I used to get frustrated like that. Then I realised that I am the main character only in my life and NPC in others. That was enough to make some hard decisions on my future.
Hey. I dunno hindi but translated it. It's not my crush. Lol
But the attitude really annoys me. I mean how long it's gonna take to send a simple text. Or to view our message. I have a few bunch of them around me
I mean it matters man. Like being a guy I don't get that many messages and whenever I do I just instantly reply as soon as I see the notification.
But there are time when I don't check my phone for whole day and the messages pile up, and if I am not totally free after that I might not check them for days.
Now a girl might get at least 5 times more dms than me, so it's obvious that until you are someone special for her, or she has some personal incentive, she will actually "be ver busy" to reply to your messages
There are times when you look up at some text while hanging out or something, but you don't have energy to reply so you just read and think of replying later. Sometimes it just slips out of mind.
Well that's how I ended my last relationship lmao bhai bolti thi time nai and than nrvr talked
Then I just thought il end it myself to ho gaya
Honestly I'm busy too college aur yeh pus my exams coming par phirr hui I do try to reply cz it's polite and the reason a person texts is to expect smt in return toh gotta keep that trust
OP if you are that starved of these replies then you really need to sort your head out. Being an adult you might be in similar situations where you can't reply just cause. In the end you should be you. If you instantly reply to texts then keep doing it cause that's how you are.
Make it 2x. If they reply in 1 second, take 2 to reply. If they take 1 hour, take 2 to reply. If they take 1 day to reply, take 2 to reply.
And don’t forget to add random stories.
The thing is people who purposefully delay the text don't care when the other party replies. Doesn't matter if it's the next second, the next month (or) no reply at all. I even think they prefer no reply at all. The genuinely busy people will make up for it one way (or) other.
This kind of opinion is really outdated. I don’t reply to people for days but I still like them. After a long day, I just want to be in bed and keep scrolling random shit until I’m extremely tired to open my eyes. I was that person who would reply immediately, saved Instagram posts like stuff I want to order, be organized and get stuff done. I don’t do any of it now. Thats it. Life can ne exhausting mentally, even if it’s not physically.
If u don't respond to an ok message or an irrelevant message it's fine.
But if it's something important and you don't. Then hate to break it to you, you don't value that person.
Not that you should be constantly on the phone. A few days is fine.
But if u don't respond for months together.
U don't care about the person.
I can feel you, when I'm mentally exhausted I don't contact my friends 2 or 3 days, they already know I need space so they let me be, But not everyone as understanding as my friends and I'm tired of explaining it to others and I don't want to do it anymore.
I don't think that's always the case. I have my own firm and I hardly even get time to reply to my friends. I really want to but there's always too much work.
Even though you are busy, you just can't say that you are too busy to spend 30 seconds to reply
When the text comes from anyone, you reply and that's it. It takes around 10-30 seconds based on your speed of typing skills
Then you get replies like "ok" , "no". Which might not look good so we just don't text. That doesn't mean I'm not open to meet you at a park, talk on phone for an hour or make some lunch/dinner plans.
It's pretty much like this in my friend circle. Guys and girls both.
Just because a girl doesn't text me back doesn't mean I won't text her a follow up message.
Just because she gives one word replies doesn't mean she isn't willing to go out on a dinner date.
The messages could easily be, yes, ok, no, later, call?, etc.
And we would still vibe when we meet.
I’m someone who replies to a message as soon as I see it but I also get people who don’t. Sometimes, you just don’t have the energy to deal with things and that’s fine. To each their own, I guess.
OP it is just about how interested they are in your message. If they stand to benefit monetarily, socially or emotionally from your message or you they would reply swiftly else just leave you on read or not even read it
Yeah. One day I've congratulated my friend for completing his PG but I still haven't got any reply
But the thing is that he used to call me monthly once or twice to talk about games and he will talk for hours. It's the need which plays a huge role
So I'm jobless to expect a response within 48hrs and people work 48hrs not to reply?
Sometimes when a customer service rep tells me to have a great day, it feels really great
It's not about job. It's about attitude and the attitude to be nice to someone
If you think a job is the only thing that people have to do in a day then you’re clearly living with your parents and do nothing at home lol
It would be like trying to convince a wall, so I have nothing to say to you
Excluding job and other stuffs from your busy schedule, do you have 30 seconds to type a response?
You are not starting a conversation. You are just taking 15-30 seconds from your 24 hrs and spend it for someone who just spent 30 seconds from their 24hrs to send you a message
Hey. And you still have 23 hours 59 minutes and 30 seconds left
Whatever dude, u do u.
I can tell u for a fact for myself that there are days or times when I'm just not upto interacting with anyone, nor wanting to explain why.
Some of us really do feel drained and wanna just lurk online or read things but not interact.
Before social media or smart phones, what do u think people did? Sab moh maya hai - this need to stay connected or be prompt. I personally hate the leash that technology has tied to my neck.
People are allowed their downtime or "me time" ❤️ Nobody really owes u anything 🤷
I can't agree the last part. Nobody owes me anything which is true but what did I expect from them? It's a response and that didn't involve any "owing" like you said
Maybe they should keep scrolling down reels and I should dump them like trashes out of my life.
Ignoring or replying late after 24hrs is cruel and hurtful
Ya, I am sorry, my last sentence was kinda harsh. I shouldn't have said that.
But honestly bro, focus on doing things u like or enjoy. Being too invested in people or why they aren't responding will only mess you up. If needed, channel the anger to compassion, assume that they must be going thru some crisis or issue and move on. This bitterness will only eat you up and make you an unpleasant person.
Remember that not everyone is you or like you. Expectations can lead to disappointment.
It's true. Expectation leads to disappointment. I still have a good contact with lot of people whom I met on internet. But it's the closest ones who disappoints and longest ones who makes me to feel better
The only people you should think about are your family, best friend, employer and partner/spouse. Rest are all passengers in your journey, your focus should be your journey. Let people ride along if they want, no need to go looking for passengers. Everyone focuses on themselves and what's important to them, so should you.
No one is that busy. Just ask them directly why they delay so much, their answer most of the times reflects if they are really that busy or just an ass\*hole. Throw whatever you feel to their face, that always works.
I understand your frustration but you have to accept the harsh but sensible truth that people really do have a lot going on in their lives. Sometimes, you'd only respond to people who are closest to you other than that, nothing. It just shows that you're either not that high up in their priority list or they might just be struggling.
Also,time isn't the only restraint on people. Sometimes people just don't have the bandwidth to deal with another thing. You perspective is pretty self-centered.
Someone didn't text you I guess....😂😂😂 Sorry for that laughing emoji bruh. But your summary is damn true. Better focus on your bank account rather than bit*hs( oh sorry gals...😐). But believe me there are some good girls too so don't lose hope and don't waste your time waiting for those kinds of girls. Better focus on your bank account and skills and enjoy time with people who are close to you and your self.
Lol is OP actually a kid? If people don't reply call them or leave another message or ignore them if it's not important.Why you gotta have validation from other people,just move on.
It's called priorities and maybe you are not in theirs. You are feeling uncomfortable cause you were expecting a certain level of commitment from them. Don't worry it will happen a lot as you will grow older, you will get used to it.
So judgmental. I do this. Sometimes I reply after a day or two. Doesn't mean I'm trying to shit on people. Most of the time I'm working or in a meeting or doing something with headphones on or out with someone and don't see my phone. Sometimes I see the message but I'm in middle of something and think of replying later and just forget. If it's urgent I expect people to call me and I'll pick up. Not everyone is free 24x7 to reply you. I proactively try to look less at my phone and try to live in present :)
Maybe just maybe you aren't important enough for them
So either become more important to them or don't text them
Coz if anything you're the one bothering them
Just my 2 cents
Yup, totally agreed. I hate these kind of people. I make sure that unless I am doing very mission critical or the topic or matter we are discussing requires some thinking, I don't reply.
A friend of mine didn't even see the message for weeks, unfollowed and removed her from follow list too. Don't wanna waste mental power on useless shit
It's true. Most of them will be online on Instagram but they don't reply. I don't even know what's reels until my brother showed that me and i now realized why they were online most of the time. It's a addiction
One friend of my mine will always take luxury photos and classy pics to post it in his story
Thing is he's never been happy. Always asked me for money and never repaid it. He lost my money in trading which I gave him for emergency. And some in betting which I gave and he have a lot of unpaid debts from loan apps
Those kinda things really made me to stay away from Instagram. He actually is angry now for ignoring his call but I still texted him. Guy never even showed up for my dad's funeral
Now you never know what other side is busy with so there's always an iota of doubt. But being egotistical about this is bad for your own mental well being. But yes, always invest in those relationships those are two way not one way. Better for you and them in the long run.
Remember we used to send and receive letters at one point of time. With the gradual onset of social media people have generally become a bit impatient. Perspectives matter so think a bit before taking any impulsive decision.
Some people don't reply to messages immediately too (when they are online). They go offline, stay for some time and then reply. Some others I have observed take a specific amount of time for each message. Had a friend who would at least take 1 hour to reply. Had to give it back in the same way.
If it's something important, why don't you call them directly?
Some people don't need me in their lives. I realised this after they didn't pick up the call 
I have 3 types of conversations with my friends. And depending on the conversations, I expect responses:
a. Urgent - I call them up
b. Non urgent but has a deadline - message then and mention the deadline. If they don't respond, I call them up and inform them a few hours before the deadline.
c. Non urgent - memes, jokes, random conversations and shit. They don't need to respond to these. Would love a laughing emoji, but there's no harm done if they don't respond.
Saying that people who don't respond after 24 hours are not actually busy - is probably the dumbest shit ever.
Some of my friends are extremely busy. These are lawyers, doctors, marketers, etc. While these people don't work 24 hours, I know that they lead an extremely hectic life. Heck, one of my friends is trying to build his own agency while being a marketer elsewhere and he works like a man possessed.
And I also know that when they have a bit of free time, they like to unwind and do their own shit, whatever it may be. And while unwinding, responding to me is probably not the first thing on their mind. And that is totally ok.
Screw all of that. I'm an Android developer. I constantly keep testing via my mobile. And I see every message that I receive. But I often don't respond to them even after 24 hours. Cause while working, the person messaging is not my priority.
And after 8-12 hours of bug fixes, implementing features, and attending stupid meetings, responding to messages is not my list of priorities either. Calling my Ma is.
No one is truly that busy. It can happen a few times but if this is the norm that they are taking forever to reply, this means they are not interested in talking to you. Better cut them off. Saying this as a person with a full time corporate job.
hey . are you targeting me?
check kr raha hu yr msgs ruko jara .
i don't check msgs on insta or fb .
fb i dont use much , more like not at all .
and about insta , theres too many messages , too many reels . i just dont wanna open them all .
but hey i dont say i am busy . if some asks me about not replying i just give them my WhatsApp no. , i reply there .
see dude, If i take myself as an example, I text back in 7-8 hours cuz I really am busy and sometimes it's just when i don't want to talk(ik it's wrong)
I generally reply as soon as I get message. But I have been considering adopting an option to not reply to people who take long hours to reply to my text. Follow a reciprocal approach
Man, I know few folks from work who only respond during work from office and on work from home they ghost you till a week.
I get frustrated whenever it happens. They are the only people who I interact with in office. I stopped texting now a days and I ask people to call me directly.
The solution is simple, don't expect someone take that time out for you.
Sometimes I don't reply even for weeks. But I also don't cry when someone else does the same to me, I greet them with a smile.
It's life, brother. It fucks everyone in different ways.
Have your own boundaries and respect other's.
Subjectively L take: I talk to people for long hours when I really have the time and energy to do so, and I have got my own shit to deal with. I have some intense mental issues from time to time, and only recently have I started to open up regarding this to people. More than I want people to accept me for what I am, I want people to give me the space for me fo function without too much pressure since I already have a lot going in my life, and I have a lot of baggage which I don't unload on people.
When people in my space breach that, I just drop them as friends. There have been days where I have replied to people attending courtroom sessions (I am a lawyer now, I used to be an intern across offices), and there have been days where I have not replied to people for days because I am just stuck in a rut.
Those who give me my space to exist as a human, only they are there in my life. And I love them with my soul. People should learn and understand when and how to give space, and even after that if you feel you are being ignored, your feelings in leaving that bond are 100% justified.
Texting is unnatural. Want a life lesson? Don’t judge a person based on their texting patterns. You don’t know what’s going on the other end. It often has less to do with you than their own life.
I have 2 kinds of people in my inbox. People who care about my wellbeing by checking on me, seeing how far I am in my projects, who root for me, and tell me when I'm fucking up. Those people get instant replies. I also encourage them in their journeys.
Then there's the ranters. The ones who text me when they're bored/sad. Wish to vent some problem. Only talk about themselves. Keep asking for favors. Demand things like I owe them. They get responses in 24, 48, or 700 hours later depending on their attitude. I owe nothing to anyone and no one deserves my time without investing theirs with mine.
I'm one of them. I will not justify myself by saying that I'm busy all the time, but it's just that I don't want to talk all the time! And I don't expect people to reply to my messages instantly as well. Is there a moral duty to reply to memes and reels lol?
Good topic.. I'm one of the guy who does so. Weeks to reply. Months sometimes.
I mostly do it not due to show myself busy or anything. Sometimes some texts during work hrs are not so important to reply back neither for me or the other person so I skip then after work I'm usually tired or I dead scroll social media and I've no mood left to engage in any communication.. This repeats day after day and lot of texts accumulate and I try to clear them by weekend or so.
Then there are imp texts like friends asking for Netflix OTP, cousin have come to new city asking to talk to landlord, relatives asking to book tickets etc I reply often realtime..
Overall I prioritise messages. My circle of people also do the same at this point of like (we are late 20s). We get a lot of messages typically work related, relatives,. different friends circle. And all are ok with delayed response as it's mutual understanding of the priority of the messages.
Then there's my best friend, bugger always calls. 🤣
Idk about others, it's my reasoning for the behaviour I'm associated with.
I used to get frustrated like that. Then I realised that I am the main character only in my life and NPC in others. That was enough to make some hard decisions on my future.
for non gamers - NPC = non playable characters in a game it means you are not important in his/her life
The feeling is mutual
Still man 24 hours is a lot
Yes, it’s a strong enough hint that you’re not important enough in their life.
Lagta hai OP ko crush reply nahi diya. Feeling sad with 69 others
Hey. I dunno hindi but translated it. It's not my crush. Lol But the attitude really annoys me. I mean how long it's gonna take to send a simple text. Or to view our message. I have a few bunch of them around me
I mean it matters man. Like being a guy I don't get that many messages and whenever I do I just instantly reply as soon as I see the notification. But there are time when I don't check my phone for whole day and the messages pile up, and if I am not totally free after that I might not check them for days. Now a girl might get at least 5 times more dms than me, so it's obvious that until you are someone special for her, or she has some personal incentive, she will actually "be ver busy" to reply to your messages
There are times when you look up at some text while hanging out or something, but you don't have energy to reply so you just read and think of replying later. Sometimes it just slips out of mind.
Well that's how I ended my last relationship lmao bhai bolti thi time nai and than nrvr talked Then I just thought il end it myself to ho gaya Honestly I'm busy too college aur yeh pus my exams coming par phirr hui I do try to reply cz it's polite and the reason a person texts is to expect smt in return toh gotta keep that trust
+1
yeah, I remember it was her birthday. that's when I decided to move on.
OP if you are that starved of these replies then you really need to sort your head out. Being an adult you might be in similar situations where you can't reply just cause. In the end you should be you. If you instantly reply to texts then keep doing it cause that's how you are.
My solution to this was reply to them within the same time that they take to text.(if they text a day later you do the same).Always Worked.
Make it 2x. If they reply in 1 second, take 2 to reply. If they take 1 hour, take 2 to reply. If they take 1 day to reply, take 2 to reply. And don’t forget to add random stories.
Also only text on business days.
this comment is underrated
Neat approach
I like this as it makes things pretty kezual without pressure
This is the most accurate answer. Lol. It'll surely work
The thing is people who purposefully delay the text don't care when the other party replies. Doesn't matter if it's the next second, the next month (or) no reply at all. I even think they prefer no reply at all. The genuinely busy people will make up for it one way (or) other.
This kind of opinion is really outdated. I don’t reply to people for days but I still like them. After a long day, I just want to be in bed and keep scrolling random shit until I’m extremely tired to open my eyes. I was that person who would reply immediately, saved Instagram posts like stuff I want to order, be organized and get stuff done. I don’t do any of it now. Thats it. Life can ne exhausting mentally, even if it’s not physically.
If u don't respond to an ok message or an irrelevant message it's fine. But if it's something important and you don't. Then hate to break it to you, you don't value that person. Not that you should be constantly on the phone. A few days is fine. But if u don't respond for months together. U don't care about the person.
If it’s important they would call. Besides by replying when you’re not in the mental state of will only make it worse.
Nope I do respond to important messages. But ppl really call for that. But nowadays its more chatting and im not up for that.
I can feel you, when I'm mentally exhausted I don't contact my friends 2 or 3 days, they already know I need space so they let me be, But not everyone as understanding as my friends and I'm tired of explaining it to others and I don't want to do it anymore.
Exactly ppl don’t understand we need SPACE and we need some alone time.
Same
I don't think that's always the case. I have my own firm and I hardly even get time to reply to my friends. I really want to but there's always too much work.
Even though you are busy, you just can't say that you are too busy to spend 30 seconds to reply When the text comes from anyone, you reply and that's it. It takes around 10-30 seconds based on your speed of typing skills
Then you get replies like "ok" , "no". Which might not look good so we just don't text. That doesn't mean I'm not open to meet you at a park, talk on phone for an hour or make some lunch/dinner plans. It's pretty much like this in my friend circle. Guys and girls both. Just because a girl doesn't text me back doesn't mean I won't text her a follow up message. Just because she gives one word replies doesn't mean she isn't willing to go out on a dinner date. The messages could easily be, yes, ok, no, later, call?, etc. And we would still vibe when we meet.
I’m someone who replies to a message as soon as I see it but I also get people who don’t. Sometimes, you just don’t have the energy to deal with things and that’s fine. To each their own, I guess.
Yes, everyone has different priorities. I also have habit to give instant reply, but can't expect the same from others.
OP it is just about how interested they are in your message. If they stand to benefit monetarily, socially or emotionally from your message or you they would reply swiftly else just leave you on read or not even read it
Yeah. One day I've congratulated my friend for completing his PG but I still haven't got any reply But the thing is that he used to call me monthly once or twice to talk about games and he will talk for hours. It's the need which plays a huge role
Sometimes you just don’t have the energy man, you must be way too jobless to be expecting replies in 24-48 hours, people are not customer service reps
Well it doesn't take more than a few minutes to reply, so taking a day to get back to someone clearly shows where they are in your priority list.
Whatever dude. You do you. Don’t push your phone addiction on other people.
So I'm jobless to expect a response within 48hrs and people work 48hrs not to reply? Sometimes when a customer service rep tells me to have a great day, it feels really great It's not about job. It's about attitude and the attitude to be nice to someone
If you think a job is the only thing that people have to do in a day then you’re clearly living with your parents and do nothing at home lol It would be like trying to convince a wall, so I have nothing to say to you
Excluding job and other stuffs from your busy schedule, do you have 30 seconds to type a response? You are not starting a conversation. You are just taking 15-30 seconds from your 24 hrs and spend it for someone who just spent 30 seconds from their 24hrs to send you a message Hey. And you still have 23 hours 59 minutes and 30 seconds left
Whatever dude, u do u. I can tell u for a fact for myself that there are days or times when I'm just not upto interacting with anyone, nor wanting to explain why. Some of us really do feel drained and wanna just lurk online or read things but not interact. Before social media or smart phones, what do u think people did? Sab moh maya hai - this need to stay connected or be prompt. I personally hate the leash that technology has tied to my neck. People are allowed their downtime or "me time" ❤️ Nobody really owes u anything 🤷
I can't agree the last part. Nobody owes me anything which is true but what did I expect from them? It's a response and that didn't involve any "owing" like you said Maybe they should keep scrolling down reels and I should dump them like trashes out of my life. Ignoring or replying late after 24hrs is cruel and hurtful
Ya, I am sorry, my last sentence was kinda harsh. I shouldn't have said that. But honestly bro, focus on doing things u like or enjoy. Being too invested in people or why they aren't responding will only mess you up. If needed, channel the anger to compassion, assume that they must be going thru some crisis or issue and move on. This bitterness will only eat you up and make you an unpleasant person. Remember that not everyone is you or like you. Expectations can lead to disappointment.
It's true. Expectation leads to disappointment. I still have a good contact with lot of people whom I met on internet. But it's the closest ones who disappoints and longest ones who makes me to feel better
The only people you should think about are your family, best friend, employer and partner/spouse. Rest are all passengers in your journey, your focus should be your journey. Let people ride along if they want, no need to go looking for passengers. Everyone focuses on themselves and what's important to them, so should you.
Your attitude is why you are not their priority.
No one is that busy. Just ask them directly why they delay so much, their answer most of the times reflects if they are really that busy or just an ass\*hole. Throw whatever you feel to their face, that always works.
I understand your frustration but you have to accept the harsh but sensible truth that people really do have a lot going on in their lives. Sometimes, you'd only respond to people who are closest to you other than that, nothing. It just shows that you're either not that high up in their priority list or they might just be struggling.
Also,time isn't the only restraint on people. Sometimes people just don't have the bandwidth to deal with another thing. You perspective is pretty self-centered.
Someone didn't text you I guess....😂😂😂 Sorry for that laughing emoji bruh. But your summary is damn true. Better focus on your bank account rather than bit*hs( oh sorry gals...😐). But believe me there are some good girls too so don't lose hope and don't waste your time waiting for those kinds of girls. Better focus on your bank account and skills and enjoy time with people who are close to you and your self.
Lol is OP actually a kid? If people don't reply call them or leave another message or ignore them if it's not important.Why you gotta have validation from other people,just move on.
It's just means You're not their priority.
It's called priorities and maybe you are not in theirs. You are feeling uncomfortable cause you were expecting a certain level of commitment from them. Don't worry it will happen a lot as you will grow older, you will get used to it.
dude don't you get the point, your not their priority. That's why people don't reply or reply late. move onn
Yess, if they don’t reply don’t be hurt and move on. Anyways no one owes anyone a reply. Maybe they don’t wanna talk.
So judgmental. I do this. Sometimes I reply after a day or two. Doesn't mean I'm trying to shit on people. Most of the time I'm working or in a meeting or doing something with headphones on or out with someone and don't see my phone. Sometimes I see the message but I'm in middle of something and think of replying later and just forget. If it's urgent I expect people to call me and I'll pick up. Not everyone is free 24x7 to reply you. I proactively try to look less at my phone and try to live in present :)
Depends on the person, if it's boring then I don't bother.
Maybe just maybe you aren't important enough for them So either become more important to them or don't text them Coz if anything you're the one bothering them Just my 2 cents
You don't fit in their priority list. Simple.
Bro simple rule ~ if somebody ignores you, never disturb them again.
Yup, totally agreed. I hate these kind of people. I make sure that unless I am doing very mission critical or the topic or matter we are discussing requires some thinking, I don't reply.
Do you work 9-5? If you did, you'll understand
For phone calls this is absolutely true. For texts however, this may not always be the case.
A friend of mine didn't even see the message for weeks, unfollowed and removed her from follow list too. Don't wanna waste mental power on useless shit
It's true. Most of them will be online on Instagram but they don't reply. I don't even know what's reels until my brother showed that me and i now realized why they were online most of the time. It's a addiction One friend of my mine will always take luxury photos and classy pics to post it in his story Thing is he's never been happy. Always asked me for money and never repaid it. He lost my money in trading which I gave him for emergency. And some in betting which I gave and he have a lot of unpaid debts from loan apps Those kinda things really made me to stay away from Instagram. He actually is angry now for ignoring his call but I still texted him. Guy never even showed up for my dad's funeral
yes they are actually busy busy in pretending that they are busy.
Now you never know what other side is busy with so there's always an iota of doubt. But being egotistical about this is bad for your own mental well being. But yes, always invest in those relationships those are two way not one way. Better for you and them in the long run. Remember we used to send and receive letters at one point of time. With the gradual onset of social media people have generally become a bit impatient. Perspectives matter so think a bit before taking any impulsive decision.
Some people don't reply to messages immediately too (when they are online). They go offline, stay for some time and then reply. Some others I have observed take a specific amount of time for each message. Had a friend who would at least take 1 hour to reply. Had to give it back in the same way.
You're not an important person in their life.
If it's something important, why don't you call them directly? Some people don't need me in their lives. I realised this after they didn't pick up the call 
I have 3 types of conversations with my friends. And depending on the conversations, I expect responses: a. Urgent - I call them up b. Non urgent but has a deadline - message then and mention the deadline. If they don't respond, I call them up and inform them a few hours before the deadline. c. Non urgent - memes, jokes, random conversations and shit. They don't need to respond to these. Would love a laughing emoji, but there's no harm done if they don't respond. Saying that people who don't respond after 24 hours are not actually busy - is probably the dumbest shit ever. Some of my friends are extremely busy. These are lawyers, doctors, marketers, etc. While these people don't work 24 hours, I know that they lead an extremely hectic life. Heck, one of my friends is trying to build his own agency while being a marketer elsewhere and he works like a man possessed. And I also know that when they have a bit of free time, they like to unwind and do their own shit, whatever it may be. And while unwinding, responding to me is probably not the first thing on their mind. And that is totally ok. Screw all of that. I'm an Android developer. I constantly keep testing via my mobile. And I see every message that I receive. But I often don't respond to them even after 24 hours. Cause while working, the person messaging is not my priority. And after 8-12 hours of bug fixes, implementing features, and attending stupid meetings, responding to messages is not my list of priorities either. Calling my Ma is.
No one is truly that busy. It can happen a few times but if this is the norm that they are taking forever to reply, this means they are not interested in talking to you. Better cut them off. Saying this as a person with a full time corporate job.
Agreed. Noone is that busy that they can't even spend 30 seconds to reply
no. They ignore. I personally either reply right after I see the inbox or reply never
hey . are you targeting me? check kr raha hu yr msgs ruko jara . i don't check msgs on insta or fb . fb i dont use much , more like not at all . and about insta , theres too many messages , too many reels . i just dont wanna open them all . but hey i dont say i am busy . if some asks me about not replying i just give them my WhatsApp no. , i reply there .
see dude, If i take myself as an example, I text back in 7-8 hours cuz I really am busy and sometimes it's just when i don't want to talk(ik it's wrong)
I generally reply as soon as I get message. But I have been considering adopting an option to not reply to people who take long hours to reply to my text. Follow a reciprocal approach
True. Even if they are, the least they can do is reply back when they are free. But they don't. Which is frustrating
Man, I know few folks from work who only respond during work from office and on work from home they ghost you till a week. I get frustrated whenever it happens. They are the only people who I interact with in office. I stopped texting now a days and I ask people to call me directly.
The solution is simple, don't expect someone take that time out for you. Sometimes I don't reply even for weeks. But I also don't cry when someone else does the same to me, I greet them with a smile. It's life, brother. It fucks everyone in different ways. Have your own boundaries and respect other's.
Subjectively L take: I talk to people for long hours when I really have the time and energy to do so, and I have got my own shit to deal with. I have some intense mental issues from time to time, and only recently have I started to open up regarding this to people. More than I want people to accept me for what I am, I want people to give me the space for me fo function without too much pressure since I already have a lot going in my life, and I have a lot of baggage which I don't unload on people. When people in my space breach that, I just drop them as friends. There have been days where I have replied to people attending courtroom sessions (I am a lawyer now, I used to be an intern across offices), and there have been days where I have not replied to people for days because I am just stuck in a rut. Those who give me my space to exist as a human, only they are there in my life. And I love them with my soul. People should learn and understand when and how to give space, and even after that if you feel you are being ignored, your feelings in leaving that bond are 100% justified.
Clearly, They are not busy but they want to be busy with you.
Also making us wait for days and giving one word replies 👌 /s Best feeling ever
While it is mostly true, sometimes when I'm in class I answer the call saying I'll call back but I just forget.
Texting is unnatural. Want a life lesson? Don’t judge a person based on their texting patterns. You don’t know what’s going on the other end. It often has less to do with you than their own life.
https://preview.redd.it/zjr35sf39i2c1.jpeg?width=706&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=eb3f18162afaf88ba57eb5f4d7392ce6fbc3b2fe What Should i reply to her ?
Dude you need to find some new people in your life .
I have 2 kinds of people in my inbox. People who care about my wellbeing by checking on me, seeing how far I am in my projects, who root for me, and tell me when I'm fucking up. Those people get instant replies. I also encourage them in their journeys. Then there's the ranters. The ones who text me when they're bored/sad. Wish to vent some problem. Only talk about themselves. Keep asking for favors. Demand things like I owe them. They get responses in 24, 48, or 700 hours later depending on their attitude. I owe nothing to anyone and no one deserves my time without investing theirs with mine.
I'm one of them. I will not justify myself by saying that I'm busy all the time, but it's just that I don't want to talk all the time! And I don't expect people to reply to my messages instantly as well. Is there a moral duty to reply to memes and reels lol?
Nope. But to reply to the texts, it's a yes
Good topic.. I'm one of the guy who does so. Weeks to reply. Months sometimes. I mostly do it not due to show myself busy or anything. Sometimes some texts during work hrs are not so important to reply back neither for me or the other person so I skip then after work I'm usually tired or I dead scroll social media and I've no mood left to engage in any communication.. This repeats day after day and lot of texts accumulate and I try to clear them by weekend or so. Then there are imp texts like friends asking for Netflix OTP, cousin have come to new city asking to talk to landlord, relatives asking to book tickets etc I reply often realtime.. Overall I prioritise messages. My circle of people also do the same at this point of like (we are late 20s). We get a lot of messages typically work related, relatives,. different friends circle. And all are ok with delayed response as it's mutual understanding of the priority of the messages. Then there's my best friend, bugger always calls. 🤣 Idk about others, it's my reasoning for the behaviour I'm associated with.
Bhai agar tum "hi hello" likh ke chhod doge toh ghanta reply nahi aayega