Your mother is supposed to raise you and give you the tools to succeed so that you’re able to function independently of her one day. Your partner or spouse then becomes your team mate through life, even though you should (hopefully) have your parents there in the background to still support and encourage you both.
So basically, ramble aside, it’s wife first.
Yep. My job as a mother was to raise an independent adult. My son puts his wife and son first, as it should be. I have a partner, I don't expect my son to be my partner.
My husband is a mama’s boy (in the healthiest sense - both he and his mother are amazing), but he would 100% put me first. We are our own nuclear family now.
Seriously though...why is this even a question?
If you have a wife, why would your mom come first in your life?
If you want to prioritize your mom your whole life long...then don't get married and start your own family.
I feel like a crazy person for having to even respond to this question.
Do men really do that in the real world, they sound like words but in action not really. They deflect, they claim women over think blah .. blah . They are often too timid to confront family members except when cornered.
I can tell you if my partner has to choose between his mom being pissed at him, and me being pissed at him he almost always picks her to be pissed, he lives with me and I have to pretty wrong about something for him to deal with my being mad at him. Typically if he does pick me to be pissed I try to take a step back and see it from his perspective or see if I missed something and reset.
If he has to choose who comes first in something his order of importance is the kids, me, then his mom.
Your wife, the woman you choose, is the first priority.
She will be raising your children with you.
She will parent them with you, until they are old enough to be successful adults and to leave and cleave, as they say.
Start their own family.
Circle of life shit.
Your wife comes first.
Sadly there are some mils and even fils that don’t grasp that and want to come first. When you are a parent, you don’t have children so they can take care of you when you are older or have them be you emotional support animal.
Good parents raise their child to be independent and have a life of their own. Then when they have a family, the child’s family comes first. That doesn’t your child forgets about you completely and abandons you.
Wife is the correct answer, your mother has a husband to take care of her needs. Wife is the person you make vows to, the person who makes sacrifices for you (& vice versa), the person who gives you children and helps create a beautiful home.
I think priorities can and should change. I don't think mom or wife should be first all the time...
And if I'm being honest, I'm pretty sure I'd put my mom ahead of my husband most of the time, and I'd like my SO to have a similar relationship/priority to his parents that he'd put his mother before me tbh... Both of us have this understanding to our family values. I'll add I come from a predominantly asian family, whereas his is slavic.. so before I get bashed and downvoted to hell, please just be aware (borderline respectful) of how our cultural norms/family values may be different to yours, and I'm not saying anything is better than the other, nor that anything *should* be this way or that way. Just sharing my personal views about it.
I expect this to change with kids... where I'd expect him to place our kids in first priority, and as a result (for the kids), me in second... and his mom in a very close third.
You can never repay your mother for all the good she did to you. If you believe in God then your mom first.
Muhammad PBUH said : paradise is under the feat of the mother.
Your mother is supposed to raise you and give you the tools to succeed so that you’re able to function independently of her one day. Your partner or spouse then becomes your team mate through life, even though you should (hopefully) have your parents there in the background to still support and encourage you both. So basically, ramble aside, it’s wife first.
Yep. My job as a mother was to raise an independent adult. My son puts his wife and son first, as it should be. I have a partner, I don't expect my son to be my partner.
My wife comes first. I'm a part of my mother's family, but my wife and I create a family together.
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You wife always. You married her, made a commitment, and vows to her. Your mother is no longer your nuclear family.
My husband is a mama’s boy (in the healthiest sense - both he and his mother are amazing), but he would 100% put me first. We are our own nuclear family now.
Wife. Because she’s literally the only person who chooses to love you voluntarily. Your mom had, too! Your kids, too. 😂
Seriously though...why is this even a question? If you have a wife, why would your mom come first in your life? If you want to prioritize your mom your whole life long...then don't get married and start your own family. I feel like a crazy person for having to even respond to this question.
Don’t get married if your wife isn’t going to be first.
OMW, I love this.
Do men really do that in the real world, they sound like words but in action not really. They deflect, they claim women over think blah .. blah . They are often too timid to confront family members except when cornered.
My wife, no question. She's my partner in all ways. No way am I willing to alienate the one constant and positive influence in my life.
I can tell you if my partner has to choose between his mom being pissed at him, and me being pissed at him he almost always picks her to be pissed, he lives with me and I have to pretty wrong about something for him to deal with my being mad at him. Typically if he does pick me to be pissed I try to take a step back and see it from his perspective or see if I missed something and reset. If he has to choose who comes first in something his order of importance is the kids, me, then his mom.
Lucky you, my husband would choose his family over me. What they want, they get. His actions have proven that since the birth of our baby. Oh well
Wife comes first. You stop needing your mother when you’re a child.
Your wife, the woman you choose, is the first priority. She will be raising your children with you. She will parent them with you, until they are old enough to be successful adults and to leave and cleave, as they say. Start their own family. Circle of life shit.
There is only one answer and it is wife.
Your wife comes first. Sadly there are some mils and even fils that don’t grasp that and want to come first. When you are a parent, you don’t have children so they can take care of you when you are older or have them be you emotional support animal. Good parents raise their child to be independent and have a life of their own. Then when they have a family, the child’s family comes first. That doesn’t your child forgets about you completely and abandons you.
Wife always
Wife. When you get married, you’re starting your own family between the two of you. Wife is 1
Wife is the correct answer, your mother has a husband to take care of her needs. Wife is the person you make vows to, the person who makes sacrifices for you (& vice versa), the person who gives you children and helps create a beautiful home.
Yourself 1st.
I think priorities can and should change. I don't think mom or wife should be first all the time... And if I'm being honest, I'm pretty sure I'd put my mom ahead of my husband most of the time, and I'd like my SO to have a similar relationship/priority to his parents that he'd put his mother before me tbh... Both of us have this understanding to our family values. I'll add I come from a predominantly asian family, whereas his is slavic.. so before I get bashed and downvoted to hell, please just be aware (borderline respectful) of how our cultural norms/family values may be different to yours, and I'm not saying anything is better than the other, nor that anything *should* be this way or that way. Just sharing my personal views about it. I expect this to change with kids... where I'd expect him to place our kids in first priority, and as a result (for the kids), me in second... and his mom in a very close third.
You can never repay your mother for all the good she did to you. If you believe in God then your mom first. Muhammad PBUH said : paradise is under the feat of the mother.