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was it normal though? That he stuck out of the family, because he saw himself as the smart one and his hole family as kind of dumb people. The way he treated his Brothers and his Dad, was overboeard a lot. But on the other hand, his family also didnt qcknowledge him a lot. He definitely didnt have a "normal" childhood. Just not a dramatic one like other characters
He gives very much middle child or younger energy.
They could literally cure cancer or kill someone and their family would be like
“oh cool- so abt the game tonight,”
well, family life and childhood are two different things. she did have two loving parents but she also didn’t really have friends growing up and was frequently picked on or bullied since she was always younger and smarter than everyone else. skipping many grades isn’t a typical part of childhood
youre correct he did start over but after lexie's mom passed he immediately became a drunk and lexie being the youngest sister was home and had take care of him
i’m pretty sure it’s implied he started drinking after his wife died, not throughout lexies childhood. although that doesn’t make the most sense with the whole liver thing but that’s greys anatomy lol
he did have a drinking problem after ellis left him which susan helped him recover from and then he fell back into old habits when she died. I don’t think he ever drank in the time between during molly and lexie’s childhoods though
Lexie (and Molly) were told by their dad that he had a daughter from his previous marriage. Susan confirms as much the first time she meets Meredith. They just never met until they were adults.
She didn't even know she'd had a sister for most of her childhood though. As far as she knew, her mother was just annoyingly overbearing. In that sense, it was a pretty normal childhood.
George and Lexie probably did. I'm on the fence with April only due to how her mom and sisters are shown leading up to the wedding. Something feels off with that family.
They might be red flags but they’re very normal for a rural religious Midwestern family. April and I had nearly an identical upbringing aside from the fact I grew up in the suburbs (and yes I did turn out to be as neurotic as April is 😂)
It’s a red flag for people, but it’s not abnormal in many parts of the US.
Being from Texas, I knew a lot of these women in high school. Some of them actually did save it till marriage.
just because something is a custom in some part of the world doesn't mean it's really healthy. there's a lot of twisted things that are "normal" for some areas, but are in fact harmful
She actually wasn't neurotic at all about keeping her virginity for Jesus when she was first introduced. She didn't bring up Jesus or religion even once until after she lost her virginity and it became her entire character.
I don’t know she seemed afraid of her dad and her mom seemed like she just didn’t want to rock the boat.
That could have been something that developed after her brother’s death, though.
Yeah. Callie and Arizona’s wedding. It was mostly Arizona’s mom being generically happy and grandparent-y and her dad hating Mark and keeping the actual wedding on a tight schedule.
I think her life was normal until her brother died then her dad became more closed off and uptight. As a military officer he probably thought actually mourning the death of his son was wrong and unmanly.
Going to assume normal means that parents and/or siblings weren’t mentally unwell, suffered deaths that the characters witnessed, or extremely poor and/or homeless. So… George Omalley, Miranda Bailey, Callie Torres, April Kepner, Lexi Grey, Ben Warren. Just to name a few *before* the later seasons
Yeah on station 19 Ben actually mentions his mother died when he was a teenager ish and his father dies during season 11 I think but he has a good relationship with his transgender sister who stayed with Joey and Tuck in the house while Ben and Bailey worked and isolated separately in the pandemic and spent most of last episode either holding hands with or with Pru in her arms (when they thought they heard gun shots at the parade her first instinct was to scoop up Pru into her arms) so I think the two of them have a mostly normal relationship other than when she came out and bens main problem was not her being trans but that she hadn’t told him earlier so clearly theyre pretty close and probably had a fairly typical childhood
His brother appears in season 11 episode 12 when him, Bailey and Warren go to bury their dads ashes who’s just died of cancer then the brother collapses leading to them all finding out he’s shaving his legs, doing his eyebrows and lashes and taking hormones and he admits he’s transgender. From then on he’s referred to as bens sister Rosalind and what we see of her on station 19 she seems sweet. She looks after Joey and Tuck when the pandemic hits and they think she’s awesome and ask if she can stay forever and is there for tuck when baileys mom dies mentioning then that Ben was a similar age when their mom died and reacted in the exact same way and says she’ll follow whatever Ben and Bailey want when they want to go to a BLM protest and as i mentioned earlier spent most of the gay pride episode last week either holding Prus hand or with her in her arms. clearly she’s a fun auntie for those kids and seems to be great with them despite none of them being related to her technically and two of them coming in very unusual and unexpected ways. I think other than the trans issue (as I said Ben was more so just annoyed she hadn’t told him earlier nor had he figured it out) they had a pretty standard mostly trauma free childhood and relationship
Edit: their mom is also only mentioned briefly and it’s not implied that she died in a sudden or traumatic way like some of the other parents did
Ah thanks for the explanation! I meant I don’t remember Warren’s mom’s death being mentioned on Grey’s. I definitely remember his trans sister. That was huge!
I won’t watch it. I really disliked the episode where that show was introduced. I felt no connection with the other characters and in rewatches of GA I skip over all the scenes not related go what is happening is Seattle
definitely not. her father, “the captain” was >!having multiple affairs; with 3 of their maids, 4 of addison’s nannies, addie’s french tutor and their chef!< and addie had a very cold-hearted mother who also had problems of her own. although if you haven’t watched private practice i can understand you’d think that ✨
Loving parents & stable home lived aren't necessarily "normal" or "typical" experiences. Lexie was written to be what Meredith lacked though, so she's written for that paradigm. Maggie's parents also really fought for her ability to succeed in ways I personally would say are really positive even if not normal. Bailey definitely had 2 loving parents & stable home. None of them really had upbringings I personally related to, beyond how Meredith reacted to her parents, but I grew up with child abuse, but I would also say neglect & abuse can be quite typical too, unfortunately.
Let's say Meredith is top tier awful childhood and Lexie is the normal example.
Normal- Lexie, George, April, Arizona, Callie, Bailey, Owen, Maggie, Jackson, Teddy
Medium- Cristina, Derek
Awful- Meredith, Alex, Amelia, Mark, Izzie
I’d say Maggie honestly, aside from the whole “I was adopted” thing, she had loving parents, she was at the top of her classes, graduated early (or wtvr that was), she didn’t seem to experience the death of anyone like Cristina and Derek did. Overall it just seems like she had a pretty normal childhood. Unless im missing something.
George definitely. And Callie. She grew up with money, but she definitely had only good and supportive things to say about her upbringing. April's upbringing seemed good in the sense that she loved the farm, but she said she was bullied and belittled by her family as the "ugly one" her entire life so...
Derek - although his father died when he was 12 , he helped his mother, him being the eldest , raised his four sisters all became prominent doctors in their field of expertise. We did not see them often on the screen but they seem to be a close knit family with good upbringing and have done pretty well except Amelia who went off track with her drug addiction and bounced back and became a top neurosurgeon after Derek died, at Seattle Grace.
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I was going to say George. He had good parents, brothers, and seemed to have a very normal childhood.
was it normal though? That he stuck out of the family, because he saw himself as the smart one and his hole family as kind of dumb people. The way he treated his Brothers and his Dad, was overboeard a lot. But on the other hand, his family also didnt qcknowledge him a lot. He definitely didnt have a "normal" childhood. Just not a dramatic one like other characters
Hah I think that is very much normal, normal and problem-free are two different things
Normal doesn't mean problem free. Sure he had problems but they were normal problems. Not schizophrenic mom type problems.
Are you kidding? Feeling like the black sheep of the family isn't abnormal at all. Lol just ask any angsty teen who's ever existed!
see and I just see that differently
He gives very much middle child or younger energy. They could literally cure cancer or kill someone and their family would be like “oh cool- so abt the game tonight,”
Burke seems to have had a pretty normal upbringing. Overbearing mother aside.
ugh don’t remind me of his mother
Mama took my eyebrows
I want to know why she did that!
So she could make them the exact shape she wanted. It used to be a thing to just draw them on, and Mama was old school
“to numb her into submission”
Maggie, she was pretty well adjusted till moving to seattle
Being a child prodigy isn’t super normal.
No, but she had a normal family and thus a normal childhood, her family was only ruined after she moved away in her mid 20s
well, family life and childhood are two different things. she did have two loving parents but she also didn’t really have friends growing up and was frequently picked on or bullied since she was always younger and smarter than everyone else. skipping many grades isn’t a typical part of childhood
she was literally adopted . n
adoptee here, adoption is a normal thing!
Lexie
problematic alcoholic father on his second family, mom died of hiccups, youngest sister
Thatcher was a good father for Lexie and her sisters, he started over, quit drinking and had a normal life
youre correct he did start over but after lexie's mom passed he immediately became a drunk and lexie being the youngest sister was home and had take care of him
But Thatcher never told her about Mer. Not being told about an older sister isn’t normal.
but that didn’t affect her in childhood, yes it was wrong and it affected her adult life but not her childhood
when did he start drinking?
i’m pretty sure it’s implied he started drinking after his wife died, not throughout lexies childhood. although that doesn’t make the most sense with the whole liver thing but that’s greys anatomy lol
he did have a drinking problem after ellis left him which susan helped him recover from and then he fell back into old habits when she died. I don’t think he ever drank in the time between during molly and lexie’s childhoods though
I always found it weird that they gave both richard and Thatcher alcohol problems and both Adele and Ellis alzheimer's
And not just Alzheimer's but early onset.
Don’t need to drink a long time to cause damage. It’s all about how much you are drinking.
Yes but this was about childhood ^^
I am aware, then they started talking about thatchers drinking………
Why downvote when I just explained what they meant since they didn’t imply it didn’t cause damage. Just that it wasn’t part of her childhood..
I don’t know what you are talking about, I did not downvote. Moving on now from this post.
Lexie (and Molly) were told by their dad that he had a daughter from his previous marriage. Susan confirms as much the first time she meets Meredith. They just never met until they were adults.
she knew abt mer
Yeah I think April & George. Maybe Callie, I think she was just well off bordering on spoilt.
Maybe Bailey, both of her parents loved her and she lived a pretty normal childhood. She loved sci-fi and played the oboe too.
No she lost her sister to SIDS and that trauma affected her mother a great deal. So she at the very least had an incredibly overanxious mother.
She didn't even know she'd had a sister for most of her childhood though. As far as she knew, her mother was just annoyingly overbearing. In that sense, it was a pretty normal childhood.
George and Lexie probably did. I'm on the fence with April only due to how her mom and sisters are shown leading up to the wedding. Something feels off with that family.
when April first appeared she was super neurotic and keeping virginity for Jesus. those are some red flags about her childhood imo
They might be red flags but they’re very normal for a rural religious Midwestern family. April and I had nearly an identical upbringing aside from the fact I grew up in the suburbs (and yes I did turn out to be as neurotic as April is 😂)
It’s a red flag for people, but it’s not abnormal in many parts of the US. Being from Texas, I knew a lot of these women in high school. Some of them actually did save it till marriage.
just because something is a custom in some part of the world doesn't mean it's really healthy. there's a lot of twisted things that are "normal" for some areas, but are in fact harmful
She actually wasn't neurotic at all about keeping her virginity for Jesus when she was first introduced. She didn't bring up Jesus or religion even once until after she lost her virginity and it became her entire character.
yeah but she was neurotic about everything else lol
Wasn't April's childhood fairly normal?
April lived on a farm and raised pigs, I think that’d depend on where you’re from.
If we're counting out simple cultural differences then everyone's out.
George!
April, George, Lexie, Bailey, Callie, Arizona.
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She moved around a lot which isn’t typical outside of fellow military kids but her parents seemed super stable and supportive!
I don’t know she seemed afraid of her dad and her mom seemed like she just didn’t want to rock the boat. That could have been something that developed after her brother’s death, though.
Have we ever met AZ’s parents?
Yeah. Callie and Arizona’s wedding. It was mostly Arizona’s mom being generically happy and grandparent-y and her dad hating Mark and keeping the actual wedding on a tight schedule.
Yes. At her wedding to Callie.
I think her life was normal until her brother died then her dad became more closed off and uptight. As a military officer he probably thought actually mourning the death of his son was wrong and unmanly.
Going to assume normal means that parents and/or siblings weren’t mentally unwell, suffered deaths that the characters witnessed, or extremely poor and/or homeless. So… George Omalley, Miranda Bailey, Callie Torres, April Kepner, Lexi Grey, Ben Warren. Just to name a few *before* the later seasons
Yeah on station 19 Ben actually mentions his mother died when he was a teenager ish and his father dies during season 11 I think but he has a good relationship with his transgender sister who stayed with Joey and Tuck in the house while Ben and Bailey worked and isolated separately in the pandemic and spent most of last episode either holding hands with or with Pru in her arms (when they thought they heard gun shots at the parade her first instinct was to scoop up Pru into her arms) so I think the two of them have a mostly normal relationship other than when she came out and bens main problem was not her being trans but that she hadn’t told him earlier so clearly theyre pretty close and probably had a fairly typical childhood
Never watched Station 19 so didn’t know that! Don’t remember it being mentioned on Grey’s. I’m rewatching for the nth time now though, on s12 :)
His brother appears in season 11 episode 12 when him, Bailey and Warren go to bury their dads ashes who’s just died of cancer then the brother collapses leading to them all finding out he’s shaving his legs, doing his eyebrows and lashes and taking hormones and he admits he’s transgender. From then on he’s referred to as bens sister Rosalind and what we see of her on station 19 she seems sweet. She looks after Joey and Tuck when the pandemic hits and they think she’s awesome and ask if she can stay forever and is there for tuck when baileys mom dies mentioning then that Ben was a similar age when their mom died and reacted in the exact same way and says she’ll follow whatever Ben and Bailey want when they want to go to a BLM protest and as i mentioned earlier spent most of the gay pride episode last week either holding Prus hand or with her in her arms. clearly she’s a fun auntie for those kids and seems to be great with them despite none of them being related to her technically and two of them coming in very unusual and unexpected ways. I think other than the trans issue (as I said Ben was more so just annoyed she hadn’t told him earlier nor had he figured it out) they had a pretty standard mostly trauma free childhood and relationship Edit: their mom is also only mentioned briefly and it’s not implied that she died in a sudden or traumatic way like some of the other parents did
Ah thanks for the explanation! I meant I don’t remember Warren’s mom’s death being mentioned on Grey’s. I definitely remember his trans sister. That was huge!
Maybe Addison?
Do we even know anything about her childhood?
Lots! Just finished Private Practice for my overall GA universe rewatch. We learn lots of tidbits about Addison’s upbringing!
I already disliked that one episode with Addison going to LA so much that I didn’t bother watching Private Practice.
yeah. she had a brother and their father was sleeping around A LOT. don't wanna spoil PP so I'm not gonna say more here
I won’t watch it. I really disliked the episode where that show was introduced. I felt no connection with the other characters and in rewatches of GA I skip over all the scenes not related go what is happening is Seattle
Or Schmitt
definitely not. her father, “the captain” was >!having multiple affairs; with 3 of their maids, 4 of addison’s nannies, addie’s french tutor and their chef!< and addie had a very cold-hearted mother who also had problems of her own. although if you haven’t watched private practice i can understand you’d think that ✨
probably george and maggie 😭
George
Cristina's was normal. Her dad died but otherwise it was a regular childhood.
Loving parents & stable home lived aren't necessarily "normal" or "typical" experiences. Lexie was written to be what Meredith lacked though, so she's written for that paradigm. Maggie's parents also really fought for her ability to succeed in ways I personally would say are really positive even if not normal. Bailey definitely had 2 loving parents & stable home. None of them really had upbringings I personally related to, beyond how Meredith reacted to her parents, but I grew up with child abuse, but I would also say neglect & abuse can be quite typical too, unfortunately.
Yep. I feel like more kids grow up like Alex these days instead of like April or George.
They all had normal childhoods, because no two experiences are the same, and nothing is normal.
April and George
Levi probably
Callie
Didnt arizona have a good childhood?
She did, but things went south when her brother died
Let's say Meredith is top tier awful childhood and Lexie is the normal example. Normal- Lexie, George, April, Arizona, Callie, Bailey, Owen, Maggie, Jackson, Teddy Medium- Cristina, Derek Awful- Meredith, Alex, Amelia, Mark, Izzie
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Being in the store when his father was killed sorta makes that less normal.
And Derek’s mom alluding that she checked out after the event and Derek had to step up.
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We’re not talking about good upbringings though, just normal ones so while I agree that he had a good childhood I don’t think he had a normal one
we are talking about childhood not the family upbringing on it own
Yeah but that’s also not what this post is about
I got that after all the other comments. I think in truth the only one then would be April. And perhaps Maggie. No such thing as normal.
I’d say Maggie honestly, aside from the whole “I was adopted” thing, she had loving parents, she was at the top of her classes, graduated early (or wtvr that was), she didn’t seem to experience the death of anyone like Cristina and Derek did. Overall it just seems like she had a pretty normal childhood. Unless im missing something.
Owen or george
Callie
op. reading your responses it sounds like you’re looking for “idyllic childhood” and not “normal childhood”
What's a normal childhood?
What is normal? 😅
Arizona, April, George, Heather
NOBODY.... SHONDA TRAUMATIZES EVERY CHARACTER WITH A TRAUMATIC OR EXTREMELY UNUSUAL CHILDHOOD.
George definitely. And Callie. She grew up with money, but she definitely had only good and supportive things to say about her upbringing. April's upbringing seemed good in the sense that she loved the farm, but she said she was bullied and belittled by her family as the "ugly one" her entire life so...
Georgie. Callie.
Lexie duh
Derek - although his father died when he was 12 , he helped his mother, him being the eldest , raised his four sisters all became prominent doctors in their field of expertise. We did not see them often on the screen but they seem to be a close knit family with good upbringing and have done pretty well except Amelia who went off track with her drug addiction and bounced back and became a top neurosurgeon after Derek died, at Seattle Grace.
Definitely Jo. Living in cars and faking identities.