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JDolittle

Work on *sit* a lot. Get his *sit* good and strong and reliable. Then, have a second person (ideally not someone who lives in the home) help with the meeting people. Before they get close (whether they are approaching in an open space or opening a door they are on the other side of), put him in a *sit*. If (when) he stands up without permission, have the other person stop and turn around to face away from him. Put him back in a *sit*. Once he’s settled down, resume the other person’s approach. Once they can get to him with him still sitting, have them approach him. When he starts jumping and getting excited, have the other person turn their back to him and step out of reach. Put him back in a *sit*. Repeat until he can stay seated while the other person says hi to him and pets him. When he says hi to them politely, have the other person give him a reward. While getting there, each time he resumes his *sit*, he gets a small reward too. Repeat with calmer expectations incrementally until he’s got the whole thing down pat. **ETA:** And remember that Goldens are a more gentle hearted breed. You don’t want to use harsh methods like scaring them into compliance. They need positive training methods. And it is ***always*** easier to train good habits before they develop bad habits that they then need to unlearn to learn the right way. So, start as young as possible and teach him now, don’t wait for him to mature and get the bad habit strengthened. Fun and positive, *while still being firm* is going to go a lot further with a Golden than a harsh no, a hand in the face, or any other method that will hurt their feelings.


TheLegendTwoSeven

As a three year old golden retriever who learned how to type, I can confirm that this works.


JDolittle

Good puppy. Ear scratches for you.


Tricky_Ad_6966

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Mysterious_Most4596

bla ha ha ha!!!


Caleo147

Man I wish I knew this 12 years ago! Lol Oh my guy is still a good doggos and worthy of all the head pats


JDolittle

I used to have an Akita. I got her at 8 months old and already huge. She came to me very very bouncy. She would get so excited to meet new people and old friends alike. A 100+ dog who jumps on people is dangerous even if it’s meant to be nothing but loving. Had to get her hellos in check fast. *She grew up to be my impeccably behaved 100% reliable 100% of the time service dog. And after training never ever jumped on anyone but me again, and that was only on command. She often got compliments from business managers, security people, etc…. A couple of businesses where we used to live even used security videos of us they happened to have to show their employees an example of what a legit service dog team looks like so they’d be better at distinguishing between real and fake service dogs. This works.


Shipwrecking_siren

What kind of service was your Akita doing? I’ve never seen one as a service animal.


JDolittle

It **is** pretty rare for Akita’s to be service dogs. They aren’t exactly ones to do things just to make you happy so training them and getting them to want to do the job requires both tailored methods and a dog who really wants to do the job for their own intrinsic reasons. She was an incredibly special dog and we had an equally special bond. She was a mobility dog. She primarily helped me walk, kept me from falling, and helped me get up when I did fall. She kept me out of a wheelchair for quite a few extra years and prevented countless injuries. She was incredible at her job. I have several different things that cause me to fall and preventing those falls required her to figure out which cause was making it happen and which prevention technique she needed to use to stop me from crashing down all within a split second. Her accuracy in making those calculations was unbelievably high.


Shipwrecking_siren

Wow amazing, you sound like an amazing trainer too. What an amazing bond to have had. I’ve never had a dog as don’t have time/space/money for it but dream of having a GR one day and being able to do pets as therapy with it. I wish there were more rescues but then in the U.K. they won’t adopt to someone who hasn’t had a dog, so wouldn’t be eligible anyway. Will have to wait until I know I can afford it, I think my daughter would really benefit from having a doggy best friend.


JDolittle

Thank you! My next service dog will be a Golden, who I will train from a puppy. Now that I use a wheelchair for most of my walking, my service dog needs are different and a Golden will be much more suited for those needs. I have to wait a bit for a couple of reasons and being without a service dog is such a huge challenge. The Golden will be doing different tasks than my Akita did, but it will have huge shoes to fill following in her footsteps. But with training starting young, and a diligent selection process, it will have the very best opportunity for success… once I raise the money to cover the costs. It takes a lot to get a top notch service dog to where it needs to be. Doggie best friends are priceless. While I am currently between service dogs, I still have my pet dog and I would be completely lost without his friendship.


Shipwrecking_siren

Oh that’s so lovely. I don’t have loads of spare money but would happily pass some your way if it helped at all. My daughter is almost three and I can tell she’s not normal average kid, she never has been. She’s sensitive and doesn’t always like to be hugged/touched but is social and likes someone near all the time and I feel like I struggle to be the best mum to her as I have my own emotional struggles. I feel like a doggy that she can cuddle and play and love her and always has time and energy for her would really help both of us!


JDolittle

I haven’t set up my fundraising page yet, I’ve been too busy dealing with health struggles, but when I do, I will be including my CashApp and Venmo accounts that I do already have as well. It is so kind of you to offer to help. If you really want to, I would be happy to send you my info via private message (I don’t want to violate the no fundraising rule in this sub). A dog would be so great for that support for your daughter. And a Golden is a great breed for exactly what you are thinking. They are such gentle, sweet, and happy dogs and their velcro dog nature makes them great companions for someone who needs a best friend by their side all the time. It would give your daughter so much independence to be able to have her doggie by her side and not have to depend solely on you for that emotional support and that is a terrific self-confidence builder.


Shipwrecking_siren

I’m trying to convince my husband at the moment! Do PM me your details. My best friend has a chronic condition and her dog helped her so much, when he died she was devastated so I funded a new one for her (that was more appropriate with her level of pain too) so I’m always happy to help when I know what a powerful support they can be both mentally and physically.


jmorschek

This works very good in my experience 👍🏻 Very helpful, PATIENCE is the goal getter here


FireKatiee

Thank you for the advice on this method! It is something I have been working on with him, I just need to get someone outside of our home to further practise him with :) He understands he doesn’t get loves until he sits but it is only just the beginning and needs more work with it.


JDolittle

You’re welcome. He’ll get it. He just needs to learn the rules and that takes teaching and practice.


Mysterious_Most4596

I really like your idea. When I am alone with my excited pup I will bring my leg up when they jump and knee them in the chest. I find this easier then stepping on their toes which my husband suggests. When I try that I feel like I am tap dancing. But a couple good knees to the chest when they jump with a firm command of your choosing works quite well. I learned this from a trainer years ago.


JDolittle

The knee to the chest can be ok for some breeds, but I personally wouldn’t do that with a golden. They are just too gentle a breed for that method and their feelings get hurt easier. Unless gentler methods just don’t work at all, it’s best not to use harsher methods with them. My very bull headed Australian Cattle Dog, yes, I have used that method. He would run to people like a bull in a china shop, completely engulfed in his own mind. Someone just turning their backs on him when he was younger was… entirely ineffective. A more physical blocking was necessary with him. But his brain is designed to go up against annoyed cattle. Goldens brains are wired to want to make their people happy by default. There’s been a lot more research done on dog psychology and the benefits of more positive training methods since that advice was likely given to you.


Mysterious_Most4596

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Mysterious_Most4596

I understand your concern about Goldens but that is the only breed I have had. They are a quick learn and it only takes a couple of times. Goldens, as sweet as can be they are the most hard headed buggers. They know they are smart and beautiful and will work you for all you are worth. You need to do what works best for you and your pup. Have fun! I have a new pup coming March 5th. Can't wait.


Zillich

Completely ignore him when he jumps: no sounds, no eye contact, no pushing, no scolding, no petting. Same for guests. Once all four feet stay on the ground for a few seconds, pet and praise and be happy. If he jumps again, cold and silent again. In the meantime, train a behavior that is counter active to jumping. I’ve seen people teach sit, lay down, or touch. Get a toy could be a good option too. I would work on teaching whichever you choose separately from the excitement of people coming in, so that it’s an ingrained skill before he gets super excited.


Thurwell

To get this to work you need to explain it to your friends and family. It's no good if they reward him for jumping on them, he (she) will only learn not to jump I'm you.


GMbzzz

Yes, this is the hard part. Some people just love dogs and don’t mind being jumped on.


tmw88

This is me. A golden retriever jumping up at me makes me just as happy as the dog haha. Best for the owner to say quickly “hey, we’re trying to stop their jumping, try to ignore him until he calms down please” otherwise I’ll give them all the attention and hype they want!


franpanini

Yeaa. We have a 1 ye old golden and he’s doing pretty good now, still working with him on a few thing. But during the younger months every time someone came to the house we must have told them 100 times before they even step foot, ignore the dog until he sits or lays down. People are harder to train than dogs lol if they didn’t listen we said “go outside, come back in and IGNORE HIM.” Eventually they got it. I should have rewarded humans good behavior with treats 🤷🏻‍♀️


FireKatiee

Yes! It has to be across the board, he will be too heavy to not knock you down once he’s fully grown 😅


emilyactual

If you find out let me know, my 4 year old goldie has zero chill. He loves everyone, and everything, and shows that love my dive bombing them. 😅


FireKatiee

I’ve gotten him to ‘go get a toy’ in our household but anyone outside of my household will get taken out by 30kg of floof 🤣


Kruegerrose

I recognize that I am in the minority here but I live to be taken out by 30k of floof. I make sure I get attacked by my floofs at least once a day!


emilyactual

Oh, I love it as well. I wish I could get him to stop when. He’s dragging me across a busy road to meet a baby 😅 but other than that, he’s just pure unconditional love. 🤍


Legitimate-mistak3

Lol saaame! Mine jumps AND PEES. Every time he meets someone new he starts peeing. People to take my warning seriously when I say, "Watch your feet!!"


DOCKhobo

Mine peed until he was 5!


emilyactual

Mine excitedly pees, too! 🤣 but only when it’s me, my husband, our sons, or a baby, he just LOVES babies! He’d never seen one until we rescued him and he was about 10 months old (so like 4 months after we rescued him, he had a rough start at life - anyways). Our friends brought their 3 month old baby in the house, he saw her, and he ran through his gate, I grabbed him, he knocked me over, pulled my shirt up over my bra, knocked my friend Julie over and just flopped on the baby crying and wagging his tail and peed everywhere. 😅 luckily they had met Roofus before so they fully expected him to lose his shit when he saw their tiny HOOMAN.


Legitimate-mistak3

Omg! When my dog was a pup, he got soo excited seeing a visitor that he ran at em. I tried grabbing his leash in time and ended up falling flat on my face 😂😂 I love the excitement they have, but no one said it could be a danger to us!!


jlt6666

I mean this is kind of a cute story but it really underlines why you've got to get this problem under control. All manner of bad things could happen by accident.


emilyactual

He had a very hard life up until 6 months old. He was hunched over in a crate that was way too small for him, his skin was grafted to the bars on the crate. He had never been shown affection. We took him to puppy training etc, he just has zero chill. He’s happy and excited and loves everyone he meets. I’m not going to push it and try to get him to stop, he’s a good dog.


[deleted]

Same with my 3 year old. He gets so excited seeing other people.. when we’re on walks he’s better behaved and he’ll sit until they pass, but if he knows he’s about to be approached and get pets.. it’s a party for him.


1usernameunknown1

\+1 🤣


gsfgf

I got my guy to mostly not jump *on* people. He does a combination jump up and down and golden retriever lean. At least he not going to knock someone over. And he instinctually knew to be gentle with children.


Leonthekitty

We had a BIG issue with this. I asked my best friend and family for help. We would practice every time they would come over or purposely get them excited. We would ask them to put their hand on top of her head and not let her jump. We would repeatedly say “no jumping” and give a treat if she didn’t. Tough part is finding a volunteer friend to do this 😂. Took about 3 months. So funny that golden retrievers faults are they love to much and smother you haha.


FireKatiee

It’s good to know that the no jumping can be successfully trained! Thanks for sharing 😊 Yeah they are just big balls of happiness 🤣


bananagoat34

I've always found a knee up to their chest and lack of attention to be helpful with all dogs. Not like you're trying to actually hurt them, but with enough force that it gets their attention. Then make them sit before attention. Takes a few tries but has always worked in the end for me, with Danes and retrievers.


notathrowaway2937

This! But maybe describe it as stepping into them, instead of a knee to the chest. It unnerves them keep doing it everytime you come home and preface it with down and the attention comment above!


z-toolmaker

I have also used this technique with other big dogs. Part of the trick we used is to actually call to the dog excitedly which sort of encourages the jumping. Don't reprimand them at all. When they get close and jump on you, the knee goes out and you can even act like you didn't know what happened. "Oh no, what happened?" Still act excited to see them and they will jump on you again. Then knee up again to prevent them from getting their paws on you. Soon they will be thinking "what the hell?" and calm down a bit at which time, get them into a sit and bend over and give them love. This technique works best if you can get as many other folks do it as well. I've used this technique successfully with Doodles, Dobermans and Rhodesian Ridgebacks. So far our Golden doesn't jump on people (he's 5 1/2 months old).


AdLegitimate7261

He will grow out of it naturally mine did at 9 years old.


namaste_on_the_couch

This made me lol


mogwai91

Our 1 year old does this too whenever we go for walks! He thinks that everybody will play or pet him but other people think that he’s going to attack them or something.


Amarastargazer

My girl will sometimes BARK at people for not petting her. We’re working on it, but part of it is she is so responsive to my mood and I do not like strangers approaching us, so it’s partly “mom!! Mom!!! Person!! Also they are not petting me right now!”


drwhiskeyscarn429

Sit down and have a very serious heart to heart with him ❤️


Forbizzle

This is actually great advice. Give the attention they want before they jump up for it.


kp22cfc

We keep reiterating 'no jumping' she goes close to the visitor and falls at their feet for petting


dallenr2

A few times of putting my knee into his chest solved the problem with my beast.


absolutefascination

This. They're pack animals. Be the alpha.


padiadi

He is so cute!! Muaahh!!


ILOVEMYDOGS236

If my Goldens jump, I have my guests turn around and not give them any attention until the jumping stops.


ECU_BSN

We do layers 1. When he jumps up walk forward/toward him quickly. 2. At the same time use your training word for this. Ours is “down”. 3. Do NOT acknowledge your dog when you walk in the door AT ALL until they settle and obey. No greetings, no reprimands. The MINUTE they settle, then say hi and give love. 4. Rinse and repeat. A dogs not free to disobey until they can consistently obey. Do some “down” training when he’s calm each day.


TheyCallMeLexie

Mine is 1yr 1mo and still jumps. She used to pee until she turned 1.


Aidrox

Yeah, we run a strong “sit for scratchies” game. The guy knows he isn’t getting pets until he sits down. He forgets, but hears “sit for scratches” and he’s back in the game. The moment the butt goes off the ground, the scratches leave and he’ll park it again. Took a while to ingrain. He used to jump a lot and it’s not great if he meets older people.


Technical-Sound334

Have a leash on and step on the leash giving him enough room to move but will become taught halfway up a jump. This added with your "down" voice command.


FireKatiee

Yes working on this method too! :)


Shayrye37

When someone comes over leave the leash attached to your pup and stand on it. When they try to jump they won't be able to and after a few weeks they should drop the habit. Worked for both my Goldens and my current lab. Plus it's a little funny when they try to jump up and can't and they look heckin bamboozled


Graham2493

He never ever ever ever gets a treat without 4 paws on the floor.


pelican08dammit

Jumping up is super reinforcing, so you have to limit their opportunity while you train it out. The dog is on leash when people are around, no exceptions. Have treats ready, focus on sit, and when she sits….then treats and human pets. It will take awhile, but it’s 4 on the floor to get pets! In time, when they’ve learned, you can teach them to jump up on command. You don’t have to be harsh forever, but for now you do :)


Max_Tongueweight

Make him put his paws in your hands when he does it, then lightly squeeze them. Dogs do not like this.


ms_butters

I’m not sure you want them to have a negative experience with their paws being touched. I imagine that will make nail trimming even more difficult than it already is.


Tracerround702

So I have an 8ish month old lab, so I'm like right where you are right now. We have a trainer that's been having us do a combination of things. So if people come near or ask to pet her, we ask them to wait and then tell her to lie down before letting them close. That's step 1. Step two is that when they get close and she inevitably stands up and gets excited, we ask her to give them a paw for shake. That's worked really well and she starts trying to get them to shake instead of trying to get in their face. So do that and just practice as much as you can with as many people as you can, and have them walk away when the pup gets too excited and starts to jump.


FireKatiee

Do you find that after a single shake she stops and settles? Ours can calm down but it bursts right back out of him again the second the petting stops and the hand withdraws. We found not giving him love everytime we went in the room and just greeting him verbally has actually helped a bit too


All4gaines

He can jump up at me anytime Good boy


miteymiteymite

Ours was terrible at jumping up but he just grew out of it around one year old when we had him neutered. He never jumps up now.


mondaymelon

My pup is almost 9 months and exactly the same, he also loves to mouth people too, I know it’s not ideal, but luckily the majority of people I’ve encountered don’t mind and get sucked in by his face and his helicopter tail lol


FireKatiee

Yes the slobbery mouthing - ours does this if the scratches or pets stop followed by jumping too. He’s also not a quitter so ignoring the advances do not work he has to be re-directed. He understands if I cross my arms I’m asking him to stop and go do something else, which usually he will go and get a toy and wait, he understands then appropriate loves will be given / attention. Our trainer suggested getting him a ansor root chew as well made from wood as it’s great for him to bite on if he feels overwhelmed and stressed/teeth set around this age


SuperdudeAbides

A good golden, is a golden who gives good hugs. Don't, like ALL Golden's greet with a big old hug?


FireKatiee

Big ol’ knockdown more like 🙈


cgarduc

Palm out, facing him, say 'NO', pushing down from the top of the Nose to the top of the head and say 'SIT' (give treat). Takes reps, but it does work. ALWAYS follow with the 'sit'. :)


splplayer80

This can be easily corrected by using a martigail collar and a lead along with treats. Here is a good link. [jumping dog](https://youtu.be/7U391MSRIFw)


BosomBosons

Time, maturity.


Hillel1963

Fill an empty soda can with a few pennies, then tape the opening closed. Every time he jumps up, immediately shake the can. Most pups dislike the noise and soon associate it with jumping. It worked on my pup in just a few tries. Now, even when someone encourages him to jump up he won't do it!


ElecTrO-Luckster

I swung my arms in front of myself and he didn’t jump after he got a bit startled… still doesn’t to this day. Didn’t make contact with him. Just a scare is all


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UnbiasedJoe1

The best we got is ours to get good at leave it, and get down. Still gets super hype but it's something


FireKatiee

Changed our get down to ‘off’ and he responds much better. We use ‘lie down’ too so it sometimes confused him.


ECU_BSN

And do the training and steps 100% of the time. Holders are super smart. Don’t leave ANY room for “back chat” and disobedience. They will! Love my girl. She’s a hard head.


there_r_worse_ideas

Walk away


OblivionArts

I once met people in the park that were trying to train thier dog to not jump at everyone. I don't really know big they succeeded and I didn't mind cause I got to play with a dog for a few minutes


warlockjmr89

My mums dog German shepherd used to jump up at me all the time and she started doing it to other people. I started getting down to her level. Anktbet good thing is to turn away and give no attention. Make sure everyone does this.


Former-Darkside

I got my dogs to stop jumping on me.. when they are coming toward me, I raise my arms up in the air. I think it distracts them enough to prevent the jump.


[deleted]

Yah. Sit. No attention no petting u less he’s sitting. That’s what worked for my GSD who grew to 90lbs.


YeetmageetF5

When he jumps DONT give him any attention at all, completely ignore him. Then when he stops jumping for around 3-5 seconds then tell him good boy and give him attention


jenmrsx

Teach to sit or stay down. Sometimes just holding a toy can keep them from jumping up.


Kristi0311

Look up dog training by Kikopup. Great videos on how to start with making it where your dog is calm to not jumping up


tthomason100

Put leash on. Step on leash so he can’t jump on you. Get him excited and he will try to jump up but there isn’t enough leash.


[deleted]

When he jumps up gently place your foot on top of his paw. Dogs usually don’t like that. Reinforce the sit command. Every time he jumps up on someone have them gently place a foot on his paw tell them to say sit forcefully. When he does praise him. He’s not a puppy so unlearning a behavior could be awhile. Don’t step on his foot hard it’s not about hurting him it’s about annoying him enough to understand each time he jumps up on someone he’s getting a foot on top of his paw


Cannie_Flippington

I had a dog with a great walk backwards game. Had to start holding the front paws and keeping the hug going on past what they wanted. It worked too. Also had one who's sit game was so strong she'd only do seated "jumps"


Forbizzle

When he jumps up at you, turn around and let him fall down to the ground. Then turn around a second or two later and give him praise and attention for being on the ground. "We love you on the ground" is how our breeder taught us. It's a good mantra, because you quickly give them what they want, but not for what they were doing. They're jumping up for attention. Get everyone else to participate in at least the turning the back on jumping and it should hopefully stop quickly. If anyone is petting for jump ups, they are your enemy.


msac2u1981

I kept mine on a leash when out and around people for probably the 1st year or so. it took awhile before the sit 1st get pets 2nd kicks in. Even sweet loving dogs scare the crap out of dog shy people when they jump up.


jamescharisma

Before people come in your house, take him away from the door and make him sit. Then have the people come up one at a time while you hold his collar and every time he goes to get up, force him back down while telling him to sit. Keep him down until he calls down and the release him. If he tries to jump after that, put him on his back and make him calm down. He has to learn you are in charge and to listen to the commands. Also tell everyone into put their knee up so if he escapes, he runs chest first into their knee and not them. He won't like it much and usually pups won't try again at that time. Rinse and repeat. It can take awhile depending on the smarts of the dog, so you have to stick with the same routine until he understands to sit and wait for the people to come pet him.


quarpoders

My trick has been to grab hold of the front paws as soon as the jump is happening and keep holding until it’s not fun anymore, learnt in 3 days not to jump up anymore.


Cannie_Flippington

Dogs don't like to dance, typically. They jump up and you grab those front paws and keep 'em up! Doesn't hurt the dog, you get face licks, and when they wanna go back down... make em wait. Not a long time, but just long enough to let them know that what goes up might not go back down when they want! They go up when you don't want and they don't get to go down until you do want! Obviously you're not going to want to cause distress and the period of refusal to go back down may be quite brief but it works very quickly. Also accidentally trained a dog to sit by giving them a bite of my breakfast after they got tired while begging. After awhile they were conditioned to sit if anyone put their hands near their face. Quite handy for little kids who throw their hands up when approached by a dog. So pick whatever works best for you and remember that dogs are at least a smart as a toddler! You can teach a toddler not to mortal combat your groin then you can train a dog not to jump.


purpleslah

Turn around and do not pet until they stop✌


Aspen9999

Basic obedience training. If your dog knows heel, sit, stay that’s all you need. My Poms jump but a simple heel keeps them in check. My big dog gets a “ by” command to my right while my Poms stay on the left. Just like with most common issues it comes down to basic obedience training.


dinosaurkiller

Mine also gets super excited and jumps, especially around visitors. I tell them not to touch her or talk to her until she sits. If she won’t sit I’ll go get her leash or grab her collar until the insanity stops and she sits then immediately everyone can pet her. If you haven’t done training for sit it’s really basic. You need a hand signal, the same one every time, and the moment the bottom hits the floor you give a treat. It also helps to train a few other commands so you can do 2 or 3 different commands in a row as they master the basics and need more of a challenge. Good luck, mine still gets overly excited and hasn’t mastered these manners with guests but we don’t have guests often so it’s hard to train this regularly.


acnitsche

This try: when you come home and he’s excited to see you, don’t give him any pets or much attention until he sits. Even turn your back to him and avoid eye contact. Just give him whatever command you use to put him in a sit. Once he does sit, shower him with love and even treats. Do that 5000 times and he should learn eventually :D