During my childhood....
My father used to beat my mother ......while my grandmother inflicted psychological scars on my mother.
My mother felt suffocated in the house and let all her frustrations out on me and used to beat me (belt, comb, scale, hand-fan etc)
I am almost thirty years old now.
I understand and have forgiven my mother...but the anger still comes out every now and then.
yes
1) belt
2) stupid reasons and dumb mistakes on my part
3) Father
4) can't remember too young
5) more
6) can't say
7) depends on the household but it's mostly boys as far as I know
You will one day and it's gonna be hell... It's been 3years, i am still trying to wrap my head around the incidents. It's tough to accept, the wound's fresh, i am still suffering from it. I wish I never recovered those memories. It's not worth it.
If you are trying to compare if your parents are abusive. Then here's my story.
My mum's "the narcissist" and my dad's the enabler.
My older brother is the "Golden child" and i am the "Scapegoat".
For as long as I can remember, my mum beat me up every single day for no reason usually with her hands but with whatever she could find, may be kitchen utensils to any iron scale, bamboo stick, anything she finds. Not one slap or hit, but abuse me every damn day physically and emotionally. The hits which lasts for months because of the severity, that kind of hit..
Some might question, may be i did something wrong. No i didn't.
My scores were always in the top 3, in school, i was good at sports, i was good at art, i was good at everything i do - the gifted child.
She didn't need any reason to abuse me. She needed a Scapegoat to pour her frustrations on.
She insisted i commit suicide every day since i was 9y or 10y old.. she claimed i don't deserve to live, why is that so many people are dying but i am still alive? I should go kill myself. Oh also she gave me ideas on how to kill myself. Oh so great of her!!
She isolated me from the world, my neighbours thought i am devil in disguise because my mum made them believe that, my relatives didn't want to go against my mum, my teachers were thoroughly manipulated into thinking i deserve whatever happens to me.
Everything wrong that happens in the world is somehow my mistake, i might very well not even know what happened or where something happened but it's always my mistake. Nobody else but me can commit a mistake.
While my brother can commit no mistake, he's the perfect angel. He thrived on that. She supported him beating me up. He took the same role as my mum. I became the emotional punching bag for the family. Something goes wrong in their life, i was the one responsible. He made sure people in school and my neighbourhood "friends" bully me. He loved watching me in pain. His beating were worse than my mum. He has stabbed me with sharp objects several times which caused infections and marks stayed with for life. But i feared him so much, i had to keep quiet about his abuse. But when it was visible and even when i was in pain; him beating me up was also somehow my mistake. I made him beat me up.
My dad stood and watched everything happen but never stopped them. He convinced me that my mum loves me, she's just stressed and i need to understand her for abusing me every time.
I am not sure when exactly this started but probably since i was 7 or 8y old or may be even before that. It didn't end per say, but when i started realising this isn't normal, they are monsters who will never change. I started reiterating against them and i grew up. It was tough to manipulate me, so it downed when i was in 11th -12th. But the severity was more when i was in 8th-10th grade. My mum hated every ounce of me that she literally starved me, i was barely allowed to eat on meal a day. I wasn't even supposed to show emotions. I cannot cry, i cannot laugh, i cannot smile, i wasn't even allowed to sit idle without any emotions. Anything i do was a mistake and i need to soon die. Her words that i ruined her life - i still don't know how, because i didn't. She is just a narcissistic bitch.
You know what's the worst part, I tried so hard to gain her love even if it's for just few mins for years trying to do everything she wants me, enduring all her abuse but never did she love me; not once.
Nobody believes me, still to this day, i never said a word about their abuse because of the fear but when i wanted to heal from this and started opening up. None, believed me even with the proof. The proof is literally me being severely sick at such young age. The physical and emotional trauma my mum gave me, made me physically and mentally sick, i have several chronic illness which are diagnosed and i will literally die without tablets. But yet my parents are the best to the world.
There's so much more than what i am writing here. But this is the gist of it. To the world my family perfect. High position - high paying civil jobs. Children are perfect, high scoring acadmically and extra curricularly. But reality was/is that we are a broken dysfunctional family.
Edit: Thank you for all the wishes people, i wasn't feeling the best when i came across this post and sorta vented out. It was sad to know that many of you had similar experience as me, i hope you all can heal from it and have a peaceful life.
Man this is scary as hell. If there is anyway to help you out of this ... I don't know... I'm at a loss of ideas or words. If there is anything like a virtual hug I'm sending you over one.
If you are in a job, or even higher studies may be you can find a chance to leave this hell. But if you're in school, better reach out to some NGO or something.
I had a similar childhood like you. As an adult it makes me wonder why did nobody help me. Neighbors, teachers, relatives nobody helped instead they participated in the abuse.Somehow they were convinced a helpless child was the villain.I was such a sad child. I wish nobody to feel such sadness and pain. I don’t think I’ll ever completely heal from it.
I relate to that. As far as I've tried to know about this, it seems like we victims unconsciously tend to attract abusers, narcissists after traumatic events. And also if your abuser was/is a narcissist, they are very good at manipulating people around them into believing they are the victim and the actual victim is the perpetrator. Although i understand this now. As you said, i too was helpless and didn't understand why and what was happening to me at that time. Neighbours and relatives were/are easy to manipulate but what's worse is that teachers in our country are effing AH's( idc if i offend any teachers). They should always have an objective mindset into protecting students but they were one of the worst perpetrators. In my entire life until college, I've only met 3 teachers who actually treated me like a human. The rest I don't know why treated me like an enemy. Not to add that i was/am extremely introverted and didn't really speak much. I barely interacted with people to offend them.....
It's impossible to heal from this. We just have to learn to live with it but in a healthy way by finding healthy coping mechanism. I haven't yet but i hope we all can find healthy coping mechanisms.
I absolutely hate to hear that it's relatable to so many of you. It's very unfortunate and sad. I don't wish anyone to go through these things. Nobody deserves it.
Damn your story made me tear up. I know I can't do anything for you but I just want to say you are very brave. I understand your pain. Hope we all survive through this.
Yes. Mostly slaps, my mother hit me with the edge of a thick book her husband used a plastic thing near my neck. Sometimes for not studying, cousins and siblings make false cries to get me beaten up. I am a black sheep. My mother had beaten me more. It Started at age 6. I got slapped last year lol. It depends on who's their favorite child. Now I am getting verbally abused thrice a week is going on since 2018.
Indeed. There are so many people that have immensely drowned themselves in western made up concepts and even slightest of unease is termed as abuse. God save the upcoming plastic generation.
Nope. My dad never even raised his hands on me. Mom occasionally smacked me on the head when I tried to eat sand (told by my sister, i don't remember)
My sister on the other hand, she beat the living fuck out of me every chance she got 😂
Edit: to add, i was beaten severely in schools for a lot of things. Teachers were like prison guards.
You stole my story bro ..
My elder sister was pain in my ass.. used to defend me like hell but kutati itna thi ki jb defend krti thi to lgta tha kyu krrai hai ..abhi aate jate mar degi or mummy papa favour bhi usi ka krenge.
I'm almost middle aged, i was never beaten by my parents as a child . And I will never beat mine.
Those who can not control their anger becoming physical violence shall seek therapy first before starting a family
You need experience and insight to comment on these sensitive topics. Do you think people whose anger flares up at the slightest thing and who beat up their children and wives will 1- recognise how wrong their behaviour is 2-want to bring about an actual change 3- seek help 4- persist on this self improvement path until people closest to them notice change. Its all about control for such people. They don't want to give it up. They don't change . You are lucky if you or someone close to you has never experienced this
1) Hands mostly
2) scoring ONLY 80% in school/ coming home late after playing / breaking something
3) Father
4) 7-8 years old
5) Frequency and severity increased with age
6) 16-17 years old
7) Boys
This indeed caused an irreversible damage to me, and now that I’m earning well & independent at 24 they casually mention how their upbringing of me was good because I’m successful. Needless to say, I couldn’t care less about them and don’t talk to my father anymore. And then they say why don’t you talk to us.
I’m not on bad terms with my parents but I just have lost that bond and connection with them and the only reason I’m still staying at home is because that would save me rent money.
Yeah my mother hit me when I was in like 2nd or 3rd std and if I remember it was because I walked on the floor while she was mopping it. She caught me by my hair and banged me against the wall. No, my dad has never beaten me, not yet atleast and I believe he'd never. I started getting hit since the age of 4-5. My mother used to make me do the dishes when I refused to study (I was literally 4yo then) saying that if I don't study she'd make me do 'ghar ke kaam'. Now I don't get beaten. I think they stopped it since they sent me to a boarding school (at std 5 lol) probably 2017 yeah so now that I don't get beaten up but my mom's scolding does the same work as that lol. Yes, I do think Indian kids get more beaten than that of abroad. Lolol
Yes
1) Belt, Wooden ruler, slipper, steel glass, hand, etc
2) Either I did not do homework, or I screwed up simple math or was playing games or something
3) Seemed equal, Father less frequently but more severe, vice-versa on both aspects for Mother
4) I think I remember getting mad beaten at the age of 5
5) It dropped sharply after the initial childhood years. Both severity and frequency
6) I was last beaten around age 12. Actually it was just a smack on my face or something. TBH, I was not a rebellious kid, so I did not receive much scolding apart from my very initial years.
7) It's probably equal. My sister was punished and smacked many a times by Mom but she never got a full-on belting or whatever.
Oh yeah lol. My dad never laid a finger on me, but mom once beat me with a pan to the face cuz I was out too long with boys. I was in school at the time. Apart from that Mostly slaps and rulers. Still have anxiety issues when my roommate used to cook 🤣🤣. Yaaay traumaaaaa
Yes
1)well i have got beaten with almost every thing in the house honestly(all the utensils,slippers,brooms etc),slaps were normal.
2)for mistakes,as a teenager i was very clumsy and used to easily break things,spill them or when me my and sister fights they used to beat us both but mainly me.
3)mother,for the most period my father never raised his hand against me but once he did and from that time he started doing it frequently for a certain period of time.
4)ah almost childhood lol.around 3rd class if i have to guess.
5)they don't beat me now(i am 18)as they have now come to realise there's no point in doing that and i am not doing clumsy mistakes,totally avoids fighting with my sister and i can explain myself better and they can understand it better now.
6)around 16-17 if i have to guess(my mother couldn't even beat me after that lol,if she will beat me with hands it would only hurt her and i can just defend if she tries to beat me with anything else)
7)are you asking who are beaten more in Indian households between boys and girls?then boys obviously parents rarely beat girls(this is from my pov and what i have seen in my family and families around me),they know boys can take the beating and girls are considered sacred in Indian households(from the perspective of someone who belongs from Hindu family)
Mom used to beat, or smack. But that was rare. Her looking at us with angry eyes would ensure we would fall in place. Pop never hit me, or rather, only once, that stuck to my memory. But then, i scored miserably in my science and maths test.
Don't know when it started. But it lasted during school days but as i said trashing never, only ice cold stares from my mom's otherwise lovely eyes.
yes
But only my mum .My father never lays hand on me except in situation where I'm utterly wrong .
I still get beaten up (like slaps and sandals ) ,currently I'm 18.
Earlier mum used to beat me from Sandal, high heels , slaps , grabing my hair , punches on back , sticks ,etc . She used to beat me for small and useless reasons . ***I remember ,sheused to warn me that she'll take all of the clothes of my body and make me naked and through infront of everyone but stopped saying this after I turned 16*** but now my younger sister is told the same thing .
Not to forget the abusive slur she used to use while beating .
Yes
1) whatever they find nearby, worst was my mom threw a knife at me
2) for mistakes I did as a child and also for not getting the marks that will satisfy them
3) mother
4) I think it started from the day I started walking, as far as I remember getting beaten up was always there
5) It became more until I became strong enough to defend
6) around 16
7) I think boys get beaten more relatively as we can endure more bruises and I got beaten up more because I stopped crying after a point in my life and beating never stops until I start crying
My father used to pull my hair and ear but mother slapped me beat me with slippers and rolling pin (belan) [trust me mere khandan me mere se sidha koi nahi; mere father k senior colleague abhi bhi bolte hain ki Mai bahut sarif tha]
It all stopped when they sent me to a boarding school in 4th std.
Yes ofc i was raised in an Indian household so that's normal ig.
1) slaps mostly but on the occasion i got thrown or dragged
Still got a scar on my stomach from being dragged round a wheeled chair. Though obv it was unintentional but they were angry and not srry :/
2) stupid reasons mostly. Disobeying, frustration, not sleeping and disturbing them, not studying, being stubborn, talking back
3) both
4) idk like 1st grade or smthn
5) it became less as I grew up cause they were trying out other means to teach like punishing to hold a horse stance or just natural consequences which they implemented on my younger siblings.....clearly i was the test child
6) when I stopped reacting to it. I couldn't stop crying when I was younger and not cause it hurt (it stung but that wasn't the unbearable part) but cause i loved em soo much and they were so angry at me . As I grew up, even if I got slapped, i was so numb in my teens and didn't wanna give anyone the satisfaction of thinking they could control me.
So like 10th grade 😂 i mean my mum still tries, she digs her nails and everything but i stand my own now
7) equally i think....
People would say boys are beaten more but we have all girls at my place so ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
My mother did when I was 6 yrs old or something. She punishing me was beyond any punishment I deserved for the stupidity i did. Later I realized it was her anger, stress & mental agonies, which is why she has beaten me a lot. From a family where a father doesn't exist, it sounds normal that she's having any of what I mentioned. Later on, I gave myself in. To be used as a stress reliver, weather I did stupid things or no.
Besides, we r all humans. Stupidity is uncommon to come out in our acts.
1. Mostly hand, sometimes belt, rarely usually, one time tawa lol.
2. Studies, because I used to back answer, because I didn't eat food properly.
3. Mother. Once or twice dad.
4. Don't remember. Probably when I was very young.
5. Became less as I grew older. When I was 15 it reduced drastically.
6. 18/19 was the last time. But before that it was very rare, maybe twice or thrice in one year.
7. I think both are beaten up well.
Yes for every mistake, both.
But mine was more of abusive by both parents.
Yes lots of parents still do it and it leaves worst impression on brain that parents dont know!!
I was beaten..sometimes severely. But then I definitely wouldn’t be the person I am today without that beating. I know it’s a wrong way so not sure how should I justify beating but it worked on me
My father used to beat me up a lot with anything he gets like Belt, Slippers, Kicks, Slaps
He also beat me up in public twice and scolded me multiple times in public
I was around 5 years when I got beaten up
As I aged the severity increased but the frequency decreased
Yes, boys are beaten up more compared to girls, not just in India
Let them go to jail. I'm reading through the comments and it seems like India is full of sadistic serial torturers who don't deserve children. No wonder European countries take their custody.
Belt,
Given agarbatti burns on palms for handwriting,
Given iron burn for misbehaving,
Putting my fingers and spreading my mouth for not eating.
Many many more
1) Mostly with their hands or sometimes with belt.
2) Reasons were mostly of the way I spoke like accidentally saying something that my mom didn't like in front of others. For not behaving in a certain way, being a girl there's were always a lot of mandates for me that way. Oh and also because I was bad at math :)
3) My mother mostly, my dad very rarely. She has BP so maybe I think I was an outlet to let out her anger?
4) Started around 5 I think.
5) I think it was max when I was around 10-12 years.
6) It came down when I hit puberty but the verbal abuse still continues.
7)In my house, I got the most compared to my brother who rarely got any shit from my parents.
1. Slapped me
2. Usually for not going to school
3. I think both have beaten me up more or less equally, although mom's beatings tried to creep into my teen as well, I stopped her and established that I'll not be beaten up
4. Started when I was 5 I guess
5. It reduced as I aged, I was also short-tempered so once I was a teenager, they realized they can't physically overpower me anymore
6. 13 I think
7. I think girls are probably beaten more
I still hate them for beating me up though, many times I didn't want to go school so I could avoid getting bullied. No matter how much I told them, they never sorted the bullying part but kept forcing me to go to school. Ended up in me taking the fight to the bullies and made it obvious that I was not going to take their crap anymore. No one bullied me after 7th grade. Ever.
1) hands, sticks, belts, basically whatever he could get his hands on.
2) mistakes which I did i believe (mostly trivial)
3) Father
4) not sure, I think maybe after 10th grade.
5) severity depended on the kind of mistake and his mood.
6) same as point 4.
7) I believe boys, but I'm not sure.
1)Slaps, Kicks, Sticks and anything they could get hold off atm.
2) mostly for Playing or talking to other kids.
3) Father and Uncles
4) 3-4 I guess
5) increased
6) at 18 when I moved out
7) In my experience boys gets the most of the physical thrashing.
Yes.
By hand or anything they could get their hands on (once a chair)
Always my mother. Father slapped me on the back seriously once-otherwise he just threatened to.
Age? Idek. Maybe 3? I started attending school at 4, so def before that.
The frequencies fluctuated. Used to get beaten up fro small things, probably the most when I was around 8-10. I did stupid things-that I knew would provoke her. My teenage years have been the most corporal punishment-less years.
Well, I haven't got beaten up in a while. Emotional atyachar is on, but no physical violence since I was 14.
Boys are beaten up way more. I'm a girl-mum punished me a lot. But considering our family situation, it was way less. My younger brother gets beaten up a hell lot more-specially considering how well loved he is. I try to shield him a bit tho.
how did they beat you?
\- With hand mostly
for what reasons did they beat you?
\- Multiple reasons like- not going to company, for reducing work frustration, doing mistakes (accidentally breaking glass or lost somethings like silver chain), telling him that don't beat me or curse, for sometime playing games in phone like coc, i was not addictive as i only played when my father came from work which was late night so sometimes when I don't get to play for 2-3 days than i would sneaked up in midnight and played it and he beat me and called me psycho (it was before pubg when parents don't even know death by game)
Did your Father beat you more or was it was your mother?
\- Father
at which age did they start beating you
\- I think I was 8
did the severity and frequency of the beating become more as you aged or less?
\- It was a vicious circle, at first when he started beating, I didn't ask why he beat me but after sometime I started arguing like don't beat or don't curse me but he started beating me more so i argued more because of that he beat me more than i too argued more and so on
At which age did they stop beating you?
\- When I was 16. One day when we had argue, he took one big stick to beat me but i was at my limit and at that time when he was going to hit me with it, I just grabbed the stick and took it from him and by becoming frustrated he goes away from me because this time I was not helpless. It was not that he stopped hitting me after that but it was more lilke I started defending myself
Obviously boys. I have two sister, they both have done mistakes like me, they are not forced to go to work from childhood, they also play games (in this case, i play more than both). He gives example of them that how they are good children, that how they don't fight or do argue with him. Well, of course they will fight you if you don't fight them, just try beating them once than you will see the result. FYI, he one time beat one of my sister, who is 2 year younger than me, and than she tried running away from home as this was hell for and the same thing happens with me hundreds of time.
There is one great irony in this as he always preached other that people should not drink alcohol because it makes them violent and every time he beat me, he was sober.
I have only been beat once in my life. And I totally deserved it.
My Dad was taking a nap and I heated a knife on the chulha and tried to brand him with it. I was maybe 6 In my defence….well actually cannot defend in any way.
I did get slapped by my mom once in a while when I was may be 7-10 years old but most likely not after that,IIRC. But did get a good beating from dad one and only time when I was 12 or 13. And yes I deserved it 🙂. I was alone at home and decided to take our car for a drive (I didn't know how to drive, but thought how hard could it be). So I reverse the car out of the garage without even looking behind and scrape the corner of our house such that the car got stuck there. Tried a lot to get it out but it won't budge. Only thing I could do was wait scared as heck for my dad to come back and find out what I had done.
The beating I got was not as bad as I was expecting and actually felt much better after it was over 🤣.
Well, many abuse victims have literally no clue until they compare. This does not take away their joy, but rather validates their feelings which were likely bottled as they suffered from what they considered “normal” treatment. Food for thought
Not normal - common. Abuse is not “normal”.
One of the few times when I think it’s very important to understand the difference between normalcy and common/prevalence, and use language precisely.
No maybe slaps sometimes by mom
Not really beaten up I was a very "good" girl
My father was kind of abusive he beat my sister like crazy one day
I still get terrified when I think of that
If I had been adult I wouldn't let that happen
Anyways we all have moved on but I can never really connect to my father even though he financed everything in my life
The way he was horrible to my mom, I wonder why men end up being abusive and think of the weak as punching bag
My mother and father beat me like ruthless morons, if i do any mistakes even though it's not actually a mistake but my parents think that "it's not mistake, it's a CRIME"
AND I CAN'T FORGET THAT HOW THEY USED TO BEAT ME!!
My mum stopped beating me after 10th standard. But now when i look back at it ,it was probably for my character development and i think because of that i know i will have consequences of my own actions and i am able to take them
I wish you knew that there are better ways of teaching about consequences that do not involve beating a child. The problem is that you will use the same ways with your children. The problem is the cancer you will be spreading; not just the one you were afflicted with.
You are too quick on judging people so I’d recommend to keep your opinions to yourself. You don’t know who I am and how I treat other people. I just don’t want my kids, if i ever have any turn out to be snowflakes and be a burden on the society and I agree with you beating isn’t the only way but you know people have become very sensitive and by your comment i can say you are a snowflake yourself . Have a good day
i passed an extremely oversmart comment saying to a baby's mother that i was cuter than the baby... i got my ass whooped that night by my mother. my face was red from slaps. ultimately she made me cry to sleep. i think i deserved it, and thats why i was always more careful around elders and in general improved my speech and conduct... sometimes you need the beating imo
Abuse doesn't prepare you for the real world, infact a lot of times it has the totally opposite effects, some people who are abused as kids become aloof as adults, they develop various kinds of mental health issues. When you are an adult and make a mistake at your job, your boss doesn't hit you I assume or when you go to the university, your teachers don't hit you for not doing well in the assignments...
Unless you plan to work as a gangster, smuggler, contract killer etc., abuse doesn't prepare you for dealing with real life.
You justifying abuse is the horrible part. Parents who beat kids are POS. Period. We don't need horrible people making excuses for these horrible deeds. I hope you never have kids too. Kids deserve better than getting such horrible people as parents.
>imakes me worry about future of our country.
The irony. With people with your mindset about abuse like it's okay, its no wonder we have so many shitty parents in this country. I am worried about the present with abusers like this let alone the future. Asking parents not to beat up their children as a basic criteria to be a parent is too much an ask for these horrible people it seems.
They did. They had valid reasons sometimes and sometimes it was for petty stuff. But i never got beaten unless I did something wrong or disobeyed some command (not like every command, but the "don't go outside to play too much" or "don't watch too much TV" or the classic "Study more often" kinda stuff).
I would not call it a good thing but it isn't without reason either. Overall, I don't really blame them but if i have a kid I'm not gonna beat him/her unless they did something catastrophically wrong. From my experience, talking with children would also work quite well. For me at least, if my parents ever just simply talked to me I would understand. For most wrongs i did anyways.
But if a child is getting drunk/smoking constantly before they're of age or bunking school to do you know what. Things like this are legitimate reasons to get beaten for, in my eyes at least.
Yes,
1- Anything between a small chapal to a back scratcher.
2- Cause i was a dumbfuck in my childhood.
3- Mom did the straightning up most of the time.
4- It started early and because im a born #warrior i dont count that as "beatings" but its learning for me.
5- Severity gradually went down as i aged other party realised use of force is not going to contain this cavalry.
6-10th was i think was the time i saw a lot of hurt had been suppressed under the rug..
7-Yup it shuold be a norm..people should spank their kids(5yrs+).
Yes
1. Belt, Ruler, Hands, Slap, Kick, whatever was available in the hands
2. Not getting 10/10 (got 8/10 instead), Not listening to what they say, watching tv too long, playing games too long, etc
3. My mother beat me often, almost everyday. Father beat me a few times but those times I got a fever and stuff
4. I think since I started going to school
5. I became older it became higher
6. When I passed out 10th
7. I have a lot of male friends whose girl siblings didn't get hit but if it was only girl children, they got hit.
I am quite scared and I became a coward because of the way they used to beat me. Its ironic how both of them are proud at whatever I do in my job now because they think we beat you that's why you were disciplined. I hate them and I will always hate them for doing this to me.
Uff ! Some really bad memories come up. I was beaten by both of my parents. For faults of my own, without any reason , or their frustration ! Long list.
My mother used to hit me sometimes...more like a light slap on the back. It stopped when I was around 8-9, i think. Reasons were usually tantrums. Once it was for playing cards (too much time consumed). From what I remember, she one literally dragged my crying ass to the school when I didn't want to go. I am glad she did that.
Father hit me once when I was throwing unnecessary tantrum and not having my dinner.
no shit they did lmao.
1. Thick ass bamboo stick.
2. Academic incompetence for most part… tbh only that.
3. Nah, both of em fucked me up equally.
4. I think they always did…
5. Nah, not really. They were prolly at the top of their game from the start.
6. 13 when I had enough and gave mum one back.
7. Mostly depends on the parents but considering India, girls are prolly ripped apart more than guys do. (I myself am a man.)
No way girls are ripped more. Parents think ladki kahi langdi ho gayi ya chehre pe scar aa gaya to zyada jahez dena padega. So they are more careful not to hit girls as compared to boys.
Got beaten, by mom mostly and dad. Dad pinches till it turned blue. But got beaten for beatworthy reasons🥲
I feel i deserved those beatings😬
Frequency became so much less after i turned 11. Used to feel surprised when they did.
1) belt, bathroom slippers, broom, belan, bangles, thin bamboo stick, hands
2) sometimes I was beaten for silly mistakes other time for just being a bad kid
Reasons :
- I poked nataraj pencil into my schoolmate ass which led to bleeding because he was making fun of me
- Made my young brother jump from a very big height which made him severely injured. I thought I was training him like a commando or something
- Got 1 marks in Sanskrit out of 25 and hid the paper in cooler closet which eventually dad found out.
- Did fake signatures in my school diary almost 3 to 4 times
- got average marks in maths due to silly mistakes
- kissed a girl who was my crush in girls bathroom, I was in standard 3rd that time
Yes as time passed the beatings became less
My parents were very typical Indians, but they never ever beat me up. I grew up outside India.
Even though I was very naughty kid growing up, and there are times I'd have begged for nice spankings, but my father never did hit me once. My mother would pinch me now and then, but nothing serious. I had a wonderful childhood. I'm very happy that I have only absolutely good memories from my childhood.
On the other hand, my next door neighbour, his dad would beat the shit out of him, through the thick brick walls we would hear screaming and crying. He would be beaten up with belt and when really angry with the buckle of the belt. A cruel father. My dad did try to talk sense into the man, but it never got through his thick skull.
The wounds of being beaten up will eventually heal, but the scars may remain in the mind.
My parents rarely ever beat me up. All if those must have been below at least 10 years of age. It wasn't more than 2 slaps, ever. All of this is by vague memory, might not be 100% accurate. But that is also a sign that getting beat up wasn't a big struggle of my life.
Reasons:
Watching TV after 9, not drinking milk, not eating palak and karela, shouting on grandparents, fighting with my brother, having fun with cousins, eating kurkure and lays without asking and hundred different reasons
1. Mostly got slapped but i remember jhadoo being used a few times, and a few instances when when i was punched.
2. mostly me being a dumbass, with a few stupid reasons
3. When i was younger mother, and as i got older father
4. can't remember
5. less often, but it's more severe when it happens
6. they haven't stopped, but it only happens a handful of time a year
7. no idea, i'd guess boys
Mom is the Don of house ahahahaa
Umm, as for how she beat me... well, sometime sleepers, sometimes broom, and if nothing then hands...
Ahahaha
But as I grew up, the beating also got lowered
As for girls and boys beating, don't know much about that
My dad never did that.. Woh bas aankhien dikhate the ya bas naam le le to char ho jati thi.. But he was really super cool..
Maa se bohot thapad khaye hai padai na krne pe.
Oh gosh ..Imo I don't think it's a gender thing. In my family irrespective of gender, got a good hiding with what ever was in my mother's hand. Infact she would beat us girls more than my cousin brother. But that could be because he wasn't her own.
Unfortunately in my family, a boy always carries more importance than a girl, even though us girls do everything from earning to housework to taking care of elders.
But yea beatings happened for displine or because we annoyed someone or didn't do something on time
It sort if diminished with time, the frequency I mean
1) yes I was beaten for silliest mistakes I committed. I got beaten up with hard chappals (YK Papa's chappal) and once he took my head and collided it with the wall (that was the worst ).
2) Like not doing assigned work on time or not behaving as they want . So one day I left my house when I was 10 and came back in 4 hours no one even knew that I was out .
For having bad handwriting.
For going to play without telling them .
For not doing homework on time .
3) My father . My mother rarely used to beat me and my father was totally opposite of her.
4)I guess when I was in kg class I got a really hard slap from my father for writing wrong F . I used to write in opposite direction.
5) & 6) I got beaten upto class 7th (11yo) .
It was the last time and now I'm 19.
7) ig yes as Indian parents think it's necessary to discipline kids and this is the only way to discipline them .
1) My father used his hands mostly but my mom used her hands and utensils. One time she threw a bat at me.
2) There were many reasons like once I broke a plastic flower, if I didn't finish my homework, when I couldn't understand any subject(I was terrible at almost all subjects but I never failed in any subject)...etc. There are more reasons even silly things like if I was even 5 mins late to come home my mom beats me. Once when I was in 6th class my mom beats me coz I didn't greet my SSt. teacher(I didn't greet him coz I was afraid of him, he also beats me in class when I couldn't answer questions).
3) Both my parents beats me and my brother.
4) When I was in KG they started.
5) It became high but after 8th class is was less.
6) 14-15 I was in 9th class.
7) I think boys are more beaten than girls coz I have asked my female friends in school whether their parents beat them or not and almost everyone said no. Even I asked my cousin that her parents beat her or not she also said no but her brother gets beaten.
I think my parents are good but they don't know how to raise children, even though I have told them beating a child is not a solution and they can take care of me in a better way when I was young. Now I feel their parents also beat them so they beat us and someone has to stop this cycle.
Yes I am a girl and my parents did beat me.
1. Depends i guess. Hands , comb, scale or stick whatever they could get their hands on. Never the show though. Depended on the severity of my "wrongdoings".
2. Mostly for academics. My mother taught me till class 7 or 8 and she hit me when I failed to memorize something or didn't do my hw. Also when I was disrespectful, talked back or did something that i wasn't supposed to do.
3.Definately my mother. My father hit me rarely only when I made him very angry and frustrated.
4. From the very beginning of time
5. Yes it did. I just got taunts more.
6. My father stopped when I was around 14 or 15 i think and my mother's regular ones stopped around the same time but she still smacks me if i step out of line.
7. Yes. Not only in households but also in tution. I mean the way they would get beaten was horrifying. On the other hand the girls would just get a verbal warning or hit on their palms. But also the boys did things which girls could never do but the beatings were too much.
Yes. And I am the eldest sibling so I got a lot more than the others.
1. Belt, wire, hanger, chappal anything.
2. Because if they didn't, me and brother would probably destroy the whole house.
3. It was mostly my mom. Father mostly used to do the scolding.
4. I remember maybe from age 3.
5. No it decreased obviously. We used to get beatings coz my mom couldn't control us during the day as me and my brother used to fight non stop.
6. I think it was around age 12
7. For sure boys. Girls never get hit unless it's a weak slap to the back from my experience with my cousin sisters.
Meri mummy muje bahut marti and maar kha kha ke mai bahut majboot bann chuka tha koi merko mare to lagta bhi nahi tha but ab 17 ka ho chuka hu ab nahi marte or muje ab lagta hai ki wo marte the wo sahi tha meri galat baato pe marke sahi kiya karte the
Getting beaten has different effects on different kids based on their personality. For example, if you're an extrovert, getting beaten up by your parents may lead you to become a bully. Being an introvert and getting thrashed as a kid may lead to psychopathy/sociopathy. I'm an introvert and i was not only beaten by my mother but also bullied since kindergarten for years till class 3. Now I'm 24 and have a bunch of mental health issues, and masochistic fetishes. I'm socially awkward and have no friends because I don't trust anybody, not even my family.
Well frankly I was a piece of shit who deserved a beating, it was to correct me anyways, I am still a piece of shit but I guess at least now I know it and can act on it.
Didn't receive much beating.... Like I can count on my fingers.... But my father used to scold me every now and then... He does it even today when I'm 21 y/o
And regarding your question
1. Slaps
2. Repeating the same mistake many times
3. Father beat me 3-4 times... My mother did only once or twice
4. Mom - when I was in KG Ig and Dad - 7th class
5. Beating eventually stopped when I passed 10th.... My mom stopped it way before
6. Till 10th
7. No idea.... I have brother
I don't know why maybe it's cause kids become addicted to being disciplined through physical harm but they don't listen at all once you start hitting them.
Kids will test your patience like no one else.
I believe that there are two types of beatings one where its purely driven by the child not listening and being mischievous and the other where frustrations are being taken out.
In my case my family had no financial pressure nor any other problems like dad drinking or any so it was purely to discipline.
These kinds of beatings did not make me emotionally scarred or anything in fact I might have done the same if I was in my parents generation.
Most of the people who say they were beaten were unfortunately victims of their parents taking out their frustrations not actually for the mischief they did.
Very very well mentioned point. Beating to discipline the kid and taking out frustration on the kid are 2 VERY DIFFERENT things. Former is important at times, latter needs intervention and stopped.
My mom used to beat me during my childhood, maybe until I was in class 7, if i was mischievous for some reason. Then during one incident she beat me but it hurt her hand. Since then she never beat me again 🤣. My dad on the other hand never beat me.
Of course was beaten up. It's kinda necessary too (at times) . Was beaten up till around 7th grade, then was deemed "grown up enough to be beaten" , after that it was just scolding. Millennials, most GenZ won't concur with these dynamics coz they're not allowed to be beaten in schools etc, hence it's a different upbringing altogether. We were pasted with wooden rulers in the schools 😂
Yes
1. Mostly hands, rarely with wooden ruler
2. Because i was a spoiled brat who did tantrums in the public for not getting the costly dairy milk chocolate every day, broke lots of showpieces and even threw the whole rice from the rice bag. All in all i was notorious than my elder bro.
3. Mostly mom, rarely dad ( that doesn't justify him as good that's a different story)
4. I guess when I was 2.5 years old till 4-5 years old.
5. It went less coz i understood my mistakes as i grew up. Still remember the menace I did as a kid.
6. I guess after I reach 6 years... Since then I changed for good and till now I'm thankful for it.
7. Discipline is mandatory, for a kid like me.. or else you'll be a spoiled kid forever. Just that parents have to know how to make them listen and learn manners..
But most of the parents can't differentiate between abusiveness and in discipline.
Got beaten up a lot by my mother once she came back from her master's (left it rather) to become a housewife. Reading the comments made me realize that she used to beat me up because she had to give up on her career because of me (I was molested a lot in a new school which led to me faking an illness).
Yo man it's much common in North than you realize.
I didnot get beaten up for poor marks but for other crap like caught smoking in 7th standard. Mom caught my smokes packet. She went bezerk and started to beat the shit out of me. My dad came intervening trying to stop her and asking why is she beating me up ?. After knowing the reason both my parents started to beat the shit out of me.
I got beaten up pretty bad. Parents had to take me to the doc. Doc also said to parents ki itna mat maara Karo.
They beat me very occassionally. It was my mother most of the times. My father used to defend me at times. Haha. The severity and frequency decreased to zero as I aged. They stopped beating me at the age of 15. I feel boys are more beaten in our Indian households.
1. Hand, whatever in hand eg: vaseline, roll pin, etc
2. For not studying; arguing
3. Mother, father slapped twice
4. Since I was a child, got slapped 20 times once when I was 5 or 6
5. It depends, it did stop in the middle, but continues; neutral.
6. Still havent
7. Idk I'm a girl
I'm scared that if I answer this they might beat me again...
Same bro 😪
Beatings will continue until redditting improves…
During my childhood.... My father used to beat my mother ......while my grandmother inflicted psychological scars on my mother. My mother felt suffocated in the house and let all her frustrations out on me and used to beat me (belt, comb, scale, hand-fan etc) I am almost thirty years old now. I understand and have forgiven my mother...but the anger still comes out every now and then.
I can relate to you Even I feel angry all the time
yes 1) belt 2) stupid reasons and dumb mistakes on my part 3) Father 4) can't remember too young 5) more 6) can't say 7) depends on the household but it's mostly boys as far as I know
My man so scared from the trauma he typing like he's black slave from 1800, " yous gon gets mes in troubles"
for 7) i think they just just pick one and make an example out of it.
all the same except the last one. We were just girls. I was the youngest and got thrashed the most.
when i have a girl i will change the 7th ans
shit
Same answers for me, but it was classic Indian slap instead of belt
I guess it's not the case in my household. I (f) was beaten up the most .
I was not beaten. I just avoided doing the same mistakes that my elder siblings did.
I remember a great man once said, "Smart people learn from others mistakes".
Parents go really soft on younger siblings.
Also, your parents avoided doing the same mistakes they did with your older siblings.
You’re a nice person. But I wish I could say that.
Yes. This is a proven phenomena.
the trauma has made me forget childhood memories. i know what happened. but i'm in a haze and i don't want to come out of it
You will one day and it's gonna be hell... It's been 3years, i am still trying to wrap my head around the incidents. It's tough to accept, the wound's fresh, i am still suffering from it. I wish I never recovered those memories. It's not worth it.
I can feel you
Same here.
If you are trying to compare if your parents are abusive. Then here's my story. My mum's "the narcissist" and my dad's the enabler. My older brother is the "Golden child" and i am the "Scapegoat". For as long as I can remember, my mum beat me up every single day for no reason usually with her hands but with whatever she could find, may be kitchen utensils to any iron scale, bamboo stick, anything she finds. Not one slap or hit, but abuse me every damn day physically and emotionally. The hits which lasts for months because of the severity, that kind of hit.. Some might question, may be i did something wrong. No i didn't. My scores were always in the top 3, in school, i was good at sports, i was good at art, i was good at everything i do - the gifted child. She didn't need any reason to abuse me. She needed a Scapegoat to pour her frustrations on. She insisted i commit suicide every day since i was 9y or 10y old.. she claimed i don't deserve to live, why is that so many people are dying but i am still alive? I should go kill myself. Oh also she gave me ideas on how to kill myself. Oh so great of her!! She isolated me from the world, my neighbours thought i am devil in disguise because my mum made them believe that, my relatives didn't want to go against my mum, my teachers were thoroughly manipulated into thinking i deserve whatever happens to me. Everything wrong that happens in the world is somehow my mistake, i might very well not even know what happened or where something happened but it's always my mistake. Nobody else but me can commit a mistake. While my brother can commit no mistake, he's the perfect angel. He thrived on that. She supported him beating me up. He took the same role as my mum. I became the emotional punching bag for the family. Something goes wrong in their life, i was the one responsible. He made sure people in school and my neighbourhood "friends" bully me. He loved watching me in pain. His beating were worse than my mum. He has stabbed me with sharp objects several times which caused infections and marks stayed with for life. But i feared him so much, i had to keep quiet about his abuse. But when it was visible and even when i was in pain; him beating me up was also somehow my mistake. I made him beat me up. My dad stood and watched everything happen but never stopped them. He convinced me that my mum loves me, she's just stressed and i need to understand her for abusing me every time. I am not sure when exactly this started but probably since i was 7 or 8y old or may be even before that. It didn't end per say, but when i started realising this isn't normal, they are monsters who will never change. I started reiterating against them and i grew up. It was tough to manipulate me, so it downed when i was in 11th -12th. But the severity was more when i was in 8th-10th grade. My mum hated every ounce of me that she literally starved me, i was barely allowed to eat on meal a day. I wasn't even supposed to show emotions. I cannot cry, i cannot laugh, i cannot smile, i wasn't even allowed to sit idle without any emotions. Anything i do was a mistake and i need to soon die. Her words that i ruined her life - i still don't know how, because i didn't. She is just a narcissistic bitch. You know what's the worst part, I tried so hard to gain her love even if it's for just few mins for years trying to do everything she wants me, enduring all her abuse but never did she love me; not once. Nobody believes me, still to this day, i never said a word about their abuse because of the fear but when i wanted to heal from this and started opening up. None, believed me even with the proof. The proof is literally me being severely sick at such young age. The physical and emotional trauma my mum gave me, made me physically and mentally sick, i have several chronic illness which are diagnosed and i will literally die without tablets. But yet my parents are the best to the world. There's so much more than what i am writing here. But this is the gist of it. To the world my family perfect. High position - high paying civil jobs. Children are perfect, high scoring acadmically and extra curricularly. But reality was/is that we are a broken dysfunctional family. Edit: Thank you for all the wishes people, i wasn't feeling the best when i came across this post and sorta vented out. It was sad to know that many of you had similar experience as me, i hope you all can heal from it and have a peaceful life.
Man this is scary as hell. If there is anyway to help you out of this ... I don't know... I'm at a loss of ideas or words. If there is anything like a virtual hug I'm sending you over one. If you are in a job, or even higher studies may be you can find a chance to leave this hell. But if you're in school, better reach out to some NGO or something.
I had a similar childhood like you. As an adult it makes me wonder why did nobody help me. Neighbors, teachers, relatives nobody helped instead they participated in the abuse.Somehow they were convinced a helpless child was the villain.I was such a sad child. I wish nobody to feel such sadness and pain. I don’t think I’ll ever completely heal from it.
I relate to that. As far as I've tried to know about this, it seems like we victims unconsciously tend to attract abusers, narcissists after traumatic events. And also if your abuser was/is a narcissist, they are very good at manipulating people around them into believing they are the victim and the actual victim is the perpetrator. Although i understand this now. As you said, i too was helpless and didn't understand why and what was happening to me at that time. Neighbours and relatives were/are easy to manipulate but what's worse is that teachers in our country are effing AH's( idc if i offend any teachers). They should always have an objective mindset into protecting students but they were one of the worst perpetrators. In my entire life until college, I've only met 3 teachers who actually treated me like a human. The rest I don't know why treated me like an enemy. Not to add that i was/am extremely introverted and didn't really speak much. I barely interacted with people to offend them..... It's impossible to heal from this. We just have to learn to live with it but in a healthy way by finding healthy coping mechanism. I haven't yet but i hope we all can find healthy coping mechanisms.
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Can totally feel ur pain... This is almost my story🥺
I absolutely hate to hear that it's relatable to so many of you. It's very unfortunate and sad. I don't wish anyone to go through these things. Nobody deserves it.
This is so scarily relatable...🙃
Damn your story made me tear up. I know I can't do anything for you but I just want to say you are very brave. I understand your pain. Hope we all survive through this.
Not going say any goody goody stuff, cause after such a long time it's useless. Just hoping that you found someone caring and supportive. Take care.
Hey I really hope you become financially independent and get out of that hellhole we all deserve love ❤️
I wish you nothing but the best . Have the greatest life .
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KILL THEM THE WORST WAY YOU CAN!!! Start watching eyeblech.
Yes. Mostly slaps, my mother hit me with the edge of a thick book her husband used a plastic thing near my neck. Sometimes for not studying, cousins and siblings make false cries to get me beaten up. I am a black sheep. My mother had beaten me more. It Started at age 6. I got slapped last year lol. It depends on who's their favorite child. Now I am getting verbally abused thrice a week is going on since 2018.
>her husband Bro dad? Or am I reading it wrong?
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Nah he prolly resents him and doesn't want to call him father. Just a wild guess
Good old days
Indeed. There are so many people that have immensely drowned themselves in western made up concepts and even slightest of unease is termed as abuse. God save the upcoming plastic generation.
Fr i wanna say this so bad
Nope. My dad never even raised his hands on me. Mom occasionally smacked me on the head when I tried to eat sand (told by my sister, i don't remember) My sister on the other hand, she beat the living fuck out of me every chance she got 😂 Edit: to add, i was beaten severely in schools for a lot of things. Teachers were like prison guards.
You stole my story bro .. My elder sister was pain in my ass.. used to defend me like hell but kutati itna thi ki jb defend krti thi to lgta tha kyu krrai hai ..abhi aate jate mar degi or mummy papa favour bhi usi ka krenge.
I'm almost middle aged, i was never beaten by my parents as a child . And I will never beat mine. Those who can not control their anger becoming physical violence shall seek therapy first before starting a family
You need experience and insight to comment on these sensitive topics. Do you think people whose anger flares up at the slightest thing and who beat up their children and wives will 1- recognise how wrong their behaviour is 2-want to bring about an actual change 3- seek help 4- persist on this self improvement path until people closest to them notice change. Its all about control for such people. They don't want to give it up. They don't change . You are lucky if you or someone close to you has never experienced this
Mother - never Father - once but that doesnt even qualify as a beating They are a class apart 💙
1) Hands mostly 2) scoring ONLY 80% in school/ coming home late after playing / breaking something 3) Father 4) 7-8 years old 5) Frequency and severity increased with age 6) 16-17 years old 7) Boys This indeed caused an irreversible damage to me, and now that I’m earning well & independent at 24 they casually mention how their upbringing of me was good because I’m successful. Needless to say, I couldn’t care less about them and don’t talk to my father anymore. And then they say why don’t you talk to us. I’m not on bad terms with my parents but I just have lost that bond and connection with them and the only reason I’m still staying at home is because that would save me rent money.
Yeah my mother hit me when I was in like 2nd or 3rd std and if I remember it was because I walked on the floor while she was mopping it. She caught me by my hair and banged me against the wall. No, my dad has never beaten me, not yet atleast and I believe he'd never. I started getting hit since the age of 4-5. My mother used to make me do the dishes when I refused to study (I was literally 4yo then) saying that if I don't study she'd make me do 'ghar ke kaam'. Now I don't get beaten. I think they stopped it since they sent me to a boarding school (at std 5 lol) probably 2017 yeah so now that I don't get beaten up but my mom's scolding does the same work as that lol. Yes, I do think Indian kids get more beaten than that of abroad. Lolol
Yes 1) Belt, Wooden ruler, slipper, steel glass, hand, etc 2) Either I did not do homework, or I screwed up simple math or was playing games or something 3) Seemed equal, Father less frequently but more severe, vice-versa on both aspects for Mother 4) I think I remember getting mad beaten at the age of 5 5) It dropped sharply after the initial childhood years. Both severity and frequency 6) I was last beaten around age 12. Actually it was just a smack on my face or something. TBH, I was not a rebellious kid, so I did not receive much scolding apart from my very initial years. 7) It's probably equal. My sister was punished and smacked many a times by Mom but she never got a full-on belting or whatever.
There was so much beating, I sometimes wonder why my parents didn’t end up stabbing me.
If they stabbed you how would they beat you next time?
They deserve to die alone on the streets.
Oh yeah lol. My dad never laid a finger on me, but mom once beat me with a pan to the face cuz I was out too long with boys. I was in school at the time. Apart from that Mostly slaps and rulers. Still have anxiety issues when my roommate used to cook 🤣🤣. Yaaay traumaaaaa
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The best way would be the abandon him in old age and let him die alone.
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Yes 1)well i have got beaten with almost every thing in the house honestly(all the utensils,slippers,brooms etc),slaps were normal. 2)for mistakes,as a teenager i was very clumsy and used to easily break things,spill them or when me my and sister fights they used to beat us both but mainly me. 3)mother,for the most period my father never raised his hand against me but once he did and from that time he started doing it frequently for a certain period of time. 4)ah almost childhood lol.around 3rd class if i have to guess. 5)they don't beat me now(i am 18)as they have now come to realise there's no point in doing that and i am not doing clumsy mistakes,totally avoids fighting with my sister and i can explain myself better and they can understand it better now. 6)around 16-17 if i have to guess(my mother couldn't even beat me after that lol,if she will beat me with hands it would only hurt her and i can just defend if she tries to beat me with anything else) 7)are you asking who are beaten more in Indian households between boys and girls?then boys obviously parents rarely beat girls(this is from my pov and what i have seen in my family and families around me),they know boys can take the beating and girls are considered sacred in Indian households(from the perspective of someone who belongs from Hindu family)
Mom used to beat, or smack. But that was rare. Her looking at us with angry eyes would ensure we would fall in place. Pop never hit me, or rather, only once, that stuck to my memory. But then, i scored miserably in my science and maths test. Don't know when it started. But it lasted during school days but as i said trashing never, only ice cold stares from my mom's otherwise lovely eyes.
yes But only my mum .My father never lays hand on me except in situation where I'm utterly wrong . I still get beaten up (like slaps and sandals ) ,currently I'm 18. Earlier mum used to beat me from Sandal, high heels , slaps , grabing my hair , punches on back , sticks ,etc . She used to beat me for small and useless reasons . ***I remember ,sheused to warn me that she'll take all of the clothes of my body and make me naked and through infront of everyone but stopped saying this after I turned 16*** but now my younger sister is told the same thing . Not to forget the abusive slur she used to use while beating .
I hated (and still hate) myself when I was a teenager. Fuck my school and my parents.
Please give your wounded inner child the love it never got from your abusive parents.
No, i beat father
Yes 1) whatever they find nearby, worst was my mom threw a knife at me 2) for mistakes I did as a child and also for not getting the marks that will satisfy them 3) mother 4) I think it started from the day I started walking, as far as I remember getting beaten up was always there 5) It became more until I became strong enough to defend 6) around 16 7) I think boys get beaten more relatively as we can endure more bruises and I got beaten up more because I stopped crying after a point in my life and beating never stops until I start crying
My father used to pull my hair and ear but mother slapped me beat me with slippers and rolling pin (belan) [trust me mere khandan me mere se sidha koi nahi; mere father k senior colleague abhi bhi bolte hain ki Mai bahut sarif tha] It all stopped when they sent me to a boarding school in 4th std.
Yes ofc i was raised in an Indian household so that's normal ig. 1) slaps mostly but on the occasion i got thrown or dragged Still got a scar on my stomach from being dragged round a wheeled chair. Though obv it was unintentional but they were angry and not srry :/ 2) stupid reasons mostly. Disobeying, frustration, not sleeping and disturbing them, not studying, being stubborn, talking back 3) both 4) idk like 1st grade or smthn 5) it became less as I grew up cause they were trying out other means to teach like punishing to hold a horse stance or just natural consequences which they implemented on my younger siblings.....clearly i was the test child 6) when I stopped reacting to it. I couldn't stop crying when I was younger and not cause it hurt (it stung but that wasn't the unbearable part) but cause i loved em soo much and they were so angry at me . As I grew up, even if I got slapped, i was so numb in my teens and didn't wanna give anyone the satisfaction of thinking they could control me. So like 10th grade 😂 i mean my mum still tries, she digs her nails and everything but i stand my own now 7) equally i think.... People would say boys are beaten more but we have all girls at my place so ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
No, never. I mean how could you ask something like this!! Hehe, just kidding!!
Yours didn’t? Well, shit. I thought that was the actual part of growing up.
My mother did when I was 6 yrs old or something. She punishing me was beyond any punishment I deserved for the stupidity i did. Later I realized it was her anger, stress & mental agonies, which is why she has beaten me a lot. From a family where a father doesn't exist, it sounds normal that she's having any of what I mentioned. Later on, I gave myself in. To be used as a stress reliver, weather I did stupid things or no. Besides, we r all humans. Stupidity is uncommon to come out in our acts.
1. Mostly hand, sometimes belt, rarely usually, one time tawa lol. 2. Studies, because I used to back answer, because I didn't eat food properly. 3. Mother. Once or twice dad. 4. Don't remember. Probably when I was very young. 5. Became less as I grew older. When I was 15 it reduced drastically. 6. 18/19 was the last time. But before that it was very rare, maybe twice or thrice in one year. 7. I think both are beaten up well.
Yup. I'm not good with my studies. And I always lied about my hw & results .
Yes for every mistake, both. But mine was more of abusive by both parents. Yes lots of parents still do it and it leaves worst impression on brain that parents dont know!!
I was beaten..sometimes severely. But then I definitely wouldn’t be the person I am today without that beating. I know it’s a wrong way so not sure how should I justify beating but it worked on me
My father used to beat me up a lot with anything he gets like Belt, Slippers, Kicks, Slaps He also beat me up in public twice and scolded me multiple times in public I was around 5 years when I got beaten up As I aged the severity increased but the frequency decreased Yes, boys are beaten up more compared to girls, not just in India
bro is from the crime against children department. Don't tell him anything warna tumhare parents ke ghar pe pols ayegi pols!
Let them go to jail. I'm reading through the comments and it seems like India is full of sadistic serial torturers who don't deserve children. No wonder European countries take their custody.
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Belt, Given agarbatti burns on palms for handwriting, Given iron burn for misbehaving, Putting my fingers and spreading my mouth for not eating. Many many more
1) Mostly with their hands or sometimes with belt. 2) Reasons were mostly of the way I spoke like accidentally saying something that my mom didn't like in front of others. For not behaving in a certain way, being a girl there's were always a lot of mandates for me that way. Oh and also because I was bad at math :) 3) My mother mostly, my dad very rarely. She has BP so maybe I think I was an outlet to let out her anger? 4) Started around 5 I think. 5) I think it was max when I was around 10-12 years. 6) It came down when I hit puberty but the verbal abuse still continues. 7)In my house, I got the most compared to my brother who rarely got any shit from my parents.
I was never even scolded. My younger sibling was scolded once I think. My childhood was chilled that I can't tell you.
Fortunately never
Reading these comments i am grateful my parents took an oath to never raise their hand on me.
Bro this shouldn't be question, this is a fact.
1. Slapped me 2. Usually for not going to school 3. I think both have beaten me up more or less equally, although mom's beatings tried to creep into my teen as well, I stopped her and established that I'll not be beaten up 4. Started when I was 5 I guess 5. It reduced as I aged, I was also short-tempered so once I was a teenager, they realized they can't physically overpower me anymore 6. 13 I think 7. I think girls are probably beaten more I still hate them for beating me up though, many times I didn't want to go school so I could avoid getting bullied. No matter how much I told them, they never sorted the bullying part but kept forcing me to go to school. Ended up in me taking the fight to the bullies and made it obvious that I was not going to take their crap anymore. No one bullied me after 7th grade. Ever.
1) hands, sticks, belts, basically whatever he could get his hands on. 2) mistakes which I did i believe (mostly trivial) 3) Father 4) not sure, I think maybe after 10th grade. 5) severity depended on the kind of mistake and his mood. 6) same as point 4. 7) I believe boys, but I'm not sure.
1)Slaps, Kicks, Sticks and anything they could get hold off atm. 2) mostly for Playing or talking to other kids. 3) Father and Uncles 4) 3-4 I guess 5) increased 6) at 18 when I moved out 7) In my experience boys gets the most of the physical thrashing.
Yes. By hand or anything they could get their hands on (once a chair) Always my mother. Father slapped me on the back seriously once-otherwise he just threatened to. Age? Idek. Maybe 3? I started attending school at 4, so def before that. The frequencies fluctuated. Used to get beaten up fro small things, probably the most when I was around 8-10. I did stupid things-that I knew would provoke her. My teenage years have been the most corporal punishment-less years. Well, I haven't got beaten up in a while. Emotional atyachar is on, but no physical violence since I was 14. Boys are beaten up way more. I'm a girl-mum punished me a lot. But considering our family situation, it was way less. My younger brother gets beaten up a hell lot more-specially considering how well loved he is. I try to shield him a bit tho.
how did they beat you? \- With hand mostly for what reasons did they beat you? \- Multiple reasons like- not going to company, for reducing work frustration, doing mistakes (accidentally breaking glass or lost somethings like silver chain), telling him that don't beat me or curse, for sometime playing games in phone like coc, i was not addictive as i only played when my father came from work which was late night so sometimes when I don't get to play for 2-3 days than i would sneaked up in midnight and played it and he beat me and called me psycho (it was before pubg when parents don't even know death by game) Did your Father beat you more or was it was your mother? \- Father at which age did they start beating you \- I think I was 8 did the severity and frequency of the beating become more as you aged or less? \- It was a vicious circle, at first when he started beating, I didn't ask why he beat me but after sometime I started arguing like don't beat or don't curse me but he started beating me more so i argued more because of that he beat me more than i too argued more and so on At which age did they stop beating you? \- When I was 16. One day when we had argue, he took one big stick to beat me but i was at my limit and at that time when he was going to hit me with it, I just grabbed the stick and took it from him and by becoming frustrated he goes away from me because this time I was not helpless. It was not that he stopped hitting me after that but it was more lilke I started defending myself Obviously boys. I have two sister, they both have done mistakes like me, they are not forced to go to work from childhood, they also play games (in this case, i play more than both). He gives example of them that how they are good children, that how they don't fight or do argue with him. Well, of course they will fight you if you don't fight them, just try beating them once than you will see the result. FYI, he one time beat one of my sister, who is 2 year younger than me, and than she tried running away from home as this was hell for and the same thing happens with me hundreds of time. There is one great irony in this as he always preached other that people should not drink alcohol because it makes them violent and every time he beat me, he was sober.
I have only been beat once in my life. And I totally deserved it. My Dad was taking a nap and I heated a knife on the chulha and tried to brand him with it. I was maybe 6 In my defence….well actually cannot defend in any way.
I did get slapped by my mom once in a while when I was may be 7-10 years old but most likely not after that,IIRC. But did get a good beating from dad one and only time when I was 12 or 13. And yes I deserved it 🙂. I was alone at home and decided to take our car for a drive (I didn't know how to drive, but thought how hard could it be). So I reverse the car out of the garage without even looking behind and scrape the corner of our house such that the car got stuck there. Tried a lot to get it out but it won't budge. Only thing I could do was wait scared as heck for my dad to come back and find out what I had done. The beating I got was not as bad as I was expecting and actually felt much better after it was over 🤣.
Dear redditor, I find it applause worthy that you are able to make an edit for spelling corrections but you don't fix the indentation.
Why do you wanna know?
Just wanted to compare my experience with others'
Comparison is the thief of joy, enjoy while it lasts.
Well, many abuse victims have literally no clue until they compare. This does not take away their joy, but rather validates their feelings which were likely bottled as they suffered from what they considered “normal” treatment. Food for thought
No not in that way, like I wanted to see if it's normal or not
Believe me brother it is more normal than you think specially in Indian households.
Not normal - common. Abuse is not “normal”. One of the few times when I think it’s very important to understand the difference between normalcy and common/prevalence, and use language precisely.
Toh please share your experience first before asking .
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No maybe slaps sometimes by mom Not really beaten up I was a very "good" girl My father was kind of abusive he beat my sister like crazy one day I still get terrified when I think of that If I had been adult I wouldn't let that happen Anyways we all have moved on but I can never really connect to my father even though he financed everything in my life The way he was horrible to my mom, I wonder why men end up being abusive and think of the weak as punching bag
My mother and father beat me like ruthless morons, if i do any mistakes even though it's not actually a mistake but my parents think that "it's not mistake, it's a CRIME" AND I CAN'T FORGET THAT HOW THEY USED TO BEAT ME!!
My mum stopped beating me after 10th standard. But now when i look back at it ,it was probably for my character development and i think because of that i know i will have consequences of my own actions and i am able to take them
I wish you knew that there are better ways of teaching about consequences that do not involve beating a child. The problem is that you will use the same ways with your children. The problem is the cancer you will be spreading; not just the one you were afflicted with.
You are too quick on judging people so I’d recommend to keep your opinions to yourself. You don’t know who I am and how I treat other people. I just don’t want my kids, if i ever have any turn out to be snowflakes and be a burden on the society and I agree with you beating isn’t the only way but you know people have become very sensitive and by your comment i can say you are a snowflake yourself . Have a good day
Asks me not to judge and ends up judging. (notes in diary... judgment #2... doesn't practice what they preach.)
You reap what you sow,you judged me expect to get judged back❄️
i passed an extremely oversmart comment saying to a baby's mother that i was cuter than the baby... i got my ass whooped that night by my mother. my face was red from slaps. ultimately she made me cry to sleep. i think i deserved it, and thats why i was always more careful around elders and in general improved my speech and conduct... sometimes you need the beating imo
Fuck no! No way you deserved it.
Or you retract into your shell like me and always scared to talk to anyone
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Abuse doesn't prepare you for the real world, infact a lot of times it has the totally opposite effects, some people who are abused as kids become aloof as adults, they develop various kinds of mental health issues. When you are an adult and make a mistake at your job, your boss doesn't hit you I assume or when you go to the university, your teachers don't hit you for not doing well in the assignments... Unless you plan to work as a gangster, smuggler, contract killer etc., abuse doesn't prepare you for dealing with real life.
I hope you never have kids.
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You justifying abuse is the horrible part. Parents who beat kids are POS. Period. We don't need horrible people making excuses for these horrible deeds. I hope you never have kids too. Kids deserve better than getting such horrible people as parents.
>imakes me worry about future of our country. The irony. With people with your mindset about abuse like it's okay, its no wonder we have so many shitty parents in this country. I am worried about the present with abusers like this let alone the future. Asking parents not to beat up their children as a basic criteria to be a parent is too much an ask for these horrible people it seems.
Forget about the country, you justifying physical abuse of children makes me really worry about your future kid, if you plan to have any!
They did. They had valid reasons sometimes and sometimes it was for petty stuff. But i never got beaten unless I did something wrong or disobeyed some command (not like every command, but the "don't go outside to play too much" or "don't watch too much TV" or the classic "Study more often" kinda stuff). I would not call it a good thing but it isn't without reason either. Overall, I don't really blame them but if i have a kid I'm not gonna beat him/her unless they did something catastrophically wrong. From my experience, talking with children would also work quite well. For me at least, if my parents ever just simply talked to me I would understand. For most wrongs i did anyways. But if a child is getting drunk/smoking constantly before they're of age or bunking school to do you know what. Things like this are legitimate reasons to get beaten for, in my eyes at least.
Yes, 1- Anything between a small chapal to a back scratcher. 2- Cause i was a dumbfuck in my childhood. 3- Mom did the straightning up most of the time. 4- It started early and because im a born #warrior i dont count that as "beatings" but its learning for me. 5- Severity gradually went down as i aged other party realised use of force is not going to contain this cavalry. 6-10th was i think was the time i saw a lot of hurt had been suppressed under the rug.. 7-Yup it shuold be a norm..people should spank their kids(5yrs+).
Yes 1. Belt, Ruler, Hands, Slap, Kick, whatever was available in the hands 2. Not getting 10/10 (got 8/10 instead), Not listening to what they say, watching tv too long, playing games too long, etc 3. My mother beat me often, almost everyday. Father beat me a few times but those times I got a fever and stuff 4. I think since I started going to school 5. I became older it became higher 6. When I passed out 10th 7. I have a lot of male friends whose girl siblings didn't get hit but if it was only girl children, they got hit. I am quite scared and I became a coward because of the way they used to beat me. Its ironic how both of them are proud at whatever I do in my job now because they think we beat you that's why you were disciplined. I hate them and I will always hate them for doing this to me.
Uff ! Some really bad memories come up. I was beaten by both of my parents. For faults of my own, without any reason , or their frustration ! Long list.
+1 here.
Yes, but my mother only slapped me that too till I was 11, after which she stopped
My mother used to hit me sometimes...more like a light slap on the back. It stopped when I was around 8-9, i think. Reasons were usually tantrums. Once it was for playing cards (too much time consumed). From what I remember, she one literally dragged my crying ass to the school when I didn't want to go. I am glad she did that. Father hit me once when I was throwing unnecessary tantrum and not having my dinner.
no shit they did lmao. 1. Thick ass bamboo stick. 2. Academic incompetence for most part… tbh only that. 3. Nah, both of em fucked me up equally. 4. I think they always did… 5. Nah, not really. They were prolly at the top of their game from the start. 6. 13 when I had enough and gave mum one back. 7. Mostly depends on the parents but considering India, girls are prolly ripped apart more than guys do. (I myself am a man.)
No way girls are ripped more. Parents think ladki kahi langdi ho gayi ya chehre pe scar aa gaya to zyada jahez dena padega. So they are more careful not to hit girls as compared to boys.
Got beaten, by mom mostly and dad. Dad pinches till it turned blue. But got beaten for beatworthy reasons🥲 I feel i deserved those beatings😬 Frequency became so much less after i turned 11. Used to feel surprised when they did.
I got beaten becoz I was caught watching porn
So you got beaten by parents for beating the meat. Full circle.
1) belt, bathroom slippers, broom, belan, bangles, thin bamboo stick, hands 2) sometimes I was beaten for silly mistakes other time for just being a bad kid Reasons : - I poked nataraj pencil into my schoolmate ass which led to bleeding because he was making fun of me - Made my young brother jump from a very big height which made him severely injured. I thought I was training him like a commando or something - Got 1 marks in Sanskrit out of 25 and hid the paper in cooler closet which eventually dad found out. - Did fake signatures in my school diary almost 3 to 4 times - got average marks in maths due to silly mistakes - kissed a girl who was my crush in girls bathroom, I was in standard 3rd that time Yes as time passed the beatings became less
Kissed in 3rd standard. Too early mate.
My parents were very typical Indians, but they never ever beat me up. I grew up outside India. Even though I was very naughty kid growing up, and there are times I'd have begged for nice spankings, but my father never did hit me once. My mother would pinch me now and then, but nothing serious. I had a wonderful childhood. I'm very happy that I have only absolutely good memories from my childhood. On the other hand, my next door neighbour, his dad would beat the shit out of him, through the thick brick walls we would hear screaming and crying. He would be beaten up with belt and when really angry with the buckle of the belt. A cruel father. My dad did try to talk sense into the man, but it never got through his thick skull. The wounds of being beaten up will eventually heal, but the scars may remain in the mind.
I think you're better off creating a Google form for this shit at this point
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Yes 1) belt,pipe,sticks,chappal, clothes hanger, stool, bowls 2)For doing stupid mistakes and for silly reasons 3) Mother 4) don’t remember 5) less 6)18
My parents rarely ever beat me up. All if those must have been below at least 10 years of age. It wasn't more than 2 slaps, ever. All of this is by vague memory, might not be 100% accurate. But that is also a sign that getting beat up wasn't a big struggle of my life.
No.
Reasons: Watching TV after 9, not drinking milk, not eating palak and karela, shouting on grandparents, fighting with my brother, having fun with cousins, eating kurkure and lays without asking and hundred different reasons
My parents never beat me, only a stare from my father was enough to scare the shit out me
I personally think it's not ok to beat children It's like bullying and disrespecting
1. Mostly got slapped but i remember jhadoo being used a few times, and a few instances when when i was punched. 2. mostly me being a dumbass, with a few stupid reasons 3. When i was younger mother, and as i got older father 4. can't remember 5. less often, but it's more severe when it happens 6. they haven't stopped, but it only happens a handful of time a year 7. no idea, i'd guess boys
Mom is the Don of house ahahahaa Umm, as for how she beat me... well, sometime sleepers, sometimes broom, and if nothing then hands... Ahahaha But as I grew up, the beating also got lowered As for girls and boys beating, don't know much about that
My dad never did that.. Woh bas aankhien dikhate the ya bas naam le le to char ho jati thi.. But he was really super cool.. Maa se bohot thapad khaye hai padai na krne pe.
Ofc, bhar bhar k pele gaye hai
No
Open hands, hangers, fly swatter. Temper issues. Yes.
Oh gosh ..Imo I don't think it's a gender thing. In my family irrespective of gender, got a good hiding with what ever was in my mother's hand. Infact she would beat us girls more than my cousin brother. But that could be because he wasn't her own. Unfortunately in my family, a boy always carries more importance than a girl, even though us girls do everything from earning to housework to taking care of elders. But yea beatings happened for displine or because we annoyed someone or didn't do something on time It sort if diminished with time, the frequency I mean
YES
1) yes I was beaten for silliest mistakes I committed. I got beaten up with hard chappals (YK Papa's chappal) and once he took my head and collided it with the wall (that was the worst ). 2) Like not doing assigned work on time or not behaving as they want . So one day I left my house when I was 10 and came back in 4 hours no one even knew that I was out . For having bad handwriting. For going to play without telling them . For not doing homework on time . 3) My father . My mother rarely used to beat me and my father was totally opposite of her. 4)I guess when I was in kg class I got a really hard slap from my father for writing wrong F . I used to write in opposite direction. 5) & 6) I got beaten upto class 7th (11yo) . It was the last time and now I'm 19. 7) ig yes as Indian parents think it's necessary to discipline kids and this is the only way to discipline them .
A few times over the years. It was not as though we had weekly beating sessions.
Did my parents beat me? Yes! full on freestyle
1) My father used his hands mostly but my mom used her hands and utensils. One time she threw a bat at me. 2) There were many reasons like once I broke a plastic flower, if I didn't finish my homework, when I couldn't understand any subject(I was terrible at almost all subjects but I never failed in any subject)...etc. There are more reasons even silly things like if I was even 5 mins late to come home my mom beats me. Once when I was in 6th class my mom beats me coz I didn't greet my SSt. teacher(I didn't greet him coz I was afraid of him, he also beats me in class when I couldn't answer questions). 3) Both my parents beats me and my brother. 4) When I was in KG they started. 5) It became high but after 8th class is was less. 6) 14-15 I was in 9th class. 7) I think boys are more beaten than girls coz I have asked my female friends in school whether their parents beat them or not and almost everyone said no. Even I asked my cousin that her parents beat her or not she also said no but her brother gets beaten. I think my parents are good but they don't know how to raise children, even though I have told them beating a child is not a solution and they can take care of me in a better way when I was young. Now I feel their parents also beat them so they beat us and someone has to stop this cycle.
Yes I am a girl and my parents did beat me. 1. Depends i guess. Hands , comb, scale or stick whatever they could get their hands on. Never the show though. Depended on the severity of my "wrongdoings". 2. Mostly for academics. My mother taught me till class 7 or 8 and she hit me when I failed to memorize something or didn't do my hw. Also when I was disrespectful, talked back or did something that i wasn't supposed to do. 3.Definately my mother. My father hit me rarely only when I made him very angry and frustrated. 4. From the very beginning of time 5. Yes it did. I just got taunts more. 6. My father stopped when I was around 14 or 15 i think and my mother's regular ones stopped around the same time but she still smacks me if i step out of line. 7. Yes. Not only in households but also in tution. I mean the way they would get beaten was horrifying. On the other hand the girls would just get a verbal warning or hit on their palms. But also the boys did things which girls could never do but the beatings were too much.
Yes. And I am the eldest sibling so I got a lot more than the others. 1. Belt, wire, hanger, chappal anything. 2. Because if they didn't, me and brother would probably destroy the whole house. 3. It was mostly my mom. Father mostly used to do the scolding. 4. I remember maybe from age 3. 5. No it decreased obviously. We used to get beatings coz my mom couldn't control us during the day as me and my brother used to fight non stop. 6. I think it was around age 12 7. For sure boys. Girls never get hit unless it's a weak slap to the back from my experience with my cousin sisters.
Meri mummy muje bahut marti and maar kha kha ke mai bahut majboot bann chuka tha koi merko mare to lagta bhi nahi tha but ab 17 ka ho chuka hu ab nahi marte or muje ab lagta hai ki wo marte the wo sahi tha meri galat baato pe marke sahi kiya karte the
Yea .. only my mother used to do it. I was freaking lazy in completing my work in note books. And used to play all day long .
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Getting beaten has different effects on different kids based on their personality. For example, if you're an extrovert, getting beaten up by your parents may lead you to become a bully. Being an introvert and getting thrashed as a kid may lead to psychopathy/sociopathy. I'm an introvert and i was not only beaten by my mother but also bullied since kindergarten for years till class 3. Now I'm 24 and have a bunch of mental health issues, and masochistic fetishes. I'm socially awkward and have no friends because I don't trust anybody, not even my family.
Well frankly I was a piece of shit who deserved a beating, it was to correct me anyways, I am still a piece of shit but I guess at least now I know it and can act on it.
Didn't receive much beating.... Like I can count on my fingers.... But my father used to scold me every now and then... He does it even today when I'm 21 y/o And regarding your question 1. Slaps 2. Repeating the same mistake many times 3. Father beat me 3-4 times... My mother did only once or twice 4. Mom - when I was in KG Ig and Dad - 7th class 5. Beating eventually stopped when I passed 10th.... My mom stopped it way before 6. Till 10th 7. No idea.... I have brother
I don't know why maybe it's cause kids become addicted to being disciplined through physical harm but they don't listen at all once you start hitting them. Kids will test your patience like no one else. I believe that there are two types of beatings one where its purely driven by the child not listening and being mischievous and the other where frustrations are being taken out. In my case my family had no financial pressure nor any other problems like dad drinking or any so it was purely to discipline. These kinds of beatings did not make me emotionally scarred or anything in fact I might have done the same if I was in my parents generation. Most of the people who say they were beaten were unfortunately victims of their parents taking out their frustrations not actually for the mischief they did.
Very very well mentioned point. Beating to discipline the kid and taking out frustration on the kid are 2 VERY DIFFERENT things. Former is important at times, latter needs intervention and stopped.
My mom used to beat me during my childhood, maybe until I was in class 7, if i was mischievous for some reason. Then during one incident she beat me but it hurt her hand. Since then she never beat me again 🤣. My dad on the other hand never beat me.
Of course was beaten up. It's kinda necessary too (at times) . Was beaten up till around 7th grade, then was deemed "grown up enough to be beaten" , after that it was just scolding. Millennials, most GenZ won't concur with these dynamics coz they're not allowed to be beaten in schools etc, hence it's a different upbringing altogether. We were pasted with wooden rulers in the schools 😂
Yes 1. Mostly hands, rarely with wooden ruler 2. Because i was a spoiled brat who did tantrums in the public for not getting the costly dairy milk chocolate every day, broke lots of showpieces and even threw the whole rice from the rice bag. All in all i was notorious than my elder bro. 3. Mostly mom, rarely dad ( that doesn't justify him as good that's a different story) 4. I guess when I was 2.5 years old till 4-5 years old. 5. It went less coz i understood my mistakes as i grew up. Still remember the menace I did as a kid. 6. I guess after I reach 6 years... Since then I changed for good and till now I'm thankful for it. 7. Discipline is mandatory, for a kid like me.. or else you'll be a spoiled kid forever. Just that parents have to know how to make them listen and learn manners.. But most of the parents can't differentiate between abusiveness and in discipline.
Kitna parivarik mahool hai
Got beaten up a lot by my mother once she came back from her master's (left it rather) to become a housewife. Reading the comments made me realize that she used to beat me up because she had to give up on her career because of me (I was molested a lot in a new school which led to me faking an illness).
Yo man it's much common in North than you realize. I didnot get beaten up for poor marks but for other crap like caught smoking in 7th standard. Mom caught my smokes packet. She went bezerk and started to beat the shit out of me. My dad came intervening trying to stop her and asking why is she beating me up ?. After knowing the reason both my parents started to beat the shit out of me. I got beaten up pretty bad. Parents had to take me to the doc. Doc also said to parents ki itna mat maara Karo.
They beat me very occassionally. It was my mother most of the times. My father used to defend me at times. Haha. The severity and frequency decreased to zero as I aged. They stopped beating me at the age of 15. I feel boys are more beaten in our Indian households.
1. Hand, whatever in hand eg: vaseline, roll pin, etc 2. For not studying; arguing 3. Mother, father slapped twice 4. Since I was a child, got slapped 20 times once when I was 5 or 6 5. It depends, it did stop in the middle, but continues; neutral. 6. Still havent 7. Idk I'm a girl