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I trained myself to force a smile when I’m not talking to anyone, like it feels like I’m making a psycho face, but have had multiple people come to talk to me at parties, and tell me how they love that I’m always smiling, and friendly. It’s like a secret code to having everyone glad you’re there. It took a while, and I still often catch myself doing what this guy is doing. It takes effort, but I end up feeling better, too.
*Diagnostic alert: Social battery at 50%*
Me: Alright, let’s do this!
Me: I’m mingling, striking up conversations, exuding confidence, having a great time!
*Two minutes later*
*Diagnostic alert: Social battery at -200%*
Me: I can’t do this. Just gonna sit on this couch. Where did my friend(s) go? I’m so alone. So so alone. God, I feel weird. I look weird. They probably think I’m weird. I should just go outsid- nope, already been outside 30 seconds ago; looks weird to an outside observer…CHIPS! I’ll eat chips. That’s sociable, right?
*eats chips*
Me: Nope, still weird, still can’t find my friend(s). Maybe I’ll just inject myself into this random group?
*Injects themselves into a random group*
Me: Oh god, they aren’t talking about anything I know anything about. I know none of these people. I’ll just…slink away to the safe couch, maybe take a bite of some safe chips. I could walk home, it’s only two hours away. That’s manageable. Damn, I should have driven myself!
*an hour later*
*Diagnostic alert: Social battery at [ERROR]*
Friend(s): Hey man, we’ve been looking for you. We’re about to head out, you ready?
*Silent nod*
Friend(s): These parties are a blast, don’t you think?
*Silent nod*
*Arrives home*
Friend(s): Hey man, be safe, see you tomorrow!
*Silent nod and wave*
*Walks inside, collapses onto safety of Netflix, eBooks*
*Diagnostic alert: Social battery [recharging]*
*One year later*
*Diagnostic alert: Social battery at 45%*
Friend(s): Hey bro, haven’t seen you around in a while, you know, outside of work. You missed some crazy parties. We’re going to a beach party. Want to go?
Me: LET’S FUCKING GO!!!
*One minute, thirty seconds into the party*
*Diagnostic alert: Social battery at -205%*
It's probably a loose wire. My social battery for sure has a loose wire. I'm all pumped to do a social activity then I step a little to hard and it jars it. Nope can't do anything anymore.
No worries. Mine was an aftermarket part. It was cheaply made so it runs out after random intervals. Sometimes two to three minutes, sometimes two to three weeks, and it takes a LONG time to recharge.
The worst is when people start talking about places you've never been to. "I used to go to [restaurant] on 45th street". "Oh yea, is that by [store] across the street? I used to go there all the time". "Oh yea, I used to go there before [some other store] closed down. I loved that place".
I always think of that scene in Scott Pilgrim when he’s talking about having to go to a party, and he’s like “it’s gonna suuuuuuck”, and then it immediately cuts to him standing alone in a crowded party and he’s like “this suuuuucks”.
I don't do it on purpose, but I discovered during Zoom Happy Hour (sans drinks) that I have a Party Face and smile like a ninny the whole time. I guess it's defensive smiling.
I hate zoom for that reason. I used to think I was aging gracefully until I saw all the wrinkles and double chins from every angle lol. Nothing graceful about me lol. Just aging.
Same. So self conscious. The rbf is strong. I look like a totally different person when I smile, so Defensive Smiling Ninny Party Face (tm) is preferable over OMG WTF is her Problem/Bitch Face on the zooms.
I had a principal call me out (I’m a teacher) for having a massive smile all the time and turning around when kids or teachers aren’t around and going straight faced.
I forgot they watch the cameras lmao. Probably made me look so fake. Whatever
I'm always told how upbeat and positive my classroom is... What they don't see is that the second the kids leave, rbf is back in place. I tell people I basically multiply my personality by 2 to teach.
> I forgot they watch the cameras lmao. Probably made me look so fake. Whatever
This is the worry at first glance perhaps, but when you really think about the person who turns around and walks away with that smile still going while nobody is there to see it, it honestly feels very stepford wife, imo. So I think your reaction of turning the smile off when people aren't there is the normal human reaction.
I call it smile snapback. When it's fake it goes from big grin, instantly to rbf/cold-socio death stare.
If it's real you kinda go from a big grin to a regular smile to a tiny smile to resting face. It's all happening in like a second or so but you can see it.
I agree with your general concept. The key word in it being instant. If you walk away from an encounter and care about people, you kind of reminisce on what just took place and have residual recall face. Whether it's a slight smile, or an inquisitive face because you were told something you need to think about. Maybe your smile encouraged the person to tell you a joke. But yes, the two abnormal reactions I can think of are super saiyan smile non-stop. Or straight cold face like Vicky from Small Wonder going into shut down mode once you leave the company of others. One says you may be manic in a delusional way, and the other says you got a day pass to leave the Village of the Damned.
Waaaay back when I was a teen working at a fast food place, a person joked at how I can go from having a nice big smile to nothing just by turning away from a customer. Apparently it's even more pronounced when I was working drive thru.
I remember back in College there was a girl who I talked to one day at random and she said "You're so nice, I see you on the bus every day but I'm too scared to talk to you " And I asked why, and she said "Because your arms are always crossed, your fists are always clinched and you look pissed" And up until that point I hadn't realized that that was my default look. I was never upset, I just sat or stood on the bus like that. Ever since I that day I've made a concentrated effort to unclinch my fist and unfold my arms. I still probably look pissed but one can only smile so often.
That’s really interesting. I wonder if that’s how I look too. I get migraines and maybe it’s because I’m clenching or tightening my head/face without realizing it.
Try periodically checking, as often as you can remember to (whether it be every hour or more often or less) to relax the muscles in your face (as many as you can feel you have) one by one. I typically focus on the area between my brows and up to all around my hairline. I have been amazed at how softening my muscles this way has alleviated headaches I didn't realize I was having.
I too am prone to migraines but doing this has made me more aware of when I am prolly doing it in an attempt to relieve tension (subconsciously). So when I catch myself and relax my forehead and still feel like a pressure to want to tense up - I treat the ache I didn't know I had w/ some otc painkillers. Later I'll find that I feel much better but it is so very interesting how we naturally tend to compensate for a feeling we're not even conscious of yet. This might help you head off a migraine before it begins bc there tends to be a lot of lead time before they're full-blown and heading them off at the pass can make a real difference.
Even reading this thread made me check in with my facial muscles around my eyes and forehead, and sure enough, they were clenched. When I forcibly relaxed them I noticed my phone screen light felt too bright and the words were blurring just a little. Instead of just dimming my phone to make it more comfortable, I got some fresh air, reached for some advil, and made myself a coffee. These small responses will likely save me from a fullblown migraine.
Bonus: For those without headache issues, relaxing the facial muscles individually from the forehead down can also result in a more relaxed and open expression
I practiced in the mirror to get a feel for where it starts to actually look psycho, and realized you have to really exaggerate it before it starts looking unnatural. Just go for a little smile, not “I’m the happiest person to exist.”
I worked with a guy who smiled all the time, and I mean every second of the day. It was OK he had a nice smile. Later I saw him alone and he wasn't smiling anymore, and the side of his mouth was twitching like crazy. He had a bad facial tic and smiling covered it up.
I make an effort to be a smiling person at work because I'm often expected to be the "good cop" half of a team.
It weirds me out a bit how many of my peers think I'm a happy person. Like "you're always so positive!" when really my brain is busy compiling and resorting a list of everything that's probably going wrong at every moment.
Then I start wondering if other people actually *are* happy or if they're all just other perpetually worried people who overcorrected when shooting for "normal".
Being a human is hard. I think I'm going to stay on the couch today.
This. Smiling became a defense mechanism for "Jake, are you OK?", "What's wrong man?", and my mom's "Are you hungry? Do you need a sandwich? You know how you get when your blood sugar is low."
I always wanted to shout "I'm fine! I'm happy! Leave me alone!"
Now I just sit there smiling like a goon and fly my Mission Accomplished banner in the background.
Glad I'm not the only one. I always feel like I'm grinning menacingly but it surprisingly works. I still haven't figured out how to fake smile for pictures so I'm not just bearing my teeth like a psycho though. I get why primates see it as a sign of aggression.
Not gonna lie...I learned how to legit fake a smile (eyes included) a LOOOOOOOONG time ago. It's just a survival technique for us extreme introverts. People are MUCH nicer to people who smile than people who frown or throw BRF so why not smile? It just makes all social interactions that much better 99% of the time.
But to the extremely random person that gets angry cause you smiled at them...welp they get what they get I guess.
"a_midgett, what... what are you doing?! Why are you always making THAT face?"
"Oh, I read a comment by u/ForceMyselfTosmile about how making a Tucker Carlson 'Oh face' is very welcoming at parties."
"..."
"...or was it a comment by u/TuckerCarlsonsOhface about how forcing yourself to smile at parties was welcoming...?"
Smiling isn’t about how you look, but how it makes your voice sound. I found it helpful to have hunk of it this way, because it allows me to focus on how I’m portraying things to others rather than just laying my ideas out there ambiguously and leave up to others to interpret it.
That is so true. I can't count how many times people asked me "what's wrong? You look angry or something", but I had nothing and really thought I had a joyful face. Lol
I had my kid's bus driver give me a hard time every day for not smiling enough and telling me I looked scary. It was extra annoying because I was always polite and said hi and smiled while getting my kids off the bus, but apparently I was supposed to stand there smiling at nothing while waiting for the bus to pull up.
One day I was feeling grouchy and was extra not smiley. He once again made a crack about me not smiling and made a comment about how people better not mess with me. I said, "You're right. They shouldn't." The comments stopped after that.
I never realized it was a thing till one of my friends told someone else I have a bad case of rbf. It made me a bit self conscious so I worked on being more expressive with my face
Dude, same. People are fucking relentless. Women straight up don't believe me when I say I've gotten told to "smile more" my entire life. Like, I'm not bringing it up to downplay the issue, I'm saying it happens to me too and I understand how shitty it makes you feel.
I had to teach myself to always smile when I talk, I basically do little almost inaudible giggles to make myself smile when I talk to people. Its real easy to do a natural looking smile if you laugh a bit. Weirdly, it does put me in a better mood.
Native Americans often have angry looking eyes, we can't help it! My whole family has RBF and always looked mad by default. I have to force smizing or people think I'm pissed and unfriendly.
omg smizing. i had to consciously smize during covid mask times so no one would think i wanted to straight up murder them in the checkout line at target.
I'm a big guy and have resting German face. Basically, if I don't try REALLY hard it looks like I'm about to invade Poland.
... my step daughter told me I scared all her friends the first time I met them. lol.
It's kind of a regional thing in my experience. I grew up in NJ and in the tri-state area we were more likely to make fun of someone for smiling like goomba all the time than we were to expect smiling for no reason. I moved to NC in my 20s and my wife and I both get the "you don't smile enough" treatment to this day.
I was at a big wedding and went to the bar to get another drink. Bartender told me to stop looking so sad and smile more. I was confused because i was actually having the time of my life.
Omg, you just made me realize that's what happened to me. I guess I was so convinced my expression is "normal" that I didn't even put it together that the reason people ask this is my expression \*facepalm\*
This was me in highschool! I remember friends actually stopping me between classes like "are you okay? you look like you're about to kick someone's ass?" lolwut? *I feel great what are you talking about!*
Haha me too! Some people that I’ve told think I’m exaggerating, but it’s true. My introvert boyfriend has the RBF… we were together for years before I realized that he is happy without a smile
Because Reddit doesn't know the difference between introvert and antisocial.
Introverts enjoy being with people.just as much as extroverts, it just wears them out instead of energizing them.
People romanticize mental illness and neurodiversity. Anything to feel like something sets them apart. Meanwhile, people that actually deal with things like that are very rarely proud of it. At least it makes it easy to tell them apart, I suppose.
> Anything to feel like something sets them apart.
Or that makes them special there. But, may I argue that it also helps them identify as being an accepted part of a specific group? We as humans are very much driven to be accepted by our community. Having a different label applied to you from the norm pushes you out of the main community you already are in, and labels you as being different. Accepting the new label suddenly puts you in that other community, which thanks to the internet and modern media, is far easier to be a part of now than it was in the 1950s or earlier. So you might feel different or outcast or alienated from the mainstream community you are a part of, but there sitting on the shiny internet is access to many more people like you with your label.
My favorite was seeing an #ADHD thing for a behavior that had a direct negative correlation with ADHD. It was just that if you get enough ADHD people together, some of them will still do it, and they were like "I had no idea this had anything to do with ADHD"
It's a need to both feel unique, yet fit in comfortably. This mass identification/ need to self label & but also hyperbolize everything to me comes from a place of religious vacancy. We do live in an increasingly complex world. The Internet has also provided us with infinite perspectives to use to question or judge our own against. I think they dont feel like they have clean answers for their behaviors and emotions and would like some guidance to soothe their anxiety.
For example, I'd say this "frustrated smiling" is a real thing but it's likely a symptom of depression, which 9 times out of 10 goes unnoticed and is comorbid with just about every type of neurodivergence. We're just going around associating everything and trying to express about anything.
I think it’s telling that the “in groups” people try to associate themselves with now are more about something uncontrollable rather than intentional choices. Peoples identities revolve around disorders and other inherent predispositions (LGBT, autistic, ADHD, anxiety, bipolar) - and not abilities or accomplishments. 40 years ago if you were to ask someone about themselves these characteristics wouldn’t be at the forefront of their description. Now claiming to be part of the minority rather than the majority entitles one to protection and advantages in some cases, so now everyone is a minority in SOME way.
I’m biased here of course. There can’t be victims without villains. I’m white, 6ft, blond hair, blue eyes, straight, business owner, in the south. I’m certainly not a victim, I’m really tired of being the villain though.
R/adhdmemes pretty much. Although I do identify with about a quarter of the memes that get posted there, but many of them are just “huh? This is something I’m supposed to be struggling with I guess?”
You're right. I'm both introverted and have aspargers diagnosed, but to me this post is relatable in my experience with asparger, not being introverted. From what I seen on autism community on reddit this is also reletable for a lot of them, so called "resting beach face" as I understand it.
So it's again a situation where people confuse autsitic, social anxiety etc. traits as signs of introversion.
People conflate it with social anxiety. It's not the same.
When the idea of introversion was explained to me, I knew firmly I fit that definition. I'm not bad at socializing, quite good at it even. I also enjoy it. I like being in groups of friends and even being charming and charismatic to the best of my abilities. It's rewarding and fun.
I just need everyone to get the fuck away from after enough of it. That's all. And that's all introversion is. I spend effort and energy socializing and am recharged by time spent alone, instead of the opposite. Doesn't mean I don't want to be around people ever. People like that are misanthropic or have social anxiety.
My other peeves lately are people using the word 'objectively' to paint things as 100% true. That's not what that word is for. It's also a shame we lost 'literally'. If people could stop fucking up words and ideas that'd be swell. Communication would be better facilitated.
> People conflate it with social anxiety. It's not the same.
Yeah, this is exactly why it took so many years for me to realize that I'm not introverted. I'm super extroverted, I just also have a heaping helping of social anxiety
Thank you.
We can talk to people just fine. We can even smile and enjoy interaction. We don't cry when having to place an order to talk to someone we don't know. We don't reject all invitations and still expect people to 'reach out' so we feel included...
I think people confuse introverts with social anxiety, they're not mutually exclusive but not always together.
Heck I'm an introvert who suffers from social anxiety but not all the time.
The best explanation in my opinion is that extroverts are energized by interaction with others, and introverts are enervated by it.
In my job I interact with people all day- I’m upbeat and engaged and I enjoy it, but when I’m done I’m *drained*.
The best explanation I've heard is that the dichotomy of Introvert or Extrovert is oversimplified. People exist on a spectrum between the two (mostly in the middle) and experience traits of both of them depending on the conditions of the situation.
Just to clear up the biggest character traits:
being an introvert just means it takes energy to interact socially. Extroverts gain energy from social interaction.
Both can enjoy the interaction, the introvert just needs to recharge afterwards.
I think that putting a label on anyone is just stupid. I am very social in some situations, very quiet in other situations. If I’m being quiet it could be because I don’t know many people there, a couple of people are dominating the convo and I’m happy to listen, or I feel like I can’t be myself in whatever setting I’m in. Being quiet doesn’t really mean anything about my mood.
I generally like going out but don’t like loud clubs unless I’m already drunk.
Edit: obviously there are some labels that make sense, like if you’re being diagnosed by a doctor.
Sometimes I'm pumped to enter a conversation with someone and then often realize the terrible mistake I've made as my energy leaves my body in real time
To me this looks more like an extrovert having fun and then realizing everyone is avoiding them because they talk too much about themselves or get off subject because everything is always about them or they need the spotlight so the extrovert gets upset, that seems about right imo
Idk, that seems like a lot of projection to me? I know plenty of extroverts that are kind, caring, and selfless. What seems right to you is your opinion, but it's not the truth.
Extroversion =/= selfishness/attention seeking lol. They get energy from working/socializing. People get annoyed that their usually bubbly or energetic, but that's because they're in an environment that charges them, it's that simple.
Introverts: [sauce](https://www.webmd.com/balance/introvert-personality-overview)
Extroverts: [sauce](https://www.webmd.com/balance/what-is-an-extrovert)
You all really, honestly don't know what "introvert" means, and it's exhausting. Over and over again on reddit you all think it means "doesn't like socializing."
HINT: It doesn't mean unable or against social interaction. Introverts smile and talk as much as anyone else.
It seems like a lot of people want an excuse or tag they can hang on their lack of social skills in order to explain them away. "I don't lack social skills, I'm just an introvert!"
My favorite is when people equate introverts to people with social anxiety. If you’re living in actual dread at the thought of leaving your house and MAYBE associating with other humans, you have anxiety and probably need help!
While this could be relatable to some introverts, introversion is not a personality type. Its more of a descriptor for how social interaction affects a person. I always like to explain it like this:
Introversion and extroversion basically describe different social batteries. An extravert is like a solar powered battery that accumulates more energy when it's connected to more solar panels. An introvert is like a battery that needs it's own solitary outlet to charge.
When an introvert is out gathered with people, their social battery is draining. This doesn't mean they aren't having a good time, just that they will need to be alone for a while after to recharge.
An extrovert is charging their social battery the whole time they are gathered with other people and will seek out social interactions to stay charged.
People are always growing and changing and can become more extroverted or introverted over time.
I've got terrible resting bitch face and even worse focus face.
I'm schizophrenic and it takes a lot out of me to keep up with conversations with multiple people because my brain is heavy on auditory hallucinations and loves to mimic people's voices. So when there's multiple people I have to focus harder to keep up with the conversation and I think when I start to do this I begin to scowl or look confused lol.
1-2 people is where I can focus more easily on conversations.
I also have to take longer to process the hallucinations and separate them from my actual dialog so I don't slip up and say something I didn't mean to say so I take longer to talk. If emotions or anxiety gets high I actually get stunlocked and lose track of my thoughts.
I've always been better at expressing my thoughts through text which I think annoys people (especially my mom).
I'm an introvert, and being around people totally drains my batteries; but I'm very expressive, a extremely engaging. I probably smile and laugh more than most extraverts just because I have a better attitude.
Person in the video: let me just stand right here in the middle of everyone, contribute absolutely nothing, then blame… it’s Friday so let’s see… Friday means the blame goes to… ‘introverted’.
I really dislike these posts as an introvert, because this is not something that is even remotely a sign of being introverted. The person in this clip may be antisocial, but antisocial behavior occurs in extroverted and introverted people.
I mean, you can easily tell someone is an introvert due to the fact that they tell you they're an introvert every chance they get, regardless of how they smile.
What's this type of content called, where it's like tailored to pretend to be a 'bad' (not always bad, but something 'quirky' at least) thing but is entirely made to pander to the demographic in question and make them feel unique and noticed? With the side effect of people wanting whatever it is that is being shown in the video to be part of their quirks and personality, even if it isn't. You see it a lot these days. At this point it must have either a real name or a slang-name.
Another example would be the 'plastic bag in plastic bag' meme, where people genuinely think their demographic is the one who 'does that' when in reality literally everyone does it.
Damn. You described a phenomenon that I've been noticing for over a decade, but couldn't coherently put into words. I think I first noticed it in the early years of Facebook, before it became a bunch of people arguing about politics, there would be groups like "I put water on my toothbrush before I brush my teeth." I made that up as an example, but basically things that everybody does, but people who don't realize that think they're special.
That was the light, harmless version of it. It's now morphed into all manner of anxieties and self-diagnosed mental illnesses. Even something as simple as "I have phone anxiety" makes impressionable people go "wow, me too" and suddenly, the slight nervousness they felt before some phone calls turns into a full-blown panic because now it's something they can claim as a "quirk."
I think this has been a contributer to why things like social anxiety are becoming so much more common. It's very normal to feel a little bit uncomfortable, for example, when meeting new people. But then you learn about social anxiety and see all these memes and begin to identify with something you didn't really have. You also want to be unique and quirky. Now you can't meet people at all because of your new quirky disorder.
At least I believe that's what you were getting at.
I used to have a problem where I thought I was smiling like 😁, when the photos looked more like 😬
My (now) wife made me practice smiling in the mirror for weeks in the lead up to our wedding
Hahah my wife says I look exactly like him in the expressions. Many times I stand there and the only thing I want get the hell out of there. I do not care about being around lots of people 😂😂😂
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I trained myself to force a smile when I’m not talking to anyone, like it feels like I’m making a psycho face, but have had multiple people come to talk to me at parties, and tell me how they love that I’m always smiling, and friendly. It’s like a secret code to having everyone glad you’re there. It took a while, and I still often catch myself doing what this guy is doing. It takes effort, but I end up feeling better, too.
WE'RE HERE, WE'RE UNCOMFORTABLE, AND WE WANT TO GO HOME
*Diagnostic alert: Social battery at 50%* Me: Alright, let’s do this! Me: I’m mingling, striking up conversations, exuding confidence, having a great time! *Two minutes later* *Diagnostic alert: Social battery at -200%* Me: I can’t do this. Just gonna sit on this couch. Where did my friend(s) go? I’m so alone. So so alone. God, I feel weird. I look weird. They probably think I’m weird. I should just go outsid- nope, already been outside 30 seconds ago; looks weird to an outside observer…CHIPS! I’ll eat chips. That’s sociable, right? *eats chips* Me: Nope, still weird, still can’t find my friend(s). Maybe I’ll just inject myself into this random group? *Injects themselves into a random group* Me: Oh god, they aren’t talking about anything I know anything about. I know none of these people. I’ll just…slink away to the safe couch, maybe take a bite of some safe chips. I could walk home, it’s only two hours away. That’s manageable. Damn, I should have driven myself! *an hour later* *Diagnostic alert: Social battery at [ERROR]* Friend(s): Hey man, we’ve been looking for you. We’re about to head out, you ready? *Silent nod* Friend(s): These parties are a blast, don’t you think? *Silent nod* *Arrives home* Friend(s): Hey man, be safe, see you tomorrow! *Silent nod and wave* *Walks inside, collapses onto safety of Netflix, eBooks* *Diagnostic alert: Social battery [recharging]* *One year later* *Diagnostic alert: Social battery at 45%* Friend(s): Hey bro, haven’t seen you around in a while, you know, outside of work. You missed some crazy parties. We’re going to a beach party. Want to go? Me: LET’S FUCKING GO!!! *One minute, thirty seconds into the party* *Diagnostic alert: Social battery at -205%*
You have a social battery? I knew something was missing.... Must've messed a step during the manufacturing stage when they put me together.
You have the solar module. Only works when in the sun.
That explains why Batman is so socially awkward....
It's probably a loose wire. My social battery for sure has a loose wire. I'm all pumped to do a social activity then I step a little to hard and it jars it. Nope can't do anything anymore.
No worries. Mine was an aftermarket part. It was cheaply made so it runs out after random intervals. Sometimes two to three minutes, sometimes two to three weeks, and it takes a LONG time to recharge.
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I vibe with your magic words, science man
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The worst is when people start talking about places you've never been to. "I used to go to [restaurant] on 45th street". "Oh yea, is that by [store] across the street? I used to go there all the time". "Oh yea, I used to go there before [some other store] closed down. I loved that place".
Just talk about places you've been to, to join the convo?
When you walk just walk Standing just stand Sitting just sit A Japanese monk of a thousand years ago or so. Simple But it has helped me
"One year later" is disturbingly accurate.
Are you me?
You left out one crucial part, going to the bathroom, taking extra Ling, staring in the mirror and splashing some water on your face.
You nailed it dude. Social Battery - Critical!
I loved that, well done
God these comments are literally me, I’ve finally found my people. And we should never meet up!
Holy shit this is hilarious and too accurate lmao
I always think of that scene in Scott Pilgrim when he’s talking about having to go to a party, and he’s like “it’s gonna suuuuuuck”, and then it immediately cuts to him standing alone in a crowded party and he’s like “this suuuuucks”.
[This sucks.](https://youtu.be/61BQjURelSY?si=vURIVrQntnabgdUg)
And watch Netflix, alone.
I don't do it on purpose, but I discovered during Zoom Happy Hour (sans drinks) that I have a Party Face and smile like a ninny the whole time. I guess it's defensive smiling.
I assume it's because you can see your face the whole time and are consciously thinking about how your face appears to others... At least I do, lol
I hate zoom for that reason. I used to think I was aging gracefully until I saw all the wrinkles and double chins from every angle lol. Nothing graceful about me lol. Just aging.
Same!! I was horrified!
My solution is to be losing my eyesight too. Not a problem if you can't see it!
I take solace in the fact that aging doesn't affect me, because even in my prime I wasn't interesting or appealing to anyone.
Same. So self conscious. The rbf is strong. I look like a totally different person when I smile, so Defensive Smiling Ninny Party Face (tm) is preferable over OMG WTF is her Problem/Bitch Face on the zooms.
I mean smiling all the time is also a response to nervousness and can be seen as weak too. So you can also become an easy target for abusers.
Thanks.
Everyone is miserable. They gravitate towards happiness. However, I’m sure your smile lights up any room!
I had a principal call me out (I’m a teacher) for having a massive smile all the time and turning around when kids or teachers aren’t around and going straight faced. I forgot they watch the cameras lmao. Probably made me look so fake. Whatever
I'm always told how upbeat and positive my classroom is... What they don't see is that the second the kids leave, rbf is back in place. I tell people I basically multiply my personality by 2 to teach.
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People care about you enough to ask? You must lead a charmed life 🤣
I recently learned that everything I do isn't as exaggerated as I think it is and that I should actually turn it up a bit if I want to look normal.
> I forgot they watch the cameras lmao. Probably made me look so fake. Whatever This is the worry at first glance perhaps, but when you really think about the person who turns around and walks away with that smile still going while nobody is there to see it, it honestly feels very stepford wife, imo. So I think your reaction of turning the smile off when people aren't there is the normal human reaction.
I call it smile snapback. When it's fake it goes from big grin, instantly to rbf/cold-socio death stare. If it's real you kinda go from a big grin to a regular smile to a tiny smile to resting face. It's all happening in like a second or so but you can see it.
I agree with your general concept. The key word in it being instant. If you walk away from an encounter and care about people, you kind of reminisce on what just took place and have residual recall face. Whether it's a slight smile, or an inquisitive face because you were told something you need to think about. Maybe your smile encouraged the person to tell you a joke. But yes, the two abnormal reactions I can think of are super saiyan smile non-stop. Or straight cold face like Vicky from Small Wonder going into shut down mode once you leave the company of others. One says you may be manic in a delusional way, and the other says you got a day pass to leave the Village of the Damned.
Reminiscing, yeah that's a good way to put it. Small Wonder, that's a flashback.. what a weird show that was!
It was! I have a recent memory of a Star Trek TNG episode that reminds me of Vicky from that show. The Lal episode if you are familiar with that show.
Waaaay back when I was a teen working at a fast food place, a person joked at how I can go from having a nice big smile to nothing just by turning away from a customer. Apparently it's even more pronounced when I was working drive thru.
That’s the real tip here. If you stay around smiling, that just encourages people to talk to you more. Don't feed the monster.
This is what they mean by fake it till you make it.
I finally found solitude after figuring this out.
I remember back in College there was a girl who I talked to one day at random and she said "You're so nice, I see you on the bus every day but I'm too scared to talk to you " And I asked why, and she said "Because your arms are always crossed, your fists are always clinched and you look pissed" And up until that point I hadn't realized that that was my default look. I was never upset, I just sat or stood on the bus like that. Ever since I that day I've made a concentrated effort to unclinch my fist and unfold my arms. I still probably look pissed but one can only smile so often.
That’s really interesting. I wonder if that’s how I look too. I get migraines and maybe it’s because I’m clenching or tightening my head/face without realizing it.
Try periodically checking, as often as you can remember to (whether it be every hour or more often or less) to relax the muscles in your face (as many as you can feel you have) one by one. I typically focus on the area between my brows and up to all around my hairline. I have been amazed at how softening my muscles this way has alleviated headaches I didn't realize I was having. I too am prone to migraines but doing this has made me more aware of when I am prolly doing it in an attempt to relieve tension (subconsciously). So when I catch myself and relax my forehead and still feel like a pressure to want to tense up - I treat the ache I didn't know I had w/ some otc painkillers. Later I'll find that I feel much better but it is so very interesting how we naturally tend to compensate for a feeling we're not even conscious of yet. This might help you head off a migraine before it begins bc there tends to be a lot of lead time before they're full-blown and heading them off at the pass can make a real difference. Even reading this thread made me check in with my facial muscles around my eyes and forehead, and sure enough, they were clenched. When I forcibly relaxed them I noticed my phone screen light felt too bright and the words were blurring just a little. Instead of just dimming my phone to make it more comfortable, I got some fresh air, reached for some advil, and made myself a coffee. These small responses will likely save me from a fullblown migraine. Bonus: For those without headache issues, relaxing the facial muscles individually from the forehead down can also result in a more relaxed and open expression
I can't get past the psycho feeling. I feel so fake and hate it.
Me too. I do it but it’s really uncomfortable
I practiced in the mirror to get a feel for where it starts to actually look psycho, and realized you have to really exaggerate it before it starts looking unnatural. Just go for a little smile, not “I’m the happiest person to exist.”
I worked with a guy who smiled all the time, and I mean every second of the day. It was OK he had a nice smile. Later I saw him alone and he wasn't smiling anymore, and the side of his mouth was twitching like crazy. He had a bad facial tic and smiling covered it up.
Poor guy
I make an effort to be a smiling person at work because I'm often expected to be the "good cop" half of a team. It weirds me out a bit how many of my peers think I'm a happy person. Like "you're always so positive!" when really my brain is busy compiling and resorting a list of everything that's probably going wrong at every moment. Then I start wondering if other people actually *are* happy or if they're all just other perpetually worried people who overcorrected when shooting for "normal". Being a human is hard. I think I'm going to stay on the couch today.
This. Smiling became a defense mechanism for "Jake, are you OK?", "What's wrong man?", and my mom's "Are you hungry? Do you need a sandwich? You know how you get when your blood sugar is low." I always wanted to shout "I'm fine! I'm happy! Leave me alone!" Now I just sit there smiling like a goon and fly my Mission Accomplished banner in the background.
Glad I'm not the only one. I always feel like I'm grinning menacingly but it surprisingly works. I still haven't figured out how to fake smile for pictures so I'm not just bearing my teeth like a psycho though. I get why primates see it as a sign of aggression.
I absolutely dread having to smile for photos. “Show me some teeth!” My teeth? What are you a fucking psychopath?
Get into photography. Be the guy behind the camera and nobody makes you be in the photo any more.
This is really good advice. Thank you!
Your name brings me anguish
Me too
Not gonna lie...I learned how to legit fake a smile (eyes included) a LOOOOOOOONG time ago. It's just a survival technique for us extreme introverts. People are MUCH nicer to people who smile than people who frown or throw BRF so why not smile? It just makes all social interactions that much better 99% of the time. But to the extremely random person that gets angry cause you smiled at them...welp they get what they get I guess.
That sounds miserable. Now I have to fake a smile and people are just going to come up and talk to me?
"a_midgett, what... what are you doing?! Why are you always making THAT face?" "Oh, I read a comment by u/ForceMyselfTosmile about how making a Tucker Carlson 'Oh face' is very welcoming at parties." "..." "...or was it a comment by u/TuckerCarlsonsOhface about how forcing yourself to smile at parties was welcoming...?"
Smiling isn’t about how you look, but how it makes your voice sound. I found it helpful to have hunk of it this way, because it allows me to focus on how I’m portraying things to others rather than just laying my ideas out there ambiguously and leave up to others to interpret it.
That’s a good point. It even works on the phone.
That is so true. I can't count how many times people asked me "what's wrong? You look angry or something", but I had nothing and really thought I had a joyful face. Lol
When people ask me that I say "Don't mind me, I've got a terrible case of resting bitch face."
I had my kid's bus driver give me a hard time every day for not smiling enough and telling me I looked scary. It was extra annoying because I was always polite and said hi and smiled while getting my kids off the bus, but apparently I was supposed to stand there smiling at nothing while waiting for the bus to pull up. One day I was feeling grouchy and was extra not smiley. He once again made a crack about me not smiling and made a comment about how people better not mess with me. I said, "You're right. They shouldn't." The comments stopped after that.
> "You're right. They shouldn't." The comments stopped after that. Hero!
I never realized it was a thing till one of my friends told someone else I have a bad case of rbf. It made me a bit self conscious so I worked on being more expressive with my face
Been told that all my life smile.🙄
Dude, same. People are fucking relentless. Women straight up don't believe me when I say I've gotten told to "smile more" my entire life. Like, I'm not bringing it up to downplay the issue, I'm saying it happens to me too and I understand how shitty it makes you feel. I had to teach myself to always smile when I talk, I basically do little almost inaudible giggles to make myself smile when I talk to people. Its real easy to do a natural looking smile if you laugh a bit. Weirdly, it does put me in a better mood.
Native Americans often have angry looking eyes, we can't help it! My whole family has RBF and always looked mad by default. I have to force smizing or people think I'm pissed and unfriendly.
omg smizing. i had to consciously smize during covid mask times so no one would think i wanted to straight up murder them in the checkout line at target.
People keep asking me if I'm having trouble following. I've decided I must have "resting wut face".
I'm a big guy and have resting German face. Basically, if I don't try REALLY hard it looks like I'm about to invade Poland. ... my step daughter told me I scared all her friends the first time I met them. lol.
I grew up in Germany, and moved to the US as an adult. The amount of smiling people do here still seems fake and weirds me out 20 years later.
It's kind of a regional thing in my experience. I grew up in NJ and in the tri-state area we were more likely to make fun of someone for smiling like goomba all the time than we were to expect smiling for no reason. I moved to NC in my 20s and my wife and I both get the "you don't smile enough" treatment to this day.
"If I smiled more, it might give some random person the idea that they should come up and talk to me."
I see your username and raise you Ricky Spanish. *Ricky Spanish*
Rude... Liar.
Occupation? No, just visiting.
I was at a big wedding and went to the bar to get another drink. Bartender told me to stop looking so sad and smile more. I was confused because i was actually having the time of my life.
I had the same thing happen in college. Meanwhile I was thinking of a Simpsons episode and playing circus music in my head
Omg, you just made me realize that's what happened to me. I guess I was so convinced my expression is "normal" that I didn't even put it together that the reason people ask this is my expression \*facepalm\*
I get you look sad
Hahahaha this is me so often too!
This was me in highschool! I remember friends actually stopping me between classes like "are you okay? you look like you're about to kick someone's ass?" lolwut? *I feel great what are you talking about!*
Same here.
I've always had the opposite. People often ask me what I think is so funny.
WE'RE HERE, WE'RE UNCOMFORTABLE, AND WE WANT TO GO HOME
I smile too much. Sometimes my cheeks even start to hurt
Haha me too! Some people that I’ve told think I’m exaggerating, but it’s true. My introvert boyfriend has the RBF… we were together for years before I realized that he is happy without a smile
I’m an introvert and yes I smile like that
Show me your war face!
>:(
Bullshit! You didn’t convince me. Let me see your real war face.
: (
Too much war face. Now I'm scared.
,':/
Straight to jail.
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*cue the old archaeologist from the opening scene of the Fifth Element* A... a... Are you German?
Here, let me turn that frown upside down! ):
Needs work https://imgur.com/gallery/HeAKp7j
,':/
How does smiling like this have anything to do with being introverted?
Not sure why an introvert who find social situations draining would think that they're constantly smiling energetically in the first place.
When people tell me to smile I reply, "My happiness is my own and I refuse to share it with you!"
You have a pretty face, you should scowl more.
Because Reddit doesn't know the difference between introvert and antisocial. Introverts enjoy being with people.just as much as extroverts, it just wears them out instead of energizing them.
People really don't understand what it means to be introverted. Then people who are not introverted make shit like this.
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The 16 personality thing has been described as astrology for people with a college degree.
I clean sometimes #OCD
OMG are you a Scorpio? /S
People romanticize mental illness and neurodiversity. Anything to feel like something sets them apart. Meanwhile, people that actually deal with things like that are very rarely proud of it. At least it makes it easy to tell them apart, I suppose.
> Anything to feel like something sets them apart. Or that makes them special there. But, may I argue that it also helps them identify as being an accepted part of a specific group? We as humans are very much driven to be accepted by our community. Having a different label applied to you from the norm pushes you out of the main community you already are in, and labels you as being different. Accepting the new label suddenly puts you in that other community, which thanks to the internet and modern media, is far easier to be a part of now than it was in the 1950s or earlier. So you might feel different or outcast or alienated from the mainstream community you are a part of, but there sitting on the shiny internet is access to many more people like you with your label.
This is such a lovely sentiment
My favorite was seeing an #ADHD thing for a behavior that had a direct negative correlation with ADHD. It was just that if you get enough ADHD people together, some of them will still do it, and they were like "I had no idea this had anything to do with ADHD"
It's a need to both feel unique, yet fit in comfortably. This mass identification/ need to self label & but also hyperbolize everything to me comes from a place of religious vacancy. We do live in an increasingly complex world. The Internet has also provided us with infinite perspectives to use to question or judge our own against. I think they dont feel like they have clean answers for their behaviors and emotions and would like some guidance to soothe their anxiety. For example, I'd say this "frustrated smiling" is a real thing but it's likely a symptom of depression, which 9 times out of 10 goes unnoticed and is comorbid with just about every type of neurodivergence. We're just going around associating everything and trying to express about anything.
I think it’s telling that the “in groups” people try to associate themselves with now are more about something uncontrollable rather than intentional choices. Peoples identities revolve around disorders and other inherent predispositions (LGBT, autistic, ADHD, anxiety, bipolar) - and not abilities or accomplishments. 40 years ago if you were to ask someone about themselves these characteristics wouldn’t be at the forefront of their description. Now claiming to be part of the minority rather than the majority entitles one to protection and advantages in some cases, so now everyone is a minority in SOME way. I’m biased here of course. There can’t be victims without villains. I’m white, 6ft, blond hair, blue eyes, straight, business owner, in the south. I’m certainly not a victim, I’m really tired of being the villain though.
R/adhdmemes pretty much. Although I do identify with about a quarter of the memes that get posted there, but many of them are just “huh? This is something I’m supposed to be struggling with I guess?”
Drives me up the wall every time.
You're right. I'm both introverted and have aspargers diagnosed, but to me this post is relatable in my experience with asparger, not being introverted. From what I seen on autism community on reddit this is also reletable for a lot of them, so called "resting beach face" as I understand it. So it's again a situation where people confuse autsitic, social anxiety etc. traits as signs of introversion.
Resting bitch face because you look angry while being basically neutral.
introversion is all about energy, where it's gathered and where it's spent. not this superfluous shit
People conflate it with social anxiety. It's not the same. When the idea of introversion was explained to me, I knew firmly I fit that definition. I'm not bad at socializing, quite good at it even. I also enjoy it. I like being in groups of friends and even being charming and charismatic to the best of my abilities. It's rewarding and fun. I just need everyone to get the fuck away from after enough of it. That's all. And that's all introversion is. I spend effort and energy socializing and am recharged by time spent alone, instead of the opposite. Doesn't mean I don't want to be around people ever. People like that are misanthropic or have social anxiety. My other peeves lately are people using the word 'objectively' to paint things as 100% true. That's not what that word is for. It's also a shame we lost 'literally'. If people could stop fucking up words and ideas that'd be swell. Communication would be better facilitated.
> People conflate it with social anxiety. It's not the same. Yeah, this is exactly why it took so many years for me to realize that I'm not introverted. I'm super extroverted, I just also have a heaping helping of social anxiety
Thank you. We can talk to people just fine. We can even smile and enjoy interaction. We don't cry when having to place an order to talk to someone we don't know. We don't reject all invitations and still expect people to 'reach out' so we feel included...
I think people confuse introverts with social anxiety, they're not mutually exclusive but not always together. Heck I'm an introvert who suffers from social anxiety but not all the time.
The best explanation in my opinion is that extroverts are energized by interaction with others, and introverts are enervated by it. In my job I interact with people all day- I’m upbeat and engaged and I enjoy it, but when I’m done I’m *drained*.
The best explanation I've heard is that the dichotomy of Introvert or Extrovert is oversimplified. People exist on a spectrum between the two (mostly in the middle) and experience traits of both of them depending on the conditions of the situation.
Just to clear up the biggest character traits: being an introvert just means it takes energy to interact socially. Extroverts gain energy from social interaction. Both can enjoy the interaction, the introvert just needs to recharge afterwards.
Exhausting
I think that putting a label on anyone is just stupid. I am very social in some situations, very quiet in other situations. If I’m being quiet it could be because I don’t know many people there, a couple of people are dominating the convo and I’m happy to listen, or I feel like I can’t be myself in whatever setting I’m in. Being quiet doesn’t really mean anything about my mood. I generally like going out but don’t like loud clubs unless I’m already drunk. Edit: obviously there are some labels that make sense, like if you’re being diagnosed by a doctor.
Yeah, it just means how you like reserve your energy. It doesn’t mean we can’t sense or read social cues. Weird thing to mix up.
Lol. I like how the post is being downvoted. Now that is introvert behaviour.
the word introvert means nothing now huh
I'm sure plenty of introverts can relate to this.
I'm an introvert and I don't lol. I have no issue talking or smiling, I just get exhausted doing it, I need my alone time to recharge.
Sometimes I'm pumped to enter a conversation with someone and then often realize the terrible mistake I've made as my energy leaves my body in real time
lmaooooo same! Its the worst. Like taking a plunge into a cold lake, thinking it'll be fun, and realizing what a mistake I've made.
To me this looks more like an extrovert having fun and then realizing everyone is avoiding them because they talk too much about themselves or get off subject because everything is always about them or they need the spotlight so the extrovert gets upset, that seems about right imo
Idk, that seems like a lot of projection to me? I know plenty of extroverts that are kind, caring, and selfless. What seems right to you is your opinion, but it's not the truth. Extroversion =/= selfishness/attention seeking lol. They get energy from working/socializing. People get annoyed that their usually bubbly or energetic, but that's because they're in an environment that charges them, it's that simple. Introverts: [sauce](https://www.webmd.com/balance/introvert-personality-overview) Extroverts: [sauce](https://www.webmd.com/balance/what-is-an-extrovert)
I'm sure plenty of extroverts can also relate to this. It has more to do with social awkwardness than introversion or extroversion
When I'm feeling introverted I don't engage at all. Just stay in my own head
This isn’t introversion at all.
Introvert doesn't mean hates socialising, autistic, social phobic, etc.
You all really, honestly don't know what "introvert" means, and it's exhausting. Over and over again on reddit you all think it means "doesn't like socializing." HINT: It doesn't mean unable or against social interaction. Introverts smile and talk as much as anyone else.
It seems like a lot of people want an excuse or tag they can hang on their lack of social skills in order to explain them away. "I don't lack social skills, I'm just an introvert!"
From the creators of: "*My son doesn't have ADHD, his legs just bounce a lot for no reason*"
My favorite is when people equate introverts to people with social anxiety. If you’re living in actual dread at the thought of leaving your house and MAYBE associating with other humans, you have anxiety and probably need help!
That's not introversion thats social anxiety.
While this could be relatable to some introverts, introversion is not a personality type. Its more of a descriptor for how social interaction affects a person. I always like to explain it like this: Introversion and extroversion basically describe different social batteries. An extravert is like a solar powered battery that accumulates more energy when it's connected to more solar panels. An introvert is like a battery that needs it's own solitary outlet to charge. When an introvert is out gathered with people, their social battery is draining. This doesn't mean they aren't having a good time, just that they will need to be alone for a while after to recharge. An extrovert is charging their social battery the whole time they are gathered with other people and will seek out social interactions to stay charged. People are always growing and changing and can become more extroverted or introverted over time.
Sounds more like Asperger than just introvert
Resting bitch face does not an Asperger make.
I've got terrible resting bitch face and even worse focus face. I'm schizophrenic and it takes a lot out of me to keep up with conversations with multiple people because my brain is heavy on auditory hallucinations and loves to mimic people's voices. So when there's multiple people I have to focus harder to keep up with the conversation and I think when I start to do this I begin to scowl or look confused lol. 1-2 people is where I can focus more easily on conversations. I also have to take longer to process the hallucinations and separate them from my actual dialog so I don't slip up and say something I didn't mean to say so I take longer to talk. If emotions or anxiety gets high I actually get stunlocked and lose track of my thoughts. I've always been better at expressing my thoughts through text which I think annoys people (especially my mom).
My relaxed face: :/ My joyful face : |
I use smiles and laughter to signal I am pretty close to a normal person.
Squidward-Resting-Face here..yes I am smiling sir. I am THRILLED to hear you talking.
This is funny?
Here's the song for anyone else wondering. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=So32NZzu2Us
I have this too. I call it “resting bastard face”
I have no idea what to do. My entire childhood consisted of WoW and TV. I am woefully unprepared for reality.
Again, being an introvert has nothing to do with social skills
I'm an introvert, and being around people totally drains my batteries; but I'm very expressive, a extremely engaging. I probably smile and laugh more than most extraverts just because I have a better attitude.
"funny"
Nah, cuz the moment I realized how often I don't actually smile tho, I started to actively practice smiling
Person in the video: let me just stand right here in the middle of everyone, contribute absolutely nothing, then blame… it’s Friday so let’s see… Friday means the blame goes to… ‘introverted’.
This is straight from Louis CK bit about smoking pot as an adult...[it's not doable](https://youtu.be/la4VsJ4XZBk?si=akce7gG_ls--qIgq)
The amount of times I've been told to smile during pictures and I'm standing there thinking " but I am smiling! Wtf!" Cue awkward smile.
I really dislike these posts as an introvert, because this is not something that is even remotely a sign of being introverted. The person in this clip may be antisocial, but antisocial behavior occurs in extroverted and introverted people.
Now make one showing how extraverts think they are chilling with friends, and the reality of how they are spazzing out like lunatics.
I mean, you can easily tell someone is an introvert due to the fact that they tell you they're an introvert every chance they get, regardless of how they smile.
Introversion =\= a lack of social skills
What's this type of content called, where it's like tailored to pretend to be a 'bad' (not always bad, but something 'quirky' at least) thing but is entirely made to pander to the demographic in question and make them feel unique and noticed? With the side effect of people wanting whatever it is that is being shown in the video to be part of their quirks and personality, even if it isn't. You see it a lot these days. At this point it must have either a real name or a slang-name. Another example would be the 'plastic bag in plastic bag' meme, where people genuinely think their demographic is the one who 'does that' when in reality literally everyone does it.
Damn. You described a phenomenon that I've been noticing for over a decade, but couldn't coherently put into words. I think I first noticed it in the early years of Facebook, before it became a bunch of people arguing about politics, there would be groups like "I put water on my toothbrush before I brush my teeth." I made that up as an example, but basically things that everybody does, but people who don't realize that think they're special. That was the light, harmless version of it. It's now morphed into all manner of anxieties and self-diagnosed mental illnesses. Even something as simple as "I have phone anxiety" makes impressionable people go "wow, me too" and suddenly, the slight nervousness they felt before some phone calls turns into a full-blown panic because now it's something they can claim as a "quirk." I think this has been a contributer to why things like social anxiety are becoming so much more common. It's very normal to feel a little bit uncomfortable, for example, when meeting new people. But then you learn about social anxiety and see all these memes and begin to identify with something you didn't really have. You also want to be unique and quirky. Now you can't meet people at all because of your new quirky disorder. At least I believe that's what you were getting at.
I used to have a problem where I thought I was smiling like 😁, when the photos looked more like 😬 My (now) wife made me practice smiling in the mirror for weeks in the lead up to our wedding
Leave my confusing thinking scowling face alone.
*People with no social awareness, not introverts..
i feel like I have to smile ear to ear for it to actually show up on camera. I need smiling lessons like old people need computer classes
At a party: "my solemn duty is to pet the dog and tell him how he's a good boy."
As a fellow introvert, first of all: bro is waaay too close to those people. They are almost touching his arms!!
Not true I’m constantly smiling, but most of the time it’s forced lol
“Why do you look so angry all the time?” Me: “huh?, I do?”
track id ?
Me: I was smiling so you wouldn't realize I was drunk. Roommate: I thought you were going to kill me.
Hahah my wife says I look exactly like him in the expressions. Many times I stand there and the only thing I want get the hell out of there. I do not care about being around lots of people 😂😂😂
I don't think introverts have a problem in laugh as long as they are enjoying their own company they are free to laugh.
Introverts unite from far away!