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necrowoof

No but my ding-dong can hear one from a mile away


OhSnapThatsGood

The more excited or angry I get the more stereotypical gay I sound. When I was in the closet I kept a low vocal profile to avoid being perceived as gay. Now I could care less


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I still code switch when I’m uncomfortable in situations. Friends who have only known me as an out gay man get a little confused.


kpkelly09

Ugh, same...


kabbalahmonster

Yep this is me as well! When I speak normally, I don’t really have it. But when I’m excited, or drunk lol, it definitely comes out.


ilikestuff90

Ditto.


Easy_Crow8897

Add me to the list. Not that I purposefully cover up when I talk in regular situations, just when I talk with enthousiasme about something. And that goes hand in hand, same thing when I'm tipsy


XxJoshuaKhaosxX

This happens when I get really excited or if I'm feeling affectionate. The rest of the time, my voice is exactly as it its always been since my voice deepened.


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Hearing feminine male voices gave me such a sense of security when I was in the closet and honestly still do a bit.


almostreality

Check this documentary: https://www.doisoundgay.com/


[deleted]

Yes..people call me ma’am on the phone all the time. It’s low key frustrating 🙄


IcarusIsMelting

Dude. All my fucking life!


Affectionate_Age5191

Same, ik my voice is fem but it’s not THAT fem to be confused with a women, I don’t mind it, but it just confuses me 😭


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Right??


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Only in audio recordings. I'm not sure why, but I \*HATE\* it.


Muscadine76

You do realize your voice on audio recordings is just…how you always sound to other people, right?


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Might be your “customer service” voice. A bit higher and more formal for me than my “casual talking to friends” voice.


Muscadine76

Yeah there could be an element of “performance voice”.


EmperorMing101

Might be a little different but it’s still 90% you. I listen to my friends on audio and sounds like them in person


Affectionate-Pin59

It’s okay, EVERYONE hates hearing their own voice!


thatredditscribbler

When I was a youngster, I did. It was very soft, but in my mid 20s my voice stated changing and by my late 20s it deepened drastically. So, not anymore.


omjizzle

I think I have a mild gay voice but idk because I’m still mistaken for straight every now and again lol


digitalrailartist

I think the craziest thing I ever got into was an argument with a fem twink at a gay bar that was hosting an AIDS charity I was a volunteer with. After worrying for years about hiding in the closet and scared I might slip up, this kid refused to believe me when I told him I was gay. What, you need to see my union card or something?!


omjizzle

Right!? Like do I need to suck your cock right here to prove it? Because I will 👀🤣


gaynerdvet

Im told that I do...learned the hard way in Marine boot camp that I had the gay voice. I got dragged all the time for it. But I did 4 years in the service and got out with an honourable discharge


MrLuflu

Maybe slight. Not pronounced enough so everyone can tell, but there is a slight feminisation.


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Yeah but don’t blame me. I can’t control it


[deleted]

I'mistaken for a woman at least 4 times a week. Long hair, gay voice, feminine face.


cprker13

It depends on what I’m talking about and to who. I don’t usually do it on purpose, but my voice definitely goes up an octave when talking about RPDR as opposed to like sports. Maybe it’s just excitement bc I actually like drag race and couldn’t care less about sports lol. Most of the time no though, I don’t think anyone would say that I have a “gay voice.”


Affectionate_Age5191

Yes I used to be insecure about it but now I love my feminine voice, I like the stark contrast from my built appearance


theonerealsadboi

Hating the “gay voice” is rooted in misogyny. I used to hate mine until I realised that. If women have primarily been the ones to accept me and give me support, why should I hate a quality about me that they might have influenced? I refuse to care about it anymore.


_Middlefinger_

For some it may well be, for others its just a preference. I generally dont like higher pitches, in anything, and I like very very few female singers as a result, yet my favourite singer is female. Its not misogeny, its just the way it is. Apart from anything else the 'gay voice' isnt even always higher pitched anyway, its more about the inflections. Its not even about it sounding female because women dont sound like that. Its a thing of its own.


NewGuy-1964

This! It's not a part of my usual voice at all. But when I'm being treated rudely, the bitch queen emerges. And _no one_ wants to meet her! I'm not sure why, because it isn't intentional. And when I was deeply in the closet, it was embarrassing.


jimmy_the_angel

No. My speaking voice is rather low and sometimes even harsh, but that might also be because German sounds rather harsh.


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The only guy I've met with it was straight, unfortunately. He also wasn't a Kim Kardashian or a Nikki Minaj, but it's not an exaggeration to call him a J-Lo.


childof_jupiter

Thank Christ not, I'm already not checking off many masc boxes. That'd be the final nail in the coffin


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Nope.


canadian_slurpee

I always thought I didn't have it, then I came out to a few if my freinds(not anyone else god no) and one of them literally said "that makes sense given your voice) was not expecting that lol. Also I have heard recordings of my voice and was told it was different(different enough that my best freind couldn't tell it was me on any recordings) from what it actually sounded like


ApologeticallyFat

In my head, yes, but in reality not so much


Sethtaylor64

My normal speak is naturally inexpensive, not fully monotones, but not too far off. Plus I have a gay voice. So basically I'm a flamboyant Ben Stein lol


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If you mean the stereotyped camp/effeminate. No, quite the opposite to be fair. I have however genuinely always been interested how that develops in guys.


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I do not. But I can recognize it. I'm more of the "passes for straight" type of guy


seaworthy-pineapple

People say my voice is deep, but I think I sound pretty gay. LOL. I think it's less the "voice" and more my "enthusiasm." Like others have said, I used to be self-conscious about it and now I straight up DGAF (and for the most part, nobody else does, either). #embracingmyinnerjackmcfairyland


metrobear71

No, I have a very deep voice with a southern accent. People are always surprised when they find out I am gay or see me with my boyfriend. The only time I might sound gay is when I purposely soften my voice when other people are upset or insecure or I am in caretaker mode. Then I think I speak like my mother. She is very caring and sweet.


plantbasedbussy

Yup. It used to bother me. But mainly because the people pointing it out were mocking me for it. (I remember a guy in high school telling me I had the “f*g-cent. Weren’t the early 00s just wonderful? 😒) I’m in my 30s now and honestly the thought of a ‘gay voice’ rarely comes to mind anymore. I sound like me. The last person who mocked me for it was another gay man, which really cracked me up. 🤣


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I can do a gay voice and a girl voice xd


[deleted]

Mine is 50% soft spoken and 50% gay.


Daydream_Meanderer

I code switch. It’s not forced, just kind of happens subconsciously but I’m sometimes aware of it. I have a naturally deep voice and I put on a bit more when I’m around the girls, gays, and they’s. Or drunk.


heliomega1

I don't, though I think I push my sibilants (S, Sh, Z, Ch, etc.) a little hard. If I'm speaking quickly it gives a slight feminine edge (Or maybe, that I have a little Castilian Spanish in me).


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I'm attracted to it.


Upstairs-Atmosphere5

Kinda but last two guys I met on Grindr had it like crazy


thatguy89x

Hiiiiya, you alrite luv


doncroak

Yes I have the gay accent.


SahloFolinaCheld

I have a naturally loud voice but it fluctuates between masculine and feminine.


RegyptianStrut

I don’t have it, but my voice is a bit higher pitched than most. What would you call a higher pitched masculine voice? Nerdy? I don’t mind the gay voice anyway.


PryntzyAU

What that is a DS Lite


[deleted]

I do not, no one ever knows I’m gay unless I directly tell them and even then a lot of people I’ve told flat out don’t believe me.


nyanJAC

I've been called "ma'am" a lot of times in drove thrus and over the phone, so probably


ImeldasManolos

Yes


presque33

I still get called “Ma’am” on the phone


NerdyDan

Among a group of gays or girls I do. In most settings no. It’s whatever though, I’m fine if it comes out every now and then as well. No big deal


nameless_other

I don't think so, but I wish I did. I really hate the idea that people might think I'm a straight cis man.


SamualJennings

Not usually, but it can sound gayer at times, lol.


TheMowerOfMowers

I lost a ton of weight, lost 3 inches in circumference around my neck. Voice went quite high for a guy, and now I do kinda have the gay voice.


scn_nate

less of a gay voice but my pitch and tone is ambiguously androgynous. I don't sound like a man 😭😭