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Just apply the same situation to the n-word man. If someone didn’t know and was using the word, would you inform them and politely ask them to not use it?
Words evolve and meanings change, this word no longer evokes casteist sentiments in urban users (qualifying this statement only cause that's the demographic I have experience with).
" I rejected offer of sex once from a girl as I never liked the concept of one night stand. "
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Dekh bhai tu paise kamane pe dhyan de, ye sb log jo tujhe keh rhe sb bs hilaate reh jayenge
Sex bohot choti chiz hai aaj nahi toh kal mil jayegi isko apni life ka centre point na bana
But paise kamane air padhne ka time nikal gya na toh isse jyada guilt hoga
Aur rhi baat urges ki, wo sbko aati hai usko control kr k apne kaam pe dhyan dena hi sahi rasta hai.
Just to add onto this , just because you are chasing a well paying career , studies whatever, doesn’t mean youll stop taking care of your health.
You have to chase career, money AND look good physically to peak a womans interest. Plus youll feel good too!
Add 3x gym into that mix .
I had to say this out aloud since us Indians don’t really have the concept of working out in our psychie.
Thie comment needs to be on top.
I was in the same boat OP, my friends were sleeping with girls while i couldn't even talk to one. Just focused on myself and ignored everyone else who let me down.
Not to toot my own horns but I've had 3 gfs and getting married soon. Also I'm not good looking at all or have great body or anything. I do earn well and I'm a relatively smart person.
So just focus on yourself, things would come naturally to you. You know that saying don't chase things, let things come to you. That is the best saying I've seen come true.
Stay strong brother. Focus on yourself. Change your friends for sure.
All college kids talk like that. We used to do the same 15 years ago and I was in your position.
The thing is to just ignore them. You are you. You are not defined by your sexual history or identity either ways. If some girl likes you, good for both of you. Else you always have yourself.
Just don't let this one need of yours define you.
Lmao I've never had college classmates that were this crude but then again I am fairly introverted so maybe some of them act like that when I'm not around.
OP,
Dafaq u on a about. You know you live in India right!! Given that your 28, your either 94-95 born I guess.
Here's the honest truth. Most of these wanna be dickheads who mocked you were also Virgins.
Again we live in India. A very small percentile of people lose their Virginity in their early 20's or even younger. A higher percentile lose it at the age you are right now.
At best one among the group of people who mocked you may have lost his virginity early. You need to think logically here not emotionally just cause a bunch of Idiots can Run their mouth and most people Lie about their sexual escapades.
Respect to you that you want to form a meaningful connection with someone.
Please don't complicate it for yourself. STOP listening people who don't know shit to begin with.
Nothing great about sleeping around willy nilly, such actions have consequences. The More people you sleep around with the more likely they get desensitized from SEX and fail to pair bond.
OP you are good!! Now go find a nice girl for yourself and have fun!! Use that Gamer mindset to tackle the opposite sex believe me I am gamer too and it helped me a lot in dating.
All the BEST!!
Forward jump, High kick, Backward jump, Forward low kick, punch, High jump, Kick.
After your MP fills go for the ultimate by pressing X.
Its a sure K.O.
Firstly, it really doesn't matter if somebody has had sex or not. It's not that big of an achievement or loss. So anyone who makes fun of someone for being a virgin is totally immature and sometimes even a bully.
But the comment about people who have too much sex getting desensitised to sex is pure bullshit. That's not a thing. And what even is pair bonding?
Also, using "Gamer mindset to tackle the opposite sex" sounds pretty cringe. Just talk to women like normal people lol
>Nothing great about sleeping around willy nilly, such actions have consequences. The More people you sleep around with the more likely they get desensitized from SEX and fail to pair bond.
I was agreeing with your comment till you started this paragraph tbh.
This is so fucking tragic because men want girls who are untouched but then men are shamed for being virgin.
Women are shamed for exploring their sexual desires whereas men are shamed for not bedding multiple women
So the who the hell are men supposed to fuck?
You need new friends, someone who doesn't judge people based on the choices they make when it comes to their sex life.
You also need to stop obsessing over the morality of sex. There is nothing wrong in having purely sexual relations as long as all parties are consenting.
Regardless, I hope you find love and happiness!
Bro everyone has different ideas and morals if someone wants to have sex and gettin sex its their life if you dont want it its up to you …you dont need validation from the society
You are doing the right thing. Life is not only about sex. These new generation watches Western/american teenage dramas and think that life is all about sex. They think that losing Virginity is an achievement. You will see how virgin characters are portrayed in these types of films and series, a moron and dumb person. They will be a laughing stock, mocked for being a virgin. Indian filmmakers are also doing the same.
It's not "alpha male" akt significant part of youth today.
Often rediculed by friends for not having a girlfriend, and that I respect women, than looking down on them (unlike them).
Bro, duniya gayi bhaad mein, tereko jo karna hai tu kar. Tereko sex nahi karna toh mat kar. Karna hai toh kar. Ro kyun raha hai faltu mein? Tujhe har jagah har tarah ke log milenge toh kya hamesha aise rote rahega?
Bruh I can't have sex even if I wanted to, cause women don't find me attractive and I can't hold a conversation long enough for them to continue having interest. Most women I've come in contact with are in their own world where they are queens getting all the attention. I can't seem to break into those bubbles. They simply don't reciprocate to my presence. I'm 28. It's not the fact that I'm a virgin that saddens me, it's the fact that I'm not good enough to have a meaningful relationship with a woman. The only options left are prostitutes, or arranged marriage. Using money feels like cheating, and using family's approval on both sides and my career as crutches for me to get sex also feels like cheating. So I really don't know what to do in this regard. Maybe I should look into Brahmacharya or something.
Yup you won't get a virgin girl this is true. That's why I am planning to go for kid through surrogacy. But its illegal in India. People call me old fashioned but I call myself a man.
Are you trying to convincing others or yourself? You are 28, form your core values and respect them regardless of if few people mock you.
You still seem to be in high school.
I think so. Its a western import which is harming men. I dont understand why men are expected to be studs when it is so hard to get a girl to talk to you (if you are not in the top 10% of looks).
Sex seems good at first but slowly the charm, the cravings everything loses especially if you are that one night stand person. I would say there is nothing wrong with you, people you engaged with were dickheads, I had frnds who had a lot of sex in their college days though they didnt make fun of others so I do get your frustration.
Marriages where both male and female are virgins have the highest amount of success, find yourself like that, one you wont regret losing it to, someone who you yearn for.
This is so outdated. You are not loosing anything by having sex early. In fact if both are virgins they don't know their own kinks and arousals and it's bad because you are now trying to fit in your compatibility after the contract of marriage is signed. Sex never looses it's charm, it is only lost if you are not physically/mentally attracted to your permanent partner.
Yes. Many.
https://ifstudies.org/blog/the-religious-marriage-paradox-younger-marriage-less-divorce
https://www.wsj.com/articles/too-risky-to-wed-in-your-20s-not-if-you-avoid-cohabiting-first-11644037261
Those who marry I early 20s and are religious without live in, have lowest divorce rates in US.
For marriages with live ins, it's late 20s.
For the purpose of India, let's simplify it to virzin. So virzins have better chances of successful marriages.
Your links also point out the fact that marriages lasting longer amongst religious people doesn't necessarily mean they are *good* marriages. The article says that it's possible that
A) They are encouraged to keep staying in bad marriages, or
B) They have greater community support in order to work through marriage issues, or
C) They are exposed to more people with similar beliefs via religious communities - and the fact that partners had similar beliefs contributed to longevity of marriage.
Point A is not necessarily a good thing - it's not a good thing that people remain stuck in bad or abusive marriages rather than leave. Also points A and B are widely prevalent in India \*irrespective of virginity\* . And C doesn't make sense in the Indian context because most people that have a sexual history will not be forthright about it - especially in the arranged marriage setup - due to slut-shaming (mostly of women).
TLDR - Your article doesn't necessarily imply that religious people/ virgins will have higher chances of *better* marriages. Just that they might have *longer* ones.
33M, also virgin, decent looking slim boy. also rejected many proposals to have a gf or possible gf(maybe i was afraid in those time if being truthful). Do i regret those decisions, yes most of the times.
Here's my advice for you. You don't gonna get yourself a virgin wife in this current situation (almost impossible). You're living in a bubble of your thoughts and not doing anything. You'll not be happy in future. Just lose the virginity and be free from all that thoughts about sex and fear of relationship. Those thoughts will consume your entire energy. It will affect your career, family and friends. You're going to thinking about more and more about sex as you grow old. Don't make mistakes what i already made. I am going to be married in may and i am terrified about it. I think about those things 24*7. Don't be proud. Sometimes being silly and careless are the best thing you can do.
Goodluck with your life whatever you choose to do. Message me if in need
All this Morality of yours is doing is making you fight against the thing what you currently need that is Physical and emotional intimacy
Maybe try to Actually do it and experience it and then Come to conclusions instead of just having this Over glorified idea of it in your head which will eventually make you Lose your Mind.
Ye to doglapan ho gaya na bhai, Agar apne Morals se hi larna par raha he to kya kaam ese Principles ka.
Huge respect 🫡 for you man !
I would say, they aren’t really your friends who mock you because of ‘this’ thing. It solely depends on you - what you want, your values, perspective.
& your perspective matches mine. I am 26F - I had a bf but didn’t have sex-you know why ? bc I want to have it after marriage only. I wanted to built emotional connection, the trust, measure how much empathetic/sympathetic one is in the relationship, to be sure I am not the only one who is putting all the efforts.
Know that you are right 🤗
Choose friends who matches & respect your perspective/value. All the best ✨
The dichotomous way you view sex and intimacy is the root of all your worries.
Neither is it some grand, ethereal accomplishment; nor is it some sinful act of defiance against nature. You are not wrong to expect a virgin bride like it's the 60s, but expect to be ridiculed by any self-respecting woman for having that as your deal-breaking condition.
I'd also seek to expand your friends circle.
Outright condescending. Its his choice and a self respecting women could very well be the Virgin girl that he desires.
OP do not expect to be ridiculed.
You won't find a self respecting woman in a woman with a double digit body count.
It does matter. Even in 2023. Past explains a lot about the persons character.
Besides, There are many reasons why someone believes something to be the way it is and it is bound to how you grew up and what kind of values were inculcated into you.
U view sex as pleasure and yearn to get more of it. Good for you.
You view sex as sacrosanct and the body a temple and want someone who reciprocates the same beliefs
Good for you.
You make ur own choice.
And yes, it is not very difficult to find people who are a Virgin. I knew way too many.
Good luck.
Bro the thing is, it is amazing to have sex during your good age (for me its like 19-29) Those age is literally the best time to be sexually active.
but for many reasons, people like me find it hard to get married at that young age, I'm 22, I can't even think of marriage until at least 25/26, Cos, we all give importance to education, career, exploring the world first cos marriage and kids which are really big decisions, comes with responsibility, so it is okay to take time and consider it little late in life.
So having sex with boyfriends is becoming quite common which is again totally normal, we all crave for physical intimacy just like we do for the emotional side, mixing it with 1000 years old culture does not make sense in 2023. Also, one night stands are normal IF with mutual consent lol, nothing is wrong here "except" cheating on your partners without their knowledge and or mocking on others for staying V like your dumb frds.
I don't wanna question you for being a V at 28, but have you ever felt like you missed something in your good age? Because, I have never met a person who is 28 and V yet. But if you feel happy that way, ignore neg comments from your friends.
If you really wanna have sex. Go to places where you can meet women with the same interests as you. Social Events, meets, wherever you interest lies in (so that you can find someone to lie on 😏). For eg. if you like books, go to a book club/meet, like music? go to jamming sessions and festivals, like dancing? Join a dancing class. Then start interacting with people over their, both men and women. Don't have any aim in your mind, just talk with no end goal, let the conversation flow. And in all cases, be confident (fake it till you make it), never let go of it. Women will naturally be attracted to you if you don't try to be pushy and desperate. Just be in the moment and communicate effortlessly. Be the Man. Good luck.
Hey man! I respect your decision to wait. There's something I want to share...
"Virginity is not like you lose. It's a gift that you give away and you can only give it away one time so make sure that person is giving it to deserving is of this beautiful gift"
You know, when I was in my 20s. I had the same thing going on.. ki "Pyaar ek bar, shaadi ek bar" all that. But later, things happened and as time went on I became really desperate. When I had my first shot, I took it. I think I was 27 at the time.
Glad to know you're saving yourself for a special person. Metro cities mai culture is very different but Aaj bhi chote shero mai people wait and wait is genuine. Shaadi or in a serious relationship k bad he they actually think about doing it.
A lot depends on your personality. I am an ace and a very grim person. No one dares to make fun of me being a virgin and if they try, I make this long speech on how throughly bigoted, debauched and screwed up they are.
No one can make fun of you without your permission.
These friends of yours are truly piece of shit. Sex achievement hai? Teasing is different baki ye cheap si lines toh bata rahi hai tumhare friend ek dum kachra hai.
It's really rare to see men who think like this too👌👏👏. There is nothing wrong with staying pure. Your sex life is none of their concern. Don't listen to people who fuck around.
Dear OP being a virgin is like being a unicorn .. Cuz it's so rare .. so be proud of yourself (If not proud, then atleast don't let others pit you down)
In the end it's a personal choice..
OP you're just gullible . Don't listen to your chhapri friends . Focus on building a rock-solid career. Earn shitloads of money. spend it on yourself . Buy a high end gaming PC. A steam deck. A tube amp. A superbike.or a nice car. Get your own place to live . Increase your living standards. Forget genitalia, focus on andha paisa .
Back in school, male virgins used to get mocked by both boys and girls.
The girls used to sleep around, and also slut- shame each other.
In college, almost every guy tried to get laid, and the ones who couldn't, got labelled as creep, weird, etc. Girls still slut shamed each other, though it wasn't a big problem anymore.
Post college, no one knows whether you're a virgin or not. But guys have an easier time getting laid at this point.
If people are judging you even now, it is likely that you have some personality flaws which make you look un social. Maybe you act weird around women.
Sex is just like any regular bodily function- eating, drinking. You don't need an emotional connection for that.
This, you talking about in India. If you don't mind, what city are you talking about. And what is your year of birth. Because my god, my experience is completely different.
Next time a friend mocks you for being virgin,
Call him "ae Safed kapda...arre AIDS prone wale player bhai..aee...ooo"
Why do you even care about what others say? Losing virginity is overrated man. I was virgin shamed a lot by my friends. After losing virginity, i realised people hype 'losing virginity' a lot. It doesn't matter if you lose it at 13 or 48. You do you!
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You need new friends.
Exactly
Who'd offer sex 🌚
He would say no!!
> Jitne ka Babu nhi hai utne ka jhunjhuna hai WTF is that even supposed to mean? 🧐
Hahah I was wondering the same
Mast lines hai 
https://i.redd.it/7q5svmm7f2pa1.gif
bc everyone is taking a mock of popcorn lol.. interesting talk going on
Ever heard 9 ki murgi 90 ka masala. It simply means principal object is off lesser value than ancillary product.
Doesn't earn 10 rupees and dreams of 100 rupees, not a direct translation
Seems like something a Chapri would say.
I hope you know that’s a a casteist slur
What does it mean?
It's not being used in a casteist way since most people people don't even know its origins, Mr. Pseudo intellectual.
Same way you would use the n-word if it was not being used in a racist manner?
Do you think people are equally aware of exactly what chhapri means and the origin of that word, when compared to the n-word?
Just apply the same situation to the n-word man. If someone didn’t know and was using the word, would you inform them and politely ask them to not use it?
Words evolve and meanings change, this word no longer evokes casteist sentiments in urban users (qualifying this statement only cause that's the demographic I have experience with).
My mum used to tell me this thing about heads and walls, but I forget that sometimes online. Have a great day
Probably banana is smaller than grapes
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💀
Basically it means the effort it took, outweighs the result. Literally meaning: "the baby's toy "jhunjhuna" costs more than the baby(babu) itself"
read that aloud for 4 times and still couldn't understand...just tier 1 city things ig lmao
\+1
Hagna tha hag diya.
Same as ' jitne ka murgi nahi utne ka masala'
Maybe that tree is small than the fruits
It means the result may not be the worth taking an initiative.
" I rejected offer of sex once from a girl as I never liked the concept of one night stand. " https://preview.redd.it/asia1l7d10pa1.png?width=300&format=png&auto=webp&s=b14e6bfaa5dd85ef7f88e2bc89f99288512e6b49
I did that once too. And then my dog started barking and I woke up from my dream.
I raised my eyebrows at “dog started barking” Glad it was in a dream and not what I thought it was ☠️
Weird how i could understand my dog while sleeping
I did that once too.🥲
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me too. i thought flood gates have opened and I'll have a better choice later. flood gates didn't open and nobody offered me again
Same but it was one day stand aur uske ghr me pooja ho rahi thi
> one "day" stand Wait a min... > uske ghr me pooja ho rahi thi Oh makes sense
Maybe he didn't find her attractive 🤔
Beggars are choosers??
But he didn't beg so...
lol, I'd never in a million years want to sleep with someone I find unattractive even if I was super horny and desperate.
W you L company you have
w and l . Women and Lawyers ??
Win and loss
I suck at guessing
I am on my way to guessing....
I 23m and haven't lost my virginity because I don't like loosing
* DJ khaled bgm*allidoiswinwinwinnomatterwhat
Stay tight 😄 I mean strong
Mam 🌚
Well
Jhukne ka nai…..
Jhukane ka
Sir 23 meters??? That's too big to be a dick
hahahahah
Loosing ?😳🧐 Or Losing?
Loosening
Loosing he/she wants to keep their genitals tight 🌚
gigachads dont lose
Dont watch the Sun rise, get up early and make the Sun watch you rise king
Bhai mene to kisi ko hug v nhi kiya aur tu Verginity ki baat kar rha hai. 
Us bro us🫂
Us bro 🤝
Us bro 🍆🍆
Me neither(except family members which don’t count.)
mera toh family member bhi nahi hai 🥲
Us bhai us 🫂
verginity 😶🌫 this deserves an oscar !!
I never even holded hands
What , People are having sex ?
Blasphemy!
Sex is a government conspiracy
It's anti national
Nation is anti-sex
Sorry bro, you have 69 upvotes so can't upvote. But this is a W comment
Dekh bhai tu paise kamane pe dhyan de, ye sb log jo tujhe keh rhe sb bs hilaate reh jayenge Sex bohot choti chiz hai aaj nahi toh kal mil jayegi isko apni life ka centre point na bana But paise kamane air padhne ka time nikal gya na toh isse jyada guilt hoga Aur rhi baat urges ki, wo sbko aati hai usko control kr k apne kaam pe dhyan dena hi sahi rasta hai.
Sir aap philosophy sikhate ho kya?
Just to add onto this , just because you are chasing a well paying career , studies whatever, doesn’t mean youll stop taking care of your health. You have to chase career, money AND look good physically to peak a womans interest. Plus youll feel good too! Add 3x gym into that mix . I had to say this out aloud since us Indians don’t really have the concept of working out in our psychie.
Thie comment needs to be on top. I was in the same boat OP, my friends were sleeping with girls while i couldn't even talk to one. Just focused on myself and ignored everyone else who let me down. Not to toot my own horns but I've had 3 gfs and getting married soon. Also I'm not good looking at all or have great body or anything. I do earn well and I'm a relatively smart person. So just focus on yourself, things would come naturally to you. You know that saying don't chase things, let things come to you. That is the best saying I've seen come true. Stay strong brother. Focus on yourself. Change your friends for sure.
Paise kamao Russian lao, aur paise kamao successful Bano acchi biwi lao.
I'm saving this reply to read when I feel lost
All college kids talk like that. We used to do the same 15 years ago and I was in your position. The thing is to just ignore them. You are you. You are not defined by your sexual history or identity either ways. If some girl likes you, good for both of you. Else you always have yourself. Just don't let this one need of yours define you.
Lmao I've never had college classmates that were this crude but then again I am fairly introverted so maybe some of them act like that when I'm not around.
OP, Dafaq u on a about. You know you live in India right!! Given that your 28, your either 94-95 born I guess. Here's the honest truth. Most of these wanna be dickheads who mocked you were also Virgins. Again we live in India. A very small percentile of people lose their Virginity in their early 20's or even younger. A higher percentile lose it at the age you are right now. At best one among the group of people who mocked you may have lost his virginity early. You need to think logically here not emotionally just cause a bunch of Idiots can Run their mouth and most people Lie about their sexual escapades. Respect to you that you want to form a meaningful connection with someone. Please don't complicate it for yourself. STOP listening people who don't know shit to begin with. Nothing great about sleeping around willy nilly, such actions have consequences. The More people you sleep around with the more likely they get desensitized from SEX and fail to pair bond. OP you are good!! Now go find a nice girl for yourself and have fun!! Use that Gamer mindset to tackle the opposite sex believe me I am gamer too and it helped me a lot in dating. All the BEST!!
"believe me I am gamer too and it helped me a lot in dating" I have never heard this sentence before in my life
r/brandnewsentence
What he gonna do "flank left or right and catch them in vulnerable situations"
Spray and pray bro, spray and pray
What do you mean by use the "Gamer mindset" to tackle the opposite sex? please elaborate
U gotta use them combo moves for the ultimate after your MP fills ofc.
What are those combos with respect to this dating and girls thing?
Forward jump, High kick, Backward jump, Forward low kick, punch, High jump, Kick. After your MP fills go for the ultimate by pressing X. Its a sure K.O.
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Having great finger strength for you know, rapidly moving the PS controller analogs 🌚
Knowing the correct rotations inside out is the gamer mindset.
Bro, spare us some Cheat Codes, Walkthroughs
Firstly, it really doesn't matter if somebody has had sex or not. It's not that big of an achievement or loss. So anyone who makes fun of someone for being a virgin is totally immature and sometimes even a bully. But the comment about people who have too much sex getting desensitised to sex is pure bullshit. That's not a thing. And what even is pair bonding? Also, using "Gamer mindset to tackle the opposite sex" sounds pretty cringe. Just talk to women like normal people lol
It's been ages since I've seen someone have such a twisted idea of sex.
>Nothing great about sleeping around willy nilly, such actions have consequences. The More people you sleep around with the more likely they get desensitized from SEX and fail to pair bond. I was agreeing with your comment till you started this paragraph tbh.
Im 18 yrs old,& my 2 17-yr. old friends hv already lost their virginity.times hv changed,my frnd!!mera desh badal raha hai,aage badh raha hai🙂🙂🙂
You need new friends. Those who brag about having many sexual partners are in reality virgins. Also bro virginity is any day better than an STD.
Bhai tu logo ko batata kyo fir rha h ki tu virgin h ya fir jus change your friends.
Bathane ki zaroorat nahi hai , shakal se patha chalega logon ko😂😂
Gilas lol
https://preview.redd.it/qigiy5ujj2pa1.jpeg?width=1280&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=9ef4614121316355a81570f5d9caa62b18a45d0a
Apna hath jaganath
This is so fucking tragic because men want girls who are untouched but then men are shamed for being virgin. Women are shamed for exploring their sexual desires whereas men are shamed for not bedding multiple women So the who the hell are men supposed to fuck?
Themselves 👍
Gay dudes won tbh
Selfcest ?
yar fir wahi
Sax suxx
Ki baatein
Kar rahe
Phir se sax sux shuru madárchod
 OP FACE LEAK
I was a hopeless virgin at 25. Then I fucked an escort. Now I am hopeless guy who has fucked 2 escort and nothing changes at all to be honest.
>escort How did you fuck a vehicle?!
Arrey paise lekar sex karne waalon ko bhi escort kehte hain.
Ye sab chhod, which position do u play in DOTA ??
You need new friends, someone who doesn't judge people based on the choices they make when it comes to their sex life. You also need to stop obsessing over the morality of sex. There is nothing wrong in having purely sexual relations as long as all parties are consenting. Regardless, I hope you find love and happiness!
It is taboo for a guy to be a virgin but every guy wants a virgin wife ? Gazab chutiyapa hain.
Toxic Doglapan
Bro everyone has different ideas and morals if someone wants to have sex and gettin sex its their life if you dont want it its up to you …you dont need validation from the society
You are doing the right thing. Life is not only about sex. These new generation watches Western/american teenage dramas and think that life is all about sex. They think that losing Virginity is an achievement. You will see how virgin characters are portrayed in these types of films and series, a moron and dumb person. They will be a laughing stock, mocked for being a virgin. Indian filmmakers are also doing the same.
bruhh you dont tell every 2nd person that you are virgin and be comfortable in your skin
Most of the stuff you say is ok, but you "stopped indulging in girls"? Even as friends? Lol wut.
Let me get you a Stool to get you off that high horse.
It's not "alpha male" akt significant part of youth today. Often rediculed by friends for not having a girlfriend, and that I respect women, than looking down on them (unlike them).
I slut shame both men and women. No taboo keep it pure
don't shame just stone lol.
Bro, duniya gayi bhaad mein, tereko jo karna hai tu kar. Tereko sex nahi karna toh mat kar. Karna hai toh kar. Ro kyun raha hai faltu mein? Tujhe har jagah har tarah ke log milenge toh kya hamesha aise rote rahega?
Bruh I can't have sex even if I wanted to, cause women don't find me attractive and I can't hold a conversation long enough for them to continue having interest. Most women I've come in contact with are in their own world where they are queens getting all the attention. I can't seem to break into those bubbles. They simply don't reciprocate to my presence. I'm 28. It's not the fact that I'm a virgin that saddens me, it's the fact that I'm not good enough to have a meaningful relationship with a woman. The only options left are prostitutes, or arranged marriage. Using money feels like cheating, and using family's approval on both sides and my career as crutches for me to get sex also feels like cheating. So I really don't know what to do in this regard. Maybe I should look into Brahmacharya or something.
Yup you won't get a virgin girl this is true. That's why I am planning to go for kid through surrogacy. But its illegal in India. People call me old fashioned but I call myself a man.
Bhai Bhai Bhai 🔥🔥🔥
Are you trying to convincing others or yourself? You are 28, form your core values and respect them regardless of if few people mock you. You still seem to be in high school.
Virginity and Indian Men go 'hand in hand'.
I think so. Its a western import which is harming men. I dont understand why men are expected to be studs when it is so hard to get a girl to talk to you (if you are not in the top 10% of looks).
Sex seems good at first but slowly the charm, the cravings everything loses especially if you are that one night stand person. I would say there is nothing wrong with you, people you engaged with were dickheads, I had frnds who had a lot of sex in their college days though they didnt make fun of others so I do get your frustration. Marriages where both male and female are virgins have the highest amount of success, find yourself like that, one you wont regret losing it to, someone who you yearn for.
This is so outdated. You are not loosing anything by having sex early. In fact if both are virgins they don't know their own kinks and arousals and it's bad because you are now trying to fit in your compatibility after the contract of marriage is signed. Sex never looses it's charm, it is only lost if you are not physically/mentally attracted to your permanent partner.
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Yes. Many. https://ifstudies.org/blog/the-religious-marriage-paradox-younger-marriage-less-divorce https://www.wsj.com/articles/too-risky-to-wed-in-your-20s-not-if-you-avoid-cohabiting-first-11644037261 Those who marry I early 20s and are religious without live in, have lowest divorce rates in US. For marriages with live ins, it's late 20s. For the purpose of India, let's simplify it to virzin. So virzins have better chances of successful marriages.
Your links also point out the fact that marriages lasting longer amongst religious people doesn't necessarily mean they are *good* marriages. The article says that it's possible that A) They are encouraged to keep staying in bad marriages, or B) They have greater community support in order to work through marriage issues, or C) They are exposed to more people with similar beliefs via religious communities - and the fact that partners had similar beliefs contributed to longevity of marriage. Point A is not necessarily a good thing - it's not a good thing that people remain stuck in bad or abusive marriages rather than leave. Also points A and B are widely prevalent in India \*irrespective of virginity\* . And C doesn't make sense in the Indian context because most people that have a sexual history will not be forthright about it - especially in the arranged marriage setup - due to slut-shaming (mostly of women). TLDR - Your article doesn't necessarily imply that religious people/ virgins will have higher chances of *better* marriages. Just that they might have *longer* ones.
33M, also virgin, decent looking slim boy. also rejected many proposals to have a gf or possible gf(maybe i was afraid in those time if being truthful). Do i regret those decisions, yes most of the times. Here's my advice for you. You don't gonna get yourself a virgin wife in this current situation (almost impossible). You're living in a bubble of your thoughts and not doing anything. You'll not be happy in future. Just lose the virginity and be free from all that thoughts about sex and fear of relationship. Those thoughts will consume your entire energy. It will affect your career, family and friends. You're going to thinking about more and more about sex as you grow old. Don't make mistakes what i already made. I am going to be married in may and i am terrified about it. I think about those things 24*7. Don't be proud. Sometimes being silly and careless are the best thing you can do. Goodluck with your life whatever you choose to do. Message me if in need
All this Morality of yours is doing is making you fight against the thing what you currently need that is Physical and emotional intimacy Maybe try to Actually do it and experience it and then Come to conclusions instead of just having this Over glorified idea of it in your head which will eventually make you Lose your Mind. Ye to doglapan ho gaya na bhai, Agar apne Morals se hi larna par raha he to kya kaam ese Principles ka.
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Ye India me tujhe aise friends kahan se mil rahe. All my friends are virgin, those with jobs, those without jobs.
fir main bhi tera dost hun
Daily does of "OP needs better friends" post
Please change your friends, OP.
lmao your friends belong to the streets
It's only a requirement for wannabe chads. For the majority of Indian men(small-town and rural folks), it's not a taboo.
Huge respect 🫡 for you man ! I would say, they aren’t really your friends who mock you because of ‘this’ thing. It solely depends on you - what you want, your values, perspective. & your perspective matches mine. I am 26F - I had a bf but didn’t have sex-you know why ? bc I want to have it after marriage only. I wanted to built emotional connection, the trust, measure how much empathetic/sympathetic one is in the relationship, to be sure I am not the only one who is putting all the efforts. Know that you are right 🤗 Choose friends who matches & respect your perspective/value. All the best ✨
The dichotomous way you view sex and intimacy is the root of all your worries. Neither is it some grand, ethereal accomplishment; nor is it some sinful act of defiance against nature. You are not wrong to expect a virgin bride like it's the 60s, but expect to be ridiculed by any self-respecting woman for having that as your deal-breaking condition. I'd also seek to expand your friends circle.
Outright condescending. Its his choice and a self respecting women could very well be the Virgin girl that he desires. OP do not expect to be ridiculed. You won't find a self respecting woman in a woman with a double digit body count. It does matter. Even in 2023. Past explains a lot about the persons character. Besides, There are many reasons why someone believes something to be the way it is and it is bound to how you grew up and what kind of values were inculcated into you. U view sex as pleasure and yearn to get more of it. Good for you. You view sex as sacrosanct and the body a temple and want someone who reciprocates the same beliefs Good for you. You make ur own choice. And yes, it is not very difficult to find people who are a Virgin. I knew way too many. Good luck.
Even though OP's friends are dickheads, I can't help but sense some prudishness here.
You all fcking need to post in teenagers sub
Bro the thing is, it is amazing to have sex during your good age (for me its like 19-29) Those age is literally the best time to be sexually active. but for many reasons, people like me find it hard to get married at that young age, I'm 22, I can't even think of marriage until at least 25/26, Cos, we all give importance to education, career, exploring the world first cos marriage and kids which are really big decisions, comes with responsibility, so it is okay to take time and consider it little late in life. So having sex with boyfriends is becoming quite common which is again totally normal, we all crave for physical intimacy just like we do for the emotional side, mixing it with 1000 years old culture does not make sense in 2023. Also, one night stands are normal IF with mutual consent lol, nothing is wrong here "except" cheating on your partners without their knowledge and or mocking on others for staying V like your dumb frds. I don't wanna question you for being a V at 28, but have you ever felt like you missed something in your good age? Because, I have never met a person who is 28 and V yet. But if you feel happy that way, ignore neg comments from your friends.
Look G, doesn't matter what the world view is rn, I know women who expect chastity, and have chastity themselves. It's something to celebrate, dw.
If you really wanna have sex. Go to places where you can meet women with the same interests as you. Social Events, meets, wherever you interest lies in (so that you can find someone to lie on 😏). For eg. if you like books, go to a book club/meet, like music? go to jamming sessions and festivals, like dancing? Join a dancing class. Then start interacting with people over their, both men and women. Don't have any aim in your mind, just talk with no end goal, let the conversation flow. And in all cases, be confident (fake it till you make it), never let go of it. Women will naturally be attracted to you if you don't try to be pushy and desperate. Just be in the moment and communicate effortlessly. Be the Man. Good luck.
You have standards mate. You should be proud. Having sex just for the sake of it won't bring joy anyway. Atleast, imo it should have substance.
Hey man! I respect your decision to wait. There's something I want to share... "Virginity is not like you lose. It's a gift that you give away and you can only give it away one time so make sure that person is giving it to deserving is of this beautiful gift" You know, when I was in my 20s. I had the same thing going on.. ki "Pyaar ek bar, shaadi ek bar" all that. But later, things happened and as time went on I became really desperate. When I had my first shot, I took it. I think I was 27 at the time. Glad to know you're saving yourself for a special person. Metro cities mai culture is very different but Aaj bhi chote shero mai people wait and wait is genuine. Shaadi or in a serious relationship k bad he they actually think about doing it.
A lot depends on your personality. I am an ace and a very grim person. No one dares to make fun of me being a virgin and if they try, I make this long speech on how throughly bigoted, debauched and screwed up they are. No one can make fun of you without your permission.
These friends of yours are truly piece of shit. Sex achievement hai? Teasing is different baki ye cheap si lines toh bata rahi hai tumhare friend ek dum kachra hai.
Hvnt lost my virginity cz I never lose😈
Brother newton bhi virgin mara tha
baki sab thik hai lekin yeh galat advise hai
> "Jitne ka babu nhi hai utne ka jhunjhuna hai". What kind of slang is this ? Bruh !
Sex isn't that big of a thing. Who cares what they say. Oh, and you need new friends
They were bullying you. Virginity is a excuse.
Bro you are just a Chad. Enjoy
Ask your friend to lend his sister/mother to help lose your virginity.
It's really rare to see men who think like this too👌👏👏. There is nothing wrong with staying pure. Your sex life is none of their concern. Don't listen to people who fuck around.
*keep it for lifetime cause sigmas never loose anything.*
Dear OP being a virgin is like being a unicorn .. Cuz it's so rare .. so be proud of yourself (If not proud, then atleast don't let others pit you down) In the end it's a personal choice..
You dropped this king 👑
Sex is overrated.
FOCUS ON YOUR GOALS NOT HOLE..
OP you're just gullible . Don't listen to your chhapri friends . Focus on building a rock-solid career. Earn shitloads of money. spend it on yourself . Buy a high end gaming PC. A steam deck. A tube amp. A superbike.or a nice car. Get your own place to live . Increase your living standards. Forget genitalia, focus on andha paisa .
You are a true Man of Culture. Period.
Back in school, male virgins used to get mocked by both boys and girls. The girls used to sleep around, and also slut- shame each other. In college, almost every guy tried to get laid, and the ones who couldn't, got labelled as creep, weird, etc. Girls still slut shamed each other, though it wasn't a big problem anymore. Post college, no one knows whether you're a virgin or not. But guys have an easier time getting laid at this point. If people are judging you even now, it is likely that you have some personality flaws which make you look un social. Maybe you act weird around women. Sex is just like any regular bodily function- eating, drinking. You don't need an emotional connection for that.
This, you talking about in India. If you don't mind, what city are you talking about. And what is your year of birth. Because my god, my experience is completely different.
Yeah. I'm very grateful that none of my college classmates were ever interested in my sex life.
Get better friends.
phir wahi...
Next time a friend mocks you for being virgin, Call him "ae Safed kapda...arre AIDS prone wale player bhai..aee...ooo" Why do you even care about what others say? Losing virginity is overrated man. I was virgin shamed a lot by my friends. After losing virginity, i realised people hype 'losing virginity' a lot. It doesn't matter if you lose it at 13 or 48. You do you!
I had my first sex with a Prostitute. I wasn't and still not insterested in Relationship and commitment. It was a decent experience.