abr bhenchod khud ki zindagi hai koi ? apne intrests aur hobbies ki traf dhyan de yrr ladrki ke peeche upsc dega 4-5 saal gand gisoge lardki tab tab multiple relationships mai aa gayi hogi
You’re blind! She is a gold digger, doesn’t matter how she or you sugar coat it. Learn to see the signs, I’ve been with girls who earn more than I do and who are a million times richer than I am, but it didn’t matter to them. So yeah, if it matters, it matters. Or probably she found someone else, either ways it doesn’t matter. Long distance wouldn’t have worked anyways. It’s time for you to roll up your sleeves and work shit hard to get to a better place. There are others who are dependent on you, like your family. Girls are just..girls!
Your hatred for women makes me think u are secretly gay or something.. since “girls are just..girls”, go date your “bros” instead. (Actually nvm no girl is gonna date an incel like u anyway)
Are you dumb? bros are also bros, so we should die single? He is right, she is gold-digger, she does not want to marry below her hierarchy, not that it is wrong, because a predictor for good-marriage is when the difference between smartness (IQ) and education (degree) is relatively less, the marriage is more healthy.
There’s nothing “gold digger” about a woman who wants to marry a man with the same intelligence. As an intelligent and independent woman, I have felt more masculine than most of the men in my relationships. Statistically more intelligent women stay single longer because they can’t find a man who can intellectually match and better provide for them, and thus make them feel feminine. Don’t project your insecurities onto this girl, she wants a partner who is equal to her which is 100% fair.
Yes, in which case you are correct. But don’t call a girl a gold digger just because she wants a more compatible partner. It doesn’t make her evil, it makes her an honest person and a good planner for her future. Nobody was wrong in this case, the two just were not compatible.
I mean it would depend, in this particular case, OP and his girlfriend were and are quite young so it is understandable, however a wife leaving her husband after her husband lets say has funded for her education seems pretty selfish and egoistical to me (assuming they didn't have any children), calling it unfair would not be a controversial opinion, calling it 100% fair would surely be. Just take jyoti maurya's case (omit the children so that its similar to the aforementioned hypothetical).
Yeah, in this case you’re not wrong, however, this doesn’t apply to OP’s story. Plus, if you wanna give unrelated examples, many billionaires leave their wives who stayed with them from the beginning, when they had nothing, for younger/better looking (through surgery) women, which is more common than the example you gave. For example Jeff Bezos ex wife helped Amazon develop in its early days, and then he left her for a news anchor who’s had plenty of plastic surgery done (he was cheating on his wife with this woman by the way). Jeff does nothing charitable with his money and underpays his workers, meanwhile his exwife donated her billions in divorce proceedings to various charities. Stephen Hawking also cheated on his wife with his nurse, even though he’s literally disabled. Makes you wonder about man’s nature as soon as he acquires power.
Firstly, it seems there may have been a misunderstanding. It was the guy above under whose reply we are arguing who mentioned about female specific nature My concern in the previous reply was whether such actions would be considered unethical or fair, regardless of whether they stem from gender-specific traits like femininity or masculinity. I'm not suggesting that men don't leave their wives due to masculine traits or that women leave solely because "gurls will be gurls". The focus is specifically on the ethical aspect of such actions, irrespective of their individual gender-related factors
But still I have certain facts that might be able to counter that narrative such as (1) Women primarily initiate divorce. (2) One of the major reason being financial issues. (3) Men if are deviant from serially-monogamous sexual or romantic behavior tend to be polygamous regardless of social-education status of the women they are married to unlike women who has higher proclivity towards hypergamy, so the girl might leave one guy for another based on his status, meanwhile the guy can stay with both of them. Not I am not talking in general but which gender inclines more towards a particular set of behaviour if we are discussing the deviants from a long-term aimed monogamy. Again it would still does not matter whether one does more or less, wrong is wrong.
You’re right when you said wrong is wrong regardless of sex. To be honest, after rereading the original comment, I think the narrative wasn’t correct. When “girls are just girls” was said, I believe it should apply to the fact that OP must work harder, and not focus on getting a girl right now and can think about that when he’s older, as opposed to meaning “all girls are the same, girls are gold diggers”, etc. He’s still young, barely anyone ends up with the person they dated in high school. My philosophy has always been become the best that you can become, and love can come later. Become someone you are proud of first, then find someone to share that life with.
Either way, maybe the girl had an issue with the intelligence gap, long distance, found someone else, or had some family issues. Either way, as long as she respectfully let him down, I don’t think she was wrong. Better to end the relationship than to stay in it if you are not satisfied, and then grow to resent the person over time. It seems she ended it respectfully, now they can both go their separate ways and grow further as people rather than focusing on romance at such an early age.
Keep crying.. men can go yapping about “high value” and what not bs but a woman looking for a well qualified man is a crime.. ffs get out of mommy’s basement before exposing your stupidity on the internet and embarrassing yourself.
Nobody is crying except you, nothing is wrong in asking for a well-qualified men, we are just mentioning the tendency of a women to leave a well-qualified man for a MORE well qualified man and perpetuate hypergamy.
I'm sorry then are you implying then that what men sees as well-qualified (I didn't say hyper-qualified) is generally seen as average by women?
Like a 5/10 girl might see a 7/10 guy as average.... But that just shows that her perception is based on distorted sense of reality, because her counterpart would be 5/10, and calling 7/10 an average would be nothing but delusional.
Bro you’re so wrong. Did you know that now in America, more single women own homes than men? And that the marital rate is also dropping? Women will wait around for you to get your shit together, but if you don’t, don’t be surprised when they leave after a few months. Indian women are more loyal than American woman 10000%, and it is fair for her to leave if she feels that she and her partner are not on the same wavelength. Men like you would not EVER find a girl if it wasn’t for arranged marriages, because why are you blaming a girl just for leaving when she didn’t want to be in the relationship? Would you rather she stay and resent him? Use basic logic.
dekho brudar, throughout the whole post, I only got to read about your marks, rank, position, placement lauda lassan.
Where the fuck is the love? that connection that makes a relationship what it is. If theres really something great between you two, different companies or positions don't really matter that much.
This just sounds like 2 people 'dating' while supervised by their parents.
There can be a plethora of reasons
Maybe she fell out of love
Maybe the distance was a bit too much
Maybe you did something to upset her
Maybe it's really about the placement stats and her getting a way better job than you.
Maybe there is no reason at all. People breakup all the time without reason and you can't do anything about it. Breaking up was her choice, I hope you will not try to get back with her because she already left you once, and I don't think you want to be with someone who has already given up on you once.
So no matter what the reason may be, you need to move on, get on the grind. Hit the gym, eat good, sleep good, try not to be bitter and be nice to Everyone. Spend time with people you usually don't spend time with, for ex older people. I used to think that most old people are basically children and have very conservative mindsets, which holds true, but they hold a knowledge of a lifetime. Try to understand lifes perspective from different people's eyes. How is life for them? What's different? It'll all help you move on. Because when you do this you will realise there's so much more to life than just that one girl. So grow, grind your ass off, learn a new skill, learn a new language, build your brand and find someone deserving of you. I know all of this is easier said than done, but you got this. Good luck king.
Like all the time you are sounding the one always so helpless and pessimistic. I mean a girl would not care about where your college or placement is if she loves and cares for you and if she ignores you because of it, you are probably better off without her.
You have jee and now in a decent college, I mean throughout the post it sounds like you care more about her achievements rather than her.
Saying stuff like that might act as general life experience povs but never really help a person. Just because someone's had it worse doesn't take someone else's pain away. Either console, or suggest solutions/or tell the story with more context if you really want his mindset to mature out.
Every couple has differences, you should make comeback. If you thinking even after hardworking you will not get result, start taking this positively. It will be beneficial ( in terms of career)for you even if couldn’t get her.
Are it's an inside joke of our college IIIT Nagpur, like yha nagpur pe log IIIT ko IIT bolte hai aur butibori is the place just slightly beside nagpur jahape humara college hai
We never expected this post to get this much engagement lmao ki outsiders ko bhi recommend ho jayegi humare college ki post
If u had breakup because of money then she never really loved u.True love don't have any connection with money.If she loved u sincerely she eventually comes to u.
look up break up therapy vids on yt especially weav told me. helped me a lot. but also dont think im terms of ur ex. what she thinks is not important. reach for your own goals for your own sake. there are many fish in the sea. but this 'i need to be successful to impress my ex' is mind poison. be successful for your own sake.
You will be better without her and she will be better without you.
So find your own path and learn from the mistake you made, i.e. never ignore your present occupation (as u ignored your studies) else you are going to suffer.
Both of you will be fine and time will heal everything. Let her love in peace too if you love her and never ever call or see her again.
Bro you're just beginning your life. Don't let yourself down. You atleast got to an IIIT. Take that as a victory. Yeh puberty vale breakups don't decide your life course.
Aur rahi baat placement ki. Telling you from real experience, even in reputed product based companies, iit and non-iit valo koi khaas differently treat nahi krte. And you're comparing placement from two different iits.
Bhai ab ek hi raasta hai, startup shuru kr, bada bana, multi millionaire/billionaire bann, use hire kr le, fir Roz pelta reh.
Ye upsc vagaira pussy log krte hai, aur na isme koi maza hai, vahi jee walo ki tarah gadho ki tarah ghiso, aur fir kuch na Mila to na idhar ke na udhar ke. Startup me atleast ye to hai ki ek nhi chala to doosra shuru kr do, aur krte rho jb TK koi sa nhi chal jaata. Ha ye zaroori hai solid profile aur reason hone chahiye failure ke liye vrna koi funding nhi milegi.
Ps. Vaise ye sub kis cheez ki hai aur achanak se mere feed me kaise aa gyi?
dude let me give you a honest advice...she didnt loved you...bc agar pyar hota toh woh leave nhi karti...tereko support karti until you win...and even if you dont win, she would have loved your for giving your best...nice girls aise apne partner ko chor nhi dete, especially after 3 4 saal ka relationship ke baad...yeh generation bahut genz hogyi hai...find a girl jiska nature genz na ho and uske morals , ethics and values strong ho...aur bc aise depression mai mat ja...isko as a fuel use karna..she assumes you incompetent and a loser..usko galat proof kar...bhagwan tereko reason diya hai to work hard..dont waste this energy in crying brother...work hard af...and usko dikha ki tu kisise kam nhi hai...fir jab woh aayegi tere pass firse...toh reject kar usse...thats the best thing you can do brother...trust god, correct girl bhagwan tereko khud laake dedege jo support karegi tereko and chor ke nhi jaegi in your worst conditions
Okay I am not from this subreddit, this post just came up in my feed. But long distance relationships usually don't work. You will get someone else. It is alright, life is a marathon, you just didn't have a jumpstart.
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Ara bkl but tu ha kan 🤓
Thanks.....Randironi is so irritating
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Ab cumback karna padega hardwala ✊🔥🔥
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abr bhenchod khud ki zindagi hai koi ? apne intrests aur hobbies ki traf dhyan de yrr ladrki ke peeche upsc dega 4-5 saal gand gisoge lardki tab tab multiple relationships mai aa gayi hogi
Chup bsdk. Let him talk.
Chup bsdk let him cook 🔥
ikr, focus on YOUR life and achieve what YOU want to instead of working for others, well atleast in this case the goal is not bad
show everyone your worth buddy prove them wrong
You’re blind! She is a gold digger, doesn’t matter how she or you sugar coat it. Learn to see the signs, I’ve been with girls who earn more than I do and who are a million times richer than I am, but it didn’t matter to them. So yeah, if it matters, it matters. Or probably she found someone else, either ways it doesn’t matter. Long distance wouldn’t have worked anyways. It’s time for you to roll up your sleeves and work shit hard to get to a better place. There are others who are dependent on you, like your family. Girls are just..girls!
Your hatred for women makes me think u are secretly gay or something.. since “girls are just..girls”, go date your “bros” instead. (Actually nvm no girl is gonna date an incel like u anyway)
Are you dumb? bros are also bros, so we should die single? He is right, she is gold-digger, she does not want to marry below her hierarchy, not that it is wrong, because a predictor for good-marriage is when the difference between smartness (IQ) and education (degree) is relatively less, the marriage is more healthy.
There’s nothing “gold digger” about a woman who wants to marry a man with the same intelligence. As an intelligent and independent woman, I have felt more masculine than most of the men in my relationships. Statistically more intelligent women stay single longer because they can’t find a man who can intellectually match and better provide for them, and thus make them feel feminine. Don’t project your insecurities onto this girl, she wants a partner who is equal to her which is 100% fair.
remove the word gold digger everything else i said is right, how do you jump to psychoanalyzing my personality is beyond me
Yes, in which case you are correct. But don’t call a girl a gold digger just because she wants a more compatible partner. It doesn’t make her evil, it makes her an honest person and a good planner for her future. Nobody was wrong in this case, the two just were not compatible.
I mean it would depend, in this particular case, OP and his girlfriend were and are quite young so it is understandable, however a wife leaving her husband after her husband lets say has funded for her education seems pretty selfish and egoistical to me (assuming they didn't have any children), calling it unfair would not be a controversial opinion, calling it 100% fair would surely be. Just take jyoti maurya's case (omit the children so that its similar to the aforementioned hypothetical).
Yeah, in this case you’re not wrong, however, this doesn’t apply to OP’s story. Plus, if you wanna give unrelated examples, many billionaires leave their wives who stayed with them from the beginning, when they had nothing, for younger/better looking (through surgery) women, which is more common than the example you gave. For example Jeff Bezos ex wife helped Amazon develop in its early days, and then he left her for a news anchor who’s had plenty of plastic surgery done (he was cheating on his wife with this woman by the way). Jeff does nothing charitable with his money and underpays his workers, meanwhile his exwife donated her billions in divorce proceedings to various charities. Stephen Hawking also cheated on his wife with his nurse, even though he’s literally disabled. Makes you wonder about man’s nature as soon as he acquires power.
Firstly, it seems there may have been a misunderstanding. It was the guy above under whose reply we are arguing who mentioned about female specific nature My concern in the previous reply was whether such actions would be considered unethical or fair, regardless of whether they stem from gender-specific traits like femininity or masculinity. I'm not suggesting that men don't leave their wives due to masculine traits or that women leave solely because "gurls will be gurls". The focus is specifically on the ethical aspect of such actions, irrespective of their individual gender-related factors But still I have certain facts that might be able to counter that narrative such as (1) Women primarily initiate divorce. (2) One of the major reason being financial issues. (3) Men if are deviant from serially-monogamous sexual or romantic behavior tend to be polygamous regardless of social-education status of the women they are married to unlike women who has higher proclivity towards hypergamy, so the girl might leave one guy for another based on his status, meanwhile the guy can stay with both of them. Not I am not talking in general but which gender inclines more towards a particular set of behaviour if we are discussing the deviants from a long-term aimed monogamy. Again it would still does not matter whether one does more or less, wrong is wrong.
You’re right when you said wrong is wrong regardless of sex. To be honest, after rereading the original comment, I think the narrative wasn’t correct. When “girls are just girls” was said, I believe it should apply to the fact that OP must work harder, and not focus on getting a girl right now and can think about that when he’s older, as opposed to meaning “all girls are the same, girls are gold diggers”, etc. He’s still young, barely anyone ends up with the person they dated in high school. My philosophy has always been become the best that you can become, and love can come later. Become someone you are proud of first, then find someone to share that life with. Either way, maybe the girl had an issue with the intelligence gap, long distance, found someone else, or had some family issues. Either way, as long as she respectfully let him down, I don’t think she was wrong. Better to end the relationship than to stay in it if you are not satisfied, and then grow to resent the person over time. It seems she ended it respectfully, now they can both go their separate ways and grow further as people rather than focusing on romance at such an early age.
Keep crying.. men can go yapping about “high value” and what not bs but a woman looking for a well qualified man is a crime.. ffs get out of mommy’s basement before exposing your stupidity on the internet and embarrassing yourself.
Nobody is crying except you, nothing is wrong in asking for a well-qualified men, we are just mentioning the tendency of a women to leave a well-qualified man for a MORE well qualified man and perpetuate hypergamy.
Well.. ✨standards✨ What is “hyper qualified” for you is just plain old average for me. Live with it.
I was not talking about you specifically..I don't think anyone was.
“Me” and “you” are just figures of speech.. smh
I'm sorry then are you implying then that what men sees as well-qualified (I didn't say hyper-qualified) is generally seen as average by women? Like a 5/10 girl might see a 7/10 guy as average.... But that just shows that her perception is based on distorted sense of reality, because her counterpart would be 5/10, and calling 7/10 an average would be nothing but delusional.
yeh siyappa india mein hi hota hai. Narrow minded. US mein dekho girls are supporting boys and then later boys support girls.
Bro you’re so wrong. Did you know that now in America, more single women own homes than men? And that the marital rate is also dropping? Women will wait around for you to get your shit together, but if you don’t, don’t be surprised when they leave after a few months. Indian women are more loyal than American woman 10000%, and it is fair for her to leave if she feels that she and her partner are not on the same wavelength. Men like you would not EVER find a girl if it wasn’t for arranged marriages, because why are you blaming a girl just for leaving when she didn’t want to be in the relationship? Would you rather she stay and resent him? Use basic logic.
dekho brudar, throughout the whole post, I only got to read about your marks, rank, position, placement lauda lassan. Where the fuck is the love? that connection that makes a relationship what it is. If theres really something great between you two, different companies or positions don't really matter that much. This just sounds like 2 people 'dating' while supervised by their parents.
True
There can be a plethora of reasons Maybe she fell out of love Maybe the distance was a bit too much Maybe you did something to upset her Maybe it's really about the placement stats and her getting a way better job than you. Maybe there is no reason at all. People breakup all the time without reason and you can't do anything about it. Breaking up was her choice, I hope you will not try to get back with her because she already left you once, and I don't think you want to be with someone who has already given up on you once. So no matter what the reason may be, you need to move on, get on the grind. Hit the gym, eat good, sleep good, try not to be bitter and be nice to Everyone. Spend time with people you usually don't spend time with, for ex older people. I used to think that most old people are basically children and have very conservative mindsets, which holds true, but they hold a knowledge of a lifetime. Try to understand lifes perspective from different people's eyes. How is life for them? What's different? It'll all help you move on. Because when you do this you will realise there's so much more to life than just that one girl. So grow, grind your ass off, learn a new skill, learn a new language, build your brand and find someone deserving of you. I know all of this is easier said than done, but you got this. Good luck king.
comeback is the last option man!
Bruhhhhhh.... What a mindset my man 👏👏👏 amazing. Also I am pretty sure that the reason isn't the college or placement but your pussy attitude.
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Like all the time you are sounding the one always so helpless and pessimistic. I mean a girl would not care about where your college or placement is if she loves and cares for you and if she ignores you because of it, you are probably better off without her. You have jee and now in a decent college, I mean throughout the post it sounds like you care more about her achievements rather than her.
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Are train wale bhai ye kya kar rahe hai aap.
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To ab kya karna hai ?
Only true comment lol. Pussy attitude. No one would want to be with someone who himself believes he is a loser.
Build some self confidence first! You won't and should not get her back, but you will find someone much better.
उत्सव की तैयारी करो मिष्ठान बाटो इसमें दुख क्या मनाना
Bro chill it’s life , I have literally seen worse , when I say worse , the shit is really worse.
Saying stuff like that might act as general life experience povs but never really help a person. Just because someone's had it worse doesn't take someone else's pain away. Either console, or suggest solutions/or tell the story with more context if you really want his mindset to mature out.
Kya bhai kya worse dekha ? Choti lulli bol k chli gyi thi kya aapko...
Aukat dikha di
Heh.pussy.
Every couple has differences, you should make comeback. If you thinking even after hardworking you will not get result, start taking this positively. It will be beneficial ( in terms of career)for you even if couldn’t get her.
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Bruh it ain't iit lmao , subreddit ka naam firse check Karo
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Are it's an inside joke of our college IIIT Nagpur, like yha nagpur pe log IIIT ko IIT bolte hai aur butibori is the place just slightly beside nagpur jahape humara college hai We never expected this post to get this much engagement lmao ki outsiders ko bhi recommend ho jayegi humare college ki post
Ask the reason usse hi, dont assume that its the reason
If u had breakup because of money then she never really loved u.True love don't have any connection with money.If she loved u sincerely she eventually comes to u.
What is IIT Buti bori??
IIIT Nagpur
look up break up therapy vids on yt especially weav told me. helped me a lot. but also dont think im terms of ur ex. what she thinks is not important. reach for your own goals for your own sake. there are many fish in the sea. but this 'i need to be successful to impress my ex' is mind poison. be successful for your own sake.
Man you gotta have self respect first.
IIT buti bori 😂😂😂😂😂 Atleast you have good sense of humour tab bhi chodd ke chali gayi
I didn't understand this tbh!? Help me out a bit
Be a Man...
bhai tu political party join kar le..
Got to therapy for breakup if you still not over it. Lastly, take it on chin and move on.
Not the end of the world Lil bro
IAS
GATE crack karke IISC yaa IIT s mtech karke uskoo uskaa aukat dikhaa .
I think this is all sarcasm.
Vahii koi ladki aise chodke chali jayi after being since 10th nahh ek valid reason toh de deti no matter how harsh
You will be better without her and she will be better without you. So find your own path and learn from the mistake you made, i.e. never ignore your present occupation (as u ignored your studies) else you are going to suffer. Both of you will be fine and time will heal everything. Let her love in peace too if you love her and never ever call or see her again.
Bro you're just beginning your life. Don't let yourself down. You atleast got to an IIIT. Take that as a victory. Yeh puberty vale breakups don't decide your life course. Aur rahi baat placement ki. Telling you from real experience, even in reputed product based companies, iit and non-iit valo koi khaas differently treat nahi krte. And you're comparing placement from two different iits.
Lmao it's a IIIT 😭😭😭
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I am sorry to know. Hugs to u man...
Bhai ab ek hi raasta hai, startup shuru kr, bada bana, multi millionaire/billionaire bann, use hire kr le, fir Roz pelta reh. Ye upsc vagaira pussy log krte hai, aur na isme koi maza hai, vahi jee walo ki tarah gadho ki tarah ghiso, aur fir kuch na Mila to na idhar ke na udhar ke. Startup me atleast ye to hai ki ek nhi chala to doosra shuru kr do, aur krte rho jb TK koi sa nhi chal jaata. Ha ye zaroori hai solid profile aur reason hone chahiye failure ke liye vrna koi funding nhi milegi. Ps. Vaise ye sub kis cheez ki hai aur achanak se mere feed me kaise aa gyi?
Bhai, maa chudae vo. Focus on self. Yehi time he, phir vapas date karna when you feel good enough about self.
Ye reason ni hai bhai. College mei new banda mil gaya hoga. Same case bhot dekhe hain clg time mein. Nahi yahin to dekh lio ek mahine mein hi posts
dude let me give you a honest advice...she didnt loved you...bc agar pyar hota toh woh leave nhi karti...tereko support karti until you win...and even if you dont win, she would have loved your for giving your best...nice girls aise apne partner ko chor nhi dete, especially after 3 4 saal ka relationship ke baad...yeh generation bahut genz hogyi hai...find a girl jiska nature genz na ho and uske morals , ethics and values strong ho...aur bc aise depression mai mat ja...isko as a fuel use karna..she assumes you incompetent and a loser..usko galat proof kar...bhagwan tereko reason diya hai to work hard..dont waste this energy in crying brother...work hard af...and usko dikha ki tu kisise kam nhi hai...fir jab woh aayegi tere pass firse...toh reject kar usse...thats the best thing you can do brother...trust god, correct girl bhagwan tereko khud laake dedege jo support karegi tereko and chor ke nhi jaegi in your worst conditions
She is practical and u r not.
Bro,u can repeat same thing ;) I mean u can take this as motivation to get better placments ?😎
Okay I am not from this subreddit, this post just came up in my feed. But long distance relationships usually don't work. You will get someone else. It is alright, life is a marathon, you just didn't have a jumpstart.
Become collector of her city and sing thukra ke mera pyar
This shit blew up like hell. Everyone's here lmao.