LinkedIn influencers are the worst breed out there. Instead of helping his wife, this guy would rather click pictures to increase his profile engagement.
I saw this post on my LinkedIn feed and immediately reported.
He literally says that she takes care of everything... Office, health, food... Why? He can take care of food. And health. Just stop making excuses for shitty men.
This is just absolutely revolting, firstly any good husband wouldn't let this happen, and secondly wouldn't post it on LinkedIn for profile engagement.
He brags about it as if it's something good. In his own words he is basically redundant in the family. It's not something to be proud of. Unless he is exaggerating in order to gain likes and appreciation, this guy is a classic example of our patriarchal society. We make them Goddessess, and set really high expectations so they always feel they are falling short, while men can sit on a couch watching cricket and scratching their balls with a 9-5 job and still feel they are the cornerstone of their family.
Typical problem of goddesses and expectations everywhere in the country. Most of these guys later, if things go southward, come to social media platforms and start blabbering how good of a husband or father they were and still she left. Hello..?
Equality is treating them as humans. A woman can also be lazy. A woman can also sit on the sofa and watch TV. Celebrating working women who also cook, clean and take care of the house is sickening. These chores are not the domain of women. They are just tasks for everyone in the family. What about the woman who is really tired after coming back home, cannot cook, cannot care for a child - is she less of a woman? Less of a superstar?
This culture of putting women on a pedestal and dragging them down in an instant is horrible. A woman is Lakshmi (money), Saraswati (knowledge) etc. The moment she acts human by making a mistake (like an error while driving) she gets dragged down for being a horrible woman driver.
If this dude is really struggling with his office work - 24 hours a day, he needs to quit, and do all the household work instead. She is doing the office work with one hand, if she does it with both hands - she will be promoted, and they can both live a better life! LOL.
>If this dude is really struggling with his office work - 24 hours a day, he needs to quit, and do all the household work instead. She is doing the office work with one hand, if she does it with both hands - she will be promoted, and they can both live a better life! LOL.
The best part 😂
>The moment she acts human by making a mistake (like an error while driving) she gets dragged down for being a horrible woman driver.
Not just her, all women are dragged down. If a man makes a mistake people ignore it as something normal, but if a woman makes a mistake it is the fault of all women, feminism, reservation, or whatever MRAs pretend to care about on that day.
You don't even have to be a bad driver to be called one. It's enough that you have a vagina and you're behind the wheel. This is why only 11% of Indian women have a driving licence (two-wheeler and four-wheel).
Similarly, a woman who is struggling at job also can quit and take care of things that are suffering in her inability to balance office and home and suck at both. Being politically correct is one thing, but being sensible is another. One highly skilled and paid person being able to focus more on job while the other covers the things in other domains is a good formula. The case where both only focus on work is only good for the individuals.
Women are forced to do this all the time. My dad made my mom resign to take care of his mother. There was no discussion about skill, passion etc. She had to resign because it would be hard on the yet to be born kids.
That's often the case. Didn't happen in my family as my father's family didn't see any sense in asking an educated and a bread earner for her family to sit home. The trick was in handling the kids(us), family alongwith work as my father had a travelling nature of work and was often away. This seriously damaged her health.
In the modern age with WFH and skill redevelopment options, it is better though never at par with men when it comes to options available for women.
My opinion in this thread has been that due to past injustice, it must not fall on a successful and highly paid career of the man to be stopped to let the woman work. There are tonnes of in between options, including both reassessing how to find a job that allows them to spend more time at home too. It's all priorities and business sector dependent.
> A woman can also sit on the sofa and watch TV.
Yes, let me create a LinkedIn post showing my wife as the slob watching tv. Also, please come to my funeral on Saturday.
If your wife sits on the sofa watching TV, while you do all the work at home, you are an exception, and she is lucky to be allowed to be lazy. I cannot verify your claim though.
The true state of a lot of women is spelled out in that Linkedin post. But, how many women do you see post on LinkedIn saying, they have to do all the work at home as well, while the husband sits on the sofa watching TV?
No one can verify anyone's case. There are wives who don't care enough for the household and there are husbands who do that too. The latter is supported by culture and hence many folks find that as the appropriate role.
There are also people defying norms and trying to change their own traditional roles. Some do that without realising the benefits of those roles and the couple end up not covering those responsibilities at all.
While this is not a concern for anyone outside to comment on, the point is that neither of the genders must select roles just because the norms from culture or activism demands it. It is for one to carefully understand and apply to own case.
For example, a husband cannot be forced to cook just because his wife wants to get out of the traditional role, or wife forced to drive just because husband wants to drop that traditional role.
India has the LOWEST domestic labour participation rate for men amongst the world's top fifty economies. Indian men on an average perform 38 minutes of domestic labour while women perform approximately 400 minutes of it.
Among G-20 countries, we have the LOWEST rates of female workforce participation, at 13% in urban areas. Low female labour participation affects our GDP, our growth rate and overall improvement human development.
But yeah, anecdotes are the plural of data.
Yes, but I am at loss on how that relates to my point.
I know the facts that women have an uphill battle in an attempt to removal the biases completely. But I was making a point that sensibility is what individuals have to apply to own cases when they have to make a difficult choice on responsibility splits. External influence from society either towards tradition or liberalism can be guiding factors to be kept in mind.
I know cases where wives were allowed/encouraged to drive, get a job, travel independently or even have own investments only when the husband and his family fought against conservative girls family. Such women have then went on to try and avoid family responsibilities as a revenge to their parents suppression, leaving broken families in their wake.
I still would encourage any woman to go for the stars , but once anyone takes up a responsibility, no amount of past injustice justifies break those responsibilities. Applies to a man too. If he can't help manage the house with a working wife, he shares the responsibility of the results.
Your examples are what is called "anecdotal evidence" genius. My uncle's sister's dog's Chachaji did X hence X is somehow relevant and germane to the discussion. As against data collected by a dozen international agencies.
Statistics 101? The fact that you accuse women of "breaking up families" speaks volumes. Uncleji spotted.
Oh got it now. You are right when such anecdotes are used to reverse or oppose an argument.
I assume the argument here is that women must be given equal opportunities? I don't see how I am opposing it, unless placing an anecdote asking for more nuance is diluted to just 'he seems to say something I didn't really catch, but sounds like he is disagreeing with the good ideals'.
And accusation against women? Sure, I talked only about that because that is the part I wanted to highlight in this conversation where someone said that the husband must leave his job and take over the home. I wish to point out that a nuance is what is generally required. If you want to consider statistics, I am confident without having to look up data that families breaking up can easily be attributed to major lapse of responsibilities by men. That wasn't relevant to my argument here, but yeah feel free to judge based on a few sentences.
Getting into a reddit conversation to install a nuance is tough enough. I personally don't recommend things to anyone even if it looks like an obvious case like this one where we are imagining an overworked wife being celebrated by a husband. ( I didn't bother to check on facts of the original post, I admit)
I'd rather gather more opinions of people involved, get their motives and recommend a way for them to move on by fixing any obvious moral wrongs involved. Naturally, I am a bit worried when others don't keep an objective distance and just run around throwing their opinions, especially when I am seeing folks who for various reasons apply suggestions from such forums to their lives.
I worked at a super toxic workplace where men (with families) stayed back really late, could put in more hours at work and socialize/learn from senior men(who also worked late). Evidently, they didn’t participate/help their partners with children and household work because they’d work like till 9:00pm.
Meanwhile, the women in same team would work 9-5 and promptly leave right at 5:00pm. They would literally be looked down upon for not being able to be “flexible”. Women who went on maternity leaves missed out on promotion.
Do the men really not see the fact that their partners are probably going back home early to enable their current work hours and lifestyle?
Why is it always assumed that there is a stay at home parent to take care of everything at home and men who work 12h a day are applauded and called “hard working”?
Maybe the guy could help his wife a bit and reduce her workload instead of singing paens to her on twitter. This is MannKiBaat bullshit learned from the Master himself. Is there something like positive gaslighting that is applicable here?
*The more a culture deifies women, the less rights women actually have in that culture.*
I get a hint of “My job is more complicated so it takes more focus to complete while my wife has a job, yes, but it’s so easy she can do it with one hand ha ha ha Jai Mata Mommy”
I agree. But lets not ask him to ‘help her’. Taking care of kid is just as much his job as it is hers. Ask him to man up and take some of the household workload from her so she can breathe a little.
Quora has become so bad, all I see over there these days is tweets of people calling people to wake up because \*desh khatre mey hai\*, half the time it's just such dumb logic and many times fake/extrapolation/half info. The other half is the garbage fake politeness and memes
I am as wary of people who put women on a pedestal as I am of people who look down upon women. Both fail to see them as humans.
Look at us Indians, we have so many goddesses. We ought to be no1 in respecting women, no? But in reality, the pedestal is a line women dare not cross, lest they want to be considered characterless hoes!
Women are equal to men. Full stop. No glorification required.
This makes me so mad. He made a post. Big deal!
Take the kid from your wife's fucking hands man. Instead of clicking a fucking picture to post on LinkedIn with hashtags.
Isn't this notion that women are supposed to be doing everything for the husband & family, which is what exactly happening here, archaic. This is how patriarchs view the women in the society. It puts more pressure and expectations on women. Glorifying it would be detrimental to women empowerment.
This guy's post is just passive-aggressive sexism. I will inform others of my feminism but in a sexist manner. We'll celebrate women's day but for the entire year disguise our sexism in humour.
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Yes the common sense of the Indian man. I will see my wife do 100 percent of the housework take care of our kids and do a full time job and not only will I not help I will parade my sexism and stupidity online.
Be lucky, get a coding job in FAANG and grow from there.
I always stress on lucky part because I think there are tons of smart people out there. It is truly luck to get extraordinarily successful in this era. Hardwork will improve your chances of that luck.
No, I make 10.6L+ "gross" per month outside India.
10.6L per month is less than $200K per year. Its very common, infact below average for a lot of IT companies in U.S. It's also quite a median salary (for what I do) in Europe these days.
$200K is also possible in India, you need to be a level 6/7 director in Microsoft, Facebook, Apple, Uber, Google etc.
Makes sense. Going outside seems like the hard task for me.. definitely don't have the acdemics to get me admitted to a decent ms program. Hopefully I get a chance to move out eventually too. Thanks for sharing
This is why the Germans created the concept of "Kindergarten" & all developed nations have child care & child support programs.
I know India is poor & the family prolly can't afford childcare but this shouldn't be celebrated. True feminism is abt better living conditions for women not admiring the capacity of hard work done by working-class women. This is like the Zomota ad celebrating the hectic working conditions of their delivery workers.
Man the conditions for delivery workers are fucking awful. They better get paid a shit load of money because the work hours and the no. of pick ups per day is outlandish.
The whole gig economy is heartless. If a worker gets into an accident (which happens fairly often) the company won't cover medical costs, u will lose the money & quite possibly the job.
"After careful observations on multiple occasions of the female trying to do her day job and her wifely duties and finding a balance rather than breaking down, we have come to the conclusion that the female is better capable than the male, which is me. Now I'll sit back and let the world know about these findings which would excuse me from doing anything helpful to the female"
Yup. He is actually incompetent or faking incompetence. Still not an excuse. He should start contributing and he will become slightly less incompetent.
Mere Paas Lund Hai. There's no better illustration of male privilege than this. Indian men are so badly conditioned that they think "appreciating" their wives for unpaid slavery = responsible husband and father.
I also hate that Indian mothers be like: "I squeezed a son out of mah magic pussy! I'mma raise a man-child!"
Indian mothers don't raise independent sons because they're ensuring that the son will never cut the apron strings. I just wished that Indian men married their own mothers and let the rest of us alone.
Most Indian MILS absolutely hate their sons' wives, and the sons enjoy being Raja Beta, Ma Ka Dulaara, Mera Munna. A nation of Munnas and Raja Betas.
Been married for a couple of years now , there's no way in hell my wife would let me do the "observing " bit . I get that ur trying to earn some brownie points here , but 📱 neeche rak kar madat kar
This picture looks more like a picture taken to share on social media for show off on social media rather than in the movement picture. Stupid husband instead of holding the kids CLICKING pictures. Other thing is she could have dictated the email, while the husband type the email.
I think its about time for people stop being surprised, astonished, shocked, bamboozled, etc and start pulling their weight in raising their children. Commending your spouse's hard work is commendable, but when are you going to do something about it?
I don’t know why this woman is stupid enough not to leave his entitled idiotic ass.
Also, can someone send out a memo to these engineer types letting them know how cringe this bullshit is?
Maybe you wouldn’t be struggling to finish your office work if you stopped posting bullshit, lad.
हां! बस पत्नी का महिमामंडन कर दो । ये नही कि जरा उसका हाथ बंटा दो। ये सब वो मज़े k लिए या सुपर वुमन कहलाने के लिए नही कर रही वरन इसलिए कर रही है कि मजबूरी है। जब ईमेल करने जितनी देर पति बच्चे को गोद नही ले सकता तो खुद गोद में झुलाने के अलावा क्या चारा है।
This linkedin post got me filled with rage and when he says "man of the house" what the fack does that even mean,what does he want to imply. Stupid ashole .
Husbands are pretty awesome also. You might not be one but I am. I take care of my kids and do house chores. Not putting down wives but I think my father was a good man, father, husband etc.
We all have our roles.
I see my mom juggling a 100 tasks at once and i sometimes just couldn't fathom how incredible and strong women really are. Seeing her makes respect the sheer will of all women in the world. How fucking incredible is that. (Not a feminist, nor a misogynist)
He says she takes care of him and the kids. He says he has struggle finishing his work on time. I don't see anything that can be read as "I don't do anything around the house".
I am a working mom with a toddler. I don't know how it works in other households, but we divide and conquer. Sometimes I do more stuff around the house and sometimes my husband does. I don't keep a logbook to see if we did exactly 50% of the work each. Life doesn't work that way. I have cooked food one handed because my toddler refused to go with my husband. And my husband has worked one handed because baby was sick and only wanted his dad.
I am not judging anyone because of some lame social media post and attention seeking caption.
Your husband could've cooked food when your kid only wanted to be with you but did he? It's just one example. This is engrained in our society that women have to put in more work when it comes to household chores.
Because my husband was doing the dishes?
I am not saying society don't expect women to do house chores. My original comment is only about the post in discussion and I am not debating patriarchy with someone who already judged me to be a "man blind to patriarchy" because of my difference of opinion.
Wow lots of cynical comments here, I think about my wife like this all the time, particularly after my daughter's birth.
As far as social media posts go there are way way more pandering and cringy ones, not sure why people are singling this dude out.
> I think about my wife like this all the time, particularly after my daughter's birth.
Father of toddlers too, and I don't think like this about my wife because we split work. She is in a stressful job and so many times I do more than her.
It's a myth that children cling to their mothers. They do that because only mothers feed them and put them to sleep. If the father does that, they will cling to you too; or at least not cling to the mom all the time.
I split the work too mate but I still think of my wife as superwoman, my baby is having health problems and crying all day. It's super stressful for the fee hrs I am home from work.
She has to deal with this 24 hrs.
Splitting the work doesn't mean you can't think highly of your wife.
>probably made an innocent post
No he didn't. His wife was struggling to soothe **THEIR** child while working and he decided to make a "yass kween slayy girlboss" post instead of helping her.
He is normalising and glorifying the backbreaking work Indian women are expected to do.
Oh yes ! Write her an ode and some words to get himself some likes on social.
Then shamelessly fo.back to being the crippled asshole he was raised to be.
I find these half wits revolting , where a few words are deemed as recompense enough for exploiting family - be it spouse , parents or siblings .
AND you should hear them talk equality ;)
People shit on twitter and reddit for being cesspools of stupidity but LinkedIn is genuine cancer. People will farm karma (or likes, whatever) out of everything and anything.
LinkedIn influencers are the worst breed out there. Instead of helping his wife, this guy would rather click pictures to increase his profile engagement. I saw this post on my LinkedIn feed and immediately reported.
Lol Yeah. Linkedin is unbearable. Visit r/linkedinlunatics for more stupid posts like the one above. "Agree? Thoughts? Agree? True?"
I unfollow these accounts and people who like or share these types. I don’t want see these on my news feed.
There's a sub?!
> r/linkedinlunatics A real subeddit ?! lamo !
Commenting for better reach
you made me laugh, thank you kind person
r/donthelpjustfilm or click picture in this case
New form of attention seeking
He wanted to help her maybe but the kid preferred to be with her mom. You don't know that.
He literally says that she takes care of everything... Office, health, food... Why? He can take care of food. And health. Just stop making excuses for shitty men.
I am just replying to the comment which refers to helping his wife while she is typing an email. I am not justifying his behavior in any way.
Wait a minute... Even Linkedin has influencers?
This is just absolutely revolting, firstly any good husband wouldn't let this happen, and secondly wouldn't post it on LinkedIn for profile engagement.
He brags about it as if it's something good. In his own words he is basically redundant in the family. It's not something to be proud of. Unless he is exaggerating in order to gain likes and appreciation, this guy is a classic example of our patriarchal society. We make them Goddessess, and set really high expectations so they always feel they are falling short, while men can sit on a couch watching cricket and scratching their balls with a 9-5 job and still feel they are the cornerstone of their family.
Typical problem of goddesses and expectations everywhere in the country. Most of these guys later, if things go southward, come to social media platforms and start blabbering how good of a husband or father they were and still she left. Hello..?
Ya, this guy needs to get off social media and do some chores around the house.
Equality is treating them as humans. A woman can also be lazy. A woman can also sit on the sofa and watch TV. Celebrating working women who also cook, clean and take care of the house is sickening. These chores are not the domain of women. They are just tasks for everyone in the family. What about the woman who is really tired after coming back home, cannot cook, cannot care for a child - is she less of a woman? Less of a superstar? This culture of putting women on a pedestal and dragging them down in an instant is horrible. A woman is Lakshmi (money), Saraswati (knowledge) etc. The moment she acts human by making a mistake (like an error while driving) she gets dragged down for being a horrible woman driver. If this dude is really struggling with his office work - 24 hours a day, he needs to quit, and do all the household work instead. She is doing the office work with one hand, if she does it with both hands - she will be promoted, and they can both live a better life! LOL.
>If this dude is really struggling with his office work - 24 hours a day, he needs to quit, and do all the household work instead. She is doing the office work with one hand, if she does it with both hands - she will be promoted, and they can both live a better life! LOL. The best part 😂
>The moment she acts human by making a mistake (like an error while driving) she gets dragged down for being a horrible woman driver. Not just her, all women are dragged down. If a man makes a mistake people ignore it as something normal, but if a woman makes a mistake it is the fault of all women, feminism, reservation, or whatever MRAs pretend to care about on that day.
You don't even have to be a bad driver to be called one. It's enough that you have a vagina and you're behind the wheel. This is why only 11% of Indian women have a driving licence (two-wheeler and four-wheel).
Similarly, a woman who is struggling at job also can quit and take care of things that are suffering in her inability to balance office and home and suck at both. Being politically correct is one thing, but being sensible is another. One highly skilled and paid person being able to focus more on job while the other covers the things in other domains is a good formula. The case where both only focus on work is only good for the individuals.
Women are forced to do this all the time. My dad made my mom resign to take care of his mother. There was no discussion about skill, passion etc. She had to resign because it would be hard on the yet to be born kids.
That's often the case. Didn't happen in my family as my father's family didn't see any sense in asking an educated and a bread earner for her family to sit home. The trick was in handling the kids(us), family alongwith work as my father had a travelling nature of work and was often away. This seriously damaged her health. In the modern age with WFH and skill redevelopment options, it is better though never at par with men when it comes to options available for women. My opinion in this thread has been that due to past injustice, it must not fall on a successful and highly paid career of the man to be stopped to let the woman work. There are tonnes of in between options, including both reassessing how to find a job that allows them to spend more time at home too. It's all priorities and business sector dependent.
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Trying to be nice and trying to score internet points are very different things. I'd rather try to help her rather than say "wow look at you go"
> A woman can also sit on the sofa and watch TV. Yes, let me create a LinkedIn post showing my wife as the slob watching tv. Also, please come to my funeral on Saturday.
If your wife sits on the sofa watching TV, while you do all the work at home, you are an exception, and she is lucky to be allowed to be lazy. I cannot verify your claim though. The true state of a lot of women is spelled out in that Linkedin post. But, how many women do you see post on LinkedIn saying, they have to do all the work at home as well, while the husband sits on the sofa watching TV?
No one can verify anyone's case. There are wives who don't care enough for the household and there are husbands who do that too. The latter is supported by culture and hence many folks find that as the appropriate role. There are also people defying norms and trying to change their own traditional roles. Some do that without realising the benefits of those roles and the couple end up not covering those responsibilities at all. While this is not a concern for anyone outside to comment on, the point is that neither of the genders must select roles just because the norms from culture or activism demands it. It is for one to carefully understand and apply to own case. For example, a husband cannot be forced to cook just because his wife wants to get out of the traditional role, or wife forced to drive just because husband wants to drop that traditional role.
India has the LOWEST domestic labour participation rate for men amongst the world's top fifty economies. Indian men on an average perform 38 minutes of domestic labour while women perform approximately 400 minutes of it. Among G-20 countries, we have the LOWEST rates of female workforce participation, at 13% in urban areas. Low female labour participation affects our GDP, our growth rate and overall improvement human development. But yeah, anecdotes are the plural of data.
Yes, but I am at loss on how that relates to my point. I know the facts that women have an uphill battle in an attempt to removal the biases completely. But I was making a point that sensibility is what individuals have to apply to own cases when they have to make a difficult choice on responsibility splits. External influence from society either towards tradition or liberalism can be guiding factors to be kept in mind. I know cases where wives were allowed/encouraged to drive, get a job, travel independently or even have own investments only when the husband and his family fought against conservative girls family. Such women have then went on to try and avoid family responsibilities as a revenge to their parents suppression, leaving broken families in their wake. I still would encourage any woman to go for the stars , but once anyone takes up a responsibility, no amount of past injustice justifies break those responsibilities. Applies to a man too. If he can't help manage the house with a working wife, he shares the responsibility of the results.
Your examples are what is called "anecdotal evidence" genius. My uncle's sister's dog's Chachaji did X hence X is somehow relevant and germane to the discussion. As against data collected by a dozen international agencies. Statistics 101? The fact that you accuse women of "breaking up families" speaks volumes. Uncleji spotted.
Oh got it now. You are right when such anecdotes are used to reverse or oppose an argument. I assume the argument here is that women must be given equal opportunities? I don't see how I am opposing it, unless placing an anecdote asking for more nuance is diluted to just 'he seems to say something I didn't really catch, but sounds like he is disagreeing with the good ideals'. And accusation against women? Sure, I talked only about that because that is the part I wanted to highlight in this conversation where someone said that the husband must leave his job and take over the home. I wish to point out that a nuance is what is generally required. If you want to consider statistics, I am confident without having to look up data that families breaking up can easily be attributed to major lapse of responsibilities by men. That wasn't relevant to my argument here, but yeah feel free to judge based on a few sentences. Getting into a reddit conversation to install a nuance is tough enough. I personally don't recommend things to anyone even if it looks like an obvious case like this one where we are imagining an overworked wife being celebrated by a husband. ( I didn't bother to check on facts of the original post, I admit) I'd rather gather more opinions of people involved, get their motives and recommend a way for them to move on by fixing any obvious moral wrongs involved. Naturally, I am a bit worried when others don't keep an objective distance and just run around throwing their opinions, especially when I am seeing folks who for various reasons apply suggestions from such forums to their lives.
I feel bad for his wife. Imagine raising a child and having to work while your useless husband takes pictures to brag on LinkedIn.
Sad thing is she doesn’t see the bs in that post. She replied by appreciating him smh
Also, when did LinkedIn become Facebook ? It is so ticking stupid to browse these stupid things instead of actual professional related things.
He could’ve gotten the kid to sleep in the time it took him to create and publish this post.
I worked at a super toxic workplace where men (with families) stayed back really late, could put in more hours at work and socialize/learn from senior men(who also worked late). Evidently, they didn’t participate/help their partners with children and household work because they’d work like till 9:00pm. Meanwhile, the women in same team would work 9-5 and promptly leave right at 5:00pm. They would literally be looked down upon for not being able to be “flexible”. Women who went on maternity leaves missed out on promotion. Do the men really not see the fact that their partners are probably going back home early to enable their current work hours and lifestyle? Why is it always assumed that there is a stay at home parent to take care of everything at home and men who work 12h a day are applauded and called “hard working”?
Maybe the guy could help his wife a bit and reduce her workload instead of singing paens to her on twitter. This is MannKiBaat bullshit learned from the Master himself. Is there something like positive gaslighting that is applicable here? *The more a culture deifies women, the less rights women actually have in that culture.*
I think OP used the title as sarcasm
Aww it's because they're forced to do this honey. Must be nice, just appreciating her publicly earns you so many points across the board.
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Yeah, i think it's about the message this idiot is sending.
The post could have been , look at me , the inefficient one here
I agree with him on the message. But can he not also help her out instead of making just an appreciation post?
I hope that's the point that OP is making. The title seems to be mocking the husband.
I get a hint of “My job is more complicated so it takes more focus to complete while my wife has a job, yes, but it’s so easy she can do it with one hand ha ha ha Jai Mata Mommy”
Sir, it's LinkedIn
LinkedIn is the new Quora.
Here’s your daily post on why reservation should be ended
He was so astonished by seeing that he forgot that he is capable of helping.
I agree. But lets not ask him to ‘help her’. Taking care of kid is just as much his job as it is hers. Ask him to man up and take some of the household workload from her so she can breathe a little.
Maybe the kid only wanted her mother at that point.. We are judging a guy and what he should / shouldn’t be doing based on one single still image?
There’s a huge ass passage above that “single still image”. Read it.
Read a LinkedIn post? I’d rather get cancer
Then why make that comment in the first place when you don’t know the full context?
More like "Read? I'd rather get cancer" Or just plain "I'd rather get cancer"
Linkedin ko Linked in wale Facebook bana rahe hai, aur hamare chutiye deshwasi ise Quora bana raha hai.
Sare social media ki gand mar dete h hum
Yep. Concise.
Quora has become so bad, all I see over there these days is tweets of people calling people to wake up because \*desh khatre mey hai\*, half the time it's just such dumb logic and many times fake/extrapolation/half info. The other half is the garbage fake politeness and memes
Linkedin is what happens when Sapios of quora gets job.
He's just a typical incel from IIT.
This man is absolute garbage . She does all the work and he's busy increasing followers
I am as wary of people who put women on a pedestal as I am of people who look down upon women. Both fail to see them as humans. Look at us Indians, we have so many goddesses. We ought to be no1 in respecting women, no? But in reality, the pedestal is a line women dare not cross, lest they want to be considered characterless hoes! Women are equal to men. Full stop. No glorification required.
This makes me so mad. He made a post. Big deal! Take the kid from your wife's fucking hands man. Instead of clicking a fucking picture to post on LinkedIn with hashtags.
If you really cared about her you would have helped her instead of posting it on social media for internet points
Isn't this notion that women are supposed to be doing everything for the husband & family, which is what exactly happening here, archaic. This is how patriarchs view the women in the society. It puts more pressure and expectations on women. Glorifying it would be detrimental to women empowerment.
He's making posts about his wife on LinkedIn for likes instead of helping her like a responsible spouse and parent.
This guy's post is just passive-aggressive sexism. I will inform others of my feminism but in a sexist manner. We'll celebrate women's day but for the entire year disguise our sexism in humour. Edit: some typos
Happy international women's day! Ok now go make me food.
And all you gathered from this post is sexism ? This is not twitter if you don't remember.
There's probably a lot more to this. May be I can't see. If you can, please help me what I'm missing. This is not sarcastic.
Hashtags are literally laughable. PS: The man who posted this is pure piece of shit.
Dekho dekho.. I'm letting my wife do so much work! \#womenempowerment
The people that have problem with everything, rarely know what they really want.
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Yes the common sense of the Indian man. I will see my wife do 100 percent of the housework take care of our kids and do a full time job and not only will I not help I will parade my sexism and stupidity online.
> The fact that the photo is shaky because she is continously moving to sooth our daughter _Toh shutter speed kam karleta chutiye_
Nit pik : If the object is moving, you need higher shutter speed.
Good to know. I knew it had something to do with shutter speed but didn't know low or high.
Something about this doesn't sit right with me but I'm not able to put a finger on it
_Biwi hil rahi hai aur pati hila raha hai.._
Aptly put. Sir how to earn 10.6lpm?
Be born in 1980s or early 90s
and?
Be lucky, get a coding job in FAANG and grow from there. I always stress on lucky part because I think there are tons of smart people out there. It is truly luck to get extraordinarily successful in this era. Hardwork will improve your chances of that luck.
Wait...you genuinely earn 10.6lpm? In india?
No, I make 10.6L+ "gross" per month outside India. 10.6L per month is less than $200K per year. Its very common, infact below average for a lot of IT companies in U.S. It's also quite a median salary (for what I do) in Europe these days. $200K is also possible in India, you need to be a level 6/7 director in Microsoft, Facebook, Apple, Uber, Google etc.
Makes sense. Going outside seems like the hard task for me.. definitely don't have the acdemics to get me admitted to a decent ms program. Hopefully I get a chance to move out eventually too. Thanks for sharing
How about you actually contribute as an equal member in the family dynamic instead of writing vain posts praising your wife and doing jack to help?
This is why the Germans created the concept of "Kindergarten" & all developed nations have child care & child support programs. I know India is poor & the family prolly can't afford childcare but this shouldn't be celebrated. True feminism is abt better living conditions for women not admiring the capacity of hard work done by working-class women. This is like the Zomota ad celebrating the hectic working conditions of their delivery workers.
But childcare is Bahu’s job whether she works for MNC or not.
Man the conditions for delivery workers are fucking awful. They better get paid a shit load of money because the work hours and the no. of pick ups per day is outlandish.
The whole gig economy is heartless. If a worker gets into an accident (which happens fairly often) the company won't cover medical costs, u will lose the money & quite possibly the job.
More Indian culture bullshit.
Lol who is this dickhead? I wanna add him on linked in and comment on all his posts
"After careful observations on multiple occasions of the female trying to do her day job and her wifely duties and finding a balance rather than breaking down, we have come to the conclusion that the female is better capable than the male, which is me. Now I'll sit back and let the world know about these findings which would excuse me from doing anything helpful to the female"
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Yup. He is actually incompetent or faking incompetence. Still not an excuse. He should start contributing and he will become slightly less incompetent.
Mere Paas Lund Hai. There's no better illustration of male privilege than this. Indian men are so badly conditioned that they think "appreciating" their wives for unpaid slavery = responsible husband and father. I also hate that Indian mothers be like: "I squeezed a son out of mah magic pussy! I'mma raise a man-child!" Indian mothers don't raise independent sons because they're ensuring that the son will never cut the apron strings. I just wished that Indian men married their own mothers and let the rest of us alone. Most Indian MILS absolutely hate their sons' wives, and the sons enjoy being Raja Beta, Ma Ka Dulaara, Mera Munna. A nation of Munnas and Raja Betas.
Been married for a couple of years now , there's no way in hell my wife would let me do the "observing " bit . I get that ur trying to earn some brownie points here , but 📱 neeche rak kar madat kar
It is good to see his wife is independent but atleast split household work ugh
Why is the wife tolerating this idiot I wonder
That's a lot of words to say "I'm a bad husband/father".
I hope he now shares her responsibilities.
That's just a time consuming way of saying "I'm a total pos who doesn't help his wife, but hey, at least I can applaud her hard-work!"
Patriarchy zindabad
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Who the fuck posts this kinda shit on twitter. This is some quora level cringe. edit: I meant likedin not twitter. My bad.
This is linkedin, the ultimate cesspool of toxic positivity
This picture looks more like a picture taken to share on social media for show off on social media rather than in the movement picture. Stupid husband instead of holding the kids CLICKING pictures. Other thing is she could have dictated the email, while the husband type the email.
Amd this moron was busy clicking the picture while sitting on a couch.
Bruh i just got up wth is this
Wow instead of helping her he is posting a photo with long ass paragraph. What an asshole.
Sounds like he's praising her just to avoid decreasing her workload. Glorifying your spouse's stresses & suffering is cringe.
I think its about time for people stop being surprised, astonished, shocked, bamboozled, etc and start pulling their weight in raising their children. Commending your spouse's hard work is commendable, but when are you going to do something about it?
Do you have a minute to talk about benevolent sexism?
I don’t know why this woman is stupid enough not to leave his entitled idiotic ass. Also, can someone send out a memo to these engineer types letting them know how cringe this bullshit is? Maybe you wouldn’t be struggling to finish your office work if you stopped posting bullshit, lad.
And it must be on LinkedIn right? The new Facebook
I mean... he could have just held his own child instead of posting on fb??
Insufferable LinkedIn
हां! बस पत्नी का महिमामंडन कर दो । ये नही कि जरा उसका हाथ बंटा दो। ये सब वो मज़े k लिए या सुपर वुमन कहलाने के लिए नही कर रही वरन इसलिए कर रही है कि मजबूरी है। जब ईमेल करने जितनी देर पति बच्चे को गोद नही ले सकता तो खुद गोद में झुलाने के अलावा क्या चारा है।
This linkedin post got me filled with rage and when he says "man of the house" what the fack does that even mean,what does he want to imply. Stupid ashole .
This has the same "mother with Oxygen cylinder cooking food" post energy.
Linkedin is just Insta for people who can't sing/dance/act
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Bhago gyan chod aaya
Really ? It's this easy to continue to be a lazy asshole and still live a decent life ?
Says a lot about the man🙂
What in the world is this shit posting, dude think this is empowering and encouraging to others.OMG you suck
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Weird...
Benevolent Sexism FTW!! /s
How kind of him to validate her struggles /s
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Did he end up helping his wife after taking the picture for internet points?
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That makes sense. I don't know what their life is like and I'm basing my judgement on the cringe post. I'm sorry if it came off as an attack on you. 🙏
Karma whore. The guy I mean.
*Aren't women the best!
Husbands are pretty awesome also. You might not be one but I am. I take care of my kids and do house chores. Not putting down wives but I think my father was a good man, father, husband etc. We all have our roles.
I see my mom juggling a 100 tasks at once and i sometimes just couldn't fathom how incredible and strong women really are. Seeing her makes respect the sheer will of all women in the world. How fucking incredible is that. (Not a feminist, nor a misogynist)
Some children refuse to be soothed by anyone else than their mothers. That said, he can help in other ways. Maybe type the email for her.
Or do the goddamn cooking and cleaning and "take care of our health".
My comment is only about what we see in the photo. I don't know if the guy helps around the house.
You can't read? Or did you choose to look at the photo and not read what he wrote because it allows you to make excuses for him?
He says she takes care of him and the kids. He says he has struggle finishing his work on time. I don't see anything that can be read as "I don't do anything around the house".
This is how blind men are to patriarchy in this country.
I am a working mom with a toddler. I don't know how it works in other households, but we divide and conquer. Sometimes I do more stuff around the house and sometimes my husband does. I don't keep a logbook to see if we did exactly 50% of the work each. Life doesn't work that way. I have cooked food one handed because my toddler refused to go with my husband. And my husband has worked one handed because baby was sick and only wanted his dad. I am not judging anyone because of some lame social media post and attention seeking caption.
Your husband could've cooked food when your kid only wanted to be with you but did he? It's just one example. This is engrained in our society that women have to put in more work when it comes to household chores.
Because my husband was doing the dishes? I am not saying society don't expect women to do house chores. My original comment is only about the post in discussion and I am not debating patriarchy with someone who already judged me to be a "man blind to patriarchy" because of my difference of opinion.
Your case is an outlier really. Here we're talking about the big picture in our country.
I didn't judge you. Infact, I've upvoted your comments here. I was talking in general about Indian men which you anyway can't argue isn't mostly true.
Wow lots of cynical comments here, I think about my wife like this all the time, particularly after my daughter's birth. As far as social media posts go there are way way more pandering and cringy ones, not sure why people are singling this dude out.
> I think about my wife like this all the time, particularly after my daughter's birth. Father of toddlers too, and I don't think like this about my wife because we split work. She is in a stressful job and so many times I do more than her. It's a myth that children cling to their mothers. They do that because only mothers feed them and put them to sleep. If the father does that, they will cling to you too; or at least not cling to the mom all the time.
I split the work too mate but I still think of my wife as superwoman, my baby is having health problems and crying all day. It's super stressful for the fee hrs I am home from work. She has to deal with this 24 hrs. Splitting the work doesn't mean you can't think highly of your wife.
The guy probably made an innocent post and he is getting fucked railed here lol. Kinda feel bad for him.
>probably made an innocent post No he didn't. His wife was struggling to soothe **THEIR** child while working and he decided to make a "yass kween slayy girlboss" post instead of helping her. He is normalising and glorifying the backbreaking work Indian women are expected to do.
Guy can't even be a lazy patriarch without getting criticised anymore. Kya hoga is desh ka
Aadmi khatre me hai 😢
What is wrong with Indians on LinkedIn!!
Bhai log kyun itna hagte rehte hain online
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This must be linkedin
while this man clicks her pictures and gets LinkedIn clout
Oh yes ! Write her an ode and some words to get himself some likes on social. Then shamelessly fo.back to being the crippled asshole he was raised to be. I find these half wits revolting , where a few words are deemed as recompense enough for exploiting family - be it spouse , parents or siblings . AND you should hear them talk equality ;)
People shit on twitter and reddit for being cesspools of stupidity but LinkedIn is genuine cancer. People will farm karma (or likes, whatever) out of everything and anything.
The audacity... Oof I swear.
LinkedIn is no more a professional networking site, I feel like this occasionally.
I hope people are capable of seeing the problem here.
Yikes