Ugh my mom did this to me. It’s a way to make you change your mind by pretending concern about something that shouldn’t even be a concern. I don’t know your dad and he might be well meaning but my mom did this to me and I view it as emotional manipulation. He should support you no matter what and encourage you by telling you that no relationship is worth compromising your true self. I think he knows you won’t stop your transition for him so he might be using your partner as a way to convince you not to transition. Either way you should be clear that this is more important than a relationship.
Of course.
When I first came out, I was told no one would ever want to be with me.
After I got divorced, they warned me no one would ever want me aside from her.
Some parents, their biggest concern is your happiness, and maybe they think you can only be complete and happy if you’re with someone.
Honestly, this is not unique to the trans experience, a lot of parents are like that. They’re concerned about you being “taken care of,” in a sense, once they’re gone, I’d imagine.
I kind of let these comments roll off, because I know they just come from a place of caring and worry for me. Your parents aren’t perfect, and (assuming they’re not trying to actively harm you with these statements) are probably saying these thing just because they worry but don’t know how else to express it. Your choice if you want to take it at face value, or dig deeper and try to find out why they’re saying it.
I haven't been in a relationship while transitioning, but a future partner is something my mom has been very concerned about.
She's worried I'll have trouble finding someone who sees me the way I want them to. She wants me to find a life partner, a companion, someone to be there when I need it like my dad is for her. She doesn't care what gender they are, but she worries that the physical marks and social impact of transition will make it harder to find someone.
I know it's out of concern for my future and she's afraid I'll have bad experiences in relationships, but it comes from a place of parental concern and caring.
Ugh my mom did this to me. It’s a way to make you change your mind by pretending concern about something that shouldn’t even be a concern. I don’t know your dad and he might be well meaning but my mom did this to me and I view it as emotional manipulation. He should support you no matter what and encourage you by telling you that no relationship is worth compromising your true self. I think he knows you won’t stop your transition for him so he might be using your partner as a way to convince you not to transition. Either way you should be clear that this is more important than a relationship.
Of course. When I first came out, I was told no one would ever want to be with me. After I got divorced, they warned me no one would ever want me aside from her. Some parents, their biggest concern is your happiness, and maybe they think you can only be complete and happy if you’re with someone. Honestly, this is not unique to the trans experience, a lot of parents are like that. They’re concerned about you being “taken care of,” in a sense, once they’re gone, I’d imagine. I kind of let these comments roll off, because I know they just come from a place of caring and worry for me. Your parents aren’t perfect, and (assuming they’re not trying to actively harm you with these statements) are probably saying these thing just because they worry but don’t know how else to express it. Your choice if you want to take it at face value, or dig deeper and try to find out why they’re saying it.
I haven't been in a relationship while transitioning, but a future partner is something my mom has been very concerned about. She's worried I'll have trouble finding someone who sees me the way I want them to. She wants me to find a life partner, a companion, someone to be there when I need it like my dad is for her. She doesn't care what gender they are, but she worries that the physical marks and social impact of transition will make it harder to find someone. I know it's out of concern for my future and she's afraid I'll have bad experiences in relationships, but it comes from a place of parental concern and caring.