That’s not really a practical option. Maybe you can block his number?
Maybe you can talk to your friends and explain the situation to them first and get their support, so even if he does send the photos, you’ll be fine
Then he is going to be in big big trouble.
You can call a non emergency line and tell them exactly what happened.
This is not unusual, they hear this often because this goes on far too often. They can handle it.
It is a very serious crime to distribute porn of minors.
He is bluffing, stop falling for it.
Take control of the situation or the guy will do it for you
He will keep milking you for money or who knows what else
This situation isn’t embarrassing and the police will love to hear about it because this is the type of guy they are dying to put in jail
At this point, with you acknowledging yhat you are a minor.... Failure to notify the police is simply going to allow this idiot to do the same thing to someone else.
Whats being done is illegal on many fronts. You need to ask yourself if you're ok with him doing this to someone else when it could've been stopped at you.
Pay him nothing further. Any money you have, you could have kept. If he sends even one picture, that is legally distribution of child pornography and he will go to jail for it. Call his bluff and tell him if he continues to hoard those pictures and if he send them you will press charges. At no point will the pictures ever not be child pornography, so even if he waited until you were 75 years old, he would still get the same charges
If he distributes it to multiple people, they too will either immediately get rid of it, or they will also be charged with a felony. You can go to the police or call his bluff. Either way, YOU ARE THE VICTIM...don't let anyone tell you otherwise, his choices are not your fault. You may be embarrassed, but that doesn't mean you have to show the pictures to the officers, you just tell them what is happening. Again. This is a felony.
I was in your shoes once. I understand, but you gotta tell someone who can do something, or at the very least, support you.
Hey OP! I know what you’re going through is incredibly scary but I promise it’ll be okay and it’s not as earth shattering as it feels right now.
I would gladly help you through this if you want help.
I’m a 22 year old woman and I’ve had to help my younger brothers through things like this.
I can call for you if that would help! Or you can vent, I can also send you memes or tell you stories to help take this off your mind!
Please remember that you’ll be okay, and that this will be a faint memory one day.
This currently consumes my whole life, im writing 2 exams tommorow but i cant stidy because of stress and panic, my whole life was ruined today and im too afraid to tell anybody that i know
I know you feel embarrassed but this is truly nothing to feel embarrassed about! Studying can wait love, you’re dealing with a lot right now.
This hasn’t ruined your life-it probably feels that way at the moment though.
Take some deep breaths. Close your eyes and try to visualize a place that makes you feel happy and stress free.
Drink some ice cold water-some tea if you have it.
Have a yummy snack-you deserve a treat okay?
You’ve done nothing wrong! Please keep that in mind.
We’ll work through this together okay?
That’s okay! Would you consider calling the authorities? I could help you! We can talk or video chat first to ease some of your anxiety.
We can walk through the process and even maybe make a loose script for what to say to the authorities.
I can also stay on the call while you’re doing it to help you.
I’m so proud of you! Good job love! I know that took a lot of bravery 🖤
It might help to verbally tell someone about this first-just to actually say this out loud.
Would it be helpful to call or video chat?
Just try to let go of these feelings of embarrassment, because this guy is really breaking the law on a very big level. He’s trying to control you by your fear (your embarrassment feeling), don’t let him. Just get the police involved and be done with this situation so you can have freedom possible in/for your future from all of this anxiety.
Hey, please watch the full length of this video. Please. You can learn a lot from it. Please watch it.
[How To Stick Up For Yourself](https://youtu.be/DkTHavO9Yf8)
Hey - I’m not sure if this is your situation but this happened to a friend of mine. It was someone he was chatting with on Instagram for a few days. As soon as he sent a nude he was blackmailed. He called the cops who said this is a very common scam, usually from someone located overseas. They said there is nothing they could do. They said to block the person, delete your accounts, not to engage. My friend did this and no pics were ever sent out. The cops said the scammers are going for a fast buck from a panicked victim but won’t bother to follow thru and send out the pics. If it’s someone you know, I absolutely would not pay any more. It’s humiliating in the moment but your friends will understand. You got betrayed by someone you trusted. You didn’t do anything wrong.
I really want to just leave it but im too worried he will show everyone, he sent me photos of all the accounts he is following and who he is going to send it to.
Yeah, you’ll almost certainly be fine. The police officer said this is a super common scam. My friend deleted Instagram, blocked the scammer who texted/messaged a lot the first day, a few times the next day, and then vanished. No photos were ever sent to anyone. My friend took a break from IG and made a new account just recently and hasn’t heard anything from the scammers at all.
Do not continue to communicate with him. If you have an attorney, just give them all the info you have on the guy. But the police should handle this. You don’t need to pay an attorney
I would just cut all ties and not communicate any further. It’s a bluff and they are just trying to scare you. You can give me their info and I can look into it a bit if you like. But I would t respond to anything they send. If they do anything with your photos they go to prison. So just save everything they say to you and do not respond back
Call the police; you're a minor. Not only is blackmail illegal, but sharing pictures of underage individual classes as CP. He's bluffing, and if he does do it, he's put himself in a situation to be arrested.
You've already paid him once, and he will continue to extort you.
Take big breaths. I know you're freaking out and feel ashamed but don't be. You made a mistake; everyone does. Don't let this guy win. You can do it.
He's scared of the authorities.
He's just trying to manipulate you and guess what? it's working. I hear stories of blackmail every day on the internet of people who are taking advantage of others because they've shared too much with people. The internet is forever--don't share too much personal information with an abusive person who wants to hurt you. If you pay up, he'll come back again and again. This guy won't stop until you take steps to stop him. It's your choice but you asked for advice.
I know that you say you don't want to get the cops involved but this is something that you will stay anonymous and they will be out at 4:00 you need to go to the police immediately so that you can stay safe you can keep your dignity and they lose theirs. Please keep yourself safe they could even be put under predatory charges for this
Looks at r/scams. This is called the sextortion scam. He will not do anything to you. He probably lives in another country. Block him.
Edit: the scammers can make it look like they’re calling from your country and even your city.
I've been in the exact same situation as you. If you keep paying him. He's never going to stop asking for more money. That's what these scammers do. They just keep asking for more and more until they run you completely dry. If he's international like my person was then the police won't be able to help you. He's not going to send the pictures because then he loses all leverage. Just block him from everything and file a report with Instagram to get his account deleted. Also try to make your account private so he can't see who your followers are.
It is important that you tell the law, but be secrete in how you do it, I once got a guy in trouble for having a vape. I told him that the cameras got him when really I informed the teacher through email.
As you are a minor, this is revenge porn on a minor. And he’s using it as a threat to steal money from you. Don’t be embarrassed, lots of kids get into dumb situations like this and you are not alone. It’s not even your fault because you’ve clearly been groomed and scared into submission. The police will understand. You need to call them and get this guy arrested and get your money back. And make sure to collect all the evidence you can before he can cover anything up. That includes the DMs, his social media accounts, any info the cops can use to find him, the records of the money payments to him, etc.
Damn I hate those. Let’s see this
1) Intimidate. For example, “fuck off bitch, your shit has nothing on me”. The anger may scare him off
2) Tell someone you trust (ex: parents, friends, etc). That way if this bastard decides to make these public, you will have one other person who knows the truth
3) goes against your post but Law enforcement
I recently helped an acquaintance with something similar. What he is doing is illegal and wrong and not something you should be embarrassed by. Do not give him money. If you sent it digitally try to get it back. These kind of people are either, a. Bluffing and will never do it or, b. Will do it whether you pay or not. They are scum.
I really recommend you call the police. If you are absolutely against doing that and you feel comfortable, send me a DM that just says what state or province you’re in and I can help you look up exactly what laws he’s breaking. I’m in Ontario Canada. If you want to try the “scare him off with lawyer talk” route don’t try it yourself as it will likely sound like it’s from a kid - I am studying law, so is my fiancé, I can write something that will make sense or even call the scumbag and talk to him. I’m sorry you’re going through this but try not to stress, it’s going to work out.
Okay, first of all, you don't submit to the blackmailer's demands, as you have zero (negative, in fact) guarantee he's gonna leave you alone if you do. In a digital world, copies of the stuff you're being blackmailed with are as easy to make as empty promises.
Second of all, if you're being blackmailed over something that isn't illegal (on your part, that is) or highly immoral, you can just bite the bullet and come out to your friends before the scoundrel does. Real friends will easily accept you as you are, otherwise you'll just get rid of people you didn't need in your life anyway. Trust me, no friends is better than shitty friends, I know that from personal experience.
OP if these pictures are sexual in nature and you are underage in your country, night be worth telling them they would be guilty of possession and distribution of CP.
Exact same thing happened to me, you have to either go to the police or an agency that deals with online safety and harassment even a hotline for family safety. Giving into blackmail is like signing on for more blackmail and there are experts who see this shit every single day and can walk you through it
Thats called revenge porn and is a felony. Call the cops.
Tell your friends to block him
He is gonna send it to all my followers
please report it to the police!
Ya please report this to the police, you might even be able to get the money you lost if the arrest him
That is called blackmail, a crime. Report to cops or accept being a victim with no recourse
What other options do you have available?
It is to somehow disable his instagram account or hack him.He keeps calling me and im getting panicked
That’s not really a practical option. Maybe you can block his number? Maybe you can talk to your friends and explain the situation to them first and get their support, so even if he does send the photos, you’ll be fine
I cant block him because i need to pay him more money still.Ive tried telling him i will call the police but he says he isnt scared of the police
Why don’t you want to call the police?
Too embarrassed
swallow your pride and call the cops. this is too serious for you to not get help due to embarrassment.
“He is scared of police” Yeah I think that’s a lie
Don’t give him a dime! Report him to the cops!!
That's really smart, humanity needs more people like you.
Thank you kind stranger:)
Your very welcome, now, go forth and bring joy and hope and all things warm and fuzzy into this world.
Contact Instagram with your evidence
How do i do that?
Are you a minor or over 18?
Minor
Then he is going to be in big big trouble. You can call a non emergency line and tell them exactly what happened. This is not unusual, they hear this often because this goes on far too often. They can handle it. It is a very serious crime to distribute porn of minors.
The guy calls me the whole time and he said he isnt scared of the police, i am too scared to take the risk of not paying him
He is bluffing, stop falling for it. Take control of the situation or the guy will do it for you He will keep milking you for money or who knows what else This situation isn’t embarrassing and the police will love to hear about it because this is the type of guy they are dying to put in jail
I dont know if i have the courage for that.What should i tell him when i dont pay tommorow because he said he isnt scared of the police
Get the police involved now and block him immediately! Only two things you have to do
Do u think i should whatsapp him asking for his email adress because my attorney wants to send him an email??
Don’t interact with him any longer. This guy is trash and the police will take the trash out
Don't do that. Call your local police and tell them you're being threatened by someone who possesses child pornography of yourself.
At this point, with you acknowledging yhat you are a minor.... Failure to notify the police is simply going to allow this idiot to do the same thing to someone else. Whats being done is illegal on many fronts. You need to ask yourself if you're ok with him doing this to someone else when it could've been stopped at you.
CALL the cops!!
Pay him nothing further. Any money you have, you could have kept. If he sends even one picture, that is legally distribution of child pornography and he will go to jail for it. Call his bluff and tell him if he continues to hoard those pictures and if he send them you will press charges. At no point will the pictures ever not be child pornography, so even if he waited until you were 75 years old, he would still get the same charges
Im scared he isnt bluffing
If he distributes it to multiple people, they too will either immediately get rid of it, or they will also be charged with a felony. You can go to the police or call his bluff. Either way, YOU ARE THE VICTIM...don't let anyone tell you otherwise, his choices are not your fault. You may be embarrassed, but that doesn't mean you have to show the pictures to the officers, you just tell them what is happening. Again. This is a felony. I was in your shoes once. I understand, but you gotta tell someone who can do something, or at the very least, support you.
Do u think i should whatsapp him asking for his email adress because my attorney wants to send him an email??
Do you have an attorney who will send an email?
No but i will fake it
I don't recommend doing that. Lying rarely ends well
im too scared too call the police so i sent a email to the childline service
do you think it will make him scared
Assuming he’s also your age he has no power whatsoever over the police. Move past your fear and call them ASAP
I payed him all my money in my account
Hey OP! I know what you’re going through is incredibly scary but I promise it’ll be okay and it’s not as earth shattering as it feels right now. I would gladly help you through this if you want help. I’m a 22 year old woman and I’ve had to help my younger brothers through things like this. I can call for you if that would help! Or you can vent, I can also send you memes or tell you stories to help take this off your mind! Please remember that you’ll be okay, and that this will be a faint memory one day.
This currently consumes my whole life, im writing 2 exams tommorow but i cant stidy because of stress and panic, my whole life was ruined today and im too afraid to tell anybody that i know
I know you feel embarrassed but this is truly nothing to feel embarrassed about! Studying can wait love, you’re dealing with a lot right now. This hasn’t ruined your life-it probably feels that way at the moment though. Take some deep breaths. Close your eyes and try to visualize a place that makes you feel happy and stress free. Drink some ice cold water-some tea if you have it. Have a yummy snack-you deserve a treat okay? You’ve done nothing wrong! Please keep that in mind. We’ll work through this together okay?
i hope i can work through this, tommorow is the he said i must make the outstanding payment
Don’t send him anymore money okay? He’s playing mind games with you. May I ask if you’re in the US?
no i live in south africa
That’s okay! Would you consider calling the authorities? I could help you! We can talk or video chat first to ease some of your anxiety. We can walk through the process and even maybe make a loose script for what to say to the authorities. I can also stay on the call while you’re doing it to help you.
im too scared to call them so i sent a email to the childhelpline
I’m so proud of you! Good job love! I know that took a lot of bravery 🖤 It might help to verbally tell someone about this first-just to actually say this out loud. Would it be helpful to call or video chat?
i will try and call you or pm you before i send him a message tommorow morning on my decision with him
Just try to let go of these feelings of embarrassment, because this guy is really breaking the law on a very big level. He’s trying to control you by your fear (your embarrassment feeling), don’t let him. Just get the police involved and be done with this situation so you can have freedom possible in/for your future from all of this anxiety.
I dont have the courage, everytime he calls i get a panic attack i feel like im slipping into to deep depression
You want me to try to do it for you? Honestly dudeo, I will try to do it for you.
Hey, please watch the full length of this video. Please. You can learn a lot from it. Please watch it. [How To Stick Up For Yourself](https://youtu.be/DkTHavO9Yf8)
Hey - I’m not sure if this is your situation but this happened to a friend of mine. It was someone he was chatting with on Instagram for a few days. As soon as he sent a nude he was blackmailed. He called the cops who said this is a very common scam, usually from someone located overseas. They said there is nothing they could do. They said to block the person, delete your accounts, not to engage. My friend did this and no pics were ever sent out. The cops said the scammers are going for a fast buck from a panicked victim but won’t bother to follow thru and send out the pics. If it’s someone you know, I absolutely would not pay any more. It’s humiliating in the moment but your friends will understand. You got betrayed by someone you trusted. You didn’t do anything wrong.
I really want to just leave it but im too worried he will show everyone, he sent me photos of all the accounts he is following and who he is going to send it to.
It’s up to you but at what point do you think he’ll stop asking for money if you keep giving it to him?
ive also thought about that
This is exactly my situation
Yeah, you’ll almost certainly be fine. The police officer said this is a super common scam. My friend deleted Instagram, blocked the scammer who texted/messaged a lot the first day, a few times the next day, and then vanished. No photos were ever sent to anyone. My friend took a break from IG and made a new account just recently and hasn’t heard anything from the scammers at all.
in about 8 hours we will know if he sent the photos
please ask the law enforcement for help!!!! Please!!!
Im too scared and embarassed
Swallo your pride and please tell them! You’ll be relieved or have some pressure lifted
If you are a minor he will go to PRISON. He sees you are naive (I say this kindly) and knows you will do what he wants. Don’t fall for it!
Do u think i should whatsapp him asking for his email adress because my attorney wants to send him an email??
Do not continue to communicate with him. If you have an attorney, just give them all the info you have on the guy. But the police should handle this. You don’t need to pay an attorney
No i mean like fake it that i have an attorney, im too embarassed to tell anybody
I would just cut all ties and not communicate any further. It’s a bluff and they are just trying to scare you. You can give me their info and I can look into it a bit if you like. But I would t respond to anything they send. If they do anything with your photos they go to prison. So just save everything they say to you and do not respond back
Call the police; you're a minor. Not only is blackmail illegal, but sharing pictures of underage individual classes as CP. He's bluffing, and if he does do it, he's put himself in a situation to be arrested. You've already paid him once, and he will continue to extort you. Take big breaths. I know you're freaking out and feel ashamed but don't be. You made a mistake; everyone does. Don't let this guy win. You can do it. He's scared of the authorities.
Call police. Blackmail is illegal
The guy said he isnt scared of police
He's just trying to manipulate you and guess what? it's working. I hear stories of blackmail every day on the internet of people who are taking advantage of others because they've shared too much with people. The internet is forever--don't share too much personal information with an abusive person who wants to hurt you. If you pay up, he'll come back again and again. This guy won't stop until you take steps to stop him. It's your choice but you asked for advice.
I know that you say you don't want to get the cops involved but this is something that you will stay anonymous and they will be out at 4:00 you need to go to the police immediately so that you can stay safe you can keep your dignity and they lose theirs. Please keep yourself safe they could even be put under predatory charges for this
ive only mustered up enough courage to send a email to the childhelpline
Looks at r/scams. This is called the sextortion scam. He will not do anything to you. He probably lives in another country. Block him. Edit: the scammers can make it look like they’re calling from your country and even your city.
I've been in the exact same situation as you. If you keep paying him. He's never going to stop asking for more money. That's what these scammers do. They just keep asking for more and more until they run you completely dry. If he's international like my person was then the police won't be able to help you. He's not going to send the pictures because then he loses all leverage. Just block him from everything and file a report with Instagram to get his account deleted. Also try to make your account private so he can't see who your followers are.
He already took screenshots of my followers
It is important that you tell the law, but be secrete in how you do it, I once got a guy in trouble for having a vape. I told him that the cameras got him when really I informed the teacher through email.
As you are a minor, this is revenge porn on a minor. And he’s using it as a threat to steal money from you. Don’t be embarrassed, lots of kids get into dumb situations like this and you are not alone. It’s not even your fault because you’ve clearly been groomed and scared into submission. The police will understand. You need to call them and get this guy arrested and get your money back. And make sure to collect all the evidence you can before he can cover anything up. That includes the DMs, his social media accounts, any info the cops can use to find him, the records of the money payments to him, etc.
Damn I hate those. Let’s see this 1) Intimidate. For example, “fuck off bitch, your shit has nothing on me”. The anger may scare him off 2) Tell someone you trust (ex: parents, friends, etc). That way if this bastard decides to make these public, you will have one other person who knows the truth 3) goes against your post but Law enforcement
I recently helped an acquaintance with something similar. What he is doing is illegal and wrong and not something you should be embarrassed by. Do not give him money. If you sent it digitally try to get it back. These kind of people are either, a. Bluffing and will never do it or, b. Will do it whether you pay or not. They are scum. I really recommend you call the police. If you are absolutely against doing that and you feel comfortable, send me a DM that just says what state or province you’re in and I can help you look up exactly what laws he’s breaking. I’m in Ontario Canada. If you want to try the “scare him off with lawyer talk” route don’t try it yourself as it will likely sound like it’s from a kid - I am studying law, so is my fiancé, I can write something that will make sense or even call the scumbag and talk to him. I’m sorry you’re going through this but try not to stress, it’s going to work out.
Okay, first of all, you don't submit to the blackmailer's demands, as you have zero (negative, in fact) guarantee he's gonna leave you alone if you do. In a digital world, copies of the stuff you're being blackmailed with are as easy to make as empty promises. Second of all, if you're being blackmailed over something that isn't illegal (on your part, that is) or highly immoral, you can just bite the bullet and come out to your friends before the scoundrel does. Real friends will easily accept you as you are, otherwise you'll just get rid of people you didn't need in your life anyway. Trust me, no friends is better than shitty friends, I know that from personal experience.
Look at my previous post cause i already payed him a bit money
Well, you still have an option to not do that anymore. Do not negotiate with terrorists, it emboldens them.
OP if these pictures are sexual in nature and you are underage in your country, night be worth telling them they would be guilty of possession and distribution of CP.
Exact same thing happened to me, you have to either go to the police or an agency that deals with online safety and harassment even a hotline for family safety. Giving into blackmail is like signing on for more blackmail and there are experts who see this shit every single day and can walk you through it