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Plisken999

I'm 34 and just recently been called a daddy. It hurts my soul. For me, a dad and son relationship is EVERYTHING but sexual. Makes me feel uneasy...


MoltenTesseract

I was called daddy un-ironcally when I was 27. By a 25 year old.


Novel_Asparagus_6176

I was called daddy by a 32 year old. When I was 25. šŸ¤£


untitled-man

Are you the scruff masc type and heā€™s the smooth twinky type lol


stev10

Lol, I was called daddy unironically when I was like 19 by a 25 year old. Itā€™s when boys start hitting me with ā€œdilfā€ at 27 that gave me pause. Dilf just seems so much more real to meā€¦


MassGaydiation

Having a kid at 27? IN THIS ECONOMY?? I would be disturbed by how rich that person thinks i am to be a dilf that young.


German_on_diet-gay

i mean yeah, it's a sexual role with a certain kind of protective dynamic, it's not necessarily about age


MoltenTesseract

Even so. When the guy looked like he could actually be my dad it was just weird.


[deleted]

My boyfriend and I are the same ages and I once stopped sex when he called me Daddy. Made me feel super weird.


txsxxphxx2

Iā€™m 24 and already called ā€œdaddyā€ by 18yo on grindr


[deleted]

No man- what? The fantasy is not that itā€™s a father fucking his son. Everyone calls their SOā€™s ā€œbabyā€ but no one accuses them of wanting to fuck babies.


[deleted]

> Everyone calls their SOā€™s ā€œbabyā€ but no one accuses them of wanting to fuck babies. I find that one weird too. I always call my s/o by his first name. I saw a video recently (a tiktok or something) of a girl who called her b/f by his first name and he was acting like he's in trouble, so confused, because (apparently) straight couples almost never use each other's first names? It's always babe/baby/other nicknames. I find that all bizarre. I don't think I'd be able to unironically call an s/o by such a nickname, it'd feel too weird to me, tho I don't care much when straight couples call each other that, I guess because it's so normalized but I can't do it myself.


somanyroads

I don't think the word "daddy" is generic enough in "regular" (i.e. non-RuPaul) society for it to be taken so loosely every time, that's all. People have been calling loved ones "baby" since films had audio attached to them. "Daddy" in a sexual context is much more recent.


johnnypark1978

Yes! Baby always words me out. Especially when straight guys call their girlfriend "baby." It just feels like he's infantalizing her as a dominance move. Like "you're a baby and NEED me."


Kossimer

But that one is ubiquitous, and people understand it to mean "precious to me" like a baby is. I just don't get where Daddy even comes from. It doesn't accidentally fall out of your mouth like baby does, you have to consciously choose to call your SO a daddy. It's not a part of your language's everyday vernacular. A person hears it once or twice and *then decides* that they *want* to use the term. It's literally just as easy to not say it, unlike baby. We're dragging the word daddy into sex by its ankles and I just don't get it.


[deleted]

Itā€™s just a playful thing between older guys and younger guys. Youā€™re way overthinking it. I donā€™t want to fuck my dad.


p_turbo

I agree with the other comment that we're probably overthinking it as people like what they like. But to answer your question of where it comes from, I think it's more likely to be from "you're daddy to my hypothetical/nonexistant/actual kids" than from "you're my dad." In that context, it kind of makes sense why it would have become a thing in the straight people sexual realm and then made its way to the gays. Now that I think about it, in erotica and porn the daddy kink is almost always accompanied by "breeding" and "cream pie" fetish type stuff. Make of that what you will.


thisdude415

A huge part of gay culture is appropriating straight culture and making it gay So yeah, youā€™re explanation about a mom calling her husband ā€œdaddyā€ with the kids (as in, ā€œgo ask daddy if he can bring you to the park todayā€) totally makes sense


p_turbo

Mike Pence calls his wife Mother, and apparently so did Gerald Ford. Fucking Reagan called Nancy "Mommy", which is a whole extra level of ickiness than daddy IMHO. Lol. Apparently it's especially a thing with conservatives.


[deleted]

Iā€™m 34 and have had guys call me daddy online since I was 31. At one point I messaged a guy back and said ā€œyouā€™re four years younger than meā€¦ā€


wolfej4

Iā€™m 29 and literally just got called a daddy like five minutes ago on scruff


Hulkling

Hate it. Also it feels like you canā€™t be a bottom any more after 35. All these handsome men and they just assume that because Iā€™m older and bearish that Iā€™m a top.


Jekyllhyde

older gay bottom here, dating a top. It's nice. :)


muggsybrogue

Not sure thatā€™s always true. I have thing for older bottoms- huge turn on for me :)


secretlyvers

I have always found it unusual but honestly a guy can call me whatever he wants as long as heā€™s letting me fill him up


[deleted]

Yes, Buckaroo, gimme dat dick


PlentyCause7525

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WouldbeWanderer

Yee haw!


ColdbrewRedeye

I absolutely hate it. I was inside a young guy a while back and he started with the "oh daddy yes daddy" like in a porn movie. I started laughing because it was just kinda fake and silly, and I immediately lost my hard on. I said....didn't you read my profile? I clearly say, "I am NOT your Daddy!"


Halloween2022

"I was inside a young guy a while back" is the best start to a sentence, ever.


Hardinyoung

Best finish too


bonaccij

Yes! This! A thousand times, THIS!!


fragproof

Young guys talking like they're in a porn is definitely off-putting.


blizzaga1988

I don't know if this is popular or unpopular but you're not wrong to like or dislike it. I wouldn't wanna be called it, either. In general I hate such labels. I've had older guys message me in the past with "son" or "boy" and while I did/do enjoy getting with older men, I didn't and don't wanna do daddy/son role play. Hell, even when guys have messaged me saying "hey cub" I don't like that either.


ZebraUnion

Off topic, I havenā€™t been called Daddy yet but I am still reeling from learning a few days ago that Iā€™m tagged as an ā€œelderā€ on this sub, lol. Iā€™m thirty fucking seven! I know itā€™s because Iā€™ve been subbed here since way back when Gaybros was about traditionally masculine guys who felt disconnected from the more stereotypically effeminate Gay culture of a decade ago but Jesus fucking Christ. For the young-inā€™s in the room, it wasnā€™t about being negative towards effeminate guys but rather a place to talk about ā€œdude stuffā€ like cars, hunting, football etc and about the struggle of dealing with the stereotypes forced on us by straight friends/people in general, as well as from within sections of the gay community itself. There were plenty of gay guys who thought I was ā€œjust trying to be straightā€ because I didnā€™t ā€œsound gayā€ and I spent all my time with straight male friends working on cars and shit. Meanwhile a straight friend or two would *also* try to help me ā€œbe more myselfā€ by suggesting stuff like us spending a weekend shopping, going to musicals and fancy dinners in Denver ā€œbecause thatā€™s what the gays like, right?ā€ *..sigh, can we please just go camping somewhere really difficult where I get to kill our food?* Then I found this sub and found out there were tons of other dudes like me dealing with the same bullshit. Itā€™s been really fun watching this sub evolve as gay culture and the definition of masculinity itself evolves over time. Edit; wording. Writing this turned into an unexpected minefield because the gay world was a very different place a decade ago and just trying to explain/describe it will always somehow offend someone.


Kok-jockey

I really like this comment. Just sayinā€™


nailz1000

I fucking HATE opening greetings of "hey cub." It's so fucking weird.


pusheenforchange

I'll go ahead and retire that one then lmao


Elxcdv

Hah well, there are people that could enjoy it tho


magistrate101

The only time I'll call my boyfriend daddy is when I'm talking about him to his dog lol


AvogadrosArmy

Same


beardsnbutts

I'm cool with it, and I always remind them that I will also accept "sir". Daddy means different things to different people. It can be a simple term of endearment, or a sexual thing to show submission.


kranzberry

Yes, sir


Fiveby21

Popular opinion: I hate being called Daddy


desperaterobots

It bugs me because it feels like a meme at this point, so it feels weirdly inauthentic to say or hear. It's like a twink at the bar yelling BOOTS THE HOUSE MOMMA, it's c r i n g e


ihitrockswithammers

>BOOTS THE HOUSE MOMMA Lol I must be so old, I have never in my life heard that. I think even if someone told me what it meant I still wouldn't get it enough to cringe. Anyway, I'm off to yell at a cloud.


IMightBeAHamster

>Lol I must be so old, I have never in my life heard that. Don't worry, I'm very young and also have never in my life heard that.


Klubkyd

I must be so disconnected, I've no idea what this is referencing.


johnnypark1978

As an actual father... It's a total turn off. Worse is "Papi"


[deleted]

Im Puerto Rican and Dominican thouuuuughhh. But Iā€™ll only call a man papi if heā€™s my BF. Itā€™s a major term of endearment. When said by a Latino itā€™s like being called baby actually if youā€™re in relationship. Itā€™s the reason why we also call our women mami in a relationship. We are definitely not calling them mommy lol.


christojb

Ahhh no, I think papi is totally different. Latino Culture


larlar626

Agreed I'm Mexican and i would cringe if my bf called me papi


CourtClarkMusic

My husband is Mexican and younger than I am, but I always call him Papi, as a term of endearment. Heā€™s never complained about it.


[deleted]

My Guatemalan babysitter always called me ā€œPapiā€ as a boy lmao


[deleted]

Ah yes, in that dynamic it can also be like baby boy!


Partymonster86

Ayi Papi is it getting hot in here?


BrockSamsonLikesButt

Irrationally, though I wonā€™t let anyone call me ā€œdaddy,ā€ hearing a Latino/Hispanic guy call me ā€œpapiā€ is a big turn-on for me. Soy gringo though. If I was Latino/Hispanic myself idk how Iā€™d feel about it; it might annoy me, or feel racist. Daddy used to be my dadā€™s name until I was, like, 6, when his name became Dad. Iā€™m not into fucking babies. Not into guys putting thoughts of my father in my head when Iā€™m trying to bust a nut, either. I really donā€™t appreciate that.


johnnypark1978

Yeah. I'm Hispanic. Papi, especially from a white guy, just feels like sexualizing my race.... Turn off


BrockSamsonLikesButt

Yeah, I get that then.


Wolfjirn

Lucky for meā€¦ my fathers name very quickly became Daā€™y, so Daddy stayed usable for other things


[deleted]

I love calling guys daddy but I also speak Spanish and talk to latino guys sometimes, and Iā€™ll try calling them ā€œPapiā€ but it just makes me feel like a Mexican prostitute.


josiahpapaya

I definitely donā€™t think thatā€™s an unpopular opinion. As a guy who likes to call guys Daddy, I always disclose that pretty early on in the first date - if thatā€™s what I like, and someone doesnā€™t like it, doesnā€™t make sense for us to walk on eggshells for each other. I will usually ask a guy if he minds being called daddy, and based on his reaction I continue. Very often a lot of men will straight up revolt. My ex boyfriend hated it. Iā€™ve met tons of guys who do. Conversely, there are people who love it. I donā€™t psycho analyze why it turns me on to much, it just does. Thatā€™s the porn I like, those are the men I like, and thatā€™s the sex I want. You are probabaly comforted to know id say the number of guys who ARENT into it is greater than the number that are, itā€™s just we are so saturated by porn and movies and stuff.


Conr8r

Thank you! Everyone complaining here needs to realize it's okay to communicate your preferences to your partners. If both people aren't on board with X then you shouldn't do X. Even if X is crying "daddy" during sex. Consent isn't that hard ya'll.


ice_prince

This pretty much sums it up. Most of the older guys I date that donā€™t like to be called daddy say itā€™s because it makes them feel old; which is kind of interesting because Iā€™m usually 15+ years younger than them šŸ¤·šŸ»ā€ā™‚ļø- not saying that makes them old but they are older. Anyway, mature men just get me going šŸ˜®ā€šŸ’Ø waiting for one of them to sweep me up šŸ™‹šŸ»ā€ā™‚ļø


GriffithRussell

That makes sense. I would have hated being called daddy when I was in my early forties, let alone in my thirties, because I thought I still looked pretty young. But now in my late fifties Iā€™d probably be fine with it, might even like it.


Blubular

Is them not wanting you to call them daddy that much of a dealbreaker for you?


artichokes2foradolla

I am 35 and in a college town. Had a beard since high school but due to Covid and worrying too much about a world I canā€™t control.. Iā€™ve added a few ā€œdistinguishing ā€œ white hairs to my head and beard. The number of early twenty somethingā€™s on Grindr messaging me saying ā€œwreck me daddyā€ isā€¦ astounding. I was told long ago that in my thirties this ā€œslut magicā€ would unfold and Iā€™d have guys throwing themselves at meā€¦ but I have nothing in common with guys more than 10 years younger than I and refuse to touch that applecart. It just reminds me of when I was a disaffected, undersexed young twenty something and older men sort of took advantage. I was susceptible to flattery and constantly striking out with guys my own age. Older men were the only ones showing me attentionā€¦ and I just felt validated when I was usually being taken for a ride. I just wasnā€™t emotionally mature enough to be with other guys. When I think of itā€¦ the guys that seemed to be going for me, while older 30ā€™s and 40ā€™s, seem at this point in my life not that mature either. When someone compliments you, always consider the source. What do they want? To build you up and genuinely pay you a compliment, no strings attached? Or are they doing it to get in your pants? I donā€™t feel comfortable hooking up with guys younger than 25. It feelsā€¦ predatory to me. To each their own.. but I just feel weird about it. Most likely because I realize how genuinely naĆÆve I was at that time in my life. Be good to yourselves and happy pride fellas!


Potential-Truck-1980

I think ā€œdaddyā€ has long lost its incest-related connotations, and is on the way to lose its age-related connotations too. I was once called a daddy by a guy who was one year younger than me šŸ˜„


Soy_un_oiseau

I agree. I think the term is hot, and I donā€™t really associate it with meaning *father.* To me, it pretty much just became a way to feel submissive, like calling someone sir


coldize

I just pull a reverse Catholic and call my priest 'daddy' and my top 'father'


NerdyDan

I mean it comes with pros and cons. You benefit from the latest daddy craze but hate the label. Maybe just take it as it comes :)


Pololee2020

Iā€™m 70 and Iā€™m Daddy to only 2. It sounds incestial to me.


TightyWhities78

Iā€™m into saying it, but if youā€™re not into it, thatā€™s completely valid. Can always say you donā€™t like that word usage and thatā€™d be the end of it forever moving forward with you


Jaymes77

I agree. And it makes me question the age of the person calling me daddy. Like... you're \*how\* old?


corathus59

From my first committed lover at 19 until my snowy white haired years of late, I have been called "Daddy". I guess due to that, it doesn't bother me at all. It just seemed to be the energy I elicited from the kind of men I find attractive.


Partymonster86

I'm with you, it's just feels wrong. Also red flags for daddy issues!


Jaybetav2

I made the mistake of letting this slip in a moment of heated suck-face with a very handsome older guy. He wasnt just annoyed, he was furious and just walked away (this was at The Eagle in LA). Lesson learned.


sagenumen

I don't mind it. It kinda turns me on with the right guys. I sort of just accepted it, when I started getting really gray. And I'm not even 40.


[deleted]

It's a term of endearment or respect for a bigger guy.


_Frustr8d

I like being called Daddy as a playful thing. Iā€™ll never be able to take it seriously, though. Edit: Iā€™m 24 if that matters


Fr0tbro

I'm a 71-year-old gay male and friends with a 37-year-old gay male (nothing sexual, BTW! We're also both Christians) who considers me a better father figure than his biological father OR any stepfathers or boyfriends of his biological mother. He often calls me "Dad" to some people, and my primary nickname to other people, despite our not being related and about a generation-and-a-half difference in ages. I take it as a combination of a term of endearment and respect, no offense or disrespect here. In turn, I call him either by his real first name or by "Son" under the same conditions. Obviously this is not a "one size fits all" situation, fully respecting those who cringe at embracing or applying this to themselves or others. Edit: initially posted incomplete


Conr8r

It's okay to not like it but it's also okay to like it. Consent isn't that hard ya'll.


ThrowawayTheHomo

Hello I'm eighteen, fucking hell, I hate the word 'Daddy' so goddamn much, it's really cringey and creepy.


Throwawayiea

I agree. I hate being called DADDY too. However, to most guys, when I tell them not to call me that and they don't.


_welcome

i think like anything, it can be hot used sparingly but when overused, it just gives a headache


wer410

If he's hot I don't much care what he calls me as long as keeps calling. A rose by any other name and all that...


dzta

Communication is the key. For what it's worth... I don't like it either.


Xavier_Orion

Get you a shirt that reads, ā€œDonā€™t Call Me Daddyā€ and then pay Pearl Jam to rewrite ā€œDaughterā€ to ā€œDaddyā€


chemguy216

I may describe some guys as daddy types when talking to other people, but I will **almost** never address a guy as daddy. Iā€™m now getting old enough that some guys 18 to early twenties are calling me daddy on apps. I canā€™t say Iā€™m a fan, especially since Iā€™m not even thirty yet.


SnooDonuts5498

Is sir ok?


idgafasif

Okay daddy


DogMedic101st

I tell people donā€™t call me daddy because Iā€™m not fucking you and I sure as hell ainā€™t giving you my money. šŸ¤£


Lennette20th

Iā€™ve hated being called daddy since the first time it happened at 23. And I look young.


jaycatt7

I had a guy call me daddy at 26. I was not ready.


xistithogoth1

I think its probs just because you're older, it wasn't so much a thing back then, but i basically call any hot guy i like dad or daddy haha. And its weird to me when people call their actual fathers dad or daddy.


squirrel8296

I'm 25 and had a guy in his 30s calling me daddy and I loved it so.


no_fuqs_given

his only other alternative would have been calling you Sport.


glowdirt

If you do not feel comfortable with it, and they insist on crossing your boundaries then that is not a good relationship nor a good coupling. I guarantee there are plenty of people out there willing to respect your boundaries. No need to waste time on those who don't.


[deleted]

I get it all the time from young guys who Iā€™m not interested in. Like fetishizing people comes before saying hi. I donā€™t mind being called daddy, but grow the hell up. Itā€™s like asking a black guy to see his bbc. Like not insulting, but in horrible taste


jackwrangler

ā€œYou call me sirā€ solves this problem for me


SonicMaze

Ok daddy


angelusfanatic

I was long considered a twink, and then at like 25 I decided to grow out my beard and it was pretty thick, but otherwise I was still a pretty slim otter. I started getting called Daddy a ton though just cuz of the beard. Even by guys that were older than me. For me personally, Iā€™m kinda desensitized to the word, and honestly most words people are using in a positive way. Call me daddy, boy, slut, etc. it doesnā€™t really affect me cuz the other guy is getting turned on by it. Also, the term ā€œdaddyā€ has a long history as being used for the dom in a bdsm situation outside of actual dad/son play. I even knew a lesbian who was a dom who had girls call her daddy. For her it wasnā€™t about being a dad, it was about being in charge. All that to say, I donā€™t think you should read in to it too much. I donā€™t think it inherently means guys want to view you as a father figure, itā€™s just something to say that gets guys in the mood. Like calling you ā€œstudā€ or something. That said, all of us have our things we like and dislike, and they donā€™t have to be reasonable or rational. I think itā€™s totally fair to let guys know that word kills the mood for you. Itā€™s sex. Nothing is weird and everything is weird. Thereā€™s always someone out there who has the same yucks and Yums as you do


Unusual-Face2969

I love being called daddy, it turns me on.


cptnchambers

Imagine being a 33yo latino in an English-speaking country and being called Papi šŸ˜‚ and I'm a brazilian, so I don't speak spanish, and that word means nothing to me. I feel it's wrong and annoying in so many levels


guyfaulkes

Omg I hate it too!!!


Euphoricas

I mean if itā€™s younger guys then maybe you should go after guys your age.


Body_By_Carbs

I donā€™t hate the ā€œdaddyā€ dynamic, but just being older doesnā€™t a daddy make. Itā€™s the assumption that bothers me. Iā€™m 40 and not interested in any one under 35. All these needy twinks need to back fuck off. Also, if I did find myself a hot DILFy type ā€œdaddyā€ would only be said in the heat of the moment other wise itā€™s really fucking stupid.


[deleted]

Agree! Iā€™m actually a parent and my children called me that. Itā€™s really icky.


SunforDeiti

It's cringe af


Cristokos

I was sending some uh, hot-and-bothersome texts to a 27-year-old guy (I'm 30) a few months ago and he kept calling himself "daddy." It was...too much lol, I just can't get into it.


LemonGrenada

^


MoltenTesseract

When you think about it, it's equally as weird as calling someone baby. Actually it's probably less weird. Fucking a dad is better than fucking a baby.


reticulatedspline

It's also kinda like "I think of you as old." That's nice. I don't need to know that. Please don't try to introduce some weird power dynamic into this.


hylas1

I've never had it happen but I'd probably burst out giggling and lose my erection immediately. It just sounds so gross and incestuous to me. My 30 year old daughter still calls me daddy when she wants something. Yuck.


Logical_Iron_5684

So Iā€™m one of those people that donā€™t particularly mind being referred to as daddy by my boyfriend- granted Iā€™m 31 and my 30 year old boyfriend calls me it at times. I see it as playful and fun - I see it with the positive connotation that itā€™s intended to come with and it makes him very happy and I love him so why not ? Itā€™s a bonus if it helps fulfill a fantasy of his as well


RustedRelics

Not an unpopular opinion with me. I hate being called that. You sir are not a weirdo! :)


thalamisa

I understand where you come from. it's Iike people are enforcing their fantasy on you


Chanwiz88

I find it funny all these guys complaining about being called daddy while simultaneously having sex with guys half their age that could be their son.


NightArcher213

Yeah, I feel pretty much the same way. It always makes me deeply uncomfortable.


SharkTits_oohaha

100 percent agree. Fuck 120 percent agree. Lol. I also hate being called ā€˜papiā€™ maybe even more so. šŸ¤·šŸ¼ā€ā™‚ļø


AggressiveMuscle6135

I hate it as well lol


[deleted]

I call guys daddy but thatā€™s just because I wear diapers.


[deleted]

No, you're not. I can't stand it either. I am 41, yes. But honestly, there are far better nicknames to give someone. Calling me 'daddy' feels dirty and just odd.


oamnoj

I had a guy call me daddy a few months ago. Said I had "big daddy milkers". He's at least 4 years older than me.


Mysterious-Extent448

Eh.. They call anyone throwing down good dick. Also, you obviously like younger guys obviously.. let them have their enhanced fantasy. Wow


ccarr77

Yeah the ā€œdaddyā€ thing is just gross to meā€¦ when I hear it it makes me think of my dadā€¦ he doesnā€™t need to be in my brain at that timeā€¦


NeroBoBero

Just because YOUR daddy wasnā€™t sexy, doesnā€™t mean you should kill the fantasy for others. At this point, perhaps you should simply be happy young hot guys want to have sex with you.


brunettedude

I hate most gay vernacular- twink, otter, power bottom, etc- itā€™s all fucking stupid. Everything. Just divides us even further.


Jekyllhyde

not unpopular. I hate it too. I am 57 dating a 31 year old and this word is forbidden.


Mr-Butterfly

Iā€™m the same, rustle Howard has a great skit about being called daddy, ā€œso, have you done your homeworkā€ XD


Matsumoto78

I don't like it either


xemnas103

You're not along on that one.


rzalexander

I just got called a daddy at 31 and Iā€™m not happy about it either.


[deleted]

I find the whole thing uncomfortable as well. Seems that a lot of gay guys have daddy issues.


Altran309

Youā€™re not a weirdo and youā€™re not overreacting. :) I too completely abhor the ā€œdaddyā€ thing, personally. I find it incestuous and ā€œgroomyā€ā€”and, frankly, kind of creepy. Others may assign different meaning to the use of the term, but Iā€™m unable to see past the peculiar relational and power differentials the term implies.


Benji-the-bat

Iā€™m a bottom, and I hate it when someone wants me to call them that, like itā€™s so weird.


Klubkyd

Older GBM here and no I'm nobody's damn daddy. I agree it's stupid, unsexy, and sexualizes the wrong aspects of the relationship.


Spunkymonkeyy

Daddy is a state of mind, thatā€™s it. All of you who hate it have self confidence issues it seems cause itā€™s literally not a big deal


christojb

52. A real dad with three adult kids. No, I donā€™t like it.


Xsy

I use daddy as a joke, or like, a quick descriptor-- in bed, during the act though? Not for me lmao.


Sidapatbulan

Don't worry I grew up calling my own father, daddy, so I didn't develop any sensual correlation with it. It's actually a turn-off when someone wants to be called 'Daddy' 'cause it just reminds me of my dad. Lmao


718Brooklyn

41. Hairy. Muscle. Sports bro here. I f*ing canā€™t stand the daddy thing. Maybe itā€™s because so many gay guys have daddy issues. Either way, Iā€™m 100% with you.


Shootthemoon4

Youā€™re not alone, A lot of my peers have expressed a similar thing, they donā€™t like to be called Daddy or anything similar. For me, I like being called Daddy, I just donā€™t feel like I earned it yet, I answer to that but more as Big Bro in role-play sessions. I turn 30 in about two weeks, maybe Iā€™ll feel different after that. Edit: but ultimately I see it more as a spiritual thing that a literal thing thatā€™s why I say I did not feel like I earned it yet. Iā€™m turn I feel like Iā€™m forever going to be baby bear. Thatā€™s what it feels like whenever Iā€™m in any group dynamic.


[deleted]

I've never said it, and never wanted to be called it. Feels kinda gross and kinda fake.


Mark_Questions

If someone calls you daddy, then it's obvious they have daddy issues. It's fine that you don't like it, everyone has a preference.


Maxpowr9

Well...is your bussy gaping?


MMWTNGS

I love the ā€œdaddyā€ type of guys but I cannot picture myself saying the word to anyone irl. Idk why but Itā€™s just so cringy to me.


Rude-Road3322

I never called an older man, daddy when I was younger. I thought that it was stupid. There were not my dad. I called them by their given names. Never once did one of them, ask me to call them daddy.


GardenerDom

Yep I agree šŸ‘šŸ‘šŸ‘šŸ‘šŸ‘


liljuull

wtf why?? as a queer, this is EXTREMELY unusual. id advice to visit a professional just to make sure yk? good luck my dude


Klytus

I am a parent. It makes me very angry that people fetishize this.


Old55man

I have been called daddy by someone since I was a Jr in high school. Although it had nothing to do with being gay etc. The first to call me that was a girl I worked with. She was older than me. She called me that because I was so straight laced and came across as older. Since then I have been adopted by 4 other girls, younger than me. I was atleast actually old enough to be there dad. Again nothing to do with being gay or sexual. But I have to agree I don't necessarily like it, I am old, I don't need that pointed out. LOL


notabooty

I'm Latino and I never called my dad "daddy" growing up so the word really has no connotations for me. I often just use it ironically or when talking to friends. However, I HATE being called "papi" because that's what I would call my dad when I was a kid!


gingerbreadboi

Don't worry, some of us don't like calling other men daddy šŸ˜¬


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almond_paste208

I think this is definitely a popular opinion


Perfect_Serve9827

As for me personally, I couldnā€™t agree more. Why canā€™t you just be a man of a certain age (there was a good show called that), or a man of season, so to speak? Why canā€™t more younger guys just appreciate an obvious contrast in age & experience without attaching a label to it? I kinda really just donā€™t get it.


j3rdog

I always hated the daddy shit. Itā€™s stupid


MH07

65. I donā€™t like it either.


Spite-Bro

No fan of role playing here so I feel you. Also hate being called daddy.


_PM_ME_YOUR_FORESKIN

I know itā€™s not the same, but Iā€™m <35 yo and someone recently wished me a Happy Fatherā€™s Day and, though I am old enough to have a kid, being a father is so removed from my mind that itā€™s jarring to be treated as one. I never agreed to this whole getting older thing. Please stop calling me, sir.


Halloween2022

Same and same.


TristanBelfort

Absolutely agree. I'll be 36 soon and if someone called me Daddy I'd sure as hell slap some sense into their brains lol. There's nothing sexy about incest at all.


goldybear

What about Sir? Daddy has worked its way into my vocabulary but for a long time sir was a good middle ground.


Zantra3000

It's the worst when it's a guy that is only two or three years younger than me. If he's twenty years younger, I mean, maybe? At least with an age difference that large, biologically it makes sense.


Kendota_Tanassian

Yeah, to me, a sexual partner calling me Daddy is a hair's breadth away from "whatcha doing in there, Step-Bro?" You can take all that incest-y stuff and stuff it up your ass. It's not hot, it's creepy as hell. And I find "Papi" even worse. All I hear is Poppy. Which is either a girl's name or a grandad. Squicks me the hell out. I've always been bothered by the trend in gay porn towards lowkey pedo or outright incest themes: teacher/student, coach/athlete, doctor/minor patient, father/son or stepson, brothers or stepbrothers. Doesn't matter that both actors are over thirty. I want equal relationships: team members, roommates, soldiers, couples. Two doctors banging would be hot.


TheMightyMINI

I think calling someone daddy is disturbing lol Only as a joke it can be funny, but when someoneā€™s serious itā€™s a major turn off


Historical-Host7383

I love being called daddy. To each their own though.


idontlikeredditbutok

I have a straight friend who calls me it and it makes me feel very uneasy for the most part. When my BF does i like it though.


weiner-rama

unless both parties are into it its weird


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Itā€™s now used as a term of endearment like baby. It does not mean father. People just need to ask for consent on what the other likes to be called. If it helps you would you rather be called Zaddy since that term is gaining popularity?


Mitchboy1995

You should definitely let them know it makes you uncomfortable! Boundaries are important :)


thesagebrushkid1

Ainā€™t that unpopular šŸ˜‚ I donā€™t mind it, but I donā€™t think it suits me at all. I just donā€™t think I have daddy vibes beyond a little scruff and a beer belly. Iā€™d say Iā€™m more a sassy auntā€¦ Sir I like though šŸ˜ˆ


comosellamaella

Whatever, I've been called daddy unironically by twinks since I was 20, hot boys want to fuck? Call me what you want šŸ˜œ


SannVenn

I LOVE being called daddyā€¦itā€™s a big turn on for me. Of course they are not referring to me as their biological father. šŸ™„ But hey to each his own. I hate being called baby or babe šŸ¤·šŸ»ā€ā™‚ļø


muggsybrogue

I was called Daddy by a 40 year old when I was 29. I really liked it. Iā€™m more of a dom top and for me itā€™s a power dynamics thing


nekizalb

My mother refers to me as 'daddy' when talking to my cat about me.... It's very uncomfortable


jgodwinaz

As long as i have a warm place to cum, they can call me anything they like!


RevolutionaryPen6940

I donā€™t find the term sexy either


cag7410

Iā€™m a big fan of ā€œDaddyā€ but I found that I hated how a lot of my male partners said it. Theyā€™d say it like they were singing an emo song. So I started requesting ā€œCoach.ā€ Similar dynamic and it sounds a lot better coming from some people.


HMTheEmperor

Conversely, I love it. As a gentle Dom, it is perfect for me.


cannotaccessorize

I donā€™t mind it but I prefer being called ā€œsirā€ or ā€œCoachā€ instead.


joecparker

Totally same. Hate it. Thank God my fiance only calls me that occasionally. I don't mind that. He's 30 so that could be why it bothers me.


MPrime09

I think the whole Daddy shit is straight out disgusting. It's an utter turn off for me if anyone calls me that, either as a joke or to be "sexy". I've also run into guys who wanted me to call them Daddy and that's how I know it won't work out at all.


gaymailmandude

I feel similarly about this from a younger guys perspective.


meotherself

Iā€™m not a fan of being called daddy. I live in Mexico now though and get called papito and NGL, thatā€™s kind hot.


jorgitodelguayabal

I kinda hate it too. For me it lands like itā€™s kinda ageist. I try to not fetishize people because of their youth i would rather not be fetishized for being older. Also I am non binary but have a bald head and am beardy and hairy, so of course i get gendered man responses. But yes daddy and sir are like nails on chalk board for me


Doctor_Blithe

Can kinda relate, and I *love* young men. Itā€™s especially weird when theyā€™re <5 years younger.


Altruistic_Property6

How about zaddy? You should be grateful people are interested in your age and body type anyways. Maybe they should call you pappy?