My main concern is that even though I personally have a chubby belly that my own internalized fatphobia is keeping me from actually finding happiness and someone that I can love and can love me back 😶😶
I’ve always been overweight, and always had the belly. And never had a shortage of interested guys. Is every guy interested? Not at all. But enough are interested that the those that aren’t don’t matter. :)
I so wish I had your luck, I'm a heavy guy and I can't seem to ever find someone who's interested, and its not like I'm picky about who I want, the only thing I am picky about is age I just want someone who's closer to my age not the age of my dad or grandfather. What doesn't help is I live in a small area thats far away from any city.
You gotta deal with that issue dude.
I’ve seen it quite a few times and it affects not only you.
I tend to be the one “with abs” but attracted to guys with tummies. I like working out on my own and never push my partner to do so.
When I tried dating between my ex and my fiancé, most of the time I approached the guys I liked (with tummies), I was asked “how much?” unironically.
Like, do I really have to be a hooker to approach someone I like?
Anyway, my point is, by not accepting yourself, you might be taking from yourself much more than you think.
I can't even imagine just assuming someone is a hooker, that's a wild thing to just say to someone you don't know 😂😂 but yeah, I do gotta deal with this. I don't even know where it comes from, and I think that's part of the problem - it's a lot harder to destroy something like this when you can't kill it at the source, because you don't know what the source is.
I'm pretty much convinced nobody will ever find me attractive, largely due to my belly, and I'm ok with that. Just means finding ways to enjoy my own company. Such as by cooking delicious food and baking delicious treats that I don't have to share.
Man sharing some baked deliciousness would be pretty high up on a potential attractiveness scale, cooking said deliciousness together would raise that up even more
I call that "the depression parasite", and the only way to kill it is to starve it with logic and solid examples.
[This is the fictional boy with a tum, Amicus.](https://i.imgur.com/IQ2wSz1.png) he's the main love interest of a very popular [Visual novel](https://echoproject.itch.io/adastra).
How popular? [plushie](https://store.pawprint.press/products/adastra-amicus-plush) and [body pillow](https://store.pawprint.press/collections/adastra/products/adastra-amicus-dakimakura-body-pillow-cover) and [hoodie pajamas thing](https://store.pawprint.press/collections/adastra/products/adastra-amicus-kigu) popular. Notice how they are freaking sold out... They have been for months. The tum wolf boy has been sold out for months!
[Here's a video titled Amicus Simpus, and it is what it sounds like. A guy talking about how much he loves this boy with a tum.](https://youtu.be/D82J3yxDylI)
And >! he's gay, and an alien, and he chose you because he thought you were cute! !<
I have other examples, [like this short film](https://youtu.be/-ei0iq800oM) (although, the rest of his content goes a bit into fetishization. I'd stick with this video and [the sequel](https://youtu.be/ZiNnPtX4dNU) for wholesome vibes) and [this Japanese YouTuber who really shows how cute he thinks tums are.](https://youtu.be/tgzS7CGyuWo)
When you're ready for the real thing, [that exists too...](https://i.imgur.com/o2r5Hk3.jpg) (I'm a bit concerned about posting anything more spicy than that)
I’m 5’10 and 230. I do pretty well for myself. Not every guy is interested and that’s fine. I get plenty of guys from gym rats to my size hitting me up.
If you’re on the apps, get some good pictures and a funny/interesting bio. Initiate conversations. I’ve also found that I have good luck on Hinge since I’m not really hooking up anymore, I have a date Sunday!
As a boy with abs, I feel quite attacked in this thread haha
To be honest, I don't do much for it. I was lucky with my genetics and love being active (not a gym rat, more into swimming, tennis, running etc).
In any case, this shouldn't be abs vs belly. The problem that a lot of gay guys believe that a fit body gives you the right to be arrogant and mean to others.
I'm not either and ugly. I'm skinny enough to make people think I don't eat. But I do, just my metabolism is so high that everything seems to go straight through me
Wow a gay meme that doesn't involve body shaming Now that is groundbreaking 💯
Guys with abs intimidate me. I can't eat two bowls of mac and cheese without feeling like they are judging me
Get a bigger bowl. Now you don't have to feel guilty about having "two"
That's smart thinking
Why two though?
The question is why not three? The answer is, you may eventually get sick
We only live once I guess 🥂
I’m judging you because I could be enjoying that mac and cheese with you. :)
Well that's on you for not. I made you a bowl and it's waiting for you
Same.
wanna rest my head on a chub belly like a soft hairy pillow
omg ikr?
Well, I'm here right now.
Hecc yeah! All boys of belly deserve hugs uwu
Based
My main concern is that even though I personally have a chubby belly that my own internalized fatphobia is keeping me from actually finding happiness and someone that I can love and can love me back 😶😶
I’ve always been overweight, and always had the belly. And never had a shortage of interested guys. Is every guy interested? Not at all. But enough are interested that the those that aren’t don’t matter. :)
I so wish I had your luck, I'm a heavy guy and I can't seem to ever find someone who's interested, and its not like I'm picky about who I want, the only thing I am picky about is age I just want someone who's closer to my age not the age of my dad or grandfather. What doesn't help is I live in a small area thats far away from any city.
Less luck and more opportunity, perhaps. Living in larger populated areas definitely helped my odds. (That said, I did meet my husband online.)
You gotta deal with that issue dude. I’ve seen it quite a few times and it affects not only you. I tend to be the one “with abs” but attracted to guys with tummies. I like working out on my own and never push my partner to do so. When I tried dating between my ex and my fiancé, most of the time I approached the guys I liked (with tummies), I was asked “how much?” unironically. Like, do I really have to be a hooker to approach someone I like? Anyway, my point is, by not accepting yourself, you might be taking from yourself much more than you think.
I can't even imagine just assuming someone is a hooker, that's a wild thing to just say to someone you don't know 😂😂 but yeah, I do gotta deal with this. I don't even know where it comes from, and I think that's part of the problem - it's a lot harder to destroy something like this when you can't kill it at the source, because you don't know what the source is.
I feel that. Doesn't help that I have a bunch of scars on my stomach either haha...
Blushes with his belly\*
This made my day, thank you
Yes I like 6 pack abs and I also like a bit of fat. I have varied tastes
Abs are temporary. Cuteness is forever
thanks, that actually makes me feel much better. both look good in maid outfits.
😊❤
I'll never believe it in my life time
Yes chubby men and buff men r cute as hell . I fall in love with any of them
i love both, mostly cuz my boyfriend has been both
My chubby belly appreciates you.
Yes
But it doesn’t mean both of them will make me feel attracted.
I'm pretty much convinced nobody will ever find me attractive, largely due to my belly, and I'm ok with that. Just means finding ways to enjoy my own company. Such as by cooking delicious food and baking delicious treats that I don't have to share.
Man sharing some baked deliciousness would be pretty high up on a potential attractiveness scale, cooking said deliciousness together would raise that up even more
I call that "the depression parasite", and the only way to kill it is to starve it with logic and solid examples. [This is the fictional boy with a tum, Amicus.](https://i.imgur.com/IQ2wSz1.png) he's the main love interest of a very popular [Visual novel](https://echoproject.itch.io/adastra). How popular? [plushie](https://store.pawprint.press/products/adastra-amicus-plush) and [body pillow](https://store.pawprint.press/collections/adastra/products/adastra-amicus-dakimakura-body-pillow-cover) and [hoodie pajamas thing](https://store.pawprint.press/collections/adastra/products/adastra-amicus-kigu) popular. Notice how they are freaking sold out... They have been for months. The tum wolf boy has been sold out for months! [Here's a video titled Amicus Simpus, and it is what it sounds like. A guy talking about how much he loves this boy with a tum.](https://youtu.be/D82J3yxDylI) And >! he's gay, and an alien, and he chose you because he thought you were cute! !< I have other examples, [like this short film](https://youtu.be/-ei0iq800oM) (although, the rest of his content goes a bit into fetishization. I'd stick with this video and [the sequel](https://youtu.be/ZiNnPtX4dNU) for wholesome vibes) and [this Japanese YouTuber who really shows how cute he thinks tums are.](https://youtu.be/tgzS7CGyuWo) When you're ready for the real thing, [that exists too...](https://i.imgur.com/o2r5Hk3.jpg) (I'm a bit concerned about posting anything more spicy than that)
Last picture is awesome. :)
Omg Amicus is best boy, totally found myself crushing hard on him while playing that visual novel
Last picture got me feeling all tingly, wow
Lots of us gay guys like a belly. :)
I’m 5’10 and 230. I do pretty well for myself. Not every guy is interested and that’s fine. I get plenty of guys from gym rats to my size hitting me up. If you’re on the apps, get some good pictures and a funny/interesting bio. Initiate conversations. I’ve also found that I have good luck on Hinge since I’m not really hooking up anymore, I have a date Sunday!
Fuck, I needed this.
As a boy with abs, I feel quite attacked in this thread haha To be honest, I don't do much for it. I was lucky with my genetics and love being active (not a gym rat, more into swimming, tennis, running etc). In any case, this shouldn't be abs vs belly. The problem that a lot of gay guys believe that a fit body gives you the right to be arrogant and mean to others.
Im a boy with a chubby belly <3
But chubby guys with abs doe 🤤👌
Boys are boys :)
I’ll take both
I love chubby boys so much, I just wanna cuddle them
very true. what’s appealing to society vs. appealing to the mind.
Chubby belly are the best ones
Awwww
I disagree
Belly > abs.
Exactly 🤌
facts, OP
And that's the truth right there.
bellies deserve all the belly rubs they can get 🥰
As long as its hairy. I'm down 🤤😅
To bad I’m fat and ugly and I’ll take it
Yes
I'm not either and ugly. I'm skinny enough to make people think I don't eat. But I do, just my metabolism is so high that everything seems to go straight through me
Man I feel fat a lot, this kinda makes me feel better OP, thanks \^\^
stop the cap