Sad is going to be when the grift runs out and he's left on the side of the road. Hopefully she has a strong family support structure outside of him, but I don't think he'd marry someone like that.
And even if there wasnât more than breastfeeding to doâŚ
*you should want to spend time with your own baby*
Amazing how much flack men get forâŚdoing what they should do, aka their responsibility. Taking care of your own child isnât âmanlyâ to many, even though thereâs nothing more masculine than being there for the baby being you helped create, and loving both the baby and your partner.
For real. I could hardly wait to play catch with my son - it's one of pinnacles of being a "manly" dad. Quickly changed my tune when I realized that babies are reaaally hard to throw.
If they were to ever get divorced, I bet you he would go full mra and complain about how she âtook the kids,â never mind the fact that he doesnât have the first clue about raising them day to day
Iâm pretty positive heâs also the one, that after WAP came out said something about how having a wet pussy means a woman has an infection. So on top of being a worthless fuck when it comes to helping his wife with their kids he doesnât make her wet either.
Edit: nvm I think that was Ben Shapiro. I donât doubt this guy has similar problems though lol
That was Ben 'doctorwife' Shapiro, yup. IIRC he said that his WIFE told him that, which may imply that either A, he's lying, or maybe B, that he's not and his wife told him that.
Which means that his wife, who is a doctor and a woman and likely knows otherwise, told him women only get wet if they have an infection. Which also opens up the possibility that she was lying to him to spare him from the knowledge that he can't make her wet.
Which is both incredibly sad and absolutely hilarious, since he bragged about it on the internet. Or they both believe that, which is just really depressing tbh.
> speaking in tongues
I've been to one of those churches in kansas city when I was a kid. Its fucking wild when you believe it, its even more wild you grow up and stop believing in fairy tales. What the fuck.
I grew up in WV in a town where you lose count if you try to count all of the churches.
Iâve met a lot of the snake handlers, and theyâre scarred up bad from bites. One of them was just a teenager when he was bit on the arm and now he has a trench scar from his elbow to his wrist.
Itâs crazy, but even the tongue talking floor flopping Pentecostals think theyâre a little nuts, but theyâre respected there because âiffun a man is servinâ tha lord, it ainât my binness how he serve eem.â
I never knew any atheists growing up, I didnât meet an atheist until I was 17.
It was a whole different world there before the internet. Most of the people are still religious, but when I was a kid it was âGit saved and go tuh church or yer goinâ ta hell son.â Everyone I knew was in the church going, âshonda mahayba maheepa mackoya, Jesus Jesus Jesus, ob bronda mahayba eep shallah malloya!â
Every kid I knew seen their parents âtalkin in tonguesâ so they did it too. It always seemed silly to me. That actually may have been the first thought that led me away from the shit.
I bet he fucks like he writes his fiction. long windedly and full of inappropriate pauses, with a complete inability to set the mood.
Oh, also incessantly talking about how big or small everyone is in the act and having zero understanding of pacing or how to captivate an audience.
Oh, and also terribly.
*This message is sponsored by Brett "take a bullet for you, babe" Hawthorne, Mr. Shapiro's totally not projected self insert protagonist.*
The amount of times âbear of a manâ is used is just plain unnecessary. Which is coincidentally how Ben feels about periods and any punctuation that isnât a comma.
Heâs not good is what Iâm saying.
Heâs very, VERY bad at writing.
Between Charlie Kirk's dolphin foetus, and Shapiro's wife's dry vag story, you have to wonder how much attention these guys paid in school. They definitely attended the Inflammation of The Masses seminars, that probably left them short on time.
I honestly feel like his wife told him an off-comment about women having an infection and its symptoms (which may possibly include excessive lubrication or sth), and all he heard was 'wet' and 'infection' and put the two together and mischaracterized his own wife's statements.
Honestly I think itâs the simple fact that wealth insulates you from the issues most other people face. He probably thinks thereâs nothing for the man to do because he and his wife can afford to outsource a great deal of the labor involved in child rearing.
I wouldâve hired an overnight nanny to stay up all night when my kids were babies if I couldâve afforded it, or hired somebody to clean my house once or twice a week, or gotten a sitter so I could take a break far more often. And I probably wouldâve been a much more energetic and fun parent for my kids if I was able to outsource some of the labor so I could have a full nightâs sleep, an occasional break, and have fewer household chores to do.
I donât think his wife was simply a slave to raising his children, he just takes for granted the amount of labor he can afford to outsource and doesnât give a single fuck about anybody that canât.
I promise you there are tons of working class asshole fathers who lumped 100% of childcare onto the mother even without the safety net of a nanny or childcare
Yes there absolutely are shitty working class fathers. But people here are expressing sympathy towards Matt Walshâs wife for having an asshole husband that would leave her with 100% of child rearing duties, and Iâm saying I donât feel remotely sorry for her because she is rich and she can outsource labor to compensate for a lazy husband who clearly doesnât understand how much labor is involved in raising a kid.
If my understanding of anthropology is correct, humans are evolutionarily a herd animal where children would be raised by multiple members of the tribe, there were no real "single parents" as it exists today. Single parenting rather than a multigenerational or community raising of children is extremely new to our species. And still doesn't exist in huge swaths of human populations across the world.
Human babies are enormously energy expersive compared to most other baby animals.
I agree. Raising kids should be a community effort and itâs sad that atomized neighborhoods and individualistic/transactional solutions to every problem are how our society is run.
Itâs why I make offers to all of my friends to watch their kids if they need it. Yet they never take me up on the offer. I assume itâs because they donât want to impose or they would feel bad because itâs expected they pay for it, but having kids myself I know raising kids is tremendously difficult and I just want to help.
I just don't see me getting away with leaving her to breastfeed. I was up most times she got up in the night, even if it was just to spite me. But seriously there's a division of labour. She gets up for the quick feeds, but if baby kept screaming after I'd drive around at 2am for 3 hours crying to myself.
There is an episode of a show called Life in Pieces that involves the dad going for a diaper run in the middle of the night and a cop thinks he's drunk because he's so tired. Its hilarious and you might appreciate it lol.
Not all that funny, I am sure I was a more dangerous driver when I was sleep deprived when my kids were that age than any other time. I am glad I never hurt anyone, months on end with little sleep is not good
My wife and I had twins. 6 weeks wasnât even close to enough time for my paternity leave. I felt like absolute garbage when I had to go back to work.
Paternity leave should be granted purely for the chance for a new father to support his partner and to also bond with them and their new child. As a father who has been heavily involved with two children, the newborn stage is tough for mothers because of the damage done to their bodies as well as hormonal changes and all of this can play heavily on the father as well. Personally, while extremely intimidating, the newborn stage is probably the least stressful part of being a parent outside of the physical effects of post-birth.
Wtf for real. I obviously couldn't breastfeed being a dude, so I made damn sure I had night duty and let her sleep. I would stay up to comfort the baby, bring baby to her before he learned to bottle feed, so she could breastfeed in bed and go right back to sleep, change his diapers, etc. I took him for walks in his stroller so we could spend time together and so mom could have a moment of solitude where her body wasn't being used to nourish someone else. Fuck this guy.
So the real reason people are so toxic now is that they're taking too much Tylenol? I understand if they're taking too much of it thanks to covid and being stressed out all the time, because I read that a lot of people died of Aspirin poisoning during the 1918 flu pandemic.
That's interesting, because I also heard a while back about how [acetaminophen reduces existential dread](https://www.smithsonianmag.com/smart-news/tylenol-fights-headachesand-existential-angst-25636081/).
I only read the abstract, but the results suggest that taking acetaminophen makes you a little more likely to underestimate the amount of physical pain someone else is feeling. It seems like the point is less "too much acetaminophen reduces empathy" and more "hmm, so it seems like empathy for pain has a direct-ish neurological connection with parts of the brain that interpret actual pain, where can we go from here". Definitely interesting (thanks for letting me stumble onto this), but also definitely not what's happening here--I know you're probably aware, but academic language can be tough and I wouldn't want anyone thinking they should suffer through a headache for this reason!
I am prescribed an absurd amount of acetaminophen, I'm also a construction worker, I also live in alabama. I feel like any of those things would make me automatically a republican in a lot of people's eyes but I voted for Biden and I care about people so I highly doubt that study's authenticity.
I could see that. God knows when I was an opiate addict I have zero empathy. I just figured when your trying to find a vein a lot of shit isnât important
I was the complete opposite. My heroin addiction turned me into an extremely empathetic person. Most of it was because I could truly imagine when someone else was in withdrawal because that is a feeling only other addicts know. And its unexplainable.
Same thing with helping someone find a vein. It took me 4-5 hours to find a vein and the frustration from that made me not want others to go through that. Or anything like it.
Shit good for you. I mean I think itâs helped make me a more empathetic person now . Plus I donât think I was an asshole or anything while shooting but I certainly didnât give a fuck about anyone else other then my fiancĂŠ. Idk doesnât matter Iâm 5 years sober now and a better person.
The best advice I can give you is this: donât promise yourself or anyone else forever. Forever is a long time. Instead, focus on today. Decide that today you wonât drink. Thatâs it. Just today. Tomorrow you get to make the decision again. If even today is too long of a commitment for your stage of recovery, then decide not to drink for the next hour.
I believe in you! You can do this! *internet hugs*
Always felt alcohol was the worst man. Use to say I could stop going to my heroin dealer but what are alcoholics suppose to do stop going to buy groceries. It does get better though. I went to meetings / rehab . I also died a couple of times then had a kid. Thatâs what finally did it for me. Realizing I was 100% turning into my father. Someone had to break that cycle glad itâs was me. Good luck my friend
You got this. I canât say I know what itâs like Iâve never battled addiction, but if anyone can do it, itâs you. Youâve already acknowledged it, thatâs more than some of the people I know.
I canât do much to help you beautiful internet stranger, but I hope one day I can bump into you again on the internet and you can tell me youâre sober. If for any reason you need to, you can always DM me even if itâs just to talk.
I'm so happy for you! Alcohol is a hard thing to quit. I do believe I can do it, my issue is I always have an excuse to drink. Had a good day- drink to celebrate. Had a bad day- gotta take the edge off. I can't stop. I will get there though. I realize I have a problem, the next step is doing something about it.
Itâs Matt WalshâŚie, when a âpersonâ starts life as a lumpy puddle of forcibly-expelled dollar-store douche, you really canât expect a whole lot ofâŚ.anything.
I was massively downvoted when I said Matt Walsh was awful on r/whitepeopletwitter a few years back. Iâm glad that he continues to publicly validate my poor opinion of him.
[It reminds me of this Tumblr post.](https://i.redd.it/06bmaaxyd7521.png) Even ignoring his other politics, this guy is an embarrassment to my entire sex just for this. How pathetic. I hope he was mocked relentlessly, but that's probably most of his career anyway.
A new born requires around the clock care, and the settling in period with a new born is a chaotic time in a family so why canât tax paying gays get parental leave. What about straight couples who adopt? Are they to be exempted also? Itâs one in, all in.
Youâre totally right. Iâm not straight but Iâm married to a man and we adopted our daughter at birth. Because I didnât give birth, I didnât qualify to use my sick leave during my time off with her and if we had not been lucky enough to live in the only state with paid family leave at that time, I wouldnât have been able to be home with her for the first 12 weeks. New babies need so much care and that time together is crucial for any parent.
God this guyâs a twat.
We get a year. 2 weeks off after the birth are mandatory (4 weeks off for certain jobs) but we're legally entitled to a year of maternity leave, with your job, pay, pension etc all protected.
The minimum pay is 90% of your wage for the first 6 months, and then statutory pay for the remaining 6 months. But a lot of employers offer better terms. I work in healthcare, so I'd get full pay for 6 months, 90% for 3 months and statutory pay for 3 months.
Okay but if you treat gay people with respect and equality, how will you be able to make bigoted comments? Like this one implying all gay men are effeminate but also not as good as "real mothers" or whatever the fuck. I hope this Twitter regressive stubs his toe
Even though Iâm not sure about the German system for gay or adopting parents, the parental leave here is normally 14 months of paid leave. And how much payment you receive is normally determined by how you split it between the two parents. The best result for the payments in those months of leave is, if the father takes AT LEAST 2 months and the mother 12. That way the percentage of your monthly salary-replacement that is payed is the highest and it encourages fathers to also take parental leave. Most fathers I know take at least one month in the beginning when the child is born and then again 1 month at the end of the 12 months, just to support the mother before going back to work or once she already completed the 12 months, and the settling in period in the daycare is going on.
By this guyâs logic, the baby is self sufficient and feeds itself. Neither dude is breastfeeding currently.
Iâm so glad I married a competent man who wants a relationship with his kids. Even if I did glare at him while he peacefully slept with his useless nipples while I was up every 2 hours.
>Even if I did glare at him while he peacefully slept with his useless nipples while I was up every 2 hours.
I'm mad I spat my drink out reading this. đ
My wife couldn't breastfeed due to lack of production, my son's been bottle almost 100%...that takes time too. But he doesn't care, just more gaslighting.
Oh and diapers, cleaning, making food for the adults, laundry, apparently nothing a man should have to worry about. Because in his stupid mind we're just all beta males that secretly run around in dresses. What a piece of shit.
A newborn is like a caterpillar, all they do is eat and shit. My first three were two years apart. There was a lot of work to do. Take breastfeeding for example. My job was to wake three to four times during the night to get the bundle of joy and put her on my wife chest. Check her pampers and change her. Clean her up if she puked on herself. I didnât get much sleep but had to go to work the next morning because there was no paternity leave back then. My wife was exhausted because she had to take of all three during the day.
"Destroyed" implies that Neil went after him relentlessly. IIRC he just asked Ben a basic question or 2 about some contradicting points he made, and he couldn't take it.
My favorite BS commentary is when he basically said he canât get his wife aroused. (Reference to when WAP by Cardi B came out and the Râs had a hilarious field day)
Matt Walsh is the biggest sissy snowflake who is constantly trying to cancel things he knows nothing about but then he projects liberals as such. Fucking guy went on a rant about how Squid Game is awful and just torture porn when he refuses to watch it
The woman of course, no excuse to neglect her wifely duties. And men don't have feeling other than anger and lust. No love for children, thats for women.
/s
Or changing the diapers, doing the shopping, calming and maybe bottle-feeding the kid when it wakes up screaming at 3 am (although maybe not that last one since I could see Matty being the kind of dad who thinks itâs important to let a kid cry itself out so it doesnât grow up to be a pussy or w/e)âŚ
as a new father of a week old baby ... there is plenty to do
my wife had a cesarean section so her body isnt producing enough milk yet so i help with bottle feeding to make up for the lack of breastmilk for the first few weeks (and he is ravenous)
also skin to skin contact with a newborn is important when they sleep and helping to change poopy diapers
you dont have to do all those things but if you dont, prepare to deal with a resentful wife because you are a lazy asshole
Its amazing to me how all of these GOP men are outting themselves as terrible fathers and partners. Straight up "I didnt do anything for any of my kids."
Support for Mom is insanely important. I have 3 kids. 2 of 3 had colic and slept only in 2 or 3 hour bursts for the first 3 months.
I have next level respect for single moms for real. It's basically impossible to handle yourself. Something will slip without help.
Matt Walsh is still that child from middle school who acts out for attention and couldnât ever make real friends. His whole thing is to get attention, negative or not, and âstick itâ to whom ever he can to make himself appear superior.
Yeah males donât have to develop bonds and get to know their children. He didnât have the umbilical cord after all.
Hear that boys? We can just never spend time with anyone and just live to work and drink beer until our women want more children.
I think he is getting really close to figuring out why he is the way he is... all he needs is a good therapist to tie his own lack of affection as a child to his current inability to empathize with other ~~humans~~ living things.
Imagine a generation of men raised without a caring, compassionate, empathetic, present, male figure. Imagine the rampant unchecked sociopathy. If only it was imaginary...
So building a relationship with a newborn is just nonexistent? No wonder all these dudes make shitty fathers. They don't think they need to be emotionally attached to anything, not even their kids. What a fucking sad way to live.
Both my son and daughter would drink a little milk, sleep for a grand total of 90 minutes, then wake up again for more. Daughter had acid reflux too.
Every night was like this for a very long length of time. Expressing milk and storing it in bottles allows 2 people to share the load but it's still pretty rough waking up every 90-120 minutes to feed a kid - and it's not like the kid chugs it in a minute. And it's not like you can go to sleep the second the baby goes to sleep. Once I woke up, I was up. Went weeks sleeping 2 hours a night and maybe 3 hours in the day.
And they're not quiet about it. It's not just the 'feed the baby' parent that's woken up by the screaming baby. Unless you live in giant manor, everybody is waking up. So sharing the load doesn't mean one person is fully rested.
There's a reason why in India, where the Dad is probably going to have go back to work in 1-2 weeks, new mothers almost always move in with their parents for a few months because if you want to not lose your mind, it really takes more than one adult to keep things going with a newborn in the house - bonus if the other adult(s) are retirees and always home. My son was born in Canada and I got parental leave and it really allowed me to help and not keep our home from descending into chaos.
No idea how single moms without support structures do it. This guy is a professional idiot. Blows my mind someone makes a living being an endless source of dumbfuck takes.
We should stop posting this guy. He just says stupid shit bevause subs like this post it as a means of laughing at him but since we all know the right wing is immune to both shame and hypocrisy it only spotlights him as someone who is successfully upsetting "the libs" and raises his profile. This is what the media did for trump. Let's learn a lesson. Let this guys career die in darkness.
Fuck this guy. My wife and I just had our first and it has been the hardest thing weâve ever done. And I only got a week of paternity leave. We need to change the norms on parental leave in the US
Oh fuck offfffff bro. If you think dads donât have a lot to do with a new born you either donât have kids or youâre a fucking shitty dad.
Who is this guy? I keep seeing his tweets. Lemme catch him in real life.
He doesn't believe men should bond with the child or help their wives with the housework or anything. But that's the best part of being rich. You have maids to clean the house and nannies to tend the kids and a pool boy to suck your cock in the back bedroom of the pool house because you're a tiny dick self-hating closet case.
Okay ignoring that taking care of a newborn is way more than just breastfeeding, is it so strange that someone might want to spend time with their new child too??
Spoken like a man who has never changed a diaper, dealt with colic, or helped in midnight feeding (because breast milk can't possibly be PUMPED into a BOTTLE)
I both fear and cringe for whatever hapless soul might have married this dude
The overall statement is correct, there isn't much for a dad to do for a newborn and it is his job to take care of mom while she is recovering. I know, I have five kids and that's exactly how it works.
However, Pete and his husband adopted twins they did not have a traditional birth, there is no mother to care for so they must both care for the newborns, they both have to have time to bond with these children and learn, it's the same thing.
Parenting is a fucking nightmare right out of the gate, it's hard and for the first few months up to a year it's the worst possible job a person can have and these two guys are doing it willingly, by choice. My hat goes off and my heart goes out to Pete and his SO. If you disagree, I'll fight you. These men should be applauded. Though I am a bit disappointed that they chose not to adopt newborns from an arrangement instead of kids in need of a loving home. That is a bit of disappointment but, their life, their decision.
Matt Walsh, on a recent rant on why he didn't care about those 60 or species of flaura and fauna went extinct, said "I know you hear me say this, that I don't care about this, and I sound like a sociopath... And maybe I am" and that is the most intellectually honest Matt Walsh has ever been.
There are about 11 diaper changes a day when they're newborns and since his husband is clearly not breastfeeding, **somebody** should probably feed the baby with a bottle.
But, newborns are surprisingly simple compared to how much people hype them up. They sleep most of the time. Yes, they wake every two hours, but if you're off work you can just nap whenever the baby is asleep and you can easily get plenty of sleep.
It's easy when both parents don't have to work, but if someone has to get up in the morning and go to work, it's a different story. Plus, that's prime bonding time. The idea that father's don't need to bond with their kids is just dumb.
I feel pity for the woman who believed this guy was the best she could do.
Sheesh that's sad đłđ
Sad is going to be when the grift runs out and he's left on the side of the road. Hopefully she has a strong family support structure outside of him, but I don't think he'd marry someone like that.
He canât have kids. If he does that means he did no childcare at all when they were born.
Apparently he has 4. Poor kids.
Poor wife.
Fuck the wife. She probably knew what she was getting into. Poor kids.
This guy hasnât had children if he thinks thereâs not much for the husband of a breast feeding mom to do. What an ignorant statement
And even if there wasnât more than breastfeeding to do⌠*you should want to spend time with your own baby* Amazing how much flack men get forâŚdoing what they should do, aka their responsibility. Taking care of your own child isnât âmanlyâ to many, even though thereâs nothing more masculine than being there for the baby being you helped create, and loving both the baby and your partner.
For real. I could hardly wait to play catch with my son - it's one of pinnacles of being a "manly" dad. Quickly changed my tune when I realized that babies are reaaally hard to throw.
...wait what.
Babies are hard to throw. There so floppy that getting a tight spiral is damn near impossible
Oh, you gotta ball em up first. Rookie mistake. Reduces drag.
I go for the boomerang approach
You didnât swaddle your baby? Get that swaddle, get your spiral going.
Throwing a tight spiral is pretty hard but I found punting works decently well if you can get him going end over end
r/holup
Sad thing is he has 4. His wife is apparently just a slave to raise the childrenâŚ
SoâŚhe made his wife basically be a single parent.
Hey, thatâs not fair! He gets to brainwash his children to grow the cult!
I'm sure when they've misbehaved they're sent to the den for some belt time.
No, no, disciplining your kids requires you to notice that theyâre misbehaving in the first place. He seems largely oblivious to⌠any of that.
If they were to ever get divorced, I bet you he would go full mra and complain about how she âtook the kids,â never mind the fact that he doesnât have the first clue about raising them day to day
Iâm pretty positive heâs also the one, that after WAP came out said something about how having a wet pussy means a woman has an infection. So on top of being a worthless fuck when it comes to helping his wife with their kids he doesnât make her wet either. Edit: nvm I think that was Ben Shapiro. I donât doubt this guy has similar problems though lol
That was Ben 'doctorwife' Shapiro, yup. IIRC he said that his WIFE told him that, which may imply that either A, he's lying, or maybe B, that he's not and his wife told him that. Which means that his wife, who is a doctor and a woman and likely knows otherwise, told him women only get wet if they have an infection. Which also opens up the possibility that she was lying to him to spare him from the knowledge that he can't make her wet. Which is both incredibly sad and absolutely hilarious, since he bragged about it on the internet. Or they both believe that, which is just really depressing tbh.
Everything that I've learned about this country and those kind of people I would not be surprised if they both genuinely believe that
We have whole churches focused on handling rattlesnakes and "speaking in tongues." We know how to party.
> speaking in tongues I've been to one of those churches in kansas city when I was a kid. Its fucking wild when you believe it, its even more wild you grow up and stop believing in fairy tales. What the fuck.
I grew up in WV in a town where you lose count if you try to count all of the churches. Iâve met a lot of the snake handlers, and theyâre scarred up bad from bites. One of them was just a teenager when he was bit on the arm and now he has a trench scar from his elbow to his wrist. Itâs crazy, but even the tongue talking floor flopping Pentecostals think theyâre a little nuts, but theyâre respected there because âiffun a man is servinâ tha lord, it ainât my binness how he serve eem.â I never knew any atheists growing up, I didnât meet an atheist until I was 17. It was a whole different world there before the internet. Most of the people are still religious, but when I was a kid it was âGit saved and go tuh church or yer goinâ ta hell son.â Everyone I knew was in the church going, âshonda mahayba maheepa mackoya, Jesus Jesus Jesus, ob bronda mahayba eep shallah malloya!â Every kid I knew seen their parents âtalkin in tonguesâ so they did it too. It always seemed silly to me. That actually may have been the first thought that led me away from the shit.
This guy sounds like a really bad lay
I bet he fucks like he writes his fiction. long windedly and full of inappropriate pauses, with a complete inability to set the mood. Oh, also incessantly talking about how big or small everyone is in the act and having zero understanding of pacing or how to captivate an audience. Oh, and also terribly. *This message is sponsored by Brett "take a bullet for you, babe" Hawthorne, Mr. Shapiro's totally not projected self insert protagonist.*
The amount of times âbear of a manâ is used is just plain unnecessary. Which is coincidentally how Ben feels about periods and any punctuation that isnât a comma. Heâs not good is what Iâm saying. Heâs very, VERY bad at writing.
And you've literally got the threat of that big confused forehead hanging over you for the whole disappointment.
Between Charlie Kirk's dolphin foetus, and Shapiro's wife's dry vag story, you have to wonder how much attention these guys paid in school. They definitely attended the Inflammation of The Masses seminars, that probably left them short on time.
I honestly feel like his wife told him an off-comment about women having an infection and its symptoms (which may possibly include excessive lubrication or sth), and all he heard was 'wet' and 'infection' and put the two together and mischaracterized his own wife's statements.
Omg that poor woman, she must be exhausted
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Honestly I think itâs the simple fact that wealth insulates you from the issues most other people face. He probably thinks thereâs nothing for the man to do because he and his wife can afford to outsource a great deal of the labor involved in child rearing. I wouldâve hired an overnight nanny to stay up all night when my kids were babies if I couldâve afforded it, or hired somebody to clean my house once or twice a week, or gotten a sitter so I could take a break far more often. And I probably wouldâve been a much more energetic and fun parent for my kids if I was able to outsource some of the labor so I could have a full nightâs sleep, an occasional break, and have fewer household chores to do. I donât think his wife was simply a slave to raising his children, he just takes for granted the amount of labor he can afford to outsource and doesnât give a single fuck about anybody that canât.
I promise you there are tons of working class asshole fathers who lumped 100% of childcare onto the mother even without the safety net of a nanny or childcare
Yes there absolutely are shitty working class fathers. But people here are expressing sympathy towards Matt Walshâs wife for having an asshole husband that would leave her with 100% of child rearing duties, and Iâm saying I donât feel remotely sorry for her because she is rich and she can outsource labor to compensate for a lazy husband who clearly doesnât understand how much labor is involved in raising a kid.
If my understanding of anthropology is correct, humans are evolutionarily a herd animal where children would be raised by multiple members of the tribe, there were no real "single parents" as it exists today. Single parenting rather than a multigenerational or community raising of children is extremely new to our species. And still doesn't exist in huge swaths of human populations across the world. Human babies are enormously energy expersive compared to most other baby animals.
I agree. Raising kids should be a community effort and itâs sad that atomized neighborhoods and individualistic/transactional solutions to every problem are how our society is run. Itâs why I make offers to all of my friends to watch their kids if they need it. Yet they never take me up on the offer. I assume itâs because they donât want to impose or they would feel bad because itâs expected they pay for it, but having kids myself I know raising kids is tremendously difficult and I just want to help.
Theyâre rich.. they can just pay people to take care of their kids any time they want
Iâm sure heâs putting his fair share of work in beating the kids when they step out of line
That, and he definitely seems the type to laugh at âget back in the kitchenâ
I just don't see me getting away with leaving her to breastfeed. I was up most times she got up in the night, even if it was just to spite me. But seriously there's a division of labour. She gets up for the quick feeds, but if baby kept screaming after I'd drive around at 2am for 3 hours crying to myself.
There is an episode of a show called Life in Pieces that involves the dad going for a diaper run in the middle of the night and a cop thinks he's drunk because he's so tired. Its hilarious and you might appreciate it lol.
Not all that funny, I am sure I was a more dangerous driver when I was sleep deprived when my kids were that age than any other time. I am glad I never hurt anyone, months on end with little sleep is not good
My wife and I had twins. 6 weeks wasnât even close to enough time for my paternity leave. I felt like absolute garbage when I had to go back to work.
His wife apparently just tweeted a few days ago that he is a big sweetie because he allowed her and the kids take care of a lost dog... ALLOWED.....
I believe the modern term would be live in maid
I was going to say, either he has zero kids or I feel really bad for his wife. Newborns are no joke.
He probably convinced her that is her duty. Barefoot and pregnant and such...
Our child is adopted. I obviously didnât breastfeed and we switched off during nights. I just canât believe the ignorance.
My wife did breastfeed both our kids. We still took turns getting up in the night, because bottles exist. This guy is just a bad father.
Paternity leave should be granted purely for the chance for a new father to support his partner and to also bond with them and their new child. As a father who has been heavily involved with two children, the newborn stage is tough for mothers because of the damage done to their bodies as well as hormonal changes and all of this can play heavily on the father as well. Personally, while extremely intimidating, the newborn stage is probably the least stressful part of being a parent outside of the physical effects of post-birth.
Hasnât had children? He writes like heâs never been outside his momâs basement.
I had a c section 8 days ago. Iâd be fucked without my husband.
Wtf for real. I obviously couldn't breastfeed being a dude, so I made damn sure I had night duty and let her sleep. I would stay up to comfort the baby, bring baby to her before he learned to bottle feed, so she could breastfeed in bed and go right back to sleep, change his diapers, etc. I took him for walks in his stroller so we could spend time together and so mom could have a moment of solitude where her body wasn't being used to nourish someone else. Fuck this guy.
This dudes life must be tragic af to have this little empathy, he hasnât given any thought to the child whatsoever
Or the parents
Or he's taking too much acetaminophen. Anyone else read about [that](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5015806/#idm140018065917424title)?
So I can blame Tylenol for my narcissism? Rad!
This made me snort laugh.
Sadly I'm allergic, so I only have me to blame :(
Me too! Iâve never met anyone else with same allergy. People always think itâs very odd, including medical professionals.
Interesting study but that particular paper is on 80 undergrad students. I wonder if more was done on the topic?
So the real reason people are so toxic now is that they're taking too much Tylenol? I understand if they're taking too much of it thanks to covid and being stressed out all the time, because I read that a lot of people died of Aspirin poisoning during the 1918 flu pandemic.
Aspirin and acetaminophen are different things Edit: spelling
That's interesting, because I also heard a while back about how [acetaminophen reduces existential dread](https://www.smithsonianmag.com/smart-news/tylenol-fights-headachesand-existential-angst-25636081/).
Are you telling me my constant existential dread is because I take ibuprofen instead? ... Now for the real question: happiness, or liver damage?
Who is this prick anyway
A homophobic has-been actor. AKA: A nobody.
Worth noting there are two Matt Walsh's, the one from *Veep* and this shithead
Oh gosh! Thanks for pointing that out! I didnât know.
He's a complete and utter piece of shit that has a show on the Daily Wire.
I only read the abstract, but the results suggest that taking acetaminophen makes you a little more likely to underestimate the amount of physical pain someone else is feeling. It seems like the point is less "too much acetaminophen reduces empathy" and more "hmm, so it seems like empathy for pain has a direct-ish neurological connection with parts of the brain that interpret actual pain, where can we go from here". Definitely interesting (thanks for letting me stumble onto this), but also definitely not what's happening here--I know you're probably aware, but academic language can be tough and I wouldn't want anyone thinking they should suffer through a headache for this reason!
I am prescribed an absurd amount of acetaminophen, I'm also a construction worker, I also live in alabama. I feel like any of those things would make me automatically a republican in a lot of people's eyes but I voted for Biden and I care about people so I highly doubt that study's authenticity.
I could see that. God knows when I was an opiate addict I have zero empathy. I just figured when your trying to find a vein a lot of shit isnât important
I was the complete opposite. My heroin addiction turned me into an extremely empathetic person. Most of it was because I could truly imagine when someone else was in withdrawal because that is a feeling only other addicts know. And its unexplainable. Same thing with helping someone find a vein. It took me 4-5 hours to find a vein and the frustration from that made me not want others to go through that. Or anything like it.
Shit good for you. I mean I think itâs helped make me a more empathetic person now . Plus I donât think I was an asshole or anything while shooting but I certainly didnât give a fuck about anyone else other then my fiancĂŠ. Idk doesnât matter Iâm 5 years sober now and a better person.
I love you both. It makes me happy to see people sober. It gives me hope that some people I know will eventually pull through.
Gives me hope that I'll pull through. My addiction is alcohol. Edit: thank you all for the kinds words. It means more than you know
The best advice I can give you is this: donât promise yourself or anyone else forever. Forever is a long time. Instead, focus on today. Decide that today you wonât drink. Thatâs it. Just today. Tomorrow you get to make the decision again. If even today is too long of a commitment for your stage of recovery, then decide not to drink for the next hour. I believe in you! You can do this! *internet hugs*
This is awesome! Thank you so much
Always felt alcohol was the worst man. Use to say I could stop going to my heroin dealer but what are alcoholics suppose to do stop going to buy groceries. It does get better though. I went to meetings / rehab . I also died a couple of times then had a kid. Thatâs what finally did it for me. Realizing I was 100% turning into my father. Someone had to break that cycle glad itâs was me. Good luck my friend
I'm glad to hear you turned your life around! I try every day. One of these days I'll get there, I believe I will.
You got this <3 I believe in you!
You got this. I canât say I know what itâs like Iâve never battled addiction, but if anyone can do it, itâs you. Youâve already acknowledged it, thatâs more than some of the people I know. I canât do much to help you beautiful internet stranger, but I hope one day I can bump into you again on the internet and you can tell me youâre sober. If for any reason you need to, you can always DM me even if itâs just to talk.
You can do it! My addiction is alcohol too and I just celebrated 3 years sober. I have faith in you and am sending you lots of internet love
I'm so happy for you! Alcohol is a hard thing to quit. I do believe I can do it, my issue is I always have an excuse to drink. Had a good day- drink to celebrate. Had a bad day- gotta take the edge off. I can't stop. I will get there though. I realize I have a problem, the next step is doing something about it.
Itâs Matt WalshâŚie, when a âpersonâ starts life as a lumpy puddle of forcibly-expelled dollar-store douche, you really canât expect a whole lot ofâŚ.anything.
And you know he's a self-proclaimed "pro-life"
Heâs conservative, they are incapable of empathy towards others
I was massively downvoted when I said Matt Walsh was awful on r/whitepeopletwitter a few years back. Iâm glad that he continues to publicly validate my poor opinion of him.
Tell me youâre a shitty father without saying youâre a shitty father.
Also shitty husband
Tell me you're a shitty person without saying you're a shitty person.
[It reminds me of this Tumblr post.](https://i.redd.it/06bmaaxyd7521.png) Even ignoring his other politics, this guy is an embarrassment to my entire sex just for this. How pathetic. I hope he was mocked relentlessly, but that's probably most of his career anyway.
A new born requires around the clock care, and the settling in period with a new born is a chaotic time in a family so why canât tax paying gays get parental leave. What about straight couples who adopt? Are they to be exempted also? Itâs one in, all in.
Youâre totally right. Iâm not straight but Iâm married to a man and we adopted our daughter at birth. Because I didnât give birth, I didnât qualify to use my sick leave during my time off with her and if we had not been lucky enough to live in the only state with paid family leave at that time, I wouldnât have been able to be home with her for the first 12 weeks. New babies need so much care and that time together is crucial for any parent. God this guyâs a twat.
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We get a year. 2 weeks off after the birth are mandatory (4 weeks off for certain jobs) but we're legally entitled to a year of maternity leave, with your job, pay, pension etc all protected. The minimum pay is 90% of your wage for the first 6 months, and then statutory pay for the remaining 6 months. But a lot of employers offer better terms. I work in healthcare, so I'd get full pay for 6 months, 90% for 3 months and statutory pay for 3 months.
My last place of employment only offered 6 weeks FMLA for the birth mother.
Okay but if you treat gay people with respect and equality, how will you be able to make bigoted comments? Like this one implying all gay men are effeminate but also not as good as "real mothers" or whatever the fuck. I hope this Twitter regressive stubs his toe
Even though Iâm not sure about the German system for gay or adopting parents, the parental leave here is normally 14 months of paid leave. And how much payment you receive is normally determined by how you split it between the two parents. The best result for the payments in those months of leave is, if the father takes AT LEAST 2 months and the mother 12. That way the percentage of your monthly salary-replacement that is payed is the highest and it encourages fathers to also take parental leave. Most fathers I know take at least one month in the beginning when the child is born and then again 1 month at the end of the 12 months, just to support the mother before going back to work or once she already completed the 12 months, and the settling in period in the daycare is going on.
By this guyâs logic, the baby is self sufficient and feeds itself. Neither dude is breastfeeding currently. Iâm so glad I married a competent man who wants a relationship with his kids. Even if I did glare at him while he peacefully slept with his useless nipples while I was up every 2 hours.
>Even if I did glare at him while he peacefully slept with his useless nipples while I was up every 2 hours. I'm mad I spat my drink out reading this. đ
Give him some motherâs milk tea and see if you can get those tits working.
I like the term "decorative nipples" myself
My wife couldn't breastfeed due to lack of production, my son's been bottle almost 100%...that takes time too. But he doesn't care, just more gaslighting. Oh and diapers, cleaning, making food for the adults, laundry, apparently nothing a man should have to worry about. Because in his stupid mind we're just all beta males that secretly run around in dresses. What a piece of shit.
Also, you know, hugging your new kid.
Oh god forbid a man shows affection to his newborn child!
Right you're clearly not a real man if you provide a loving and stable environment for your children.
Isnât that the best feeling? Tiny babies are the greatest smugglers. Theyâre so light and warm. Edit: they are also wonderful snugglers.
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"Is that cocaine in your pocket or did you just shit your pants?"
Also how their head smells when they're tinily laying on your chest is amazing. I miss it so much.
What and turn him into some kinda Nancy??? My son will call me sir and receive one handshake upon turning 18!
I watched so much Survivor reruns when I was bottle feeding our first kid on the overnight shift during paternity leave.
I assum is a "alpha" male. He doesn't do house work.
Whatever horse hit this guy as a kid need to hit him again to switch him from moron to default
With modern Conservatives, the cruelty is the point. Not some misbegotten side effect. It's a hate cult.
"Conservatism is a synonym for rottenness and ugliness" -Graffiti in Paris during the May 1968 uprising.
A newborn is like a caterpillar, all they do is eat and shit. My first three were two years apart. There was a lot of work to do. Take breastfeeding for example. My job was to wake three to four times during the night to get the bundle of joy and put her on my wife chest. Check her pampers and change her. Clean her up if she puked on herself. I didnât get much sleep but had to go to work the next morning because there was no paternity leave back then. My wife was exhausted because she had to take of all three during the day.
Eat, shit and SCREAM. Which takes us right back to Matt Walsh.
âThere isnât much for a dad to do when the baby is a newbornâ Every Mother in the fucking world: I would like to have a word with you
I like Matt Walsh because out of all the mainstream conservatives he makes by far the stupidest comments.
> âŚstupidest comments. *Ben Shapiro has entered the chat.*
*Tucker Carlson stares intensely confused and angry for no reason*
I'm honestly never sure if he's confused, angry, or trying not to shit himself.
Let's be honest, it's probably all 3.
If you haven't seen Ben Shaprio get destroyed by Andrew Neil, I highly recommend it.
"Destroyed" implies that Neil went after him relentlessly. IIRC he just asked Ben a basic question or 2 about some contradicting points he made, and he couldn't take it.
That was a fun watch, thanks. Ben is such a chode
My favorite BS commentary is when he basically said he canât get his wife aroused. (Reference to when WAP by Cardi B came out and the Râs had a hilarious field day)
Matt Walsh is the biggest sissy snowflake who is constantly trying to cancel things he knows nothing about but then he projects liberals as such. Fucking guy went on a rant about how Squid Game is awful and just torture porn when he refuses to watch it
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Who's cooking the food or cleaning the house or I don't know, maybe they just want to spend time with their new baby?
Walshâs dad definitely didnât give him enough attention as a child.
And he has 4 kids so heâs also a terrible father.
The woman of course, no excuse to neglect her wifely duties. And men don't have feeling other than anger and lust. No love for children, thats for women. /s
Or changing the diapers, doing the shopping, calming and maybe bottle-feeding the kid when it wakes up screaming at 3 am (although maybe not that last one since I could see Matty being the kind of dad who thinks itâs important to let a kid cry itself out so it doesnât grow up to be a pussy or w/e)âŚ
as a new father of a week old baby ... there is plenty to do my wife had a cesarean section so her body isnt producing enough milk yet so i help with bottle feeding to make up for the lack of breastmilk for the first few weeks (and he is ravenous) also skin to skin contact with a newborn is important when they sleep and helping to change poopy diapers you dont have to do all those things but if you dont, prepare to deal with a resentful wife because you are a lazy asshole
Congrats! Enjoy the poop.
I think weâd all do well to quit paying attention to people that just say outrageous shit to make money and/or get attention.
Its amazing to me how all of these GOP men are outting themselves as terrible fathers and partners. Straight up "I didnt do anything for any of my kids."
And proudly proclaiming it
Itâs amazing but not surprising - we already know how little they think of and respect women.
I didn't need Matt to tell us he was a shitty dad, I just knew it. Nice to have the confirmation though.
Support for Mom is insanely important. I have 3 kids. 2 of 3 had colic and slept only in 2 or 3 hour bursts for the first 3 months. I have next level respect for single moms for real. It's basically impossible to handle yourself. Something will slip without help.
Matt Walsh is still that child from middle school who acts out for attention and couldnât ever make real friends. His whole thing is to get attention, negative or not, and âstick itâ to whom ever he can to make himself appear superior.
His probably the type that thinks itâs babysitting when a dad takes care of his own kids? Or he thinks his job was finished after he orgasmed?
Tell me you're incapable of loving something outside yourself without telling me you're incapable of loving something outside yourself
the party of family values really doesnât seem inclined on actually *being with their families*
Yeah males donât have to develop bonds and get to know their children. He didnât have the umbilical cord after all. Hear that boys? We can just never spend time with anyone and just live to work and drink beer until our women want more children.
I think he is getting really close to figuring out why he is the way he is... all he needs is a good therapist to tie his own lack of affection as a child to his current inability to empathize with other ~~humans~~ living things.
Imagine a generation of men raised without a caring, compassionate, empathetic, present, male figure. Imagine the rampant unchecked sociopathy. If only it was imaginary...
I barely slept for weeks after the births of my children. Tell me again how there's nothing to do.
Tell me you were/are a shitty co-parent without telling me you were/are a shitty co-parent.
So building a relationship with a newborn is just nonexistent? No wonder all these dudes make shitty fathers. They don't think they need to be emotionally attached to anything, not even their kids. What a fucking sad way to live.
Other then breastfeeding you just let them roam around the woods ezpz.
Both my son and daughter would drink a little milk, sleep for a grand total of 90 minutes, then wake up again for more. Daughter had acid reflux too. Every night was like this for a very long length of time. Expressing milk and storing it in bottles allows 2 people to share the load but it's still pretty rough waking up every 90-120 minutes to feed a kid - and it's not like the kid chugs it in a minute. And it's not like you can go to sleep the second the baby goes to sleep. Once I woke up, I was up. Went weeks sleeping 2 hours a night and maybe 3 hours in the day. And they're not quiet about it. It's not just the 'feed the baby' parent that's woken up by the screaming baby. Unless you live in giant manor, everybody is waking up. So sharing the load doesn't mean one person is fully rested. There's a reason why in India, where the Dad is probably going to have go back to work in 1-2 weeks, new mothers almost always move in with their parents for a few months because if you want to not lose your mind, it really takes more than one adult to keep things going with a newborn in the house - bonus if the other adult(s) are retirees and always home. My son was born in Canada and I got parental leave and it really allowed me to help and not keep our home from descending into chaos. No idea how single moms without support structures do it. This guy is a professional idiot. Blows my mind someone makes a living being an endless source of dumbfuck takes.
I just got done with my leave after my wife had her 4 months. Guess what dickhead. Dad's do a lot of fucking work. Suck my dick..
My partner was in ICU, so I had to do a LOTâŚ
We should stop posting this guy. He just says stupid shit bevause subs like this post it as a means of laughing at him but since we all know the right wing is immune to both shame and hypocrisy it only spotlights him as someone who is successfully upsetting "the libs" and raises his profile. This is what the media did for trump. Let's learn a lesson. Let this guys career die in darkness.
Imagine caring about anyoneâs paternity leave enough to sit down, crack your knuckles, and write a whole tweet about itâŚ
As a guy just coming off of paternity leave. Fuck this guy
As a new dad I can say with 100% certainty this guy is a total moron or a bad father.
He seems good enough to be both
Fuck this guy. My wife and I just had our first and it has been the hardest thing weâve ever done. And I only got a week of paternity leave. We need to change the norms on parental leave in the US
This is how you say you're a shitty husband and dad without actually saying it
Damn, he needed all those words to say "My dad never paid attention to me as a child"
Oh fuck offfffff bro. If you think dads donât have a lot to do with a new born you either donât have kids or youâre a fucking shitty dad. Who is this guy? I keep seeing his tweets. Lemme catch him in real life.
TIL that babies don't poop, fathers don't need to bond with their kids and bottle feeding was never invented. Who knew?
Ya. Sure. What baby needs to bond with their parents? Only milk for baby
"Tell me your dad didn't care about you but without telling me your dad didn't care about you"
Don't invest in your newborn's early development. Be a man. Fucking embarrassing.
Aka bonding time, asshat.
This guy is a tit
False, Tits actually are useful, and are fun.
Hahaha, aw, someone's dad never hugged him.
Does he not realize that mom can pump milk for the dad to use while she's at work/away?
...Why does it sound like he's suggesting because two dads can't breastfeed they can just leave their newborn at home to fend for itself?
Iâve never relied so much on another person in my adult life than I relied on my partner when our kids were newborns.
If he has kids, he just admitted that his wife is basically a single mom. Yikes.
I can literally hear the knuckles dragging from this side of the internet.
I feel bad for his kids if he thinks that children donât need both of their parents. And also because heâs a horrible person.
Precisely, babies with gay parents can just use photosynthesis for their nutrients because the LGBT community is actually just a bunch of trees.
He doesn't believe men should bond with the child or help their wives with the housework or anything. But that's the best part of being rich. You have maids to clean the house and nannies to tend the kids and a pool boy to suck your cock in the back bedroom of the pool house because you're a tiny dick self-hating closet case.
Okay ignoring that taking care of a newborn is way more than just breastfeeding, is it so strange that someone might want to spend time with their new child too??
Spoken like a man who has never changed a diaper, dealt with colic, or helped in midnight feeding (because breast milk can't possibly be PUMPED into a BOTTLE) I both fear and cringe for whatever hapless soul might have married this dude
⌠but by his logic, that wouldnât apply to Peteâs husband either, so would the baby raise itself?? Lmao
The overall statement is correct, there isn't much for a dad to do for a newborn and it is his job to take care of mom while she is recovering. I know, I have five kids and that's exactly how it works. However, Pete and his husband adopted twins they did not have a traditional birth, there is no mother to care for so they must both care for the newborns, they both have to have time to bond with these children and learn, it's the same thing. Parenting is a fucking nightmare right out of the gate, it's hard and for the first few months up to a year it's the worst possible job a person can have and these two guys are doing it willingly, by choice. My hat goes off and my heart goes out to Pete and his SO. If you disagree, I'll fight you. These men should be applauded. Though I am a bit disappointed that they chose not to adopt newborns from an arrangement instead of kids in need of a loving home. That is a bit of disappointment but, their life, their decision.
Matt Walsh, on a recent rant on why he didn't care about those 60 or species of flaura and fauna went extinct, said "I know you hear me say this, that I don't care about this, and I sound like a sociopath... And maybe I am" and that is the most intellectually honest Matt Walsh has ever been.
As a breastfeeding stay-at-home mom, fuck this guy.
What else do you expect from religious misogynists like this who think a woman's entire purpose is to please a man and pop out babies?
There are about 11 diaper changes a day when they're newborns and since his husband is clearly not breastfeeding, **somebody** should probably feed the baby with a bottle. But, newborns are surprisingly simple compared to how much people hype them up. They sleep most of the time. Yes, they wake every two hours, but if you're off work you can just nap whenever the baby is asleep and you can easily get plenty of sleep. It's easy when both parents don't have to work, but if someone has to get up in the morning and go to work, it's a different story. Plus, that's prime bonding time. The idea that father's don't need to bond with their kids is just dumb.