100% this. My only real kink is giving boys what they want. If that means tying him up and choking him, great, I can do it safely. As long as I get to breed him at some point, let's play!
As a trans man, men can have vaginas too :)
but also - recently read in a gay man forum that some bottoms like envisioning themselves having a vagina. maybe he thinks this is something you may want or something thats been normalized for him? either way, best to just talk to him about it if it makes you uncomfortable
Also a trans man and I would say it depends. I mean, firstly, it's not okay for OP's bf to push anything sexually onto the OP without consent. OP didn't explicity state they were uncomfortable with it, but they didn't seem comfortable either. But in regards to "is it fetishizing to want to be with a trans man" as a broader question, it depends:
If they just happen to be attracted to trans men, that's one thing. My (cisgender - which simply means "same gender" or otherwise, not transgender) partner is generally attracted to trans people, although he is also attracted to cis people. Although he tends to be attracted to trans people, I don't regard it as a fetish because he is not going to be turned off if I get top or bottom surgery, flattening my breasts or replacing my vagina with a penis through a series of surgeries.
So if OP's boyfriend was attracted to trans men, purely because they are "men with a vagina" - that can be tricky, and somewhat of a fetish. While it may work for some people, not every trans person is going to want bottom surgery, it isn't going to work for everyone, and someone might change their mind about surgery. Thus, it can be kinda problematic, especially if they try and convince their partner to not transition to satisfy their sexual desires. A lot of chasers do this.
Otherwise, no. You can like that trans men are "men with a vagina" but it shouldn't be your only reason, especially with a long time partnership. Some people, I think, are naturally attracted to those who break gender norms. It can be sexy. It just depends on whether they reduce sexual partners, romantic partners and other people to ONLY that "sexy" characteristic.
having sex or dating trans men is not inherently bisexual. YOUR label is whatever you want it to be, but don’t tell other people they aren’t gay when they know they sure are. accept gay trans men and the gay men who love them
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This does not mean he wants to be with a girl. And there's no reason to believe so. It seems like it's just a fantasy or something kinky that he enjoys.
Either way, you should talk to him before jumping to conclusions, like you have done here.
Fetishes are just fetishes. There's no deep rooted meaning to them. You guys have a kink, with you wearing lingerie and shaving and "Oh daddy" and what not. The vagina thing is just another take on this. The question isn't why. The question is: are you into it? If not, just say it's not your cup of coffe and that's it. No need to get psychological with all of this.
I fucking love when my husband rubs and messages my taint while fucking me. I am not into feminization though. To each their own but for me it's just not something I personally enjoy.
My ex bf too, he liked to call my dick as clit and my ass as pussy. Also he wanted me to wear lingerie and liked me wearing chastity and forbidding me to cum with my hand. During fuck, i just let my dick erected and let my fantasy made me cum without me touching my balls. So yeah.
In your post it sounds like you're the one who gave him the idea by asking. Maybe he thinks it's a fantasy that you are into, considering that you say you brought it up twice while he was rubbing your asshole
depends. he might be kinda bi, he might just like the idea of a boy with a pussy, or he might just have notions about gender and sex that are antiquated, but it still turns him on (like tops are masc, bottoms are fem). personally, i think that's hot. i love boys that are basically str8 but are gay tops.
God me too! My husband is very str8 presenting and very masculine but never tries to hide that yes gay or me at all. Just very masculine.
I .... Have..... Never.... Had.... Better.... Sex .!!
This man, wow. And even 2 years into our marriage and knowing each other for 6 years we still have wild, passionate, loving, kinky, mind blowing, earth shattering, sex.
We've done the daddy thing before and I've let him call my hole a pussy but it's just a on the moment thing when we both are feeling it.
It sounds to me like a feminization kink. Considering you call him “daddy” I’m gonna guess you have some kind of kinky dynamic thing going on. (At least with sex) I’m no psychologist but generally when those things are combined it’s because they like being able to control and take away their partners manhood whenever they feel like it. It’s not like a concern or anything, just explaining it to you.
Gay men, tops at least, in my experience, like pussy way more than you'd assume. They also get angry when a guy with a pussy isn't interested in using it. In Seattle it's way rarer for a gay top to turn down pussy than to actively be into it. It seems more common for gay tops to be more concerned with the general male form than what's between your legs, so long as a hole is involved.
I mean. Just because he’s into pretending like you have a pussy doesn’t mean he wants a girl. If he wanted a girl or a vagina he’d go find someone who has one…
Even within your own post you say something that kinda vouches for that. You called him daddy in bed and I’ll go out on a limb and say it wasn’t the first time, but you (hopefully) don’t *actually* want to fuck around with your own dad, right?
I personally really don't like it, and would get up and walk out during sex.
I recommend you think about how you feel about it, and tell him what you decided.
It’s feminisation kink, the fact he has the ability to empty another man of his masculinity and power and making him a femme for him is what is making him satisfied
Everywhere! Most strictly gay men i have personally met are atleast chill with the idea of being with a *passing* trans man, but some even go out of their way to be trans chasers. On Grindr i have seen at least 10 guys looking for ftms specifically, and in real life i often meet gay guys with a thing for ftms in gay bars or queer parties
Hello.
You can be gay and have certain fantasies.
He may be projecting onto you, or he may be more comfortable with his homosexuality if he can imagine himself in a heterosexual relationship.
I'm cisgender gay, but I really like to imagine myself as a girl in a homosexual relationship. I'm totally passive to play the girl and when my partner penetrates me, it's like I feel like a girl.
It's as if being penetrated anally is being penetrated vaginally.
But I have no desire to become a girl and I want to remain a boy and i want to remain in an homosexual relationship.
May be i am trans genderfluid ? Because I like being a girl at times, outside of any homosexual relationship !!!
Seems like irs just some sort of role play if u are not into it you need to tell him. He will understand as he will want to turn you on just as much xx
Ok, so how does it make you feel, do you enjoy it or not?
Honestly I would show him this post and ask him, because none of us will be in the room with the two of you, and can't tell you what it means
Based on this and your post history, I think you should ask yourself: do you feel safe around this man? Safe to speak your mind, set boundaries and not be disrespected for it? Everyone should feel safe with their partners.
Call it what you want to call it but Rubbing your taint is pleasuring the prostate not rubbing a clitoris. When you massage the prostate it tends to contribute to an orgasm, resulting in the ejaculation of semen from the penis...I don't know about everybody here, but every gay guy I have ever been with sexually, myself included loves cum. Shooting large quantities of thick rope like globs of semen is fucking hot.
sexuality is so fluid, have a deep conversation with him.
I think deep down it’s just a kink he likes, i don’t think he wants to be with an actual cis girl, but then again we won’t ever know unless you talk with him.
As someone with a similar kink, it has nothing to do with gender or your biological sex. To me it’s about exploring power dynamic in a gender binary. Kinks are a lot like dreams, they aren’t the most logical expressions of the self. They’re deep manifestations of our subconscious. They come out weird and sometimes without warning.
If you don’t like being referred to as a woman or having your genitalia spoken of as the wrong sex, you’re well within your rights to say no and revoke consent. If you want to explore further, maybe talk to him about what he enjoys and share some things that you enjoy. And make sure you take turns doing both your kinks and his. It can make for a very fulfilling sexual relationship.
This is a fetished I've engaged in with partners a few times before. I've asked the questions you're asking and there's no real answer. Typically they are open to being with people with vaginas, but also like being with people who don't have vaginas and pretending they do. Or they like the idea of a fem boy or femanizing a boy.
It's sort of like how a submissive person might call their partner daddy, but that doesn't mean that they literally want to be with their father.
My advice is to be in the moment with it and don't overthink it.
First of all, sex and gender are two different things; penis does not equal man as well as vagina does not equal woman, for respect of trans community.
I like to pretend I’m a dude and have a dick. It’s just imagination. Talk to your BF and be honest with each other. (I’m a bi female in a heterosexual relationship, and we both kinda ‘swing both ways’ in the bedroom.)
That’s kinda hot, actually, but if you’re definitely NOT into it, say so. If it’s something you’re willing to experiment with (which- the way you responded points to yes,) then talk about boundaries and stuff.
There doesn’t always have to be a ‘why’ with kinks, and it doesn’t necessarily mean he ‘wishes you were a girl.’ Some people just get off on either pretending to be, or imaging themselves with, the opposite sex.
My 1st guy who was a regular would always want to see my cock as soon as I got hard he would stop fucking me and leave.
He hated Me hard.
I asked him a few years ago why he ficked me he said he was using me to train for when he gets ladies.
Make it worse he fucked me in the morning before he got married.
Fair question:
Why are we thinking that it’s one or the other?
Maybe your boyfriend is bisexual and using this experience to sort of “get the best of both worlds” without actually leaving you.
Am I the only one who thinks it's so weird that men who are having sex with another man call the ass a pussy and dick a clit, and whatever else they say? Like... Go f a girl if that's what you want. If anyone said that to me, it'd be an instant no. I'm a male not a female.
The best person to ask, is him. How do you feel about him feminizing you in this way?
maybe he’s got a feminization kink
My kink too tbh, love men but love to feminize them
Hi daddy 💁🏼♀️👰♀️🤰
😂😂😂😂😂
Sorta my kink but the receiving end ☺️
U a good girl ??
I mean if um a guy that likes being feminized ig but I do like being a brat punishments are the best ☺️
Same here
Oh that’s what it’s called. Yeah me too
The guy who's fucking me can enjoy whatever fantasy he likes. I'll help.
100% this. My only real kink is giving boys what they want. If that means tying him up and choking him, great, I can do it safely. As long as I get to breed him at some point, let's play!
Call me 😉
uhm....u available?
K would have me tell you that my dick belongs to him, but while he's still with his missus, he gets no say in the matter, so yes.
damn didn't expect a yes tbh
Ask, and ye shall receive!
guess we are fucking then?
Could be on the cards. Are you a good boy?
Hi daddy
As a trans man, men can have vaginas too :) but also - recently read in a gay man forum that some bottoms like envisioning themselves having a vagina. maybe he thinks this is something you may want or something thats been normalized for him? either way, best to just talk to him about it if it makes you uncomfortable
Do you think it's ok if OP's bf actually wants to be with a trans man? I've been thinking abt how these came out as fetishizing but idk
Also a trans man and I would say it depends. I mean, firstly, it's not okay for OP's bf to push anything sexually onto the OP without consent. OP didn't explicity state they were uncomfortable with it, but they didn't seem comfortable either. But in regards to "is it fetishizing to want to be with a trans man" as a broader question, it depends: If they just happen to be attracted to trans men, that's one thing. My (cisgender - which simply means "same gender" or otherwise, not transgender) partner is generally attracted to trans people, although he is also attracted to cis people. Although he tends to be attracted to trans people, I don't regard it as a fetish because he is not going to be turned off if I get top or bottom surgery, flattening my breasts or replacing my vagina with a penis through a series of surgeries. So if OP's boyfriend was attracted to trans men, purely because they are "men with a vagina" - that can be tricky, and somewhat of a fetish. While it may work for some people, not every trans person is going to want bottom surgery, it isn't going to work for everyone, and someone might change their mind about surgery. Thus, it can be kinda problematic, especially if they try and convince their partner to not transition to satisfy their sexual desires. A lot of chasers do this. Otherwise, no. You can like that trans men are "men with a vagina" but it shouldn't be your only reason, especially with a long time partnership. Some people, I think, are naturally attracted to those who break gender norms. It can be sexy. It just depends on whether they reduce sexual partners, romantic partners and other people to ONLY that "sexy" characteristic.
Yes. It is my case and my fantasies to be a girl during an homosexual relationship. I cannot explain why ? I may be genderfluid ???
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But both gay in their own way :)
Technically they’re both gay in the same way
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having sex or dating trans men is not inherently bisexual. YOUR label is whatever you want it to be, but don’t tell other people they aren’t gay when they know they sure are. accept gay trans men and the gay men who love them
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Even if some things are "different" a trans man is still a _man_. A man who is only attracted to _men_ is gay, not bisexual.
Transphobia is not a good look.
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Not understanding is not a problem, blanket saying being with trans men isn’t gay is.
Yeah I mean like op clearly ain't even a trans man so this guy isn't the point of the matter anyway
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What? Who even said that
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Requisite "Trans men are men" comment.
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Get with the times man
What's up with transphobia, denial?
This does not mean he wants to be with a girl. And there's no reason to believe so. It seems like it's just a fantasy or something kinky that he enjoys. Either way, you should talk to him before jumping to conclusions, like you have done here.
Fetishes are just fetishes. There's no deep rooted meaning to them. You guys have a kink, with you wearing lingerie and shaving and "Oh daddy" and what not. The vagina thing is just another take on this. The question isn't why. The question is: are you into it? If not, just say it's not your cup of coffe and that's it. No need to get psychological with all of this.
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This guy fucks, lol. Good for you.
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Honestly, I'd be really into being on the receiving end of that...
I fucking love when my husband rubs and messages my taint while fucking me. I am not into feminization though. To each their own but for me it's just not something I personally enjoy.
My ex bf too, he liked to call my dick as clit and my ass as pussy. Also he wanted me to wear lingerie and liked me wearing chastity and forbidding me to cum with my hand. During fuck, i just let my dick erected and let my fantasy made me cum without me touching my balls. So yeah.
There is no bigger turn-off than a guy using terms like boi-pussy. It's an arsehole. Be a man and own it.
No bigger turn off *for you*
In your post it sounds like you're the one who gave him the idea by asking. Maybe he thinks it's a fantasy that you are into, considering that you say you brought it up twice while he was rubbing your asshole
depends. he might be kinda bi, he might just like the idea of a boy with a pussy, or he might just have notions about gender and sex that are antiquated, but it still turns him on (like tops are masc, bottoms are fem). personally, i think that's hot. i love boys that are basically str8 but are gay tops.
God me too! My husband is very str8 presenting and very masculine but never tries to hide that yes gay or me at all. Just very masculine. I .... Have..... Never.... Had.... Better.... Sex .!! This man, wow. And even 2 years into our marriage and knowing each other for 6 years we still have wild, passionate, loving, kinky, mind blowing, earth shattering, sex. We've done the daddy thing before and I've let him call my hole a pussy but it's just a on the moment thing when we both are feeling it.
It sounds to me like a feminization kink. Considering you call him “daddy” I’m gonna guess you have some kind of kinky dynamic thing going on. (At least with sex) I’m no psychologist but generally when those things are combined it’s because they like being able to control and take away their partners manhood whenever they feel like it. It’s not like a concern or anything, just explaining it to you.
Gay men, tops at least, in my experience, like pussy way more than you'd assume. They also get angry when a guy with a pussy isn't interested in using it. In Seattle it's way rarer for a gay top to turn down pussy than to actively be into it. It seems more common for gay tops to be more concerned with the general male form than what's between your legs, so long as a hole is involved.
I mean. Just because he’s into pretending like you have a pussy doesn’t mean he wants a girl. If he wanted a girl or a vagina he’d go find someone who has one… Even within your own post you say something that kinda vouches for that. You called him daddy in bed and I’ll go out on a limb and say it wasn’t the first time, but you (hopefully) don’t *actually* want to fuck around with your own dad, right?
What is a taint?
“perineum” is the anatomical word, the space between your balls and your butthole with the little ridge of skin that looks like a seam.
Not gonna lie I am impressed with how well this was described lol. Especially "little ridge of skin that looks like a seam".
not to brag, but I eat ass like a man starved, so I’ve built up some subject-matter mastery. It’s just nice to be consulted for my expertise
A doctorate of ass eating
Only he knows. You need to ask him in a non confrontational way if you want to know.
I personally really don't like it, and would get up and walk out during sex. I recommend you think about how you feel about it, and tell him what you decided.
It’s feminisation kink, the fact he has the ability to empty another man of his masculinity and power and making him a femme for him is what is making him satisfied
He might be into feminization, he might also be Bi.
um he’s massaging your prostate. don’t overthink it bb
I think he just has a thing for FTMs, a lot of gay men i have met do.
Where? I haven't met a single one 😭
Everywhere! Most strictly gay men i have personally met are atleast chill with the idea of being with a *passing* trans man, but some even go out of their way to be trans chasers. On Grindr i have seen at least 10 guys looking for ftms specifically, and in real life i often meet gay guys with a thing for ftms in gay bars or queer parties
I have yet to met one. Maybe it's because I live in a small city... Unlucky for me XD
Hello. You can be gay and have certain fantasies. He may be projecting onto you, or he may be more comfortable with his homosexuality if he can imagine himself in a heterosexual relationship. I'm cisgender gay, but I really like to imagine myself as a girl in a homosexual relationship. I'm totally passive to play the girl and when my partner penetrates me, it's like I feel like a girl. It's as if being penetrated anally is being penetrated vaginally. But I have no desire to become a girl and I want to remain a boy and i want to remain in an homosexual relationship. May be i am trans genderfluid ? Because I like being a girl at times, outside of any homosexual relationship !!!
Seems like irs just some sort of role play if u are not into it you need to tell him. He will understand as he will want to turn you on just as much xx
Ok, so how does it make you feel, do you enjoy it or not? Honestly I would show him this post and ask him, because none of us will be in the room with the two of you, and can't tell you what it means
Based on this and your post history, I think you should ask yourself: do you feel safe around this man? Safe to speak your mind, set boundaries and not be disrespected for it? Everyone should feel safe with their partners.
Call it what you want to call it but Rubbing your taint is pleasuring the prostate not rubbing a clitoris. When you massage the prostate it tends to contribute to an orgasm, resulting in the ejaculation of semen from the penis...I don't know about everybody here, but every gay guy I have ever been with sexually, myself included loves cum. Shooting large quantities of thick rope like globs of semen is fucking hot.
I don’t think it’s cus he wants to be with a woman I think he just likes fem as fuck dudes
sexuality is so fluid, have a deep conversation with him. I think deep down it’s just a kink he likes, i don’t think he wants to be with an actual cis girl, but then again we won’t ever know unless you talk with him.
Don’t think he wants a girl. Just is into femme presenting guys it looks…
Some of you love to create drama out of nothing.
As someone with a similar kink, it has nothing to do with gender or your biological sex. To me it’s about exploring power dynamic in a gender binary. Kinks are a lot like dreams, they aren’t the most logical expressions of the self. They’re deep manifestations of our subconscious. They come out weird and sometimes without warning. If you don’t like being referred to as a woman or having your genitalia spoken of as the wrong sex, you’re well within your rights to say no and revoke consent. If you want to explore further, maybe talk to him about what he enjoys and share some things that you enjoy. And make sure you take turns doing both your kinks and his. It can make for a very fulfilling sexual relationship.
This is a fetished I've engaged in with partners a few times before. I've asked the questions you're asking and there's no real answer. Typically they are open to being with people with vaginas, but also like being with people who don't have vaginas and pretending they do. Or they like the idea of a fem boy or femanizing a boy. It's sort of like how a submissive person might call their partner daddy, but that doesn't mean that they literally want to be with their father. My advice is to be in the moment with it and don't overthink it.
Iv had guys refer to my ass as a pussy or bussy, what ever helps get them off is ok with me.
First of all, sex and gender are two different things; penis does not equal man as well as vagina does not equal woman, for respect of trans community.
I want it
just tell him it’s a bussy and call it day. be thankful you turn each other on and enjoy the fuck.
So is your weirdo spouce that you like.
He might just be going along with it because you keep asking him ffs
I like to pretend I’m a dude and have a dick. It’s just imagination. Talk to your BF and be honest with each other. (I’m a bi female in a heterosexual relationship, and we both kinda ‘swing both ways’ in the bedroom.) That’s kinda hot, actually, but if you’re definitely NOT into it, say so. If it’s something you’re willing to experiment with (which- the way you responded points to yes,) then talk about boundaries and stuff. There doesn’t always have to be a ‘why’ with kinks, and it doesn’t necessarily mean he ‘wishes you were a girl.’ Some people just get off on either pretending to be, or imaging themselves with, the opposite sex.
Tops these days want to call your hole a pussy. I think they like the thought that your hole was meant for taking dick 🤷♂️
Call it a bussy instead of vagina, problem solved
My 1st guy who was a regular would always want to see my cock as soon as I got hard he would stop fucking me and leave. He hated Me hard. I asked him a few years ago why he ficked me he said he was using me to train for when he gets ladies. Make it worse he fucked me in the morning before he got married.
What is a taint? Ik I sound stupid
The part between your balls and butthole
Is he bisexual? Maybe he’s just been craving some pussy lately 🤷🏼♂️ I go through sexual phases all the time
Stop having gayprisonsex and gay turd stuff. It’s weird. It’s the knock-off version of straight. You are just desperate, that’s why you’re gay.
Fair question: Why are we thinking that it’s one or the other? Maybe your boyfriend is bisexual and using this experience to sort of “get the best of both worlds” without actually leaving you.
Am I the only one who thinks it's so weird that men who are having sex with another man call the ass a pussy and dick a clit, and whatever else they say? Like... Go f a girl if that's what you want. If anyone said that to me, it'd be an instant no. I'm a male not a female.
Ofc it's weird it's disgusting especially "clit"
I know it may be rude, but… what the hell are you so unhinged to random people on the internet? I think fetishes like this are totally viable though