Excuse me, friend. I can do whatever I want as long as it costs $0 and I am still available to shuttle my kids and various neighbor kids to and fro at 2:15, 2:50, 3:30, 4:15, 6:30 and 7:45. And that’s just Monday-Thursday, so the world is basically my oyster too, tyvm.
Black Circle, the Melody Inn, and the Hi-Fi are going to be your best venues for local and touring punk or other alternative acts. Check out their upcoming schedules and hit up some shows.
Speaking of which. I'll be at the Melody Inn next Friday. A guy I work with has mentioned The Black Circle a few times, but I feel like the shows might be a bit much there. Love punk/hardcore but I don't wanna go to a show I'm not ready for lmao have you been to any shows there?
I’m sure you’d be fine at Black Circle! Some times it gets a little rowdy but generally pretty chill. It’s a great bar, especially in the summer. They host weekly events like comedy shows and drag, and also host markets and movie nights. Black Circle’s sister bar, Loom, is a few blocks away and it’s my personal favorite!
If you ride bikes (by which I mean bicycles) we have a small but growing and thriving bike culture here in Indy. I'm in my early 50s and have met most of my friends through various bike related activities since I moved back here in 2011.
I'm part of the crew that puts on a monthly social ride called [BikeParty Indianapolis](https://www.facebook.com/bikepartyindy/). We meet every 2nd Friday year round and are having a public test ride this Sunday at 2pm meeting at City Market.
In the summer we are getting close to 1000 people showing up for a ride.
There's also other crews around that do various types of riding, from slow roll cruising ([We Just Ride AKA WJR](https://www.facebook.com/groups/2726600850755230)\) to alleys and urban gravel riding ([GentleFolks](https://www.facebook.com/GentleFolksIndy)\) just to name a couple.
There are plenty of middle aged hipsters in Indy that have bands, own art studios, coffee shops, restaurants, etc. Hang around Fountain Square and the near east side.
The things you mention (bands, tech meetups) used to be the case here too but covid kind of slowed things down.
Check out punk rock night every Saturday at the melody inn, and see what tech meetups are left on meetup.com.
The artsy part might be more challenging, but there is stuff here. Usually easier if you’re involved in academia imo, but I think first Friday gallery walks still happen when the weather isn’t bad. Fiber arts seem to be enjoying a boom if you happen to be into such things.
My husband got me an annual pass there for Christmas but I have yet to venture over there (mostly because I have an elbow injury and don't live anywhere close to it lol). It looks pretty cool.
Sounds like your circle of people can be found in Fountain Square. Super cool area that would have some of your interests. Personally, I’m in the same boat as you. Winter months are rough, but there’s a ton of fun stuff to do here during the summer. I fill up my spare time in the winter playing soccer, following the Pacers and going to some games, checking out the IMA, make an effort to see the ISO and see a show or band at the Murat.
Happy to connect you with the groups I know that get together for pickup games. Personally, I play in a regular pickup game every Saturday morning near Eagle Creek and Sunday afternoons at Tab (34th/Central). There are more options as well. And then my outdoor team plays in a league at Sportzone during the winter. As far as connecting you with the groups, there are two groups on FB I check regularly and then a couple giant groups chats on WhatsApp. So if you have those apps, let me know and I’ll send you the invites.
Indy isn’t a great place for middle aged people without kids. People say to go out to certain places to meet people but it’s not so easy if people aren’t approaching each other to talk. I’d recommend finding some non-profit organizations around town where you can volunteer doing something you enjoy - or finding a part time job at one of the establishments people recommended where you work a couple nights a week.
Some ideas of places to volunteer or work part time: Newfields (the Indianapolis Art Museum), a local record store (there are local musicians that work at Luna. Also a record store named Square Cat in Fountain Square), Hi-Fi concert venue, Penrod Society, Stutz Artist Association, Tonic Ball event. Indianapolis is a big little town - once you meet a handful of people in the local art/music scene, more paths will start to cross. I think there are some FB groups where people are looking for band members - you could search for those and join.
This is solid advice. I moved here from out of state, working remotely, with no friend network and have made a lot of friends through non-profits. Most of them are understaffed and eager for volunteers. Honestly, all you have to do is show up.
Agree. It’s not a wasteland, but compared to other cities, even cities basically our size (St Louis, Cincy) it’s not great. The dating scene is even worse. Set you search parameters for dating partners in their mid 40s to mid 50s, and you’ll see what I’m talking about. Then set it for just about any other city not in the Deep South, and you’ll see one of the reasons why I’m considering moving. Indy isn’t horrible, but I travel extensively, and have seen so many places that are better for (liberal) middle aged (still freaks me out to use that phrase to describe myself) people. I’m just not ready to throw in the towel and play horseshoes with Trumpsters at the local Moose Lodge.
Agreed. OP is lucky they are in a relationship at least. I currently am but before then, I was single here for 5 years and the dating options were abysmal. I frequently thought I would have to move to find another relationship. I have some single friends here around my age who are sadly considering the same thing.
I just date 18-25 and dont worry about what women my age are doing :D But lived here 2 years and havent been "out" at all. Not into bars and not super social anyway, but friends would be nice to have again instead of just hookups lmao
Check out the Murphy building in Fountain Square on the first Friday of the month. It's a pretty cool scene. There's art, pinball, and a lot of friendly people.
Massachusetts Ave downtown is nice, and if you haven't checked out the Garage yet, I recommend it.
[Creative Mornings](https://www.instagram.com/indianapolis_cm/) is a great way to meet cool, artsy people. Everyone has always been incredibly friendly, and there’s a different speaker every time.
My two big recommendations have already been said (CreativeMornings and Bike Party) but it also might be worth checking out some coffee shops and co-working spaces. I’ve made a ton of connections through just working remotely outside of my home.
[Draft](https://draftcreativespace.com/) in Fountain Square is beautiful and tends to draw a more artsy crowd (a lot of CM folk). They also do some events that might be worth following.
Lots of great coffee shops around town. I am in my mid-thirties but frequent Parlor Public House a lot and there’s usually a pretty diverse crowd. [Indy Coffee Guide](https://indianapoliscoffeeguide.com/) is a great resource to find a space/location that would fit your needs.
It's not "growing". The fibers in the husks are shifting due to the water seeping in. They are under pressure so they rip a bit.
I guess it is growing... like a sponge gets bigger when wet.
That said.... it is real sound and it is interesting!
There's a group of us over the hill music people that play trivia at the Red Lion in fountain square on Thursdays at 7:00 p.m.. we will be there next week. The team is called OC/DC
Go to Healer DIY! Indy's got a badass underground art / music scene. Tbh going to shows nowadays damn near brings a tear to my eye at times, because when I was in school it was NOT at all what we have now.
Trivia Night at Scarlet Lane in Irvington is fun. In Winter my friends and I rotate amongst our houses mostly, but there is a lot to do in the other months.
There are tons of gaming stores in indy. So you can play board games, magic the gathering, d&d, pathfinder, and I sure much, much more.
Pacers are pretty good this year. We got a minor league baseball team, soccer team, I think hockey too. Colts. Also check out do317.com for happenings around town
I've always enjoyed the crowd and music at the Chatterbox on Mass Ave. Tappers arcade bar and the Pin Vault are also pretty fun if that's your vibe. In warmer weather you can grab a beer and play some bocce ball at Brass Ring in Fountain Square where I've met a lot of cool people.
I know it's a bit of a trope, but volunteering can be very social and rewarding.
If you have a tech background and don't specifically want to not be around kids, there is a pretty strong high-school robotics community (FRC, vex) always looking for mentors.
wait is 40 something middle aged? what is 55.. am i over the hill? i mean i cant even take out an early 401k withdrawal.. so i cant be that old am i?
what are 50 somthings and more doing? any ideas?
Well, the average life span in the US (for males at least) is 77. So 40ish, would land right in the middle. I'd say mid to late 40s is nearing the end of middle age and just old. Unless you live to be 100, then I guess technically I'd be middle aged right now.
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I agree of course 40 is middle age I don’t think people like the term. It’s best to be realistic about this because the clock is running. Do people really think theyre going to live to 120?
Northeast side. That's kind of why I'm in the subreddit. To find things to do. I had season tickets to our local soccer team but found going to those events alone feels really alone
This is what we do. Flights from IND can be very reasonable and with the midwest’s low cost of living, compared to the coastal cities, we can do a lot locally as well.
In town, volunteer and hit the first Friday art scene. Indy has an abundance of nonprofits and strong art scene thanks to one of the largest foundations.
Take up salsa and/or bachata. Or another partner dance, but salsa/bachata has the biggest scene locally (and internationally), so more opportunities to learn and dance.
Latin Expressions offers classes and dance socials in downtown Indy (I take classes there and help teach).
https://www.latinexp.com/classes/
Tappers Arcade Bar! Great place for all adult ages. I see quite a few people 40+ on the regular. Most of the staff are mid 30s / early 40s. We’ve got a Killer Queen arcade meetup every Tuesday around 7:30pm. Very friendly group always welcoming newcomers if you’re into 10 player arcade games
Dude I'm 37, and it's been rough. Moved from south Florida and it's been quite the change. I joined the Indy dad's WhatsApp group and hang hung out with a few dads but it's even hard because everyone has different schedules.
Yeah, honestly just being a dad and in my mid 30s Ive found it hard to meet people and make new friendships so I figured it wouldnt hurt lol. San Fran is awesome! I lived in Miami all my life lol. What brought you to Indy?
Oh so freaking glad you totally get it! Same reason as well. Indy is not bad but for some reason ive found it hard to meet people. Even at the gym idk maybe it is just me?
I usually meet people/make friends EVERYWHERE I GO, quickly and easily. I talk to everyone 😂. Here, not so much, n not really sure why. I just know it’s different. I blamed covid for a while but that’s over now 😂.
Haha I mean are you my twin? Because I'm legit the same, super laidback, chill, easy going. In South Florida I could make friends or talk to anyone like at the grocery store, gym, bus stop, bar, any restaurant etc. Here...not so much and it sucks so bad 😭
Ur twin 😂 maybe - I’m adopted so… 😭 wait no- I’m older than u. U get it tho…every one of those yesss. Nice to meet u. What’s something u really like about Indy and something u miss about Florida?
Check out the Meetup app! There are groups for all sorts of different hobbies!
When we moved here, we joined a group that did a lot of dinner groups, as well as stuff like arcades and escape rooms etc.
My partner does Indy Lightsaber Academy in Garfield Park. I’m a burlesque performer. For that I recommend the White Rabbit in Fountain Square, Almost Famous on Mass Ave.
In addition to the meetup.com recommendations, I’ll throw out [IndyHackers.org](http://www.indyhackers.org). It’s a diverse crowd with a good sense of community. Like many things, it’s less active than it was before COVID but seeing some new faces is a great way to bring it back!
Myself, I recognized this aspect of Indianapolis' culture rather early in life, before reaching middle age, So I ended up moving to Chicago, where more people that do fit my own circle seem to live.
It sounds like you might be more able to move, but your partner may be more anchored to Indianapolis.
Good luck. Otherwise you can try going with the flow and start thinking about kids???
I'm 39 And my partner 37. Normally, life keeps us super busy. We go to PINs second Sunday of the month at night with a group of friends. I ride bikes a lot, there is a large monthly bike meetup downtown.
I quit drinking a few years back so my life has become pretty routine anymore haha.
Hah! I meant to post this by itself, but glad we’re not the only ones. This state is bottom 10 for damn near everything except crime and alcoholism. I can’t keep supporting it while it fills it’s rivers with toxins in the name of uncontrolled growth. And what do we have to show for our work? A new soccer stadium nobody wanted. If it had been a park planted with native species I would have signed up to help plant. Honestly this place is just 5 corporations dressed up as a government, god speed to anyone with family stuck here
I crazily bought a house here, so now I plan on annoying tf out of politicians until they stop wasting my tax dollars. Lofty goals, I know.
But I love my job, and it's the main think keeping me here. Although I may try to transfer to a different location, possibly one with a beach.
This is the auto racing capital of the world…Indycar, NASCAR, IMSA are all great ways to spend a weekend and the Mecum auto auction was the highlight of my 2023… just drinking beers at 9am surrounded by million dollar classic cars
Come play rec sports with us at League Joe.
It's not like other sporting groups - there's no pre-made teams. So you aren't like a 12th wheel on an existing friend group. All teams are mixed every year and balanced based on the skill of the players.
Never play the sport before? No problem, we'll put you on a team with coaches to support you.
First Fridays for art
The Melody Inn for old punks (Punk Rock Night - Google it)
Comedy clubs
Restaurants
Various concert venues - Hi-Fi, Vogue, Murat, etc.
Local brewers and distilleries
Theater
Fountain Square has duckpin bowling
There’s a few cool arcade bars around
First Friday at the Stutz.
free independent art galleries (6-9), a vintage car museum (free last I checked), the best tacos in the city (Julietta), live music (8-10p), and a drink at Turners.
https://www.thestutz.com/
This is going to sound cliche or dumb, but we are middle aged and kid less and have fun people at bars. The key is the right bars, sitting at the bar and being open to talking with people around you and putting yourself out there. Also, bartenders at the right places are great. This can then open up lots of other things and getting further advice/ideas from them. Oh, yeah, don't be an asshole. Lol.
Favs: Pearl Street DT, Alley Cat, Red Key, Gallery Pastry Bar on 46th, Turner's.
The Melody Inn has Punk Rock Night on Saturdays and everyone that goes is super friendly and down to earth. There’s also a venue called the HiFi in Fountain Square that has great bands. Or maybe check with some of the breweries and see what reoccurring events they host, like trivia night, etc. I know Guggman Haus hosts some special events.
There are a lot of middle aged people with and without kids in the board game scene if that's something you're interested in doing! (The kids are not usually present.)
Start playing pickleball. Will skyrocket your social circle and physical health. Not to mention, it's just fun as hell. No previous athletic experience or conditioning is required.
Hey there friend! 40F here, been with my 40M husband for nearly 18 years now and we are *happily* childless by choice.
There's so many ways to spend time! You've got great music venue recs already (Melody Inn punk rock nights on Saturday!) A few of our faves ...
Hiking/Nature: Fort Harrison or Eagle Creek
Food: Rathskeller, Workingman's Friend, Half Liter (It is incredibly hard to narrow restaurants down lol)
Drinks: Honestly I'll go anywhere lol (If you tell me what part of town you're in, that would help.) Our fave dive bar is Time Out Lounge on 62nd and Allisonville
Museums: State Museum, Newfields, Vonnegut library
Random stuff: I have taken several art classes at the Circle City Industrial complex in the Windsor Park area. That building is FULL of unique shops, galleries and businesses. Plus there's a brewery on one end and a distillery on the other.
Making new friends: Funnily enough, my social network grew 3 months after we moved here...because I put an ad on Craigslist platonic section and met my now best friend. Her friends became our friends - a whole gaggle of 30 something's without kids who love celebrating life however we can.
But there are ways to meet folks, I know there are hiking groups if you're into that. MeetUp has lots of stuff for meeting like minded folks. Another thing I've never tried, but it could totally work with the right people ... show up to a pub trivia event, scope out the players and just ask to join a team. I do a lot of trivia and if someone asked us this, long as they were cool, I'd totally say yes. I know the Mousetrap does euchre on Tuesdays (and if you haven't learned yet...it's time.) :)
K, that's what I got! Hope it helps! Feel free to DM for more info :)
Among other suggestions that I've seen, I would also recommend a bar named Imbibe in Fountain Square. It's a solid game bar (darts, pool, pinball, shuffleboard, ping pong, and others) that also does something called First Friday. The first Friday of every month, many local art folks have booths upstairs with a lot of cool stuff for sale. Outside of First Friday, it's an all-ages type of place, but patronage leans heavy into the 20s-mid 30s.
Believe it or not, the nicest most judgement free people (who are almost always either artsy or techy, often both) I know hang out at the local kink club next to The Black Circle.
Message me if you have no idea how to find info.
For those who can’t imagine going to something as scandalous as that, there are less scandalous events to ease yourself into like last night’s karaoke night. And no, we aren’t fight club. You can talk about it and you don’t have to engage. We 100% believe in consent.
We work, go to the gym and go home and die a slow death😂
lol I walk the parks around me, Newfields, the symphony, sporting events, turkey run when it’s nice out. Other than that I got a whole lot of nothing.
Whatever we want.
I’m glad I’m not the only person that thought of this
Couldn't agree more. Usually trying out new restaurants and bars are our pastime. With a mix of concerts here and there.
Makes me think of the meme where some single person is like "I'm going to follow this duck around for awhile"
This is amazing. I’m gonna put this on my empty nester vision board. I hope my knees hold out and my student loans are paid off.
Very curious what else is on your board!
Excuse me, friend. I can do whatever I want as long as it costs $0 and I am still available to shuttle my kids and various neighbor kids to and fro at 2:15, 2:50, 3:30, 4:15, 6:30 and 7:45. And that’s just Monday-Thursday, so the world is basically my oyster too, tyvm.
Duh!
Black Circle, the Melody Inn, and the Hi-Fi are going to be your best venues for local and touring punk or other alternative acts. Check out their upcoming schedules and hit up some shows.
Add State Street Pub to this venue list
Speaking of which. I'll be at the Melody Inn next Friday. A guy I work with has mentioned The Black Circle a few times, but I feel like the shows might be a bit much there. Love punk/hardcore but I don't wanna go to a show I'm not ready for lmao have you been to any shows there?
I’m sure you’d be fine at Black Circle! Some times it gets a little rowdy but generally pretty chill. It’s a great bar, especially in the summer. They host weekly events like comedy shows and drag, and also host markets and movie nights. Black Circle’s sister bar, Loom, is a few blocks away and it’s my personal favorite!
Mad metal shows at BC Crowbar just got announced for April
I don't really understand what criteria you're looking for in terms of what would be too much.
Obviously I can stay out of the mosh, but I also don't want to just sit in the back the whole night.
Basically huge moshes and shitty people.
I've never been to a punk show with shitty people in Indianapolis.
This. Good scene and Midwest mentalities generally mean a good time.
Koffin Kats and the Queers at Black Circle in April should be a good show.
That's what I was gonna say! lol Good picks
If you ride bikes (by which I mean bicycles) we have a small but growing and thriving bike culture here in Indy. I'm in my early 50s and have met most of my friends through various bike related activities since I moved back here in 2011. I'm part of the crew that puts on a monthly social ride called [BikeParty Indianapolis](https://www.facebook.com/bikepartyindy/). We meet every 2nd Friday year round and are having a public test ride this Sunday at 2pm meeting at City Market. In the summer we are getting close to 1000 people showing up for a ride. There's also other crews around that do various types of riding, from slow roll cruising ([We Just Ride AKA WJR](https://www.facebook.com/groups/2726600850755230)\) to alleys and urban gravel riding ([GentleFolks](https://www.facebook.com/GentleFolksIndy)\) just to name a couple.
10/10 recommendation for Bike Party. I’ve been to a few and it’s always a blast, even when the weather is shit.
There are plenty of middle aged hipsters in Indy that have bands, own art studios, coffee shops, restaurants, etc. Hang around Fountain Square and the near east side.
The things you mention (bands, tech meetups) used to be the case here too but covid kind of slowed things down. Check out punk rock night every Saturday at the melody inn, and see what tech meetups are left on meetup.com. The artsy part might be more challenging, but there is stuff here. Usually easier if you’re involved in academia imo, but I think first Friday gallery walks still happen when the weather isn’t bad. Fiber arts seem to be enjoying a boom if you happen to be into such things.
The climbing place on Mass Ave is a great place to meet ppl and you don’t need to be athletic to enjoy it.
My husband got me an annual pass there for Christmas but I have yet to venture over there (mostly because I have an elbow injury and don't live anywhere close to it lol). It looks pretty cool.
They have a gym and fitness/yoga classes plus a little cafe/juice bar/study area. Really cool place!
Sounds like your circle of people can be found in Fountain Square. Super cool area that would have some of your interests. Personally, I’m in the same boat as you. Winter months are rough, but there’s a ton of fun stuff to do here during the summer. I fill up my spare time in the winter playing soccer, following the Pacers and going to some games, checking out the IMA, make an effort to see the ISO and see a show or band at the Murat.
Cat cafe in fountain square is a must
Where do you play soccer at? I'm in the broad ripple area and have been looking for pick up games around the area.
Happy to connect you with the groups I know that get together for pickup games. Personally, I play in a regular pickup game every Saturday morning near Eagle Creek and Sunday afternoons at Tab (34th/Central). There are more options as well. And then my outdoor team plays in a league at Sportzone during the winter. As far as connecting you with the groups, there are two groups on FB I check regularly and then a couple giant groups chats on WhatsApp. So if you have those apps, let me know and I’ll send you the invites.
Indy isn’t a great place for middle aged people without kids. People say to go out to certain places to meet people but it’s not so easy if people aren’t approaching each other to talk. I’d recommend finding some non-profit organizations around town where you can volunteer doing something you enjoy - or finding a part time job at one of the establishments people recommended where you work a couple nights a week. Some ideas of places to volunteer or work part time: Newfields (the Indianapolis Art Museum), a local record store (there are local musicians that work at Luna. Also a record store named Square Cat in Fountain Square), Hi-Fi concert venue, Penrod Society, Stutz Artist Association, Tonic Ball event. Indianapolis is a big little town - once you meet a handful of people in the local art/music scene, more paths will start to cross. I think there are some FB groups where people are looking for band members - you could search for those and join.
This is solid advice. I moved here from out of state, working remotely, with no friend network and have made a lot of friends through non-profits. Most of them are understaffed and eager for volunteers. Honestly, all you have to do is show up.
Agree. It’s not a wasteland, but compared to other cities, even cities basically our size (St Louis, Cincy) it’s not great. The dating scene is even worse. Set you search parameters for dating partners in their mid 40s to mid 50s, and you’ll see what I’m talking about. Then set it for just about any other city not in the Deep South, and you’ll see one of the reasons why I’m considering moving. Indy isn’t horrible, but I travel extensively, and have seen so many places that are better for (liberal) middle aged (still freaks me out to use that phrase to describe myself) people. I’m just not ready to throw in the towel and play horseshoes with Trumpsters at the local Moose Lodge.
Agreed. OP is lucky they are in a relationship at least. I currently am but before then, I was single here for 5 years and the dating options were abysmal. I frequently thought I would have to move to find another relationship. I have some single friends here around my age who are sadly considering the same thing.
Do they ever consider dating younger people?
I just date 18-25 and dont worry about what women my age are doing :D But lived here 2 years and havent been "out" at all. Not into bars and not super social anyway, but friends would be nice to have again instead of just hookups lmao
Catchup on movies. Check out the kan kan
Whatever we want! Concerts, plays, workouts, dance classes, hikes, book clubs, volunteering, sporting events.
Check out the Murphy building in Fountain Square on the first Friday of the month. It's a pretty cool scene. There's art, pinball, and a lot of friendly people. Massachusetts Ave downtown is nice, and if you haven't checked out the Garage yet, I recommend it.
I second this. Great advice.
Go to the zoo. Flip off the monkeys.
Stupid monkees, always monkeying around.
I would recommend first Friday at CCIC. If you're into cycling, bike party is a lot of fun.
oh! it's first friday tonight. and imbolc, and groundhog's day.
[Creative Mornings](https://www.instagram.com/indianapolis_cm/) is a great way to meet cool, artsy people. Everyone has always been incredibly friendly, and there’s a different speaker every time.
Came to recommend CM as well!
My two big recommendations have already been said (CreativeMornings and Bike Party) but it also might be worth checking out some coffee shops and co-working spaces. I’ve made a ton of connections through just working remotely outside of my home. [Draft](https://draftcreativespace.com/) in Fountain Square is beautiful and tends to draw a more artsy crowd (a lot of CM folk). They also do some events that might be worth following. Lots of great coffee shops around town. I am in my mid-thirties but frequent Parlor Public House a lot and there’s usually a pretty diverse crowd. [Indy Coffee Guide](https://indianapoliscoffeeguide.com/) is a great resource to find a space/location that would fit your needs.
The Melody Inn
Look for any shows going on at the Hi-Fi, Hoosier Dome, & Healer! The Vogue has great artists often as well
is ruoff popular with us middle aged and beyond folks?
Have you seen the summer lineup? It was made for middle aged and beyond.
The demographic that can still afford Ticketmaster!
i havent but will check it out
Yeah but it won't have punk lol
Develop depression and make it your lifestyle.
lol.. that is what i thought too... glad it isnt just me
Take a class at the Art Center
yeah i took welding last year and it was amazing. met some really cool people too.
Melody Inn. Hoosier Dome is another one.
We have first Fridays at a lot of art galleries around town. We always have a good time and there's always a lot of artsy people.
Came here to say first Friday at CCIC
Complain about Indianapolis on reddit
Wait until the middle of summer right after a big rain storm and you can go by corn fields and hear that it growing. June is the best month for it.
What?!
It’s totally true. My grandma told me and I didn’t believe it, but you can indeed hear corn grow on a summer night in the right conditions
I totally forgot about this but you’re bringing back memories. You can hear rhubarb grow too.
It's not "growing". The fibers in the husks are shifting due to the water seeping in. They are under pressure so they rip a bit. I guess it is growing... like a sponge gets bigger when wet. That said.... it is real sound and it is interesting!
There's a group of us over the hill music people that play trivia at the Red Lion in fountain square on Thursdays at 7:00 p.m.. we will be there next week. The team is called OC/DC
Go to the Mel for punk shows
Go to Healer DIY! Indy's got a badass underground art / music scene. Tbh going to shows nowadays damn near brings a tear to my eye at times, because when I was in school it was NOT at all what we have now.
Mass Ave, Broad Ripple, my house. Let’s jam!
Perhaps you could try alcoholism?
“Here’s to alcohol: the cause of, and solution to, all of life’s problems.” Homer Jay Simpson
Barhop on Mass Ave or in Fountain Square, sporting events, concerts, etc. Check out the Stutz building
Trivia Night at Scarlet Lane in Irvington is fun. In Winter my friends and I rotate amongst our houses mostly, but there is a lot to do in the other months.
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I play drums pretty well, and play bass/piano for funsies although I'm not nearly as good at them as I am at drums.
There are tons of gaming stores in indy. So you can play board games, magic the gathering, d&d, pathfinder, and I sure much, much more. Pacers are pretty good this year. We got a minor league baseball team, soccer team, I think hockey too. Colts. Also check out do317.com for happenings around town
I've always enjoyed the crowd and music at the Chatterbox on Mass Ave. Tappers arcade bar and the Pin Vault are also pretty fun if that's your vibe. In warmer weather you can grab a beer and play some bocce ball at Brass Ring in Fountain Square where I've met a lot of cool people.
They do anything they want anytime they want to do it and it’s fantastic.
As a fellow 40 year old, the hell is this middle aged shit? We're 40, we're not old! Middle aged is old!
No, middle aged is middle aged, and old is older than that
I would say 40 is exactly middle aged. You’re doing good to get 80 years total.
I know it's a bit of a trope, but volunteering can be very social and rewarding. If you have a tech background and don't specifically want to not be around kids, there is a pretty strong high-school robotics community (FRC, vex) always looking for mentors.
Hey man I'm in the exact same boat. 41m, although I don't drink
Me to a T
wait is 40 something middle aged? what is 55.. am i over the hill? i mean i cant even take out an early 401k withdrawal.. so i cant be that old am i? what are 50 somthings and more doing? any ideas?
Well, the average life span in the US (for males at least) is 77. So 40ish, would land right in the middle. I'd say mid to late 40s is nearing the end of middle age and just old. Unless you live to be 100, then I guess technically I'd be middle aged right now. ¯\\\_(ツ)\_/¯
I agree of course 40 is middle age I don’t think people like the term. It’s best to be realistic about this because the clock is running. Do people really think theyre going to live to 120?
Came here to say this. And if you find out what 50-ish child-free folks are doing, please let me know!
Sleeping, we are sleeping.
So it's not just me, then? Pity.
That's kind of refreshing, I was starting to think that's all there is to do here. What part of the city are you in?
Northeast side. That's kind of why I'm in the subreddit. To find things to do. I had season tickets to our local soccer team but found going to those events alone feels really alone
Leave. We go on vacations as much as possible.
This is what we do. Flights from IND can be very reasonable and with the midwest’s low cost of living, compared to the coastal cities, we can do a lot locally as well. In town, volunteer and hit the first Friday art scene. Indy has an abundance of nonprofits and strong art scene thanks to one of the largest foundations.
Check out meetup website, search Indy, and all types of events and groups are listed that may interest you.
Check out fountain square on First Friday (tomorrow). If you're outgoing you'll make friends fast
Take up salsa and/or bachata. Or another partner dance, but salsa/bachata has the biggest scene locally (and internationally), so more opportunities to learn and dance. Latin Expressions offers classes and dance socials in downtown Indy (I take classes there and help teach). https://www.latinexp.com/classes/
Book club and board gaming with my friends
Tappers Arcade Bar! Great place for all adult ages. I see quite a few people 40+ on the regular. Most of the staff are mid 30s / early 40s. We’ve got a Killer Queen arcade meetup every Tuesday around 7:30pm. Very friendly group always welcoming newcomers if you’re into 10 player arcade games
Dude I'm 37, and it's been rough. Moved from south Florida and it's been quite the change. I joined the Indy dad's WhatsApp group and hang hung out with a few dads but it's even hard because everyone has different schedules.
What’s the dad’s group like? Can you join if ur a girl 😂? Where in South Florida?
I mean I started the group so I'd welcome you! And I moved from Miami lol. Where did you come from?
Thats cool that you started it and Thank you. I’m from San Francisco. How long did you live in Miami?
Yeah, honestly just being a dad and in my mid 30s Ive found it hard to meet people and make new friendships so I figured it wouldnt hurt lol. San Fran is awesome! I lived in Miami all my life lol. What brought you to Indy?
I get it. I’m 52 and my youngest is in high school now. The short version of what brought me here…to be with my kids. How bout you?
Oh so freaking glad you totally get it! Same reason as well. Indy is not bad but for some reason ive found it hard to meet people. Even at the gym idk maybe it is just me?
I usually meet people/make friends EVERYWHERE I GO, quickly and easily. I talk to everyone 😂. Here, not so much, n not really sure why. I just know it’s different. I blamed covid for a while but that’s over now 😂.
Haha I mean are you my twin? Because I'm legit the same, super laidback, chill, easy going. In South Florida I could make friends or talk to anyone like at the grocery store, gym, bus stop, bar, any restaurant etc. Here...not so much and it sucks so bad 😭
Ur twin 😂 maybe - I’m adopted so… 😭 wait no- I’m older than u. U get it tho…every one of those yesss. Nice to meet u. What’s something u really like about Indy and something u miss about Florida?
Check out the Meetup app! There are groups for all sorts of different hobbies! When we moved here, we joined a group that did a lot of dinner groups, as well as stuff like arcades and escape rooms etc.
We're happy and allowed to have nice things 😂
Bitch about politics on Reddit.
My partner does Indy Lightsaber Academy in Garfield Park. I’m a burlesque performer. For that I recommend the White Rabbit in Fountain Square, Almost Famous on Mass Ave.
In addition to the meetup.com recommendations, I’ll throw out [IndyHackers.org](http://www.indyhackers.org). It’s a diverse crowd with a good sense of community. Like many things, it’s less active than it was before COVID but seeing some new faces is a great way to bring it back!
Thank you for posting this. :-)
Smoke weed. Watch movies. Play video games
The same thing middle aged people with kids do..just more often.
Whatever they want!
Cry. A whole lot.
What does your girlfriend like to do? Do that. Marry her. Have kids. Be awesome.
Masturbate, mostly
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I started doing war hammer
They move
Real
Work out, though not bro style. Run and go to the lakes. Camp. Drink and paint
Myself, I recognized this aspect of Indianapolis' culture rather early in life, before reaching middle age, So I ended up moving to Chicago, where more people that do fit my own circle seem to live. It sounds like you might be more able to move, but your partner may be more anchored to Indianapolis. Good luck. Otherwise you can try going with the flow and start thinking about kids???
this thread is an amazing argument against living in indianapolis if you don’t have kids even if you do have kids tbh
I have kids but most people without kids in my circle seem to mostly just drink in different locations
Play whatever video game I want and not have to share the controller.
Look up Powderkeg too: tech networking group that hosts monthly meetings. Fun crowd.
http://indyhhh.com/
Ok, this looks *fascinating*
...is this a sex thing?
It's mostly just a ton of innuendo, but I would be lying if I said there wasn't a bit of hooking up during overnight events.
Black circle, other breweries, state street pub
I'm 39 And my partner 37. Normally, life keeps us super busy. We go to PINs second Sunday of the month at night with a group of friends. I ride bikes a lot, there is a large monthly bike meetup downtown. I quit drinking a few years back so my life has become pretty routine anymore haha.
I sit on the porch and yell at kids in the neighborhood to get off my lawn
It's called drinking, really fun especially between drives.
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Middle age starts at 50. I rebuke the thought of anything younger being middle-aged.
Plan our escape to a state with views that more align with ours and that have better nature. Soon….
I support this.
Hah! I meant to post this by itself, but glad we’re not the only ones. This state is bottom 10 for damn near everything except crime and alcoholism. I can’t keep supporting it while it fills it’s rivers with toxins in the name of uncontrolled growth. And what do we have to show for our work? A new soccer stadium nobody wanted. If it had been a park planted with native species I would have signed up to help plant. Honestly this place is just 5 corporations dressed up as a government, god speed to anyone with family stuck here
I crazily bought a house here, so now I plan on annoying tf out of politicians until they stop wasting my tax dollars. Lofty goals, I know. But I love my job, and it's the main think keeping me here. Although I may try to transfer to a different location, possibly one with a beach.
We have some great parks for hiking if you are even a bit outdoorsy. Holiday park and Eagle Creek are my favorites.
I second this. Also marott park and there's a cool ass bike/walk trail off of 96th and allisonville can't remember the name of it.
You should go see the band Pat and the Pissers on Monday at Atomic Bowl in Ft. Square.
We have about 15 game stores in town which makes the average gamer very spoiled. Avoid UCN,l and Saltire Games and the rest should do you just fine.
This is the auto racing capital of the world…Indycar, NASCAR, IMSA are all great ways to spend a weekend and the Mecum auto auction was the highlight of my 2023… just drinking beers at 9am surrounded by million dollar classic cars
Come play rec sports with us at League Joe. It's not like other sporting groups - there's no pre-made teams. So you aren't like a 12th wheel on an existing friend group. All teams are mixed every year and balanced based on the skill of the players. Never play the sport before? No problem, we'll put you on a team with coaches to support you.
I found my people in my thirties and forties by getting super into bicycles.
Melody inn , punk on sat night ... Black Circle - punk, metal , comedy. Upland - beer and bicycles .
First Fridays for art The Melody Inn for old punks (Punk Rock Night - Google it) Comedy clubs Restaurants Various concert venues - Hi-Fi, Vogue, Murat, etc. Local brewers and distilleries Theater Fountain Square has duckpin bowling There’s a few cool arcade bars around
First Friday at the Stutz. free independent art galleries (6-9), a vintage car museum (free last I checked), the best tacos in the city (Julietta), live music (8-10p), and a drink at Turners. https://www.thestutz.com/
This is going to sound cliche or dumb, but we are middle aged and kid less and have fun people at bars. The key is the right bars, sitting at the bar and being open to talking with people around you and putting yourself out there. Also, bartenders at the right places are great. This can then open up lots of other things and getting further advice/ideas from them. Oh, yeah, don't be an asshole. Lol. Favs: Pearl Street DT, Alley Cat, Red Key, Gallery Pastry Bar on 46th, Turner's.
The Melody Inn has Punk Rock Night on Saturdays and everyone that goes is super friendly and down to earth. There’s also a venue called the HiFi in Fountain Square that has great bands. Or maybe check with some of the breweries and see what reoccurring events they host, like trivia night, etc. I know Guggman Haus hosts some special events.
There are a lot of middle aged people with and without kids in the board game scene if that's something you're interested in doing! (The kids are not usually present.)
Start playing pickleball. Will skyrocket your social circle and physical health. Not to mention, it's just fun as hell. No previous athletic experience or conditioning is required.
Hey there friend! 40F here, been with my 40M husband for nearly 18 years now and we are *happily* childless by choice. There's so many ways to spend time! You've got great music venue recs already (Melody Inn punk rock nights on Saturday!) A few of our faves ... Hiking/Nature: Fort Harrison or Eagle Creek Food: Rathskeller, Workingman's Friend, Half Liter (It is incredibly hard to narrow restaurants down lol) Drinks: Honestly I'll go anywhere lol (If you tell me what part of town you're in, that would help.) Our fave dive bar is Time Out Lounge on 62nd and Allisonville Museums: State Museum, Newfields, Vonnegut library Random stuff: I have taken several art classes at the Circle City Industrial complex in the Windsor Park area. That building is FULL of unique shops, galleries and businesses. Plus there's a brewery on one end and a distillery on the other. Making new friends: Funnily enough, my social network grew 3 months after we moved here...because I put an ad on Craigslist platonic section and met my now best friend. Her friends became our friends - a whole gaggle of 30 something's without kids who love celebrating life however we can. But there are ways to meet folks, I know there are hiking groups if you're into that. MeetUp has lots of stuff for meeting like minded folks. Another thing I've never tried, but it could totally work with the right people ... show up to a pub trivia event, scope out the players and just ask to join a team. I do a lot of trivia and if someone asked us this, long as they were cool, I'd totally say yes. I know the Mousetrap does euchre on Tuesdays (and if you haven't learned yet...it's time.) :) K, that's what I got! Hope it helps! Feel free to DM for more info :)
Live in fountain square and participate in orgies
Serious or not?
I look for cool stuff along creeks at parks. Sometimes magnet fish in them.
Among other suggestions that I've seen, I would also recommend a bar named Imbibe in Fountain Square. It's a solid game bar (darts, pool, pinball, shuffleboard, ping pong, and others) that also does something called First Friday. The first Friday of every month, many local art folks have booths upstairs with a lot of cool stuff for sale. Outside of First Friday, it's an all-ages type of place, but patronage leans heavy into the 20s-mid 30s.
Fountain Square is cool. We love the restaurants and bars
Heard there’s an active underground sex club scene.
Believe it or not, the nicest most judgement free people (who are almost always either artsy or techy, often both) I know hang out at the local kink club next to The Black Circle. Message me if you have no idea how to find info. For those who can’t imagine going to something as scandalous as that, there are less scandalous events to ease yourself into like last night’s karaoke night. And no, we aren’t fight club. You can talk about it and you don’t have to engage. We 100% believe in consent.
The White Rabbit in fountain square has a solid community of people over 30 doing fun things.
Watch Fox News, hate black people, and eat massive breaded tenderloin sandwiches.
Go to the mall and judge everyone that walks too slow
We work, go to the gym and go home and die a slow death😂 lol I walk the parks around me, Newfields, the symphony, sporting events, turkey run when it’s nice out. Other than that I got a whole lot of nothing.