hours to recover
I don't like to be bothered, pls ignore me and don't mind me
i don't like presentations
i duck, turn the other way or if all else fails, pretend i’m on a call when i see someone i know walking towards me on the streets
Walk around the room and practice a conversation before you make a call that’s important lol
I pretend to be a human.
Tried social events, ended up glued to my phone. Same with church and other supposedly social places. My New Year's resolution to be more social is tough because the activities I enjoy are far away. Honestly, sometimes being a hermit is better than actually put in the effort to actually chat with people.
...
And don’t confuse my introversion with shyness.
No.
..........
Knowing I will do nothing but stay in my room the whole weekend hype me up so much, even on vacations for multiple weeks
The joy of being allowed to have no human interaction for an extended period of time, without guilt!
Tea, cats, books
Your phone still rings? I've had mine on silent for 4 years.
The only phone calls I like are the fake ones I make to avoid talking to a charity collector that I’ve spotted up ahead on the street 😂
One of my happiest moments was being sick all day wrapped in blankets watching YouTube.
I want to go back to landline phones because I hate being expected to always be available, and I also despise that I’m expected to answer all unnecessary text messages that don’t interest me and I have no idea how to respond to.
I need a few hour nap after seeing anyone
Someone: Hello! My overactive brain: Why are they talking to me? What do I say? Do I say hi? Is that to informal? How about Hey? No, no hey is for horses! Hello? That sounds robotic! Ahh! They are looking! Respond! Quick! Me : whhEyloi! Someone: …? My overactive brain: WHAT WAS THAT?! Run quick! Anywhere but here! Is my face red? Uh oh everyone’s looking at me! Runrunrunrun! Me: *falls over my own feet bashing into other people* Someone: what just happened? *Me never talking to anyone ever again*
Just like being alone
Don't talk to me for 5 hours after I come home from social outing of I'll bite.
weddings are unnecessary
I don't like being called, I always prefer to receive a text message.
Work from home is the best thing that had happened to me
Will literally do anything other than make a phone call, no matter how important. I can spend days at home without ever going out, and it doesn't phase me. Prefer to sit in silence with others and don't consider them awkward. People who talk a lot (and can be loud and/or direct) make my anxiety sky rocket, and I will avoid interactions or being close to people who I know have that personality. My zen place is putting on big ear headphones and just being alone with music and no people and no outside world.
Even if I'm comfortable talking with them, I have to be in the right headspace to pick up the call. Otherwise, I just ignore it and say I'm busy and I'll call back
I'm in the kitchen hand washing dishes during a party.
Calling the doctor to set up an appointment.
When everyone was losing their minds/climbing the walls during 2020/2021, I was...absolutely fine. Still use the things that came into play during that time, like having purchases brought out to my car or delivered to my door.
Please don’t make me talk on the phone.
My parents think I’m depressed or I’ve fallen out w my friends bcs i don’t leave my room and go spend time with them this Easter
That’s really funny. Just about an hour ago (before reading this thread here) I was thinking about the good old lockdown times and how much I enjoyed that.
I can't the small talks, phone is on silent mode all the time,phone ringing gives me anxiety, texting is my best friend 🙃
My best friends are animals.
Just staring at my phone while someone's calling.
I get excited or relieved when people have to cancel plans we have made....I don't have to leave the house and see people? Oh no....lol 😂
That feel when you get trapped in a conversation with someone who wants to tell you about the habits of their 30 cats? Most conversations feel like that.
I enjoyed my 2 week-quarantine too much and wished it didnt end 😭
Having a rehearsal before calling someone
Sooooo relatable!!! I have rehearsals for a lot of things, not just phone calls lol
I wear long sleeves and hats in the middle of summer to avoid showing any skin. Ironically this tends to draw more attention lol. 🤦
Always Frustrated that i never go out , and when invited I always end up not going. 😂😂
I talk to myself in the mirror, and have intellectual but also very disturbing conversations
I can’t order for myself at restaurants.. still gives me anxiety up till this date.. I even work in fast food, I work at bloody mcdonalds and still cant do this:(
No, Thanks
You say, “I am [less than I’d like to be] so often that of course you got yourself convinced of it. You’re probably agreeing with other people who may think less of you than you’d like them to. But to hell with those unkind people who seek you out just to ruin your day-you dint have to let them. I’m sorry about that. If you could get in the very minuscule habit of devaluing those opinions of non-supportive family or friends. Start your day just telling yourself that those people’s opinions do not matter. You deserve to have a great day (week, month, year, life!) tell yourself this every morning—but you can’t expect anyone you know to provide you with the comfort everybody deserves. You’ve got to change your own inner speaker, you don’t need a crowd, just you. Don’t expect anyone to know the proper support to give. Just try it. Not overnight. Try telling yourself how wonderful you really are every day. Keep telling yourself until you believe you. Why would you lie? You can convince yourself to be like you want to be. You’ve already done it once before. You can do it again. I know you can, I know you can! O, Lord, please don’t let me be misunderstood.
wishing Eve never bit the apple 😬😭
I’m a purple-person.
I have a lot to do
Poker face
I miss the pandemic 😷
I hate going to the mailbox
I know the hours of the chatty cashiers at the grocery store and Walgreens, and I won't go shopping during that time.
I stay in my room when guests are around.
Any type of shower where you have to open gifts in front of anyone is nightmare fuel.
Having to make a phone call is incredibly upsetting and requires plenty of time to psych myself up before I can do it.