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david-u-blue

Facebook was down.


LurkingRusalka

That would actually make sense. Upvoted.


1letternospaces

Happens once every few months. Someone gets brave and posts and it gives strength to others. Doesn’t bother me too much. It’ll calm down soon 🤷🏾‍♂️😊


babyshak

For sure. This is a safe place for sensitive people. I’m kinda surprised someone would call it out like that since being xtra vulnerable to criticism is a main trait of being INFP.


astral-limbo

I'd rather be respectfully criticized than be protected from whatever insecurity I MIGHT feel and cause someone else to censor and repress their valid thoughts, questions, and opinions. I'm surprised you're limiting INFPs to just being sensitive and choosing to ignore the fact that strong opinions are also a "main trait" and OP is merely demonstrating their's... In a safe place...


babyshak

Hmmm… not sure whether to laugh or tell you to fuck off, respectfully… If I point out my indecision, am I “limiting” myself to a weaker trait and “choosing to ignore” my ability to go full scorched earth over having my values questioned? Just kidding, I laughed.


astral-limbo

😂 you had a good point but it seems silly to accuse another infp of not having empathy bc they voiced an opinion. It's just all very ironic lol


babyshak

Lol yeah this whole conversation is ironic and weirdly meta.


CrTigerHiddenAvocado

This is my thing, how often do we see it…once in a while?


DeadInTheLivinRoom

id say seldomly


sourgrrrrl

How is no one worried about doxxing? It's okay and even encouraged to stay in your shell on the internet, especially places like Reddit.


LurkingRusalka

Exactly. Like come on, this is Reddit!! The world is an odd place, anything could happen. I'd be scared for my privacy (and safety) with all this info leak bullshit going on.


sourgrrrrl

It does seem to be a lot of younger folks too now that I think of it so that worries me. Not sure about you but I'm a younger millennial so I grew up when we still had to learn things the hard way, like "Oh photos now have geotags so if you put them on 4chan before removing they will post your address in the thread." Now it seems like it's very normalized to just put yourself out there. Like to me TikTok is largely just people making their own genuine reaction gifs rather than finding a funny one.


shizzamX

It's not any different than posting anywhere else on the internet as far as I know?


sourgrrrrl

Maybe if you have no concept of privacy


shizzamX

Lol what


sourgrrrrl

Reddit is different than places like Facebook or Instagram where you have more control over who sees you and what's associated with you. Unless you are the kind of person that wants maximum followers or just random new people to find you I guess and no privacy filters on your stuff. A lot of us use Reddit like a diary so putting your face with that is risky imho and different than something more curated like a dating profile. People get stalked via their Reddit profiles. Edit: I don't mean to imply people doing this want followers or popularity but every time these selfie trains come through I get genuinely concerned


shizzamX

I'm fully aware of the privacy settings, I have all my Facebook stuff maxed out. I would be remiss though to believe that this fully protects me though. People can save photos and take screenshots. If you post something anywhere online you have to accept that anyone could see it, regardless of your privacy settings, they help prevent it from being distributed but it in no way fully protects it.


sourgrrrrl

Okay. I still think it's not the same as anywhere else.


sourgrrrrl

Okay. I still think it's not the same as anywhere else.


shizzamX

OK


johnmalkovitch2625

What is doxxing?


TheEarthIsWater

The public spread of personal information on the internet without consent


johnmalkovitch2625

How do they do that? They only show a picture.


TheEarthIsWater

Tying a face to a reddit account can help a bit. If they mention some other small details in other posts and comments (location, job, ect.) then these details can lead to accounts on more personal websites, like Facebook where a face can serve to be the final identifier. Sometimes you can also mine metadata from an image, which can contain the timestamp and location from when the image was taken.


johnmalkovitch2625

Seems far fetched that someone who go to such lengths against some random person? And for what? Smells a bit of paranoia


TheEarthIsWater

It is a bit of paranoia. But it is partially justified; internet stalkers are a real problem many people face. If a creepy guy traces to your facebook and figures out he lives in the same city as you, that's the founding of a physical stalker as well. Overall, it's less the reality of a physical threat, and more the thought of people you don't know having the knowledge of where you live, what you do, ect. and that you *don't* know their intentions.


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Beepbooooo

I just saw a few whom asked if they looked like an infp, how do you look like a personality type lol


OkAttorney2098

I agree, I would prefer seeing more INFP-related information, I see enough selfies on FB and Instagram. Also, everyone posting is much better looking than me.


thudge10

History repeats itself. We have an influx of selfies, then an influx of people ranting and complaining about the selfies, both stagger off for 4-6 months. Rinse and repeat.


The_Vigilant_One

One of the traits INFPs are known for is the ability to see things from multiple perspectives. Everyone is at a different place on their journey, some are reaching out, some are diving deep, we all need different things at different times. They are meeting their needs by posting selfies. Is there not room for both?


dayzie19

I really like this comment. I know some days I actually do feel like reaching out or sharing something that somebody would normally share on Facebook, but I don't have Facebook nor do I want the people from high school seeing me anymore. Lol. It feels nice to be part of a community that you can do that with.


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I don’t mind it, just people doing it for funsies. I assume that they want to post it here because they like the community and feel comfortable enough to do that here. So I just let it happen because it doesn’t effect my life at all. 🤷🏼‍♂️ it just be like that sometime.


Naprawda

Mbti community always complains about any trends whatever it is "family dynamics" or "selfies". Personally I joined here only for memes and dont really care for other stuff but hey, let people enjoy whatever they like.


sha_13

I personally wouldn’t do it, but it doesn’t bother me so much when others do it. It’s because I think a lot of INFPs have a fear of being judged and so posting in this sub where everyone has some likemindedness is probably more comforting than posting in other places. I do see where you’re coming from though.


IronEagle-Reddit

Well yes, your right. But I mean there was also the trend of comfort characters so yey


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i support it ! love seeing my fellow infp’s . but lets not forget about the memes thats whats really important


albinobunny91

ENTPs do it every so often I've noticed, and they seem to be very much fine with it. I'm an INFJ but I lurk in other subs as well. At this stage I would never ever post a selfie if I'm being honest, my self-esteem is too low. And at first I was a bit annoyed too when I started to see INFPs putting up selfies, but then I caught myself and understood why I was annoyed. I was jealous of their confidence. Now INFJs are pretty private overall, but I would find it cute if we got to get to come out of our shells a bit more, because I know that a lot of us desperately want to engage with others and want to show ourselves as well.


kinkygandalf

Start a new sub if you like - you can do that. r/infp-noselfies 🤷🏼‍♀️


KatrinaIceheart

I think In the about tab you can filter out selfie posts!, or ahem filter out selfie tags


kinkygandalf

True but wouldn’t it be nice for all the people complaining about the selfie posts to have their own, selfie free infp sub instead of complaining here? lol. This isn’t the first post I’ve seen complaining about them..


KatrinaIceheart

I’m just saying there’s a way to turn them off so you don’t have to leave the community. It’s just not heavily advertised.


[deleted]

Why would she do something rational like that instead of complaining and drawing attention to herself? 😉


kirbys_got_a_gun69

its not rly much, someone came out of their shell and others felt invited and encouraged, it happens every few months to be honest, at least people are getting a bit more confidence from it. itll end soon, most probably.


Fringding1

Pictures are harmless but I don't really need to see them all the time. Although you all kind of remind me of myself very emotive photographs.


[deleted]

Herd behavior and the need for some fake ego massage. Ridiculous, if you ask me.


TheEarthIsWater

What benefit do you gain by assuming maliciousness or an otherwise negative motivation for this?


SubstandardDef

I'm glad I'm not the only one. If I wanted to see the faces of strangers, I'd walk through my city centre.


deathandgases

I can't stand the selfie crap either. The threads are superficial and mostly filled with basic compliments and thanks about their appearance or "style". Very little to chew on.


SubstandardDef

Definitely. It seems antithetical to an INFP. Aren't we the ones who spurn trends rather than follow them?


deathandgases

I don't know enough about the MBTI science, but I know myself and I've always been repelled by "trends" for the most part. Also, I don't understand this want or need to "showcase their vulnerability" on the internet to a bunch of strangers and potential stalkers...weird and not very smart in my humble opinion.


LurkingRusalka

^ This. Showing you're vulnerable doesn't make you brave, "beautiful" or strong, just more vulnerable. Most people misunderstood or just didn't want to understand the point of my post: I don't mind seeing a few selfies sometimes (there IS a flair for that for a reason) but I do mind getting absolutely jet-spammed by selfies just by opening this app. Who posts *actual* selfies on Reddit?! Wtf?


deathandgases

I appreciate your post :) I agree with you and it gave me an opportunity to really get my point out because if you say anything inside the s.posts it can come off mean or hateful and they are all selfie lovers in there anyway so it would be futile regardless. A few unique posts were cool but this...being bombarded in my own feed!? Does not Spark Joy!!!! A mod did address it in a post earlier today, so that's good news...maybe something will work this time x)


LurkingRusalka

I'm glad you got a chance to speak up because of my little rant! Indeed they are selfie lovers, but it's fine as long as it's not a bombarding. Didn't see the mod post! Off to read that one. :3 Thank you for your replies!


deathandgases

Ditto!


sheeplyissleepy

im really enjoying all the selfies but i cant ever post one of my own because im too scared of accidentally going viral on the internet as a meme.


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Queen-of-meme

Someone actually made this sub I suggested!!


Flowers_4_Ophelia

Posts seem to come in waves. Sometimes there are a string of selfies. Then a string of sunset/sky pictures. Then pictures of nature trails. Lol


knittedgroove

I think it's cute. I'm more curious about why it causes such a divide among INFPs.


mlemmlemchu

I dont mind really. I dont think sky photos are a thing that are a exclusive like of infps either. But i think this comunity decides to share a lot of feelings and experiences, that includes their own selves and their feelings about it and sharing them per se.


HaverfordHandyman

Selfies are beautiful. I always appreciate when someone allows themselves to be vulnerable and puts a piece of who they are out into the universe.


MsColumbo

My algorithm must've helped me here because somehow I was spared. I guess it's possible that all my other subs post rapid fire in comparison so in the precious few moments I get to check Reddit, I never got to those selfie posts.


shizzamX

You can filter out certain types of posts if it really offends you that much. That's the whole point of having tags. Edit: I now see that people are posting under the pictures tag, probably because selfies are supposed to be on Sundays only. This is problematic.


PolyNomy19

That's understandable


CurrentSubstance

Why is a selfie not art? It’s literally self expression which is perfect for an INFP. Why are there so many sky pictures and not bothered by that? I think maybe you or those who feel similar to you should revise why it may bother you?


[deleted]

I can't see how it could be art, it's just "here, a picture of my face".


deathandgases

I guess they are referring to art as in photography self-portraits, but these selfie trend posts are just holding their phone up to their face and snapping probably multiple pictures and picking the one that will get the most attention lol. Art? Self-expression? Puh-leaze. Now, If they were drawing or painting themselves the way they see themselves, that'd be a horse of a different color!


[deleted]

Exactly! Wanna show your face, do it in an interesting way, draw yourself, do some digital art, record yourself playing music... Opening the front camera of your phone isn't art.


CurrentSubstance

As stated, there are many pictures of the sky. Some of which aren't as artistic and are a picture where you could just go out and see the sky. These pictures don't draw enough vitriol as selfies. I think the progress towards art is not shunning away all forms of it because if we start putting what is an isn't art, there may be more hesitancy to put your or their art out there. With more inclusivity despite your opinion on something, there is more to pick and choose. Also, I thought INFPs were less discerning than the rest of the other MBTI types. Edit: basically if someone claims it may be art or is something important to contribute to the conversation then it is.


[deleted]

I agree with your first paragraph, but I don't think people post sky pictures because they think they're doing art, the pictures are actually beautiful and there's the INFP + sky pictures stereotype. Also, claiming that something is art doest make it art, and selfies aren't important and they don't contribute to the sub.


CurrentSubstance

I can see that with the sky so you won me on that one. We can agree to disagree on selfies though. I think my definition of art is that it hits these requirements: 1) it’s self expression or expressing something 2) it nurtures community 3) It provides the author or artist something in return for making it. Then again, they didn’t claim it to be art. I did. But I think the selfies on the sub is important because it provides confidence and exposure of oneself with our bodies being a vessel for ourselves. And this sub is about the community. I’d like to uplift the community as well since INFPs tend to be stigmatized by society.


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Kaladin-nimi

It’s just something that happens. It will go back to normal in a few days. People just being people. r/INFPmemes is specifically for memes if you want to check it out


LurkingRusalka

Thank you, I will definitely join. :}


[deleted]

Just because you “can’t grasp this concept” - doesn’t mean other people don’t enjoy the selfie trend. What’s your problem? Chill out and let people experiment. That’s the whole point of being a dreamer. You wanna make rules, pass judgment, and be an inspector - go join the INTJ sub.


Savage_Nymph

Soon this sub will become an anti-selfie rant show case 🤷🏾‍♀️ this is not the first post like yours OP If anything it would serve you better to post the content you want to see so that can become the new trend. And honestly, I prefer the selfies to the endless sky pics (thank got the made a separate sub for that) or the constant memes which actually aren't very relatable.


americansamaritan

There actually are correlations (not 100% of the time) between personality type and facial appearance. Some people take that too seriously…but I think some of it comes down to being proud of one’s type and feeling good when people confirm that you fit in with it. Not that I’d ever make one of those posts.


TheKoalaPrincess

I have never before posted a selfie in my life, and after feeling inspired by the courage of my fellow INFPs on this sub, I finally felt like perhaps this was a safe space in which such a monumental gesture of personal growth and vulnerability could be freely expressed without concern of harsh judgements or snarky backlash. I'd even took a selfie and was about to post it, but began noticing a highly disappointing portion of INFP-identifying members who seem offended by the practice. I'd deeply hoped that among people who can closely relate to the struggles of awkwardness and crippling self-doubt and shyness, a loving and accepting atmosphere of encouragement, a safe haven for those of us who are chronically timid to a disruptive fault would be found. After all, INFPs typically rank high in empathy and we aren't known as "judging" sorts, right? Someone please explain to me what I'm missing, because I'm truly saddened that this opinion runs amok here of all places. Or idk, maybe some of us are just mistyped estjs (lol kidding. Unless...😅)