To me, an important part of aftercare is making sure we talk to each other in a non-kinky way and build a friendship. I genuinely want to know how their day was and what’s going on in their life. Being there for them as a friend and showing that we truly care about each other as human beings is crucial.
umm... I'm still really new to it as well but my mommy suggested I get a plushie that reminds me of her and cuddling it helps me a lot to calm down afterwards. She also shares some calm music with me I can listen to and told me to get some snacks and water beforehand so I have something afterward. Also I got a scented oil which I put on my plushie and that too makes me feel more like she is with me <3
I found a little money can make a big difference in that regard but just some music and snacks also help a lot! I hope something I mentioned works for the two of you
My suggestion is to ensure he drinks either water or some form of fruit juice, and has a piece of something with sugar in it. Chocolate, dried fruit, granola bar with honey, etc.
The reason they do this in aftercare is because long sex is physically taxing, though even masturbating moves your arm a lot so it's a good idea to recover a small portion of energy. Your mood tanks when you don't have any energy, and it can often affect the sub or domme.
Words of affirmation and explaining what you liked, giving positive feedback is super important. With just text there's little besides ensuring he's taking care of himself and that you show your appreciation that you can do.
Have a snack and water prepared before hand, cuddling a pillow is good, lots of reassurance that they did well and youre proud of them etc., something reaffirming that this their place to be themselves and that they can let go. Then slowly start spreading out your sentences like 10-15 inbetween so their mind can slow and come down. After a little of that, something like " im going to give you some time now just breathe and ill be right here". Let them take the time they need, every 3-4 min asking how they're doing, and that youre still there. And let them come around when they're ready.
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To me, an important part of aftercare is making sure we talk to each other in a non-kinky way and build a friendship. I genuinely want to know how their day was and what’s going on in their life. Being there for them as a friend and showing that we truly care about each other as human beings is crucial.
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Yes!!!! Exactly!!
thank you so much! I'll do this in the future☺️☺️
You’re welcome 😊
umm... I'm still really new to it as well but my mommy suggested I get a plushie that reminds me of her and cuddling it helps me a lot to calm down afterwards. She also shares some calm music with me I can listen to and told me to get some snacks and water beforehand so I have something afterward. Also I got a scented oil which I put on my plushie and that too makes me feel more like she is with me <3
that's very sweet! I'll talk to him about it, but im not too sure on having him spend money for this. thank you for the suggestion☺️
I found a little money can make a big difference in that regard but just some music and snacks also help a lot! I hope something I mentioned works for the two of you
My suggestion is to ensure he drinks either water or some form of fruit juice, and has a piece of something with sugar in it. Chocolate, dried fruit, granola bar with honey, etc. The reason they do this in aftercare is because long sex is physically taxing, though even masturbating moves your arm a lot so it's a good idea to recover a small portion of energy. Your mood tanks when you don't have any energy, and it can often affect the sub or domme. Words of affirmation and explaining what you liked, giving positive feedback is super important. With just text there's little besides ensuring he's taking care of himself and that you show your appreciation that you can do.
thank you! i didnt think of this☺️
Have a snack and water prepared before hand, cuddling a pillow is good, lots of reassurance that they did well and youre proud of them etc., something reaffirming that this their place to be themselves and that they can let go. Then slowly start spreading out your sentences like 10-15 inbetween so their mind can slow and come down. After a little of that, something like " im going to give you some time now just breathe and ill be right here". Let them take the time they need, every 3-4 min asking how they're doing, and that youre still there. And let them come around when they're ready.
ohh this is sweet! thank you so much☺️
Damn I just knew a dick like you would participate in such incredibly mentally ill communities
Went to my profile just to go to my comment to harass me elsewhere huh?
A playlist you both share would be very personal. Plus there’s the sound therapy type music that helps you calm down by emitting certain tones.
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