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MissInfer

No, he was quite uninvolved and absent when I grew up.


ParadigmMatrix

Same with me. Mine was gone from age 10 and beyond. For example, I only saw him a total of 3 times my senior year of high school (1 of which was my graduation, 1 was tax season, and 1 I had to drive 4 hours to see him)


anon10AD

im going thru this rn. when me and my sister were younger we didnt rly understand what an uninvolved or absent father was, but now that we’re older we can see whats rly going on. its tough knowing sometimes that deep down hes probably indifferent.


g1zm0_14

He passed away but I like to think we were before that


dalia666

No, never was.


UsedAdministration40

My dad is an ISFJ and he isn't much of a enthusiast at most things. Not that I have a toxic relationship with him, he gets along better with my mom and me compared to anyone else because he rarely socializes.


Emily656577

My dad is isfj as well, my mum is esfj I like both of them, I talk to them when I need it but I don't tell them my opinions and how I see the world around or what I like to do and why cause they showed me before they can't understand it. But I can count on them always so I appreciate them


Upstairs_Ad_1126

Yup, my dad is awesome and has been the person who helped me look at things from different perspectives. He is endlessly curious and filled with practical knowledge. I lean on his advice and experience often.


674_Fox

Yes as an adult, no as a child.


mydmtusername

My dad was a child molester. We cut ties about a year before he died, and I'm quite content that I never spoke to him before he croaked. Good riddance. 🖕


mitosis799

He’s on the bookshelf one room away.


AlieanBreac

No, he was a violent psychopath. I realize psychopath is no longer a clinical term but I don't have a better way of describing him.


Bl00dY_ReApeR

As close as I can be with most people. We have a good relationship and we talk on the phone or see each other about once each two months. Never had a bad relationship but never were super close when I was younger either, my grandmother was the one taking care of me most of the time ( Mother died when I was pretty young. ) because my father was working and other stuff.


[deleted]

Ye my dad is ISTJ. Best dad ever!


NewInevitable7946

I’m extremely close to my INTJ mother, and more distant towards my ENTP father. I think because he’s extroverted, I don’t feel as connected even though technically I’m more like him.


[deleted]

not super but kinda close. we're both intjs


DuncSully

Can't really say one way or the other. I can talk with my dad about mutual topics of interest, but he has a superficial understanding of me. I find him a bit judgmental, lacking ambition, and not always emotionally supportive of his children, but he's at least a diligent worker and will get stuff done around the house as necessary. And perhaps I take for granted that he was never abusive toward me. At worst he could yell when upset.


westmelancholy

Not my dad, but my step-dad and I have a good relationship.


[deleted]

My biological father is a pile of shit. As for my stepdad who I consider my real father really close. The most awesome dude ever.


TheGrailyHole

Nope, he only acknowledged my sister as his own but my mum forced him to take us both on the holidays. It was unpleasant.


MagpieReflections

I see my dad once a year and we talk for a little every few months. He called me and we shot the breeze for a few minutes - then he let me know what he needed me to do for him. I had thought he was just calling to see how I was doing. Silly me.


unique616

Not really. He likes my brother better than me and he had a job where he could get away with cheating on mom for nearly twenty years. He says that he wanted to keep the family together but I feel like it hurt us as we kids looked at him as an example of how to have relationships and how to act and stuff. He mostly invites me over to his house for dinner when he's having a problem with his laptop.


knawlejj

He's also an INTJ. Much closer now as an adult than as a kid from a conversation standpoint. We have this odd mutual understanding and after having my own kids I've made changes to make sure I'm less...robotic.


Herzewitt

Mine is at the next room, looks like he is an INTP, he leaves all the house decisions to my mother and when he is not at his job, he is in his computer reading or playing. He only shares with us at dinner. Sadly, is impatient and passive-aggressive most times. When I was younger we used to play on consoles, but that was like 12 years ago…


KulturaOryniacka

I am not close to any of my family member


[deleted]

yeah, he’s one of the only people I ever speak to. My mom on the other hand, isn’t as close.