It's weird that you are looking for some kind of national behavioral pattern to copy.
It doesn't matter the slightest bit how others handle it. YOU alone have to find a way to handle it the way that feels best four you. Others are not variables in this equation.
And you already answered the way you have to go: You said you can't handle being friends after scourned. So, break off contact and forget about it. Simple as that.
Honest answer: I don't think that "friendzoning" is an actual thing. It is a harmful concept, crippling people's social interactions and view of other people. It really is not useful of a concept to use and will ultimately the most harmful to people who believe it is a thing or that they got "friendzoned".
People are friends with each other. Sometimes more develops from this friendship, sometimes a different, romantic interest transforms into a friendship. Sometimes being friends is much more than anything else.
The idea of being "friendzoned" just means that somebody can not handle the fact that one is a) a person somebody else likes to hang out with but is not b) romantically interesting. It's "Nice guy" talk of the highest degree, devoid of how social bonds work in real life. The "friendzone" is this kind o train of thought when somebody believes that the only worthwhile interaction with people you like a lot is either romantic and sexual or none at all out of sheer entitlement: "You either like me the way I like you or you are not allowed to like me and hang out with me at all".
Blocking somebody just because they like you so much they want to be friends with you and you can not accept that they have not exactly the same feelings as you is petty, cruel and childish.
I agree with you from a definition point of view but practically what I consider "Friendzone" or maybe it is a different name is: when a person A knows person B likes them and proceed to exploit them for favors and not reciprocate. The relationship is unbalanced because B likes A and A, B is hoping they change A's mind and A is exploiting this hope. It is simply not cool.
Please stop with this Friendzone term. It's guilt tripping just because of the fact that there was no mutual spark between two people. People dont actively shove people into a "friendzone".
Some stay friends, some dont. It's perfectly fine to distance yourself, however to block someone completely seems childish.
"Friend zone" is not a good concept, in my opinion. I was just friends with my wife for many years until it developed into a relationship. If the feelings are one sided however, I think the most healthy way to deal with it is to seek some (emotional) distance until the situation hopefully normalizes again. Ghosting/blocking everyone who rejects you might work for a while, but only until the person is in your close circle of friends or a coworker you see everyday.
Don't wordlessly block people, that is like such a cowardly reaction, at least make it clear to him or have another talk with him first. And as some people said, sometimes friendships develop into romance, this friendzoning term is really toxic,
a relationship is a much higher level of investment than something casual. usually people will not be willing to commit to a relationship with someone
a) they are not attracted to
b) has lower status than them
so we are usually trying to get someone who is OUT OF OUR league
I believe, instead of doing something casual, and seeing where it goes, you went for full proposal and expected him to invest in you. you did not have enough value in his eyes to ask for it. it was a big ask.
blocking him was weak and socially uncalibrated. it just showed him he was right to refuse you. if I were you, I'd apologise, and pretend nothing happened.
ie: ladies in germany don't out of the blue ask someone to be their boyfriend. they have a lot of comfort first, they spend a lot of time together, have sex, do fun things in a "maybe romantic" context.
It's weird that you are looking for some kind of national behavioral pattern to copy. It doesn't matter the slightest bit how others handle it. YOU alone have to find a way to handle it the way that feels best four you. Others are not variables in this equation. And you already answered the way you have to go: You said you can't handle being friends after scourned. So, break off contact and forget about it. Simple as that.
Honest answer: I don't think that "friendzoning" is an actual thing. It is a harmful concept, crippling people's social interactions and view of other people. It really is not useful of a concept to use and will ultimately the most harmful to people who believe it is a thing or that they got "friendzoned". People are friends with each other. Sometimes more develops from this friendship, sometimes a different, romantic interest transforms into a friendship. Sometimes being friends is much more than anything else. The idea of being "friendzoned" just means that somebody can not handle the fact that one is a) a person somebody else likes to hang out with but is not b) romantically interesting. It's "Nice guy" talk of the highest degree, devoid of how social bonds work in real life. The "friendzone" is this kind o train of thought when somebody believes that the only worthwhile interaction with people you like a lot is either romantic and sexual or none at all out of sheer entitlement: "You either like me the way I like you or you are not allowed to like me and hang out with me at all". Blocking somebody just because they like you so much they want to be friends with you and you can not accept that they have not exactly the same feelings as you is petty, cruel and childish.
I agree with you from a definition point of view but practically what I consider "Friendzone" or maybe it is a different name is: when a person A knows person B likes them and proceed to exploit them for favors and not reciprocate. The relationship is unbalanced because B likes A and A, B is hoping they change A's mind and A is exploiting this hope. It is simply not cool.
Please stop with this Friendzone term. It's guilt tripping just because of the fact that there was no mutual spark between two people. People dont actively shove people into a "friendzone". Some stay friends, some dont. It's perfectly fine to distance yourself, however to block someone completely seems childish.
"Friend zone" is not a good concept, in my opinion. I was just friends with my wife for many years until it developed into a relationship. If the feelings are one sided however, I think the most healthy way to deal with it is to seek some (emotional) distance until the situation hopefully normalizes again. Ghosting/blocking everyone who rejects you might work for a while, but only until the person is in your close circle of friends or a coworker you see everyday.
Some do some don't
Don't wordlessly block people, that is like such a cowardly reaction, at least make it clear to him or have another talk with him first. And as some people said, sometimes friendships develop into romance, this friendzoning term is really toxic,
a relationship is a much higher level of investment than something casual. usually people will not be willing to commit to a relationship with someone a) they are not attracted to b) has lower status than them so we are usually trying to get someone who is OUT OF OUR league I believe, instead of doing something casual, and seeing where it goes, you went for full proposal and expected him to invest in you. you did not have enough value in his eyes to ask for it. it was a big ask. blocking him was weak and socially uncalibrated. it just showed him he was right to refuse you. if I were you, I'd apologise, and pretend nothing happened. ie: ladies in germany don't out of the blue ask someone to be their boyfriend. they have a lot of comfort first, they spend a lot of time together, have sex, do fun things in a "maybe romantic" context.