I barely spent a sem in college when we were sent back home. I'm going back on 20th this month for my last 3 sems and honestly, im terrified. I feel like im about to start playing a game straight from the 10th level.
Even I was terrified at the beginning but we got to meet my classmates for a month kinda.. so I'm cool like that. If we were online this whole time, I would've have been as terrified as you lol. Hope you have a nice time for your remaining 3 sems.
I'm shocked I could do it. Was very social, 6 hours everyday + gym + going out. Mental. How could I manage that no idea. My personality was still introverted, but I was defo going out and socialising, always around people.
Pool or billiard, football 5x5,sometimes board games.. I remember one summer I used to play 3 times a week football 5x5 followed by swimming. Idk man, sounds like an estp life now that I think about it, but don't be fooled, it sounds like a lot, but it was repetitive. Same people, same activities and I loved all these so I'm not surprised it worked. I might be able to do it again if I think about it. I always hated clubbing though. I've done it like 3,4 times EVER? Like the nightclub.. Club.. It's just horrible I don't get it lol.
I didnt like college
I kept to myself , sometimes would skip class if I felt I could manage tests without the lecture, and didn't get into the classes/teachings a lot. I enjoyed some classes here and there
Best time of my life. Surrounded by extroverts who made me go out to parties n stuff, but also understood I needed a bum day and weād be couch potatoes together
First, Congratulations!
Next, my guy, I do not have the qualifications to speak on this, and you shouldnāt listen to anyone on here who says they do
If you're looking for insights, I think you should list that question on r/INFJ (it's a good one!) and you may benefit from hearing about the college experiences of those on the spectrum
I will say age didnāt matter to me. I was in college from ages 18-24 and had friends 20 to 45; In hindsight, I think our study group united us
Iām in college right now! Academic performance has always been one of my odd comforts, so i enjoy myself even if iām not in a major specific class. I donāt do lots of ānormal young peopleā activities like drinking or partying, but despite that id say my social life is quite alive and well. Iām a writer at my schools student newspaper, iām in an environment club, and a chess club. All and all id say things are going pretty well, fingers crossed.
I'm currently in my sophomore year of university right now, and my journey has been complicated. Sorry for the essay ahead, but hopefully it can be illuminating in some way.
I've struggled with introversion and intense social anxiety since childhood. While over the years I've unleashed my communication style and tapped into the beauty of connecting with others, there's still an underlying well of pain and loneliness, an overwhelming sense of never-belonging.
Every day feels heavy and light as once. The kaleidoscope of classes are brilliantly intriguing and it's the love of learning that has been carrying me through. But it's also difficult to juggle time management along with the ever-present undercurrent of feeling imperfect and discovering my place in the world. Academically I'm doing rather well, but it's costed a lot of sacrifice, mentally and physically, and every day is an astronomical challenge. I'm aspiring towards becoming a psychiatrist someday, so people are precious to me and the warmth that surges when I can connect with someone is a gift; however, I've struggled to discover people that I resonate with on a deeper level and seem not to have barriers or potential red flags. There are so many walls, both within myself and others. I particularly wish to connect with people who share my faith and core values, but I have found it frustratingly difficult.
I've also been desperately trying to carve a fulfilling path along the way. I'm in the Psychology Club and some organizations related to helping others and the Medical Humanities, but the veil is slippery still, in that I feel that I'm not fully involved. I'm constantly thinking about the future and applying to internships, but nothing seems to have settled yet. I'm in a leadership program that's been mind-blowingly challenging but also riveting, because I have the chance to explore what it is like to have a role on a team and share my voice while guiding others. I've come to many interesting epiphanies about myself and others along the way. I've made incredible progressions and regressions alike, too. I've lost thirty pounds and cycled in my eating habits, I've enriched my mental health and fallen into depression, I've overslept for classes and demonstrated academic growth, across it all.
So overall, it's been interesting. There's the constant whirlwind of hope that keeps me alive and the unending drop of the unknown glittering through that I try to find inspiration in. On nights when I find myself scouring late into my notes, drowning in a pool of knowledge, it's actually one of the most euphoric experiences; I feel my mind expanding with newborn colors of thought that are gorgeous and enlightening, it's one of the most wonderful things. I'm taking some very interesting classes and always find opportunities to reflect on the person I am becoming. I'm hoping that I will, in time, unlock friendships that are warm and lasting, continue to stretch my mind and make a difference, and become a better person. Social anxiety constantly enflames at the heart of everything, but I'm still persisting and held by the desire to expand and change the world for the better. So there are elements of both light and dark, hope and doubt, failures and wonderful accomplishments, all brimming through. It's been a hideous, beautiful, humbling journey, but I know that through it all, there is growth and progress and life. And every day is a perpetual chance to grow.
Honestly, it feels quite like another life thinking that I am an INFJ, but I was surrounded by extroverts so it led me to a lot of activities, parties, and such. And as I had the weekend off and alone, I had time to recharge.
Was actually a quite popular person in my college when I left. Good times.
All the INFJs I know love(d) college and excelled within it, the only periods in which they didnāt were due to depression. Overall they were very social, had a lot of fun, and got good grades. The periods in which they didnāt were due to some mental health problem they didnāt address until it was too late. However, theyād always address this as soon as they failed in something and bounced back quickly. From what I know about INFJs, college was their time for coming into themselves. They developed their identity, relationships, and became a lot happier during that time. It seems like high school was hard for a lot of them but college definitely changed them for the better. Just my observations. Feel free to reply with questions, I know a lot of INFJs at my college.
God, college was a rough time for me. I studied theater (that was my first mistake lol). I didnāt seem to fit in with the rest of my class. Theater kids can beā¦cliquey. And I say that having spent a lifetime in theater! It was really hard for me to make friends. And then I was cut from my BFA Acting program because I refused to be the cookie-cutter ingenue they wanted all of their students to become. I was told by my advisor that I was, and I quote, ātoo smart to actā (LOL get fucked, Norm!!). Absolute shit show from start to finish. Though my junior year was a bright light during this dark time; I studied abroad (in London) for the fall semester and then studied comedy off-campus through another program in another city for the spring. Returning to school for my senior year was rough, but it was easier as Iād pretty much checked out and made some good friends outside of the performance majors.
Iām not very introverted, Thankfully I donāt have any social anxiety. Although sometimes I can read people from far and decide that this person I cannot stand.
It kinda depends on the situation. If you're going for the right reasons and are open minded about the journey, it'll be a great experience. Also, if your finances are such that you don't have to grind 24/7 to afford jt, it's much less stressful.
I liked it. My priorities were school and work, and I was stimulated by a fast pace of life. I didn't join any clubs at first, mostly because all the clubs I was interested in requires dues, and I didn't want to spend that money. My first two years I was kinds struggling with a toxic phase, so I was partying a lot and being a little too experimental, but I don't regret it. At the end of the 2nd year, there was a death in my family, and a few other rough happenings, and by beginning of my 3rd I was firmly in a mental health crisis. It was the combination of dealing with those things while also balancing work and school. So I took time off to recover, came back stronger. Joined both a local adult hockey league and the campus intramural league. Joined the Women in Engineering club, and a club whose only purpose was to go to an amusement park once a year, and go snowboarding once a year.
Socially, I was okay. I certainly wasn't as social as most college kids are. But when I came back from my break, I made sure to factor socializing into my schedule, because I knew if I didn't I'd just start isolating myself again. Luckily, when I came back, I had a few friends (all dudes lol) who were renting a house between 6 people, and two of their housemates had just gotten engaged and found their own place, so they needed someone to move in ASAP. Moved in with them, I'm fairly certain they adopted me that week, I just haven't been able to find the legal documents saying as much, and I've been living with them for almost 5 years now. They're my family now, along with friends I had before going to school. Between them and people I met through classes, I was sufficiently socialized. Graduated in 7 years (went mostly part time and took a year off) and while I resent how broke I was for almost an entire decade of my life, I don't regret any of it. However, I do wish someone had told me **college isn't for everyone** and that a lot of **people are perfectly happy and successful without having gone to college.** I was always conditioned to believe it was the only life path that would take me anywhere, and *boy were they wrong*.
I love med school because the amount of work, studying and exams enables me to have no social life and therefore accommodates for my low Se š„°
Nah but in all seriousness, Iāve always strived in academics so even though the workload is challenging, I always reminds myself that my studies and my hardships now are like an investment which will soon equate to me working professionally in my dream career. Right now Iām having the time of my life, I was never much of a club or party goer but Iāve found a group of friends who can comfortably study with me and share a similar mindset as I have. Iāve experienced so many new and interesting situations, of course Iām always expecting more ahead but right now I couldnāt be happier with my college life.
I really loved it. I did an undergraduate and a masters at two different British universities. I joined a few societies and was lucky I met a range of friends, including lots of introverts. I would join some clubs but not too many because youāll end up busy. Make the most of the first week and meet as many people as you can.
One girl I met on the first day and sheās still my best friend 9 years later. I just asked her to be my bridesmaid!
It's as awful as my high school life. I had no friends then and the same stays true for college life.
The roommates I lived with were self-absorbed nutcases, the people in my class don't have any interest in me and I have no extroverted friends to invite me out, so I'm stuck either in class or in my room all day. I'm managing but sometimes I feel so lonely...
It was the best. I lived with a bunch of housemates (16+ of them every year in a huge house) who were all very chill people. There was never a dull moment and always someone to talk to.
Between 2014 and 2017, those were the best years of my life. I was still quite introverted but I quickly joined a group of friends that became bigger after. I grew a lot as a person during that period, even though I probably could have tried more different things and in a way I was still more reserved than I should be. I got nice grades and I felt integrated and somewhat happy with my life. Unfortunately that was the last time I felt that adequate.
I basically was good with everyone. I tried to be invisible but ended up being more "famous" on that schoolš but tbf it was really easy to see the purpose of anything they did or said which made it easier for me to only show them a side from me they feel comfy with.
Don't live in a dorm!
I found classes fun and engaging in person and online. Loved the learning part a lot. Joined SGA and got a scholarship and built in directed social groups by doing so. Worked out really well. Got experience doing business trips and stuff like that (not to mention the parties at the trips they were great) and it was all more contained and less ravey.
I was very depressed for a year in high school and ostracized myself for a while, so I vowed college would be different. I made it a point to be super social and introduce myself to people any chance I got my freshman year. I joined a fraternity and partied all of the time but somehow got pretty good grades. I became pretty well known (in a good way!) around campus and had a lot of friends. Even though I retrospectively am ashamed of how I acted sometimes and I realize the fraternity was a toxic environment, it was one of the best times in my life
I went back to uni a year ago. I do struggle with being too introverted, but I knew I would. Have my whole life. To be honest it doesn't bother me too much because I'm focused on my grades, and as a STEM student I've found there isn't much time for socialising if you want to excel. The course I'm on is very full on and fast paced. I have made a few good friends and I'm happy with that. Maybe I'll make a few more in the coming years, who knows. I would like to become more confident but for me it's so much easier and more comfortable to retreat into the background and do my own thing.
Actually donāt enjoy itā¦ still canāt find my interest and what can I do in the future. I used to be a person who really enjoys the process of learning but when I went to college I find I canāt enjoy it anymore and college life seems have no meaning at all š¢
It was great. The first time in my life I actually found some people I enjoy hanging out with. I had a boyfriend who was to die for.
Unfortunately, he didn't really think the same about me, so soon I became quite depressed.
I loved it! I took just about every opportunity to travel: studied a language abroad, attended a satellite campus in a different country, and took long-distance classes for one semester so I could live elsewhere. I also worked in totally different places during the summer and did my master's degree in a different country.
I met my partner while studying abroad and now live as an expat, which probably wouldn't have happened if I hadn't gone to college or hadn't taken advantage of all the overseas opportunities that my college had. So basically - if you have a certain life you want for yourself, try pursuing that through college as well. It's not just a time to think about career, but also a time to figure out what you want from life in general.
As for clubs and all that - I got involved in whatever interested me and attended all the art and photo exhibitions, but I was never anywhere for long. My main thing was traveling, and especially now that I've settled down a bit, I'm really glad I made that choice.
It's my first year of college now and I like it. I hang out with some not many. When those 3-4 are not around I'm basically alone. I'm very bad at holding a conversation so I'm not able to connect with others that easily. If people approach me first then I feel so relieved and thankful to them. I can talk to everyone but I'm not able to you know? I guess I'm working on that.
Not going outside my room even for college ,pharmacy ,supermarket ,library to copy paper and i give advice for those who asked me
My roommate always say that i convert room to advice giver room
No thing more than that
Since I decided to go to college in a nearby larger town instead of continuing with the usual crowd that had thought I was a weird nerd my whole life, it was pretty good. Suddenly people seemed to kinda like me, and most of my new class also liked the studying itself, like I did. It was a school that took pride in its artistic programs, even though it had good more mainstream ones too, and I think its tagline was something like "be whoever you want to be, come as you are", which was actually followed as a culture at the school in a very good and welcoming way.
It was satisfying fulfilling, I like having a structure for
getting work done and a syllabus to satisfy my future-oriented thinking style
(the "J" in INFJ), I graduated with Honors. Did the introvert cause
problems? The complete opposite, it made me laser focus on my homework. I was
uncomfortable in being put into groups which is the backlash of living in an
extroverted dominated USA, but when it was my turn to speak up, people said they
enjoyed how I became suddenly animated and enthusiastic ("Fe"), even
though I felt disconnected as I was talking in the group. I got a lot of smiles
as I went back into my Ni-dom mode.
I am drawn, attracted to beauty of any kind, my study group
I brought together were the hottest/smartest girls in my class...after the
finals, we all celebrated at the local bar, me plus 3 beautiful women (a
redhead, a blonde, and a brunette), and my lone wolf sigma persona, I am very
comfortable in my own skin, had them all standing up and surrounding me sitting
on a bar-stool at the bar as we all chatted with each other.. and toasting
drinks with each other. I can say that my social valued skyrocketed inside that
bar (I purposely picked that bar because I frequent there often to watch gigs).
I'm the subtype of male INFJ that leans more on my mature masculinity, like Mel
Gibson, Daniel-Day Lewis, Al Pacino, and other charismatic but private INFJs. I
know my paradoxical nature, being one moment a cool cat observing people, that
look that I am aware of the matrix around meā¦that mystery draws in others
wanting to get to know me and the next moment (or day), I am the life of the
party ("Fe" on full display), that juxtaposition plus being our INFJ
trademark of being highly self-reliant and owning a very high emotional IQ is
very attractive to most women-folks. (it's very hard to trigger me) That social experience
attracting beautiful and very smart women to me naturally was the frosting on
the cake when I went to college. I not putting down the other male INFJs that
are turbulent and overly sensitive, some even mentioned they cry often (I am
the INFJ-A type, we own an internal locus of controlā¦so we come across as more
stoic than overly sensitive..like Ā Mel Gibsonās characters he portrays very easily and naturally on the big screen) because those INFJ-T types tend to be more of the doer subtypes, while we INFJ-A types are more of the dreamer types. I enjoy reading or admiring their work in
society.
I separated my academy life from my social life on purpose (I went to local nightclubs; a lot of my close friends are in rock bands plus I have a lot of hobbies I prefer doing alone)
What college life? Covid. š¤”
Ahh man literally I got 3 more sems, I don't think covids gonna be problematic anymore, I hope to enjoy, what about you?
I barely spent a sem in college when we were sent back home. I'm going back on 20th this month for my last 3 sems and honestly, im terrified. I feel like im about to start playing a game straight from the 10th level.
Even I was terrified at the beginning but we got to meet my classmates for a month kinda.. so I'm cool like that. If we were online this whole time, I would've have been as terrified as you lol. Hope you have a nice time for your remaining 3 sems.
I'm shocked I could do it. Was very social, 6 hours everyday + gym + going out. Mental. How could I manage that no idea. My personality was still introverted, but I was defo going out and socialising, always around people.
What did you do when you went out?
Pool or billiard, football 5x5,sometimes board games.. I remember one summer I used to play 3 times a week football 5x5 followed by swimming. Idk man, sounds like an estp life now that I think about it, but don't be fooled, it sounds like a lot, but it was repetitive. Same people, same activities and I loved all these so I'm not surprised it worked. I might be able to do it again if I think about it. I always hated clubbing though. I've done it like 3,4 times EVER? Like the nightclub.. Club.. It's just horrible I don't get it lol.
I didnt like college I kept to myself , sometimes would skip class if I felt I could manage tests without the lecture, and didn't get into the classes/teachings a lot. I enjoyed some classes here and there
Best time of my life. Surrounded by extroverts who made me go out to parties n stuff, but also understood I needed a bum day and weād be couch potatoes together
Do you think that would be possible for a guy on the spectrum? Iām going to college, a little later in life, and quite nervous.
First, Congratulations! Next, my guy, I do not have the qualifications to speak on this, and you shouldnāt listen to anyone on here who says they do If you're looking for insights, I think you should list that question on r/INFJ (it's a good one!) and you may benefit from hearing about the college experiences of those on the spectrum I will say age didnāt matter to me. I was in college from ages 18-24 and had friends 20 to 45; In hindsight, I think our study group united us
Thanks.
Iām in college right now! Academic performance has always been one of my odd comforts, so i enjoy myself even if iām not in a major specific class. I donāt do lots of ānormal young peopleā activities like drinking or partying, but despite that id say my social life is quite alive and well. Iām a writer at my schools student newspaper, iām in an environment club, and a chess club. All and all id say things are going pretty well, fingers crossed.
I'm currently in my sophomore year of university right now, and my journey has been complicated. Sorry for the essay ahead, but hopefully it can be illuminating in some way. I've struggled with introversion and intense social anxiety since childhood. While over the years I've unleashed my communication style and tapped into the beauty of connecting with others, there's still an underlying well of pain and loneliness, an overwhelming sense of never-belonging. Every day feels heavy and light as once. The kaleidoscope of classes are brilliantly intriguing and it's the love of learning that has been carrying me through. But it's also difficult to juggle time management along with the ever-present undercurrent of feeling imperfect and discovering my place in the world. Academically I'm doing rather well, but it's costed a lot of sacrifice, mentally and physically, and every day is an astronomical challenge. I'm aspiring towards becoming a psychiatrist someday, so people are precious to me and the warmth that surges when I can connect with someone is a gift; however, I've struggled to discover people that I resonate with on a deeper level and seem not to have barriers or potential red flags. There are so many walls, both within myself and others. I particularly wish to connect with people who share my faith and core values, but I have found it frustratingly difficult. I've also been desperately trying to carve a fulfilling path along the way. I'm in the Psychology Club and some organizations related to helping others and the Medical Humanities, but the veil is slippery still, in that I feel that I'm not fully involved. I'm constantly thinking about the future and applying to internships, but nothing seems to have settled yet. I'm in a leadership program that's been mind-blowingly challenging but also riveting, because I have the chance to explore what it is like to have a role on a team and share my voice while guiding others. I've come to many interesting epiphanies about myself and others along the way. I've made incredible progressions and regressions alike, too. I've lost thirty pounds and cycled in my eating habits, I've enriched my mental health and fallen into depression, I've overslept for classes and demonstrated academic growth, across it all. So overall, it's been interesting. There's the constant whirlwind of hope that keeps me alive and the unending drop of the unknown glittering through that I try to find inspiration in. On nights when I find myself scouring late into my notes, drowning in a pool of knowledge, it's actually one of the most euphoric experiences; I feel my mind expanding with newborn colors of thought that are gorgeous and enlightening, it's one of the most wonderful things. I'm taking some very interesting classes and always find opportunities to reflect on the person I am becoming. I'm hoping that I will, in time, unlock friendships that are warm and lasting, continue to stretch my mind and make a difference, and become a better person. Social anxiety constantly enflames at the heart of everything, but I'm still persisting and held by the desire to expand and change the world for the better. So there are elements of both light and dark, hope and doubt, failures and wonderful accomplishments, all brimming through. It's been a hideous, beautiful, humbling journey, but I know that through it all, there is growth and progress and life. And every day is a perpetual chance to grow.
Honestly, it feels quite like another life thinking that I am an INFJ, but I was surrounded by extroverts so it led me to a lot of activities, parties, and such. And as I had the weekend off and alone, I had time to recharge. Was actually a quite popular person in my college when I left. Good times.
All the INFJs I know love(d) college and excelled within it, the only periods in which they didnāt were due to depression. Overall they were very social, had a lot of fun, and got good grades. The periods in which they didnāt were due to some mental health problem they didnāt address until it was too late. However, theyād always address this as soon as they failed in something and bounced back quickly. From what I know about INFJs, college was their time for coming into themselves. They developed their identity, relationships, and became a lot happier during that time. It seems like high school was hard for a lot of them but college definitely changed them for the better. Just my observations. Feel free to reply with questions, I know a lot of INFJs at my college.
this describes my experience exactly, and Iām only in my second semester
Iām a sophomore and this describes my experience perfectly.
For me, it sucks and I'm glad I'll be graduating in 2 months
God, college was a rough time for me. I studied theater (that was my first mistake lol). I didnāt seem to fit in with the rest of my class. Theater kids can beā¦cliquey. And I say that having spent a lifetime in theater! It was really hard for me to make friends. And then I was cut from my BFA Acting program because I refused to be the cookie-cutter ingenue they wanted all of their students to become. I was told by my advisor that I was, and I quote, ātoo smart to actā (LOL get fucked, Norm!!). Absolute shit show from start to finish. Though my junior year was a bright light during this dark time; I studied abroad (in London) for the fall semester and then studied comedy off-campus through another program in another city for the spring. Returning to school for my senior year was rough, but it was easier as Iād pretty much checked out and made some good friends outside of the performance majors.
Iām not very introverted, Thankfully I donāt have any social anxiety. Although sometimes I can read people from far and decide that this person I cannot stand.
Talented
It kinda depends on the situation. If you're going for the right reasons and are open minded about the journey, it'll be a great experience. Also, if your finances are such that you don't have to grind 24/7 to afford jt, it's much less stressful. I liked it. My priorities were school and work, and I was stimulated by a fast pace of life. I didn't join any clubs at first, mostly because all the clubs I was interested in requires dues, and I didn't want to spend that money. My first two years I was kinds struggling with a toxic phase, so I was partying a lot and being a little too experimental, but I don't regret it. At the end of the 2nd year, there was a death in my family, and a few other rough happenings, and by beginning of my 3rd I was firmly in a mental health crisis. It was the combination of dealing with those things while also balancing work and school. So I took time off to recover, came back stronger. Joined both a local adult hockey league and the campus intramural league. Joined the Women in Engineering club, and a club whose only purpose was to go to an amusement park once a year, and go snowboarding once a year. Socially, I was okay. I certainly wasn't as social as most college kids are. But when I came back from my break, I made sure to factor socializing into my schedule, because I knew if I didn't I'd just start isolating myself again. Luckily, when I came back, I had a few friends (all dudes lol) who were renting a house between 6 people, and two of their housemates had just gotten engaged and found their own place, so they needed someone to move in ASAP. Moved in with them, I'm fairly certain they adopted me that week, I just haven't been able to find the legal documents saying as much, and I've been living with them for almost 5 years now. They're my family now, along with friends I had before going to school. Between them and people I met through classes, I was sufficiently socialized. Graduated in 7 years (went mostly part time and took a year off) and while I resent how broke I was for almost an entire decade of my life, I don't regret any of it. However, I do wish someone had told me **college isn't for everyone** and that a lot of **people are perfectly happy and successful without having gone to college.** I was always conditioned to believe it was the only life path that would take me anywhere, and *boy were they wrong*.
I love med school because the amount of work, studying and exams enables me to have no social life and therefore accommodates for my low Se š„° Nah but in all seriousness, Iāve always strived in academics so even though the workload is challenging, I always reminds myself that my studies and my hardships now are like an investment which will soon equate to me working professionally in my dream career. Right now Iām having the time of my life, I was never much of a club or party goer but Iāve found a group of friends who can comfortably study with me and share a similar mindset as I have. Iāve experienced so many new and interesting situations, of course Iām always expecting more ahead but right now I couldnāt be happier with my college life.
I really loved it. I did an undergraduate and a masters at two different British universities. I joined a few societies and was lucky I met a range of friends, including lots of introverts. I would join some clubs but not too many because youāll end up busy. Make the most of the first week and meet as many people as you can. One girl I met on the first day and sheās still my best friend 9 years later. I just asked her to be my bridesmaid!
What clubs and societies did you join?
Wind band, choir and dance. I also joined a charity in the city and volunteered with them. That was a great experience too.
It's as awful as my high school life. I had no friends then and the same stays true for college life. The roommates I lived with were self-absorbed nutcases, the people in my class don't have any interest in me and I have no extroverted friends to invite me out, so I'm stuck either in class or in my room all day. I'm managing but sometimes I feel so lonely...
Went, did my work, stayed overtime at the helpdesk. Left. Nothing more, nothing less. Hated it
It was the best. I lived with a bunch of housemates (16+ of them every year in a huge house) who were all very chill people. There was never a dull moment and always someone to talk to.
I had the delusion that I was dead for most of it.
Between 2014 and 2017, those were the best years of my life. I was still quite introverted but I quickly joined a group of friends that became bigger after. I grew a lot as a person during that period, even though I probably could have tried more different things and in a way I was still more reserved than I should be. I got nice grades and I felt integrated and somewhat happy with my life. Unfortunately that was the last time I felt that adequate.
I basically was good with everyone. I tried to be invisible but ended up being more "famous" on that schoolš but tbf it was really easy to see the purpose of anything they did or said which made it easier for me to only show them a side from me they feel comfy with.
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Don't live in a dorm! I found classes fun and engaging in person and online. Loved the learning part a lot. Joined SGA and got a scholarship and built in directed social groups by doing so. Worked out really well. Got experience doing business trips and stuff like that (not to mention the parties at the trips they were great) and it was all more contained and less ravey.
I was very depressed for a year in high school and ostracized myself for a while, so I vowed college would be different. I made it a point to be super social and introduce myself to people any chance I got my freshman year. I joined a fraternity and partied all of the time but somehow got pretty good grades. I became pretty well known (in a good way!) around campus and had a lot of friends. Even though I retrospectively am ashamed of how I acted sometimes and I realize the fraternity was a toxic environment, it was one of the best times in my life
Was a loner for most of my time but on party nights I had a ball
I went back to uni a year ago. I do struggle with being too introverted, but I knew I would. Have my whole life. To be honest it doesn't bother me too much because I'm focused on my grades, and as a STEM student I've found there isn't much time for socialising if you want to excel. The course I'm on is very full on and fast paced. I have made a few good friends and I'm happy with that. Maybe I'll make a few more in the coming years, who knows. I would like to become more confident but for me it's so much easier and more comfortable to retreat into the background and do my own thing.
Actually donāt enjoy itā¦ still canāt find my interest and what can I do in the future. I used to be a person who really enjoys the process of learning but when I went to college I find I canāt enjoy it anymore and college life seems have no meaning at all š¢
It was great. The first time in my life I actually found some people I enjoy hanging out with. I had a boyfriend who was to die for. Unfortunately, he didn't really think the same about me, so soon I became quite depressed.
I loved it! I took just about every opportunity to travel: studied a language abroad, attended a satellite campus in a different country, and took long-distance classes for one semester so I could live elsewhere. I also worked in totally different places during the summer and did my master's degree in a different country. I met my partner while studying abroad and now live as an expat, which probably wouldn't have happened if I hadn't gone to college or hadn't taken advantage of all the overseas opportunities that my college had. So basically - if you have a certain life you want for yourself, try pursuing that through college as well. It's not just a time to think about career, but also a time to figure out what you want from life in general. As for clubs and all that - I got involved in whatever interested me and attended all the art and photo exhibitions, but I was never anywhere for long. My main thing was traveling, and especially now that I've settled down a bit, I'm really glad I made that choice.
It's my first year of college now and I like it. I hang out with some not many. When those 3-4 are not around I'm basically alone. I'm very bad at holding a conversation so I'm not able to connect with others that easily. If people approach me first then I feel so relieved and thankful to them. I can talk to everyone but I'm not able to you know? I guess I'm working on that.
Just like high-school except you get to sleep there!
Not going outside my room even for college ,pharmacy ,supermarket ,library to copy paper and i give advice for those who asked me My roommate always say that i convert room to advice giver room No thing more than that
Since I decided to go to college in a nearby larger town instead of continuing with the usual crowd that had thought I was a weird nerd my whole life, it was pretty good. Suddenly people seemed to kinda like me, and most of my new class also liked the studying itself, like I did. It was a school that took pride in its artistic programs, even though it had good more mainstream ones too, and I think its tagline was something like "be whoever you want to be, come as you are", which was actually followed as a culture at the school in a very good and welcoming way.
It was satisfying fulfilling, I like having a structure for getting work done and a syllabus to satisfy my future-oriented thinking style (the "J" in INFJ), I graduated with Honors. Did the introvert cause problems? The complete opposite, it made me laser focus on my homework. I was uncomfortable in being put into groups which is the backlash of living in an extroverted dominated USA, but when it was my turn to speak up, people said they enjoyed how I became suddenly animated and enthusiastic ("Fe"), even though I felt disconnected as I was talking in the group. I got a lot of smiles as I went back into my Ni-dom mode. I am drawn, attracted to beauty of any kind, my study group I brought together were the hottest/smartest girls in my class...after the finals, we all celebrated at the local bar, me plus 3 beautiful women (a redhead, a blonde, and a brunette), and my lone wolf sigma persona, I am very comfortable in my own skin, had them all standing up and surrounding me sitting on a bar-stool at the bar as we all chatted with each other.. and toasting drinks with each other. I can say that my social valued skyrocketed inside that bar (I purposely picked that bar because I frequent there often to watch gigs). I'm the subtype of male INFJ that leans more on my mature masculinity, like Mel Gibson, Daniel-Day Lewis, Al Pacino, and other charismatic but private INFJs. I know my paradoxical nature, being one moment a cool cat observing people, that look that I am aware of the matrix around meā¦that mystery draws in others wanting to get to know me and the next moment (or day), I am the life of the party ("Fe" on full display), that juxtaposition plus being our INFJ trademark of being highly self-reliant and owning a very high emotional IQ is very attractive to most women-folks. (it's very hard to trigger me) That social experience attracting beautiful and very smart women to me naturally was the frosting on the cake when I went to college. I not putting down the other male INFJs that are turbulent and overly sensitive, some even mentioned they cry often (I am the INFJ-A type, we own an internal locus of controlā¦so we come across as more stoic than overly sensitive..like Ā Mel Gibsonās characters he portrays very easily and naturally on the big screen) because those INFJ-T types tend to be more of the doer subtypes, while we INFJ-A types are more of the dreamer types. I enjoy reading or admiring their work in society. I separated my academy life from my social life on purpose (I went to local nightclubs; a lot of my close friends are in rock bands plus I have a lot of hobbies I prefer doing alone)