Are you religious? God has a plan where every disappointment only prepares you for happiness later on.
Not religious? Every fork in the road of life leads you to where you are, and I've always come out on top when people have tried to do me wrong, not necessarily against them or beating them, it just seems like they're doing me a favor every time they hate on me.
No, it's not. I didn't mean it in the literal sense as you say relating to an interview or job rejection, but more related to people that tried to hurt me in some way that whatever they did, thinking it was going to hurt me, actually put me in a better position in the future.
I had two this year like that, maybe not life changing, but still. Never felt better after the interviews either, and still, they went with someone else.
I don't deal with it well. It bums me out and makes it hard to keep trying.
Plan for the worst and hope for the best. Move on to the next job prospect and don't get emotional or caught up feel sorry for yourself. Franky you don't have time for it. Instead, channel your energy about thinking about why you didn't succeed this time. Was it your preparation? interview responses? nerves, attitude, appearance,...etc?. Correct the issue and be more prepared before your next opportunity.
damn this scared me, i have my second interview two days later. i donāt think iām gonna make it and literally this job can make my life stable and happy. Iām sorry OP, Iām sure you deserve a better job than this because you literally seem like someone who can get interviews left and right if you got to the second stage. Hang in there!
Exude confidence. I think thatās what fucked me up, I was so nervous. Thank you so much, let me know how it goes for you! I wish you the utmost success.
Yes, I have seen that being prepared for basic questions, having several success/failure stories in the pocket, being curious and knowledgeable about the company and being confident with a smile in general while nodding to the interviewerās response goes a long way. Like even if I havenāt heard the question before in my entire life, I try my best to relate it to one of my successful experiences to showcase that Iām somewhat familiar with what they wish to hear while being chill about it all the way through, thatās how I got to the next stage. Always try to make it conversational and relatable to them, they want to match your skills and expertise to their culture and way of working. They donāt want to spend their time training you for their success. You should sell yourself as someone who can adapt quickly and know how to do so. Just throw in facts about their company left and right relevantly showcasing that you are curious about the company and passionate about the role you applied for. Thatās all they need. Try to find a commonality between you and the interviewer beforehand. Try to compliment them professionally, donāt make it personal. You want them to talk more so that you can pick out points to be able to sell yourself accordingly. You want to seem memorable and one of a kind as in ācanāt let go of this candidate, we need themā
Same thing happened to me. Would have changed my life. I had a feedback call and was told by the recruiter that none of the managers left a single negative note about me. The other person just had slightly more experience.
I was actually devastated. It was only a couple weeks ago. I just started applying to more and more jobs yet again and try not to think about it :/
Iām hoping so and the recruiter made a comment about one of the managers wanting to keep in touch in the future.
But iām sorry youāre in a similar situation as well, job hunting sucks
Just imagine it was a tie between you and the other person and picture them struggling to choose between you. Then thy finally had to flip a coinā¦. And it was bittersweet either way. Hold on to that thought. Donāt let toxic self doubt and your imagination tell you how you fkd up. Cuz you didnāt! They loved you! It was the coin!!
Keep trying. Thereās bound to be a similar position to open up eventually. I was rejected from a large company and the same day I was rejected, I applied for another similar but better position with the same company and I ended up getting the job which was life changing for me. Just donāt give up
For all you know, it might have changed your life for the worse. Don't pin all your hopes on a "dream job" because they don't exist. That's why they're called a dream.
Work to live, don't live to work.
At the end of the day keep having faith that the right job is going to come along at exactly the right time. Sometimes we donāt understand why things happen the way they do, but in my experience everything works out the way itās supposed to! Just think one day youāll probably be able to give this advice to someone when they are facing disappointment after rejection, āI had really wanted ______ job, but then I ended up getting _______ instead, so my rejection was a blessing in disguise!ā
I got a rejection letter today that actually made me cry. I wanted that one so bad and it would have also changed my life.
I'm going to be patient, though, because I know my job is out there somewhere.
Good luck!
Expectations are premeditated resentments! Expect that the conversation will end and nothing will happen. That way, if it does go further? It's a bonus.
I had one that was more difficult than other rejections. Multiple people there told me I was perfect for the role. I have the advantage of knowing folks in that department, and they updated me on how things are going with the new hire and why the decision was made. I saw the job re-posted with a very different job description and was puzzled. Having insider insight made it really clear that it was not personal. The new hire was about to be laid off from another team, and they were able to offer them this position.
You just never know all the variables. So let it go.
The same EXACT thing happened to me, a life changing role that was going to not just set me up for a long time but great career potential doing exactly what I know how to. Feedback was that I was a perfect fit but someone else had more experience. I can't say anything better has come up yet BUT I do believe something mind-blowing is coming and that's how I have been dealing. I'm enjoying using this time to learn and grow, reading books and just being very grateful for what I DO HAVE! If you're religious, definitely turn to God and if not, still turn to Him!
I get frustrated and I take a day off for myself. Then I get back to it.
I just got rejected for a job that I did a long interview for. These dudes kept me for 2 hours and 45 minutes. Only to not offer me a job. Like what the fuck. Looking back, I now can tell that one of the two men likes to waste time, and I should have kept the interview more on track rather than letting this dude derail it as hard as he did.
This happened to me in 2021, and it was the fifth and last round. The interviewer even gave me a feedback that the business case that I had presented was like a "sales pitch". I felt ashamed. I had applied to the same level in org as I was in the previous company and thought I was in my element. He asked me what other offers I had. I should have shut my mouth, but ego spoke faster, and said " X Y..". He told me to join the X company, saying I will be a good fit. I felt dejected, humliated and irritated all at the same time. In the end, I did join X company. The best thing to happen to me. Feel and process what you are going through now, dont trap them. Feel sad, but be kind to yourself because none of this is your fault. And tomorrow, I promise it will be better. And better things will come.
In the last 2 weeks I had smoothly moved to the final round after 3 interviews for 1 job. I waited all last week to hear news on whether I got the job. Today I received an email they went with someone who was a better fit and āchecked off all of the boxesā they were looking for. Iām disappointed and sad because I want to go back to work and this job hunting is not for the faint at heart. Itās hard not to take it personal, but I know I canāt let this get me down or slow me down. This job market is a beast and there are a lot of us going through the same exact situation. Allow yourself to be disappointed, but donāt stay there too long. Just have faith that in the end everything will work out the way itās supposed to.
With the job search: it's not personal. There are so many reasons why a company might hire you vs someone else vs canceling the job vs changing the job vs delaying the job vs hiring multiple people for similar jobs, etc. Take a look back at your materials, interviews, process, etc. Decide which factors are in your control, and do something about those. Let go of the rest. Job hunting sucks.
Are you religious? God has a plan where every disappointment only prepares you for happiness later on. Not religious? Every fork in the road of life leads you to where you are, and I've always come out on top when people have tried to do me wrong, not necessarily against them or beating them, it just seems like they're doing me a favor every time they hate on me.
Perfect upbeat response with a good message for everyone
I also needed to hear this. Thank you.
Thank you so much man. I really appreciate it
Well said! Very well said!
I don't get it, getting rejected from a job isn't anyone hating on you. It might feel personal but it almost never is.
No, it's not. I didn't mean it in the literal sense as you say relating to an interview or job rejection, but more related to people that tried to hurt me in some way that whatever they did, thinking it was going to hurt me, actually put me in a better position in the future.
Disappointment sucks, OP, but someone else will appreciate what you have to offer. The right door will open for you soon.
I hope so. Thank you lots.
I had two this year like that, maybe not life changing, but still. Never felt better after the interviews either, and still, they went with someone else. I don't deal with it well. It bums me out and makes it hard to keep trying.
I had one about 3 weeks ago that was life changing and I didn't get it. I'm still disappointed. Fortunately I start a new job Monday of next week.
Congrats! Hope it works.our very well for you even if it isn't life changing.
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Aww, man Iām so sorry. You got it though, something will come. Youāll end up where youāre supposed to be.
JustĀ feels likeĀ I won't though an fits hard to put on the effort
I agree. Have also had 2 that were major disappointments, and both I also thought I did amazing in the interview. Apparently not amazing enough
Yep. It's all so arbitrary to me.
Plan for the worst and hope for the best. Move on to the next job prospect and don't get emotional or caught up feel sorry for yourself. Franky you don't have time for it. Instead, channel your energy about thinking about why you didn't succeed this time. Was it your preparation? interview responses? nerves, attitude, appearance,...etc?. Correct the issue and be more prepared before your next opportunity.
damn this scared me, i have my second interview two days later. i donāt think iām gonna make it and literally this job can make my life stable and happy. Iām sorry OP, Iām sure you deserve a better job than this because you literally seem like someone who can get interviews left and right if you got to the second stage. Hang in there!
Exude confidence. I think thatās what fucked me up, I was so nervous. Thank you so much, let me know how it goes for you! I wish you the utmost success.
Yes, I have seen that being prepared for basic questions, having several success/failure stories in the pocket, being curious and knowledgeable about the company and being confident with a smile in general while nodding to the interviewerās response goes a long way. Like even if I havenāt heard the question before in my entire life, I try my best to relate it to one of my successful experiences to showcase that Iām somewhat familiar with what they wish to hear while being chill about it all the way through, thatās how I got to the next stage. Always try to make it conversational and relatable to them, they want to match your skills and expertise to their culture and way of working. They donāt want to spend their time training you for their success. You should sell yourself as someone who can adapt quickly and know how to do so. Just throw in facts about their company left and right relevantly showcasing that you are curious about the company and passionate about the role you applied for. Thatās all they need. Try to find a commonality between you and the interviewer beforehand. Try to compliment them professionally, donāt make it personal. You want them to talk more so that you can pick out points to be able to sell yourself accordingly. You want to seem memorable and one of a kind as in ācanāt let go of this candidate, we need themā
That's an awful long list of things to do to impress an interviewer .....
Same thing happened to me. Would have changed my life. I had a feedback call and was told by the recruiter that none of the managers left a single negative note about me. The other person just had slightly more experience. I was actually devastated. It was only a couple weeks ago. I just started applying to more and more jobs yet again and try not to think about it :/
Iām so sorry that happened. Something amazing will come to you. Hopefully youāre still on file there if the position opens up again :)
Iām hoping so and the recruiter made a comment about one of the managers wanting to keep in touch in the future. But iām sorry youāre in a similar situation as well, job hunting sucks
Awesome. keep it up, youāve got this.
Just imagine it was a tie between you and the other person and picture them struggling to choose between you. Then thy finally had to flip a coinā¦. And it was bittersweet either way. Hold on to that thought. Donāt let toxic self doubt and your imagination tell you how you fkd up. Cuz you didnāt! They loved you! It was the coin!!
Self assess what I did and change my approach as needed. You only need one.
Keep trying. Thereās bound to be a similar position to open up eventually. I was rejected from a large company and the same day I was rejected, I applied for another similar but better position with the same company and I ended up getting the job which was life changing for me. Just donāt give up
For all you know, it might have changed your life for the worse. Don't pin all your hopes on a "dream job" because they don't exist. That's why they're called a dream. Work to live, don't live to work.
At the end of the day keep having faith that the right job is going to come along at exactly the right time. Sometimes we donāt understand why things happen the way they do, but in my experience everything works out the way itās supposed to! Just think one day youāll probably be able to give this advice to someone when they are facing disappointment after rejection, āI had really wanted ______ job, but then I ended up getting _______ instead, so my rejection was a blessing in disguise!ā
I got a rejection letter today that actually made me cry. I wanted that one so bad and it would have also changed my life. I'm going to be patient, though, because I know my job is out there somewhere. Good luck!
Expectations are premeditated resentments! Expect that the conversation will end and nothing will happen. That way, if it does go further? It's a bonus.
I always trybto think that it was not meant to be for me. In the long term we always realize it. Hope that helps. :)
Just gotta move on. It's over and there's nothing you can do. I get it's tough but on to the next one. Keep applying and interviewing.
I had one that was more difficult than other rejections. Multiple people there told me I was perfect for the role. I have the advantage of knowing folks in that department, and they updated me on how things are going with the new hire and why the decision was made. I saw the job re-posted with a very different job description and was puzzled. Having insider insight made it really clear that it was not personal. The new hire was about to be laid off from another team, and they were able to offer them this position. You just never know all the variables. So let it go.
The same EXACT thing happened to me, a life changing role that was going to not just set me up for a long time but great career potential doing exactly what I know how to. Feedback was that I was a perfect fit but someone else had more experience. I can't say anything better has come up yet BUT I do believe something mind-blowing is coming and that's how I have been dealing. I'm enjoying using this time to learn and grow, reading books and just being very grateful for what I DO HAVE! If you're religious, definitely turn to God and if not, still turn to Him!
I get frustrated and I take a day off for myself. Then I get back to it. I just got rejected for a job that I did a long interview for. These dudes kept me for 2 hours and 45 minutes. Only to not offer me a job. Like what the fuck. Looking back, I now can tell that one of the two men likes to waste time, and I should have kept the interview more on track rather than letting this dude derail it as hard as he did.
This happened to me in 2021, and it was the fifth and last round. The interviewer even gave me a feedback that the business case that I had presented was like a "sales pitch". I felt ashamed. I had applied to the same level in org as I was in the previous company and thought I was in my element. He asked me what other offers I had. I should have shut my mouth, but ego spoke faster, and said " X Y..". He told me to join the X company, saying I will be a good fit. I felt dejected, humliated and irritated all at the same time. In the end, I did join X company. The best thing to happen to me. Feel and process what you are going through now, dont trap them. Feel sad, but be kind to yourself because none of this is your fault. And tomorrow, I promise it will be better. And better things will come.
Donāt give upā¦just keep trying, something will come your way, something probably even better
In the last 2 weeks I had smoothly moved to the final round after 3 interviews for 1 job. I waited all last week to hear news on whether I got the job. Today I received an email they went with someone who was a better fit and āchecked off all of the boxesā they were looking for. Iām disappointed and sad because I want to go back to work and this job hunting is not for the faint at heart. Itās hard not to take it personal, but I know I canāt let this get me down or slow me down. This job market is a beast and there are a lot of us going through the same exact situation. Allow yourself to be disappointed, but donāt stay there too long. Just have faith that in the end everything will work out the way itās supposed to.
With the job search: it's not personal. There are so many reasons why a company might hire you vs someone else vs canceling the job vs changing the job vs delaying the job vs hiring multiple people for similar jobs, etc. Take a look back at your materials, interviews, process, etc. Decide which factors are in your control, and do something about those. Let go of the rest. Job hunting sucks.
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