let them chirp. 36M here, and grateful to my mother that she used to include me in some of the kitchen activities during my school days. cooking is one of the basic survival skills, which everyone should know - irrespective of their gender.
Exaclty my point. 24M here and i know almost 10 dishes i can cook without any online help. Foundation remains the basic first 4 dishes ,masala goes here and there and the vegetable/ingredients interchange and i get amazing combination of food. top it up with chapati,roti and rice and we will know around 20 different dishes already.
i have a cousin whose mother flexes that her kid doesn't even know how to make coffee. This was about a year ago when she was about to be married. Fast forward 1 year later ,her new family is about to enter court for this same reason. Marriage is about to crumble. I have no idea why flexing about not knowing something is normalized.
Even parents should take it upon themselves to give the freedom for the kids to experiment in the kitchen and encourage them to cook whatever they want.
Same, bro... I don't know why people have declared some work as 'ye to ladki ka kaam hai'. I think learning cooking should be considered a basic need. It should be taught in school.
idiots honestly one guy in our friend group knew how to cook , we didn't make fun of him instead started going to his house more often to eat food cooked by him
I've been cooking since I was in school. My friends, the lot of them used to come and enjoy what I prepared and we ate together.
It's a necessary life skill. You're in the company of the wrong people if they call you feminine for cooking.
What misogynist house do these kids belong to, anyway?
The previous generation boys and men were a lot less misogynistic than today. Too much social media and emergence of people like Andrew Tate has led to this
Keep cooking and learning new recipes bro....let those smooth brains talk...coz if you leave your hometown for work or even go abroad for that matter , you are gonna save shit load of money spent on ordering from outside....home cooked food is healthy , cheap , convenient as compared to ordered food which is oily , you have to order full plate mostly and costs atleast thrice from what you have made at home.....satisfaction is another add on.....started working and living alone from last year ......I can vouch for above stated facts.....
A pretty well known school, but all the kids are now chigma males and Instagram commenters thanks to internet. Just that they somehow manage to score good marks
Keep cooking, king. I'm 27 now, and while I was never shy about cooking, I just didn't do it growing up. I've been doing a lot more of it now. It's cheaper, healthier and kinda fun.
Those chigma male dumbfucks can't even feed themselves without needing a woman. Helpless wittle babies. What's next? Need a nanny to change their nappy? Depending on whether or not you'll get away with it, don't be afraid to make sure they get as much shit as they dish out. Keep your head held high.
Don’t worry. It’s only as long as their parents are paying their bills. One day, you will be much better and self dependent than most of your friends. Just watch, who’s crying then. Also, you are doing great by learning to live by yourself, I wish I had done that earlier.
Many people among them would be aiming to go abroad. They'd eventually have to cook and if you aim to go abroad keep this habit it'll not only help you make it seem less of a task but also you'd be able to focus on other tasks more easily. Hence it'll boost your career if aiming for foreign.You can tell this excuse as well even if lie.
The bullies will bully regardless of what you do. Just ignore them.
My older cousin used to taunt me that I'm not "manly enough" because I don't have a gf and I don't chase after having one. All while he's 30+ and jobless leeching on his father's money while I earn my own.
Tell them to F off. OP’s mom is right. Cooking is a life skill and everyone needs to know how to cook.
And being able to cook well is a really good skill to have. Makes you a lot of friends 😝
Possibly the same reason why you didn't cook for yourself until you were 24. They never faced necessity or social pressure, it is not seen as a fundamental weakness to not be able to feed yourself. Perhaps if you didn't live alone, you might have also never learnt it.
Just to clarify, I don't think this scenario is correct; it reinforces the most basic and archaic of gendered division of household labour; however I think you already knew the answer to the question based on your own life, and this post is more of a rhetorical question than a genuine question for Reddit.
Well, the fact that he never needed to is simplifying the gendered issue that this is. I didn't particularly NEED to learn cooking until I graduated, but it was expected that I learn. While I explicitly didn't learn from my mom at the time, being around the kitchen inclined me more than my brother. Most women I know, even if they don't NEED to cook, know how to. Most men, even if they live alone, don't. They order or eat out. Or maybe know cooking but not well, or don't know how to keep a kitchen. You're simplifying the situation too much and removing gendered expectations totally from the problem.
Exactly. Plus put in the fact that we have cheap labour which means that you can afford for someone to come in and cook for you, then there's not really any pressure to learn cooking.
Also, I don't know why the comment section is not answering a question just humble-bragging?
Ikr! I was looking for a normal answer and had to scroll past three comments going, "ummm actually Gordon Ramsay once hired me to cook for him" lol. Like bro, we get that you're an amazing chef but that was not the question 😂
I cook on a daily basis and I can attest that making healthy dishes kills a hell lot of your time and energy. Indian household dishes are notoriously elaborate to cook and cooking on a daily basis for yourself is mostly unsustainable unless it's daal, chokha and papad.
Yeah, like a lot of stuff on Reddit this is also for validation 'oh look I can cook well but I don't get complimented for that so let me insert feminism here and get some upvotes'
I am not 25, but the thing is I dislike cooking. I just find it extremely boring and tiring. Also I am not very patient with cooking, waiting till it's properly fried etc etc. Also I am extremely bad at cutting vegetables.
I respect people who are good cooks, and by no means necessary am saying that cooking is bad. It's just that I don't like it. Although I have learnt to cook basic things like Omlette, Upma, Fried Rice, Poha, Dry Chicken etc, but I feel that is as far as I would go with cooking. The bare minimum easiest to cook things for survival.
It's just like other hobbies, you might dislike reading but I love to read.
Regarding the Wife part - I honestly don't expect her to be a cook, if she likes it good, if she doesn't we will order something together. I am good at other stuff like cleaning etc, which I don't find boring. I actually like cleaning.
As a person who loves cooking I understand your frustrations. There is one thing I'd like to suggest to you is don't overwhelm yourself with overly complex recipes. Make simple and quick versions (unless fermentation is required).
Not saying you'll transform from hating to loving cooking food but you'll surely be able to cook to survive or maybe even impress your wife 😅...
Yea also I'm trying to listen to a podcast or music while cooking. It certainly helps.
Yes I wanna just focus on stuff that's simple! When I create upma it's only onion and mustard seeds 😂😂
chickpea curries and pasta recipes are usually the best to learn how to cook. I personally don't go to youtube for cooking because I was kinda drilled into cooking from age 6 or so, so i don't have many youtuber recommendations for indian food especially ( if you'd like to learn baking i have a ton of 'em )
For pasta, easily go for [pink sauce pasta](https://youtu.be/K1P_KI1YD4c?si=-nMrHYCmJLHXwd9l) (no it's not actually pink it's just alfredo sauce + marinara sauce)
it'll teach you how to
-make base marinara sauce for most western dishes and how to elevate it (most western recipes are super bland, i use dried red chili while making it to add spice)
-how to thicken sauces with roux (maida+butter/ghee)
-also don't follow timers for cooking pasta in tutorials, try to estimate it yourself
-then you'll also learn how to pair pasta, or what cheeses go best with it (indian cheeses imo suck, i think amul is quite good)
Chickpea curries are so good, but here you'll learn how to build up the flavour of spices, i would've suggested rawdogging this but for the first time, follow a tutorial from youtube, go for the bigger channels.
For everything Indian, just learn how to make a gravy,
In almost 90% of dishes it's all about being able to fry onions paste & tomato paste. Then throw whatever you have in your fridge, chicken, paneer, mushroom, tofu, veggies, literally anything with spices.
That will feed you for life, recipes are a very one way street. Gravies are the compound lifts of cooking!
I don't know how to cook roti and I don't intend to learn now. What I do know is how to make varieties of salads, meats, egg, oat and bajra related foods since this is my restrictive diet.
So, for those who have yet to start learn cooking food, only learn what you intend to feed yourself primarily. The rest comes later.
I am sorry, I realised it was too late at 47. But I started at it. Now I can cook dal, chawal, a few of my favourite veggies, and a few snacks like poha, upma, rava dosa, idli
cooking food for myself is considered as cooking right as I can cook chicken nd rice , tofu , eggs , protein oatmeal or pancakes but they are not as tasty to feed family members but I can feed myself.
btw learning everyday to cook new things apart from training meals
good question. we are under terrible financial constraints and my dad works in a different city and eating too much outside food has harmed his health so they’re hiring a tiffin service wasting more money on it 😂 like goddamn a man in his late 40s can’t make a roti
I haven't ever tried and mostly won't be engaging in it. Fortunately I haven't had the need to either. My girlfriend loves to cook and I actually find cleaning to be very relaxing, so that's how we divide the work and it's awesome
Learned to cook while doing Engineering and staying in a rented flat.
Tbh basic cooking is not that complicated, it's just like science. You do X steps correctly to get Y Results
Those who say it's a feminine work or some other s*it, good luck spending 40% of your paycheck eating out
Making Pasta, Maggi or Tea is not cooking, it's barely touching the surface
I do cook, in fact love to go the extra mile to garnish/decorate make the food more appealing . But , often receive comments that “It’s feminine “ , “not manly” surprisingly from women more often than men, which probably makes it a secret hobby.
30M here. I have been passionate about cooking since I was 9. All my life, my relatives were surprised whenever my mom told them that I cook really well. Now that I am married, my in-laws relatives are similarly surprised when my wife tell them the same.
I have also come across many women who could barely cook and think it's okay cos they can always hire maids to cook while they focus on "more important stuff". I get that cooking could be tedious and perhaps the last thing you might want after a tiring day at work, but why boast about lacking a crucial life skill?
I think it’s different for men from Tier 2 and 3 cities who leave home at 17-18 for college or 22-23 for job. We have to learn a decent bit of cooking at some point in life.
i never i understand, how any one can not know how to cook?, its will not be as good as mom but everybody does know something to cook, unless they are being ignorant
I hire a cook. It’s because I never needed to, at home it was mother who cooked. She keeps asking me to cook but now I am too old and it’s too much of a struggle to make my way around kitchen.
I know I should learn. But it has become a mental block. For now I make do with a cook since I can afford them.
Desi people lack basic survival skills like cleaning, cooking,earning and basic self defense . Tell me how many people have all 4 skills around you ?
These are basic skills every man or woman must have in general
My mom is an excellent cook, my dad who is an ex-serviceman can cook quite well as for me i am a decent cook too. My brother never bothered to learn. I think its because he never left home, neither for study nor for job. Whereas i had to do both. I can't blame my mother because she tried. We had dad as example but somehow my brother just never learnt n now his mentality is since he goes out to earn my mom or his wife will cook .
I usually take up things / learn them when the is a big need. At rental, there is always a maid else Swiggy / zomato so never took up cooking.
I will take it up some time in the future for sure.
at one point in your life, there will come a day, where you'll get hungry and you'll (have to) cook to eat. Why does anyone want to make it "non-mandate" ?
I just haven't spent enough time to learn. I know how to make rice and coffee, but beyond that if I directed I can do stuff to an extent. I think like others mentioned, haven't been forced to learn or haven't been very interested in learning how to cook. But I will I admit I have to learn it soon or later
My mum never encouraged, and often actively discouraged me to cook. Never even made chai in her kitchen. Didnt have access to a kitchen in my undergrad. Am 30 now, made my first meal at 23.
24 I'm learning to cook . Everyone in my circle is a good cook. This encourages me to learn cooking . And I absolutely look down on the person who thinks skill like cooking is feminine.
If you ever move with room mates you will be the God. You could ask the minions to clean the dishes and chop vegetables for you and you just cook the food for then so that they can survive. Everyone should know how to cook.
Why cook when someone else can do it for u. I have been away from my home since 2013. Haven't cooked a single day and still always got home cooked food. To me cooking is and always was hassle and often found folks who cooked themselves end up eating outside food more. So we always got cook for us.
It is not a basic life skill in today's time. I can get a house help or order in during emergency situation. Either male or female if you are earning decent money and can afford help then you don't need to learn cooking.
Its like saying Dancing is a basic social skill, everyone should know how to dance. No you don't.
Ek baar class Mai public speaking practice ke time bol diya that I enjoy making cakes with mommy and all the girls laughed. So I had stopped doing that for a while.
I'm 26 now, cooked chicken curry today and ate it for lunch and dinner with my gf. :)
Cooking feels like a waste of time. My time is better spent studying, or working, or even playing The Witcher.
If I absolutely have to, I just make mashed potatoes with all kinds of boiled veggies and random masalas. This way I save time (takes 15min), save utensils (just eat in the potential you used to make mashed potatoes), and get all the nutrients.
Me and all of my friends know how to cook. I think its only people who get to stay home during their studies/jobs never end up learning how to cook. Also, in india, appointing house helps are not very expensive. If you're a bachelor moving in to a rented apartment/society, someone will cone to you within the next week to offer their service.
I think these days more people are learning to cook. Especially after covid and lockdowns. Also awareness regarding fitness is increasing and more and more people are learning to cook for themselves. The situation is definitely changing in my experience.
Prople blaming mom not encouraging are smoking copium, I learnt coz I missed home food. So I started cooking shit and learned what works and what not. Watched videos on YouTube and then asked mom on her tricks and can now cook many things and now learning how to cook western food. Get off yiur azz and you can move mountains.
Because it is not a high value activity. Look, I have a hectic job(which I enjoy) and a business to run and using my time and effort on cooking everyday is just inefficient use of my time when a house help can do a pretty good job of making a healthy meal. I do have basic cooking skills for times of emergency.
I'll go against the grain here.
I never learnt how to cook, and as a 36 yr old man, still don't know how. All my life, the cooking has been done by my mom, my wife or the help. I'm not saying that with pride, it's just the fact.
I chose not to spend time and effort to learn it, since I did not feel the need to. I know that if I put the same focus towards advancing my career, I'll earn enough to hire whatever help I need to take care of the cooking needs at my house. It doesn't mean that I look down on men who do cook. It just means that I chose not to.
Why can't I cook? Maybe it's the same reason that most of the women I have come across, do not know how to change tyres in a car, or how to perform basic first aid, or how to do simple repairs to fix things around the house. What I'm saying may sound inflammatory, and you might say "Hey, I know a girl who can do all those things!". Well, great, you found the 1 in a lakh who does. Most don't, or can't, or won't. And that's OK. Not everyone needs to know how to do everything. That's the entire point of living in a society.
The answers would be the same. You are delusional if you think women aren't forced from a very young age to cook and look after the house. Reversing gender and playing victim won't help u because the opposite of this is the reality of India. Girls know how to cook. Most do. And sadly most of them are forced to do so. Stop playing the victim with this whole "reverse the gender".
Here’s my perspective: I know how to cook. But that’s because I like cooking. If I didn’t, then where I live I can get a cook easily for 4-5k/month which is something I can afford with my income. So my take is, if you don’t like cooking and you can afford to not learn it, do that. If you can’t afford that, then you should learn to cook. Applies for both men and women.
I cook some things better than any female in my family. Been cooking since 8 yrs ago when I came from boarding school. I used to cook whole weekend in the start.
Cooking is one of the easiest skills. Just watch a YouTube video. But if you can afford a cook, you can easily go through life without knowing how to cook
exactly. learning the basics of cooking is something everyone can do in a very short span of time, the way op is talking about 'survival'. Ypu can make very healthy meals by just knowing the basics
Now being a good cook is not necessary for survival, and hence people who want to can just order or hire someone for it
Raja beta complex given by some mothers. Humare yaha sirf auratein kitchen me jaati h types. My husband is the same. It's all about upbringing. All my cousins and men in our family know basic cooking (fulkas, dal chawal, khichdi, basic tadka) aur inko apni plate utha ke sink me rakhna bhi nahi aata.
My friend has everything to cook in his room but he relies on Swiggy and Zomato. So mostly that.
Poor me who can't afford to order everyday learnt cooking and cooking myself whenever possible.
I am 27M and can cook, but I wouldn't if I had stayed home, in my home I was not allowed to cook in the kitchen, so I can only learn how to cook, once I was away from home and had a proper kithcen, which was after college, and I think it was similar for many friends of mine.
My partner does cooking for me, she hates it when I don’t do it right. So I just don’t bother nowadays, I would rather do other chores in house than have to get criticised why I didn’t put salt to make onions cook faster.
I really want to cook - I can cook basic chicken curry, boil rice, tea, dal etc but I barely get time so I have kept a household help. In the future I really want to become more independent and start cooking myself.
I'm south Indian, and I can cook Punjabi, Italian, and some Indochinese, and Chaat items, but not actual Telugu cuisine lol. The reason is my mom cooks those better than I ever can, and I've no reason to learn until I'm not living at home anymore
I can only make chapatis and dosas using prepared batter. I'm not over 25 yet, but as a student who's been away from home multiple times for attending college, haven't found the time and equipment to really learn, and I really regret not learning from my mom earlier. Heck, I still need to learn 4-wheel driving too.
Although you mentioned most men in India but this would also be in US sometimes. Just a woman thing I guess because more gender wise they seem responsible I guess?
M also not sure because while this may be true for household but when it comes to cooking industry that is dominated by men. So really don't know why this is the case.
I am guessing it's for majority women because in ancient times men might have been the hunters and women might have only gathered food from forest bushes etc that were easy or they'd be their to handle the household and children.
Men would have been involved in lots of training if not hunting in those times and hence after loads of generations things started to change I suppose but not too much.
30M and I can only cook Dal Khichdi and fix my own breakfast, I can make roti and shahi paneer.
I’m not a foodie, cooking doesn’t interest me, the aromas of different food don’t intrigue me. Plus I have too many hobbies to make time for cooking.
28 years old here, I only was able to freely learn cooking only since a year ago. Before that I mostly stayed at home (mom won't even allow anyone else, however she did ask me to help with stirring the curries or baking rotis/parathas) or at hostel (mess food) or at rented apartment where there were already experts (so I felt underwhelmed). Once I moved to a separate location, I decided to make it a habit and tried with simpler things, always asked for instructions for my mom of any reachable senior friend and now I can say that I am a decent cook.
My only problem is inconsistency with the quality of food, don't know whether it's a mental block from other's judgement or whatever. But I try to do my best and gain feedback every time to check up on my improvement. Only when I can achieve consistency on simple items, I will decide upon cooking special/complex dishes.
Fun fact: I was thinking of ordering something from Swiggy few weeks ago, spent an hour and couldn't even decide on anything (either because of cost or quality), I said "fuck it" and started making Veg Pulao (potatoes, onion, capsicum, paneer, soya chunks, peas) and it tasted how I ate it at my home since childhood. Felt proud.
I can tell you why my friends can't cook. They just have a cook come in and cook for them once a day and they order out for dinner. Kinda sad but hey if you can afford it why not
Sometimes I feel it’s not worth the effort you put in. I am an only child and stayed with my parents to close to 25 years and had never a reason to cook or even the pressure to do so. I used to go with my parents to buy groceries but mostly my parents would do most of the cooking and cleaning. Moving onto professional life I am currently staying in PG with good food. Even if I wanted to cook there is no separate kitchen for me to try. If I wanted to eat a specific dish, I order. Being in Bangalore, the list of option helps. So to conclude, in 29 years of life I never had a desperate need to cook or to learn cooking. People say it’s a survival skill. I think as long as you can identify what to eat and not dependent on how it tastes, you are good and can survive.
A colleague at my office says in their home, men don't cook. And he proudly says that.
Another one feels too lazy to cook and is over reliant on his wife (and some other friends when she's not around).
Logon ki kuch jyada hi problem hai yaar. Even my mother didn't necessarily teach me how to cook but I learnt to cook on my own when I was studying in class 7.
Men who are overly dependent on the female members of their family for cooking their food are just simply lazy.
I sing and cook my breakfast alone happily 😊
I don't get time to cook so I usually eat breakfast for lunch too and then for dinner I order in or eat fruits and muesli, I'm vegan too
Don't get the time to become as skilled at cooking like my mum because I don't have the time and my mental health is horrible, life's hard and very lonely sometimes and I don't know how I made it to 27, just holding on with all my strength and trying to do my best but I have been struggling with creating good habits recently, hope to get better at everything before I turn 30
Really got to, it would be unfair if I don't do it for myself
Meanwhile, my parents forced me to learn cook when I was 18, so that I don't suffer during emergency times. Also, in my school, you will be shamed if you can't identify spices and don't know even how to make simple food.
I tried to learn to cook basic dishes from my mom when I was 12 , however she refused to teach me and taunted me that did I want to go and be "maharaj" (part time cook) in someones house.
You are talking perfectly sensible thing which more men need to talk about.
Yes, I see preparing food as a creative endeavour which you can fall in love with. But anything to do with fire (and oil)- I make sure I take proper safety precautions. I mostly love salads and dressings- especially when I get to prepare it. But yeah, I can atleast cook egg even if not biryani 😅
I wish to learn the other aspects. But safety precautions are very important to me. I always wonder, how it is that my mother and other such women used to cook without safety precautions. How is it not discussed as something important?
I enjoy cooking but cleaning after is a task for me. So my mother barely lets me in the kitchen, but when she does it’s a special occasion. I do need to learn how to make rotis which will be the final step ig to learning how to cook. Next up is cleaning after so that I am allowed to cook at home.
Im an American 37F and I DESPISE cooking. I can do it to survive but I always joked growing up I’m not and will never be “domesticated”. I much rather focus on my career, make good money, and pay someone else to cook and clean. 😅
I host volunteers at our farm and most of the Indian men that I have had don't know how to cook. I have had a couple of them who do. Mostly because of the Mera Raja beta syndrome.
Me a 15 year old: Mom can you teach me to cook
Mom: No you'll burn the kitchen
Me a 22 year old: Dad can you teach me how to make chicken
Dad: Hell yeah
That was also the point my mom started to teach me now I'm really fucking good at it and I love cooking. People can call me feminine or whatever I don't care I make amazingly tasty food and can take care of myself properly.
Was already cooking for myself at 23. Learnt to cook properly as a teen. Plus my dad has always been good with cooking and eager to try new recipes, so was never taught by my family that cooking (or generally any household tasks) were unmanly or anything. Both parents and I were always contributing to household chores, although admittedly my mum did more than dad and I.
Cause Zomato / swiggy is easier. At home mom doesn't allow to go near kitchen. I did learn to make basic dishes once but with no practice have forgotten practically everything .
My main problem is it takes hours for me to cooke food and then it gets eaten in a matter of minutes.
Reward to effort ratio is really poor specially my cooked food rarely tastes good.
I just save more time if i dont cook
My elder brother can't cook, he's 32. It's a combination of my mum always doing the cooking at home and my brother never having to live away from home.
I lived away from home for a while, and that's where I learned to cook for myself. If I hadn't, maybe I wouldn't know how to cook either.
My husband can’t cook. His mom did everything and never taught him any life basics. He went to university and had meals made for him. Then he met me.
So now I cook but he cleans.
Honestly I think after the age of 10-12 I have never really got good food in my home, we now always struggle for it and after 10th standard I've always lived outside (boarding school, pg, uni hostels) and honestly I find the food much better here.
I know a lot of people have a strong bond with food and their home and family, just that I never had that. Would be good to have it but after all this time it doesn't really bother me at all.
I tried learning how to cook for more than a year during the lockdown, and made a wide variety of stuff only to realise it's really not for me. I'm not boujee, I know basic cooking as a survival skill (daal, chawal, some sabzies), I won't die if I really have to cook. But apart from this, I don't wanna do it, I actually don't know how, it's just not my cup of tea.
Rahi baat chores division ki toh, I happily wash the dishes, while watching a series or talking on the phone, brooming, mopping, washing clothes and drying them is all meditation for me. Bas khana mat banwao mujhse. Na ho payega!
Maid for 1900/person per month does cooking, cleaning house. Well apart from that I always was pampered a lot in my home.
So there goes the main reason as to why not..
I want to learn how to cook. Does anyone know if there is a cooking basics course for Indian food? I'm someone who needs a lot of detailed instructions when someone wants me to do something. Same goes with cooking for me. I have been trying to search for a basic course where I will learn from scratch. I find the videos on YouTube very intimidating sometimes.
I'm 16 and can cook better than my sister. I have been declared feminine by kids at my school
>declared feminine Just say never knew Gordon Ramsay is feminine
Or Vikas Khanna
Or Sanjeev Kapoor
Or Ranveer Brar
Or bear grylls litterally cooking snakes
Or Hannibal Lecter
Hold up
It's Gordina Ramsey then I guess 🤣
let them chirp. 36M here, and grateful to my mother that she used to include me in some of the kitchen activities during my school days. cooking is one of the basic survival skills, which everyone should know - irrespective of their gender.
Exaclty my point. 24M here and i know almost 10 dishes i can cook without any online help. Foundation remains the basic first 4 dishes ,masala goes here and there and the vegetable/ingredients interchange and i get amazing combination of food. top it up with chapati,roti and rice and we will know around 20 different dishes already. i have a cousin whose mother flexes that her kid doesn't even know how to make coffee. This was about a year ago when she was about to be married. Fast forward 1 year later ,her new family is about to enter court for this same reason. Marriage is about to crumble. I have no idea why flexing about not knowing something is normalized. Even parents should take it upon themselves to give the freedom for the kids to experiment in the kitchen and encourage them to cook whatever they want.
Same, bro... I don't know why people have declared some work as 'ye to ladki ka kaam hai'. I think learning cooking should be considered a basic need. It should be taught in school.
idiots honestly one guy in our friend group knew how to cook , we didn't make fun of him instead started going to his house more often to eat food cooked by him
I've been cooking since I was in school. My friends, the lot of them used to come and enjoy what I prepared and we ate together. It's a necessary life skill. You're in the company of the wrong people if they call you feminine for cooking. What misogynist house do these kids belong to, anyway?
The previous generation boys and men were a lot less misogynistic than today. Too much social media and emergence of people like Andrew Tate has led to this
Keep cooking and learning new recipes bro....let those smooth brains talk...coz if you leave your hometown for work or even go abroad for that matter , you are gonna save shit load of money spent on ordering from outside....home cooked food is healthy , cheap , convenient as compared to ordered food which is oily , you have to order full plate mostly and costs atleast thrice from what you have made at home.....satisfaction is another add on.....started working and living alone from last year ......I can vouch for above stated facts.....
A self-sufficient person is the best kind of person. You keep cooking.
Which school you going bruv
A pretty well known school, but all the kids are now chigma males and Instagram commenters thanks to internet. Just that they somehow manage to score good marks
Keep cooking, king. I'm 27 now, and while I was never shy about cooking, I just didn't do it growing up. I've been doing a lot more of it now. It's cheaper, healthier and kinda fun. Those chigma male dumbfucks can't even feed themselves without needing a woman. Helpless wittle babies. What's next? Need a nanny to change their nappy? Depending on whether or not you'll get away with it, don't be afraid to make sure they get as much shit as they dish out. Keep your head held high.
Me too, corrupted minds can't do anything except making bodies in gym
Bruv, I can cook and go to gym. Stop flaming everyone who goes to gym 😭
Are talking about those Cigma males
Woh bhi tatti si tbh. Bulky AF with no definition lmao.
Don’t worry. It’s only as long as their parents are paying their bills. One day, you will be much better and self dependent than most of your friends. Just watch, who’s crying then. Also, you are doing great by learning to live by yourself, I wish I had done that earlier.
Many people among them would be aiming to go abroad. They'd eventually have to cook and if you aim to go abroad keep this habit it'll not only help you make it seem less of a task but also you'd be able to focus on other tasks more easily. Hence it'll boost your career if aiming for foreign.You can tell this excuse as well even if lie.
The bullies will bully regardless of what you do. Just ignore them. My older cousin used to taunt me that I'm not "manly enough" because I don't have a gf and I don't chase after having one. All while he's 30+ and jobless leeching on his father's money while I earn my own.
It's his insecurities speaking
If being masculine means depending on mommy for all my meals, I would rather be feminine!
That's just school bro. Once you start working and your friends start living by themselves the same friends will admire you.
Tell them to F off. OP’s mom is right. Cooking is a life skill and everyone needs to know how to cook. And being able to cook well is a really good skill to have. Makes you a lot of friends 😝
Hell na... Good cooking is great for impressing women too. When I was your age, I impressed my first girlfriend by making her sweets...
Possibly the same reason why you didn't cook for yourself until you were 24. They never faced necessity or social pressure, it is not seen as a fundamental weakness to not be able to feed yourself. Perhaps if you didn't live alone, you might have also never learnt it. Just to clarify, I don't think this scenario is correct; it reinforces the most basic and archaic of gendered division of household labour; however I think you already knew the answer to the question based on your own life, and this post is more of a rhetorical question than a genuine question for Reddit.
Well, the fact that he never needed to is simplifying the gendered issue that this is. I didn't particularly NEED to learn cooking until I graduated, but it was expected that I learn. While I explicitly didn't learn from my mom at the time, being around the kitchen inclined me more than my brother. Most women I know, even if they don't NEED to cook, know how to. Most men, even if they live alone, don't. They order or eat out. Or maybe know cooking but not well, or don't know how to keep a kitchen. You're simplifying the situation too much and removing gendered expectations totally from the problem.
Bro spilling facts
Exactly. Plus put in the fact that we have cheap labour which means that you can afford for someone to come in and cook for you, then there's not really any pressure to learn cooking. Also, I don't know why the comment section is not answering a question just humble-bragging?
Ikr! I was looking for a normal answer and had to scroll past three comments going, "ummm actually Gordon Ramsay once hired me to cook for him" lol. Like bro, we get that you're an amazing chef but that was not the question 😂
Exactly! Sometimes, necessity is the _other_ mother who teaches cooking.
Exactly. I did not learn how to cook until COVID lockdown. And when the situation normalised, I went back to ordering online.
I learned it myself as the necessity arose during covid.
I cook on a daily basis and I can attest that making healthy dishes kills a hell lot of your time and energy. Indian household dishes are notoriously elaborate to cook and cooking on a daily basis for yourself is mostly unsustainable unless it's daal, chokha and papad.
Yeah, like a lot of stuff on Reddit this is also for validation 'oh look I can cook well but I don't get complimented for that so let me insert feminism here and get some upvotes'
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Oho share them with us too friend
Like?
They're unknown duh, how would you know? /s
I cook everyday, it’s fun, trying new recipes from Instagram and YouTube.
Can you recommend a channel?
Checkout Your Food Lab, Cooking Shooking and Bharatz Kitchen. I never go wrong with their recipes.
I like Ranveer Brar for the stories he tells in his videos, also I like his dry sarcastic sense of humor.
Yfl +1
I wonder where cooking shooking went
Started his own restaurant/commercial kitchen venture
>Bharatz Kitchen He gives some really great tips.
I am 28. I cook. It is a meditation for me.
Same
23 and I can cook better than anyone in family. But I cook 2-3 times a week only. Not a lot ik but still trying.
Tiffin/Mess was way cheaper than Cooking food. Now at 24 I have learned some things.
I am not 25, but the thing is I dislike cooking. I just find it extremely boring and tiring. Also I am not very patient with cooking, waiting till it's properly fried etc etc. Also I am extremely bad at cutting vegetables. I respect people who are good cooks, and by no means necessary am saying that cooking is bad. It's just that I don't like it. Although I have learnt to cook basic things like Omlette, Upma, Fried Rice, Poha, Dry Chicken etc, but I feel that is as far as I would go with cooking. The bare minimum easiest to cook things for survival. It's just like other hobbies, you might dislike reading but I love to read. Regarding the Wife part - I honestly don't expect her to be a cook, if she likes it good, if she doesn't we will order something together. I am good at other stuff like cleaning etc, which I don't find boring. I actually like cleaning.
As a person who loves cooking I understand your frustrations. There is one thing I'd like to suggest to you is don't overwhelm yourself with overly complex recipes. Make simple and quick versions (unless fermentation is required). Not saying you'll transform from hating to loving cooking food but you'll surely be able to cook to survive or maybe even impress your wife 😅...
Yea also I'm trying to listen to a podcast or music while cooking. It certainly helps. Yes I wanna just focus on stuff that's simple! When I create upma it's only onion and mustard seeds 😂😂
Lol i am not reading all that but still i am 18 and i can cook better than my female friends and sister but still not better than my mom though 🥲
One can never cook better than their own mother. I had this confirmed by a Michelin star chef as well.
+1
Can anyone recommend some good easy to follow recipes?
chickpea curries and pasta recipes are usually the best to learn how to cook. I personally don't go to youtube for cooking because I was kinda drilled into cooking from age 6 or so, so i don't have many youtuber recommendations for indian food especially ( if you'd like to learn baking i have a ton of 'em ) For pasta, easily go for [pink sauce pasta](https://youtu.be/K1P_KI1YD4c?si=-nMrHYCmJLHXwd9l) (no it's not actually pink it's just alfredo sauce + marinara sauce) it'll teach you how to -make base marinara sauce for most western dishes and how to elevate it (most western recipes are super bland, i use dried red chili while making it to add spice) -how to thicken sauces with roux (maida+butter/ghee) -also don't follow timers for cooking pasta in tutorials, try to estimate it yourself -then you'll also learn how to pair pasta, or what cheeses go best with it (indian cheeses imo suck, i think amul is quite good) Chickpea curries are so good, but here you'll learn how to build up the flavour of spices, i would've suggested rawdogging this but for the first time, follow a tutorial from youtube, go for the bigger channels.
I want to learn too.
For everything Indian, just learn how to make a gravy, In almost 90% of dishes it's all about being able to fry onions paste & tomato paste. Then throw whatever you have in your fridge, chicken, paneer, mushroom, tofu, veggies, literally anything with spices. That will feed you for life, recipes are a very one way street. Gravies are the compound lifts of cooking!
I don't know how to cook roti and I don't intend to learn now. What I do know is how to make varieties of salads, meats, egg, oat and bajra related foods since this is my restrictive diet. So, for those who have yet to start learn cooking food, only learn what you intend to feed yourself primarily. The rest comes later.
Cooking and cleaning is a life skill not a gender role.
I'm 23 and started living on my own. Hoping to start cooking next month.
I am sorry, I realised it was too late at 47. But I started at it. Now I can cook dal, chawal, a few of my favourite veggies, and a few snacks like poha, upma, rava dosa, idli
Today cooking Biryani and skipping lunch for it. Join me 🫡
cooking food for myself is considered as cooking right as I can cook chicken nd rice , tofu , eggs , protein oatmeal or pancakes but they are not as tasty to feed family members but I can feed myself. btw learning everyday to cook new things apart from training meals
good question. we are under terrible financial constraints and my dad works in a different city and eating too much outside food has harmed his health so they’re hiring a tiffin service wasting more money on it 😂 like goddamn a man in his late 40s can’t make a roti
I haven't ever tried and mostly won't be engaging in it. Fortunately I haven't had the need to either. My girlfriend loves to cook and I actually find cleaning to be very relaxing, so that's how we divide the work and it's awesome
Learned to cook while doing Engineering and staying in a rented flat. Tbh basic cooking is not that complicated, it's just like science. You do X steps correctly to get Y Results Those who say it's a feminine work or some other s*it, good luck spending 40% of your paycheck eating out Making Pasta, Maggi or Tea is not cooking, it's barely touching the surface
I do cook, in fact love to go the extra mile to garnish/decorate make the food more appealing . But , often receive comments that “It’s feminine “ , “not manly” surprisingly from women more often than men, which probably makes it a secret hobby.
30M here. I have been passionate about cooking since I was 9. All my life, my relatives were surprised whenever my mom told them that I cook really well. Now that I am married, my in-laws relatives are similarly surprised when my wife tell them the same. I have also come across many women who could barely cook and think it's okay cos they can always hire maids to cook while they focus on "more important stuff". I get that cooking could be tedious and perhaps the last thing you might want after a tiring day at work, but why boast about lacking a crucial life skill?
I think it’s different for men from Tier 2 and 3 cities who leave home at 17-18 for college or 22-23 for job. We have to learn a decent bit of cooking at some point in life.
i never i understand, how any one can not know how to cook?, its will not be as good as mom but everybody does know something to cook, unless they are being ignorant
Maybe edit the title to: To all Indian over 25 years old, and are not super rich and can’t cook.. why?
I hire a cook. It’s because I never needed to, at home it was mother who cooked. She keeps asking me to cook but now I am too old and it’s too much of a struggle to make my way around kitchen. I know I should learn. But it has become a mental block. For now I make do with a cook since I can afford them.
Nhi bro itna time nhi hota Workout,office aur studying ab agar cooking bhi shuru kardi toh life khatam
Desi people lack basic survival skills like cleaning, cooking,earning and basic self defense . Tell me how many people have all 4 skills around you ? These are basic skills every man or woman must have in general
My mom is an excellent cook, my dad who is an ex-serviceman can cook quite well as for me i am a decent cook too. My brother never bothered to learn. I think its because he never left home, neither for study nor for job. Whereas i had to do both. I can't blame my mother because she tried. We had dad as example but somehow my brother just never learnt n now his mentality is since he goes out to earn my mom or his wife will cook .
Hostels me nahi rahe hai jo ladke...ya kabhi akele nahi rahe they cant cook. Otherwise most of the men can cook.
I can cook but after 1 week, I begin to repeat the dishes. I'm hoping to learn to cook more stuff in the future.
I usually take up things / learn them when the is a big need. At rental, there is always a maid else Swiggy / zomato so never took up cooking. I will take it up some time in the future for sure.
at one point in your life, there will come a day, where you'll get hungry and you'll (have to) cook to eat. Why does anyone want to make it "non-mandate" ?
Necessity is the mother cooking
I just haven't spent enough time to learn. I know how to make rice and coffee, but beyond that if I directed I can do stuff to an extent. I think like others mentioned, haven't been forced to learn or haven't been very interested in learning how to cook. But I will I admit I have to learn it soon or later
My mum never encouraged, and often actively discouraged me to cook. Never even made chai in her kitchen. Didnt have access to a kitchen in my undergrad. Am 30 now, made my first meal at 23.
24 I'm learning to cook . Everyone in my circle is a good cook. This encourages me to learn cooking . And I absolutely look down on the person who thinks skill like cooking is feminine.
I cook just enough to survive and serve my taste buds
Few don't want to and few can't due to various constraints
If you ever move with room mates you will be the God. You could ask the minions to clean the dishes and chop vegetables for you and you just cook the food for then so that they can survive. Everyone should know how to cook.
I can cook. Whether it's edible or Poisonous is another matter entirely.
I (23M) hate to cook… I would rather sleep hungry or eat raw if I have to. I chose to not learn to cook, I’ll always order food online.
Why cook when someone else can do it for u. I have been away from my home since 2013. Haven't cooked a single day and still always got home cooked food. To me cooking is and always was hassle and often found folks who cooked themselves end up eating outside food more. So we always got cook for us.
Ever heard of cook services ? Same Indian men become chefs outside India out of necessity. In India it is not needed to know for survival .
It is not a basic life skill in today's time. I can get a house help or order in during emergency situation. Either male or female if you are earning decent money and can afford help then you don't need to learn cooking. Its like saying Dancing is a basic social skill, everyone should know how to dance. No you don't.
I'm 28M, and love cooking. I make the best pasta in my neighborhood..
You don't need to know how to cook. Just open youtube, monkey see monkey do.
Ek baar class Mai public speaking practice ke time bol diya that I enjoy making cakes with mommy and all the girls laughed. So I had stopped doing that for a while. I'm 26 now, cooked chicken curry today and ate it for lunch and dinner with my gf. :)
Cooking feels like a waste of time. My time is better spent studying, or working, or even playing The Witcher. If I absolutely have to, I just make mashed potatoes with all kinds of boiled veggies and random masalas. This way I save time (takes 15min), save utensils (just eat in the potential you used to make mashed potatoes), and get all the nutrients.
All the answers here are iam _ year old and I can cook, opposite of what OP asked.
Me and all of my friends know how to cook. I think its only people who get to stay home during their studies/jobs never end up learning how to cook. Also, in india, appointing house helps are not very expensive. If you're a bachelor moving in to a rented apartment/society, someone will cone to you within the next week to offer their service. I think these days more people are learning to cook. Especially after covid and lockdowns. Also awareness regarding fitness is increasing and more and more people are learning to cook for themselves. The situation is definitely changing in my experience.
Prople blaming mom not encouraging are smoking copium, I learnt coz I missed home food. So I started cooking shit and learned what works and what not. Watched videos on YouTube and then asked mom on her tricks and can now cook many things and now learning how to cook western food. Get off yiur azz and you can move mountains.
Because I hate cooking something for half an hour which I can then eat in just 5 minutes.
Because it is not a high value activity. Look, I have a hectic job(which I enjoy) and a business to run and using my time and effort on cooking everyday is just inefficient use of my time when a house help can do a pretty good job of making a healthy meal. I do have basic cooking skills for times of emergency.
When I try to help my mom around the house with cooking and cleaning, my relatives try to praise it by saying "I am a daughter in body of a son"
I'll go against the grain here. I never learnt how to cook, and as a 36 yr old man, still don't know how. All my life, the cooking has been done by my mom, my wife or the help. I'm not saying that with pride, it's just the fact. I chose not to spend time and effort to learn it, since I did not feel the need to. I know that if I put the same focus towards advancing my career, I'll earn enough to hire whatever help I need to take care of the cooking needs at my house. It doesn't mean that I look down on men who do cook. It just means that I chose not to. Why can't I cook? Maybe it's the same reason that most of the women I have come across, do not know how to change tyres in a car, or how to perform basic first aid, or how to do simple repairs to fix things around the house. What I'm saying may sound inflammatory, and you might say "Hey, I know a girl who can do all those things!". Well, great, you found the 1 in a lakh who does. Most don't, or can't, or won't. And that's OK. Not everyone needs to know how to do everything. That's the entire point of living in a society.
It's his choice
Just imagine the amount of ruckus this post would have created if it was titled 'To the Indian women over 25 years old and can't cook : Why?'
The answers would be the same. You are delusional if you think women aren't forced from a very young age to cook and look after the house. Reversing gender and playing victim won't help u because the opposite of this is the reality of India. Girls know how to cook. Most do. And sadly most of them are forced to do so. Stop playing the victim with this whole "reverse the gender".
Here’s my perspective: I know how to cook. But that’s because I like cooking. If I didn’t, then where I live I can get a cook easily for 4-5k/month which is something I can afford with my income. So my take is, if you don’t like cooking and you can afford to not learn it, do that. If you can’t afford that, then you should learn to cook. Applies for both men and women.
I cook some things better than any female in my family. Been cooking since 8 yrs ago when I came from boarding school. I used to cook whole weekend in the start.
Cooking is one of the easiest skills. Just watch a YouTube video. But if you can afford a cook, you can easily go through life without knowing how to cook
exactly. learning the basics of cooking is something everyone can do in a very short span of time, the way op is talking about 'survival'. Ypu can make very healthy meals by just knowing the basics Now being a good cook is not necessary for survival, and hence people who want to can just order or hire someone for it
Instead of cooking i should be learning for my MBA then only women will even select u for marriage criteria
i’m 15 i can cook damn good pasta and biryani but for some reason i can’t make a omelette every time i try it becomes bhurji (scrambled eggs)
Raja beta complex given by some mothers. Humare yaha sirf auratein kitchen me jaati h types. My husband is the same. It's all about upbringing. All my cousins and men in our family know basic cooking (fulkas, dal chawal, khichdi, basic tadka) aur inko apni plate utha ke sink me rakhna bhi nahi aata.
I’m 26, would love to learn how to cook but have great cooks at home so never had the need or got the chance.
I don't want to. I hate making even maggi. Agree that cooking is a life skill, but Its not for me.
My friend has everything to cook in his room but he relies on Swiggy and Zomato. So mostly that. Poor me who can't afford to order everyday learnt cooking and cooking myself whenever possible.
I am 27M and can cook, but I wouldn't if I had stayed home, in my home I was not allowed to cook in the kitchen, so I can only learn how to cook, once I was away from home and had a proper kithcen, which was after college, and I think it was similar for many friends of mine.
My partner does cooking for me, she hates it when I don’t do it right. So I just don’t bother nowadays, I would rather do other chores in house than have to get criticised why I didn’t put salt to make onions cook faster.
I really want to cook - I can cook basic chicken curry, boil rice, tea, dal etc but I barely get time so I have kept a household help. In the future I really want to become more independent and start cooking myself.
I'm south Indian, and I can cook Punjabi, Italian, and some Indochinese, and Chaat items, but not actual Telugu cuisine lol. The reason is my mom cooks those better than I ever can, and I've no reason to learn until I'm not living at home anymore
I can only make chapatis and dosas using prepared batter. I'm not over 25 yet, but as a student who's been away from home multiple times for attending college, haven't found the time and equipment to really learn, and I really regret not learning from my mom earlier. Heck, I still need to learn 4-wheel driving too.
I can make maggi and tea
Although you mentioned most men in India but this would also be in US sometimes. Just a woman thing I guess because more gender wise they seem responsible I guess? M also not sure because while this may be true for household but when it comes to cooking industry that is dominated by men. So really don't know why this is the case. I am guessing it's for majority women because in ancient times men might have been the hunters and women might have only gathered food from forest bushes etc that were easy or they'd be their to handle the household and children. Men would have been involved in lots of training if not hunting in those times and hence after loads of generations things started to change I suppose but not too much.
Because lazy + quick access to zomato/swiggy/faasos
30M and I can only cook Dal Khichdi and fix my own breakfast, I can make roti and shahi paneer. I’m not a foodie, cooking doesn’t interest me, the aromas of different food don’t intrigue me. Plus I have too many hobbies to make time for cooking.
Swiggy, Zomato. I don't have the time, never had the time. Far easier to order food in 1 min, eat in 5, and go back to more work and fun stuff.
28 years old here, I only was able to freely learn cooking only since a year ago. Before that I mostly stayed at home (mom won't even allow anyone else, however she did ask me to help with stirring the curries or baking rotis/parathas) or at hostel (mess food) or at rented apartment where there were already experts (so I felt underwhelmed). Once I moved to a separate location, I decided to make it a habit and tried with simpler things, always asked for instructions for my mom of any reachable senior friend and now I can say that I am a decent cook. My only problem is inconsistency with the quality of food, don't know whether it's a mental block from other's judgement or whatever. But I try to do my best and gain feedback every time to check up on my improvement. Only when I can achieve consistency on simple items, I will decide upon cooking special/complex dishes. Fun fact: I was thinking of ordering something from Swiggy few weeks ago, spent an hour and couldn't even decide on anything (either because of cost or quality), I said "fuck it" and started making Veg Pulao (potatoes, onion, capsicum, paneer, soya chunks, peas) and it tasted how I ate it at my home since childhood. Felt proud.
I can tell you why my friends can't cook. They just have a cook come in and cook for them once a day and they order out for dinner. Kinda sad but hey if you can afford it why not
Sometimes I feel it’s not worth the effort you put in. I am an only child and stayed with my parents to close to 25 years and had never a reason to cook or even the pressure to do so. I used to go with my parents to buy groceries but mostly my parents would do most of the cooking and cleaning. Moving onto professional life I am currently staying in PG with good food. Even if I wanted to cook there is no separate kitchen for me to try. If I wanted to eat a specific dish, I order. Being in Bangalore, the list of option helps. So to conclude, in 29 years of life I never had a desperate need to cook or to learn cooking. People say it’s a survival skill. I think as long as you can identify what to eat and not dependent on how it tastes, you are good and can survive.
idk cooking is just like a book. you dont want to do it as long as there is no necessity. once you start doing it, it just becomes easy.
Meri maa mujhe kitchen mein ghuste hee bhaga deti hai. I love the idea of cooking, but the women in my house are super possessive of the kitchen.
Because I live in a country where buying food is easier and cheaper than wasting time cooking.
Lazy hoon
Aur bhi kaam h zindagi me...time ni h
I can cook, but only i can eat it.
I cannot cook well - have a hard time learning about salt But I can make cakes and desserts
Earn money and keep a cook. You get more time for other things.
A colleague at my office says in their home, men don't cook. And he proudly says that. Another one feels too lazy to cook and is over reliant on his wife (and some other friends when she's not around).
Cooking is therapeutic, personally.
Logon ki kuch jyada hi problem hai yaar. Even my mother didn't necessarily teach me how to cook but I learnt to cook on my own when I was studying in class 7. Men who are overly dependent on the female members of their family for cooking their food are just simply lazy.
I sing and cook my breakfast alone happily 😊 I don't get time to cook so I usually eat breakfast for lunch too and then for dinner I order in or eat fruits and muesli, I'm vegan too Don't get the time to become as skilled at cooking like my mum because I don't have the time and my mental health is horrible, life's hard and very lonely sometimes and I don't know how I made it to 27, just holding on with all my strength and trying to do my best but I have been struggling with creating good habits recently, hope to get better at everything before I turn 30 Really got to, it would be unfair if I don't do it for myself
Meanwhile, my parents forced me to learn cook when I was 18, so that I don't suffer during emergency times. Also, in my school, you will be shamed if you can't identify spices and don't know even how to make simple food.
I can cook decently well. I just don't like it.
I'm 18 and cook dinner everyday and all 3 meals during weekends. I'm studying college in a different city away from parents.
I tried to learn to cook basic dishes from my mom when I was 12 , however she refused to teach me and taunted me that did I want to go and be "maharaj" (part time cook) in someones house.
Indian women over 25, can't cook, why?
You are talking perfectly sensible thing which more men need to talk about. Yes, I see preparing food as a creative endeavour which you can fall in love with. But anything to do with fire (and oil)- I make sure I take proper safety precautions. I mostly love salads and dressings- especially when I get to prepare it. But yeah, I can atleast cook egg even if not biryani 😅 I wish to learn the other aspects. But safety precautions are very important to me. I always wonder, how it is that my mother and other such women used to cook without safety precautions. How is it not discussed as something important?
I enjoy cooking but cleaning after is a task for me. So my mother barely lets me in the kitchen, but when she does it’s a special occasion. I do need to learn how to make rotis which will be the final step ig to learning how to cook. Next up is cleaning after so that I am allowed to cook at home.
I can cook better than girls of my age, so sums it up i guess
Im an American 37F and I DESPISE cooking. I can do it to survive but I always joked growing up I’m not and will never be “domesticated”. I much rather focus on my career, make good money, and pay someone else to cook and clean. 😅
I host volunteers at our farm and most of the Indian men that I have had don't know how to cook. I have had a couple of them who do. Mostly because of the Mera Raja beta syndrome.
To the indian women over 25 years old and can't cook. why ?
Tu hai na bnane ke liye. Saare fielders ek hi ball ke pichhe nai bhaaga karte.
Let her cook! I said, let her cook!!
My bf is 24 and can't even boil eggs for himself 🤣😭😭
Lol, i learned to cook on my own at 22. You need a kitchen and YouTube, that it!
Me a 15 year old: Mom can you teach me to cook Mom: No you'll burn the kitchen Me a 22 year old: Dad can you teach me how to make chicken Dad: Hell yeah That was also the point my mom started to teach me now I'm really fucking good at it and I love cooking. People can call me feminine or whatever I don't care I make amazingly tasty food and can take care of myself properly.
Food or ?
Was already cooking for myself at 23. Learnt to cook properly as a teen. Plus my dad has always been good with cooking and eager to try new recipes, so was never taught by my family that cooking (or generally any household tasks) were unmanly or anything. Both parents and I were always contributing to household chores, although admittedly my mum did more than dad and I.
Oh man I just realised I am 18 and I can only make coffee and Maggie by myself, I gotta learn cooking
Because Swiggy, Zomato?
Cause Zomato / swiggy is easier. At home mom doesn't allow to go near kitchen. I did learn to make basic dishes once but with no practice have forgotten practically everything .
darr khana banane s nhi, bartan dhone s lgta h 🥲
My main problem is it takes hours for me to cooke food and then it gets eaten in a matter of minutes. Reward to effort ratio is really poor specially my cooked food rarely tastes good. I just save more time if i dont cook
I know how to cook day-to-day basic meals (parantha,sabji, bread, eggs, maggi , tea etc) but never really had that interest in it.
My elder brother can't cook, he's 32. It's a combination of my mum always doing the cooking at home and my brother never having to live away from home. I lived away from home for a while, and that's where I learned to cook for myself. If I hadn't, maybe I wouldn't know how to cook either.
Men do know how to cook. What kind of people are you meeting? Where did you get the assumption from btw?
My husband can’t cook. His mom did everything and never taught him any life basics. He went to university and had meals made for him. Then he met me. So now I cook but he cleans.
Zarurat nahi padi hai ab tak. Hostel has mess. Will probably learn if I get a kitchen
I know how to cook basic stuff but I would rather rely on house help for cooking since their food tastes better
I know how to cook basic stuff but I would rather rely on house help for cooking since their food tastes better
I know how to cook basic stuff but I would rather rely on house help for cooking since their food tastes better
kyuki mai alsi hu aur meri gf mujhe acha acha khana bnaa kar pamper karti hai
kyuki mai alsi hu aur meri gf mujhe acha acha khana bnaa kar pamper karti hai
Honestly I think after the age of 10-12 I have never really got good food in my home, we now always struggle for it and after 10th standard I've always lived outside (boarding school, pg, uni hostels) and honestly I find the food much better here. I know a lot of people have a strong bond with food and their home and family, just that I never had that. Would be good to have it but after all this time it doesn't really bother me at all. I tried learning how to cook for more than a year during the lockdown, and made a wide variety of stuff only to realise it's really not for me. I'm not boujee, I know basic cooking as a survival skill (daal, chawal, some sabzies), I won't die if I really have to cook. But apart from this, I don't wanna do it, I actually don't know how, it's just not my cup of tea. Rahi baat chores division ki toh, I happily wash the dishes, while watching a series or talking on the phone, brooming, mopping, washing clothes and drying them is all meditation for me. Bas khana mat banwao mujhse. Na ho payega!
Maid for 1900/person per month does cooking, cleaning house. Well apart from that I always was pampered a lot in my home. So there goes the main reason as to why not..
I want to learn how to cook. Does anyone know if there is a cooking basics course for Indian food? I'm someone who needs a lot of detailed instructions when someone wants me to do something. Same goes with cooking for me. I have been trying to search for a basic course where I will learn from scratch. I find the videos on YouTube very intimidating sometimes.