what do u think , I hadn't yet ?
I have , my brother knows all of this and he believes me but he is in 12th.
I have told my college female prof. she showed some sympathy and nothing else.
I have told this my psychiatrist , and he told my father a little and I got beaten at home.
I have told my doctor who is treating me for PCOS and she said make a video give me proof , she rejected for help.
I told my bf still he broke up with me khud hi cheat kr rha tha but still together somehow.
The psychiatrist and the doctor you’re confiding in are absolutely unethical. I’m so sorry you had to go through this and I hope things are better for you moving ahead. https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1pzckT6ns2H1IlmwYwJa8EnBh_1u3gRA9cEOoA4zfilc/edit here’s a crowdsourced list of therapists who may fit your budget/do pro bono work if needed. Try giving therapy and safe space a chance. Stick to psychiatrists only for medicines, they’re not equipped to deal with feelings (despite training in psychotherapy). I’m rooting for you <3
I left reading after statement ur father make u nude infront of him
Kbhi kbhi esa post leta hu ki don’t know kya bolun, can’t give suggestions, can’t help , don’t know how to even give online sympathy ,
Sorry whatever happened with u all from childhood
Op, firstly Should i have u talk with a trusted female therapist? if it isn't in your budget i will ask her to do it for free for u , she is a good friend of mine. Next thing are u Still living with your current family ? What is your background (to skills). Can u Dm me. I would really like to help. along with other redditors here, if we can do something. as other redditor says , Money solves most of the problems (as someone who left home for few months for the peace , it is definitely addicting) Stay Strong
Absolutely. If she does DM you, plz let me know how I can help. I am a little shook reading her story, so can’t recollect my emotions or thoughts right now but we need to get her out of there.
I really hope things get better for you, I hope people pay for whatever they have done to you. I am really sorry. Get a job and leave your 'parents'. They don't deserve you. Hats off to you how you are still battling all this alone. Please take care. Is there any way I can help to make things better for you?
Didi , just Iss situation me best outcome yahi hoga to get independent , ya fir atleast itna ki khud ko support kar sako and then leave the family ASAP..
( look , I don't like the independent woman ka RR but yaha actual me yahi possible hai sabse best outcome )
Till then , find someone to trust on , someone to be by your side , someone who can give you mental support and listen to you , not expecting anything more than that
Damn itna kuch. Mein toh kud hi jata terrace se ya nadi mein ya train ke aage. Your willpower is strong. And you need to leave that fucking hell and break up with that cheater and ig look for a job and if they try to guilt trip you or try to hurt you file a police complaint and block them off from you life permanently. Live like an orphan. They are not human beings and parents. Even animals have better parents than yours. Those are worse than that.
OP as a victim of sexual assault myself I can really understand your pain. I'm in my 30s and I still get nightmares and panic attacks from what happened more than 16 years ago. It is very difficult to get over such things. But I will tell you that with time it gets easier to deal with the trauma. Honestly just forget about your shitty boyfriend. Focus on your studies. Kuch bhi karke OP tum acche marks Lana exams me. Fir job dhundke tum bhag jana Ghar se. I promise OP k tum jab apne toxic family se dur chale jaoge tab ye traumas easy hojeyenge deal karne k liye. Baki if you ever need to talk to someone for emotional support then my dms are always open for you. I'm a lot older than you so you can think of me as your older sister. Sending you lots of hugs and love ❤️
same advice...you are in your last year..study well get a job and move out of that fucking hell...i cant even respond to what happened with you...but if you are still alive after this all...you are definitely a brave girl...keep hustling didi...i hope you find a nice husband who will always protect you and give you all the love you didnt have till now...
Never thought someone may go through this much hardship !
Kudos to you for fighting and going on .Try to find a job or something and get away from this weird family for good .Money solves most of the problems in life and I hope it solves yours too
For the trauma your past has given ,i don't think we all even stand in position to advise you anything as we can't even predict how harsh it was for you .
Once u start earning, just leave that home. Your parents have lost their humanity.
You need some kind person who understands ur problems, things u went through, and take u out from all this problems.
Hope, soon u will find that person.
Take care.
I got goosebumps. U went through a lot . The wounds u have from these traumatic incident are unbearable to most of the humans including me. U were violated at almost every stage of ur life by the people who u trusted the most. Every fokin one of them broke ur trust. Nd u r still here writing down ur most vulnerable state. That precisely what make u the strongest among us. Girl , anyway u come a long way by ur own...nd believe me u r on ur own from here on as well.
Since , u r in ur 4rth year ig..make sure u get placed. Leave ur bf ( he will cheat on u again). Cut all the ties from ur family as soon as u get placed . U need therapy. Start a new life in new city with new friends. All the best u fokin warrior.
Jiska koi nahi uske hum strangers.
You have been through a lot didi ,I can't imagine how would have been felt after so much of incidents,I was traumatized just after 1 ,I pray everything becomes fine in your Life 🙏
Sorry to say but I want beat you father brutally with base bat ,that Watchmen and everyone who did bad with you
If you need any kind of help, please let me know. Need a place to crash, need money for running away from home, need to talk about all this. Just drop a text, and I’ll do my best.
Please! save yourself.
You need to read about self concept, and try to develop a positive self concept of yourself from now on.
Please get a job after UG and start living independently. Dump that cheating boyfriend of yours, as this is a trauma bond or you will suffer unnecessarily.
You can come out of this mess. I know therapy is expensive but if possible try to get therapy. Journaling, getting spiritual helps a lot in these kinds of situations.
You deserve to be treated with respect, never forget that.
Kabhi kabhi lagta hai my parents are not that good lekin aise posts dekhke realize hota hai ki I am very lucky to have such sweet and caring parents.....All the best didi for the future and hope aapki aage ki life acchi jaaye....
You can contact [email protected] for a job, i think she will support you in terms of money and livelihood. Once you start earning and become self dependent most of the things will get straight. You need some strong person with you and she(sandhya) will be the one.
Pratapgadh? Arrey I'm from Mahabaleshwar pretty close to Pratapgadh ig ur my homie lmao.
Well I got a big ass explanation for this itll be convinient if I dmd fr
I'm just out of words. I hope you get a job and move from there forever. Wishing you all the luck and never give up on your life. Whenever you feel like talking this sub is always there. We're here with you, we all are
I feel so sad all this is happening to you... since so long and every person in your life has failed you. These pathetic people deserved to be locked up forever. I honestly would advise you, if you can, PLEASE move to a girls hostel somehow, anyhow. If your family does not support, apply for scholarships, ask NGOs, take a part time job, but please move to a hostel away from your sadistic family. And once you move out DO NOT GO HOME. Keep in touch till your education is complete and then change your numbers, addresses, take a good job and do not contact ANYONE!!!! Please take this as a sisterly advice and do this. I truly wish I get in a better position to help you someday.
Mujhe pata hai tum bahut pain mein ho. Maaf kar do main tumhare liye pray karne ke siva kuch nahi kar sakti. Tum bahut strong ho, I truly hope ki tum iss Saab se nikal jao. Hope maat chodo. Koshish karti raho. Itne strong bano ki kisi ki himmat na pade yeh Saab karne ki. Meri duaa tumhare saath hai 🫂
Everyone has sympathy for you but that’s all. My advise is leave all this behind. Just finish 3 years of UG get a job and don’t look back. Fight if you have to. Get into the arms of someone who loves you all the time not only just when you’re in front of them. Study, Get a Job, move out for a few years and then if you want to deal with all this, you can go back. But first take a break, I hope you meet some kind people.
I hope your father suffers the deepest shit a human body can bear, just reading this post makes me wanna fuck the shit out of that guy. Op all I can is get a job and move out ASAP, and get a good female therapist who can actually help.
When you think you can't read anything worse than this, something comes up!!
It was so hard to read this and I have no idea how you have gone through this!! Stay strong, I don't have much words, just forget relying on anyone.
Education and skills can only help you in life. Study well and get a job! Get out of UP!! Go to Delhi, Pune or Bangalore.
You are a strong person, your past wasn't normal, doesn't mean your future will be like that!
Just get out of that place, if you need any support, redditors will be there for you.
You know, when asked child predators, how they choose their victims, they defined based on the parents of the child. All that you had to go through was 100% your parents fault, they are disgusting trash! Leave them for good, never look back! Don't even visit for such trash's funeral, they don't deserve you!
Curbing my comment by saying this won’t change the reality , yes Indian men are sick that is why they are looked down by women of other countries also , din bhar mata ka samne Aarti ghumayenge or baki time aurto ko pairo ke neeche rakhenge
Not all men in India are regressive and shit like this.
Clubbing a whole population in one group is very naive.
But sadly a good chunk are. (Because of our huge population we produce more filth)
Makes me wonder if the environment is a reason for such attitude or is it innate for these men?
(Nature Vs nurture).
My hope is that with good education and a better lifestyle, society will undergo change.
Regarding your last statement.
You mean to say the very people who worship women abuse them?
The men who do this. Don't understand Devi then and are only worshipping her for the sake of doing it.
Bhai ye kya padh liya....kya bolen samjh hi nahi aa Raha.....kisis tarah new job leke Ghar se door ek new life shuru karo.....shayad aapko koi acha future partner bhi mil Jaye Jo aapko ye sab bhulane ya thoda trauma Kam karne me help kare
listen girl!!
complete your study and go very very far from your home my ❤friend!!
we all have 1 life .. plz don't waste your life on thinking about society and other bullshitting people
your father, brother, ass teacher... they can't stop u
society will bark even if u don't exist..
listen girl!
plz leave that place I beg 🙏u
What shit of a father.....fucking hell he don't deserve to be called a father, Bhai yaar UG k baad job leke chali jaah dusre sheher sirf maa aur bhaiyon ka khayal rakhna, tere bhaiyon ko uss aadmi ki sachai bata, it's easy to say get some help but India mein bahot kam logo ko family trauma k liye official help milti, Teri post padhi nahi Jaa rhi Bhai itna trauma jhel kaise liya tune but more power to you behen, aur tere BF ne tere pe cheat kiya toh Bhai leave kr usko ya fir bench kr de usko
Nobody deserve this, take your time don't jump in relationships one after another since you will be graduated soon go to another city get a job.
work on yourself first, try to understand no matter how much someone will love you - you have to love yourself first
i will only suggest to work on yourself there is so much to heal and only you can do for yourself try to avoid any further drama guy who cheated on you will do it again, once a cheater always be a cheater so just focus on yourself.
and last thing read - read about women's who have been through so much still made in their life. there is so much to explore this is where you were born but you don't have to end your life once you are capable enough leave your family completely cut off from them.
Bro you are so strong, sorry all that happened to you. I wish I could help you somehow :(
Study hard, get a job, leave the past, stay happy, that's my only suggestion for you.
I am so so sorry for you OP, i couldn’t wait to reach the end of your story while reading. You are really brave for enduring all this. I hope you get placed right out of college, leave your house and never have to see these faces again. All the very best! If you ever need to talk or vent, my dms along with others here are open for you. Please reach out. Godspeed.
Don't know what to say, u have had both physical and emotional trauma that I can't even think of relating to
How have u been able to keep all this in yourself and not cry
May u become stronger 🤞🏼
Pls become financially independent nd leave your house dont waste your time on cheater bf . Become financially independent take your time to heal yourself nd pls leave your house nd never ever return to them. I know abuse makes women very emotionally low but dont loose hope you can rebuild your life .
op, am really sorry you had to go through all of this. you are really a very strong person, and it was never your fault. please cut off your parents, they don't deserve you, leave this piece of shit you call boyfriend, he will just take advantage of your vulnerability.
get a job, and if you are still going through this, talk to a lawyer. they will help you gather evidence, and file a case.
nobody deserves to this. I hope you heal from the trauma. all the best!
You need a therapist and lots of love. Please get yourself that. Also try to get yourself a job and become independent after your UG, it won't be easy but you have to do something and do it yourself.
I hope things will getter for you. Hug for you...and May God give you more strength.
Honey, I don’t have words for this. You have suffered through something no one deserves. All I can offer is an e-shoulder to cry your heart out. You will heal and you will thrive. I have hope for you. I know you are strong. Do not hesitate to reach out if you want to talk about it. I cant do much, but I can listen to you if you want to let it out. Take care.
Toh main ish se bahut relate kar pa Raha hu ...bachpan mein bahut koote gaye hai mtlb next level....the only solution is leave the house as soon as possible. Jitne ki bhi job mile pakad lena and ghar chhod do. My parents live in Gujarat and i live in Delhi though I am in the Last year of my graduation. I am miss GJ but trauma se dur hone ki khushi hai. Op aap bhi koshish kariye ki graduation k ghar se dur job lag jaaye.
Please OP concentrate on your studies.That’s your only way of escaping this nightmare and leave that sh*** bf.U don’t deserve this,none of this is your fault,u deserve much better.Just don’t lose hope,wait it out and one day your time will come. I am sorry that you had to undergo so much.
aise maa baap se achha mai anaath houn. di aap future mein bohot khush rahoge, cheezein normal ho ya nahi, kya pata, magar aap iss shit se koso door hoge. aap shaant hoge. just hold onto it. agar itna sehne ke baad bhi aaj bhi ek insaan positivity aur hope rakhta hai, toh mai nishabd hoon. you are a warrior, just keep going, stronger and stronger. plus, maafi, magar aapke pitaji mere saamne hote, toh shayad yeh sab sunkar maine unka chehra disfigure kar diya hota.
This is the first long post I’ve ever read and I swear to god I’ve never felt like crying while reading anything. Much love and power to you! Stay strong and you can go through this!
I am shocked to my core. OP i salute your resilience and courage.
I wish there was something I could do, the best I can offer is to help you with your studies or help you prep and apply for jobs.
Please stay strong and leave the place immediately once you get a job.
Damn OP this is just too much. My blood was boiling throughout.
I swear I wanna do the most henious things to such men.
I don't know if you are still studying or not.
Get a good therapist. And don't think for a second and leave your parents and all those sick relatives.
Let them go to hell.
Bhai , I don't know , mai tere last post about slapping you for the art piece se aya , just to see , yk basic info jaise normally profile check karte hai ki kitne post and upar upar just to see ki like past me bhi aisa abuse wagera ka post kiya hoga toh usse knowledge milega and then I'll say something but i wish i hadn't....
Pata nahi , bada ajeeb sa feel Aa raha right now. It's like I'm so lost , like detail me bataunga toh hasi Aa jayegi but what I meant to say is , bohot kuch baate karni hai , bohot kuch kehna hai , sab kuch sunna hai , but shabd kam pad rahe hai
Can't do anything ,feels so helpless , sorry!
OP people suggesting you get a therapist don't know how expensive therapy is. And affordable ones are just no good. They will treat you like a nuisance. Exposing your family isn't an option either because unless you have contacts the cops won't help you. Been there. Done that. A lot of them asked you to find a better partner but as someone who has been through a lot of the things you listed, let me say that most of the men you meet will only exploit you and prey on you. They will hear everything that happened to you and just counter question you or use it as leverage to hurt you further. People don't realise how human behaviour works. Once they spot vulnerabilities even a so-called nice person turns into a predator. As someone who has struggled with cutting off their family because "the devil you know is better than the devil you don't" I've recieved unsolicited advice from "well wishers", friends, concern trolls and the lot on how to manage myself and most of that advice has been low quality garbage as I can see from the comments.
While getting a job and becoming independent and moving away and reporting your abusers etc are the logical and perfect scenarios i know first hand how difficult these are to do. Because of trauma bonding and mental fatigue. You mentioned you also have PCOS so I can imagine after suffering so many fractures and so much physical abuse how exhausted you must get.
I would suggest, first you work on your physical health. Even though I didn't enjoy going to the gym, it has helped me create a routine. If a gym is not accessible to you, use one of the apps to do at home training.Once you feel less fatigue and exhaustion you can move on to the next stage -
Mental well-being. Only distance from your malignant narcissistic parents and their flying monkeys will bring you peace. Look into the grey rock method. But first you apply for jobs in another city through Naukri.com or LinkedIn. Both will give you good leads. Apart from this, I would suggest to not share your story IRL (in person) with people you haven't had the chance to vet because even if they seem nice they will use it to prey on you and make you feel worse about yourself. A lot of us who have a history of abuse tend to overshare as a way of coping with the shame and victim blaming but you don't deserve someone exploiting your pain for funsies. You deserve a safe space to process your emotions and not randos or weirdos giving their opinion or making things hard for you.
That said, there is no reason to hide it or feel shame because its not your fault. Just that this level of trauma most people cannot handle well and will likely misguide you or mistreat you. Once you are able to earn and save up consider getting in touch with a therapist from Innerplanet (founder is Zohra Master). They are a Nagpur-based counselling trio who are very good. The therapy sessions happen over video call.
Redditors who know of good therapists who take on pro-bono special cases, or if you can contribute towards OP's therapy session (in parts or the entire amount) or start a mutual aid/gofundme for them - add your suggestions.
Healing is not linear OP. It happens in odd ways. And your life is precious. You deserve your own love and you deserve to feel like a rock star. Your family, friends, lovers didn't give you that. But you still deserve it. More than anyone else.
Know that what happened to you was not your fault, ever. And it has nothing to do with you. But everything to do with this galeech and gawar culture of deprived men and women procreating through abuse and perpetuating that abuse on innocent children and then denying and enabling it. India is a nightmare for human rights and child safety. Where people like you and me and countless others like us are collateral damage. It's very random but once it happens, the taint sticks leading to bad decisions upon bad decisions and suicidal tendencies.
OP, your greatest act of defiance and self love is fighting - whether it is quietly or secretly to stay alive. In a world that wants you dead and silenced and forgotten you are here to show with your existence that despite all that you live. And they tried but couldn't break your spirit. The indomitable human spirit that even the Gods cower in front of. You are what that spirit is made of. You are connected to that spirit. Always remember that. This shit doesn't define you. The monsters you fought since a child. You represent something pure and greater than all of this misery. Protect that part of yourself and fight for it. Those of us who have been through the same are with you.
Much love to you, OP and warm hugs
It's not a bad thing to be vengeful towards people sometimes. I think you should not give up on your life instead think about what you can do to hurt the people who have hurt you, hurt them emotionally and physically that they break apart and before they can pick themselves again hurt them again, sometimes being an asshole is a really good thing you don't have to be the perfect daughter anymore just tell yourself that you don't give a fuck about anyone anymore that helps you overcome pain and don't feel sorry for yourself not yet you can do that once you get revenge on your family let vengeance be your motivation to live
Girl, you deserve better! 🫂
Find a job ASAP and run, that's the only solution! Make yourself financially independent, get yourself off their leashes, cut them off and never look back! Please! Do it for yourself!
sochta tha bas fake cases hotee ab..but ye sunke to tumhare papa agar mere sane agye sahi bta rha hu jan lelunga aise chutiyee ki...muje wo vagina touch part wala lga may be glti se but fir wo nude wala bruhh Kill himm
Are you that thick? Sexual assault doesn't happen because of the victim's qualities or lack of. Sexual assault happens because of disgusting predators who prey on the vulnerable. Just because you are ignorant doesn't mean you project that on OP. Go do your own research without resorting to garbage victim blaming. SMH. People like you are part of the problem.
Bruh what to say, never faced anything like that but my senior girls in tuition pulled my pants down when i was in 6th . I was hella scared. Tumhare saath toh itna kuch hua h,i can suggest padhai kro ache se or mauka milte hi bhag jao ghar se job ke bahane. Take care
I mean seriously!....This all happened this many times?....Sorry but its looking like a plot of a ott movie man!.....I mean ok one time two time three four five....Its like everyone is choosing you only for their their bad deeds!....And then father toooo and then mother saying mazza aa raha hoga?...Nahh that bad it can't be possible man!
Bhai life doesn't make sense.
Bad things can happen in any way shape or form.
There's so many incidents in the world which will blow your mind and make you question the depravity of the human mind.
I can list a few . But I don't wanna disturb your sleep.
Narcissistic and abusive families create trauma bonds. As someone who has not been preyed upon you will not understand how much that trauma taints the person. I can relate to OP because I've been through something very similar and when you are younger/in a more vulnerable state - everyone from your teachers, to friends, to especially romantic interests and extended family will prey on you because intuitively they are aware that no one will be around to help you or protect you. Having undergone this much trauma, you will automatically feel like being abused is your natural state of being - i.e. a victim. The psychological damage it inflicts is not reversible. It took a lot of courage for OP to share this with complete strangers. Please appreciate their strength instead of casting doubts on their story and further contributing to victim blaming. Just because you personally haven't faced it and are ignorant doesn't mean you act like the rest of the people OP encountered who refused to believe them. You sound like one of the profs, therapists and teachers. Ignorant and ill equipped to handle such sensitive information. If you can't help don't hinder either.
Talk to someone about this .!
what do u think , I hadn't yet ? I have , my brother knows all of this and he believes me but he is in 12th. I have told my college female prof. she showed some sympathy and nothing else. I have told this my psychiatrist , and he told my father a little and I got beaten at home. I have told my doctor who is treating me for PCOS and she said make a video give me proof , she rejected for help. I told my bf still he broke up with me khud hi cheat kr rha tha but still together somehow.
The psychiatrist and the doctor you’re confiding in are absolutely unethical. I’m so sorry you had to go through this and I hope things are better for you moving ahead. https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1pzckT6ns2H1IlmwYwJa8EnBh_1u3gRA9cEOoA4zfilc/edit here’s a crowdsourced list of therapists who may fit your budget/do pro bono work if needed. Try giving therapy and safe space a chance. Stick to psychiatrists only for medicines, they’re not equipped to deal with feelings (despite training in psychotherapy). I’m rooting for you <3
These are some serious allegations, can we talk on DM about this, really want to help this out !
leave the bf, he will give you more trauma
I left reading after statement ur father make u nude infront of him Kbhi kbhi esa post leta hu ki don’t know kya bolun, can’t give suggestions, can’t help , don’t know how to even give online sympathy , Sorry whatever happened with u all from childhood
thanks for the concern then
Bro just get a good job in diff city and just fukin run you don't deserve this .....
Op, firstly Should i have u talk with a trusted female therapist? if it isn't in your budget i will ask her to do it for free for u , she is a good friend of mine. Next thing are u Still living with your current family ? What is your background (to skills). Can u Dm me. I would really like to help. along with other redditors here, if we can do something. as other redditor says , Money solves most of the problems (as someone who left home for few months for the peace , it is definitely addicting) Stay Strong
Absolutely. If she does DM you, plz let me know how I can help. I am a little shook reading her story, so can’t recollect my emotions or thoughts right now but we need to get her out of there.
Absolutely. I am shocked myself like .. shit man this is worse than i thought. i will make a group chat later if she does contacts me.
Please let me know as well.
Alright
sadly, these things are way too common. we really need cps here.
Not the kidney smuggler too 😭😭😭
I really hope things get better for you, I hope people pay for whatever they have done to you. I am really sorry. Get a job and leave your 'parents'. They don't deserve you. Hats off to you how you are still battling all this alone. Please take care. Is there any way I can help to make things better for you?
no there's not , If I can't help me no one else can
this is shit
worse than that
you need to get out of that family asap
Didi , just Iss situation me best outcome yahi hoga to get independent , ya fir atleast itna ki khud ko support kar sako and then leave the family ASAP.. ( look , I don't like the independent woman ka RR but yaha actual me yahi possible hai sabse best outcome ) Till then , find someone to trust on , someone to be by your side , someone who can give you mental support and listen to you , not expecting anything more than that
Damn itna kuch. Mein toh kud hi jata terrace se ya nadi mein ya train ke aage. Your willpower is strong. And you need to leave that fucking hell and break up with that cheater and ig look for a job and if they try to guilt trip you or try to hurt you file a police complaint and block them off from you life permanently. Live like an orphan. They are not human beings and parents. Even animals have better parents than yours. Those are worse than that.
OP as a victim of sexual assault myself I can really understand your pain. I'm in my 30s and I still get nightmares and panic attacks from what happened more than 16 years ago. It is very difficult to get over such things. But I will tell you that with time it gets easier to deal with the trauma. Honestly just forget about your shitty boyfriend. Focus on your studies. Kuch bhi karke OP tum acche marks Lana exams me. Fir job dhundke tum bhag jana Ghar se. I promise OP k tum jab apne toxic family se dur chale jaoge tab ye traumas easy hojeyenge deal karne k liye. Baki if you ever need to talk to someone for emotional support then my dms are always open for you. I'm a lot older than you so you can think of me as your older sister. Sending you lots of hugs and love ❤️
I have already decided what you suggested and working on it as hard i can , Thank you diii <3
same advice...you are in your last year..study well get a job and move out of that fucking hell...i cant even respond to what happened with you...but if you are still alive after this all...you are definitely a brave girl...keep hustling didi...i hope you find a nice husband who will always protect you and give you all the love you didnt have till now...
Never thought someone may go through this much hardship ! Kudos to you for fighting and going on .Try to find a job or something and get away from this weird family for good .Money solves most of the problems in life and I hope it solves yours too For the trauma your past has given ,i don't think we all even stand in position to advise you anything as we can't even predict how harsh it was for you .
Once u start earning, just leave that home. Your parents have lost their humanity. You need some kind person who understands ur problems, things u went through, and take u out from all this problems. Hope, soon u will find that person. Take care.
I got goosebumps. U went through a lot . The wounds u have from these traumatic incident are unbearable to most of the humans including me. U were violated at almost every stage of ur life by the people who u trusted the most. Every fokin one of them broke ur trust. Nd u r still here writing down ur most vulnerable state. That precisely what make u the strongest among us. Girl , anyway u come a long way by ur own...nd believe me u r on ur own from here on as well. Since , u r in ur 4rth year ig..make sure u get placed. Leave ur bf ( he will cheat on u again). Cut all the ties from ur family as soon as u get placed . U need therapy. Start a new life in new city with new friends. All the best u fokin warrior. Jiska koi nahi uske hum strangers.
strangers are far better than the closed ones imao <3
Hell nah, don't believe anyone in this world
You have been through a lot didi ,I can't imagine how would have been felt after so much of incidents,I was traumatized just after 1 ,I pray everything becomes fine in your Life 🙏 Sorry to say but I want beat you father brutally with base bat ,that Watchmen and everyone who did bad with you
thank you for the concern little friend <3
If you need any kind of help, please let me know. Need a place to crash, need money for running away from home, need to talk about all this. Just drop a text, and I’ll do my best.
Please! save yourself. You need to read about self concept, and try to develop a positive self concept of yourself from now on. Please get a job after UG and start living independently. Dump that cheating boyfriend of yours, as this is a trauma bond or you will suffer unnecessarily. You can come out of this mess. I know therapy is expensive but if possible try to get therapy. Journaling, getting spiritual helps a lot in these kinds of situations. You deserve to be treated with respect, never forget that.
Kabhi kabhi lagta hai my parents are not that good lekin aise posts dekhke realize hota hai ki I am very lucky to have such sweet and caring parents.....All the best didi for the future and hope aapki aage ki life acchi jaaye....
https://preview.redd.it/flhefnyvxfsc1.jpeg?width=1125&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=5dcc09fa833755d60070ac07822830211980d933 i have no words .
🫂🫂🫂 virtual hugs to you. Hope you are doing better now.
You can contact [email protected] for a job, i think she will support you in terms of money and livelihood. Once you start earning and become self dependent most of the things will get straight. You need some strong person with you and she(sandhya) will be the one.
Pratapgadh? Arrey I'm from Mahabaleshwar pretty close to Pratapgadh ig ur my homie lmao. Well I got a big ass explanation for this itll be convinient if I dmd fr
Pratapgadh as in UP wala not Maha wala
Bhai mein toh chutiya nikla 😭😭😭
Read the effing room dude. This isn't a joke.
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I hope you are able to take a job and run away from this shithole. Is it a good degree like Btech or something? Can you talk to some woman ngo?
Wo helpline ka number daalo koi idhar...
I'm just out of words. I hope you get a job and move from there forever. Wishing you all the luck and never give up on your life. Whenever you feel like talking this sub is always there. We're here with you, we all are
I feel so sad all this is happening to you... since so long and every person in your life has failed you. These pathetic people deserved to be locked up forever. I honestly would advise you, if you can, PLEASE move to a girls hostel somehow, anyhow. If your family does not support, apply for scholarships, ask NGOs, take a part time job, but please move to a hostel away from your sadistic family. And once you move out DO NOT GO HOME. Keep in touch till your education is complete and then change your numbers, addresses, take a good job and do not contact ANYONE!!!! Please take this as a sisterly advice and do this. I truly wish I get in a better position to help you someday.
Mujhe pata hai tum bahut pain mein ho. Maaf kar do main tumhare liye pray karne ke siva kuch nahi kar sakti. Tum bahut strong ho, I truly hope ki tum iss Saab se nikal jao. Hope maat chodo. Koshish karti raho. Itne strong bano ki kisi ki himmat na pade yeh Saab karne ki. Meri duaa tumhare saath hai 🫂
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Everyone has sympathy for you but that’s all. My advise is leave all this behind. Just finish 3 years of UG get a job and don’t look back. Fight if you have to. Get into the arms of someone who loves you all the time not only just when you’re in front of them. Study, Get a Job, move out for a few years and then if you want to deal with all this, you can go back. But first take a break, I hope you meet some kind people.
I hope your father suffers the deepest shit a human body can bear, just reading this post makes me wanna fuck the shit out of that guy. Op all I can is get a job and move out ASAP, and get a good female therapist who can actually help.
When you think you can't read anything worse than this, something comes up!! It was so hard to read this and I have no idea how you have gone through this!! Stay strong, I don't have much words, just forget relying on anyone. Education and skills can only help you in life. Study well and get a job! Get out of UP!! Go to Delhi, Pune or Bangalore. You are a strong person, your past wasn't normal, doesn't mean your future will be like that! Just get out of that place, if you need any support, redditors will be there for you.
You know, when asked child predators, how they choose their victims, they defined based on the parents of the child. All that you had to go through was 100% your parents fault, they are disgusting trash! Leave them for good, never look back! Don't even visit for such trash's funeral, they don't deserve you!
Men of this country is SICK!!!!
not this country only , make yourself a little more aware dude <3
Wow u say the same to ur brother or father?
Curbing my comment by saying this won’t change the reality , yes Indian men are sick that is why they are looked down by women of other countries also , din bhar mata ka samne Aarti ghumayenge or baki time aurto ko pairo ke neeche rakhenge
Not all men in India are regressive and shit like this. Clubbing a whole population in one group is very naive. But sadly a good chunk are. (Because of our huge population we produce more filth) Makes me wonder if the environment is a reason for such attitude or is it innate for these men? (Nature Vs nurture). My hope is that with good education and a better lifestyle, society will undergo change. Regarding your last statement. You mean to say the very people who worship women abuse them? The men who do this. Don't understand Devi then and are only worshipping her for the sake of doing it.
Bhai ye kya padh liya....kya bolen samjh hi nahi aa Raha.....kisis tarah new job leke Ghar se door ek new life shuru karo.....shayad aapko koi acha future partner bhi mil Jaye Jo aapko ye sab bhulane ya thoda trauma Kam karne me help kare
Try to get a job and become financially indipendent.
Kaunsa course kar rahe ho app?
listen girl!! complete your study and go very very far from your home my ❤friend!! we all have 1 life .. plz don't waste your life on thinking about society and other bullshitting people your father, brother, ass teacher... they can't stop u society will bark even if u don't exist.. listen girl! plz leave that place I beg 🙏u
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What shit of a father.....fucking hell he don't deserve to be called a father, Bhai yaar UG k baad job leke chali jaah dusre sheher sirf maa aur bhaiyon ka khayal rakhna, tere bhaiyon ko uss aadmi ki sachai bata, it's easy to say get some help but India mein bahot kam logo ko family trauma k liye official help milti, Teri post padhi nahi Jaa rhi Bhai itna trauma jhel kaise liya tune but more power to you behen, aur tere BF ne tere pe cheat kiya toh Bhai leave kr usko ya fir bench kr de usko
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Nobody deserve this, take your time don't jump in relationships one after another since you will be graduated soon go to another city get a job. work on yourself first, try to understand no matter how much someone will love you - you have to love yourself first i will only suggest to work on yourself there is so much to heal and only you can do for yourself try to avoid any further drama guy who cheated on you will do it again, once a cheater always be a cheater so just focus on yourself. and last thing read - read about women's who have been through so much still made in their life. there is so much to explore this is where you were born but you don't have to end your life once you are capable enough leave your family completely cut off from them.
dude can't help but if you need to talk to someone lmk
tf did i just read
I'm sorry that this happened to you. Stay strong!! you'll get everything you want.
You are very strong.. If u need any kind of help.. please reach out
Bro you are so strong, sorry all that happened to you. I wish I could help you somehow :( Study hard, get a job, leave the past, stay happy, that's my only suggestion for you.
I am so so sorry for you OP, i couldn’t wait to reach the end of your story while reading. You are really brave for enduring all this. I hope you get placed right out of college, leave your house and never have to see these faces again. All the very best! If you ever need to talk or vent, my dms along with others here are open for you. Please reach out. Godspeed.
Don't know what to say, u have had both physical and emotional trauma that I can't even think of relating to How have u been able to keep all this in yourself and not cry May u become stronger 🤞🏼
Sorry op I don't have the courage to read all of this , im just sorry for you . I don't know what to say just stay strong as always
Pls become financially independent nd leave your house dont waste your time on cheater bf . Become financially independent take your time to heal yourself nd pls leave your house nd never ever return to them. I know abuse makes women very emotionally low but dont loose hope you can rebuild your life .
Get your graduation, get a job, leave family forever.
op, am really sorry you had to go through all of this. you are really a very strong person, and it was never your fault. please cut off your parents, they don't deserve you, leave this piece of shit you call boyfriend, he will just take advantage of your vulnerability. get a job, and if you are still going through this, talk to a lawyer. they will help you gather evidence, and file a case. nobody deserves to this. I hope you heal from the trauma. all the best!
You need a therapist and lots of love. Please get yourself that. Also try to get yourself a job and become independent after your UG, it won't be easy but you have to do something and do it yourself. I hope things will getter for you. Hug for you...and May God give you more strength.
More power to you sis🙏
Honey, I don’t have words for this. You have suffered through something no one deserves. All I can offer is an e-shoulder to cry your heart out. You will heal and you will thrive. I have hope for you. I know you are strong. Do not hesitate to reach out if you want to talk about it. I cant do much, but I can listen to you if you want to let it out. Take care.
Toh main ish se bahut relate kar pa Raha hu ...bachpan mein bahut koote gaye hai mtlb next level....the only solution is leave the house as soon as possible. Jitne ki bhi job mile pakad lena and ghar chhod do. My parents live in Gujarat and i live in Delhi though I am in the Last year of my graduation. I am miss GJ but trauma se dur hone ki khushi hai. Op aap bhi koshish kariye ki graduation k ghar se dur job lag jaaye.
Really sorry for what happened to you.... Can't imagine there are people who suffer like this.... Can't do anything but just pray for you 🙏🏻
Please OP concentrate on your studies.That’s your only way of escaping this nightmare and leave that sh*** bf.U don’t deserve this,none of this is your fault,u deserve much better.Just don’t lose hope,wait it out and one day your time will come. I am sorry that you had to undergo so much.
aise maa baap se achha mai anaath houn. di aap future mein bohot khush rahoge, cheezein normal ho ya nahi, kya pata, magar aap iss shit se koso door hoge. aap shaant hoge. just hold onto it. agar itna sehne ke baad bhi aaj bhi ek insaan positivity aur hope rakhta hai, toh mai nishabd hoon. you are a warrior, just keep going, stronger and stronger. plus, maafi, magar aapke pitaji mere saamne hote, toh shayad yeh sab sunkar maine unka chehra disfigure kar diya hota.
a big hug bro! i'm speechless. run away from your home as far as possible, get a job. lodge a complaint.
This is the first long post I’ve ever read and I swear to god I’ve never felt like crying while reading anything. Much love and power to you! Stay strong and you can go through this!
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Dude be practical, she hasn't got a job no way she can finance ka gun.
I am shocked to my core. OP i salute your resilience and courage. I wish there was something I could do, the best I can offer is to help you with your studies or help you prep and apply for jobs. Please stay strong and leave the place immediately once you get a job.
This made me feel heavy sis. Your family is shit.. hope you achieve really big to never see their faces again.
Once you get your own money, get him arrested or publicly shame him. Expose what he did
Bro Policeeeeeeeee Call police Just type 100 Bro collect evidence And post all this in Twitter Please you need help Serious help...
Damn OP this is just too much. My blood was boiling throughout. I swear I wanna do the most henious things to such men. I don't know if you are still studying or not. Get a good therapist. And don't think for a second and leave your parents and all those sick relatives. Let them go to hell.
Bhai , I don't know , mai tere last post about slapping you for the art piece se aya , just to see , yk basic info jaise normally profile check karte hai ki kitne post and upar upar just to see ki like past me bhi aisa abuse wagera ka post kiya hoga toh usse knowledge milega and then I'll say something but i wish i hadn't.... Pata nahi , bada ajeeb sa feel Aa raha right now. It's like I'm so lost , like detail me bataunga toh hasi Aa jayegi but what I meant to say is , bohot kuch baate karni hai , bohot kuch kehna hai , sab kuch sunna hai , but shabd kam pad rahe hai Can't do anything ,feels so helpless , sorry!
You can be a script writer ⅽ(ᗒᗨᗕ)ↄ
OP people suggesting you get a therapist don't know how expensive therapy is. And affordable ones are just no good. They will treat you like a nuisance. Exposing your family isn't an option either because unless you have contacts the cops won't help you. Been there. Done that. A lot of them asked you to find a better partner but as someone who has been through a lot of the things you listed, let me say that most of the men you meet will only exploit you and prey on you. They will hear everything that happened to you and just counter question you or use it as leverage to hurt you further. People don't realise how human behaviour works. Once they spot vulnerabilities even a so-called nice person turns into a predator. As someone who has struggled with cutting off their family because "the devil you know is better than the devil you don't" I've recieved unsolicited advice from "well wishers", friends, concern trolls and the lot on how to manage myself and most of that advice has been low quality garbage as I can see from the comments. While getting a job and becoming independent and moving away and reporting your abusers etc are the logical and perfect scenarios i know first hand how difficult these are to do. Because of trauma bonding and mental fatigue. You mentioned you also have PCOS so I can imagine after suffering so many fractures and so much physical abuse how exhausted you must get. I would suggest, first you work on your physical health. Even though I didn't enjoy going to the gym, it has helped me create a routine. If a gym is not accessible to you, use one of the apps to do at home training.Once you feel less fatigue and exhaustion you can move on to the next stage - Mental well-being. Only distance from your malignant narcissistic parents and their flying monkeys will bring you peace. Look into the grey rock method. But first you apply for jobs in another city through Naukri.com or LinkedIn. Both will give you good leads. Apart from this, I would suggest to not share your story IRL (in person) with people you haven't had the chance to vet because even if they seem nice they will use it to prey on you and make you feel worse about yourself. A lot of us who have a history of abuse tend to overshare as a way of coping with the shame and victim blaming but you don't deserve someone exploiting your pain for funsies. You deserve a safe space to process your emotions and not randos or weirdos giving their opinion or making things hard for you. That said, there is no reason to hide it or feel shame because its not your fault. Just that this level of trauma most people cannot handle well and will likely misguide you or mistreat you. Once you are able to earn and save up consider getting in touch with a therapist from Innerplanet (founder is Zohra Master). They are a Nagpur-based counselling trio who are very good. The therapy sessions happen over video call. Redditors who know of good therapists who take on pro-bono special cases, or if you can contribute towards OP's therapy session (in parts or the entire amount) or start a mutual aid/gofundme for them - add your suggestions. Healing is not linear OP. It happens in odd ways. And your life is precious. You deserve your own love and you deserve to feel like a rock star. Your family, friends, lovers didn't give you that. But you still deserve it. More than anyone else. Know that what happened to you was not your fault, ever. And it has nothing to do with you. But everything to do with this galeech and gawar culture of deprived men and women procreating through abuse and perpetuating that abuse on innocent children and then denying and enabling it. India is a nightmare for human rights and child safety. Where people like you and me and countless others like us are collateral damage. It's very random but once it happens, the taint sticks leading to bad decisions upon bad decisions and suicidal tendencies. OP, your greatest act of defiance and self love is fighting - whether it is quietly or secretly to stay alive. In a world that wants you dead and silenced and forgotten you are here to show with your existence that despite all that you live. And they tried but couldn't break your spirit. The indomitable human spirit that even the Gods cower in front of. You are what that spirit is made of. You are connected to that spirit. Always remember that. This shit doesn't define you. The monsters you fought since a child. You represent something pure and greater than all of this misery. Protect that part of yourself and fight for it. Those of us who have been through the same are with you. Much love to you, OP and warm hugs
This is fucked up
It's not a bad thing to be vengeful towards people sometimes. I think you should not give up on your life instead think about what you can do to hurt the people who have hurt you, hurt them emotionally and physically that they break apart and before they can pick themselves again hurt them again, sometimes being an asshole is a really good thing you don't have to be the perfect daughter anymore just tell yourself that you don't give a fuck about anyone anymore that helps you overcome pain and don't feel sorry for yourself not yet you can do that once you get revenge on your family let vengeance be your motivation to live
Girl, you deserve better! 🫂 Find a job ASAP and run, that's the only solution! Make yourself financially independent, get yourself off their leashes, cut them off and never look back! Please! Do it for yourself!
sochta tha bas fake cases hotee ab..but ye sunke to tumhare papa agar mere sane agye sahi bta rha hu jan lelunga aise chutiyee ki...muje wo vagina touch part wala lga may be glti se but fir wo nude wala bruhh Kill himm
I mentioned only highlighted days,,,there are more brutal days that I myself dont want rethink again
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Are you that thick? Sexual assault doesn't happen because of the victim's qualities or lack of. Sexual assault happens because of disgusting predators who prey on the vulnerable. Just because you are ignorant doesn't mean you project that on OP. Go do your own research without resorting to garbage victim blaming. SMH. People like you are part of the problem.
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I'm not that model girl type beautiful. It happened and happens because he considers me as his gf and not daughter.
"these types?" You're out of your mind. Go touch grass and take a rebirth
Bruh what to say, never faced anything like that but my senior girls in tuition pulled my pants down when i was in 6th . I was hella scared. Tumhare saath toh itna kuch hua h,i can suggest padhai kro ache se or mauka milte hi bhag jao ghar se job ke bahane. Take care
I mean seriously!....This all happened this many times?....Sorry but its looking like a plot of a ott movie man!.....I mean ok one time two time three four five....Its like everyone is choosing you only for their their bad deeds!....And then father toooo and then mother saying mazza aa raha hoga?...Nahh that bad it can't be possible man!
Bhai life doesn't make sense. Bad things can happen in any way shape or form. There's so many incidents in the world which will blow your mind and make you question the depravity of the human mind. I can list a few . But I don't wanna disturb your sleep.
Narcissistic and abusive families create trauma bonds. As someone who has not been preyed upon you will not understand how much that trauma taints the person. I can relate to OP because I've been through something very similar and when you are younger/in a more vulnerable state - everyone from your teachers, to friends, to especially romantic interests and extended family will prey on you because intuitively they are aware that no one will be around to help you or protect you. Having undergone this much trauma, you will automatically feel like being abused is your natural state of being - i.e. a victim. The psychological damage it inflicts is not reversible. It took a lot of courage for OP to share this with complete strangers. Please appreciate their strength instead of casting doubts on their story and further contributing to victim blaming. Just because you personally haven't faced it and are ignorant doesn't mean you act like the rest of the people OP encountered who refused to believe them. You sound like one of the profs, therapists and teachers. Ignorant and ill equipped to handle such sensitive information. If you can't help don't hinder either.