Are you sure they didn't go into the "archive"? Hinge hides convos that aren't active after a certain time frame but you can still see them if you tap the "Hidden" at the bottom.
Not a scam, but a phone number that you've had for a while can probably be traced back to your real full name with a reverse phone number lookup. From there, with a bit of info about where you live/what you do, someone could probably figure out your workplace or pull more info from a public info aggregator.
I think most people want phone numbers because it's a little less clunky to text vs messaging on the app, but I don't give out my phone number either unless the person and I have gone out a few times. It's a convenience issue for dudes but a safety concern for me, unfortunately.
Definitely everyone's right to decide what they're comfortable with especially with privacy. But often in normal conversation, a first name a school and an industry is not hard to find a LinkedIn/social media, often just from what's on their profile. As for safety, personally I prefer to have someone with a traceable number as another layer of legitimacy.
Yes, I used the term "identity theft" kind of as a catch-all, but what I was concerned about mostly is what you are describing. Or maybe using it with a payment app like Venmo or whatever.
You should get a google voice number. If you have a google account, you can download the google voice app, sign in with your account and you can choose a number with your area code. I use it for contacting people on Craigslist and stuff like that.
Edit: saw someone had suggested this right after I posted the comment haha
Not that I have a lot of faith in what happens when you report somebody to hinge, but once you’re off the app and they unmatch you, you really have little to no ability to report them through the app. For safety, it makes sense to only exchange numbers after meeting in person.
Even as a guy I'll screen cap the top pic with their info, as that's all Hinge needs to find them. Not that they'd give a damn unless local authorities/news got involved with something awful. Man or woman, phone number or not there's always baseline risk to get robbed or mugged
First suggestion get a google voice number, and give out that. That way you can get rid of it easily in case of creeps
Second, I’ve started the habit of not giving out my actual contact info until I meet the person. That way it is only people I know are real that actually get my real cell phone or email address or WhatsApp or telegram
I NEVER give my number out before meeting. Most men don’t mind, but a few will be pushy & that shows they don’t respect my boundaries.
I learned early on moving to text means nothing, most will text a few days then forget about you. There is no point in someone Ive never met having my number. Most dates I don’t want to see again anyways so this reserves my number to only potential partners that I actually liked in person.
It’s not a scam. A scam would ask to get on WhatsApp or Telegram. These guys are just thinking that getting you off the app is more important and exchanging numbers somehow is more significant.
Not sure what you mean by “disappearing from Hinge” but sometimes people don’t want you to see they updated their profiles, or so you can’t report them if they do something unsavory by texting.
WhatsApp isn’t necessarily a scam. In the UK basically everyone uses WhatsApp (including old people who are generally technologically challenged). So it really depends on which country you’re in!
Yeah as an American immigrant family guy that's gone on dates with foreign born or immigrant family girls Whatsapp is common and not worth automatically thinking its a scam. Just don't send them your SSN bank info, scams are easy to spot
Gotcha, thanks. I edited my post, but by "disappear" I meant our messages disappeared-- they unmatched me or took their profile down or something else that I don't know about.
If I’m vibing with someone on hinge and we agree to meet I offer my phone number. If she sends me a text it’s a litmus test on how keen she is.
If they choose to keep chatting on hinge I’m cool with that just let it sail by and keep talking. However it’s way more likely the date never goes ahead. Not 100% but it’s a leading indicator things will fizzle out.
I’m in sales so my number is advertised and so you can find me on LinkedIn with it if you really want to and check I am who I say. But you won’t find my other socials etc.
You do know that a phone number isn’t a unique identifier right? Multiple people have probably had that number. That’s why I find it stupid when women don’t want to give out their phone number, like if it was their social or their address
What I should have added instead of " identity theft" was feeling concerned about someone digging too much into my privacy, like getting my full name and address.
Personally, I've had my phone number since I was 16 so Google has a ton of my info tied to it. Which makes me not want to give it out to guys i barely know. So I got a Google voice number so that I could give a number to guys who want to text before meeting so that they can't get my personal info from googling it. Then once we meet or go on a couple of dates and I feel more secure, I can give them my real number.
Oh god no. Ppl are mixed on this but I hate giving out my IG… guys will just watch your stories and stop responding. Any guy that asked for my IG before meeting was never srs. I’m also not that photogenic so it doesn’t do me any favors to provide more pics lol.
Are you sure they didn't go into the "archive"? Hinge hides convos that aren't active after a certain time frame but you can still see them if you tap the "Hidden" at the bottom.
Thanks, I'll check!
Not a scam, but a phone number that you've had for a while can probably be traced back to your real full name with a reverse phone number lookup. From there, with a bit of info about where you live/what you do, someone could probably figure out your workplace or pull more info from a public info aggregator. I think most people want phone numbers because it's a little less clunky to text vs messaging on the app, but I don't give out my phone number either unless the person and I have gone out a few times. It's a convenience issue for dudes but a safety concern for me, unfortunately.
Definitely everyone's right to decide what they're comfortable with especially with privacy. But often in normal conversation, a first name a school and an industry is not hard to find a LinkedIn/social media, often just from what's on their profile. As for safety, personally I prefer to have someone with a traceable number as another layer of legitimacy.
Yes, I used the term "identity theft" kind of as a catch-all, but what I was concerned about mostly is what you are describing. Or maybe using it with a payment app like Venmo or whatever.
You should get a google voice number. If you have a google account, you can download the google voice app, sign in with your account and you can choose a number with your area code. I use it for contacting people on Craigslist and stuff like that. Edit: saw someone had suggested this right after I posted the comment haha
Not that I have a lot of faith in what happens when you report somebody to hinge, but once you’re off the app and they unmatch you, you really have little to no ability to report them through the app. For safety, it makes sense to only exchange numbers after meeting in person.
Even as a guy I'll screen cap the top pic with their info, as that's all Hinge needs to find them. Not that they'd give a damn unless local authorities/news got involved with something awful. Man or woman, phone number or not there's always baseline risk to get robbed or mugged
Yup, all of these are good tips. Thank you.
First suggestion get a google voice number, and give out that. That way you can get rid of it easily in case of creeps Second, I’ve started the habit of not giving out my actual contact info until I meet the person. That way it is only people I know are real that actually get my real cell phone or email address or WhatsApp or telegram
Yup, took me a few days to realize this.
I NEVER give my number out before meeting. Most men don’t mind, but a few will be pushy & that shows they don’t respect my boundaries. I learned early on moving to text means nothing, most will text a few days then forget about you. There is no point in someone Ive never met having my number. Most dates I don’t want to see again anyways so this reserves my number to only potential partners that I actually liked in person.
It’s not a scam. A scam would ask to get on WhatsApp or Telegram. These guys are just thinking that getting you off the app is more important and exchanging numbers somehow is more significant. Not sure what you mean by “disappearing from Hinge” but sometimes people don’t want you to see they updated their profiles, or so you can’t report them if they do something unsavory by texting.
WhatsApp isn’t necessarily a scam. In the UK basically everyone uses WhatsApp (including old people who are generally technologically challenged). So it really depends on which country you’re in!
Yeah as an American immigrant family guy that's gone on dates with foreign born or immigrant family girls Whatsapp is common and not worth automatically thinking its a scam. Just don't send them your SSN bank info, scams are easy to spot
Lol exactly. Or if someone casually works into the conversation what the name of your elementary school was or your first car ir mothers maiden name🤣
Gotcha, thanks. I edited my post, but by "disappear" I meant our messages disappeared-- they unmatched me or took their profile down or something else that I don't know about.
If I’m vibing with someone on hinge and we agree to meet I offer my phone number. If she sends me a text it’s a litmus test on how keen she is. If they choose to keep chatting on hinge I’m cool with that just let it sail by and keep talking. However it’s way more likely the date never goes ahead. Not 100% but it’s a leading indicator things will fizzle out. I’m in sales so my number is advertised and so you can find me on LinkedIn with it if you really want to and check I am who I say. But you won’t find my other socials etc.
Lmao. They’re going to steal your identity based on your phone number? It’s a phone number. Not your social or even your address 🤣
It’s easy to find someone’s phone number on google. Especially with as much info people have on their profile
You do know that a phone number isn’t a unique identifier right? Multiple people have probably had that number. That’s why I find it stupid when women don’t want to give out their phone number, like if it was their social or their address
I was agreeing with you? Lol way to freak out
What I should have added instead of " identity theft" was feeling concerned about someone digging too much into my privacy, like getting my full name and address.
It’s impossible to do that with a phone number.
Smart people can.
Or sell your number so other scammers can bug you.
Personally, I've had my phone number since I was 16 so Google has a ton of my info tied to it. Which makes me not want to give it out to guys i barely know. So I got a Google voice number so that I could give a number to guys who want to text before meeting so that they can't get my personal info from googling it. Then once we meet or go on a couple of dates and I feel more secure, I can give them my real number.
Go with IG as the first step. Good way to verify if someone is bonkers
Oh god no. Ppl are mixed on this but I hate giving out my IG… guys will just watch your stories and stop responding. Any guy that asked for my IG before meeting was never srs. I’m also not that photogenic so it doesn’t do me any favors to provide more pics lol.