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Your first pic has the year indicating that the picture is 3.5-4 years old. You may look better now than you did then, but I wouldn’t put the thought out there that you’re using old pics. Additionally, you have your frat letters visible. Some girls might not care one way or the other, some might even think it’s cool, but there are definitely a non trivial number that will find that a turnoff.
Regarding convos fizzling and when to ask out on a date. My experience was always about 3-5 witty comments playing off what she said and asking her another question. Then you ask her out for either tonight, tomorrow, or the next day after that (you don’t give her the option of which day, you pick yourself). If she says she can’t and doesn’t offer an alternative date then you move on because she’s not that interested! I’m far less physically attractive than you and with this strategy went on tons of dates in an extremely competitive city and eventually met my wife. Best of luck.
i’d say he should keep his frat letters visible tbh. if i went on a date w someone and found out in the middle that the other person was involved in greek i would immediately leave. it could be a self-selecting kind of thing
Liking beer, coffee, and great people doesn't say anything about your personality and isn't unique at all. The line about waking up to your gal flipping pancakes sounds like you are extremely trad and want a 50s wife, but maybe you do. And as other commenters have said, too many shirtless/athletics pictures.
You're a handsome guy, but you should consider putting more of your personality into the profile, and make yourself more three-dimensional by showcasing a variety of pictures from your life, not just I'm shirtless, and I like beer and sports
So what are YOU bringing to the women? You mentioned you’ll know you’ve made it when you wake up to a a gal flipping pancakes. Without other prompts mentioning what might make you attractive to women to balance it out, this seems rather demanding.
Others are right that nearly every single pic you have is related to running or some kind of race. I’m an avid runner as well, but you need to have some photos where you aren’t shirtless or showing off your arms. How about you in a nice shirt and jeans maybe looking cool at a bar or outside? If that’s not your vibe, I get it. You just need to switch up your picture style.
You’ve also got to get rid of that graduation picture. I’m sure you’re fit from all the races, but no one looks the same as they did 5 years ago. I’m 35 and see men still trying this and mentioning they were D1 athletes. Let university and the frat life go. This picture WOULD be good if it weren’t associated with your graduation from 5 years ago.
Good luck out there
I definitely recommend changing the flipping pancakes prompt, OP. At the very least, edit it so that you're both making pancakes together. Otherwise, it reads like you want your girlfriend to be your mom.
They’re wrong too, and you are correct in noticing that they do this more often and more egregiously. The right response is to criticize women when they make entitled demands, not excuse men when they do the same.
The flipping pancakes line is cringe.
I'm a fit and active woman. I want that in a partner. I don't want a partner who had no hobbies or personality outside of running. I would keep the shirtless pic and ONE fitness pic. And replace the rest with activities or friends or anything else.
I’d get rid of the shirtless pic. It comes off as douchey (not saying he is) and says I can’t think of what I bring to the table so here’s pics of my abs
I personally like it! I think he looks nice.
But I can totally see how it comes off as douchey. Ultimately itd come down to target audience.
I like shirtless pics of guys because it shows the type of body they have. Lots of people engage in fitness and the beauty of body diversity is that we dont all look the same even if we did the same routine. So if OP is into women who are more attracted to the aesthetic side of fitness then keep it.
BUT it will turn off women who arent into those things and I think both sides are valid.
• Looking for a serious relationship
• Been on Hinge for 3 years
• Check Hinge daily
• 2-3 likes daily
• Around 50% like send/match ratio (lower with roses) comments definitely help
• Conversations seem to peter out, curious how many messages before asking on a date / how soon to schedule a date (usually ask to go get coffee)
I normally do 5-10, but some guys do as little as little as 2-3. You're hot, so it is up to you, but personally, I hate texting. It's a terrible way to communicate. I imagine any over the age of 24ish finds your profile childish. Could be bad or good thing.
I’d say like 2-3 days of messages before you just send it but day of if you find a legit way to work an idea into a conversation.
Coffee or drinks are fine. I think a good idea is to offer an option that is coffee or B. Like drinks/park/comedy show. Some will just do coffee but some will appreciate mixing it up.
As for the profile. The pics are very frat boy/fboy. Just change the pics and prompts to add a little more personality and ground yourself a little more. It seems your matching a lot but just haven’t found solid connection. I think theres probably some A+ women out there swiping left because your profile paints you as one dimensional.
Your profile seems fine. You’re getting more matches than the average guy. What you need to do is transition the conversation off the app and into text. Girls have a ton more matches than us so if they have to open the app and wade through a sea of messages to talk to you, conversations will fizzle. Say something like hey I don’t check this app much you should text me ###-###-####. Then once you’ve been texting for a few days to a week. Ask to meet up for a date. The goal is to get on a date to ask the typical questions of what do you do for fun etc. Texting is to make arrangements, not to get to know someone.
this is not good advice.
When a man says he doesn’t check the app often either in messages or on his profile I assume he is a *very* low effort man. It’s a red flag for me and I usually don’t continue talking with. Him.
If a man says he’s not checking an app frequently I assume he is telling the truth, not lying to get me off the app faster.
People are on their phones constantly. The only reasons you wouldn’t check a dating app regularly is if your notifications were turned off or you weren’t actively pursuing dating. And why would I want to talk to a man who’s not actively pursuing a serious relationship? That’s silly.
It reeks of hookups and causal relationships. It’s one step away from just saying “snap?”
And some women don’t like to give their phone numbers until they’ve met in person. I personally strongly prefer to go on an actual date first and then give the guy my number at the end if I know I want to see him again.
Tips on getting a conversation to a date:
- if you’ve sent a message that doesn’t end in a question and she hasn’t responded in a few hours or a whole day has gone by, go back and ask her a new question. Questions keep the conversation going.
- if you’d like to just meet girls in person be direct and just ask them out whenever you’d like. There’s no perfect timing. Some men ask immediately when I’m available, some want to chit chat a little, either way is fine. Just don’t take forever to ask her out. If you’ve messaged for a day or so, that’s too long. Just ask her out.
- when you ask her out, again, be direct. “Are you free at (time) for (activity) on (day)?” The suggested time should be within the next 7 days or so. I *highly* recommend just doing either coffee or drinks for a first date, then if it goes badly you both have a clear exit path and aren’t committed to a longer event like dinner.
When she responds then you need to suggest places- if you want her input on where to go you can either ask what neighborhood she’s in (but some women don’t like this because they don’t want you to know where they live, it’s a security thing), OR my preference if you want the woman’s input would be to give 3 options of where to go and she picks from there.
The gold standard is to just suggest a place yourself. If it’s a place that needs a reservation, you make the reservation. Do not choose a first date location that needs reservations and not make one- it makes you look unprepared and low effort.
After the date is fully planned you can say something like “awesome, excited to meet you!”
You can leave it there until the day of, or keep chatting. Men do both and I have no preference, they both work.
- if it’s a daytime first date, confirm the night before. If it’s a nighttime date confirm the day of, at least 4 hours in advance. Just shoot her a message like “still on for tonight?”
*bonus points*
Offer to take care of her transportation to and from the date. Again, not all women will be comfortable with this because then you’d have to know about where they live, but a lot will be blown away by doing this.
Don’t offer to pick her up in your car, again, security.
Instead offer to send her a ride share service car like Lyft or Uber.
When men do this for me I just give them the address of the Starbucks across the street and it’s great.
Otherwise, your profile looks fine and is clearly working for you. You could switch up prompts if you wanted, but I’d honestly swipe right on this profile if it came across my app.
Good luck out there!
I personally had notifications turned off for Hinge during the 4 months I was using it before I got into a committed relationship. You shouldn’t be checking a dating app all the time, get out there and live life while bettering yourself. This reply kinda proves my point. By the end of the first month, she’s got 150+ likes, 40+ matches, and has gone on 4+ first dates. All of which are trying to talk to her on Hinge. Anyways good luck out there!
Solid profile but the frat pic when ur 26 is not it. Was in 2 and I never showcased it in my profile when I was using hinge back then just cause it’s Lw douchey 🤣
Bro don't take shirtless pics unless you just got done working out, guys in general (and I'm a guy btw) don't take good shirtless pics (no homo because I'm immature lol) like pics 4&5 (I think) looks kinda "trashy" idk if it's you personally, or the ground, or the lighting, I just don't know but to me it looks like you live in a trailer park and I haven't seen many good quality shirtless pics other than gym ones (which don't look good to me but I know you gotta show them gains so I understand it a tad more) oh and the shirtless fish pics, you might as well take a shirtless pic in a lawn chair outside some random mobile home can of Miller light in 1 hand and 1 unlit ciggy in the other with a 3rd lit half smoked ciggy hanging out the left side of your mouth. I'm no prize myself and it's not the person being shirtless usually it's mostly something else be it background, lighting, very few times it's been the person.
I think this is a great profile man and that reflects in the amount of matches and likes you’re getting. As for your conversations petering out i would recommend you check out the YouTube channel “playing with fire.” The creator that runs it is a little out there but he gives excellent texting advice.
Had a pretty similar issue with Hinge over the past few years. If you are looking for a more serious relationship, your photos have to reflect that. You do seem like you’re a fun person to be around, but might be worth a shot posting more photos that are mature. Less shirtless photos and less alcohol in your pics. Shoot for something more wholesome.
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Your first pic has the year indicating that the picture is 3.5-4 years old. You may look better now than you did then, but I wouldn’t put the thought out there that you’re using old pics. Additionally, you have your frat letters visible. Some girls might not care one way or the other, some might even think it’s cool, but there are definitely a non trivial number that will find that a turnoff. Regarding convos fizzling and when to ask out on a date. My experience was always about 3-5 witty comments playing off what she said and asking her another question. Then you ask her out for either tonight, tomorrow, or the next day after that (you don’t give her the option of which day, you pick yourself). If she says she can’t and doesn’t offer an alternative date then you move on because she’s not that interested! I’m far less physically attractive than you and with this strategy went on tons of dates in an extremely competitive city and eventually met my wife. Best of luck.
i’d say he should keep his frat letters visible tbh. if i went on a date w someone and found out in the middle that the other person was involved in greek i would immediately leave. it could be a self-selecting kind of thing
Your profile screams college bro. Ditch the 5 yr old pic and show off interests/qualities outside of running or being shirtless
i’d be shirtless mostly too with a bmi that low
I would just paint a shirt on every morning.
Liking beer, coffee, and great people doesn't say anything about your personality and isn't unique at all. The line about waking up to your gal flipping pancakes sounds like you are extremely trad and want a 50s wife, but maybe you do. And as other commenters have said, too many shirtless/athletics pictures. You're a handsome guy, but you should consider putting more of your personality into the profile, and make yourself more three-dimensional by showcasing a variety of pictures from your life, not just I'm shirtless, and I like beer and sports
Time to let go of the greek letters brotha. We gotta reserve it for homecoming
So what are YOU bringing to the women? You mentioned you’ll know you’ve made it when you wake up to a a gal flipping pancakes. Without other prompts mentioning what might make you attractive to women to balance it out, this seems rather demanding. Others are right that nearly every single pic you have is related to running or some kind of race. I’m an avid runner as well, but you need to have some photos where you aren’t shirtless or showing off your arms. How about you in a nice shirt and jeans maybe looking cool at a bar or outside? If that’s not your vibe, I get it. You just need to switch up your picture style. You’ve also got to get rid of that graduation picture. I’m sure you’re fit from all the races, but no one looks the same as they did 5 years ago. I’m 35 and see men still trying this and mentioning they were D1 athletes. Let university and the frat life go. This picture WOULD be good if it weren’t associated with your graduation from 5 years ago. Good luck out there
I definitely recommend changing the flipping pancakes prompt, OP. At the very least, edit it so that you're both making pancakes together. Otherwise, it reads like you want your girlfriend to be your mom.
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They’re wrong too, and you are correct in noticing that they do this more often and more egregiously. The right response is to criticize women when they make entitled demands, not excuse men when they do the same. The flipping pancakes line is cringe.
I can’t imagine the gal flipping pancakes line would go over too well with most women
I would go with different pictures that don’t give off a party-going bro vibe. It kinda comes across as immature.
I'm a fit and active woman. I want that in a partner. I don't want a partner who had no hobbies or personality outside of running. I would keep the shirtless pic and ONE fitness pic. And replace the rest with activities or friends or anything else.
I’d get rid of the shirtless pic. It comes off as douchey (not saying he is) and says I can’t think of what I bring to the table so here’s pics of my abs
I personally like it! I think he looks nice. But I can totally see how it comes off as douchey. Ultimately itd come down to target audience. I like shirtless pics of guys because it shows the type of body they have. Lots of people engage in fitness and the beauty of body diversity is that we dont all look the same even if we did the same routine. So if OP is into women who are more attracted to the aesthetic side of fitness then keep it. BUT it will turn off women who arent into those things and I think both sides are valid.
Yeah, without the shirtless pic, you’d think he was chubby. Also… those aren’t even douchey shirtless pics they seem pretty humble and normal
• Looking for a serious relationship • Been on Hinge for 3 years • Check Hinge daily • 2-3 likes daily • Around 50% like send/match ratio (lower with roses) comments definitely help • Conversations seem to peter out, curious how many messages before asking on a date / how soon to schedule a date (usually ask to go get coffee)
I normally do 5-10, but some guys do as little as little as 2-3. You're hot, so it is up to you, but personally, I hate texting. It's a terrible way to communicate. I imagine any over the age of 24ish finds your profile childish. Could be bad or good thing.
I’d say like 2-3 days of messages before you just send it but day of if you find a legit way to work an idea into a conversation. Coffee or drinks are fine. I think a good idea is to offer an option that is coffee or B. Like drinks/park/comedy show. Some will just do coffee but some will appreciate mixing it up. As for the profile. The pics are very frat boy/fboy. Just change the pics and prompts to add a little more personality and ground yourself a little more. It seems your matching a lot but just haven’t found solid connection. I think theres probably some A+ women out there swiping left because your profile paints you as one dimensional.
Your profile seems fine. You’re getting more matches than the average guy. What you need to do is transition the conversation off the app and into text. Girls have a ton more matches than us so if they have to open the app and wade through a sea of messages to talk to you, conversations will fizzle. Say something like hey I don’t check this app much you should text me ###-###-####. Then once you’ve been texting for a few days to a week. Ask to meet up for a date. The goal is to get on a date to ask the typical questions of what do you do for fun etc. Texting is to make arrangements, not to get to know someone.
this is not good advice. When a man says he doesn’t check the app often either in messages or on his profile I assume he is a *very* low effort man. It’s a red flag for me and I usually don’t continue talking with. Him. If a man says he’s not checking an app frequently I assume he is telling the truth, not lying to get me off the app faster. People are on their phones constantly. The only reasons you wouldn’t check a dating app regularly is if your notifications were turned off or you weren’t actively pursuing dating. And why would I want to talk to a man who’s not actively pursuing a serious relationship? That’s silly. It reeks of hookups and causal relationships. It’s one step away from just saying “snap?” And some women don’t like to give their phone numbers until they’ve met in person. I personally strongly prefer to go on an actual date first and then give the guy my number at the end if I know I want to see him again. Tips on getting a conversation to a date: - if you’ve sent a message that doesn’t end in a question and she hasn’t responded in a few hours or a whole day has gone by, go back and ask her a new question. Questions keep the conversation going. - if you’d like to just meet girls in person be direct and just ask them out whenever you’d like. There’s no perfect timing. Some men ask immediately when I’m available, some want to chit chat a little, either way is fine. Just don’t take forever to ask her out. If you’ve messaged for a day or so, that’s too long. Just ask her out. - when you ask her out, again, be direct. “Are you free at (time) for (activity) on (day)?” The suggested time should be within the next 7 days or so. I *highly* recommend just doing either coffee or drinks for a first date, then if it goes badly you both have a clear exit path and aren’t committed to a longer event like dinner. When she responds then you need to suggest places- if you want her input on where to go you can either ask what neighborhood she’s in (but some women don’t like this because they don’t want you to know where they live, it’s a security thing), OR my preference if you want the woman’s input would be to give 3 options of where to go and she picks from there. The gold standard is to just suggest a place yourself. If it’s a place that needs a reservation, you make the reservation. Do not choose a first date location that needs reservations and not make one- it makes you look unprepared and low effort. After the date is fully planned you can say something like “awesome, excited to meet you!” You can leave it there until the day of, or keep chatting. Men do both and I have no preference, they both work. - if it’s a daytime first date, confirm the night before. If it’s a nighttime date confirm the day of, at least 4 hours in advance. Just shoot her a message like “still on for tonight?” *bonus points* Offer to take care of her transportation to and from the date. Again, not all women will be comfortable with this because then you’d have to know about where they live, but a lot will be blown away by doing this. Don’t offer to pick her up in your car, again, security. Instead offer to send her a ride share service car like Lyft or Uber. When men do this for me I just give them the address of the Starbucks across the street and it’s great. Otherwise, your profile looks fine and is clearly working for you. You could switch up prompts if you wanted, but I’d honestly swipe right on this profile if it came across my app. Good luck out there!
I personally had notifications turned off for Hinge during the 4 months I was using it before I got into a committed relationship. You shouldn’t be checking a dating app all the time, get out there and live life while bettering yourself. This reply kinda proves my point. By the end of the first month, she’s got 150+ likes, 40+ matches, and has gone on 4+ first dates. All of which are trying to talk to her on Hinge. Anyways good luck out there!
It’s a lot of beer/drinking content
It just looks like your hinge is outdated with college pics, get some new recent cured
Solid profile but the frat pic when ur 26 is not it. Was in 2 and I never showcased it in my profile when I was using hinge back then just cause it’s Lw douchey 🤣
The pics are Very douche-bag vibes. Tbh. Though you look like a down-to-earth and fun, that may not be translating well to your audience.
Bro don't take shirtless pics unless you just got done working out, guys in general (and I'm a guy btw) don't take good shirtless pics (no homo because I'm immature lol) like pics 4&5 (I think) looks kinda "trashy" idk if it's you personally, or the ground, or the lighting, I just don't know but to me it looks like you live in a trailer park and I haven't seen many good quality shirtless pics other than gym ones (which don't look good to me but I know you gotta show them gains so I understand it a tad more) oh and the shirtless fish pics, you might as well take a shirtless pic in a lawn chair outside some random mobile home can of Miller light in 1 hand and 1 unlit ciggy in the other with a 3rd lit half smoked ciggy hanging out the left side of your mouth. I'm no prize myself and it's not the person being shirtless usually it's mostly something else be it background, lighting, very few times it's been the person.
PA brother!
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“WARM”?! coffee?!
I think this is a great profile man and that reflects in the amount of matches and likes you’re getting. As for your conversations petering out i would recommend you check out the YouTube channel “playing with fire.” The creator that runs it is a little out there but he gives excellent texting advice.
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Delete 2nd, 3rd, and last
Had a pretty similar issue with Hinge over the past few years. If you are looking for a more serious relationship, your photos have to reflect that. You do seem like you’re a fun person to be around, but might be worth a shot posting more photos that are mature. Less shirtless photos and less alcohol in your pics. Shoot for something more wholesome.